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• Happy Mother’s Day! The Winner of the Crystal Delights Plug is…..

  Dangerous Lilly (a sex blog)

  Lilly

  13 May 2012 | 9:37 am

  I love that Rafflecopter makes entering contests and having contests so easy. It’s really a lot less of a headache! Of course, in fairness to all, manual verification of entries still needs to happen to be sure that everybody followed all of my rules and restrictions but I was able to do that as things went along for the most part. After a lovely run and lots of entries, I’m pleased to announce that the winner is……     Penny, who writes the blog “A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts”!   Congrats Penny! She really spread the word about sex toy…

• G-spot discovery, medicalization and media hype

  Dr Petra Boynton

  Dr Petra

  24 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  This post focuses on research reported today on the discovery of the g-spot. If you are a journalist on a deadline you may find it easier to read through this post now and come back to the links later! Over the past three years there have been papers published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine claiming to have proved or disproved the presence of a g-spot in cis women. Earlier this month, the Journal of Sexual Medicine again focused on the g-spot resulting in some pretty hopeless reporting, depressingly from science outlets as well as mainstream media. Most of the g-spot studies have been…

• An Updated Review of the Lelo Luna Beads

  Dangerous Lilly (a sex blog)

  Lilly

  12 May 2012 | 12:51 pm

  It’s a bit of a long story regarding how I came to be reviewing the Lelo Luna Beads for a second time, but basically I lost the bead holster of my original set of Luna Beads that I reviewed way back in 2008 and I just happened to put them on my Babeland Wishlist. I put them on the wishlist more as a personal reminder that I wanted to replace them but Babeland ended up sending them to me for review, along with the updated version of the Lelo Mia. By now I’m sure you’ve read tons of reviews on the Luna Beads so I’m going to start out this review with a few facts and…

• PW 318: The New Monogamy

  Polyamory Weekly

  Minx

  2 May 2012 | 9:43 am

  The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• Enduring Love? Couple Relationships in the 21st Century

  Dr Petra Boynton

  Dr Petra

  21 Mar 2012 | 7:19 am

  One of the things I love about researching sex and relationships is you get to hear about other people’s amazing pieces of work. A recent programme that has caught my attention is the Open University’s ‘Enduring Love’ project. According to the project team this two year study will look at “how couples think about and experience their long-term relationships” and aims to “examine the emotional and practical ‘work’ that people do to keep their relationships going and the ways that social policies and popular culture shape what it means to be a…

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  My Sex Professor: Sexuality Education

• Women Who Do Not Choose Motherhood

  Jeana

  16 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  Is motherhood mandatory for personhood? It kinda looks that way, according to the Jezebel article When Motherhood Never Happens. Social pressure is one of the problems with this phenomenon. The author notes: “Women are flooded with mommy propaganda, whether it be celebrity-oriented Unsolicited Uterus Updates and ‘baby weight’ progress stories or Facebook feeds filled with [...]

• Kangaroos and their Three Vaginas

  Kate McCombs

  15 May 2012 | 8:22 pm

  The incredible diversity of Australian wildlife is one of the most fascinating things I find about living Down Under. Instead of pigeons making noise in the trees outside my urban apartment, there are tri-colored parrots and cockatoos. On a walk yesterday evening, I saw three of these possums in a tree downtown. Oh yeah, and [...]

• Obama Endorsed Gay Marriage…So What?

  Michaela

  15 May 2012 | 2:00 pm

  This afternoon I received a phone call from my father in which he asked me, his voice oozing excitement, if I had heard what the president said. “Yeah, Obama endorsed gay marriage, right?” Apparently my nonchalance was apparent, as my dad wasn’t satisfied. “Well, what do you think?” Of course he asked me not only [...]

• Book Review: Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser

  Jeana

  15 May 2012 | 11:01 am

  Longtime MSP readers will know that we are big fans of Clarisse Thorn‘s writing: she intelligently tackles important sex topics such as BDSM, sexual submission, open relationships, and sex-positivity. So we of course were super-excited when her book, Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser, came out (available on Amazon and Smashwords and in paperback). Clarisse [...]

• Welcome Kate – Our New Editor!

  Dr. Debby Herbenick

  15 May 2012 | 8:00 am

  Dear MSP Readers, It’s difficult to believe that about 4 1/2 years ago, I started a little blog called MySexProfessor.com as a way to connect with readers of my various sex columns. I wrote about sex topics in the news, answered readers’ sex questions, reviewed various sex toys, and occasionally buried defunct sex toys in [...]

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• Interview: Hawk Kinkaid, founder of HookOnline.org

  10 May 2012 | 2:21 pm

  rentboyblog: Hawk Kinkaid of HookOnline.org interview via KeepTheLightsOn.com Hawk Kinkaid is speaking to me between meetings. He is the creator of HookOnline.org, a website devoted to harm reduction and fostering dialogue between male sex workers, and Rent U, a teaching program he created as an off-shoot of Hook. Adam: How did you first get the idea to do Hook Online?Hawk: I started the project over a decade ago, and the initial reason for starting it was that there were no resources for men in the industry to assist in the learning curve, in other words, the site serves to help keep…

• Black Girl Dangerous: Obama Loves Queers! (Except Not)

  10 May 2012 | 10:59 am

  Black Girl Dangerous: Obama Loves Queers! (Except Not): blackgirldangerous: by Mia McKenzie President Obama just “endorsed” gay marriage. And guess what? I barely give a damn. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it’s okay. It’s fine. There’s nothing inherently wrong with it. Saying that gay people who want to get married to each other should be able to do so is basically a… Are you celebrating Obama’s weak endorsement of marriage equality? You should be reading this instead. 

• Last night I had a glass of wine with Ceyenne to celebrate being...

  9 May 2012 | 9:19 am

  Last night I had a glass of wine with Ceyenne to celebrate being so close to the finishing line for the Cooking in Heels Kickstarter campaign. We have 11 hours left, and we just hit $9200, which is truly stunning and amazing.  This means we’ll definitely be able to produce a photo shoot and add full color photos of some of the dishes to the book. And if the pledges continue to climb over the next few hours, we will be looking at the possibility of creating a few episodes of a Cooking in Heels online cooking show, which will be available for free and would launch alongside the book in…

• Yesterday, I ran my first half marathon with my dear friend Lia,...

  30 Apr 2012 | 9:58 am

  Yesterday, I ran my first half marathon with my dear friend Lia, through the many hills of Columbia, Maryland. It was awesome. I finished in 2:36:17, keeping a nice steady pace just under 12 minute miles. Not the fastest, but better than I hoped, and damn there were a lot of hills. I feel good today - sore but not achey. And I want to do it again. I still remember that first day I started the couch to 5K program at the end of last May, how horrible it felt to run for a full minute. And I remember the first time I ran for 20 minutes straight without stopping, and how amazed I felt. I love…

• "State lawmakers should approve a bill that would bar the practice of confiscating condoms as..."

  26 Apr 2012 | 10:15 am

  “State lawmakers should approve a bill that would bar the practice of confiscating condoms as evidence against those suspected of prostitution. The current policy is a double-edged sword that undermines both the state’s and New York City’s public health agendas. Sex worker advocacy organizations have long called for police officers to stop confiscating condoms from women and men who work as prostitutes. Studies show that police confiscate prostitutes’ condoms even when no arrests are made. And in cases where there are arrests, officers often tell suspects that carrying condoms is the…

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• Sexuality and Other Female (Film) Troubles

  10 May 2012 | 11:00 pm

  “Hysteria,” starring Maggie Gyllenhaal, is just one of several new films directed by women that depict sexuality from a female perspective.

• Faramerz Dabhoiwala, of ‘Origins of Sex,’ at Museum of Sex

  29 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  A stroll through the Museum of Sex in New York with Faramerz Dabhoiwala, author of “The Origins of Sex: A History of the First Sexual Revolution.”

• Randy Walker’s Carletta Sue Kay Releases Her First Album

  26 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  Carletta Sue Kay, the singing alter ego of Randy Walker, has been generating lots of buzz lately, doing backup vocals, touring in Europe and now releasing his debut album.

• Brain Scans Forecast Eating and Sexual Behavior in Women

  23 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  Researchers have succeeded in predicting eating behavior and levels of sexual desire in people by scanning their brains.

• College Students Opening Up Conversations About Sex

  16 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  Harvard is one of the latest colleges where students are holding Sex Weeks, seeking to bridge the gap between classroom and bedroom.

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• Herpes and oral...

  16 May 2012 | 1:34 pm

  Ok, I think I already know the answer but would like to make sure. When a guy doesn't have any sores on his mouth that means it's safe for oral sex right? Nothing would transfer and all that if nothing is there. Also, does anyone else get discharge on their underwear? Mine doesn't really stain cause when I wash them it tends to go away but I still get discharge marks on my underwear when I am wearing them. I'm just wondering if I am not alone on this...and if any guy would even notice.

• catching an std..from your own sex toy?

  16 May 2012 | 11:55 am

  ok, so i wouldnt be surprised if this has been asked before, but i wasnt sure of the right words to use to search for it so i'm asking anyway. several weeks ago, i was diagnosed with and treated for chlamydia. during the period between getting the infection and finding out, i think i may have used my vibrator once or twice. i always wash it with warm water and antibacterial soap after each use. but after using it today i'm starting to get paranoid i may have reinfected myself. is this possible? this is the kind i use, if it matters…

• follow-up to my questions about anatomy

  15 May 2012 | 6:17 pm

  well, I saw a professional today, and the final verdict was that the ring of tissue (which I now think of as pretty little flower petals, thanks to you all), is indeed my hymenal remnant. good call there! and that, combined with my being on the compact side, is probably why some nurses have had a hard time with catheterizations.also, it has been at least 1.5 years since my last annual, but when I told my ob-gyn about recent events, she just gave me the prescription I've been wanting for HBC. in her words, "you don't need an annual, you've had to see enough doctors." ♥ (I should note, I've…

• Fishy Smell

  15 May 2012 | 5:39 pm

  Hi, I'm a newbie here. I'm hoping someone here can help me with some problems I've been having.The rules and stuff are down today so I don't know if I'm supposed to use a cut or not, but I've seen that lots of other people haven't so I won't either.Anyway, I went to the doctor about a month ago because I was having pain while peeing. Not really a burning sensation, more like a soreness in my bladder. He tested for a UTI and STDs, and I came up completely STD free. So did my husband. As time went on, the soreness got a little worse. It happened when I had sex with my husband as well, and there…

• when to switch to larger menstrual cup - age?

  15 May 2012 | 4:41 pm

  How many longtime cup users have found that they didn't have to switch to the larger-size cup around age 30? I don't and won't have children, which removes the other common cause for upgrading, so I guess feedback from nulliparous users would be most helpful.I know "age 30" is a loose guideline; there's no significant difference between the state of my body at 29 years, 364 days and at 30 years. Unless there is vagmagic someone hasn't told me about.Aaannnd as with everything from the waist down, mileage varies greatly from user to user, but I was wondering if there's anything that could give…

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• So This Happened: Tom Cruise Got Inked

  16 May 2012 | 10:59 am

  [Shine's daily spotlight of the most jaw-dropping photo from today's news.]Do you feel as weird as I do looking at this photo? How about this one? Tom Cruise, 49-year-old dad, Scientology evangelist and, apparently, method actor, introduced his new alter ego, Stacee Jaxx, in a spread for W magazine. Jaxx is Cruise's guitar hero character in "Rock of Ages," the big screen adaptation of the hit metal musical in theaters later this year. Realistic fake tattoos! Pointy tongue! Nail Polish! It's hard to believe that's our little Tom. Why, it seems like only a few years ago he was wearing braces.

• Elisabeth Hasselbeck Slams Bristol Palin for Criticizing Obama on Gay Marriage

  15 May 2012 | 5:33 pm

  Elisabeth Hasslebeck, who describes herself as "conservative" on ABC's "The View," slammed Bristol Palin on Monday for the single mom's criticism of President Obama's new stance on gay marriage.

• 7 Ways to Get a Guy to Kiss You

  15 May 2012 | 4:01 pm

  So, you've been going out for a while now. You're really feeling this guy and you can tell there's a mutual attraction. The vibes ... my God, the vibes. He drops you off at your door, smiles that little smile, says he had a great time and leaves. No kiss.

• Do Men Really Care About Their Partner's Flexibility?

  15 May 2012 | 3:19 pm

  Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Do men really care about how flexible their partners are in bed?" To ask the guys your own question, click here.Single Straight Guy (Scott): Sure, flexibility is great… but I don't need you to be able to lock your legs behind your head. In fact, I've never had an issue of a woman not being flexible enough for what we were doing. So no, it's really not a big deal.Married Straight Guy (Ben): Flexible as in easy going personality, then yes. ...

• Fifty Shades of Grey banned in some library systems

  15 May 2012 | 2:08 pm

  Author E.L. James struck publishing gold with her first book, "Fifty Shades of Grey," but her completed trilogy struck a nerve with some librarians. Florida's Brevard County has decided to remove the books from their library citing this portion of the library's guidelines, "materials are selected to serve the broad, general interest ranges of Brevard County." Besides the Brevard County's ban on the books, counties in other states like Wisconsin and Georgia also have bans in place. ...

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• VA - Deep House Lessons, Vol. 2(2012)

  tramway Tompkins

  15 May 2012 | 7:36 pm

  VA - Deep House Lessons, Vol. 2(2012)Deep House | Tenor GermanyVBR | MP3 | pure | 10 May, 2012 | 03:02:36 | 417 Mb

• Tina Cintron - Crystal Drawing for All [repost]

  tramway Tompkins

  15 May 2012 | 5:43 pm

  Tina Cintron - Crystal Drawing notwithstanding All [repost]5xDVDRip | AVI / XviD, ~3026 kb/s | 720x544 | 05:15:52 | English: AC3, 192 kb/s (2 ch) | 6.83 GBGenre: Video TrainingThis is a of extensive application instructional series that teaches drawing techniques from the in the greatest degree basic shapes to advanced concepts such as landscapes, portraits, and perspective. The succession features easy-to-follow lessons and valuable techniques.

• Lost Woods 2012 VODRiP AC3-2 0 XviD-AXED

  tramway Tompkins

  14 May 2012 | 8:10 pm

  HASH: F8DE1041D4844678F41BBF16BB6A2FF6D146112E*[UsaBit.com] - Lost.Woods.2012.VODRiP.AC3-2.0.XviD-AXED.zip+Lost.Woods.2012.VODRiP.AC3-2.0.XviD-AXED.avi+Lost.Woods.2012.VODRiP.AC3-2.0.XviD-AXED.specimen.avi

• VA - Tech Trance Excess (Best Of Trance) (2012)

  tramway Tompkins

  12 May 2012 | 1:44 pm

  VA - Tech Trance Excess (Best Of Trance) (2012)15 tracks | Release: 2012 | Label: Workstation | MP3 320 kbps | 253 MBGenre: Trance, Tech House, Minimal

• American.Restoration.S02E20.Webrip.xvid-][ Motor Mayhem ][ 10-Ma

  tramway Tompkins

  11 May 2012 | 11:21 pm

  HASH: 9CECD2659646D9C12FF4BA91C24DEECD7CD2466C*amrestor220.zip+American.Restoration.S02E20.Webrip.xvid-][ Motor Mayhem ][ 10-May-2012 ].avi

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• What's a Parent to Do?

  16 May 2012 | 3:41 pm

  When I’m talking with parents about the accessibility and impact of pornography on kids today, they often want to shut down, plug their ears or pretend that their kids are good enough to stay away from hardcore porn.  Unfortunately, the largest viewers of online pornography are teenagers today, and the vast majority of kids will accidentally encounter pornography online.  So what’s a parent supposed to do?  Here are three simple steps that I hope that you will consider taking this week to help protect and care for your kids. Educate Yourself: It’s time to move…

• A Question and a Challenge: Do You Have Sexually Healthy People Around You?

  16 May 2012 | 2:14 am

  So... Earlier today, I was blogging for another organization that I work for and a parallel came to mind that I wanted to transition over to this site as well. I was talking about the power of influence and how we can learn things *much quicker* when we're around individuals that are *skilled* in what we'd like to perfect. The example that I gave was going to a foreign language and being around people who only speak in that tongue; that it's far more effective to do that than to sit in a classroom trying to conjugate Spanish, French or Chinese verbs. To be around people who actually *live it*…

• Should I Perform Like a Porn Star?

  15 May 2012 | 2:36 am

  At times in my marriage, I felt like my husband wanted me to perform like a porn star.  I felt pressured to act and be someone I was not.  I believed if I could perform like a porn star then maybe he would want me more… maybe our sex life would finally have that missing link and finally feel complete.  I knew something was missing, but what?  I couldn’t quite figure out what it was we both needed in the bedroom. Sadly, I could never fully meet my husband’s needs and desires because they were unrealistic.  They were based on the world’s view of…

• Porn - Is It Impacting Your Reality?

  15 May 2012 | 2:34 am

  Pornography at its most fundamental level has no basis in reality. It is nothing more than a fantasy that, in one form or another, negatively affects the lives of men. Porn influences how men think about, value, and ultimately treat women. It should come as no surprise, then, that men experience difficulty in their relationships and ability to interact with real women due to pornography use. Real women have emotions and feelings. They enjoy the freedom to share those feelings and emotions in the context of loving relationships. Porn fails to acknowledge these simple facts. The actresses in…

• South Park and Friend Zones: Competing for Attention

  14 May 2012 | 8:54 pm

  Competing for Attention You know the old (terrible) saying, “Nice guys finish last”? Well, when I was a teenager, I definitely played both sides of that phrase. From a young age, what I had witnessed about gaining the attention of girls was that you either had to be extremely loud and uninhibited, willing to make a total donkey of yourself, or you had to play the best friend who listens to every little problem and piece of drama while simultaneously being constantly on guard as to not enter into the dreaded “friend zone”.  Girls, no guy wants to hear…

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• Delayed female sexual maturity linked to longer lifespan in mice

  7 May 2012 | 2:41 pm

  Female mice from strains with lower IGF1 levels reach sexual maturity at a significantly later age. Combined with previous research showing that mouse strains with lower circulating levels of IGF1 live longer, the findings suggest a genetically regulated tradeoff: delayed reproduction but longer life.

• Anatomic existence of the elusive G-spot confirmed, study claims

  25 Apr 2012 | 8:47 am

  For centuries, women have been reporting engorgement of the upper, anterior part of the vagina during the stage of sexual excitement, despite the fact the structure of this phenomenon had not been anatomically determined. A new study documents that this elusive structure does exist anatomically.

• In child sexual abuse, strangers aren't the greatest danger, experts say

  13 Apr 2012 | 9:08 am

  Parents drill their children on "stranger danger," but when children are abused its most often by someone they know. This article helps parents protect their children from abuse closer to home: from family members, an adult the family trusts or another child, experts say.

• Timing pregnancy an important health concern for women

  11 Apr 2012 | 9:26 am

  A new article highlights the importance of a woman's ability to time her childbearing. The author asserts that contraception is a means of health promotion and women who work with their health care providers to ensure they are healthy prior to conceiving can minimize their risk of complications during pregnancy and childbirth.

• Sexually abused boys at risk for more unsafe sex, researchers find

  4 Apr 2012 | 11:53 am

  Young males who have been sexually abused are five times more likely to cause teen pregnancy compared to those with no abuse history, according to new research. Sexually abused boys are also three times more likely to have multiple sexual partners and twice as likely to engage in unprotected sex.

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  Dangerous Lilly (a sex blog)

• Ethical Blogging: Attribution does not equal Permission

  Lilly

  13 May 2012 | 6:16 pm

  The bane of a bloggers existence some days is the evolution of the Scraper. The Scraper is someone who has set up a website solely to garner advertisers. They have numerous sites like this and they obviously don’t have time to write their own content, so they “scrape” illegally from others. It’s only scraping, though, if they are stealing your entire post1. Many times these scrapers have automated the process and will scrape directly from your RSS feed. I’ve added on anti-scraping plugins to WordPress which put in things such as unique keys (so that I can search…

• Happy Mother’s Day! The Winner of the Crystal Delights Plug is…..

  Lilly

  13 May 2012 | 9:37 am

  I love that Rafflecopter makes entering contests and having contests so easy. It’s really a lot less of a headache! Of course, in fairness to all, manual verification of entries still needs to happen to be sure that everybody followed all of my rules and restrictions but I was able to do that as things went along for the most part. After a lovely run and lots of entries, I’m pleased to announce that the winner is……     Penny, who writes the blog “A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts”!   Congrats Penny! She really spread the word about sex toy…

• An Updated Review of the Lelo Luna Beads

  Lilly

  12 May 2012 | 12:51 pm

  It’s a bit of a long story regarding how I came to be reviewing the Lelo Luna Beads for a second time, but basically I lost the bead holster of my original set of Luna Beads that I reviewed way back in 2008 and I just happened to put them on my Babeland Wishlist. I put them on the wishlist more as a personal reminder that I wanted to replace them but Babeland ended up sending them to me for review, along with the updated version of the Lelo Mia. By now I’m sure you’ve read tons of reviews on the Luna Beads so I’m going to start out this review with a few facts and…

• Do all birthdays suck?

  Lilly

  8 May 2012 | 8:53 am

  Please allow this old lady a bit of self-involved moping and grumping for a mo’, would ya? Last year’s birthday REALLY sucked. Perhaps this year’s birthday won’t suck so badly because I’m aware that it will suck in advance and I am preparing myself for that. The asshole now-ex-friend who forgot my birthday last year is off the hook now due to being a large douchebag who I don’t speak to anymore. Husband has informed me that he will not at all be up for anything fun or even dinner out, due to very stressful workplace goings-on this month that have my poor…

• Leaf Rechargeable Vibrators: The Spirit Vibe

  Lilly

  7 May 2012 | 1:54 pm

  Entirely too long ago I received the Spirit vibe from Leaf to review. I sometimes wonder why it takes me so long to write certain reviews while others seem to write themselves, and I realized why: When I don’t love or hate a toy, I find it hard to know what to say. And that’s the problem here; I don’t love or hate the Spirit. Spirit is tiny; smaller than I expected. For some reason I expected it to be more along the lines of the Layaspot in size, but it’s actually a little smaller than the Je Joue MiMi and definitely smaller than the We Vibe Touch. Which means that for…

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  Susie Bright's Journal

• Legendary "Edward Penishands" Producer Christian Mann Answers Susie's Porn Movie Quiz

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  12 May 2012 | 10:55 pm

  Ladies and Gents, I present to you the Porn/Hollywood Movie Quiz answers of Christian Mann, one of the folk heroes and erotic-film-producer-wunderkinds of our times, probably known to many as a Golden-and-Beyond-Age Adult Movie Producer and 1st Amendment activist. He is one of my mentors, and I can't tell you...

• Professor Susie Bright's Brazenly Cinephallic, Unapologetically Vulvacious, Vintage Porn Quiz

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  12 May 2012 | 9:59 pm

  I sit upon a lonely thone in a singular Hall of Fame: The X-Rated Critics, 5th Estate Division. It is a rather solitary honor, as there are few people who've reviewed and critiqued erotic film ephemera for decades without spontaneous combustion. Last year, I published the first volume of my...

• A Behind the Scenes Note to My Readers and Friends: The Tiny Critical Mass

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  12 May 2012 | 12:28 pm

  As you know, I just published a new book, my first book with my 21-year-old daughter Aretha. It's a laugh-out-loud, scream-in-the-middle, fairly-mindblowing story about our time together as a mother-daughter team of sex-advice columnists. It's also the first sex-talk book ever written for young adults and parents that isn't about...

• The Legendary Richard Pacheco Answers Susie’s Movie Porn Quiz

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  10 May 2012 | 7:25 pm

  Get in. Sit down. Hold On. Shut up. A letter to Susie from XRCO Hall-of-Fame Actor Richard Pacheco: Mi’lady, OKAY! I have buttoned on my thinking cap and for the 3rd time took on your questionnaire. I HAVE BEEN ANSWERING YOUR QUESTIONS FOR THE LAST THREE HOURS! (Applying to Harvard...

• The Girl Talk You Never Heard in Public Before

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  10 May 2012 | 5:22 pm

  This is way better than Mother's Day Brunch. My daughter Aretha and I have written our first book: Mother/Daughter Sex Advice. Remember back in 2010, when Aretha and I started a column at Jezebel.com? It was insane-- readers flooded us with explicit dilemmas about sexual pleasures and disasters, body issues,...

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• Stay In The Conversation

  Beau Lebens

  15 May 2012 | 6:01 pm

  It’s now much easier for you and your commenters to keep track of the conversations you’re involved in across WordPress.com. Some recent tests have shown that by subscribing commenters to new comments by default, they are more likely to stay engaged and come back and comment more on your blog. With that knowledge, we’ve changed the default comment following behavior to help you get more conversations going on your blog. We made the initial changes last week and after great feedback from you we just launched an update. Here’s how it works: By default, posting a comment…

• Look at These Gorgeous Blogs

  Sheri

  15 May 2012 | 1:05 pm

  We’ve added a user showcase where you can view stunning customizations made by people just like you. From complete redesigns with CSS to adding pizzazz with Custom Fonts to clever use of options like background and header, this showcase will spark your imagination and inspire creativity. Discover details about what each showcase blog is doing with WordPress.com themes and customizations by clicking a thumbnail to see a colophon-style list of credits on the left. We’ve also updated footer links so blog owners can show off the types of customizations they’ve made and visitors can…

• Photo Blogging 101, Part 1

  Erica V.

  14 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  Spring is in the air. With the weather warming up, now is a great time to get started on a photo blog. Creating a photo blog is a wonderful introduction to blogging on WordPress.com or an opportunity to refresh your current site. Ready to get started? You can sign up for a new blog right over here. Getting started Photo blogs, sometimes called phlogs, use pictures instead of words. While many photo bloggers choose a type of photo that they want to focus on, such as portraits, others use their photo blog to document their life’s events. Photo blogs come in a variety of styles, including…

• New Themes: Just Desserts and Oxygen

  Michelle Langston

  10 May 2012 | 8:11 am

  Happy Thursday! We’ve added some exciting new themes to our ever-growing collection, and we’re happy to tell you all about them. First out of the oven is…Just Desserts. Yep, that’s a theme! Designed by Andy Rutledge, Just Desserts is a deliciously stylish premium theme that’s perfect for blogs centered on food. With its responsive, single-column layout and unique presentation of images and posts on the front page, Just Desserts gives you a delectable canvas on which your mouthwatering photos and text can really shine — even when viewed on smaller mobile devices…

• Find Friends Who Use WordPress

  Nick Momrik

  1 May 2012 | 2:32 pm

  Are you curious to see how your friends are using WordPress? Give the new and improved Friend Finder a try to connect with your Twitter, Facebook, and Google contacts who have WordPress sites! After authorizing WordPress.com to use your Twitter, Facebook, or Google account to find your friends (don’t worry — none of this account information is saved!) you’ll see a list of people you know who have WordPress sites. Click Follow and each time your friend publishes a new post it will show up in your Reader under Blogs I Follow. If you have multiple blogs, make sure to set the…

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  The Virginity Project

  8 May 2012 | 10:49 am

  This story makes me think about the disparity between girls and boys. I realize I am making a huge generalization here, as, believe me, I receive stories from boys that are every bit as tender, confused and vulnerable as the stories I receive from girls. But as a rule of thumb, I get those stories from women more often. There are biological reasons for this that we have discussed on this blog before. Women have to be ruled by their emotions. Why? Because we have the ability to grow tiny human beings in our bodies! Imagine how many pregnancies we would have to deal with if emotions weren’t…

• The Twit and the L word...

  The Virginity Project

  22 Apr 2012 | 8:02 am

  Today’s storyteller tells a fine tale. And offers some good advice in the process. ‘Life’s an adventure’ she says, ‘and some good things are worth waiting for. There’s no point worrying over things you can’t necessarily control, all you can do is make sure that whatever is happening, you enjoy yourself.’  Easier said in retrospect perhaps than performed at the time but hey, these are words worth expressing.  She throws some quirky detail into the story too. Did anyone else lose their virginity in a garden shed with a double bed in it? I thought not. My garden shed was full…

• Don't mention the F word..

  The Virginity Project

  7 Apr 2012 | 5:36 am

  My heart sung when I read today’s story because close to the end, Sonia picks up on an issue that’s really close to my heart. ‘I have always felt so lucky to live in the freedom that I do’ she says, ‘and was under the impression that my virginity was in my control.’ Lets break this down. If you live in the West and you’re a woman, your virginity largely is in your control. We don’t lead the lives that our mothers and grandmother’s did. We have our own free will and most of us don’t expect to hold onto virginity until marriage. Bravo for that freedom. And yet, you only need…

• 26 Mar 2012 | 2:16 am

  The Virginity Project

  26 Mar 2012 | 2:16 am

  Goddammit I have had some interesting stories and emails from you whilst I have been sunning myself on a hot island. You are a fascinating bunch. It’s hard to choose which one to feature first but I’m going for this one. Partly, I admit, because it’s another ‘first time’ for me. My first Haitian-American story. Not that that’s of any consequence because the themes, as ever, are international. When it comes to virginity loss, it doesn’t matter what language you speak or what cultural background you relate to, people are people. And people have hormones.It also occurs to me that I…

• 10 Mar 2012 | 3:17 am

  The Virginity Project

  10 Mar 2012 | 3:17 am

  The Virginity Project is up, about and fully functioning at 07.48 on a Saturday morning. Unusual…but I’m going on holiday tomorrow morning and I’m excited. I first woke bright eyed and bushy tailed at midnight. I looked at the clock and realised that I had been asleep for precisely one hour. Great. I then crashed until 4.30am and woke with a raging hunger. One bowl of cereal and two earplugs to shut the birds out later, I was back in bed. With nothing to do. What is it about that time of the morning that turns your brain into a living jukebox? And it’s always the songs that I hate…

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  Rhi in Pink

• Mother’s Day is my New Favorite

  Rhi

  14 May 2012 | 3:49 pm

  I was so excited about Mother’s Day that I had actual butterflies in my stomach on Saturday night. It wasn’t because I expected any lavish gifts or a huge to-do. I was just excited to celebrate almost exactly six months of being a mama. (Fun fact: we brought Henry home six months ago yesterday) We woke up early on Sunday to drive to wine country for brunch at the super fantastic Allison Inn & Spa where I thought that Dungeness Crab Benedict might not be enough food, so I went ahead and ordered appetizers. (Speaking of eggs benedict, this is hilarious.) Proscuitto Arancini with…

• Friday Bullets

  Rhi

  4 May 2012 | 1:04 pm

  I still have not written Henry’s 5-month post. I really need to get on this as he turns 6-months old next Friday. One of my besties is coming into town this weekend and I’m ridiculously excited to see her and introduce her to Henry! Guess what? I went to Baby Bootcamp last week! It was haaaard. But, I felt great afterward. We’ve had stuff going on the past few days and haven’t been able to go back just yet, but we for sure will next week. I have approximately 5,000 (or 400) prints from our wedding and have been looking for an album to put them in. I bit the bullet and…

• Rhi in Pink (and Green and Purple…)

  Rhi

  24 Apr 2012 | 10:03 pm

  My wardrobe choices have changed quite a bit in the 13 months or so. This time last year, I was trying my best to wedge my growing belly into my existing clothes and now I’m trying to wedge my (slowly shrinking) hips into those same outfits (I’m having a bit more success this time). I’ve been a bit reluctant to buy a ton of new clothes as the plan is (hopefully) to fit back into some of those clothes, but with my recent career change, I’ve purchased a few things to tide me over. My two rules for new clothing are that it must be comfortable and it must be easy to wash.

• Get (Back) In Shape, Girl

  Rhi

  19 Apr 2012 | 10:44 pm

  I’m ridiculously proud of the fact that I exercised regularly up until my 36th week of pregnancy. I gained (I think) about 45 pounds during my pregnancy (including a SUPER IMPRESSIVE 9 pounds in 4 weeks) and I’m truly frightened by what that number may have been had I not worked out. I had what I consider to be the most fantastic labor experience ever and I believe that keeping in shape during my pregnancy helped with this. I’m not ridiculously proud of the fact that I’ve not done any sort of formal exercise since then. Through the magic of breastfeeding, I’m…

• Friday Bullets

  Rhi

  13 Apr 2012 | 11:46 am

  I gave in to peer pressure and started The Hunger Games trilogy. I loved the first book and even read it in bed with a flashlight after putting Henry to sleep a couple times. I’m about 150 pages into Catching Fire and I’m a little sad that it’s not as exciting as the first book. In an effort to keep ourselves busy during the day, I signed Henry up for a baby sign language class. Our first one is on Monday and I’m really looking forward to it. I’m sure Henry is too. Have you all heard about Jessica Alba’s company, Honest? We were faithful Huggies users until…

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  Scarleteen

• If you didn't have safer sex in the past, but do now, what changed that the most?

  Heather Corinna

  12 May 2012 | 10:03 am

  I got more education about STIs (sexually transmitted infections) I now only choose partners who care about sexual health & safety I got an STI in the past Someone I knew got an STI I care about myself more than I did before I care about others more than I did before I became more assertive and confident about sex in general I'm no longer embarrassed or afraid to insist on barriers and testing I found out someone I was with sexually wasn't honest with me My sexual life changed in terms of posing higher STI risks I can now afford and access condoms, other barriers and sexual…

• Pregnant & Posting: 21 & 22 Weeks

  Sarah

  8 May 2012 | 9:51 am

  It's not even noon and I've cried at least 10 separate times today. Hooray. I had another topic in mind for this blog entry, but I'm incredibly emotional today and just can't quite tackle the topic I wanted. One of the things I've discovered about pregnancy is that it amplifies everything. The good and the bad. When I feel good, it's like the most awesome thing that's ever happened. My other child smiles at me and it truly is like the sun shines down. Funny things seem funnier than usual. When I'm feeling ambitious, it really feels like I could conquer the world. I am super woman, I am super…

• Pregnant & Posting: 20 weeks

  Sarah

  25 Apr 2012 | 9:48 pm

  After quite a wait, we finally got a look at the little peanut that I've been carrying around for the past 20 weeks. (I was about 20 weeks, 5 days at the time of my ultrasound.) My appointment was in the afternoon. First, we sat in the waiting room for almost 45 minutes past the scheduled appointment time. One of the things you learn pretty quickly when you're heading to the obgyn on a regular basis is that you need to be prepared to wait. Whether you're with an OB or a midwife, always be ready to wait when you show up for appointments. They may be called away at any time to do a delivery or…

• How should I have sex with him if I hate his body parts?

  Heather Corinna

  24 Apr 2012 | 11:02 am

  So I am 17, and I am a gay boy. I was talking to this guy for a while over the internet, we met, and we both really hit it off. Well one thing that I didn't really notice is how feminine his body was. Well we were texting, and he told me that he was a FTM (female to male) transgender individual. The issue I am having is that I really like this guy, but I don't like females. And while he has a female anatomy, he still acts completely male. So I was wondering what a smart way to experiment, to see if it would work, would be, while at the same time not hurting him. Please let me know... I really…

• I might be bi, and am not sure this is forever: is it wrong to have sex with her?

  Heather Corinna

  17 Apr 2012 | 11:42 am

  I'm a 17 year old male currently involved in a relationship of four months. I'm a virgin, and I am also "questioning" about my sexuality, but my girlfriend is unaware. There was a time when I would consider myself bisexual, because I am attracted, physically, to males but not emotionally, but I'm still not entirely sure that I am bisexual. My girlfriend is much more experienced than I am when it comes to sex, but she has never gone "all the way" and she wants to do this for the first time with me. I want to really bad as well, and we plan to soon, but I can't shake the feeling that I will be…

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  The Frisky

• Meet Dr. Oz’s Penis

  Ami Angelowicz

  16 May 2012 | 1:20 pm

  Dr. Oz’s bulge got a full spread in this month’s issue of Good Housekeeping. Either the stylist wasn’t paying attention to his pasta boner or this is purposefully soft core. He looks positively aroused by that pasta dish. I can almost hear him getting off on how heart healthy it is. There’s a certain demographic [...]

• Girl Talk: My Grandma’s Vibrator Gives Me Hope

  Sara Barron

  16 May 2012 | 1:00 pm

  A decade ago, my grandmother, then 82, broke her hip. Her recovery involved a month in the hospital while she learned to walk comfortably again, a month that drove my mother, my grandmother’s sole caretaker, to the brink of insanity. “I can’t go on,” she’d moan. “Calgon, take me away.” Such was her constant refrain, [...]

• Billy Bob Thornton: How I “Blew” My Marriage to Angelina Jolie

  Newser

  16 May 2012 | 12:50 pm

  Billy Bob Thornton takes the blame for the failure of his marriage to Angelina Jolie in a new “Nightline” interview. “I blew it because I didn’t think I was good enough for her. She has one way she wanted to live her life and I had another way to live mine and I was just [...]

• Watch: Feist Performs With A Couple Surprising Street Dancers

  Julie Gerstein

  16 May 2012 | 12:40 pm

  You wouldn’t think that the folky acoustic guitar rock of Feist would set well with the freestyle hip-hop dance set. And yet! That’s exactly what happened on the streets of Oakland, when the singer performed “Cicadas and Gulls” (off of Metals) to an adoring crowd. Two members of the street dance crew Turf Feinz happened [...]

• Kristen Stewart Seduces Herself In Elle Magazine

  Winona Dimeo-Ediger

  16 May 2012 | 12:20 pm

  Kristen Stewart donned a fierce leather skirt and bustier for a sexually charged photo shoot in the June issue of Elle magazine. And who’s that hunk in the slouchy suit and suspenders she’s cuddling up to? Oh yeah, that’s also Kristen Stewart. I must say I’m pretty into her masculine swagger. Which Kristen do you [...]

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  About.com Sexuality

• Discount Sex Drugs for Soliders - Is This What Support Looks Like?

  15 May 2012 | 7:01 pm

  May 19th is Armed Services Day (also called Armed Forces Day but I'll mention both since it's not clear who is winning that pr battle). Growing up in a big Canadian city my relationship to the military was simple. I didn't know anyone who was in the military. And the story is that my grandfather enlisted prior to the Second World War but never made it out of basic training because he had flat feet. The regiment that he was scheduled to be with did go to Europe and none of the service members in that regiment made it home alive. If not for his flat feet, none of us would have been born. If you…

• Talking About the Porn Talk

  13 May 2012 | 7:01 pm

  An article in the Times last week raised the complicated issue of talking with children about pornography. It was nice to see it there since it's been a reality for parents for years. Companies that make Internet connected technology (mobile devices, tablets, and old school computers) are increasingly marketing the devices as something suitable for young children. And plenty of parents agree. But along with the free access to thousands of hours of kid friendly videos (thanks YouTube) and cool apps that turn classic kid's books into animated worlds of wonder, comes access to unwanted and…

• Doing It Solo

  11 May 2012 | 6:22 am

  One can never know for sure what statistics about our online searching habits mean. Does the trending of a search term related to a celebrity illness or breakup "tell" us something about how much we care about that celebrity, or our health, or fidelity? Are we what we search for? I think about this every time I look at the statistics for the Sexuality site on About.com. Millions of people visit the site, often finding me because they entered some term into a search engine. And based on a non-scientific sampling, it's my impression that far more people are interested in how to masturbate than…

• Masturbation Month Turns 17

  7 May 2012 | 5:35 am

  In 1994 when President Bill Clinton fired Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders for answering yes to a question about whether masturbation was an appropriate topic to be addressed in sexual health education, many of us shook our heads. Not that we couldn't believe he fired her for it. Most of us were dismayed (or depressed) by the level of hypocrisy that would make it a forgone conclusion that she'd lose her job for suggesting that the most common sexual behavior on the planet be at least mentioned when we teach about sexuality. The following year in a collaborative move that is hard to imagine…

• Stopping It Before It Starts: Banning Talk of Gateway Sexual Activity

  29 Apr 2012 | 7:01 pm

  Is it a sign of the apocalypse that it's harder and harder to tell the difference between so-called real news and the fake news delivered by places like The Onion or The Daily Show? It certainly makes it harder to know when to laugh and when to cry. Case in point, this item from WREG in Memphis: Lawmakers have passed a bill changing the language of how sexual education is conducted in Tennessee. The bill, Senate Bill 3310, focuses primarily on abstinence, but allows for comparison of contraception methods. However, contraception is no longer allowed to be distributed on school property. The…

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  A Sensual Blog: Having My Cake and Eating It Too

• Another Vibrator For Men – Euphoric Vibrating Cock Ring

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  14 May 2012 | 7:20 pm

  Ruf and I have tried vibrating cock rings in the past - rings of jelly with a bullet attached that slide up the length of the penis to sit in the groin area. Some are tighter and, therefore, less comfortable than others and a few definitely work better when it comes to the power involved in stimulating the penis or the testicles but they only had minimal success when it came to buzzing my button simultaneously. They were fun, but not serious contenders in the vibrator for men department and the problem has always been positioning the bullet in the right place to satisfy both of our anatomical…

• Who Rules The Roost

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  13 May 2012 | 11:17 pm

  Following on from my recent post about The United Front, this quiz from iVillage brought back even more memories. But it also raised a number of frustrations by the options available in the answers because it didn’t always allow for having that ‘child in parental clothing’ in the house. The one who would [...]

• Tagged – 6 word Memoir

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  11 May 2012 | 7:14 pm

  I have been tagged by Marianne, who has stolen all my adjectives. The Rules 1. Write your own six word memoir 2. Post it on your blog and include a visual illustration if you’d like 3. Link to the person that tagged you in your post and to this original post if possible, so we can track it as [...]

• And Part of the Answer is Lingerie

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  11 May 2012 | 7:44 am

  I had not seen Ruf for a week and the coupling of the previous weekend had left me with the usual feeling of sad discontent at my body’s failure to achieve the heights of old. I wanted to put things right. I wanted to be Joanna Cake again. So, I got my hair done [...]

• On Line Tutor Saves The Day

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  11 May 2012 | 6:32 am

  If you’re a parent, I suspect that you will have experienced that sinking feeling when one of your kids springs their latest homework assignment on you – and you don’t have a clue how to help. I bet even Albert Einstein would have struggled with some of the essays that need to be written [...]

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  Ask Dan and Jennifer

• Is Porn Actually Bad For You?

  Chase Christopher

  16 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  Porn can be a way to get any guy through dry spell or to spice up the love life between a couple. However, the most common questions is whether or not adult movies are actually bad for you. While it does allow people to indulge in their fantasies, there can be several repercussions to bring pornography into any relationship. If you are a single guy, it can also have detrimental effects to the expectations of future lovers. Here are a few ways that adult films can actually be bad for you. It Raises Your Expectations A Little Too High Porn is the equivalency of fantasy. When you start watching…

• How To Please A Man From Head To Toe

  Rochelle Stavi

  15 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  Sex tips are a must have if you’re going to rock your man’s world. Sure, bringing a man to orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen – or so you may think. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him. Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done,” but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm? For example, sometimes a man can have two orgasms in one, meaning that he feels that release…

• How To Talk To Her About Sex

  Gabrielle Moore

  14 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  Sex can be a difficult subject to broach when you’re dating someone. Here’s how you can discuss sex with your lover without scaring her off! Get Comfortable With It For a lot of people, even in this day and age, with a media saturated in sexual imagery, sex can be incredibly uncomfortable to discuss. Even with our most intimate partners. Especially when unsatisfied, your wife may not be articulating what she wants or needs sexually, as she’s afraid of hurting your feelings. Before you start the conversation, you need to get comfortable saying the words associated with sex…

• How To Choose The Right Lube

  Gabrielle Moore

  13 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  Lube is essential for almost all sexual activities – especially manual stimulation – but selecting the right kind can be a little overwhelming. Perhaps you have already taken a look at your local sex shop, or at online stores to see what the selection is like. I bet you were taken aback! Heck, my sex toy store has over a thousand different products in the lubrication category! That is a whole lot of choice, so let’s take a minute and talk about your options. Lubricants can easily be broken down into a few categories based on ingredients. First, the “base” of the lubricant…

• What To Talk About On The First Date

  Michael Webb

  12 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  The first date is pretty nerve wracking because often, you’re not sure what to say or how to keep the conversation going. Check out these easy first date tips! Create A Simple Environment Your first date with a woman should be in a quiet place where you can communicate one on one. This is the time to prove that you’re a catch. You need to project this by successfully flirting with her. DON’T FORGET: Just because the woman has committed to a first date doesn’t mean she’ll become your girlfriend. Some guys “go weird” once women decide to have a first date. Realize that…

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  TresSugar

• Take a Peek at the National Portrait Gallery's Queen Exhibit

  Annie Scudder

  16 May 2012 | 1:04 pm

  The Queen: Art & Image is the name of a new exhibition at the National Portrait Gallery in honor of Queen Elizabeth's Diamond Jubilee. Just like the span of the monarch's reign, the iconic images range from traditional to modern, with commissioned portraits and works by contemporary artists included in the show. The exhibit hopes to demonstrate the evolution of Queen Elizabeth and how she's been portrayed since the 1950s, and as a result how portraiture has changed over that same period. After her ascension to the throne in 1952 at 25, images of Queen Elizabeth emphasized elegance and…

• I'm a Huge Fan: Jennifer Lopez - Meet Our Winner and Join Her Backstage at American Idol!

  Lauren Turner

  16 May 2012 | 1:00 pm

  Get excited to meet our latest I'm a Huge Fan winner, Margaret Depkin! Watch as she gets to meet and interview the star of What to Expect When You're Expecting, Jennifer Lopez. The movie hits theaters this Friday, and to celebrate we brought one fan on an exciting adventure to meet her idol, Jennifer Lopez. Come along as our lucky winner Margaret travels to LA for the first time and gets special access to a taping of American Idol - Margaret even interviews the contestants backstage after the show! Special thanks to Revolve Clothing for decking out our editor Lindsay Miller for her AI visit.

• Gay Weddings Spread the Love

  Tara Block

  16 May 2012 | 10:03 am

  Gay marriage is having a moment, after President Obama committed his support to equal rights last week. Just like other lifetime lovers, same-sex couples incorporate many well-loved traditions, and the heart of big day is the same: two people who love each other dedicating the rest of their lives to each other. I've picked some of my favorite gay weddings to share with you that are paving the way for the union of "man and man" or "woman and woman" to be the traditional weddings of the future. View Slideshow ›

• Check Out Hollywood Couples at the Cannes Film Festival Over the Years

  Laura Marie Given

  16 May 2012 | 6:00 am

  In honor of the Cannes Film Festival, which kicks off today, we're taking a look back at some of the Hollywood couples who have hit the red carpet over the years. First held in 1946, the annual festival - an invitation-only affair - previews and honors new films from around the world at the Palais des Festivals et des Congrès in Cannes, France. From Diane Kruger and Joshua Jackson to Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, we've rounded up past and present Hollywood couples who made the festival's exclusive guest list. View Slideshow ›

• "Four Years and No I Love You"

  Tres Community

  16 May 2012 | 5:05 am

  This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments! I've been with my boyfriend for four years. We see each other often, though we don't live together (we each have our own kids from prior marriages). We have a lot in common, enjoy each other's company, etc. We're in our 40s, so I hope that by now, we have a better idea of what makes a relationship last. However . . . I find myself getting hung up on the fact that he hasn't said the magic "I love you." Also, he only recently brought up the idea of meeting his mom a few months ago, but it…

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  Dating, singles, relationships, sex tips and advice blog for men and women.

• Sitting On The Fence: The Position You Adopt When You Fear Making Mistakes By Committing To Decisions

  Natalie (NML)

  14 May 2012 | 5:00 pm

  When you have issues with commitment of any kind, there is this perennial fear that if you make the decision that you’ll get it ‘wrong’ and then it’s like a black mark on your ‘life resume’ or it can’t be undone or managed, and your whole life will go down the tube off the back of it. Ever been involved with a flip flapping Mr / Miss Unavailable that can’t commit to being with you but won’t commit to leaving you the hell alone? Their behaviour probably drives you crazy and even causes you to question yourself, but it’s important to recognise that the reason why they…

• Tips For Avoiding Text, Internet & Other Lazy Communication Based Relationships

  Natalie (NML)

  11 May 2012 | 5:12 pm

  In this adapted excerpt from my latest ebook The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship , I share my tips for kicking the virtual relationship habit, which is when you’re too reliant on texts, instant messenger, email, Facebook, sexts et al and making loaves out of crumbs… Shorten your meeting time. The amount of time between meeting someone online and meeting face to face should be short. The longer it is, the greater the fantasy. There is no need to go through this pre-vetting process by having long drawn-out and misleading conversations via text, email, and even phone, without…

• You’re Not In Pretty Woman: Do You Believe In The Booty Call ‘Fairy Tale’?

  Natalie (NML)

  9 May 2012 | 4:23 pm

  If you’ve stuck like glue to an unhealthy relationship, or have devoted your energies into upgrading a one night stand, booty call, Friends With Benefits or ad hoc fling, into a full time, bonafide committed relationship, it’s safe to say that you very much believe in the fairy tale and the fantasy. You seek to be the exception to the rule. In fact, you seek love against the odds. The sheer number of people I hear from who are residing in some sort of sexual hell because they participated in casual arrangements is astounding. Not only does it tell me that there’s a hell of a…

• It’s Time To Stop Playing The Relationship Slot Machine

  Natalie (NML)

  7 May 2012 | 4:28 pm

  I was reading an article about pattern breaking this morning and the author Chris explained how use of social media like Facebook and Twitter are similar to the dynamics of playing the slot machines. “Hit with even a small win every once in a blue moon, and you’ll reinstate that pattern incessantly”, which is basically how casinos make their money basically bleeding you dry. When you’re inclined to talk about ‘good points’ and ‘good times’, or you chase a ‘feeling’, you are someone feeding their energy, emotions, and esteem into your…

• When Someone Thinks That It’s Okay To Keep Disappointing You … But Not Others. Er… No It’s Not

  Natalie (NML)

  2 May 2012 | 4:01 pm

  If you’ve been involved in an unavailable relationship, or been frustrated by certain friends, family, or coworkers, you may have noticed something which if you don’t heed the real meaning, you’ll instead take it as some sort of indication of your worth: These people are often very comfortable with disappointing you by failing to meet your hopes and expectations, plus promises and plans that they’ve made, yet they’ll practically break their neck to ensure that they don’t disappoint certain people. They’ll do things like: - Thinking that it’s OK…

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  Mommy Has A Headache

• When Good Brains Go Bad

  2 May 2012 | 10:21 am

  I found it strangely endearing to hear that the megamillionairess, eater of wheatgrass and fashion designer Victoria Beckham drove her son to school this week without remembering to put him in the car. I reckon Posh was sleep-deprived when she started to drive her son Brooklyn to school and got halfway there before realizing he was, you know, actually in the car. "I jumped in my Range Rover, put the car seat in, put my iPod on and drove to school. And then I realised I'd left Brooklyn in the kitchen! I was driving along, talking away, and all of a sudden, I looked down at the…

• Spice Up Your Road Trip

  19 Apr 2012 | 9:22 am

  You never forget where you were the first time you heard those immortal lyrics: I really really really want to Zig a Zig Ahhhh.... Do you? Admittedly I was a bit long in the tooth to be a Spice Girl as when they launched I was in my mid twenties and a little old to wear micro mini skirts, 7 inch platform boots and wear my hair in bunches, but I do remember being at a club and hearing that song for the first time and being blown away by the youthful infectious energy behind it. The reason I mention the Spice Girls is that my girls (age 8 and 11) are obsessed with the…

• Thankful Thursday: Candy Haiku

  12 Apr 2012 | 11:00 am

  Today I will mostly be trying to compose a haiku: Thanks to the Easter BunnyWho made this weekSo very scrummy I bit the heads off a dozen peeps Murdered six rabbits Licked the life out of Fourteen bubble gum Flavored lollipops And a licorice bear Now I would like For all the woodland Animals To creep through my window And eat the rest of my candy Stash Before my stomach explodes Showering shards of sugar Over the neighborhood So come on squirrels And non-rabid raccoons I need you to Scoff the rest of My stash before I turn into a sugar mama What do you think of my Candy Haiku? And what are…

• Confessions of a Cake Addict

  2 Apr 2012 | 11:15 am

  Cakeaholic Kate Pickles is feeling the weight but when she falls hopelessly in love with a sexy Austrian she is caught in a Viennese Whirl Hurrah! My novel Confessions of a Cake Addict is now available in paperback and Kindle! So do me a favor and buy it. And leave a review on Amazon if it tickles your Fondant Fancy! STRAIGHT FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: MORE BLURB: Londoner Kate Pickles has hit rock bottom. She's funny, kind, and talented but totally unaware about all the great things she has going for her. Day in and day out, she sits back and whines to her sister Laurie in Sydney,…

• If Guinea Pigs Could Tweet

  21 Mar 2012 | 1:13 pm

  This is a fab new idea for a meme from Slummy Single Mummy. You can read all about it by clicking on the badge but the bottom line is we’re going to attempt to summarise our week in seven tweets. They can be tweets you actually sent or just a 140 character summary that you write in retrospect. Can’t be that hard, right? Now, it's not often that something bites me in the bum and inspires me but this idea lit a flame under my tush. I have to say I don't want to give you my own week of tweets as nothing much happened apart from me having a blocked toilet, but what about tweeting as…

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  Polyamory Weekly

• PW 319: Marriage by choice

  Minx

  9 May 2012 | 10:36 pm

  Marriage by choice rather than peer pressure. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 318: The New Monogamy

  Minx

  2 May 2012 | 9:43 am

  The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 317: Rules redux

  Minx

  26 Apr 2012 | 6:48 pm

  Franklin Veaux and Minx tackle YOUR feedback on poly rules--what works and what doesn't. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 316: Queer is a verb

  Minx

  16 Apr 2012 | 3:31 pm

  Dr. Charlie Glickman on queer as a verb and the origins of Good Vibrations. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 315: What would monogamists do?

  Minx

  10 Apr 2012 | 5:42 pm

  Post-MomentumCon recap and a look at the "what would monogamists do" guiding question.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

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  Beyond the Birds & the Bees

• Same-Sex Relationships in Mass Effect 3

  Sex, Etc.

  11 May 2012 | 6:42 pm

  Mass Effect 3, the latest installment of the M-rated Mass Effect video game franchise, has a new feature, which has many video gamers up in arms. What’s the new feature? Players, who play as a male, can have a same-sex relationship with another male. (Same-sex relationships were already allowed when you played as the female Commander Shepard.) While the new feature is included in the game, it is only an option. It isn’t mandatory. Players get to choose their character’s sexual orientation. If you don’t want your character to be gay in the game, then you don’t…

• Sisters Weigh Pregnancy Options on 16 and Pregnant

  Sex, Etc.

  4 May 2012 | 1:49 pm

  Photo by MTV The new season of MTV’s 16 and Pregnant kicked off on Tuesday, April 3rd, highlighting the lives of 12 new girls with 12 different stories. One of the first episodes features Briana, a college-bound, high school graduate and teen mom-to-be. Briana, 18, lives in Florida with her mom and sister. She was afraid of her mom’s reaction when she dropped the news that she was pregnant, and it didn’t help that Briana’s older sister Brittany got pregnant around the same time. Although they were both pregnant, Briana and Brittany made different choices. Brittany, who had broken up…

• MTV’s Against Our Will Campaign

  Sex, Etc.

  27 Apr 2012 | 1:42 pm

  Did you know that there’s slavery still going on today? There’s human trafficking going on around the world, including in the U.S. This modern day slavery happens when people control others and use them to profit from their services—usually sexual. Sex trafficking is when a person is forced into the commercial sex trade, which includes child prostitution and child pornography. Labor trafficking happens in different industries from farming to factories, from nail salons and restaurants to even people’s homes. People who are citizens, in the U.S. without a visa or undocumented workers…

• Androgynous Models Blur the Lines Between Genders

  Sex, Etc.

  24 Apr 2012 | 5:47 pm

  Photo by Karel Losenicky/Oprah.com Androgynous models—who have a combination of masculine and feminine characteristics—are becoming more and more popular among world-class brand names like Givenchy. Since their gender can be so ambiguous, they can model either men or women’s clothes. There are, however, significant differences between some of the most well-known androgynous models. For instance, Andrej Pejic is a Serbian gay male, whereas Lea T. is heterosexual and transgender. In 2011, Pejic modeled during Paris Fashion Week for Jean Paul Gauthier in women’s clothing, then for Mark…

• Look Young & Beautiful with Fotoshop by Adobé

  Sex, Etc.

  16 Apr 2012 | 9:36 am

  Lots of women want to look like those gorgeous models in magazines, but we all know that in reality even models don’t look like the images in these publications. Photo enhancing applications, like Photoshop, are used every day in the fashion industry. Ads that claim to “Get rid of cellulite fast!” have edited out every skin imperfection that a model has and offer empty promises. Jesse Rosten’s video Fotoshop by Adobé helps us laugh at these ridiculous advertisements rather than get caught up in how our bodies do or do not matchup to the unattainable edited images of models and…

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  Silent Porn Star

• Ann Miller & A Cross-Dressing Mickey Rooney

  Silent Porn Star

  16 May 2012 | 9:24 am

  ‘Nuff said. From Sugar Babies.

• Sobering Censorship Image

  Silent Porn Star

  13 May 2012 | 7:50 am

  This photo was taken by George Skadding for Life in 1949. It’s poignant and provokative and was via Kitsch Slapped, where there’s also this insightful post about Gypsy Rose Lee and media.

• The History Of Race & Religion In GLBT Issues As Seen In Vintage African American Magazines

  Silent Porn Star

  11 May 2012 | 3:28 am

  With a lot of the recent political conversation discussing the entwined struggle for civil rights between people of color and the LGBT folks, including the controversy that “rights” and “equality” have limits (sometimes based on the misguided “choice” to be gay, previous treatment, i.e. slavery, or even if only based on visual perceptions), the resulting [...]

• “Just Add Air”

  Silent Porn Star

  9 May 2012 | 9:35 pm

  On presumes inflatable dolls full of hot air are preferred to that of a real live woman talking. If you want that, you pay for phone sex. There is no other inflatable doll as LIFE-LIKE as Judy. Vintage ad found in Cavalier, September 1969. Via.

• Another Silent Porn Star Link Round Up

  Silent Porn Star

  2 May 2012 | 5:02 pm

  CNN covers the history of sex and espionage. (Related: spies and lingerie.) ASCII art nudes, anyone? In The Bachelor Pad: Myths and Reality, we get a look into the gendering of domestic space which, I daresay, seems to be as much about posturing and creating the myth of “what men do” and “where they do [...]

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  Simple Marriage

• I’m needing your help

  Corey

  16 May 2012 | 9:24 am

  [Note: This is a continuation of our shift posts, one and two.] To begin, I want to send a thank you to those of you who have sent me emails and left comments in support of Simple Marriage and our goal of fundamentally changing the culture of marriage. Your support means a lot. Second, I want to let you in on my thinking about things as we’ve progressed the past week. The response from people has been good, but I’ve got some concern as to how good the response really is. After all, there were only 2 comments on the second post discussing the coming shift (our email list and…

• 4 Important Characteristics About Love

  guest

  14 May 2012 | 8:28 am

  Guest post written by Mariana Ashley of online colleges. In the 1950s, social psychologist and philosopher Erich Fromm wrote a groundbreaking book, The Art of Loving: An Enquiry into the Nature of Love. This book presents a refreshingly non-Disney theory about this thing we call love. Unlike most self-help books, The Art of Loving does not presume to have any straightforward answers about your own relationships. Instead, it discusses love philosophically such that you can take from the book what you find most helpful. Here are a few ideas from this work that changed the way I relate to other…

• So, what’s around the corner?

  Corey

  10 May 2012 | 4:47 pm

  [Note: This post is a follow up to my last post. Where I announced some small shifts coming down the road.] First, I want to thank everyone who left encouraging comments in the previous post. Once again, the comments and emails I get from loyal Simple Marriage readers are payments in and of themselves. Anyway, last time ended with a cliffhanger. Two in fact. So, let’s cover the second one. Perhaps you already know about Blow Up My Marriage. But in case you haven’t heard, it’s a 16 week class that has impacted hundreds of people already in deep and lasting ways. The way this…

• Getting personal … Time for a shift

  Corey

  8 May 2012 | 1:08 pm

  [Note: I'm embarking on something new and I want you to hear the story behind it.] In January 2008, Simple Marriage began as a place to spread a “be all marriage can be” message. At that time I was writing a weekly column for a small town newspaper about marriage and family life and began posting the articles online as well. After only posting a few articles, people began finding them and reading, and more excitingly, commenting. I was hooked. I stopped writing for the paper and thanks to the medium of this blog, I was able to interact with people from all over the world and was…

• Growing in your current relationship

  Corey

  7 May 2012 | 9:31 am

  Post written by Dr. Corey Allan. Last week’s post, You’re already in the right relationship, generated some great comments and emails. Apparently the ideas presented resonated with many of you. I received several requests for a follow up that contains some concrete next steps or tips for taking the growing up process in marriage to the next level. Unfortunately, there are no concrete steps that work for everyone, because as you know, marriage is not a one size fits all thing. However, there are some principles and some dynamics already at play in every marriage that can be…

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  LUSTY LADY

• Sexy massages on The Harder She Comes virtual book tour

  Rachel

  15 May 2012 | 7:17 am

  Today is my day on the virtual book tour for The Harder She Comes: Butch Femme Erotica edited by D.L. King. I was inspired, in part, by a chocolate massage I bought for a chocolate-loving ex many years back. I had so much fun imagining her surrounded by chocolate, and I've always found massage to be a very sensual experience and wanted to write from the point of view of a masseuse. It's a topic I will probably revisit because it seems ripe for all sorts of encounters. Here's the book's official blurb (fyi, if I ran Amazon, every book would have their full table of contents listed there, but I…

• My erotica on Kindle and Nook and Audible - updated for May 2012

  Rachel

  9 May 2012 | 8:37 am

  \For those who are into that sort of thing, here's a handy list/links to my erotica anthologies on Kindle. Below are links to Kindle editions, Nook editions and Audible audiobook editions (where available, more audiobooks are coming soon). Visit my website for links to all my books as well as the anthologies my work has been published in. I'm updating my website's books page so all the links to Amazon, Kindle, B&N, Nook, Powells, IndieBound, Cleis Press, etc. will be just a click away - that is coming soon. When you click through below you'll see that almost all of these have a free sample…

• Fifty Shades of Grey on Long Island

  Rachel

  8 May 2012 | 6:53 am

  I went to Long Island yesterday and wrote about an $85 per person luncheon for Fifty Shades of Grey author E.L. James for The New York Observer. Check it out, and if you like it, spread the word please (it's my first piece for the Observer, the New York paper where Candace Bushnell once wrote her Sex and the City column). Thanks! Here are some photos, and more are with the article...there were even cupcakes! I was wrapping up my piece when there was a commotion about the jeans on the couch being taken by someone. That cracked me up.:

• Kinky size 16 woman wants to get spanked and take orders in BDSM story "Big Girls Do Cry"

  Rachel

  4 May 2012 | 7:03 am

  The other night at Bluestockings, before we busted out the vulva cupcakes by Kitchentop Catering, inspired by my friend Diana Cage's reading from her wonderful book Mind-Blowing Sex, I read the first three pages of my story "Big Girls Do Cry" from Curvy Girls and wanted to share it with you because it addressed something that Diana talked about, which I'll paraphrase, which is the idea that sex means what we think it means. We imbue each act with power and meaning and importance, and getting into the particulars of why one person does or doesn't get off on something is part of what, in my…

• I'm not a full-time writer, but I aspire to be

  Rachel

  2 May 2012 | 3:29 pm

  What do I tell those questioning souls who email me for advice? I tell them all the same thing and, oddly enough, not one of them has ever written me back to thank me. I guess I didn't tell them what they wanted to hear. But here is what I tell them: read a lot. Read everything. Read in the genre you want to write, yes, but also read outside of it. And write. For the love of all that is holy, write your ass off. Don't write erotic romance because it's the hot new (old) genre right now. Don't write horror because you have a lifelong crush on Stephen King (I did and I do). Don't write…

• 

  violet blue ® :: open source sex

• Sex News: FBI sex crime, post-porn life, kids and the porn talk, sexy is boring, biking and sex

  violet blue

  16 May 2012 | 5:37 am

  Women who ride a bicycle on a regular basis are at an increased risk of losing some sensation the pelvic region which can lead to less pleasure during sex, according to a new Yale study. Cycling May Diminish Sexual Pleasure in Women, Lead to Numbness of the Genitalia (Medical Daily) They’ve made sexy boring. Best article of the week! “The only difference between the girls – always ‘girls’ – of FHM and the women I meet in real life, is that real life is a lot more diverse (…) When it comes to what people find sexy, there’s a truth in porn…

• Lovely GOP buttplugs shaped by Gallup Poll approval ratings

  violet blue

  15 May 2012 | 8:39 pm

  Brilliant idea, and very real: “Grand Old Party” is a data visualization project that took Gallup approval ratings for Republican GOP candidates within a time frame, projected the data as butt plug shapes (finally, the GOP is anal-safe), printed them with a 3D printer and cast them in black silicone. “Grand Old Party” – GOP – is a set of butt plugs. Matthew Epler explains, Each shape is determined by voter approval ratings amongst registered republican voters for each of the GOP presidential candidates. The height is a measurement of time, beginning…

• [Video] Plastic Fantastic – Kim Kane by Steve Diet Goedde

  violet blue

  14 May 2012 | 3:05 pm

  I love Kim Kane and I love Steve Diet Goedde, so this simple and light sexy little video of Kim in crinkly plastic is a nice afternoon treat.

• Eye Candy: Best of Babes

  violet blue

  11 May 2012 | 5:27 pm

  Please do feel free to give a click of appreciation to my sponsors this week: PV Locker and PV Games. Thank you! Sofi S – Perfect Beauty by Natasha Schon Gabrielle B – Inspiration by Raphael Boleyn A – Exposed by Sebastian Michael Amie – Rural Fun by Oliver Nation Engelie & Kiki – Sexual Attraction (video autoplay alert) Silvie – Bushy Days (video autoplay alert) Tereza – Body Rock (main post photo, above; video autoplay alert) Dominika C – Labia and Leather (video autoplay alert) Alexis V. – Premiere Zara D. – Premiere Amy A…

• Sex News: Wet T-Shirt Jedi Fight, Anna Paquin, John Travolta, Swift Boner Mitt Romney

  violet blue

  10 May 2012 | 3:38 pm

  Sexy Jedi Body Wash Commercial, directed by Seth Green! (above; via Buzzfeed) John Travolta has an eight-inch cock – really? Two masseurs are suing the Hollywood titan for sexual assault as they were attempting to give him massages, and the lawsuit is quite explicit in their charges. The Worst Of The John Travolta Lawsuit (Buzzfeed) Earlier this year, Mitt Romney promised Morality in Media, the “leading national organization opposing pornography,” that he would go after porn for them. On Reddit commenters are discussing a plan to “swift-boner” Mitt Romney with…

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  Savage Love Podcast

• Savage Love Episode 291

  Dan Savage

  15 May 2012 | 3:00 am

  Dan advises a recovering alcoholic on how to let people know why he's drinking ginger ale in the bar without causing the date to come to a screeching halt. Is it better to admit that you've been dumped or keep on circling around trying to seek "closure"? Hey, cute, flirty straight boys! Why do you have to tease your homo buddies so hard? And more.  Can you stand it?  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code “Savage” and get 20 percent off your entire order.   Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent…

• Savage Love Episode 290

  Dan Savage

  8 May 2012 | 3:00 am

  A woman gets paid to dress up like a superhero and roll around in bed. Nothing sexual. Is she obligated to tell her boyfriend about this revenue stream? A 40-year-old man is dating a 20-year-old man who was a friend of his kids from a previous marriage. Is it just one of love's many whims or is he the mayor of Creepytown? And hear a cautionary tale of lies, passion, and extortion on Grindr. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

• Savage Love Episode 289

  Dan Savage

  1 May 2012 | 3:00 am

  How do you hit on someone with Aspergers? This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with Maxine Aston, author and relationship counselor who specializes in relationships and Aspergers Syndrome. Find her at www.maxineaston.co.uk Also, supporting sissy sons, kinky glitter and the damage that youthful experimentation can do.  Confidential to everyone who lost your virginity last night: Congratulations!  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free…

• Savage Love Episode 288

  Dan Savage

  24 Apr 2012 | 3:00 am

  Bisexuals! Grab your pitchforks and fire up those torches. This show is all about you.  Also, does a BJ get you into the Mile High Club?  A man who will be staying with his sister-in-law for a few months wonders if he needs to keep his carnal relations inaudible.  Shhhhhhh!  206-201-2720 Neal Boulton is over at www.Bastardlife.com This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to…

• Savage Love Episode 287

  Dan Savage

  17 Apr 2012 | 3:00 am

  Dan counsels a very GGG woman on how she can lovingly kick her boyfriend in the nuts.   Rape scenarios are tricky, aren't they? You have to plan and communicate clearly, or you might end up in jail. But does it kill the sexy to say, "Okay, honey, I'll rape you next Tuesday"?   And "Miss Manners" Savage has the solution for how to send the third in your three-way off to the guest bed.   Is there nothing Dan Savage can't solve? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Xandria.com. Enter the code “SAVAGE” and get 20% off your entire order.   Now,…

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  Very Smart Brothas

• “Why Won’t Kevin Durant Brush His Hair?”…And More Questions That Need Answered Right. Now.

  The Champ

  15 May 2012 | 11:16 pm

  Kevin Durant, making his own personal protest for not winning MVPEarlier in the week, I joked that a degree in Black Studies is about as useless as thumbs on a roach. Now, I obviously wasn’t serious — I wouldn’t be arrogant enough to dismiss an entire field of study (I’ll let Naomi Riley do that) — but I do think that the Black Studies’ curriculum offered at most universities should expand their horizons a bit and include some things we really, really, really need to get to the bottom of, including…Why won’t Kevin Durant brush his hair?Is it a…

• Why It’s True That Men Need To Fall For Women A Bit Harder Than They Fall For Us

  The Champ

  14 May 2012 | 11:21 pm

  "I'm smiling now, but if you bite my neck again, this'll be the last time we have pier sex"One of the best (and worst) things about being an adult is the occasional realization that certain things you never wanted to believe to be true are, in fact, true. On a macro level, these realizations are good because they help you grow and see the world for what it truly is and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But, however good this knowledge may ultimately be, it still stings a bit to learn that you believed some wrong-ass shit.In the past few years or so I’ve had (at least) two…

• Is It Ever “Ok” For Whites To Criticize Blacks?

  The Champ

  13 May 2012 | 11:18 pm

  Last weekend, one of my homegirls invited me to go see “The Dutchman” — a 45 minute long one act play that’s intended to serve as an allegory for Black/White relations in America. Since Saturday was the last day it would be playing at the Bricolage Theater — and since my particular form of bougie Blackness calls for me to witness or partake in at least one “serious” conversation about race per month to offset my affinity for bottomless mimosas — I couldn’t pass it up.Intense, disturbing, (occasionally) melodramatic, and intentionally…

• Happy Mother’s Day!

  Panama Jackson

  13 May 2012 | 10:19 am

  I’d like to send a shout-out and a personal thank you to all of the mother’s out there on this Mother’s Day. While people definitely think the world of mothers, there’s still probably not enough thanks in the world to go around for all that my own mothers and my daughter’s mother have done to keep the world a happy place by keeping children smiling.So thanks to all of the VSB mothers out there (and all mothers) and I hope that everybody has a great Mother’s Day.Oh, and treat your mothers right.Tell ‘em Mr. T!-VSB P

• Shaq Got a #doctorit And All I Got Was This T-Shirt

  Panama Jackson

  10 May 2012 | 11:00 pm

  The Big Ph.D.So why for come ain’t nobody not tell me that Shaquille O’Neal got a Ph.D. in some Ph.D. sh*t from Barry University?By the way, that last sentence was brought to you by publicly funded education.So the homey Cheekie sends me an email talking about Shaq getting his Ph.D. last weekend and I immediately hit her with the virtual Chris from Family Guy, “Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?”Let me tell you something. That made me smile. Big and wide. Kind of how I like my white women. With there being so much drama in the LBC, you rarely hear stories about athletes making…

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  YourTango | The Latest Smart Talk About Love

• Kristen Stewart On Robert Pattinson, AKA "My F***ing Boyfriend"

  Carolyn Gregoire

  16 May 2012 | 10:48 am

  The 22-year-old "Snow White And The Huntsmen" leading lady charmingly admitted in a recent interview that Robert Pattinson is her "f***ing boyfriend."read more

• Kids & Sexting: What Parents Need To Know [EXPERT]

  TeresaMaples

  16 May 2012 | 10:02 am

  Recently, a group of about 13 children at a high school in Dallas Fort Worth Texas were arrested in a sexting scandal. The officers involved said that in Texas, teenagers are charged with a misdemeanor for sexting. It is a much more serious issue in other states that can result in the youth being charged with a felony crime. Kids are then labeled sex offenders for an impulsive act that is common in many schools. read more

• Would You Try A Mobile App For Couples?

  Mona Lisa Macalino

  16 May 2012 | 9:57 am

  Finally, an app created just for couples! Pair is a fun social-networking mobile app — think DrawSomething, Google Tasks, and Facebook for two — that lets couples stay connected 24/7.read more

• 28 Ways To Teach Your Kids To Love Their Bodies [EXPERT]

  BodyVision

  16 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  We can all agree it's important to teach our children to have a healthy self-esteem, to eat well, exercise often and love their bodies. The question is: how? Below are our experts' best tips for how to be a positive role model for your kids so that they grow up healthy, strong and confident about the way they look.read more

• All Grown Up? John Mayer Explains His "Dumb Interviews"

  PopCrush

  15 May 2012 | 5:08 pm

  John Mayer can speak again! The talented guitarist, whose vocal problems forced him to cancel his spring tour and led him to record instrumental covers of Lana Del Rey songs, visited "Ellen" today to chat about his new album "Born and Raised" and his recent Botox injections ... read more

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  The Blog Erotic at The Buehler Institute

• Reflections on Problems in Sex Therapy

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  8 May 2012 | 4:18 pm

  People who contact The Buehler Institute for sex therapy are often confused about the nature of their problem. They are usually upset, but also uncertain what is getting in the way of their sex life. That's pretty normal, because people...

• In Therapy Forever? Enough Already - NYTimes.com

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  22 Apr 2012 | 1:42 pm

  Therapy should focus on goals and outcomes, and people should be able to graduate from it. MY therapist called me the wrong name. I poured out my heart; my doctor looked at his watch. My psychiatrist told me I had...

• As We Age: Loving Differently

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  19 Mar 2012 | 10:06 pm

  News flash: We change as we age. Often, that statement is followed by a litany of changes in physique and tone, and simply state the obvious. What about the effect of these changes on our sexuality? Is sex really about...

• Partner's Sexual Behavior Out of Control? Have Him Call for Help

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  1 Mar 2012 | 4:41 pm

  Are you a woman thinking about calling a therapist for help with your man's out of control sexual behavior. Don't do it; here's why.

• Where Is Dr. Buehler? 2012 Speaking Schedule

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  24 Feb 2012 | 9:23 am

  Speaking schedule for Dr. Stephanie Buehler, psychologist, sex therapist, author, and speaker.

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  Say it with Naboulove...

• Miroir ? Miroir ? dis moi qui est la plus belle?

  naboulove

  16 May 2012 | 6:27 am

  Inspirées par la  belle-mère de Blanche Neige nous nous attardons sur notre miroir en nous posant inlassablement la même question “miroir miroir dis moi si je suis belle” .  Et, en fonction de nos humeurs ou de l’état de notre peau, le style de notre coiffure et autres considérations  , nous apprécions ou abhorrons l’image réfléchie par le miroir. Et si les miroirs n’existaient pas? Nous serions obligés de nous fier au regard des autres (partisans) ou  au reflet de l’eau ( souvent instable).  Et pourquoi pas tout simplement se fier à la…

• La Kinoise, mythe ou réalité ?

  naboulove

  14 May 2012 | 11:42 am

  Des ballades de Franco aux déhanchements  légendaires et habiles de Mbilia Bel , la femme de Kinshasa  , la « Kinoise » authentique a toujours suscitée fascination et respect dans toute l’Afrique. En effet suite à la politique d’authenticité imposé par Mobutu, la Kinoise s’est retrouvée forcée à adopter d’élégantes et seyantes  tenues Africaines , ce qui peut être a contribué  pendant des décennies à entretenir le mythe qui en faisait l’une des femmes les plus élégantes d’Afrique Centrale. Reconnues pour avoir tour de main, elles attachaient leur pagne…

• In fact … I am sexblind & I didn’t know it can be harmful…

  naboulove

  14 May 2012 | 2:10 am

  I recall my mother’s warnings when I was 19  “ stop calling every man your brother” or you will never have one… I was like “ WTH”? I was quite a different kind of person , I was raised in the idea that I should arrive a virgin at my wedding & all sorts of ideas that seemed quite strange for a young lady who went to a very elitist French boarding school. My mum never forgot to remind me that those values she was tirelessly repeating inside my rebel brain were what kept my people alive & made the strength of Fulani culture. So here I was traveling all over the world , in…

• 30 LIFE LESSONS from the EX- Periment

  naboulove

  29 Apr 2012 | 2:12 pm

  We have had exes, men that came in our lives , incarnating our ideal at that time & who appeared to Be more a character coming from our worst nightmares for  some, others appeared to be more friends than life partners & for the majority of them, it was a pure mismatch , nothing that time or a major revolution could have improved in any ways. The so charming appeared to be so narcissistic, the open minded showed  his awfully possessive face, the party animal made it clear that he wanted to party but alone, the Perfect Bachelor had two wives & 9 kids (thanks to Ovation magazine…

• Le droit de Dire non!

  naboulove

  26 Apr 2012 | 8:38 am

  Bizarre d’observer les remous crées par l’affaire Nafissatou Diallo versus DSK a New York dans les salons Africains  quand  on connait les statistiques Africaines notamment  la sinistre réputation mondiale de la RDC qui détient  le triste statut de pays le plus dangereux du monde pour une femme. Une fois de plus, nous Africains en général si aveugles , sourds et muets aux atrocités commises aux coins de nos rues, nous avons parlés, commentés, critiqués l’affaire en cours, créant des débats houleux entre personnes d’une même famille. Cependant, il ne s’agit…

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  Black Heart Magazine

• An interview with Guido Mattioni

  Laura Roberts

  16 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  Guido Mattioni is an Italian journalist who has written for a variety of daily newspapers over the past 33 years. Holding titles ranging from reporter to editor-in-chief to special correspondent, he’s traveled the world and has visited most of the 50 United States. His favorite state is Georgia, which provides the setting for his first novel, Whispering Tides (also available in Italian as Ascoltavo le maree). The action of the book follows an Italian man, Alberto Landi, who at fifty has lost his way. Like Dante (of Divine Comedy fame), Alberto is having an existential crisis after the…

• Amphetamine Heart by Liz Worth

  gabinoiglesias

  15 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  Reviewed by Gabino Iglesias There’s a very poetic moment to which many of us want to return as often as possible. You’re sitting at a bar, waxing poetically about the end of the world. Outside, the night is full of promise, so you order another drink and nod when the right song comes pouring out of the speakers. Maybe you touch or get touched by someone. In a nutshell, even if nothing remarkable is happening, the moment feels just right. Out of that place and time comes the poetry contained in Liz Worth’s Amphetamine Heart. However, her words are not static and tend to visit…

• 3 poems by Charish Halliburton

  New Contributor

  14 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  Searching for Marvin Gaye Wet face, tired arms, sore throat. Look at you carrying on, carrying the dead weight that Zora said you would. Put him down, he’s too heavy for you You need melody on the wind What happened to those days of thumbing though vinyl until modernity pulled us by our collars? Only our bags weighed us down, full of books and spoon-fed knowledge we put on hold, put on the floor, near the doorway of reality while we spoke in a language of tracks, tempo and rhythm. What did you find? You pulled his smiling face from the stack and we admire, thinking the same thing. He…

• Rooftop by T.F. Rhoden

  New Contributor

  11 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  The Nigerian study-abroad student sat facing her laptop, somewhat hypnotized by the cursor’s blinking metronome. Beginning an essay was always the most difficult step, she thought. Outside her shared dorm room, down the hallway, a coed screamed playfully. Nkoyo turned away from the blank document toward the shut door. Maybe she would be able to concentrate better if she got away from the dormitory? But she knew that would only be an excuse; she was procrastinating. Another boisterous cry from somewhere in the corridor, however, finally convinced her otherwise. "Nigerian Student"…

• Alyson Miers on the end of the world: Charlinder’s Walk blog tour

  Laura Roberts

  9 May 2012 | 10:00 am

  In 2012, the Plague ended the world as we know it. In 2130, Charlinder wants to know why. The origin of the disease remains a mystery. Ignorance of its provenance fuels a growing schism that threatens to destroy the peace that the survivors’ descendants have built. Unwilling to wait for matters to get any worse, Charlinder decides to travel to where the Plague first appeared and find out the truth—which means walking across three continents before returning home. Charlinder has never been more than ten miles from home, has never heard anyone speak a foreign language, and he’s going it…

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• The Dude from More Sex Please, We're British - Awesome Sex Toy of the Week

  Hella Rouge

  16 May 2012 | 3:12 am

  This week's awesome sex toy is the Pipedream Extreme Realistic Male Sex Doll, as seen being measured by me with the Official Lovehoney Depth Probe in Channel 4’s “More Sex Please, We’re British”. (Editor's note: it's so awesome, that we've completely sold out - but don't worry, we've got more due in at the end of the month.) This buff bod is one of the finest examples of male sex dolls I’ve ever had the privilege to fondle. Perfectly formed with spectacular musculature and a lob-on so fierce that you can practically see it throbbing, this stud of a doll…

• Were You Paying Attention To More Sex Please, We're British? Take the #moresex Quiz!

  Lovehoney

  11 May 2012 | 5:49 am

  Did you catch the Lovehoney Documentary ‘More Sex Please, We’re British’ on Channel 4? How closely were you watching...? Take our quiz to find out and let us know in the comments below what your score was! It’s currently the second most popular show on Channel 4’s 4OD service, so if you have missed the initial airing (or need to revise before taking the quiz) on May 8th 2012, you can still catch it. Watch More Sex Please, We're British on 4OD [More]

• Side Effects of Viagra and Erection Enhancers

  Julie Peasgood

  11 May 2012 | 4:18 am

  Recently I looked at some of the pros and cons of Viagra. This has now given rise, so to speak, to more questions - one of which concerns possible side effects... [More]

• What's Sex Furniture And What Do I Use It For?

  Tracey Cox

  11 May 2012 | 4:05 am

  He’s six foot six and you’re scraping five, one of you is way heavier than the other… love might conquer all but sex can be a literal pain if your body parts are completely disparate. This is where ‘sex furniture’ comes in - it evens things up. Anyone who’s appreciated a well-placed pillow under the hips - for either comfort reasons or to alter sensation - will get the concept of sex furniture. Samantha in Sex and the City introduced us to sex swings but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. [More]

• The History of the Official Lovehoney Depth Probe - Awesome Sex Toy of the Week

  Hella Rouge

  9 May 2012 | 8:36 am

  In the days of yore, when I first joined Lovehoney, there were a few creases to iron out in the content department. For a start, I was the entire content department. As the only writer I had to churn out as many words as possible, most of which revolved around new product descriptions. Once Alice, Lucy and Gemma joined the ranks, time was freed up and we were all able to turn our attentions to new exploits. My pet project became sex dolls. I desperately wanted to revamp our dolls and I set to work getting every single one out of the warehouse to size up and re-explain. During my rewrites I…

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• G-spot discovery, medicalization and media hype

  Dr Petra

  24 Apr 2012 | 11:00 pm

  This post focuses on research reported today on the discovery of the g-spot. If you are a journalist on a deadline you may find it easier to read through this post now and come back to the links later! Over the past three years there have been papers published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine claiming to have proved or disproved the presence of a g-spot in cis women. Earlier this month, the Journal of Sexual Medicine again focused on the g-spot resulting in some pretty hopeless reporting, depressingly from science outlets as well as mainstream media. Most of the g-spot studies have been…

• Enduring Love? Couple Relationships in the 21st Century

  Dr Petra

  21 Mar 2012 | 7:19 am

  One of the things I love about researching sex and relationships is you get to hear about other people’s amazing pieces of work. A recent programme that has caught my attention is the Open University’s ‘Enduring Love’ project. According to the project team this two year study will look at “how couples think about and experience their long-term relationships” and aims to “examine the emotional and practical ‘work’ that people do to keep their relationships going and the ways that social policies and popular culture shape what it means to be a…

• The Bisexuality Report

  Dr Petra

  27 Feb 2012 | 3:54 pm

  Last week saw the launch of The Bisexuality Report. A unique piece of work that “summarises national and international evidence and draws out recommendations for future bisexual inclusion in many different settings. Bisexual people are indeed often invisible in policy and practice despite evidence that they experience discrimination in education and in the workplace and are more at risk of mental health problems than lesbian, gay, or heterosexual people. Bisexual people are subject to a specific form of discrimination – Biphobia – because they do not fit a problematic…

• What makes a baby?

  Dr Petra

  21 Feb 2012 | 4:02 pm

  About this time last year I was in the queue at the supermarket. It was a busy afternoon. The ideal time for an inquisitive nearly-four-year-old to ask in the kind of voice that carries as only a small child’s can ‘mummy.Have you decided to have your baby out of the cut in your tummy, or your vagina?’ Silence. And then a lady ahead of us smiled and complimented my son on asking such a sensible question. The lady behind in the queue told him he’d be a lovely brother. There was a lot of laughter, mostly at my expense. But my son still wanted a reply. So I answered…

• Penis Size Worries

  Dr Petra

  12 Feb 2012 | 6:58 pm

  Penis size. One of those topics that’s the source of many a joke, or shores up boasts around masculinity and sexual prowess. It’s integral to all those spam emails that clog your inbox. And it’s an issue that causes a great deal of distress to men and their partners. Only we rarely address the latter issue in any meaningful way. Over the past decade of offering advice to men, the question I’ve been most commonly asked is ‘what’s the average penis size?’ (sometimes expressed as ‘is my penis big enough?’) . Underlying this seemingly simple question is a whole hot mess of…

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• Time to Speak out your Sex Related Problems in order to Get Effective Treatment

  Sally Gomes

  15 May 2012 | 1:24 am

  It is not easy for everyone to speak about their sexual problems, but remember hiding such problems cannot provide you with any solution. Keeping a hush about sexual problems can only going to worsen them. So, it is time to shake off your embarrassment and look out for proper sexual infections treatments in order to keep your private organs work at their best. Below given are certain sexual infections and their effective treatments: Preventing HPV or human papillomavirus- It is important to keep yourself and your partner both prevented from this infection by taking the best measures and…

• Stop the Disappointment. Get your Impotence Treated.

  Sally Gomes

  11 May 2012 | 12:39 am

  Impotence is the term that is used to describe erectile dysfunction; that is, the inability to have an erection despite ample stimulation or to maintain an erection for as long as is desired. A case of erectile dysfunction will never let the man reach orgasm since he will not be able to feel the heightening sensations in his penis that are caused by friction experienced by it inside the vagina. Erectile dysfunction can come as a blow even when one experiences it just once in his entire sexual lifespan; it is but obvious that when it becomes an ailment, male impotence treatment becomes of…

• Don't let Haemorrhoids Becomes the pain of your life- Treat with Natural Methods

  Sally Gomes

  9 May 2012 | 7:57 am

  Most people across the world experience haemorrhoids at some time in their lives. Haemorrhoids also known as piles happen between the age of 45-65 years, wherein affected people experience pain in their rectum and anal areas. In case of piles, veins present in the rectum and anus become inflamed and swollen. Piles can be of two types, internal and external. Usually internal piles are painless, but bleed at the end of bowel movement, whereas external piles can be felt as a bulge in the anus. External piles can also prove to be painful and itchy, but the symptoms may differ from that of…

• Get that Firmness back: Treat Impotence at Kome

  Sally Gomes

  7 May 2012 | 2:20 am

  Erectile dysfunction, or impotence as it is more commonly called, is one of the most prevalent sexual disorders that plague men. The omnipresent nature of the ailment, along with the devastating effect that it has on a person- be it his relationships or his self-esteem- has propelled researchers to look into this very carefully, and also to search for a remedy. As a result, there are any number of treatments for impotence available, but before going for a cure, it is necessary to know what exactly this disorder is and how it happens. There is no saying- for certain- what exactly causes…

• Nature Gifted you with Natural Methods to Treat Haemorrhoids

  Sally Gomes

  2 May 2012 | 1:37 am

  Inflamed and swollen veins in the rectum and anus can lead to haemorrhoids that are commonly known as piles. This problem increases with age and can cause pain, itching, and bleeding. It has been noticed that men in compare to women suffer from haemorrhoids the most. Haemorrhoids are generally not dangerous or life threatening and can clear up after few days, but it can cause lots of discomfort, excruciating pain, and bleeding. Common symptoms of haemorrhoids are hard tender lumps near anus, bright red blood on toilet tissue or in the stool, anal pain or itching, and painful bowel movements.

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• Technologasm?! The Rise of Teledildonics and Adult Haptic Devices

  Burke Denning

  15 May 2012 | 7:00 am

  Enabling real-time, remote sex with unprecedented realism, if teledildonics are the future of cybersex, the future looks awesome.

• Thanks Mom! A Mother’s Day Tribute

  J. Bradley Blankenship (M.S.)

  13 May 2012 | 10:49 am

  In honor of this Mother’s Day, Brad recognizes mom's everywhere by sharing the story about his own Mother giving him 'the sex talk'.

• The Safety Dance: Sex Toy Safety for a New Generation

  Burke Denning

  4 May 2012 | 7:00 am

  What on earth are sex toys made of, and can they hurt you? Burke Denning writes about the science of sex toy safety.

• “Man as Object: Reversing the Gaze” Art Show

  Burke Denning

  2 May 2012 | 8:00 am

  The Kinsey Institute’s newest art show is turning the tables on the “male gaze” in art.

• Navigating a Sea of Sex Toys: A Cordial Introduction

  Burke Denning

  30 Apr 2012 | 7:00 am

  There are an awful lot of sex toys out there, and a lot of them look more likely to tune your carburetor than to get your rocks off!

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• The Hunger Games

  Eryn-Faye

  24 Apr 2012 | 12:34 am

  WARNING: This post has absolutely nothing to do with relationships or sex. Proceed with caution. I don’t read fiction very often. It is not that I hate it – in fact, it is just the opposite. I absolutely adore fiction. Nancy Drew lit the fire for me, but I quickly moved on to whatever I could devour. Spy books held a particular place of affection for me. I remember reading the Robert Ludlum series of novels when I was 13 years old, convinced that I would grow up to be a CIA agent. However, my problem with fiction is that it turns me into a really bad wife and mother. I become so engrossed…

• The Night I Fainted

  Eryn-Faye

  19 Apr 2012 | 12:48 am

  Over the Easter weekend, I fainted for the first time. I was at a party celebrating the recent wedding of a dear friend, in a room full of strangers (the bride was the only one I knew), and having a thoroughly delightful time. During the speeches, we all gathered around in a circle and talked about how we knew the happy couple and what we enjoyed about them. It was lovely. But, as time went on, I got warm. And then very warm. And then hot. As the speeches concluded, I turned to Eric and reached for his hand. He smiled at me and I said, “I am going to need your help.” But evidently, that…

• What My Vitamix Blender Has Taught Me About Love

  Eryn-Faye

  17 Apr 2012 | 12:02 am

  I have a new addiction in my life. It’s a Vitamix blender. On our recent trip to Texas, we picked one up and since we returned, I have been using it 2-3 times a day. It is truly a glorious thing. You can even make soup in it. Blend for 10 minutes, and it is steaming hot! My daughter is wholly on board with the new toy too. Every morning, she says to me, “Can I have a smoothie for lunch?” Of course I say yes, because it gives me another opportunity to indulge in my addiction. That, and the fact that she now – very happily – skips off to school to eat a staggering conglomeration of…

• Fiddling with the State of Being (Dr. Paddy Ducklow)

  Eryn-Faye

  12 Apr 2012 | 12:38 am

  I grew up in a home where alcohol ingestion was done compulsively. I discovered as a child that the drinking compulsion is an equal opportunity phenomenon – both my Mom and Dad were serious imbibers. I also learned that my parents and their friends formed an alcohol-conscious community where successful parties were granted the status of “great” by the quantity imbibed and the consequent sexualization of intimacies. My parents were trained in drinking by the Canadian Forces during WW2 when service men and women had their pleasures subsidized by the government. I am reminded of this each…

• Experiments in Gratitude

  Eryn-Faye

  10 Apr 2012 | 12:12 am

  One thing that drives me nuts is kids who are ungrateful. You’ve seen them. They stand in the checkout line at the grocery store next to a mother who has a heavily laden buggy – usually filled with items custom tailored for said ungrateful kids – and whine and complain about what they don’t have in life. “But Mom, why can’t I have the chocolate bar??? But Mom. But Mom. Mommmmmm.” It is enough to make me seriously consider the virtues of a one-child policy or mass sterilization. In fact, for years Eric and I called those encounters “birth control” because we left the…

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  Leftos - Lessons for the Opposite Sex

• 5 days?

  15 May 2012 | 10:26 pm

  New Answer - I'm a pretty modern girl--way too modern, if you ask some--but honestly, I'm traditional enough to think if I have a date with a man, I *certainly* expect a callback/textback within 2 days at the very most. Five days? He's just not in to you. Bummer for you, but hanging on is just hopeful dismay for you. Delete his number and move on. B.

• I may have cucked up......

  15 May 2012 | 4:26 pm

  New Question - Okay I cheated on my Bf that I well say I told him but he forgave me like it was noting as for him I know he never cheated on me but why did he forgave me so eaysly? (I was drunk that night yes and was lonely I was stupid why I wanted to die after what I did but he my Bf told me to carey on my life but why? I em stupid and no drink much but I was vary lonely trying to drink it away)

• 15 and 20 sadly no one well answer in time -__-

  15 May 2012 | 4:13 pm

  New Question - Okay inrewlly like a girl she is just 15 and I do not know if that's right to date her I'm welling to drupe anyone I am seeing for her I want only her in my life I fill for her at first site and I was told the age is to far she is vary well let's say she is not the best looking she is sorter then me I'm 6 foot 1 and a half and she is about 5 foot 4 but you see I really like her even go as far to say "love" but I already made up my mind if I was to date her I'd not have sex whit her tell she is in age I can tho try to at lest please her some other ways but I want to…

• Stand your ground!

  15 May 2012 | 6:47 am

  New Answer - He said he'd call and he didn't, you even tried calling him and you still haven't heard from him. LEAVE IT at that! If he doesn't get in touch with you again then it's his loss, not yours. Don't mope about thinking about this guy, just get on with your life. Keep busy, go out with friends and try to put him out of your mind. The most important person in your life is YOU so be good to you. Get him and the reasons he didn't get back to you out of your head as these thoughts will predominently be negative ones. "Am I not good enough for him?" "Does he just not fancy me?" "Does he…

• Is it true love?

  15 May 2012 | 6:37 am

  New Answer - You too had a kind of crush on this guy. You approached him, you liked him, he made you feel good by saying romantic things to you. In turn you let your guard down and had sex with him and now that that's happened the novelty has worn off and as you say, you have no more feelings for him. Is that true love? I would one hundred per cent say NO, definitely not! ~Eve~

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• Review: Durex Love Box

  11 May 2012 | 3:06 pm

  I bought Waz and I a Durex Love Box each a few weeks ago. Since then, they've become a staple in our bags. We don't use condoms together but do so religiously when sleeping with others outside our relationship, both for STI protection and an extra layer of pregnancy protection. We're not especially loyal to any one brand of condom, preferring to buy whatever appeals or is on offer at the time - provided it's kite marked of course - so what really attracted us to this product was the tins rather than the included condoms. The tins themselves come in a variety of colours and styles - eight are…

• Review: Lovehoney Bondage Boutique Wrapped Rattan Cane

  8 May 2012 | 7:27 pm

  We got this cane some time ago, in fact it was actually our first forray into the caning world! We selected the Bondage Boutique Wrapped Rattan Cane as our first cane for a number of reasons. Firstly, it is an inexpensive item costing £9.99 and as it is from the Bondage Boutique range, every purchase means more stamps to stick on your card - which then becomes redeemable for free spankers (we recently claimed two free spankers of our own through the scheme). Secondly, as we were (obviously) at the time totally new to caning we wanted something relatively simple, basic and unintimidating.

• The Evolution and the Adjustment.

  22 Apr 2012 | 11:13 pm

  (Flickr // CC) This could be a really good idea, or a really awful one, and i don't know which it is. But with the honest realisation that things can only improve in my head, I'm going with it. Waz and I started out mono and vanilla. Almost four years later, we're in a Master/slave relationship which has had more boundary shifts than I can count. At first we discussed only me having permission to have kink-play (non sexual) outside the relationship. Then it was decided me being sexually (not emotionally) involved with other women was okay too. A couple of FWB situations happened during that…

• Letter to Master

  13 Feb 2012 | 1:59 pm

  Flickr // CC So, I suck at communication. I know I do, In fact, we both kind of do, but in many ways I'm worse. More or less because more little things will niggle away at me than will at Master, and I won't raise them. Occasionally, I do... but more often than not, they'll be squirrelled away somewhere in the back of my mind. Master doesn't read my blog. I understand why he doesn't - he cites concern of it affecting my freedom in writing here. I get that - but in some ways, I wish he would. I know it would be a... questionable method of communication. But right now anything would seem better…

• Agency (Philosophy/sociology): Yes, this is still a sex/BDSM blog. Honest.

  7 Feb 2012 | 10:43 pm

  I apologise now, as this post is largely being used as a way for me to work through the things currently in my head. If that will annoy you, feel free to click the little x up there. I wouldn't blame you.  So, recently I've been thinking about the way I deprive others of agency; or at least refuse to acknowledge their own agency. In this context, I am using agency to mean "capacity of an agent (a person or other entity) to act in a world". "Human agency is the capacity for human beings to make choices and to impose those choices on the world" ""agency" refers to the capacity of…

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• No Porn On Pinterest? Don’t Despair

  Adriana

  13 May 2012 | 10:35 pm

  Any blogger who relies on social media outlets like Facebook or Digg to increase traffic and communication with readers has probably considered jumping on the Pinterest bandwagon. Indeed, the virtual pinboard site has exploded in popularity faster, in fact, than any other website. It’s no surprise that the majority of its users are women, so the content is largely based upon motherhood, recipes, home decor, fashion and DIY ideas. The occasional adorable pet picture, LOLcat and inspirational quote also make an appearance. Ironically, the recipes that will clog your arteries are next more…

• Kissable Lace Babydoll & G-string

  Adriana

  7 May 2012 | 10:44 pm

  This review has been a long time coming and.. well, er.. I don’t know why. I think it’s because I just really didn’t like it in person and, in hindsight, I’m not sure why I thought I would like it. I guess I thought the Kissable Lace Babydoll & G-string looked kind of elegant in the product image but, in person, that lace just looks cheap and tacky. It’s all “I’m a Halloween store up in here? Would you like some black lipstick with that, Adriana?” And I’m all “Shut up about my teenaged years, you’re a hunk of fabric.”…

• Hosting a Sex Party is the New Craze

  Adriana

  5 May 2012 | 12:00 am

  Guest post for Sex Toys Adult Shop The world is moving fast and there is no time to waste. But that does not mean that there should be no time to relax and let your hair down once in a while. Parties are a great way for having some quality fun with friends and enjoying without any inhibitions. Sex Parties are on the rise these days and these parties are so popular that many swear by them. Sex is ultimately the best relaxation that a human body can get and so combining sex and parties makes sense. These sex parties are not your typical orgies that are unhealthy and a bit too slimy for…

• Pink Bent Graduate Giveaway

  Adriana

  4 May 2012 | 5:29 pm

  Now, there are a few toys that everyone seems to rave about in their reviews. The Bent Graduate is one of those toys and, interestingly enough, it’s not by a luxury sex toy company. Indeed, this glass dildo that is intended for G-spot stimulation is by Don Wands, a company that has their hand in glass dildos as well as a few other projects. When Erotic Toy Town contacted me, wanting to know if I’d write a review or host a giveaway, I thought this dildo would be perfect for my readers. It features a ridged end for more intense stimulation and an end with a contoured head with a…

• Tantric 10-Function Chakra Massager

  Adriana

  3 May 2012 | 4:26 am

  There are those who say that a good bullet is something that everyone should have in their collection. I’m kind of a picky beast, but this one goes out to them. The new Tantric line of toys by California Exotics caught my eye. The pink and black is my kind of girly and there’s this element of filigree or something similar that’s really up my alley. With this little bullet, which is larger than the ones by Tantus but more cylindrical than an egg, this design feature is on the handle. It looks like a solid layer of pink with black plastic wrapped around it. You can see through…

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• Attachment Parenting or Overly Attached Parents?

  Stacey

  16 May 2012 | 12:04 pm

  How long should you breastfeed your baby? (Photo by dhammza via CC) There are as many different parenting styles as there are families.   It’s impossible when we become a parent to not reflect upon our own upbringing and we make conscious (and unconscious) parenting choices based on how we feel our own parents performed their duties.   Whether they were like Ozzie and Harriet or the Octo-mom, we all come to realize that no parents are perfect and it is, indeed, one of the hardest jobs in the world. Not to mention, the pay really sucks.   As parents, we are all flying by the…

• Learning From Divorce: How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage After a Failed One

  Stacey

  15 May 2012 | 8:53 am

  Don't let this happen to you. (Photo by Dr. John Bullas via CC) Today over at the Huffington Post, I have an essay up about what I’ve learned from being a thrice married (twice divorced) woman. Conventional wisdom would perhaps posit that because I’ve divorced twice, I don’t know what it takes to succeed at marriage. Wrong! Over the years, I’ve become a conscious student of marriage and while I’m not All-Knowing on the topic, I do feel that through therapy, and trial and error (and did I mention therapy?), I’ve amassed a lot of easy to implement…

• Talking to Your Kids About Pornography

  Stacey

  14 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  Photo by marsmet522 via CC Okay, parents – it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee! We need to discuss sex as openly as possible with our children.   In case you haven’t noticed, sex is everywhere.  Computers, cell phones, iPads, etc., are everywhere. And pornography is everywhere on the internet.  There’s no getting away from any of it.   As parents, you might want to assume that if your child has personal access to the internet (unless you have installed some kind of safeguards), he/she has probably seen a naked body or two.  And if your child is an adolescent,…

• Porn and Parenting–Do They Go Together?

  Stacey

  12 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  Photo by Rainbirder via CC Porn and parenting go together like…peas and carrots?   In this video, I discuss the plight of porn actresses who also happen to be parents. Check it out and share your thoughts on the subject.      

• An Open Letter to President Obama

  Stacey

  11 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  Via www.whitehouse.gov Dear Mr. President,   As they say: better late than never. I am thrilled that you finally stood up in favor of gay marriage! I’m not going to ask, “What took you so long?” because it’s clear that you are a deeply thoughtful person and this issue warranted some pondering on your part.   Thankfully, your wisely chosen (if occasionally voluble), Vice-President isn’t quite so reserved when it comes to speaking, and he calls things as he sees them. I love his candor. You two make a good pair. Personally, I like people who speak honestly and spontaneously,…

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• What is a Promise Ring and Is It Even Worth Giving?

  Lovepanky

  15 May 2012 | 2:18 pm

  So what is a promise ring and why do lovers use them? Find out everything about promise rings, their meaning and why you should give one here. By Chester Bloom Wondering what the fuss about promise rings are all about? Why do lovers even give them? Promise rings can be confusing to many. And many young lovers don’t even know why they give each other promise rings. So is it like an engagement ring, but not really an engagement ring? Or is it like a proposal to propose later? Well, you’ll learn everything about it here. [Read: 10 different ways to say 'I love you' without saying a word]…

• 30 Subtle Obvious and Sexual Flirting Tips for Girls

  Lovepanky

  15 May 2012 | 9:01 am

  Want to get a guy’s attention? Or do you want to get him hard? Here are 30 subtle, obvious and sexual flirting tips to do all that and a lot more! By Cheryl James Flirting’s a game that’s played back and forth. You can’t flirt with someone unless they’re flirting back with you. But depending on the guy and how well you know him, there are always ways to get him flirting with you no matter what. But if you don’t know the guy just yet, use these tips on how to get a guy to notice you and fall for you before using these flirting tips. Flirting tips for girls When you’re a girl,…

• What Women Want in Bed to Feel Sexy and Loved

  Lovepanky

  14 May 2012 | 2:14 pm

  Want to turn your girl on and arouse her like never before? Understand what women want in bed with these tips and you’ll be able to do that and more! By Jana Snow Sex is all in the mind, for men and for women. It may be an activity where all the action is felt down below. But unless your mind doesn’t enjoy it, you’ll end up bored. So when it comes to arousing a woman and making her love the things you do in bed, you need to make her feel good about the things you do to her in her head. [Read: 20 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy] What women want in…

• Different Ways to Say I Love You without Saying a Word

  Lovepanky

  14 May 2012 | 7:24 am

  Are you looking for different ways to say ‘I love you’ to your lover? You really won’t be able to find any better ways than these romantic ways. By Kirsten Cole A relationship needs many things to be successful. But more often than not, what matters most is letting your lover know just how much they mean to you. [Read: Cute ways to say 'I love you' for the first time] You can say ‘I love you’ all the time. After all, saying ‘I love you’ is a special way to let the one who loves you realize just how special they are to you. But is that really ever enough? Anyone in a relationship…

• 18 Girl on Top Tips to Make Sex a Lot Sexier!

  Lovepanky

  12 May 2012 | 2:07 pm

  Being on top of your guy can feel awkward or tiring at times. Read these 18 sexy tips to feel more comfortable and sexy when you’re the girl on top. By Kayla Kissinger Read the introduction on how to ride a man and look sexy doing it before you use these tips and things to know. After all, you do need to understand what goes on in your man’s mind when you’re on top, and also learn the best positions you can use when you’re the girl on top. The girl on top sex position Before using any of these tips, remember this. You may feel awkward or uncomfortable about the way you think you look…

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  Intimate Medicine International

• Sex on Your First Date

  15 May 2012 | 12:56 am

  Every third woman in the U.S. jumps into bed on the first date. In most cases they do not use any protection! What do you think about sex on your first date?

• Penises: The Biggest of Them All

  15 May 2012 | 12:43 am

  You will be amazed at the size of the biggest of them all... and the tiniest.

• What's Sex Like on Drugs?

  14 May 2012 | 12:05 am

  Sex, drugs and rock’n’roll and roll are supposed to be the perfect combination for pleasure. But what is sex on drugs really like?

• Is It Healthy to Use a Lubricant?

  13 May 2012 | 11:50 pm

  The use of a lubricant can also have an adverse effect on your body and make your problems even worse …

• She was purring like a kitten during the multiple orgasms (part 6)

  13 May 2012 | 12:05 am

  Lucas skilfully takes Sandra to multiple orgasms. And how does she repay him?

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  The Dark Side

• DARK SIDE #084 - DA Visits Orangemonkeycast

  thedarksidepodcast

  19 Apr 2012 | 3:28 am

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #084 - DA Visits Orangemonkeycast FIELD TRIP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dark Angel joins Owen and Joni for a taping of their Podcast - The Orangemonkeycast Event: Poi in the Park London Ontario Canada - Sunday, April 22, 2012 · 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM Links: Fet Life Orangemonkeycast Podcast

• DARK SIDE #083 - Rough Sex

  thedarksidepodcast

  18 Apr 2012 | 6:55 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #083 - Rough Sex Dark Angel and KnotNice talk dirty to each other,,,,, about Rough Sex This was an interesting Threadcast - where we asked listeners to answer the following: Do you like Rough Sex? - why do YOU like it? - who are you - do you like giving or receiving? - what type of activities does or can it involve for you? - how often (as a percentage of your sex life) do you have rough sex? - can you share the hottest scene with us? _____________________________ News #1 Nude maid service raising eyebrows in Texas city Sponsor:…

• DARK SIDE #082 - Interview - MasterMatt84

  thedarksidepodcast

  31 Mar 2012 | 5:59 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #082 - Interview - MasterMatt84 Dark Angel and KnotNice get together with a friend MasterMatt84 - to delve deep into MM’s life, kinks, how he found the local Community, as well as his experiences as a new’ish Organizer of his local Community. This is another podcasts on BDSM Celebrities from around the world - to bring our listeners an understanding of the real person. We ask MM to tell us about his life - from his roots of kink to how and why his D/s marriage ended, including the Munch he started, his new upcoming Play Party, as…

• DARK SIDE #081 - The Yes Means Yes Campaign

  thedarksidepodcast

  21 Mar 2012 | 3:29 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #081 - The Yes Means Yes Campaign Dark Angel and KnotNice look at the new “Yes Means Yes” campaign - from Project Respect, and how it is relevant to our Lifestyle. We focus on Consent and how various interactions need different limits and even some suggestions of how to navigate the treacherous waters of social interaction. Consent is a mutual verbal, physical, and emotional agreement that happens without manipulation, threats, or head games. Consent is a whole body experience. It is not just a verbal “yes” or “no” – it…

• DARK SIDE #080 - Starting a Family in a Kink Household

  thedarksidepodcast

  6 Mar 2012 | 2:26 am

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #080 - Starting a Family (or having) in a Kink Household Dark Angel and KnotNice look at the good and not as good points about a kinky household expanding with children. Based on a lively discussion thread on FetLife.com - How may it effect the sex life? - How will it effect the D/s? - How can you keep the D/s and play alive? - How to handle younger, then mid, then older kids within a kinky relationship? - What about existing kids and a new relationship? - Can 24/7 (or a version of) be maintained? _______________________________ News #1 Peeing…

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  MyPleasure Blog: Sex Education, Sex Toys, Relationship Advice & More

• Top 5 Masturbation Songs

  thelizlangley

  14 May 2012 | 3:07 pm

  Considering the fact that there is probably just as much if not more masturbation going on in the world at any given moment as there is partner sex it’s kind of surprising that there really aren’t nearly as many songs celebrating how much we love ourselves as there are how hung up we are on others. Maybe it’s because others play harder to get with us than we ever do, thus driving us inexorably to poetry. That said, the songs that do exist about onanism are doozies and since May is Masturbation Month (do they make cards for that?) here are our Top Five songs of sheer self-pleasure. So…

• 72 and Still Masturbating

  MyPleasure.com

  10 May 2012 | 2:40 pm

  Question I’m 72 and I still masturbate. My wife died about a year ago and I now masturbate more often than ever (about three to four times a week). Is this normal? Answer Absolutely! Not only is it normal, but it is actually good for you! Although sometimes people are under the mistaken notion that sexuality is somehow reserved for the young, in reality, sexuality is part of all of us. There is nothing wrong with masturbating at any age. In fact, studies show that, barring serious health conditions, rates of masturbation do not really decline until people reach their 90s. In your case,…

• Mother’s Day Gift Guide

  MyPleasure.com

  2 May 2012 | 3:03 pm

  According to our culture, once a woman becomes a mother she is no longer a sexual being. This never made a whole lot of sense to me considering there’s a pretty darn good chance that in order to become a mother she had sex. And she probably did it more than once. So this Mother’s Day we want to celebrate all of the sexy mamas in the world. Not sure what to get your favorite sexy mama? Get your favorite gal pal mom a vibrator to help relax her after one of those really stressful days with the kids. We recommend Luxe Rejuvenate. It’s a good quality clitoral vibe that fits comfortably in…

• Safer Sex for Seniors

  thelizlangley

  30 Apr 2012 | 3:56 pm

  Sometimes it might feel like there are no taboos left in the world but that’s not true: old people having sex. That’s taboo. Nobody wants to think about grandma or grandpa or both having any of the kind of fun it took to turn them into parents and then grandparents. Our culture tends to infantilize the elderly. Once your hair turns sufficiently gray, it seems, you suddenly are no longer a sexual creature. Probably the coolest PSA of all time is setting out to change all that. It’s from the group SaferSexforSeniors.org, and will have you thinking of the old couple next door very…

• A Week in Reviews

  MyPleasure.com

  27 Apr 2012 | 4:39 pm

  Welcome to our weekly wrap up of recently written sex toy reviews by our blogger friends. This is a great spot to read up on all of the items you’ve been thinking about getting, but just wanted to know someone else’s opinion first. But remember, everyone is different. Just because a reviewer loved or hated a sex toy doesn’t mean you will feel the same way. Always keep in mind what you enjoy personally when reading reviews. Tantalizer by The Sub Mission

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  Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

• It’s NOT Just a Bunny

  Mark Gungor

  9 May 2012 | 1:34 pm

  Most people don’t understand the power of sex. Our culture has poisoned their thinking and they’ve bought the lie that sex is just something you do because it’s exciting and feels good. Most people are totally unaware of the consequences of being sexually involved with another person. In previous blog posts, I wrote about the power of “sexual imprinting” and how “sex can make you stupid”. But as I keep hearing more and more stories of couples who are having troubles when it comes to their sex lives, I’m convinced that we are clueless about the ramifications of sex done the…

• Selfishness in Marriage

  Mark Gungor

  24 Apr 2012 | 11:17 am

  All marriages start off very selfishly. When a couple begins dating, it is generally all about each person’s own interests. “I like what you do for me. I like the way you make me feel. When I’m with you I’m happy. You make me feel validated.” At the beginning, marriage really is the ultimate in narcissistic expression. The reason you are getting married is because of what he/she does for you. And it’s the same for the other person. It’s all about me, me, me! But then you get these two me, me, me people together and something has to give. Marriages where couples are able to make…

• How Do I Fix It?

  Mark Gungor

  14 Mar 2012 | 4:01 pm

  –“Pastor, I had an affair and am trying to restore my marriage but even after three years, things still are still really difficult. What can we do to make things right again?” –“ I was so busy with raising children and I didn’t have much time for sex but now that we’re empty nesters my husband isn’t really interested in pursuing our sex life. How do we get back to the way it used to be?” –“My wife was sexually active with other guys before we married and it has really impacted our life now. What can we do to overcome her past?” –“I divorced and…

• Don’t Marry, Be Happy

  Mark Gungor

  28 Feb 2012 | 1:47 pm

  I know that it seems like odd advice for a marriage speaker to give. But what I really mean by it is pretty simple. If you think marriage will make you happy, you are sorely mistaken. Don’t marry someone with the idea that it’s going to make you happy. When either one or both spouses head into a marriage with this thinking, it creates some of the most miserable couples out there. Can you be happy in marriage? Absolutely. But the people who are successful and happy in their marriages are not happy because they are married. It isn’t the marriage or the person they are married to that…

• Control Is Not a Four-Letter Word

  Mark Gungor

  14 Feb 2012 | 4:26 pm

  Control is not a bad word. It’s not a bad thing. Yet in our culture today, people treat it as is if it is a cuss word. Many think it’s a horrible insult and freak out when someone accuses them of trying to control something. Frankly, I just don’t understand it. Here is a scenario to help illustrate what I’m talking about:  A wife is texting and emailing very personal, sexually charged and inappropriate things back and forth with a guy from work. She is also meeting this guy alone for coffee and lunch. When her husband talks to her and challenges her on this, she fires back, “You…

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  Pleasurists Sex Toy Reviews

• Pleasurists Edition 175

  Scarlet Lotus

  15 May 2012 | 7:19 am

  Image courtesy of Blacksilk* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 174? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 177? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday May 20th @ 11:59pm Pacific Time. *Pleasurists now accepts photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Ed’s note:…

• Pleasurists Edition 174

  Scarlet Lotus

  12 Apr 2012 | 5:57 am

  Image courtesy of Midnight Boudoir* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 173? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 175? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday April 8th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists recently started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here.

• Pleasurists Edition 173

  Scarlet Lotus

  3 Apr 2012 | 10:13 am

  Photo by Lucy* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 172? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 174? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday April 8th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists recently started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a shiny new toy?

• Pleasurists Edition 172

  Scarlet Lotus

  23 Mar 2012 | 8:48 am

  Courtesy of Karen Blue* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 171? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 173? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday March 25th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists recently started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a shiny…

• Pleasurists Edition 171

  Scarlet Lotus

  22 Mar 2012 | 11:09 am

  Courtesy of Dangerous Lilly Editor’s Note* Apologies for the sudden hiatus the last few weeks. Due to a family emergency I was unable to get any editions out in the past two and a half weeks. Thank you to everyone who expressed concern, I really do appreciate it. This edition includes all reviews submitted and posted before March 8th. Edition 172 will be out later today and will include all reviews submitted and posted from March 8th to March 18th. Edition 173 will come out on the 26th as usual and we will be back on our regular schedule. (*Note is not included in the re-posting box…

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  Sex and Relationships - MSN UK Style

• Could you ever 'rinse' a guy for his money?

  16 May 2012 | 10:48 am

  We ask whether women who date guys for their money but have a no-sex policy are just gold-digger-lite or really honest daters?

• Getting back together with your ex? How to make it work second-time-around

  11 May 2012 | 12:33 pm

  MSN's relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr offers advice for couples getting back together.

• Why Victoria Beckham's just another frazzled mum

  1 May 2012 | 11:05 am

  The celeb mum went on the school run… and forgot to take her kid with her. MSN Her writer Michelle Davies can more than sympathise.

• What the first year of marriage is really like

  27 Apr 2012 | 2:30 pm

  Kate may be the Duchess of Cambridge, but I bet she faces some of the same highs and lows as the rest of us newlyweds.

• Duke and Duchess of Cambridge one year on

  27 Apr 2012 | 11:16 am

  MSN's behaviour and relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr decodes their body language to see if the fairytale continues in married life for Prince William and Kate.

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  BlasianBytch.com

• Toy Review: Flexi Risque Ripple

  Blasian Bytch

  25 Apr 2012 | 10:03 am

  It felt like it was fated to be when I got my test toy this month. You might remember that I gave up anal for Lent, while it was half in jest I kept my promise. It was a bit harder than I thought all of a sudden a  lover that had zero interest in experimenting with anal were downright begging for it.  I was a good girl and told him he had to wait.  I would not be letting Jesus down just for a few moments of hot illicit butthole pleasuring.  When I opened up this package to find a vibrating anal toy. I received the Flexi Risque Ripple it’s a simple but very functional toy. It has a…

• Sybarite Awards Takes Webster Hall By the Balls, and it likes it!

  Blasian Bytch

  15 Apr 2012 | 9:51 pm

  April 14- New York City- Its time again to recognize the best and most erotic in the fetish and adult swing community and Ms Lola Bastinado of HedoOnline.com and mastermind of the Sybarite Awards did not disappoint.  The show highlighted the alternative side of the alternative lifestyle, and was held at the perfect venue Manhattan’s iconic Webster Hall. Guests were treated to body paint and full night of entertainment before and after the actual award ceremony.  The ceremony itself as always was a star-studded event. There was not just one but two celeb djs, HeavyHitters DJ Fatfingaz and…

• N’jaila Rhee’s Free Dirty Sex Show!

  Blasian Bytch

  1 Apr 2012 | 10:45 am

  In celebration of getting my Star Wars Kinect xbox360 bundle I’ll be doing a came marathon!  To show my thanks to all those who supported me I’m going to have a special stream of the show LIVE! Right now. Just for those that read my blog. You can see the streammate show on Www.BlasianBytch.cammodels.com  These Might Tickle Your Fancy: Nerd Porn, Are We Pwning Ourselves? Should I be a cam girl?? Porn Goddess Nyomi Banks Wants YOU

• Toy Review: 10 Function Risque “G”

  Blasian Bytch

  25 Mar 2012 | 7:33 pm

  This is a review of the 10 Function Risque “G” by California Exotics.  I’m always looking for that G spot toy that is going to buzz me to glory, I’m going to say this upfront. The Risque “G” is not that toy.  I’m beginning to think that my gspot only works with organic material because this little guy did nada for it.  That’s not saying that his is a useless toy though. The Risque G is a slim toy, a sneeze shy of 6 inches long and only 3/4th of an inch wide with a satin finish, it boasts 10 functions but its really 4 vibration settings at two different intensities.  One…

• Tickle My Tush: Mild to Wild Anal Play Adventures for Everybooty

  Blasian Bytch

  18 Mar 2012 | 5:41 pm

  I gave up three things for lent this year.  Usually I do this so I can have one thing that actually went without for 40 days if I fail on the other two.  This year I went for a challenge. I gave up chocolate, booze and anal sex.  Originally intended as my failsafe Anal has been kinda on my mind lately.  Not just because GayTube.com is bookmarked on my phone- I was recommended a pretty awesome book on doing the do up the donk. Dr. Sadie Allison’s Tickle My Tush: Mild to Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty. This book works not only as a wonderful introduction to anal play but can give…

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  quizzical pussy

• ConTuesday! Or is it?

  quizzical pussy

  15 May 2012 | 9:29 pm

  I’m aware that I’m posting this ConTuesday when it’s nearly Wednesday, which edges it close to being an abomination or something. The truth is, the first half of yesterday was full of staying up too late, having mad orgasms, and waking snuggled up with Viola Sharqtipus, and the rest of it was spent telling my blog I had a headache or a tired or whatever. It is now like 10:30 PM. Oops. You know I’m not going to apologize for great sex with a beautiful woman or anything that came thereafter. You do know that, right? I think I’m finally going to tell the girl I’ve…

• Land of the free, home of the brave.

  quizzical pussy

  10 May 2012 | 9:00 am

  So Barack Obama, current President of the United States, finally said yesterday that he personally thinks same-sex marriage is a good idea. (Video here.) Now, the religious right portion of his opposition and its supporters already assumed this about him, and were going to capitalize on it anyway. Also, the vast majority of people with any possibility of reelecting President Obama were clamoring for it. Recently, harder than ever. Then when he capitulated, some of them called it brave, and I don’t know that it was. Maybe a little. He was also careful to say that his conviction here is…

• ConTuesday! All the things I knew I didn’t know…

  quizzical pussy

  8 May 2012 | 11:39 am

  There are some confessions that come dressed in lemur-themed wrapping paper with matching bows and ribbons expertly curled at the ends. Some appear in grease-stained paper bags, still warm when shoved hastily into my waiting hands. Occasionally– so seldom it barely bears mentioning– they’re hurled at my window like tomatoes. Sometimes it feels like they got splinched1, or have ellipses dangling from them. They feel unfinished; there’s more to the story. This is not a bad thing, but add the fact that there is some not insignificant delay in posting some of these, I…

• The power of toys

  quizzical pussy

  4 May 2012 | 4:30 pm

  The first time someone else bought me a sex toy, it was nerve-wracking and excruciating (the experience, not the toy. The toy was actually not bad…). Reginald Sleeth and I stayed after hours at the porn studio where we worked, he took pictures of me masturbating to ejaculation, and then we traipsed off to the adult book store where I was to select a toy as a reward. I didn’t so much select a toy as turn a blaring shade of red and wish I were back in the safety of my safe and non-threatening porn studio, while Reginald, whose idea all this had been, made suggestions. He quite liked…

• Kinky as womenfolk

  quizzical pussy

  3 May 2012 | 7:17 am

  This past weekend I was at a geeky convention1. I could tell you stories about what happened there: about flirtations both new and continuing, about glances both electric and slimy, about my butt cheeks both covered and substantially less covered. But instead I’m going to tell you about what I will charitably call an idea for an art project, and why it made me need to leave the room. On Friday evening there was a chance to present ideas for projects and activities to improve the con, and get funding for them. I was watching the proceedings and trying to figure out how to convince the…

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  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

• Posarc reviews a favorite book: “Getting Off- Pornography and the End of Masculinity” by Dr.Robert Jensen

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  7 May 2012 | 6:15 pm

  Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity By Robert Jensen, Ph.D. Note: parts of this review are graphic and may trigger PoSAs (Partners of Sex Addicts) Undoubtedly, Getting Offis the best single volume written about the entire topic of pornography. Porn is rightly portrayed as an extension and tool of the prevailing patriarchy; its hidden purpose, its use; its vile creation and its effects upon the porn user and those around him. Jensen pulls no punches in telling the whole story of the porn industry and its marketing aims. Note: This reviewer makes a Jungian delineation between…

• Boycott Groupon!

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  23 Apr 2012 | 9:23 pm

  Groupon Promotes Sex Tourism and the Normalization of Porn PornHarms.com has an initiative to boycott Groupon and we at PoSARC fully support that effort. If you have never been a clicktivist, this might be a good place to begin. Clicktivism is signing an online petition to register your position. And it is effective. We at PoSARC are asking you to both sign this petition and boycott Groupon until they change their existing policies. You may already enjoy saving money using Groupon. Who doesn’t like to save money? Who doesn’t like to use coupons? However, Groupon is currently offering sex…

• PoSARC Presents…

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  17 Apr 2012 | 7:47 am

  We were invited, and now you’re invited by Porn Harms, the nation’s largest anti-pornography resource. Lili and Terre will be presenting about Posarc and the many ways a partner’s use of porn harms us. You’ll have a chance to ask us your pressing questions and chat with other participants. We’re going to share our deeply personal experiences and process. If porn has invaded your relationship or you would like more information,  please join us on Tuesday, April 17th, 3:00 EDT for a live event via Facebook (you can view anonymously without logging in but you must…

• The Big Benefits to Porn Users Who Gave it Up

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  5 Apr 2012 | 8:36 pm

  The Big Benefits to Porn Users Who Gave it Up Results from Informal Groups Tell the (Inspiring) Truth by Lili Bee 4-6-12 I have been in ongoing talks with two friends, both medical doctors, both of whom have been adversely affected by pornography. One doctor is a recovering porn addict, the other is the spouse of an addict. We talk, these two doctors and I, about the effects of porn use, and especially the current medical procedures for treating patients presenting with the effects of porn usage. Patients coming to see doctors with porn-associated symptoms aren’t being given information…

• How Porn Hurts Us: Introducing Nine Deuce

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  31 Mar 2012 | 10:33 am

  How Porn Hurts Us by Lili Bee Have you ever struggled to convey how deeply porn use disturbs you without tripping over your words? Without stammering? What about when the points you want to make about it reflect very strong beliefs you hold, but the person you’re conversing with not only doesn’t agree, but they don’t even seem to care? Anticipating just such trouble ahead, have you ever rehearsed your points beforehand so you can confront someone later, only to have your anger get the better of you and instead your husband (or partner) dismisses your concerns? This was my…

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  the ch!cktionary

• My friends and I do this thing where we celebrate all major...

  7 May 2012 | 2:46 pm

  My friends and I do this thing where we celebrate all major events/reunions by making pies. Mostly, this is because we have an expert baker in our group who single-handedly produces pie spreads like this one. I, on the other hand, can only make one type - key lime! - which I argue is the best kind, though some people dispute its status as a pie given its short baking time (blasphemy, I say!). I have produced key lime pie for a myriad of special occasions, including my dog’s birthday and finals period. Given that it is also Kennedy’s favorite, it seemed appropriate for the festivities :)…

• In DC visiting one of my besties from college. Folks came from...

  7 May 2012 | 12:55 pm

  In DC visiting one of my besties from college. Folks came from six different states to surprise the birthday girl :) I’m in town until tomorrow and then headed back to Boston where I need to get many life things in order. (Yes, Kennedy is wearing an 80s prom dress. This is because she is awesome.)

• Above was my in-flight reading today :) I just got to DC a...

  5 May 2012 | 2:42 pm

  Above was my in-flight reading today :) I just got to DC a couple hours ago. I’m here until Tuesday to see my friend Kennedy. (A bunch of us flew in to surprise her for her 25th birthday!). I’m meeting up with tons of people (who I might not see for a long time when I move) and in between, trying to write write write as much as possible. I promise I will cease posting book covers in lieu of actual photos as soon as I get a chance to go through my pictures from Provincetown ;)

• So! The above was filmed two years ago when I was a college...

  30 Apr 2012 | 2:41 pm

  So! The above was filmed two years ago when I was a college senior. I had just met filmmaker Therese Shechter who was working on the documentary HOW TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY, and we were both attending an abstinence conference being held at Harvard. It was the first spark of inspiration for the Rethinking Virginity conference I planned later that spring. My 22-year-old self’s camera presence aside, Therese’s awesome project is now so close to being completed but we need your help! In her words: Our goal for How To Lose Your Virginity is to undo centuries of myths and contradictions around…

• "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future."

  30 Apr 2012 | 1:01 pm

  “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” - Oscar Wilde

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  Sex Secrets

• Sex Magic: How to Use Neurolinguistic Programming to Seduce Women

  Svetlana Ivanova

  16 May 2012 | 12:00 pm

  Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an approach to communication developed in the 1970s. Men’s Health gives men tips on how to use this technology to seduce women. 1. Win a date with her The trick Hidden commands Used by Hypnotherapist Paul McKenna uses hidden commands to induce trances The science Forget the old ‘look into my Continue reading →

• Better Cunnilingus: 5 Clitoral Stimulation Techniques That Drive Women Crazy

  Svetlana Ivanova

  12 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  Many women find cunnilingus to be the most satisfying sexual act. Indeed, a great number of women report that oral sex is the only way they can achieve orgasm.  The mouth can create a uniquely intense range of sensations because the tongue can manipulate the vagina and the clitoris in a variety of ways. Cunnilingus Continue reading →

• How to Conduct a Successful One-Night Stand

  Svetlana Ivanova

  8 May 2012 | 5:00 am

  Sure, she seems into you, but you can still blow it. David Strovny tells men how to conduct a successful one-night stand. The one-night stand is the silent engine behind many a night out. The eternal possibility that your night might with you playing the giddy tour guide of your apartment to a sexy new Continue reading →

• 10 Types of Sex You Should Be Having

  Svetlana Ivanova

  6 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  The amount of sex you get may be important, but so is the variety. Boredom kill desire. Josephine Davis reveals the ten types of sex you should be having, starting with lunch sex. Let’s face it ladies. If you’re a sassy, quick witted woman, you’re probably busier than the average girl. Your calendar is jam Continue reading →

• Sexy Is a State of Mind Facebook Page

  Svetlana Ivanova

  5 May 2012 | 4:00 am

  If you’re like me, you’ve probably subscribed to several Facebook pages. However, I never found one that was exactly what I was looking for, so I decided to create a page that I would like. Sexy Is a State of Mind is my new Facebook page on which I post sexy pics and sayings to Continue reading →

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  Heartbreak Nymphomania

• Am I being hypercritical?

  Wilhelmina Wang

  9 May 2012 | 7:37 am

  So… remember how I was complaining about my local kink scene? I recently found an event listing on Fetlife about an actual kinky party (!!) that’s being organized here – pretty exciting, as we currently don’t have anything like that here at all. The downside? The poster and announcements so far aren’t very encouraging as (except for expressing that they welcome LGBT folk and that they’re working with one of the LGBT orgs here) they’re doing almost all the alienating things that I’ve complained about in past entries here: Enforcing a strict…

• Building inclusive spaces & my local “kink scene”

  Wilhelmina Wang

  24 Mar 2012 | 12:48 pm

  I’ve never really been part of a “kink scene” or BDSM community before. I only started really exploring kink in college, and our campus didn’t really have that much to offer, and neither did the small American town it was in. So I guess it’s only understandable. After returning to Hong Kong, though, I had the chance to become a part of a community in a consistent manner for the first time ever. (I’m not really counting the couple of months I spent in New York, because I don’t think you can’t really build any significant relationships or become…

• life update (march ’12)

  Wilhelmina Wang

  13 Mar 2012 | 8:26 am

  A quick update to say that I’m still here. I haven’t posted in—wow—six months, due to a number of new changes in my life that are totally positive, but still took some time to adjust to. That aside, I haven’t actually had all that much to write about lately; my own sexuality has more or less stabilized and nothing is really shaking that boat anymore. Which may sound negative at first, but it’s really not. It just means that I’m more knowledgeable about myself as a person. It does also, however, mean that I’ve less of a need to hash things out in writing…

• Fantasies

  Wilhelmina Wang

  24 Jul 2011 | 12:19 pm

  A random list of scenarios I’ve been fantasizing about lately. Eiffel-towering a guy with another guy. Specifically: me and L co-topping another guy. Most likely I’d be pegging him while he’d be blowing L. Being fucked by somebody else while on the phone with L, describing what’s going on & letting him listen in. This is all thanks to a Watchmen fanfic I read where Dan fucks Laurie while she’s on the phone with Rorschach. Fisting someone. Thanks to the Watchmen kinkmeme, yet again Footfucking someone. After a conversation with M where I was talking about how…

• Pleasurists #138

  Wilhelmina Wang

  12 Jul 2011 | 6:09 am

  rough 02 by freakshow9 Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists 137? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 139? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday July 17th @ 11:59pm Pacific. Want a shiny new toy? All you’ve got to do is enter. BodyWand Massager Giveaway Deadline: July 15th @ Midnight Eastern. Curvelicious Giveaway Deadline:…

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  Molly's Daily Kiss

• The Cutting Edge

  mollyskiss

  16 May 2012 | 4:58 am

  16th May 2012 I wonder what the cold sharp metal of the blade running across my thighs and belly would feel like. Just the thought of it makes my breath catch in my lungs and my heart thump just that little bit louder inside my chest. I imagine the gloved hand over my mouth to stifle my cries as the razor-sharp steel cuts through my clothes, the rough twist of the rope as it is coiled round my wrists and the pull on my shoulders as they are secured above my head. Blade The knife has an ornate handle and a big thick blade, this not any old kitchen knife; this one is special and was bought with…

• Illuminating My Pussy Pride

  mollyskiss

  12 May 2012 | 7:07 pm

  13th May 2012 Just in case you have missed it this week my blog has all been about the one year anniversary of my Pussy Pride Project and so it seemed only right to bring this little celebration to Sinful Sunday. Although this project has been running a year now it really is still only in its infancy. There are 31 links on the page, which will lead you to whole heap of varied comments and images regarding this subject and yet there are still so many missing. I am glad this project has encouraged those people to have a voice and share their stories and experiences but to be honest they are…

• Raw Pride – A Guest Post

  mollyskiss

  11 May 2012 | 6:09 am

  11th May 2012 Pussy Pride Project The Pussy Pride Project is one year old today and in celebration of that I am hosting a very special guest post from the award-winning sex blogger Cara Sutra. Not only does Cara write her wonderful blog but she is also in the process of building an online forum community on her blog. One of the things I love about sex bloggers and people who are interested in exploring their sexuality is that they tend to form and develop positive and welcoming communities and Cara’s new forums are a perfect example of this. “If you love having fun online and…

• Year Of Pride

  mollyskiss

  9 May 2012 | 3:51 am

  9th May 2012 As I mentioned in yesterdays introduction to the Pussy Pride guest post this Friday will be the one year anniversary of The Pussy Pride Project and so it seems very apt that tomorrow night we are off into London to the private viewing night of Jamie McCartney’s Skin Deep exhibition. I am very excited about this and honoured to have been invited to this guest list only event as not only will it feature his new project Physical Photography it is also debut gallery exhibition of his groundbreaking work The Great Wall Of Vagina. In case you don’t know The Great Wall of Vagina is…

• Confront Your Cunt – Guest Post

  mollyskiss

  8 May 2012 | 10:15 am

  8th May 2012 Pussy Pride Project If you have not heard of The Pussy Pride Project before then everything you need to know about it can be found by clicking on the above image. I was motivated to start it by the art work The Great Wall Of Vagina and hoped that it would encourage other bloggers and writers to share their pussy stories. It was my aim to try to build a little blogging celebration of the beauty that lies between a woman’s thighs in an attempt to make women feel more accepting about this truly unique yet mainly hidden part of their body. The project has been up and running for…

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• Selling Extreme Restraints Cage

  Ms. Justine

  2 May 2012 | 12:53 am

  . . . to make room for a newer and more versatile cage-bondage bed. From the Extreme Restraints website: The Deluxe Puppy Cage retails for $849 (plus $78 shipping). Our deluxe puppy cage takes bondage furniture to a new level. It has 3 major features that our standard cage does not have. Powder Coating – Black powder coat allows for better rust protection and a rich black appearance Head Trap – On the top of the cage is a head restraint that locks around the neck. This leaves the head exposed for abuse. It’s adjustable and uses two small locks for each side. (which we are…

• Neon Wand

  Ms. Justine

  30 Apr 2012 | 2:01 pm

  I have a lot of toys. Sometimes I even forget what I have, but as I’ve been busy listing toys for Dungeon West, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to rediscover the wealth of my toy bag. This is why, even though I actually got Kinklab’s neon wand in December for the “dungeon-warming,” I played with it once for “private Mistress time” and haven’t used it since. A lot of you know me from my appearance on Attack of the Show when I zapped hosts with the violet wand, which was a lot of fun! The neon wand is very similar to the violet wand in that you can…

• The Masochism Tango

  Ms. Justine

  15 Apr 2012 | 12:35 pm

  A client sent me this the other day and I was highly amused by this musician, Tom Lehrer’s Masochism Tango. Enjoy!

• April is the Cruelest Month: Domme Double Trouble

  Ms. Justine

  7 Apr 2012 | 11:31 pm

  I love surrounding Myself with beautiful, sadistic women . . . and submissive, masochistic men. For April only, I will offer a special doubles discount for Myself and either Mistress Natalie West or Mistress Elena Vladi. Mistress Natalie West *Lesbian cuckholding sessions available* Mistress Natalie and I would love to put you in a steel cage and put on a show for you. Too bad you can’t join Us, as if We’d let you! Mistress Natalie is an expert at humiliation, I am an expert at tease and denial, together we will drive you mad and laugh at you–amuse Us, if you can. Mistress…

• Dungeon West’s New Protégée: Mistress Elena Vladi

  Ms. Justine

  4 Apr 2012 | 7:13 pm

  Russian, Cruel, Slender and Strict! Perhaps you’ve seen Her before at Dungeon West’s infamous parties, but now ice-cold and heartless Mistress Elena is looking for obedient slaves who are capable of defining their desires. Mistress Elena enjoys performing: *Bondage *Whipping *Various torture *Foot fetish *Psychological domination *Humiliation *Changing slaves into women’s clothing for My own fun *Boot and Heel worship *Sessions available in Russian or English Please contact Me f you are interested in setting up a double appointment with Mistress Elena.

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  DateDaily

• Taking Prostitutes On Dates

  Veronica Newman

  16 May 2012 | 8:55 am

  Reporter Michael J Mooney tells of the time he took a hooker on a real date, to a bowling alley. For the full recount, see here.But that’s not all, Mooney took a series of prostitutes out on real dates an interviewed them.He took Sophie bowling and heard about the time she was kidnapped and held hostage for three days.Midwestern Brittany agreed to a date of Mini Golf. She told Mooney about her dreams to work for the government and promptly left at the beginning of the 18th hole.The mid-50′s year old, Mira met up with Mooney for ice cream. She worked in insurance her entire…

• 6 Bad Social Media Habits That Make You Un-Dateable

  Fluffy De Ramezay

  14 May 2012 | 2:04 pm

  While the jury’s still out on whether it’s ok to Google someone before you go on a date with them, when it comes to social media (let’s not lie) you’re totally going to creep them. That’s cool, if they leave their profile open that’s their problem!  If they commit one of these social media sins? Toss ‘em to the curb! OversharingYou just found out your brother is actually your half brother? That scary growth on your leg turned out to just be an ingrown hair? You puked in the sink at your favorite sushi place? These are the kinds of things that if you’re going to tell…

• Online Dating In China

  Veronica Newman

  11 May 2012 | 1:55 pm

  The New Yorker just put out a long piece on the dating scene in China, “The Love Business” by Evan Osnos.In China, the largest dating website is name Jiayuan (Beautiful Destiny). It’s tagline is “The Serious Dating Website.”According to Gong Haiyan, Found of Jiayuan,  marrying a man in China who does not own a house, a car and a nest egg is called a “Naked Marriage,” because “according to a poll reported last year by Xinhua, the state news service, although only ten per cent of men on Jiayuan own a home, nearly seventy per cent of women said…

• Jonathan Ames on Boxing, Sex Classes and Transvestites

  Veronica Newman

  11 May 2012 | 11:02 am

  The Double Life Is Twice As GoodShort stories written by Jonathan AmesI spent an evening immersed in smut, warming up to the honest, uplifting adventures of Jonathan Ames noted in his collection of short stories,  The Double Life Is Twice As Good. This slim paperback pricelessly includes excepts from Jonathan Ames’ diary, an endearing feature which is practically apologized for, despite its pure beauty. Ames true to his heart, is open and forthright about his (mostly sexual) curiosities, which are slightly off center, but which fit in modestly in comparison to his feral friends and…

• Everyone Gets Divorced: Dating After Divorce and The Things You Need to Hear

  Guest

  10 May 2012 | 1:00 pm

   By Jeanne Goshe & Jessica Wernz from Everyone Gets Divorced 1. Pipe down about your divorce:We’re not suggesting that you lie.  The fact that you’ve been married should probably come up at some point during the whole “getting to know you” phase.  But please, do not turn a date into a therapy session. That’s the difference between a regular divorced person and a cliché bitter divorcée. We know, we know – you’ve been hurt. You have trust issues. You never thought your life would turn out this way. Keep it to yourself. Talk about something else. Anything else.

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• e[lust] #36

  admin

  15 May 2012 | 3:41 pm

  Photo courtesy of A Couple of Wankers Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #37? Start with the newly updated rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  ~ Top 3 ~ The Cheshire Cat – Alice felt whiskers tickle her skin and was wracked with sobs of fear. “Oh, little girl, don’t cry. You…

• e[lust] 35

  admin

  15 Apr 2012 | 2:19 pm

  Photo Courtesy of Vincent and Mia Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #36? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  ~ Top 3 ~ Strangers in a bar – She sensed him move along the bar, he took the seat next to her his knee brushing her thin stockings as he took…

• e[lust] #34

  admin

  16 Mar 2012 | 12:51 pm

   Photo Courtesy of JM from There is No Spoon!  Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #35 ? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! Note: Wondering why there is no Top 3 this edition? Read the latest Editor’s Note to find out why, and what you can do to help prevent this from happening in the…

• e[lust] #33

  admin

  15 Feb 2012 | 9:28 am

  Photo courtesy of Penny Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as STI’s, swingers and poly relationships, spanking, role play and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #34? Start with the rules, come back in February to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ The Top Three Posts ~  I’m The 48% - I keep breathing. Strangely enough, the world didn’t end at that precise moment. I felt numb. I stared at those two red lines on the monitor.

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  Hey Epiphora

• Review: Life

  Epiphora

  10 May 2012 | 2:22 pm

  The Leaf Life looks like something you’d pick up along a nature trail. Colored a cheery green and shaped like a fat leaf or a pointy slug, the Life comes from a line of vibes inspired by nature that I found too intriguing to ignore. And I’m glad I tried one (the right one, perhaps), because… I really like it. The Life comes in a brown cardboard box that looks all eco-schmancy, but there’s nothing that makes this toy more eco-friendly than any other rechargeable vibe. It does come with a sweet storage bag. It does not charge magnetically, but instead one must impale…

• Protected: The pinnacle of relief

  Epiphora

  7 May 2012 | 3:05 pm

  This post is password protected. To view it please enter your password below: Password: LikeIf you liked this, you might also enjoy these posts: Why I won’t be coming out any time soon PSA: Not everything I say is sexual A milestone. A huge one. © Epiphora for Hey Epiphora, 2012. | Permalink | 19 comments | Post tags:

• Pornfail: Pussy painting

  Epiphora

  3 May 2012 | 10:20 am

  Have you been jonesing for a deep look into the female psyche? Then What Girls Like is the porno for you! Seriously, it’s uncanny how much this film understands womankind. Case in point: the painting scene. I have learned much from this scene, like that paint fumes are an aphrodisiac. And that girls like getting ass-fucked by paintbrush handles while contorting their bodies into pretzel shapes. To my surprise, I learned that girls HATE happiness. And subtlety. To nobody’s surprise, girls like purple! A lot of it. In sopping wet toxic paint form. Girls like humping canvases. Girls…

• Review: Hold On To Me

  Epiphora

  26 Apr 2012 | 3:19 pm

  I’ll admit I scoffed at Real Housewife of Atlanta Kandi Burruss’ new line of sex toys, Bedroom Kandi. Look, I’m not into so-called “girly” things… like make-up. I haven’t owned mascara since high school. I’ve never bought a tube of lipstick. However! I do own my fair share of vag balls. And Hold On To Me (kind-of a dumb name… no, really a dumb name) is a set of four vag balls that, surprisingly, are not shaped like some cosmetic item. Bedroom Kandi toys are manufactured by OhMiBod, so my vag balls came in a cardboard box with both…

• Soaked-through paper towels

  Epiphora

  24 Apr 2012 | 8:37 am

  Sometimes I wait an embarrassingly long time to clean my sex toys. But that’s the beauty of non-porous toys — they clean up beautifully no matter what. And just look at this awesome array of colors! I’m so proud of myself for not having a pink and purple smorgasbord. Clearly, though, I need to invest in better paper towels. It’s hard to make an ordered list of these toys, but I’ll try: NobEssence Seduction, Fun Factory Big Boss, njoy Fun Wand, pink attachment for the Rock Box, Tantus O2 Rascal, Leaf Life, attachments for the Eroscillator, Vixen Creations…