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• Are Meds Ruining Your Sex Life?

  The Female G Spot

  Grafenberg

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:23 am

  Health issues affect our sexuality in a variety of ways, including hormones, chronic pain, stamina, depression and body image. One of the most common health issues affecting our sexuality is prescription medication. Most medications have side effects. When these are minimal or trivial, we ignore them. But some side effects are major. And when they affect your sexual functioning, ignoring them is difficult. The most common unwanted effects that drugs have on sexuality involve reduced desire, limited arousal and inhibited or impossible orgasm. Here are common sexual side effects of some popular…

• Do men prefer blondes, brunettes or redheads?

  Sex and Relationships - MSN UK Style

  4 Jan 2012 | 6:32 am

  It was the title of the 1953 film starring Marilyn Monroe and it’s been a widely held notion for years that gentleman prefer blondes. But researchers have recently found that contrary to popular belief men actually find brunettes more attractive and intelligent than blondes.

• How Many Sperms Are There in One Ejaculation?

  Intimate Medicine International

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:48 pm

  Besides the number of sperms, you will also find out why the testicles are on the outside of the body.

• The Guide to Having Sex on Your Period

  Lovepanky | Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships

  Lovepanky

  25 Jan 2012 | 11:39 am

  Wondering how you can have sex during your period? Here’s a complete guide to having sex on your period and the tips you need to know to have a good bang. By Kayla Kissinger Having sex on your period is a personal choice, but one that definitely comes with a few strong opinions. In our eager sexual pursuit to try everything at least once, most of us do give this a thought even if we don’t bring thoughts to reality. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas in bed] Unless you find the whole idea of having sex during your menstruation a huge turn off or a taboo subject based on religious or social grounds,…

• 15 Rebound Relationship Signs To Watch Out For

  Lovepanky | Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships

  Lovepanky

  21 Jan 2012 | 1:41 pm

  Are you in a new relationship after a recent breakup? Find out if you’re in a rebound or a serious romance with these 15 rebound relationship signs. By Francesca Marie Heartbreaks can be painful. And at times, nothing can heal heartbreak better than a perfect rebound relationship. [Read: Rebound relationships and why they’re perfect after a breakup] But are you in an intentional rebound relationship? Do you think you’re really serious but find yourself getting confused about whether you’re actually in a rebound relationship? Signs of a rebound relationship If you’re in a rebound…

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• Technology To Help You Crash Weddings

  Holly Moyseenko

  27 Jan 2012 | 10:21 am

  I recently came across an article that focused on one of the latest smart phone app, Crash Corsage. This app allows users to locate weddings nearby, then provide the address and the dress code – so that if you crash the wedding you can dress to fit in. At my first wedding, I actually invited [...]

• Bald Is Just As Beautiful As Blonde

  Madeline Haller

  27 Jan 2012 | 7:20 am

  Over the past few days, a new campaign has been spreading like wildfire over the Internet — and that campaign is for the creation of ’Bald Barbie’.  The movement began less than a month ago, when two friends decided to make a Facebook page in order to catch Mattel’s attention (the maker of Barbie), in hopes that they would [...]

• Family Meals As Relationship Maintenance

  Jeana

  26 Jan 2012 | 7:18 am

  I wrote in an earlier post, Love At The Dinner Table, about how food underlies many of our formative emotional experiences, ranging from family interactions to occasions with lovers. This was mostly based on my intuition and my life experiences as a child of foodies. Now, research from Indiana University backs up this claim, as [...]

• Harness Heaven

  Michaela

  26 Jan 2012 | 6:19 am

  During a recent trip to Good Vibrations in Brookline, MA, I was pleased to see that strap-on harnesses are getting a bit of a facelift! Instead of the usual basic black harnesses, the store offered an array of snazzy themed harnesses. This got me thinking about the importance of choosing a good harness. Before I [...]

• Vulva in the Wild!

  Michaela

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:17 pm

    I found this succulent while exploring my school’s greenhouse. Vulvalicious much?

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  Bound, Not Gagged

• Friday the Thirteenth

  Maggie McNeill

  13 Jan 2012 | 11:33 am

  A little government and a little luck are necessary in life, but only a fool trusts either of them.  -  P.J. O’Rourke Today is the third Friday the Thirteenth since I’ve been writing The Honest Courtesan, and there will be three such days this year (today, April 13th and July 13th); as it so happens, three is the maximum number of such days in any given year, though each year has at least one.  In my very first column on the subject (Friday, August 13th, 2010) I explained how the superstition arose and why even superstitious whores should consider it lucky for us rather than unlucky:…

• International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers Event in Raleigh-Durham Chapel Hill

  jillbrenneman

  16 Dec 2011 | 9:35 pm

  Thank you to the NC Harm Reduction Coalition and many others for making this happen. Sex Workers Without Borders is thrilled to be part of this important event in the Triangle. International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers, 2011 What: A discussion with special guest Jill Brenneman- child sex-trafficking survivor (and later, consenting adult sex worker), sexual assault crisis counselor, & advocate for harm reduction & sex work decriminalization with Sex Workers Without Borders When: Saturday, December 17th, 2011 from 5-7 PM Where: Internationalist Books & Community Center,…

• Melissa Farley sends someone to the Naked Anthropologist to rant

  lauraborders

  8 Dec 2011 | 11:14 am

  I am keeping up with the tendency to change language again, so that what people were calling prostitution and then trafficking now becomes, increasingly, slavery. The other day I critiqued a review of a film set in a 19th-century Paris brothel and wondered if there may be a desire for slavery to come back. Melissa Farley seems to have sent someone to rant at me just there, but perhaps the post was chosen at random. I wonder if anyone from here would like to reply to the commenter, who is called Stella Marr? Her comment includes Ms. Agustin, you describe yourself as a feminist. I feel…

• International Day to End Violence against Sex Workers: December 17

  Vegan Vixen

  29 Nov 2011 | 6:40 pm

  This annual event is coming up again, with activities in various parts of the U.S. along with Capetown, South Africa; London, England; Montreal, Quebec Canada; and Phnom Penh, Cambodia: http://www.facebook.com/#!/aphunter/posts/10150586436448852 . The purpose is to support the safey and well-being of sex workers, and promote anti-violence policies, attitudes, and practices as well as build community, remember sex workers whose lives have been lost due to hatred and violence, express our voices, and listen. Here’s a link to the redesigned and updated Dec. 17 website:…

• Where are the abolitionists to banish Craigslist help wanted ads

  jillbrenneman

  24 Nov 2011 | 9:19 am

  Since the abolitionists feel eliminating advertising venues is the only way to prevent a tiny percentage of crime. Why are they not calling for Craigslist to ban all help wanted advertising to avoid murder?  If the logic they use is so sound than one would think they would be calling for ending all employment ads to prevent this kind of crime.  Except they wouldn’t want that in this case because it would seem stupid (because the logic is stupid) and would affect them.  But when it is sex workers they have no problem implementing absurd thought processes that affect us.Terrible crime…

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  Sex and the 405

• High Fashion Meets High Protocol

  Staff

  26 Jan 2012 | 1:59 pm

  Designers create for many reasons, but very few of them specialize in the erotic life in the same way that ainsley-t does. The Milan-based footwear designer is tired of the usage of words such as “cheap” and “tacky” to describe the items that make our fantasies come to life. His life mission is to take erotic wear to the heights of haute couture. “We’re convinced that the erotic need be no enemy of quality,” says founder Stuart Thom. “And when you’re thinking with every square inch of skin and breathing for every touch, wouldn’t you…

• Condoms Now Mandatory in L.A. Porn Shoots

  Staff

  25 Jan 2012 | 12:00 pm

  Los Angeles is now the first city in the nation that requires performers to use condoms while shooting porn in areas that require permits. The Mayor signed the ordinance pushed by the AIDS Healthcare Foundation on Monday. The law will go into effect 41 days after the City Clerk posts the ordinance publicly. You can read the complete coverage about this on the LA Weekly. But for those of you who prefer the simple version, here’s a summary: – The ordinance claims the adult industry is responsible for the ongoing epidemic of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and the HIV/AIDS…

• Review: Portrait of a Call Girl

  Staff

  24 Jan 2012 | 11:00 am

  Best director, best actress, best feature — these are the awards the porn feature Portrait of a Call Girl scored at the AVNs last week. We got curious, so we decided to take a look at how the legal aspect of the sex industry understood its marginalized twin.

• Maximize Your Sex with AVN Award-Winning Accouterments

  Staff

  23 Jan 2012 | 9:35 am

  By all indications, the Adult Video News (AVN) Awards were a train wreck this year, so thank God you weren’t there. We’d say we braved the madness for you, but that would be a blatant lie. We had an epic weekend and picked up the press release when we got home. Lazy blogging — it’s an art. In any event, here’s a run down of the award-winning accouterments, because if you’re anything like us, you’re always on the market to take things up a notch. Best Lingerie or Apparel Company Baci Lingerie is quickly becoming the hottest seduction item on the market…

• Science Writer Carl Zimmer Publishes on Playboy, Internet Freaks Out

  AV Flox

  6 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Carl Zimmer, a celebrated science writer, has published a piece about Neil deGrasse Tyson in the January issue of Playboy magazine (also featuring Lindsay Lohan!). Almost immediately after the article started making the rounds on the internet, the question of whether “respectable authors” should publish in Playboy arose. The discussion largely unfolded on the Google+ profile of Miriam Goldstein, a writer for the ocean science blog Deep Sea News, where a commenter asked, “What is with women who applaud Playboy — the magazine that strives to reinforce a social hierarchy…

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• "Workshops in 2012  In the winter and spring of 2012 we are collaborating with several New..."

  26 Jan 2012 | 10:28 am

  “Workshops in 2012  In the winter and spring of 2012 we are collaborating with several New York-based organizations to offer our Legislative Advocacy trainings for community members who are interested in doing advocacy around the No Condoms As Evidence legislation as well as Stop and Frisk policies. We will offer two trainings. Though we usually do our weekend-long Speak Up! training in New York in April, in 2012 we will be offering a half-day training in Washington, DC prior to the International AIDS Conference, and then a full weekend-long training in the fall of 2012. We’ve got other…

• "Reasons abound to be turned off by the New York Times columnist, Nicholas Kristof. He is too pleased..."

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:49 pm

  “Reasons abound to be turned off by the New York Times columnist, Nicholas Kristof. He is too pleased with himself and demonstrates no capacity for self-reflection. He is too earnest. He claims to be in the vanguard of journalism because he tweets. He is said to be Doing Something about human suffering while the rest of us don’t care; he is smarmy. He doesn’t write particularly well. But most important, he is an apologist for a soft form of imperialism.” - The Soft Side of Imperialism » Counterpunch: Tells the Facts, Names the Names LAURA AGUSTÍN BRINGS IT.

• rentboyblog: Rent University returns February 21 and 28 in New...

  24 Jan 2012 | 5:01 pm

  rentboyblog: Rent University returns February 21 and 28 in New York City! Get tips on managing clients! Find out how you can transform your time in the trade to skills for the job market! Experienced escorts along with career professionals will guide you during each information packed 2-hour session. On February 21, porn performer and escort Tony Bishop will guide a session on “Client Management” where participants are encouraged to share ideas for how to deal with the best and worst clients. On February 28, an experienced career counselor will give you insight into turning skills from…

• Today there is a hearing in DC about the possibility of...

  24 Jan 2012 | 11:10 am

  Today there is a hearing in DC about the possibility of implementation of a city-wide Prostitution Free Zone. Follow @amyloudermilk and @djbent for live tweets. The film above was produced by my friend PJ Starr, in collaboration with sex workers in DC. Here’s some more background info: From DCist post in December: Under current D.C. law, prostitution is illegal. Simple enough, right? Well, no. Prostitution still happens, so, in 2006, the D.C. Council gave the Metropolitan Police Department the power to designate “prostitution-free zones,” areas in which any two people gathering for…

• SWOP NYC member doing study on sex workers in college

  23 Jan 2012 | 1:03 pm

  I don’t usually post about calls for participation in research studies on the sex industry, because I think most academic studies serve the researcher and do nothing for the population being studied. Plus, students tend to look at the same dumb questions over and over, and frankly, I have better things to do than provide 101s for other people’s gain. That said, here’s a research study that I actually recommend participating in. Hopefully it will result in some awareness raising work around the issues that people face when they are both college students and sex workers. It’s being…

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• A Dancer Who Still Pushes the Boundaries

  4 Jan 2012 | 11:00 pm

  "The Surrender: An Erotic Memoir," Toni Bentley's story of how she reclaimed her sexual fulfillment, has turned into a one-woman play at one of Madrid's most successful alternative theaters.

• Sex Education for Teenagers, Online and in Texts

  30 Dec 2011 | 11:00 pm

  Some health organizations and school districts are developing Web sites and text services to reach teenagers.

• Sex on the Brain - Studied

  10 Dec 2011 | 11:00 pm

  Researchers try to find who is thinking about sex and how much. The result? Depends on whom you ask.

• Yeshiva University Stunned by Tale of a Tryst

  9 Dec 2011 | 11:00 pm

  A student’s first-person essay in an online newspaper raises issues of free speech at Stern College for Women.

• David Guterson Wins Bad Sex in Fiction Award for ‘Ed King’

  8 Dec 2011 | 11:00 pm

  The American author David Guterson won the annual Bad Sex in Fiction award in London this week for passages of his novel “Ed King.”

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• Vaginal Odor

  27 Jan 2012 | 9:46 pm

  Hello! I feel a little awkward posting this, but y'all seem to be very helpful and I had a question.Over the last couple weeks my vagina has had a pretty strong smell.  It doesn't really smell different than it usually does, but it's much stronger than usual. It's to the point where I can smell it just an hour or two after showering, through my clean clothes and all. I don't have anything else different going on down there.Two things have changed recently. I've been having significantly more sex than usual (gone from a couple times a month to often a couple times…

• Cervix cramp after sex... help

  27 Jan 2012 | 6:41 pm

  I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. We are a disease free couple (got tested and all). I've had a gynecological exam about 2 months ago and everything was fine.I've recently started having cramps after sex. It's like intense period cramps. I came close to passing out the two times it happened because the pain was so intense (just like my period cramps on the first few days) It happened twice in the last three weeks and it never used to. It seems to happen only when we get into a position that has....deeper entry and he bangs my cervix.I really wonder what's…

• NuvaRing

  27 Jan 2012 | 1:45 pm

  I started nuvaring about 3 weeks ago. I am on the 3rd week now. I am starting to have a problem with acne. My face skin was fine before I started it. I only got the random zit when I was on my period. I haven't been on any hbc for the last 2 and a half years. I am just wondering if anyone else who is using nuvaring has had a problem with acne? And if you did have a problem in the beginning did it go away as your body got use to nuvaring? Nuvaring is kinda the only option for me right now and if this acne keeps up I am going to have to come off of it.

• stacking?

  27 Jan 2012 | 12:52 pm

  Admittedly, I haven't done much research before diving in. I am on low-dose HBC, so three weeks of pills and one week of placebo. I decided to try stacking, which I thought (think?) was to go straight to the first week of the next pack of birth control after finishing the first three weeks and you would skip your period. Do this for three months, then let it off. I have done this for the past two months and thought this would allow me to skip my period, yet the first month I still got my entire full-blown, bloody period and this month I spotted brown and had clots. It was enough to still wear…

• spotting on the pill

  27 Jan 2012 | 5:23 am

  Hi all. Before going to bed last night I had a bit of old blood/mucus-y lining stuff appear on my toilet paper after wiping. I'm on Junel Fe, and not due to have a withdraw bleed for another week, so I just quickly searched "spotting on the pill". I've been on the pill for about a year (will be a year next month) so I know the spotting isn't my body getting used to it..it should already be used to it! I came across this:"Are you taking the pill at the same time every day? Missing one pill or taking it late could affect the integrity of the uterine or endometrial lining (built up in a…

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• VIDEO: Help! I'm More Attracted to the Men I Work with Than My Husband!

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:42 pm

  Do you have a "work husband" or "work wife" that you like to flirt with in the office? Are you worried that this attraction—however small—might border on overpowering your attraction to your own spouse?

• Valentine's Day: What's Your Favorite Way to Celebrate?

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:26 pm

  Valentine's Day falls on a Tuesday this year -- guys, take note! -- and some people have been orchestrating for the perfect romantic night far in advance.

• Celebrities Who Share Too Much PDA

  27 Jan 2012 | 1:35 pm

  The truth is, a little PDA is part of any healthy relationship, and it’s no different for our favorite celebrity couples. But, when PDA goes from “frisky” to all-out “foreplay,” couples should pull the curtains on the show and head indoors.

• Why Ask Why? After the Breakup

  27 Jan 2012 | 12:10 pm

  “Why isn’t he calling me back?” “Why would he tell me he loves me and then walk away?” “Why would he choose her?” I’ve heard them all and I’m certain you have as well. Heck you’ve probably even screamed those questions into a tear-stained pillow...

• 5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other

  27 Jan 2012 | 9:05 am

  EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz has a confession to make: There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major - and I'm not just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. Take the time I used my favorite places to be touched during sex as a way of remembering where we have the most nerve endings. Or my discovery - thanks prof! - that the parts of our body with the least amount of hair have the most nerve endings. Some of the nerve-rich areas are pretty obvious - lips, genitals, duh. ...

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• Cerebral Assassian

  28 Jan 2012 | 4:14 am

  In the 80’s there was a anti-drug commercial that said “This is your brain, this is your brain on drugs. Any questions?”   I’m going to kick it up a notch. “This is your brain, this is your brain on porn”. Our minds are amazing creations. They are a rolodex of memories and knowledge. The problem is we take better care of our MACs/PCs than we do with “natures computer”. We will download software to keep viruses, pop-ups, intruders and various other potentially fatal hazards off our device. So why do we corrupt our minds with porn? The…

• 30 Signs You May Be Struggling With Sexual Addiction

  28 Jan 2012 | 4:08 am

  1. You are adamant that it is not your issue 2. Your eyes scan every woman who walks into the room 3. You unexpectedly go silent 4. You find yourself searching for sexual partners online just for research 5. You go out of your way to drive by strip clubs 6. You call escorts to ask questions without making a commitment 7. You erase your temporary Internet history daily 8. You only search the web after clicking on the “start private browsing” tab 9. You masturbate every day or every other day 10. Whenever you are alone you look at porn 11. You schedule your day around when you will…

• X3's Company #12 Dating part II

  27 Jan 2012 | 5:30 am

  We just released a brand new episode of X3's Company #12. We keep talk about DATING. The last episode #11 was part 1 of Dating and this episode we finish the conversation. X3's Company is a podcast from XXXchurch.com. We take your questions and try and give you some helpful answers. We only are doing #13 episodes of this podcast so only two more left after this. X3's Company - All available on same iTunes feed. Also available in iTunes audio only and you can check out Podcast page.  

• Does Light Really Believe It Can Reach Darkness?

  27 Jan 2012 | 12:30 am

  So, earlier today... I was reading an article on Salon.com entitled, "The Joy of Judgmental Christian Sex". Yeah. I know, right? HERE. WE. GO. AGAIN. It was talking about two relatively new books, one that I actually think I've referenced in one of these blogs before: "Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse". Anyway, as I'm sure you can tell from the title of piece, it wasn't singing the praises of sexual purity and physical intimacy's true purpose. And, of course, being what the (main) focus of this website/ministry is about, I'm sure you can understand why this particular…

• Outta Control

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:22 pm

    Like with most addictions, you get to a point where you feel like you can’t stop and you have no control. What you once enjoyed doing here and there for “fun” has now become your life—consuming you and taking control of everything you do.  What you once did for fun has now become your prison.  You feel as though you have no choice but to be consumed by what has become your addiction; and the high that you once got from that video or picture no longer satisfies, because you’ve “already seen it.”  You want something new, something…

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• Sex no more strenuous than golf, expert says

  23 Jan 2012 | 10:42 am

  For most heart and stroke patients, it's probably safe to have sex. "For a patient who has sex with a familiar partner in a familiar setting, sexual activity generally is safe and no more strenuous than golf," a cardiologist said.

• Facial symmetry may play a role in 'gaydar'

  21 Jan 2012 | 11:01 am

  Researchers examined how perceptions of a person’s sexual orientation are influenced by facial symmetry and proportions. Self-identified heterosexuals had facial features that were slightly more symmetrical than homosexuals. And the more likely raters perceived someone as heterosexual, the more symmetrical that person’s features were.

• Progress made toward a genital herpes vaccine

  4 Jan 2012 | 4:48 pm

  New research points investigators toward finding a genital herpes vaccine that works on both viruses that cause disease.

• Females may be more susceptible to infection during ovulation

  3 Jan 2012 | 12:53 pm

  A woman's ovarian cycle plays a role in susceptibility to infection, according to new research. Specifically, researchers found women are most susceptible to infection, such as Candida albicans or other sexually transmitted diseases, during ovulation than at any other time during the reproductive cycle. This natural "dip" in immunity may be to allow spermatozoa to survive the threat of an immune response so it may fertilize an egg successfully.

• Human proteins that may fuel HIV/AIDS transmission identified

  14 Dec 2011 | 11:58 am

  Scientists have discovered new protein fragments in semen that enhance the ability of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, to infect new cells -- a discovery that one day could help curb the global spread of this deadly pathogen.

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• ILU

  Lilly

  27 Jan 2012 | 8:29 pm

  I have 6 drafts that are half-finished. I’ve been in some state or another of “sick” this week and feeling like crap, exhausted and lacking patience. I’m away this weekend so all these posts will have to wait, and I hope I can conjure up their thought trains again. My main point to this post is to say “ILU” to the people who purchase sex toys through my affiliate link. The sales aren’t racking up this month like they were in December, but December was still a banner month, more than I’d ever made before. These sales make me feel like I’m…

• Why I Write – And Respect – Negative Sex Toy Reviews

  Lilly

  24 Jan 2012 | 7:55 pm

  Today I happened upon a sex toy reviewing blog whose mission statement proudly proclaimed that they don’t publish negative reviews. If they receive a product that has no redeeming qualities, they simply won’t write a review. I died a little when I read that. And then I got angry. They boast this, like it makes them better people, better reviewers. To companies and products, sure. To consumers? absolutely not. I think I touched on this a bit about a year ago when I wrote about ethics in blogging, but this is a full-scale 4-alarm rant. When I first started buying sex toys I was…

• Why I Hate JIMMYJANE: Part 1 – The Form 3 Review

  Lilly

  20 Jan 2012 | 3:21 pm

  Subtitled: When you’re right, you’re right or I should listen to my gut more Once long ago in Babeland I fondled a few JimmyJane vibrators and was summarily unimpressed. I read a litany of mixed reviews from the entire spectrum of “LOVE IT” to “DIE IN A FIRE” and had figured out that JimmyJane’s Form line was largely overpriced “luxury” crap. I was right. At least I got that goin for me. I had an opportunity to grab the Form 6 and Form 3 from Red over at ToySwap (along with the now-defunct Cone vibrator and a Metal Worx “steel”…

• A very animated Wanton Wednesday

  Lilly

  17 Jan 2012 | 2:22 pm

  I’m posting this early because tomorrow is the SOPA Blackout and all my sites are participating with the help of a WordPress SOPA plugin. I’m a huge fan of Tumblr porn, I’ll admit. Gifs, reblogged pics videos….I follow people who reblog “professional” stuff and post their own yummy goodness. So today, I’m contributing in the tradition of the Animated Gif! Wanton “Wedneday” will be extended this week because of the SOPA Blackout, however you’ll still be able to access the site – but check back on Thursday to make sure you catch…

• Interview with a Sex Toy Reviewer: Part 2 – Elizabeth Red

  Lilly

  16 Jan 2012 | 12:58 pm

  Now I turn the tables on other reviews, after answering these questions myself in Part 1! Elizabeth Red has been reviewing sex toys for quite a few years now at her blog, The Red Sneaker Diaries. I would say that she’s a good combination of a little bit forgiving and objective mixed with honest1 and intellectual in her reviews. You can view most of her reviews on her blog here at her toy box page. I also love her Lube Lab pages where she breaks down the different types of lube in all their scientific hotness. Elizabeth is the first in a short series of long-time reviewers that…

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• 13 ways of looking at an abortion

  chelsea g. summers

  22 Jan 2012 | 4:20 pm

  Thirty-nine years ago, the decision known as the Supreme Court handed down the decision known as Roe v. Wade, giving American women the legal right to abortion. I’ve had a few abortions, and I’d like to celebrate this decision by listing a few ways that Roe v. Wade has enriched my life. Because of Roe v. Wade: 1) My labia, perineum and pelvic floor remain in their original pristine showroom condition. No one likes to depend on Depends. 2) I worked to support myself for six years by stripping. And then I got to write about it. Roe v. Wade is the gift that keeps on giving. 3) I didn’t…

• ovunque, ma qui

  chelsea g. summers

  13 Nov 2011 | 12:55 pm

  The wood is wet. Sadly, this is not a euphemism. The wood is wet despite my purchasing of a large, sturdy and reinforced tarp the exact color of the Green Bay Packers. It’s wet despite my diligent carting of it via wheelbarrow down the steep, stony incline to the villa. It’s wet despite my careful stacking of it in neat piles according to shape and size on the villa’s porch. It’s wet despite my thoughtful piling of it next to—but not too near to—the tiny fireplace that burns said wood, my sole source of heat in this stony Tuscan lonesome.  That’s not strictly true,…

• not fade away

  chelsea g. summers

  26 Sep 2011 | 1:51 pm

  I went to only one Grateful Dead show. It was such a perfect experience that despite having chances to go again, and despite trying to prolong that perfect Dead-space by driving around in my '80 Sirocco and listening only to bogarted tapes from some Red Rocks concert that I didn’t even attend, I never went to another. It was at SPAC, this natural outdoor amphitheater a few miles outside of the bucolic town of Saratoga, and I had gone with this other boyfriend and a few friends. We’d all piled in someone’s car, and we’d all dropped acid, everyone except whoever it was who was…

• stand back. woman with a sword.

  chelsea g. summers

  12 Sep 2011 | 8:13 pm

  Oh, Dr Who. You showed such promise with the creation of Dr River Song. Whatever happened? Whither the love for the single, childless, middle-aged woman? I realize that I react as a single, childless, middle-aged woman myself, and that my reactions to your most recent episode, “The Girl Who Waited,” speak as much about you as they do about me; my anxieties; my nightmares; my things that, while silent, go bump in the night. And yet, even as I recognize that I view this episode through my own “Rory-cam,” that is to say lenses that show you what you cannot see and what I can, I cannot…

• feeding the dream of The Impossible Girl

  chelsea g. summers

  29 Aug 2011 | 2:18 pm

  I don’t remember when I started following Kim Boekbinder, The Artist Also Known as The Impossible Girl (or TAAKaTIG, for brevity), but I do remember when she first responded to one of my Tweets. I posted a picture of myself in her “Kim Boekbinder believes in me” t-shirt with commentary along the lines that I wear it whenever I feel immersed in a pit of self-doubt. Kim said, “So all the time, basically.” Yup, pretty much, I wrote back. I’m not one of those people who believes that everything happens for a reason. I’m more of one of those people who believes that everything…

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  Christopher Finke

  27 Jan 2012 | 1:54 pm

  Want to receive WordPress.com notifications instantly, even when you’re not on WordPress.com? Add the new WordPress.com extension for Chrome and as soon as you get a new follower or a new like on one of your posts, a notification will appear in your browser: Simply click the icon to view your latest WordPress.com notifications: Start following new blogs without visiting WordPress.com The Chrome extension also makes it easy to follow sites from your WordPress.com account by displaying a Follow button whenever you’re browsing a site that has an RSS feed. Clicking the Follow button…

• Your Stats Have a New Home

  Andy Skelton

  26 Jan 2012 | 10:46 am

  Are you addicted to checking your site stats? You are not alone. The stats dashboard has always been one of the most popular admin screens. It’s gratifying to know that people are visiting your place online. With the WordPress.com front page evolving into a one-stop shop for posting, exploring, following and reading blogs, it seemed natural to put your blog stats there, too.  Stats are becoming more and more about interacting with your readers and other bloggers. You’ll still see your summary stats and chart on your main dashboard, and the full stats page in your dashboard will…

• Reblogging is Back!

  Erica Johnson

  22 Jan 2012 | 1:27 pm

  As we mentioned last week, you can like and reblog posts directly from your reader, which displays a stream of all the updates published on all the blogs you follow from your WordPress.com account. We’ve also brought the reblog button back to the toolbar that appears at the top of the screen when you’re logged into WordPress.com. Note that you’ll only see the like and reblog options while you’re looking at individual posts. For example, you’ll see this on the left side of your toolbar while viewing http://en.blog.wordpress.com/2012/01/20/read-blogs: And your…

• New Theme: Newsy

  Philip Arthur Moore

  20 Jan 2012 | 12:18 pm

  It’s been an extra big week in the news ’round these parts, so much so that the launch announcement of our latest premium theme seems like an extra extra good way to headline our Friday. Newsy is a versatile business and news-friendly theme that offers up to ten different layouts, four footer columns, custom link and accent colors, and a custom site header. Brand and content-focused editorial teams will love publishing with this theme. Newsy: Home Page Designed by Themify, Newsy comes with an impressive set of Theme Options that afford you a great deal of flexibility with how you…

• Read All Your Favorite Blogs in One Place

  Erica Johnson

  19 Jan 2012 | 6:04 pm

  If you feel like it’s a chore to keep up with all your favorite blogs, you can now read posts from all the blogs you follow (even the ones that aren’t on WordPress.com!) in one convenient place on the WordPress.com home page: Your reader displays all the posts across all the blogs you follow in the order they were published, with the most recent content appearing at the top. You’ll see an excerpt of the introduction to each post, the first image in the post, and thumbnails of any other images that the post contains. You can even like and reblog WordPress.com content directly…

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  The Virginity Project

• 25 Jan 2012 | 10:29 am

  The Virginity Project

  25 Jan 2012 | 10:29 am

  I don’t do much of this these days. For one thing, the people in my book have already made a wonderful contribution and for another, it’s a big ask BUT……this is a little bit different because this media request is for British Marie Claire, one of the most respected women’s monthlies in the known universe. Marie Claire is looking for women (and men) who are still in touch with the person they lost their virginity to appear in an intelligent feature about how our 'first time' affects our future ideas about love and sex. Needless to say, Marie Claire is committed to…

• 23 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  The Virginity Project

  23 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  How to Lose Your Virginity: Hymen Marketplace from Trixie Films on Vimeo. As if to re-inforce last week's post, here is a clip from Therese Shechter's upcoming film, 'How To Lose Your Virginity'. This makes me want to shake with laughter and weep tears of frustration at the same time. To quote Adios Barbie, 'hymens tell as accurate a story about a woman’s sexual history as the tip of a man’s penis tells about his. That is, no story at all'. One does get the feeling that if the tables turned and men were the one's who were judged for the tips of their…

• Guatemalan Blues…..

  The Virginity Project

  15 Jan 2012 | 4:26 am

  A different day for the Virginity Project. Number 1, this is the first story I have ever received from Guatemala – tech-heads, do you think there is an app of the world somewhere that I could attach to the side of my blog that would block a country out every time I got a story from a new place? And number 2, I am not featuring a cheerful story today. One feels one should stick with the positive but really, life isn’t always like that and would I be helping anyone by selling the idea that it is? A reader wrote to me recently and said that all my stories seemed quite positive and that his…

• 1 Jan 2012 | 3:33 pm

  The Virginity Project

  1 Jan 2012 | 3:33 pm

  I was tidying up the hard drive on my laptop the other day, as one is wont to do at this time of year, when I came across a document I had completely forgotten about. I had titled it ‘the virgin diaries’ and it is a diary that begins right after I first had the idea for my book. Back when this blog wasn’t even a twinkle in my eye. For some reason, and as you will see, I had got it into my head that I couldn’t tell a single living soul about my book writing plans at work. Because otherwise they would sack me. They wouldn’t, but try telling me that at the time. I was quite possessed…

• 24 Dec 2011 | 10:45 am

  The Virginity Project

  24 Dec 2011 | 10:45 am

  Warning! Seasonal soppiness alert: The Virginity Project is going to post something warm and mushy. It is Christmas after all. And Christmas is a funny time of year. It’s a bit like L.A. It’s a wonderful town if you’ve got something good going on in your life but it’s a potential sprawling pool of loneliness if you don’t. The Virginity Project is having a high old time of it at the moment but for those who aren’t, take heart, nice things do happen, and often when you least expect them. A while back, I pondered on the idea of ‘love’ and what that meant for people. I was…

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  Rhi in Pink

• Henry is Two Months Old!

  Rhi

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:08 am

  Dear Henry, You’re two months old! How on earth did this happen? I can’t believe how much you’ve changed in the past few weeks. Sometimes, when you’re asleep, I look through pictures at you on my phone and marvel at all these changes. You’re not a teensy baby anymore. You smile ALL the time and it’s just the best thing ever. You’ve found your voice and love to coo at the “guys” on your play mat. Your favorite toys are “Bob the Bee” and “Milo the Monkey.” You love your bath and kick your feet in the water when we put…

• Friday Bullets

  Rhi

  13 Jan 2012 | 1:26 pm

  I think it’s time to admit to myself that there will only be Bullets on SOME Fridays. Henry turned two months old on Wednesday and has his two month checkup, complete with icky shots this morning. I’m super excited to see how much he weighs (the super scientific bathroom scale method says 13ish pounds) and how long he is. UPDATE: Shots happened. OH MY. Poor little guy. If you need us, we’re spending the day cuddling on the couch. Send cookies. My husband had his first business trip since Henry was born this week and I’m proud to report that we survived without too many…

• I have a lot to learn…

  Rhi

  10 Jan 2012 | 9:29 am

  Henry, who was 11 and a half pounds at his last weigh-in, is seen here in the outfit that I brought for him to wear home from the hospital (IT WAS LABELED NEWBORN). (He’s thinking, “Cool it with the giraffes, Mom.”) And, here he is partially seen in the OTHER outfit I brought for him to wear home from the hospital. Let me say that I’m REALLY GLAD that neither option fit as that would have made for a difficult delivery. Basically, if there’s every a Baby on Board v2, I’ll be sure to bring an ACTUAL newborn outfit.

• We’re doing the best we can

  Rhi

  9 Jan 2012 | 8:46 am

  After a few days of practically falling asleep the second Bill walked in the door in the evenings from exhaustion, I decided that it was time I figure out how to get our non-napping baby boy to nap, so that I can also nap for a bit each day. Sure, he falls asleep while nursing or in the Ergo, but the second I try to lay him ever so gently into his Pack and Play, his eyes bolt open. Sometimes, he even smiles at me, which makes it impossible to leave him there. But! He has to nap. Other people’s babies nap. Their babies nap, they have clean houses and time to style their hair. If I can…

• I didn’t know…

  Rhi

  6 Jan 2012 | 10:30 am

  …that the first time I peed post childbirth that I’d have an audience. …how “normal” I’d feel immediately after giving birth. Heartburn? GONE! …that I’d be doing baby laundry EVERY single day. …just how time consuming breastfeeding is. …how well I’d get at doing things with one hand. …how well I’d be able to function on very little sleep. …how happy it would make me to see my husband holding our child. …how many of our conversations would revolve around a certain someone’s bodily functions.

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  Scarleteen

• Why did I wind up in dating abuse?

  Heather Corinna

  27 Jan 2012 | 12:34 pm

  I am from a country where dating is taboo. I was not in a relationship till my early twenties. The following may be hard to understand but I need to talk about it and know why I let this happen to me. It was my first relationship and I had little idea what to expect. Things were fine till my bf learned another man was interested in me and I might be interested in him too. That was the first time he told me he loved me and wanted to marry me. A torrent of emotional abuse followed. He started to tell me things like I was fat (I was not...I was 5'3 and 113 pounds) and not as pretty as his exes.

• Rape is Rape: Lebanon Edition

  Anna Lekas Miller

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:31 pm

  In Lebanon (or at least, in Beirut) the joke is that it is equally likely to see a woman in a mini skirt as it is to see a woman in a hijab. In Lebanon (or at least, in Beirut), European tourists feel at ease that the Lebanese still speak a post-colonial French, and let Beirut be called the Paris of the Middle East. In Lebanon (or at least, in Beirut), tourists and Lebanese alike flock to the beaches and the nightclubs, openly drinking alcohol, smoking hookahs, and belly dancing to both popular western and Arabic music, creating a strange moment that many see as cultural influence, and many…

• When it comes to making sexual choices as a young person, do you feel/have you felt:

  Heather Corinna

  23 Jan 2012 | 12:36 pm

  strongly supported by adults, to the point that you feel very able to ask for help and be open, even about mistakes mostly supported by adults, but not enough to feel able to be very open or always ask for help somewhat supported by adults, but not enough to be honest or ask for help pretty unsupported by adults, to the point you're not going to talk with them at all about sex or ask for help very unsupported by adults, to the point you feel afraid to be honest or ask for help It really depends: I experience or have experienced a range with this when it comes to adults I can't say…

• Words Matter: Cheers to the FBI for Recognizing How Much

  Heather Corinna

  9 Jan 2012 | 4:00 pm

  (This post contains candid discussion of rape and sexual violence.) As some of you may know, I experienced two different sexual assaults when I wasn't yet in my teens within just one year of one another. The second time I was assaulted, my experience ticked all of the boxes there currently are in our culture for what is so often -- now, anyway, easily considered a "real" or "bonafide" sexual assault, or what Whoopi Goldberg, to my great disappointment, would call "rape-rape." I was a girl, and one with body parts universally recognized as "girl parts." My attackers were guys. Even worse when…

• I'm scared to touch my own vagina: why?

  Heather Corinna

  5 Jan 2012 | 10:39 am

  Hey. I'm 14 and I've never fingered myself. I've done other things, but the thought of fingering myself just seems gross. A couple times, I've tried to, but then I get to thinking about how gross vaginas are, and I chicken out. I know this is irrational, but do you have any advice on getting over this? Thanks. Read the answer...

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  The Frisky

• Evening Quickies: Behold, Michael Fassbender’s Naked Butt

  Jessica Wakeman

  27 Jan 2012 | 5:00 pm

  Michael Fassbender’s been sharing his naked tush with the world since he was 25 and he filmed this commercial for the European airline SAS. You’re welcome! [Queerty] Oprah is denying she is Blue Ivy Carter’s godmother. Whatever, that kid is going to get baller gifts from her anyway. [Mommyish] Fran Drescher says she was visited [...]

• Today’s Lady News: British Plastic Surgeons Say Advertising Their Procedures Should Be Banned

  Jessica Wakeman

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:40 pm

  The British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons, a society of plastic surgeons, says what they perform are medical procedures and the procedures should not be advertised the same way clothing or cosmetics are. BAAPS also asked that annual checks be carried out on surgeons. The group said it is concerned by the increasing attitude that just [...]

• This Week In Sex: 12 Striptease Tips & Scratching An Ankle Itch Is As Pleasurable As Sex

  Ami Angelowicz

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:20 pm

  Twelve things you need to know before you do that striptease for your man. No pole required. [iVillage] Speaking of stripteases, this woman did one in oncoming traffic and then slapped onlookers. [Huffington Post] No more excuses not to have an orgasm, ladies. There’s new news about the clitoris. [The Stir] Pictures of hot, wet [...]

• Fashion By The Numbers

  Winona Dimeo-Ediger

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:00 pm

  It’s time for your weekly dose of style stats! The couture shows in Paris this week gave us a wealth of interesting numbers involving barbecues, nipples, and airplane runways; not to mention other headlines like slipping profits for a retail behemoth and soaring ad pages for a major fashion mag. Read on to get the [...]

• Fun With Photoshop: If Stars Took Steroids!

  Amelia McDonell-Parry

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:50 pm

  I don’t know about you, but I’ve been dying to know what Megan Fox would look like with bulging, vein-y thigh muscles and an angry neck. theBERRY imagines other stars on ‘roids at the link… [theBERRY]

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  About.com Sexuality

• The Penis Roller Coaster

  25 Jan 2012 | 6:01 pm

  Construction metaphors figure prominently in iconic images of erections. Tall objects built on a flat plane, penetrating the sky, standing firm and tall, immoveable and awe inspiring in their stand-out-ness, their pokey-tude. But real erections aren't constructed from raw materials, they aren't built so much as they are evoked. And the analogy with construction falls apart completely when you consider that no one has complete control over their erections, and erections can disappear as easily as they arise. A roller coaster car might be a more apt metaphor. One of the few things we can say…

• Calling for Better Care: New Recommendations for Sex and Heart Health

  23 Jan 2012 | 6:01 pm

  In the past, if you had a stroke, a heart attack, or a more minor event that led to a diagnosis of cardiovascular disease and you asked your doctor about your options for having sex, the response wouldn't be very encouraging. Something along the lines of it being better safe than sorry, so why not wait. How long you had to wait, and exactly what you had to wait to do was never clear. But there wasn't much research to guide doctors, and in a society where sex is seen more as a perk and privilege of youth, the prudent advice was to be grateful you're alive, and not push it. Over the past few…

• Sexual Surrogacy Comes to Sundance

  19 Jan 2012 | 6:01 pm

  A new film, The Surrogate, has it's first screening on Monday at the Sundance Film Festival. According to the description of the film in the festival program, it's based on the writings of Mark O'Brien. O'Brien was a journalist and poet who wrote frankly and vividly about his life, most of which was spent inside an iron lung. One of his most shared pieces of journalism was an article he wrote about seeing a sexual surrogate. That article used to be available for free online but unfortunately it seems to have disappeared. Apparently this film is about the relationship between Mark and the…

• When Moving Is Bad for Sex

  17 Jan 2012 | 6:01 pm

  It may be hard to imagine sex without moving, but sometimes it's the moving that makes it hard to imagine ever having sex. This week instead of answering one sex question in particular I took inspiration from about a half dozen questions I've received over the past year all about whether or not it's "normal" for your sex life to slow down after you move in with a partner. Of course "normal" is code, and in this case I think it's code for a few things: predictable, okay, understandable, something to worry about. I tried to write a response using as little code as possible, and to offer some…

• Pee in Peace: Using Technology to Counter Bathroom Violence

  16 Jan 2012 | 6:01 pm

  I'm already getting excited about this year's Sex::Tech conference. For the past five years ISIS has organized a one of a kind international conference devoted to the newest developments in sexual health and technology. One thing I'm often struck by is how the most successful projects are often the simplest. Recently I heard about a new app which I think is a good example of this. I wanted to know more so I virtually sat down with Maureen Kelly, who is part of the team behind the new app and the Vice President for Programming and Communications at Planned Parenthood of the Southern Finger…

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  A Sensual Blog: Having My Cake and Eating It Too

• Being a good parent

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:28 pm

  “Sometimes being a good parent is knowing when not to parent. You have to step out of the way and let life happen to your kids.” ‘Norah Walker’ from the first series of ‘Brothers and Sisters’ Oh, how this struck a chord with me. We are so busy trying to protect them and yet sometimes we [...]

• Treat Thrush In Men and Women

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:50 am

  Further to the discussion in the comments box of my post on Friday about the effects of Candida, and the various methods of coping with this irritating condition, I was recently offered the chance to be an affiliate for Yeast Cleanser. This starts the process with a questionnaire that promises to send you a free personalised [...]

• Pleasurists #163

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  25 Jan 2012 | 9:24 am

  Photo courtesy of Blacksilk* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 162? Read it all [...]

• Spartacus

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  24 Jan 2012 | 4:26 pm

  It was a wet and windy Saturday here and I was waiting for a friend to come over. I had cleaned the flat and checked my emails so I was at a loose end and switched on the tv. With nothing more productive to do, I found myself flicking through the channels on [...]

• Relationship Status Updates

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  23 Jan 2012 | 9:07 am

  Great infographic from Lab42.com about what people find most attractive in a partner. Click the image to enlarge. Ruf is attractive – he smiles and my heart skips a beat. He’s definitely emotionally attentive – I have never felt so loved. Similar humour – well, sort of. Like most blokes, the more disgusting the [...]

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  TresSugar

• Bachelor Ben Attends Sundance, We Say Good Luck to Gabby, and Aussies Celebrate Australia Day

  Tara Sharp

  28 Jan 2012 | 6:00 am

  It was a week of celebrations and congrats, as China welcomed in the Year of the Dragon, Oscar nominations were announced, the land Down Under celebrated Australia Day, Hasty Pudding crowned its Woman of the Year, and Hollywood's finest hit Sundance and the Producers Guild Awards. It was also a busy week in the world of politics, with Obama's State of the Union speech, Gabby Giffords's last day in Congress, and the continued race between the Republican presidential candidates. See what you might have missed these past seven days in our week in pictures! View Slideshow ›

• Wedding Tips and Tricks From Pros in the Know

  Tara Sharp

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:28 pm

  Last weekend I attended the San Francisco Wedding Fair at the Four Seasons and gathered some great insight from the professionals on this year's hottest wedding trends. But it didn't end there! These wedding experts were also bursting at the seams with tips and tricks for bride-to-bes planning their big days, and I can't wait to share their helpful advice with you. So get their wedding words of wisdom now! View Slideshow ›

• Bridal Friday Link Time: A Bridal Shower For Grownup Girl Scouts

  TresSugar

  27 Jan 2012 | 2:39 pm

  Scout's honor: a Girl Scout-inspired bridal shower! - Green Wedding Shoes This art deco wedding has dancing pinup models and cigar girls - Ruffled If you love midcentury design, prepare to swoon over Yeah! Rentals - 100 Layer Cake Fun DIY fortune cookie favors - Project Wedding A wedding with Scrabble, flip cup, and rice crispy treats? Count us in! - Style Me Pretty This rom-com-inspired bridal shower is fit for a movie star - The Knotty Bride 10 ways to save on flowers - Glamour Bridal gown inspiration from the stars at the Golden Globes - Equally Wed New "Hey Girl" Ryan Gosling meme…

• A Picture For Every Year of Hillary Clinton's National Service

  Annie Scudder

  27 Jan 2012 | 2:05 pm

  "I think after 20 years, and it will be 20 years, of being on the high wire of American politics and all of the challenges that come with that, it would be probably a good idea to just find out how tired I am," Secretary of State Hillary Clinton told State Department employees yesterday. Hillary has been on the national stage for two decades, as a presidential candidate's wife, first lady, senator from New York, presidential candidate herself, and now as secretary of state. Although she didn't attain her goal of becoming the first woman elected president in the US, Hillary Clinton has blazed…

• The Way They Were: Exes at SAGs, Oscars, and More!

  Tara Sharp

  27 Jan 2012 | 1:00 pm

  The Screen Actors Guild Awards are Sunday, and there are sure to be some hot celebrity twosomes hitting the red carpet. But while this year's award-season couples may be celebrating anniversaries, engagements, and new additions to their families, award shows have also seen their share of celebrity exes. Hot pairs like Jake and Reese and Ryan and Rachel may not have made it, but they have found new happy endings. So take a walk down memory lane as we look back to the red-carpet romances that were. View Slideshow ›

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  Dating, singles, relationships, sex tips and advice blog for men and women.

• The Truth About Porkies: Are you comfortable with being lied to?

  Natalie (NML)

  27 Jan 2012 | 5:06 pm

  Recently, BR reader Magnolia shared a lengthy quote on lying from which the first line stuck out for me“As soon as there is any kind of deception, stop everything.” (source: Boundaries in Dating) Experience has taught me and so many others, that when you’re eager to date at any cost, you don’t trust yourself, and you’re actually willing to participate in an unhealthy relationship, you don’t stop everything – you continue. What this immediately communicates is that you’re very receptive to lies, which may shock you if you consider yourself to be…

• Do You Have a ‘Not Allowed To Fail’ Mentality To Dating & Relationships?

  Natalie (NML)

  25 Jan 2012 | 5:05 pm

  When I was a product design student, I learned through theory and experience that it’s better to recognise mistakes, which are actually opportunities for change, or even ‘failure’, which although it’s a lack of success, it at the same time also represents another opportunity for change. Recognising when something isn’t working and applying that knowledge was better than deciding “I am a product designer and anything I make is right and must work.” If you’ve ever watched something like Dragon’s Den, a British show where entrepreneurs pitch…

• When They’re Not Over Their Ex: A Lesson In Empathy

  Natalie (NML)

  23 Jan 2012 | 4:39 pm

  You meet someone, they ask you out, you enjoy yourself, you continue talking and spending time together, and feel the attraction and desire for a relationship building as the dates continue. Unfortunately, in spite of chemistry, common interests, apparent shared interests, direct and indirect references to the future etc, it becomes apparent that they’re not over their ex either because they tell you, or it becomes apparent through their actions. Despite the new ‘evidence’ that scuppers your ‘case’ for a relationship, they tell you they like you a lot and that…

• You Can’t Erase An Ex From Your Mind…But You Can Reduce Their Power AND Keep Pushing Forward

  Natalie (NML)

  20 Jan 2012 | 5:25 pm

  Recently I was talking with someone who was like a broken woman consumed with thoughts of her ex morning, noon, and night. “How am I supposed to stay NC if I can’t stop thinking about him all the time? I’m never going to be able to move on!” That’s when I thought “Woah! Hold up a second here – who said anything about NC being about forcing yourself to never have a thought about the person ever again?” No Contact is initially about not making or accepting contact, but it also provides the space to not only grieve the loss of the relationship, but…

• Are You On Standby? Why You’re Not Mr or Miss Last Minute Option

  Natalie (NML)

  18 Jan 2012 | 3:32 pm

  Over the past few days since I wrote about whether you’re ready to date again, there’s been a flurry of discussion in the comments about people who rely on making last minute plans under the guise of being ‘spontaneous’ and who when you try to make plans, or call them on their lack of commitment, get all shirty with you. This is what spontaneous looks like: You’re dating or in a relationship for a while, you see each other regularly, make plans in advance and then one day they phone up and say “I just found out that X is doing a gig tonight – do you…

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  Dating is Warfare

• Introducing, Cleavage

  Dating Trooper

  23 Jan 2012 | 8:42 pm

  While cooking dinner the other night, I had one of those random "aha!" moments – totally out of the blue and potentially life changing. Image: Bosom Button http://www.bosombutton.com/Not a product I've ever had the fortune to need. But the image reminds me of Cleavage. I think it started after I had an enjoyable chat on the phone with my friend, Cleavage. Cleavage and I met quite a few years ago -- actually the last time I set myself on a friend-making mission. Back then I was not a gimp, so I chose tennis (instead of beer) as my hobby (and the gut's showing it, believe me) and joined…

• Bland Beer

  Dating Trooper

  15 Jan 2012 | 1:14 pm

  Here's what happened on my visit with Beer Guy last weekend. I went into it with friendship as my expectation-- and a dash of potential for something more. By the time I entered his home and set the chips and salsa I brought down on the kitchen counter, I knew this would be a relationship with no extra spice. After giving me a friendly hug, the first words out of his mouth were, "The reason I disappeared for a few months was because I got pretty hot and heavy with someone soon after we met." That much I'd figured. Then he added, "But she broke up with me on New Year's Eve." Ah. I…

• The Yeast That Bonds

  Dating Trooper

  5 Jan 2012 | 11:57 pm

  While 2011 had its low points, the year was a significant improvement from 2010. In addition to exiting a relationship that was running on fumes, I accomplished most of the goals I set for myself, including: 1. Building up a solid archive of published feature stories to advance my freelance writing career (I published one or more story every month, and talked to some incredible talent in the process). 2. Finally began healing after four years of pain and suffering; while I am not exactly where I'd hoped (and probably never will be), I'm at peace with my state of being and am embracing what I…

• Generic New Year's Greetings

  Dating Trooper

  31 Dec 2011 | 7:24 pm

  It's a quiet late afternoon on New Year's Eve. I've spent the day much as I've spent the majority of this holiday break, by myself with little to do but take my dog for a walk, watch a movie, nap, tidy up and check Facebook. Much of the time it feels like heaven. But sometimes it feels like hell. While my New Year's Eve plans feel entirely acceptable to me, I realize that many of you will think me pathetic. Trust me, I sought out other options first -- even ones that didn't seem all that appealing. But my friends who are in town and without children either already had plans or just felt like…

• 22 Dec 2011 | 3:50 pm

  Dating Trooper

  22 Dec 2011 | 3:50 pm

  One of my dearest friends, a happily married Veteran friends with five (!) children, sent me this article from The Guardian that was shared with her by another of her late 30s, single friends whose romantic life has eerily echoed mine since we first met in our early 20s. Writer Kate Bolick Photo: Mike McGregor, the Observer It's a loooooong article on the sociology of singledom by Kate Bolick and I pretty much skimmed over the statistic-heavy paragraphs (numbers are not my strong suit). But overall it was an interesting read, if only to hear the voice of someone else in my same situation. It…

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  Mommy Has A Headache

• Public Slimdowns

  27 Jan 2012 | 9:35 am

  Reality Check: You don't have to be a portion control freak to lose weight The problem with announcing to your pals or the blogosphere that you are planning to lose weight is that you get a lot of stuff about how women shouldn't strive to be a size zero and all that gumpf. But when you say you want to lose weight mainly for health not vanity no one wants to hear it. So I just kept it buttoned and lost the weight. The fact is that I was overweight and now since I have lost fifteen pounds I feel a lot better and I am certainly nowhere near fitting into Posh's jeans. But the upside of…

• Weekend Rewind - The Sizzling Hot Edition

  4 Jan 2012 | 8:00 am

  Usually the lovely Multiple Mum hosts the Weekend Rewind - but this week I'm kicking back, pouring you all peppermint martinis and inviting you to rewind back in time with me. How do you do that you may well ask? Well, first I offer you a theme. Yes, this week's theme is cooking. Now, admit it. We all do it or at least try to. We've read books about it, we've watched TV programs about it and many of us are obsessed with it. It should come naturally, as it was to our cavemen ancestors who did it effortlessly, club in hand and…

• Revolting Resolutions!

  19 Dec 2011 | 12:29 pm

  As this alcoholic squirrel will testify - The desire to change may be strong but the flesh is sometimes weak New Year’s Resolutions. You’ve gotta love ‘em haven’t you? They’re basically just another opportunity for us to set ourselves up to fail, one more reason for us to hate ourselves. I have in the past made New Year’s resolutions that I’ve actually kept, like in 2008 when I resolved to read 100 books in the year. I made it to 104 in the end, although that did include quite a few very slim volumes, and a few Nancy Drew books. It definitely counts though, Nancy Drew gets…

• Would you spend £700 on a designer potty?

  14 Dec 2011 | 11:02 am

  Today I'm dealing with strange products marketed at children that make you scratch your head and think, hmm, who thought that up? 1. Posh Potty Psst, Posh Spice, here's the latest word in stylish pottys. Harper's probably getting to the stage soon when she'll be wanting to do number ones and twos in a fashion forward setting. So if you want something sparkly for Harper then grab this exclusive potty that's studded with Swarovski crystals. And if you dear reader are sobbing that you simply haven't got that kind of cash to spend on a potty to bribe your daughter, then…

• I'm not a tourist, I live here

  6 Dec 2011 | 9:25 am

  It is a funny old life, being an expat. I suppose when you tell people you are an expat it gives the impression that you have chosen a life of fun, excitement and adventure by choosing to wear the expat hat, when in some (namely my own) cases you were simply offered an opportunity to leave your country of birth and hopefully ended up somewhere better. I came to Baltimore, USA eleven years ago without much of a clue as to where I was moving to. The locals told me 'Baltimore grows on you' which sounded much like an unwanted wart on the sole of my foot! But I have to say…

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  Polyamory Weekly

• PW 304: The autonomy-intimacy scale

  Minx

  23 Jan 2012 | 10:46 pm

  Kathy Labriola discusses the autonomy-intimacy scale and how it might be affecting your relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 303: Poly communication tips with Kathy Labriola

  Minx

  17 Jan 2012 | 9:50 pm

  Kathy Labriola, a poly counselor and nurse and author of Love in Abundance, offers her tips for communication within open relationships. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 302: When metamours attack

  Minx

  10 Jan 2012 | 9:59 am

  Joreth, Puck and Minx give advice to a gal in a situation with a controlling and uncommunicative metamour. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 301: The metamour approach

  Minx

  2 Jan 2012 | 11:27 pm

  How do you approach a third for a threesome or just one-on-one dating? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 300: Celebrating YOU the listeners

  Minx

  20 Dec 2011 | 2:53 pm

  Celebrating you the listeners--with content by you.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

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  San Francisco Sex Information

• Is my Mirena IUD affecting my periods?

  Lil'Miss B

  4 Jan 2012 | 9:41 pm

  Q: Just a year ago I got a Mirena IUD. For the first few months I didn’t really get my period, there was occasional spotting. In the past month I have started to get a more regular spotting. It’s like a super light period. I dont know if I should be concerned. Please help! A: From what you are describing it would appear that your IUD is performing as it is intended. The Mirena IUD releases hormones into your uterus that are designed to reduce the amount of bleeding during a woman’s menstrual period in addition to preventing pregnancy. The reduction may not be 100%. If you…

• How can anal sex and ass-to-mouth be safe?

  Lil'Miss B

  30 Nov 2011 | 9:50 pm

  Q: I have seen in pornos that people have condom-less anal sex and condom-less ass to mouth. I was wondering if you knew what they did to ensure the cleanness of that area on the inside? A: First off, pretty much anything you see in porno is an exaggerated sex practice. The performers are taking certain risks, which they understand going in to the scenes. Porn performers are required to know and be able to prove their STD status at all times. To answer the broader question we can give you some information about cleanliness and risks of anal sex and ass to mouth play of any kind (ass to mouth…

• Can you feel when a man cums inside?

  Lil'Miss B

  9 Nov 2011 | 10:06 pm

  Q: My boyfriend always asks me if I feel him cum. I can’t feel it. I can tell when he cums from his physical change or sounds he makes but I can’t feel anything inside me. Is this unusual that I can’t feel anything? When reading porn, it makes you thing that you should be able to feel it. But hey, how true is that? A: It’s common that women don’t feel their partner ejaculating inside of them; many other women report this. While there are nerve endings in the vagina, most are close to the vaginal entrance rather than deeper inside. Many women do report that they…

• Is it rude to give your partner tips on how to please you?

  Lil'Miss B

  26 Oct 2011 | 9:24 pm

  Q: If you are looking for more excitement during sex with your partner, is it wrong to ask him to do something that turns you on? To him, it’s a turn off and he gives up on sex completely. When he wants sex, which is almost everyday, I’m not as thrilled cause he’s a quick cummer. I try to boost my energy so we can try but I don’t get turned on by just seeing naked people. For him I just take off my clothes and he’s hard. I try to ask him to do a few simple things that turn me on like finding my hole without me telling him where to go. He doesn’t bother to…

• How do I deal with my girthy penis?

  Lil'Miss B

  21 Sep 2011 | 10:13 pm

  Q: My penis has too much girth. Erect, it’s a little less than 6 inches in circumference, but none of my girlfriends has ever been comfortable with it. Especially now that my current partner has had menopause. I’m wondering if there’s a special condom that restricts circumference but not length. I expect not, but perhaps there’s something else to do about it. Nothing gruesome, most of the time I like it the way it is. A: Even if your penis is too thick to be comfortable for your partners at first, there are indeed things you can do to make sex more comfortable which…

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  Beyond the Birds & the Bees

• A Closed World: A Web Game on LGBTQ Issues

  Sex, Etc.

  25 Jan 2012 | 4:48 pm

  GAMBIT Game Lab created a prototype of a video game called, A Closed World. The game was created in response to the lack of LGBTQ related material in the video game world. In this game, the player is in control of a character who explores a forest that is known to have demons lurking in it. In order to overcome the difficulties of having a “prohibited relationship,” your character must battle the demons. The demons attack by forcing their beliefs on you, and you fight back by defying their views on love and the “ideal” relationship. Your only weapons are logic, passion, ethics and…

• Gay Men Don’t Get Fat

  Sex, Etc.

  18 Jan 2012 | 5:22 pm

  Photo by Henry Hargreaves Recently The New York Times interviewed Simon Doonan, a major player in the fashion industry, about his new book Gay Men Don’t Get Fat. In the book, Doonan, a gay man, uses humor to talk about sexual orientation and food. In Doonan’s world, there are two clear categories of food: straight and gay. This idea made his interview over lunch with a New York Times writer very funny. Doonan was critical of his interviewer for getting a panini loaded with meat and cheese, because this kind of food is typical of the way Doonan says heterosexual men eat. Doonan’s…

• Tide on Gender

  Sex, Etc.

  9 Jan 2012 | 6:38 pm

  There’s an ad for Tide Booster detergent that portrays a prim-and-preppy mother, dressed all in pink, sitting in a frilly and ultra-feminine living room, while her daughter, dressed in camo and cargo shorts, plays with trucks at her feet. The mother says that they “tried the ‘pink thing’,” but that her daughter insisted on more traditionally masculine clothes. When the daughter’s clothes are saved from crayon stains by Tide Booster, the mother’s reaction is “…it’s kinda too bad.” And when she asks her daughter, “playing another parking garage, honey?” her praise…

• Does This Pose Make Me Look Absurd?

  Sex, Etc.

  4 Jan 2012 | 1:17 pm

  Most of us are aware of how fashion magazines and lipstick commercials too often depict women: We’re reduced to overly sexualized, dolled-up mannequins in skimpy clothes and lots of makeup. And the result is harmful: women are constantly exposed to commercial ideals of beauty and impossibly Photoshopped models, which can be extremely damaging to their body image. One way to combat this over-sexualization is comprehensive sexual education, which teaches young women about healthy body image and that they can combat sexualization. Artist Yolanda Dominguez has come up with another, more unusual…

• The Bully Project

  Sex, Etc.

  21 Dec 2011 | 10:50 am

  When is the last time your feelings were hurt because of someone else’s words? My answer is—not so long ago. For as long as I can remember, classmates have laughed about my last name, “Fung-Wiener,” and it took me years to embrace my name as a goofy representation of my culturally diverse background. Most teens deal with bullying in some way during their high school experiences. Haven’t you? The Bully Project is a grassroots movement that uses local campaigns, video projects and social media “to build an alliance of students, parents, school staff, policy makers and engaged…

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  Silent Porn Star

• Art Mimics Still Nude Life

  Silent Porn Star

  16 Jan 2012 | 1:19 am

  A vintage nude photo of Ann Coolidge, taken by Joseph Jasgur: 1942 verso ink-stamped full nude pin-up photograph of Ann Coolidge taken along the California Coast, a leggy full body nude portrait photograph that captures the moment in a documentarian fashion with assembled photographers in view – an interesting take and in contrast to the [...]

• The Old Pussy-Scalping Joke

  Silent Porn Star

  8 Jan 2012 | 4:09 pm

  In what can only be a case of insanity, a clearly white male child dressed as an “Indian” (for certainly something so racist in humor didn’t intend dignity with a Native American credit — even if this looks like it’s from the 1940s), scalps a woman — she’s left holding her “smarting” genitals while the [...]

• Gypsy Rose Lee Had A Sister

  Silent Porn Star

  5 Jan 2012 | 3:52 pm

  A Bruno of Hollywood portrait photograph, circa 1940s, of June Havoc, aka Baby June and Dainty June, the sister of Gypsy Rose Lee. This is a wonderful art deco portrait photograph that measures 7 3/4″ x 10″ and looks great as seen. By the New York-based burlesque photographer Bruno of Hollywood, this is likely a [...]

• Vintage Rack Lighting

  Silent Porn Star

  5 Jan 2012 | 5:50 am

  Taken in the 1960s by Bunny Yeager for The Seymour Lighting Company, this photo features a near-nude model, draped in a sheer peignoir. While “rack lighting” may not have been a possible euphemism then, I refused to make a headlights joke. *wink* The seller says: Sometimes in this field real life is stranger than fiction [...]

• Vintage Art Nudes Catalog

  Silent Porn Star

  27 Dec 2011 | 7:17 pm

  I wasn’t going to post this; I was just going to bid on it. But now that it’s soared past my budget… Alta Art Studies, Volume Two, 1923: [A]n original circa 1923 fine art photograph sampler catalog of images by Xan Stark for Alta Studios of San Francisco, California. This was a clever marketing catalog [...]

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  Simple Marriage

• What if things blew up and became dramatically better?

  Corey

  27 Jan 2012 | 11:04 am

  We’re almost a month into a new year (man, time flies), and this year may have started out great … or maybe not. Perhaps there’s been a chronic tension in your life or your marriage for months, and your hope that the new year would some how alter things hasn’t come true. You and your spouse may have reached the level of co-existing for a while together. And when friends or family come into the picture you have to “put on a show,” as if everything’s okay. Only, everything’s not okay. It downright sucks. It may not be to the level of divorce or…

• Is Your Marriage Too Close?

  Corey

  24 Jan 2012 | 12:37 pm

  Post written by Dr. Corey Allan. There’s a popular belief that once a person gets married, everything will be smooth sailing. Romance will naturally occur, your spouse will be your best friend, and there will be plenty of “Hallmark” moments between you. If you’ve been married any length of time you know this simply isn’t true. One of the main problems many couples face in marriage is they create a marriage that’s too close. They strive to capture the illusion of what they thought it would be like in the beginning by getting closer to each other. This…

• 6 Tips for Step Parents in a Dominant Parenting Role

  Melissa

  22 Jan 2012 | 3:59 pm

  Post written by Blended Family columnist Melissa Gorzelanczyk of Peace & Projects. Have you ever felt like your family takes you for granted? I know I have. In most households, there is one parent who does a majority of the parenting – the dominant parent responsible for enforcing the rules and routines of the house. This happens naturally for whichever parent spends the most time with the kids. In our family, that’s me – I work as a freelance writer from home, so it makes sense that I’m the one guiding them through homework routines and – to make a long…

• The Power of the Candid Compliment

  Sean

  17 Jan 2012 | 8:32 am

  Post written by dates and romance columnist Sean Marshall of Family Rocketship. Let’s go on a journey together. Think back to the first time you saw your spouse. Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you with? Do you remember? Now, think about what most impressed you about them at that moment. Maybe she had a beautiful smile.  Maybe he had incredible blue eyes. Maybe it was her laugh. Maybe it was his dance moves. With first impressions, it’s typically something physical that’s first appealing. Now fast-forward just a bit to when you were dating. As you got to know your future…

• Lighter Side: More Communication

  Jerry

  12 Jan 2012 | 5:01 pm

  Lighter Side: More Communication is a post from: Simple Marriage Click the post title to leave a comment.

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  Honey and Lance | Dating, Relationships, Pickup, Sex, Life

• The Relationship Reset Technique

  Lance

  27 Jan 2012 | 9:46 pm

  I’ve been doing some experimenting with my relationships recently and one thing I’ve found is that straight up communication isn’t that effective. When I say communication, I mean sitting down and talking face-to-face. Talking is useful and has it’s place, but more is needed. What I’ve found is that something has to happen in the relationship, basically a process that leads to a confrontation. I call this process a change agent. In a recent relationship, I had a girlfriend that was taking my generosity for granted. I used this technique: I froze her out for a…

• Is Performing the Best Part of Life?

  Lance

  28 Dec 2011 | 3:34 pm

  Over the holidays, while watching The Nutcracker live on TV, I had an epiphany. Here it is: Performance and the act of performing is critical to the human experience. What spurred that thought was watching interviews with several of the kids who played major characters in the production. Even at a young age, children are very much aware that they’re on stage, performing, being judged for their performance, and growing as a result of the experience. I look back on my life and recall the most vivid, most memorable experiences are ones where I’m performing, especially at a high…

• Here is What Game for 30-Year-Old Dudes Looks Like

  Lance

  22 Sep 2011 | 9:35 pm

  Here is what game for guys in their 30′s (and beyond) should look like. Guys in their 30′s should be successful professionals and have lots of money. At least enough money to sustain a good lifestyle and a family (if you’re into the family thing). You’re either a working professional with a cool career or a small business owner, or both. Either way, you’re driven, ambitious, creative, and a badass. If you’re single, it’s by choice, and you can always get girlfriends. Even if you live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, you have options. It is…

• My Advice For a Chick Frustrated With Fast Sex

  Lance

  15 Sep 2011 | 10:54 am

  I found Juliet Jeske’s post, Dating After Divorce In a City of Sluts, via the Evan Marc Katz blog. Jeske is a divorced comedian and artist in New York City. She’s starting over in the NYC dating scene and frustrated with how fast things move in the dating world. Her complaint is a common one, that sex happens too fast and guys want to get laid on the first date. I’m a big believer in fast sex, before any kind of gf-bf relationshop has been established. There are good reasons for this, which I will address in a followup post. For now, let’s go with the assumption that…

• Wedding Planning

  Honey

  13 Sep 2011 | 3:25 pm

  Hi, everyone!  Just wanted to touch base and let you know that a) everything’s going great, and b) predictably, wedding planning is slowly becoming the center of my life.  Fortunately, however, Jake is MUCH more into the wedding than I am, so my primary jobs have actually been to be a receptive audience to the HOURS of online research that he puts into every decision, and to rein him in whenever he starts going overboard (which is pretty often).  So far, we have decided: We’re getting married on a cruise ship before embarkation, then everyone can join us on the cruise or leave…

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  Sexy Swinging

• The Invisibles

  Spanknsparkle

  17 Jan 2012 | 8:06 am

  Most people living in the Vanilla World have a very unrealistic perception of our lifestyle. Their only information, or rather 'misinformation', being that fed to them by the media. Therefore they tend to think that we're all crazed nymphomaniacs, devoid of self control or morality. But I can assure you that in the four years that we've been swinging we've met an array of people from all walks of life, most of which are just ordinary everyday people, living on the most part 'normal' lives.Below are all the professions that we've met so far in this secret swinging world, some of which I think…

• Submission of the Conscious Mind

  Spanknsparkle

  3 Mar 2011 | 8:20 am

  Time to redress the balance, to put a few things right, banish my lifestyle struggles, or perhaps just end this journey forever? You see, I seem to have acquired very high expectations of late, ones that always ruin the night for me, ones that won't let me try anything new, nor allow me to test my boundaries. I constantly pass by the less than perfect specimen, turn my nose up at people who don't instantly make me swoon. I know, I know, who the hell do I think I am anyway?! Well no-one really, but in the three or so years that we've been swinging, Mr S has evolved and molded himself into what…

• Kylie getting into the 'swing' of things?

  Spanknsparkle

  11 Jun 2010 | 7:17 am

  Click picture below to see Kylie's new video

• A snippet, a mere morsel of things to come.......

  Spanknsparkle

  28 May 2010 | 6:53 am

  Long silk legs draped around his neck, pert juicy breasts, fleshy nipple in his mouth. I love nothing more than watching my husband pleasure another woman. I marvel, fixated on her face, watching her expression melt into ecstasy, as he eases himself into her. Slowly at first, pushing deep inside, filling her with his size, so beautiful to share. Her hands slide over his taunt muscular body, feeling his strength, drinking in his dominant form.I sit in the corner, perched on my chair, a dirty grin spread upon my face, as I savour the stunning display unfold before me. Rhythmic, sultry, stirring…

• Lost in Confusion

  Spanknsparkle

  15 Mar 2010 | 7:00 am

  Once bitten, twice shy, or drink from the devils cup and pay forever more?I've been under a sea of bodies, trying to hide my shyness,Finding myself helplessly witnessing a car crash of an alternative lifestyle.Being repulsed and recoiling in horror,Then surprising myself with my brashness, my trashy mouth, my madness.Everything, anything to cover my revolt.Why must I always set unachievable levels?I am not looking for a life partner.I am not looking for a forever friend.Then why must I insist on tall, lean & handsome?Why can't I just settle for short, fat & ugly?I hate the shallow, I…

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  LUSTY LADY

• Scarf love

  Rachel

  27 Jan 2012 | 12:20 am

  I bought a scarf today. I had seen one like it on someone earlier this week and thought, That looks so warm. It was raining today and I am going to Milwaukee soon but the real reason I bought it wasn't warmth so much as comfort. It's the kind of scarf that I will want to sleep with, and very likely will, the kind I wish I could transform into a blanket or sweater. It's comforting, and that is worth the price alone. It's also big, so even I will be hard pressed to lose it. I was sitting in Housing Works Bookstore Cafe when I started this post (and am super excited about my Best Sex Writing…

• Want to read: Anne of Hollywood by Carol Wolper

  Rachel

  26 Jan 2012 | 7:32 pm

  A new Carol Wolper novel is a reason to celebrate! I'm looking forward to reading Anne of Hollywood soon. A little birdie is getting me a signed copy. Stay tuned for my review!Description:Skirts may be shorter now, and messages sent by iPhone, but passion, intrigue, and a lust for power don’t change. National bestselling author Carol Wolper spins a mesmerizing tale of a twenty-first-century Anne Boleyn.Wily, intelligent, and seductive, with a dark beauty that stands out among the curvy California beach blondes, Anne attracts the attention of Henry Tudor, the handsome corporate mogul who…

• Get your orgasm on with audio erotica!

  Rachel

  24 Jan 2012 | 2:54 pm

  Like to listen? Check out 25 stories of female orgasm narrated by Lucy Malone, available now for your listening pleasure from Audible.com. Want a taste of what's in the book? Read my story "Belted" for free (that one is very kinky, but the stories truly range all over the place).Introduction: Let Me Count the Ways…The Waiting Game Elizabeth Coldwell What’s in a Name? Jacqueline Applebee Chemistry Velvet Moore The Chair Lolita Lopez Fixing the Pipes Susie Hara Share Dusty Horn Hurdles Rowan Elizabeth Seeing Stars Louisa Harte Old Faithful Sylvia LowryPaying It Forward Kendra Wayne The Big…

• Happy National Peanut Butter Day!

  Rachel

  24 Jan 2012 | 2:25 pm

  I'm a whirlwind of writing, editing, blogging and trying not to have a panic attack as I get ready to escape for 9 days. For anyone jealous of my Hawaii trip, after that I head to Milwaukee, where I'm hosting an erotic writing workshop February 9th, appearing on live TV, and attending Iron Cupcake Milwaukee, not to mention trying to stay warm, so, you know, hot then cold.Today is National Peanut Butter Day! Celebrate with some cupcake photos I took (all these were absolutely delicious) and click through for more. Food holidays are now my life. Not sure I'd give up erotica entirely if I could…

• Loved this tweet

  Rachel

  23 Jan 2012 | 8:49 pm

  Thanks to everyone for reading me @raquelita and here and anywhere else. There are a million reasons to have doubts and I so often have let and continue to let those doubts derail me from writing, but I'm trying to put a stop to that!

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  violet blue ® :: open source sex

• Eye Candy: One Shot – Leila and Carmen’s Glorious Threesome

  violet blue

  26 Jan 2012 | 6:52 am

  My goodness this gallery (and video) is hot.

• [Video] The Ultimate Ad for Bacon Lube

  violet blue

  25 Jan 2012 | 2:22 pm

  The cheeky monkeys at adult retailer LoveHoney UK decided to send a bit of special sauce into my inbox this morning when they emailed me about their new ad for Bacon Lube. It looks like the bacon flavored lubricant I told you about back in November is now commercially available! The cool peeps at LoveHoney (they of the sex toy zombie survival videos and who also now have a US store and recently acquired CoCo de Mer) clearly had a lot of fun with this one – extra fun points for the “thumbs-up” shot and the cute boy who seems to have put his bacon on the line during the making…

• Is Male Sexuality to Blame For War?

  Thomas Roche

  24 Jan 2012 | 4:00 pm

  In a bizarrely credulous article, the Telegraph has answered the question of what causes war. That’s right! You guessed it…it’s boners. Not economics, resource scarcity, ethnic and racial prejudice, acquisitive and incompetent political leaders, short-sightedness or failure to learn from history. Nope! It’s just plain boners, pure and simple. They’re bad. Here’s how the Telegraph puts it, in an article titled “Male sex drive ‘to blame for world’s conflicts’.” The male sex drive is to blame for most of the world’s…

• Sex News: Ralph Fiennes, Amazon Erotic Plagiarism, Melissa Rivers, AVN and IsAnyoneUp, Newt Gingrich

  violet blue

  23 Jan 2012 | 1:56 am

  Aroused (release: Spring 2012) features a look at the lives of some of adult film’s most recognizable stars such as Jesse Jane, Belladonna, Katsuni, Allie Haze, Kayden Kross, April O’Neil, Francesca Lé, Lisa Ann, Brooklyn Lee, Alexis Texas, Asphyxia Noir, Teagan Presley, Ash Hollywood, Tanya Tate, Lexi Belle and Misty Stone. Witness the Classiest Trailer for a Documentary About Porn Stars That You’ll Ever See (Film School Rejects) Sex educator Dr. Charlie Glickman faces off against Newt Gingrich’s “open relationship” and the popular conflation of consensual…

• Eye Candy: Best of Babes

  violet blue

  22 Jan 2012 | 8:37 pm

  Kaila – Differencia Tatu – Smussato Belle – Belleza Felicity – Equilibrio Ruth Medina – Cheek Sakura – Presenting Sakura Nikky Case – Superstar (pictured, top) Frida – Kitchen Sink Engelie – First Session (sound alert) Dominika – Horny (sound alert) Marta – Solo Liza and Angell Summers – Duetto (image at right) Jolie, Leonelle and Candy Beatrix and Katika Nikitta and Aiden Krissy, Caprice and Regina

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  Savage Love Podcast

• Savage Love Episode 275

  Dan Savage

  20 Jan 2012 | 7:56 pm

  We've been getting lots of calls about losing one's virginity. Dan addresses a couple of them. Hey, 17-year-old boy: The tech-savvy at-risk youth would very much like to go back in time and lose our virginity to you. A man catches a lot of heat for being attracted to large women, so he dates thin women. How can he get over this?  And you will learn a little Hebrew.    We teach you all sorts of things on this show. Teach us something: 206-201-2720     This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter GGG  at…

• Savage Love Episode 274

  Dan Savage

  17 Jan 2012 | 3:00 am

  A newly employed dishwasher wants to have sex with both of his bosses because he suspects they may be swingers. Is this a wise course of action?  Dan discusses the intricate financial and marketing strategies of selling your used underpants. Everybody worries about coming out to their parents, but what about grandparents? Here's a big shout-out to the open-minded oldsters out there.  And we know you're out there.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is…

• Savage Love Episode 273

  Dan Savage

  6 Jan 2012 | 11:47 am

  If your lady has a dream about being penetrated by five dicks, does that mean she actually wants to be penetrated by five dicks? Have you ever masturbated for a pretty lady on Chatroulette? Well, here's a man with a pretty face who looks a lot like a lady. Perhaps you've already met. And for those of you with troubled relationships with your siblings, come hear the horrid tale of the woman who hacked into her sister's e-mail, discovered that she has bi tendencies, and then forwarded these e-mails to everyone she knows. Now your sister doesn't look so bad, right?   Right? 206-201-2720…

• Savage Love Episode 272

  Dan Savage

  3 Jan 2012 | 3:00 am

  Dan speaks with Dr. James Cantor, professor of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto, about pedophilia. What the hell can be done?  Also, Science weighs in on the mysterious case of the mushroom in the jizz.  Happy New Year.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

• Savage Love Episode 271

  Dan Savage

  27 Dec 2011 | 3:00 am

  It's the long-anticipated holiday horror show!  We asked for your tales of holiday lovin' gone wrong, and you delivered in force. You'll hear some freaky shit, a cautionary tale or two, and even some holiday gift ideas!!! Thanks for calling, listening, and sticking with us all these years.  206-201-2720 Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

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  Very Smart Brothas

• Sh*t Diva Dudes Say To Bougie Black Girls: The Video

  The Champ

  26 Jan 2012 | 10:02 pm

  Only because y’all asked for it…Oh, and click here if you need a refresher on what exactly a Diva Dude is. —Damon Young (aka “The Champ”)

• My Pittsburgh Problem

  The Champ

  25 Jan 2012 | 11:03 pm

  From young Wallace’s bewilderment when venturing outside of the city and hearing crickets for the first time to Chris informing Snoop that people from outside of the Baltimore/D.C. area probably wouldn’t be very familiar with go-go music, a constant theme from the HBO series The Wire was how isolated inner city Baltimore’s inhabitants were from the rest of the world. Although — if the atlas application on my phone is correct — they’re neighbors with Towson, Essex, Silver Spring, and others, they might as well have been stuck on the island from Lost, aware of their star-crossed…

• Takeaways From Yesterday’s “Rape Responsibility” Discussion

  The Champ

  24 Jan 2012 | 11:01 pm

  1. I made the decision to write full-time a little over a year ago. While the transition hasn’t always been smooth, I maintain that it’s the best choice I ever made. The successes we’ve had at VSB collectively and I’ve had personally have been documented, and 2012 is shaping up to be even better.I’m bringing this up because all of this success has undoubtedly made my already large head even bigger. I’ve become more secure in my voice and my ability to articulate, amuse, and entertain, but with that came an arrogance that leads to days like yesterday.I…

• “Rape Responsibility,” And The Fine Line Between Victim-Blaming and Common Sense

  The Champ

  23 Jan 2012 | 11:20 pm

  Zerlina Maxwell is a friend of mine, and I understand where “Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped” — her latest piece at Ebony.com — is coming from.I definitely agree that “Telling women that they can behave in a certain way to avoid rape creates a false sense of security and it isn’t the most effective way to lower the horrible statistics which show that 1 in 5 women will become victims of a completed or attempted rape in their lifetime.”I also agree that “We need anti-rape campaigns that target young men and boys.  Campaigns that teach them…

• No, I Haven’t Seen Red Tails Yet. Why Not? Good Question.

  The Champ

  22 Jan 2012 | 11:03 pm

  (Today’s post is a response to each of the dozen or so people who’ve already asked me if I’ve seen Red Tails yet, and the dozens who’ll probably continue to ask me after today.)1. The guilt-based marketing has completely turned me off. I’m going to expand on this a bit more later this week at Ebony.com, but nothing makes me not want to do something I was already kind of “eh, maybe.” about than being told I need to do it. And, being beaten over the head for a month with the completely disingenuous and manipulative idea that I must support Red Tails…

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• #DumpUrEx: Join Our Break Up With Your Ex Kick-Off Twitter Party!

  YourTango

  27 Jan 2012 | 8:16 pm

  February 1st marks the start of YourTango's second annual 'Break Up With Your Ex' campaign! For the first two weeks of February, we'll be sharing great articles, expert advice, survey results and more about how to successfully cut ties from your past love and move on to a better, healthier, sexier you! To kick things off, we'll be hosting a fun party on Twitter, and you're invited!read more

• 5 Questions To Ask About Porn On Valentine’s Day [EXPERT]

  martyklein

  27 Jan 2012 | 6:29 pm

  Valentine’s Day—the ultimate day of romance, fairy tales, and absolutely ideal intimacy. This year, how about something else—how about honoring your relationship and your sexuality by doing a reality check on an issue that complicates, confuses, and frustrates a lot of people? Porn. His porn.read more

• 8 Signs You Should Take A Break From Your Relationship

  The Stir

  27 Jan 2012 | 5:08 pm

  Taking a break is one of the most challenging, frustrating, and saddening parts of a relationship. No one wants to feel as though their relationship has failed or that they themselves have somehow failed. But sometimes, a break is necessary. Not only is it necessary, sometimes, it's a good thing.read more

• Study Says Cohabitation Has Advantages Over Marriage

  Stefanie Lindenbaum

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:17 pm

  The Journal of Marriage and Family recently conducted a study which found that there are few advantages for married couples as far as psychological well-being, health or social ties, compared with unmarried couples living together. The study shows that while there are great benefits to marriage and cohabitation over the single life, these benefits weaken as couples depart the "honeymoon period."read more

• A-List Links: Why Jennifer Love Hewitt Is Stripping In This Video

  Kyla J

  27 Jan 2012 | 4:04 pm

  We weren't expecting to see Jennifer Love Hewitt strip down again this week (especially since we already saw her in this risqué photo shoot)—but we have to give it to her, the girl looks good singing and doing her thang in this music video for her new show... about hookers.read more

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• Low Sexual Desire in Men: What the Heck?

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  27 Jan 2012 | 7:27 pm

  Sex therapist and author Dr. Stephanie Buehler discusses reasons men lose interest in sex.

• Sex, Love, and and OCD on "Glee"

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  18 Jan 2012 | 12:16 pm

  Sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler discusses the "Glee" episode in which Will Schuster hesitates to propose to Emma Pillsbury because of her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Find out more about sex, love, and mental illness.

• 10 Tips for a Super Sex Life in the New Year

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  3 Jan 2012 | 2:03 pm

  Want a better sex life in the New Year? Of course you do! Leading sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler gives you top tips on how to have more sexual energy in 2012.

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  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  12 Dec 2011 | 5:56 pm

  Have Yourself a Healthy Relationship this Christmas Holidays are a difficult time for many couples. Everyone is challenged by demands on their time, but relationship expectations make demands, too. We expect our partners to be thoughtful, romantic, and present during...

• Penn State Sex Scandal: Sexual Secrets and Reporting Sexual Abuse

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  18 Nov 2011 | 7:15 pm

  Psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler discusses zero tolerance and reporting of childhood sexual abuse in light of the Penn State scandal.

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  21 Jan 2012 | 6:49 pm

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  21 Jan 2012 | 6:40 pm

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• VitaliKoR Side Effects

  Mike

  15 Jan 2012 | 9:26 am

  Does VitaliKoR Have Any Side Effects?If you’ve spent whenever considering erectile dysfunction treatments, chances are you’ve find advertisements engrossed in warnings. Most male enhancements (including medications to help remedy impotence problems) plenty of potential uncomfortable side effects to allow you to wonder if making love is even worth a chance. Fortunately, with VitaliKoR, this isn’t really a worry.VitaliKoR is All-NaturalVitaliKoR is entirely natural, so men that utilize it don’t run the identical probability of serious negative effects as those who use some other male…

• Vitalikor Reviews

  Mike

  15 Jan 2012 | 8:56 am

  Vitalikor Reviews VitaliKor is usually a erectile dysfunction dual system, which consists of powerful, proven blend of ingredients which can put an end to all of your heightened sexual performance problems.VitaliKor is constructed from 100% natural extracts, examined and accepted by doctors around the globe.What benefits you…

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  Mike

  23 Dec 2011 | 2:08 pm

  VitaliKoR Male Enhancement is a sexual enhancement booster for men that is intended to give you back your libido and vigor that you once had in your youth. VitaliKoR Male Enhancement claims to give you both physical and emotional benefits that will enhance your love life.

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• Stories from “Cabin” by Louis Marvin

  New Contributor

  27 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  The Attack of the Mad Ax Man “Watch the attack of the mad ax man” —Michael Schenker Group He sat in his lawn chair, in front of his cabin, with birds singing and wind whispering the needles of his pines. He had on boots, Levi’s and a lumberjack shirt. He had one leg straight, and one bent and under the chair. He held his ax in his hands. The smaller trees were calling him again. Those bullies of great stature needed to be taken down a notch and give the small trees and shrubs a chance to catch the sun and for them to grow too. He was some sort of mad reverse botanist, a bringer of…

• 3 poems by Louis McKee

  New Contributor

  23 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  STATE’S WITNESS Maybe I was talking too much. Maybe I let it slip– I knew somebody, somebody who could get things done. St. Brigid, go gcuidímid. I guess I used to say it, dropping names, and I heard this one from my grandmother; she was from the old country and knew things, a lot more than anyone knew: St Brigid… and yeah, I said it, said she could help me– and then she said something, but I wasn’t thinking at the time, didn’t realize what it meant. “Could she make someone’s dick fall off?” I thought she was joking. It was only later…

• The Other One Percent by William Burns

  New Contributor

  18 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  I don’t want to pay back my student loans. I don’t like foreclosures. I’m against police brutality. But how do you get from protest to sweet talk? How do you move the conversation from Wall Street to the bedroom? It took some trial and error, but I eventually realized that what works at a bar does not work at la revolution. Take, for example, a typical conversation with a revolutionary lady when I first started: William Burns: Hi. Revolutionary Lady: Hello. WB: Corporations suck. RL: Totally. [I move closer, try to establish bodily contact.] WB: It’s getting pretty crowded here. Want…

• 3 poems by Jacqueline Nha Pham

  New Contributor

  16 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Flor de Muerto The last time we saw Feliciana, she was on the cover of Suicide Girls, fully nude, a tattooed silhouette with a hand-scripted neck piece that reads: “Ich Bin, Je Suis, I am.” She was my favorite sobrina. The altar is full of Aztec marigolds, from sugared skulls to candied pumpkin, and tiny multi-colored trinkets are scattered above and below the black and white pictures of Feliciana: ages 3 to 26. I stand here with her sister, Adora, watching the male relatives down shots of tequila, and their wives sharing whispered anecdotes of Feliciana as a wayward child. A little boy…

• Writer’s Cell Block by Dana Kabel

  New Contributor

  13 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Originally published at A Twist of Noir Pete woke up kissing cold concrete and his head felt like it was splitting in half and the bottle of whatever he drank the night before was trying to crawl out. “What the fuck?” he said in a broken glass voice. Someone laughed. Springs creaked. He peeled his sore eyes open and focused on the vagrant that was sitting on a metal cot trying to light a used cigarette. Next to the cot was a steel toilet with no lid, and the only door in the room was made of steel bars. “Oh shit… shit… shit…” “Good morning, sunshine,” the vagrant…

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• Can I get Viagra on the NHS?

  Julie Peasgood

  28 Jan 2012 | 3:24 am

  I’ve had several questions recently about the use of Viagra. One was from a lady in her mid-60s, with her husband in his early 70s. They still enjoy a fulfilling sex life, but he now needs a little help – but she feared their doctor would say they’re too old for Viagra. [More]

• Simple Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

  Tracey Cox

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:18 am

  Dare to do the clichés: Like chocolate body paint poured on and licked off. The reason why they’re clichés is because they’re often what people want to do, but are too scared to. Start a ‘sex jar’: Each write down 10 things you’d like to try. Rip into separate points, fold and put all of them into a jar. Pick out one a week to try. (Insist on pre-approval if you think ‘lure the hot 18-year-old next door in for a threesome’ will simply be repeated by your partner.) Send sexts: “I’ve been thinking about you inside me all…

• Why Wearing Socks During Sex Isn't a Crime Against Passion

  Alice Little

  26 Jan 2012 | 8:30 am

  Most people consider keeping your socks on during sex to be the ultimate passion-killer, but a study from a Dutch university begs to differ. While aiming to find out what happens in the brain during orgasm, researchers at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands inadvertently discovered that keeping the tootsies toasty had a positive impact on the subjects' ability to reach climax. When the couples were given socks to wear, about 80% of the couples were able to achieve orgasm compared with 50% previously. Anything that boosts orgasm potential gets our vote - but keep it sexy…

• A Hand Job from the Heart - Awesome Sex Toy of the Week

  Hella Rouge

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:48 am

  Is your love in full bloom or is your heart under the heel of some evil heatbreaker’s shoe? If you have someone to spoil this Valentine’s Day, then why not treat him to a cheeky sex toy that won’t break the bank, leaving plenty of pennies left over for a fancy meal or something else that will make his day. If you’re a single man, then spend those Valentine’s reserves on making February 14th that much more fun for you. After all, to truly find love you have to love yourself, and what better way to love yourself than with a sex toy? Regardless of your relationship…

• How to Put a Cock Ring On

  Lovehoney

  24 Jan 2012 | 9:13 am

  Cock rings are one of the simplest sex aids around. Cock rings work by preventing blood from flowing back down the penis, which in turn helps to make erections feel harder and last longer than normal, making your enjoyment last longer and orgasm more likely. Gentle and safe, cock rings are a great alternative to libido enhancing pills and delay sprays. Read Cock Ring Reviews | See Popular Cock Rings | See Highest Rated Cock Rings [More]

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• Outside my experience,so it can’t be normal:mainstream media and neonatal death

  Dr Petra

  9 Jan 2012 | 6:20 pm

  This posts tackles the topic of stillbirth and neonatal death and may be triggering to those affected. Information about support services are listed within this post. On January 4 2012 Mehdi Hasan wrote 10 things you didn’t know about Rick Santorum for the New Statesman. It included information on Santorum’s political views and actions as well as some personal anecdotes about him. Point 8 stated ‘When his baby Gabriel died at childbirth, Santorum and his wife spent the night in a hospital bed with the body and then took it home, where, joined by their other children, they prayed over…

• Christmas Charities 2011

  Dr Petra

  23 Dec 2011 | 6:39 am

  It’s the holiday season and my best wishes are with you whether you are celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah or Yule. If you are still looking for presents for loved ones, or perhaps are just feeling full of seasonal spirit, I’ve a few suggestions for folk who’d appreciate your support. I have selected 8 charities/organsations in the areas of sex, relationships and reproductive health. Some are faith based, some secular. You may want to support the one you feel most impressed by – or perhaps give a small amount to several of these very good causes. And to celebrate the holiday season I…

• Teenagers and group sex: a cause for concern?

  Dr Petra

  21 Dec 2011 | 4:30 pm

  Last week saw the publication of a paper

• A tragic case of medical misconduct

  Dr Petra

  8 Dec 2011 | 5:06 am

  In 2008 Alice Dogruyol representing The Spa PR Company wrote to me requesting I plug a new genital cosmetic procedure – the g-shot. It involved injecting collagen into the vaginal wall. And was being spearheaded in the UK by a Professor Phanuel Dartey of Harley Street. I immediately noticed there seemed to be no robust peer reviewed clinical evidence for the safety and effectiveness of the g-shot procedure. I felt the press release I was sent was so poor and the ‘treatment’ described seemed so bizarre that it was best ignored. I assumed no media outlet would pick up on it. I was wrong.

• Another break from blogging

  Dr Petra

  3 Jul 2011 | 4:43 pm

  I’m going to be stepping away from this blog for a few months for a very happy reason. I’m having another baby. I am currently setting myself a timescale of early Autumn before I consider blogging again, but I may take longer, depending on how I am managing motherhood. Where time permits I’ll use twitter (@drpetra) to share information on forthcoming events, conferences, papers and other interesting stuff. I’ll be checking in on twitter regularly, but won’t be tweeting for the next month or so. In the meantime check out the folk on my lists who are all worth following and will…

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• Enjoy Better Sexual Performance with Enhanced Musculature of your Penis

  Sally Gomes

  24 Jan 2012 | 12:50 am

  Your penis is a muscular organ, which erects with blood circulation during sexual stimulation. The process of erection involves the nervous system, circulatory system and the brain of the phallus, which makes it a complex process. It is believed that with an increased penile size, men will be able to perform better with enhanced endurance during sexual intercourse. Availability of various options for penis enlargement have opened new arenas to try and improve overall sexual experiences.Many health experts believe that enhancing the musculature of the package can help you strengthen your…

• Effective Haemorrhoids Treatment During Pregnancy

  Sally Gomes

  6 Jan 2012 | 2:59 am

  It has been seen that most women face the problem of haemorrhoids in pregnancy, which is relatively common. Women, who have history of haemorrhoids, get more susceptible to this problem when they are pregnant. The pressure experienced by the pelvic veins and the inferior vena cava from the growing uterus is the main reason for haemorrhoids during pregnancy. However, the problem of haemorrhoids goes away as soon as a woman gives birth. You can also take the help of certain easy measures that are given below in order to get instant relief from haemorrhoids.You can soak your bottom in warm water…

• The laws of Attraction in the Game of Love

  Sally Gomes

  27 Dec 2011 | 1:44 am

  Sexual attraction in human is a topic that is highly debatable and holds a lot of opinions from people around the world. Experts suggest that physical specifics and properties are more than primary and superficial features that form the building blocks for sexual attraction. Pheromones are chemicals that are naturally released by the body that can attract people of opposite sex. A great deal of testing and research has been done into the how and why of initial chemistry and human desire. The outcome is that though we have been evolved from animals, we really are almost no better than…

• Intensify Male orgasm with Increased Semen Volume

  Sally Gomes

  20 Dec 2011 | 12:11 am

  Enjoying strong and intense orgasm is one of the ultimate goals of sexual intercourse for almost all men. A lot of factors contribute in achieving a full-fledged male orgasm such as the strength of erection, the timing of ejaculation, and the cooperation of the female counterpart reaching orgasm. Semen volume is one aspect that holds a great significance in enjoying an ecstatic orgasm. The amount of semen that spurts out of the penis during ejaculation decides the amount of pleasure enjoyed by men. The overall health of the body is directly linked to the amount of semen produced. So it is…

• Cope up with your Prostate Problems with Massagers

  Sally Gomes

  19 Dec 2011 | 8:24 am

  Most men in their forties complain of facing the prostate health challenges, which starts taking toll on their overall well-being and health. So, it becomes essential for men to get over with this problem as soon as possible. There are several side effects of prostate problems which include sudden or urgent need to urinate, lower back pains, impotence, finding blood in urine or in ejaculation and fatigue. Usually prostate is found under the bladder and is wrapped around the urethra and can inhibit semen and urine.In order to prevent prostate health challenges, it is necessary to make certain…

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• The Awakening

  Yoshi2me

  13 Jan 2012 | 9:37 am

  The Awakening by Sonny Carroll A time comes in your life when you finally get it… when in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening… You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting…

• Let Go of Frustration

  Yoshi2me

  12 Jan 2012 | 10:18 am

  Frustration comes from focusing on what you cannot control. Achievement, on the other hand, comes from focusing on all the useful and valuable things you can do. Resentment comes from seeing yourself as a victim. Effectiveness comes from stepping up and taking responsibility. If you constantly complain that life is unfair, you’ll blind yourself to the best opportunities. Yet by simply accepting that what’s done is done, you’ll find a way to make the most of it. Don’t waste your time arguing and fighting with life. Instead, invest your time and resources in inspiring…

• Well? What do you think?

  Yoshi2me

  8 Jan 2012 | 9:46 pm

  It is time for a change. I have needed to revamp this blog for a long time and now the time has come. What do you think? Do you like what I have done? Do you still read this blog? Are you still alive? Hit me up and let me know where you are at, how you are doing, and what is happening in your life. I want to hear from you.

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• Sex Research Considerations: Collecting Data From Couples

  Kristen Mark (M.Sc.)

  25 Jan 2012 | 9:01 pm

  Some sex research benefits from collecting data from couples rather than individuals. However, doing this takes some methodological considerations.

• What Is Transphobia? And, What Is Cissexism?

  Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.)

  24 Jan 2012 | 10:57 am

  Transgender and gender non-conforming people face pervasive prejudice, discrimination, and violence around the world.

• College Growing Pains: Ending High School Relationships

  J. Bradley Blankenship (M.S.)

  20 Jan 2012 | 10:13 am

  For better or worse, if you tried to keep a relationship going after high school, freshman year of college often means the end of that romantic relationship.

• The Kinsey Scale: Its Purpose And Significance

  Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.)

  18 Jan 2012 | 4:00 am

  The work of Dr. Alfred Kinsey, including his Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale ("the Kinsey scale"), continues to be significant in society and culture.

• Relationships: Two Years Plus Or Minus Six Months Guideline

  Kristen Mark (M.Sc.)

  16 Jan 2012 | 5:28 pm

  It can be hard to know when you should make a lifetime commitment to a romantic relationship. Some love and attachment science offers guidelines.

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• She wants more too

  23 Jan 2012 | 2:33 pm

  New Answer - Sounds like she's still interested in you too. I'm with @OohLookasquirrel in that you need to ask her out. From your description it sounds like she's finally moved past her ex and maybe wants to give it a shot. I don't think you've got much to lose. Just go for it!

• ask her out already!

  16 Jan 2012 | 9:04 am

  New Answer - The fact that she's communicating with you right now seems to be saying that she wants to be part of your life. She may be hoping that you'll ask her out. Some girls always expect the guy to make all the moves, and by dangling herself in front of you again, she could be hoping that you'll bite. Or, maybe she just wants to be friends again. Hard to tell what's going on in someone else's brain. If you don't want to be just friends, then you should go ahead and ask her out. If that's what she wanted, everybody's happy. If she says no, then you should be open and tell her that you'd…

• I'm confused! I need your wise advice.

  15 Jan 2012 | 11:32 pm

  New Question - Hey guys, I'm need of some advice, this girl that I was kind of seeing a year ago recently messaged me the other day saying that something she saw reminded her of me. We were never officially boyfriend/girlfriend but we were pretty serious and had strong feelings for each other until she told me that she still hadn't gotten over her ex. So I decided it was best for me to step back. We stopped talking altogether a little while after until she recently sent me a message. I still have really strong feelings for her and think about her a lot, even before she had messaged me. I have…

• i get pre ejaculation

  15 Jan 2012 | 6:17 pm

  New Question - within 2 minutes i think its just because i masterbates too much

• Relationship Older Woman

  13 Jan 2012 | 1:30 am

  New Answer - The men involved in dating older ladies, as they are more experienced and more capable of dealing with the relationship run smoothly. Older women are more mature, financial integrity and good lovers. Be yourself. It is a local sex relationship you because she loves you; you provide, its spontaneity, and fun. So, do not even think of yourself as someone you're not. Take it somewhere it is by no means been before; show her that you're different from other men your age. Invite a jazz membership, live performance or a unique restaurant. You can change the theme of the discussion. Ask…

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• I Did It

  Adriana

  26 Jan 2012 | 5:03 am

  For over a year, I liked the Hot Nerd. A year, you guys! For over half that year, I’d say, I was in love with him. I never quite got enough clarity about how he felt about me. He’d say one thing and do another. I still maintain he did this accidentally. He is a nice guy, he wouldn’t want to confuse or hurt me. But, nice or not, he’s a guy and I guess we just weren’t on the same page. We had a lot of fun, otherwise. We get along so well. We enjoy one another’s company. Friendship was great but those same reasons always made me want more. But I’m not so…

• Technical Difficulties

  Adriana

  24 Jan 2012 | 9:40 pm

  After moving to a new host, I am having technical difficulties with my email service. Please leave a comment here or contact me on Twitter, should you need to reach me. Thanks! Email problems are resolved. You can now email me. If you have any questions, concerns or love for me! Related posts: Why Ask a Stranger? (or “Go Talk To Your Partner”)

• Material Girl Fetish Fantasy Lingerie

  Adriana

  24 Jan 2012 | 3:45 am

  oor Every Mistake A Lingerie Manufacturer Could Make. I can’t even pretend that this was a success. I mean, I knew its form-fitting nature would be a risk with my shape but I didn’t also realize that it was a design disaster. Let’s start with what I don’t hate. The fingerless fishnet gloves. Now, you might be thinking “fingerless gloves are the show-stealer?” and, I kid you not, it’s the truth. They’re simple: a tube with one reinforced end for around the wrist and a small hole on one side for your thumb. The end that slips around your arm/wrist…

• Tickle My Tush

  Adriana

  20 Jan 2012 | 3:16 am

  I’ve seen the books by Dr. Sadie before. They have cute names like “Ride ‘Em, Cowgirl” and “Tickle His Pickle.” Tickle My Tush is the latest book by Dr. Sadie, published by Tickle Kitty. It’s, as you can guess, all about anal play. What you might not guess is how small this book is! It’s just over 100 pages but the book is both short and narrow, so it’s physically smaller than other educational books. There’s also a lot of white space in the book itself, which is why I was able to read it in only two sittings. The good news is, if…

• Leaf Spirit

  Adriana

  16 Jan 2012 | 2:37 am

  The Spirit was the vibrator that I wanted the most out of the Leaf line. It’s ergonomic design called to me because I’m a clit vibe type of girl. I wasn’t able to review it directly from BMS but Our Naughty Secrets sent one my way. I figured I’d have a pretty good idea of the piece considering that I’d already used one but, as it turns out, that wasn’t quite the case. My Spirit wasn’t charged when I opened the box so I set it up to charge for a couple hours. Immediately, I made note of how much smaller the Spirit is than I expected. When I plugged the…

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• Nagging – Toxic For Marriages

  Stacey

  27 Jan 2012 | 6:48 pm

  What is more common than adultery, potentially as toxic, and considered by experts to be lethal for most marriages? Nagging. No, this isn’t a joke – though comedians for decades have made their wives’ nagging the brunt of many a joke…. When a wife repeatedly bugs her husband about a certain issue, and the husband shuts down and doesn’t deal with the topic at hand – everyone loses: the husband feels badgered (or babied) and the wife feels like her needs are being ignored. Sound familiar? It’s this type of poor communication that can kill a marriage…

• Reaction To This Year’s Golden Globes

  Stacey

  25 Jan 2012 | 9:16 am

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• Newt’s Angry Ex-Wives

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  24 Jan 2012 | 2:58 pm

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• Iran’s Crackdown On Barbie

  Stacey

  23 Jan 2012 | 9:32 am

  Wow. In case you didn’t already get how incredibly fearful and militant the leaders in Iran are, here’s one more tidbit to disgust and disturb you: They are cracking down on Barbie dolls again – they are closing down stores and confiscating poor Barbie. Yes, those beautiful Barbie dolls are a target in Iran again. Our Barbie is seen as a threat to the Muslim culture and she epitomizes everything they hate about Americans. Think about it : Barbie is sexy and voluptuous and proud of it. Barbie is au courant – always keeping up with the times. Barbie is independent…

• Thoughts On Newt

  Stacey

  22 Jan 2012 | 7:42 pm

  I really don’t believe in judging the morality of others – after all, it’s so subject, isn’t it? And yet, I think I can safely say that Newt Gingrich is a hypocritical, egomaniacal piece of merde with unscrupulous morals. Let’s start with him leaving his first wife while she was undergoing cancer treatment. Did I mention that he proposed to wife #2 before letting wife#1 know that he was going to dump her. Then, he decided that wife#2 wasn’t attractive enough to be a president’s wife and started an affair with the woman who is now wife#3. While boffing…

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• 15 Obvious Flirting Signs Between a Guy and Girl

  Lovepanky

  26 Jan 2012 | 8:08 am

  Want to know the various flirting signs that guys and girls give away while talking to someone they like? See these 15 signs of flirting to know more. By Cheryl James Flirting comes naturally to all of us. You may think you know nothing about flirting, but yet, when you meet someone you like, you’d instinctively start to behave differently. Have you been attracted to someone you met recently? Don’t you think you felt different all of a sudden? [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation] Perhaps, you felt more aware of your own body, or you found yourself smiling so much your…

• The Guide to Having Sex on Your Period

  Lovepanky

  25 Jan 2012 | 11:39 am

  Wondering how you can have sex during your period? Here’s a complete guide to having sex on your period and the tips you need to know to have a good bang. By Kayla Kissinger Having sex on your period is a personal choice, but one that definitely comes with a few strong opinions. In our eager sexual pursuit to try everything at least once, most of us do give this a thought even if we don’t bring thoughts to reality. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas in bed] Unless you find the whole idea of having sex during your menstruation a huge turn off or a taboo subject based on religious or social grounds,…

• How to Fall in Love Like You’re in a Fairytale

  Lovepanky

  22 Jan 2012 | 12:58 pm

  Want to know how to fall in love with someone like you’re in a fairytale with no evil stepmothers or bad endings? Read these 18 tips to do just that. By Jessica Dawson For many people in the world, love is overrated and hyped. I have many friends who don’t actually believe in love. They believe that cohabiting or getting married is just a way to find someone who can help you when you need help. That’s just sad. How can you ever find true love or experience the bliss of romance if you don’t even believe it exists? [Read: How does love at first sight happen?] I’ll tell you this. Love…

• 15 Rebound Relationship Signs To Watch Out For

  Lovepanky

  21 Jan 2012 | 1:41 pm

  Are you in a new relationship after a recent breakup? Find out if you’re in a rebound or a serious romance with these 15 rebound relationship signs. By Francesca Marie Heartbreaks can be painful. And at times, nothing can heal heartbreak better than a perfect rebound relationship. [Read: Rebound relationships and why they’re perfect after a breakup] But are you in an intentional rebound relationship? Do you think you’re really serious but find yourself getting confused about whether you’re actually in a rebound relationship? Signs of a rebound relationship If you’re in a rebound…

• Do Girls Like Shy Guys Who Don’t Make A Bold Move?

  Lovepanky

  20 Jan 2012 | 2:58 pm

  Do girls like shy guys or confident guys? Find out what girls want in a shy guy and what you can do to be the perfect guy for the girl you like. By Erica Patterson Shy guys are loveable. And almost all girls feel safe, and dare I say it, even confident around them. Shy guys are every girl’s dream conversationalist. They hardly talk, and they’re really good at just listening to the girl. Girls like that. We definitely love a cute shy guy who can just watch us, smile to himself and listen to everything we have to say. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out] Do girls like…

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  Intimate Medicine International

• Erotic Movies: Lady Chatterley’s Lover

  28 Jan 2012 | 12:05 am

  The latest film version of D. H. Lawrence's novel Lady Chatterley’s Lover is rather boring and tiresomely long.

• FOTO: The main difference between Europe and USA!

  27 Jan 2012 | 11:50 pm

  Do you agree or not?

• Green Tea Prolongs Sex!

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:56 pm

  Would you like to know how many cups of green tea a day you should have to make your sex sessions last longer?

• How Many Sperms Are There in One Ejaculation?

  26 Jan 2012 | 11:48 pm

  Besides the number of sperms, you will also find out why the testicles are on the outside of the body.

• REVEALED: Why Do Women Like Feminine Men?

  26 Jan 2012 | 12:11 am

  A group of British scientists discovered why modern women adore feminine men.

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  The Dark Side

• DARK SIDE #076 - Male 2 Female gender re-assignment - Part 2

  thedarksidepodcast

  13 Jan 2012 | 5:46 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #076 - Male 2 Female gender re-assignment - Part 2 Dark Angel and KnotNice get together with Kirsten - approximately 1 year after Part #1 (DS Podcast #22) - to take a look at how Kirsten’s transition has gone. Kirsten shares her innermost thought with us about the largest struggle she has faced so far in this journey - coming out to friends, co-workers (and the working environment), and especially her family. This amazing podcast went on almost 2 hours - but then even after it was done - DA had to turn the recorder BACK ON - to get a…

• DARK SIDE #075 - What does a submissive look for in a Dominant? and visa versa

  thedarksidepodcast

  30 Dec 2011 | 2:08 am

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #075 - What does a submissive look for in a Dominant? and visa versa. Dark Angel and KnotNice examine what people look for in a partner (or partners). What does a submissive look for in a Dominant? / What does a Dominant look for in a submissive? When thinking of a potential lover - What are your wants, what are your needs, and the differences when navigating/building a potential relationship. Several other people’s opinions are added to the discussion, with a surprise ending. _____________________________ News #1- Bondage Couple’s…

• DARK SIDE #074 - BDSM and Swinging

  thedarksidepodcast

  17 Dec 2011 | 8:08 am

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #074 - BDSM and Swinging Dark Angel and KnotNice get together for an in depth discussion with MydniteRose on BDSM and Swinging. MydniteRose has been swinging for 25 years, and active in BDSM for 15; she brings her unique and in depth perspective on both Lifestyles, as well as how they have evolved. This topic and Interviewee was so interesting - this podcast is OVER 2 hours long. MydniteRose helps educate us on: * What are the differences between these 2 sexual charged Communities (if any)? * How she considers herself - a Swinger who is kinky,…

• DARK SIDE #073 - Medical Play

  thedarksidepodcast

  1 Dec 2011 | 8:19 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #073 - Medical Play Dark Angel and KnotNice get together for an in depth discussion on Medical Play. Based on their experience and research: What is Medical Play? What types toys are used? What equipment is used? How does Role Play come into play? How does Medical Play get into a Mind Fuck? What are types of Medical Play? Safety in Medical Play. What are the dangers of Medical Play? Join us for our opinions on these and a few other interesting points too. _____________________________ News #1 Sponsor: NKS

• DARK SIDE #072 - Leaders

  thedarksidepodcast

  22 Nov 2011 | 8:23 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #072 - Leaders Dark Angel and KnotNice are joined by one of our favorite Guest Hosts - lil’heather, for an in depth discussion on what the label BDSM Community “Leader” really means. Opinions and experiences, and what does the label “Leader” mean to each of us. What makes a good leader? What makes a bad leader? What is the difference between a leader and an organizer? What motivates someone to serve their Community? Join us for our opinions on these and a few other interesting points too.

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  MyPleasure Blog: Sex Education, Sex Toys, Relationship Advice & More

• A Week in Reviews

  MyPleasure.com

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:36 pm

  Welcome to our weekly wrap up of recently written sex toy reviews by our blogger friends. This is a great spot to read up on all of the items you’ve been thinking about getting, but just wanted to know someone else’s opinion first. But remember, everyone is different. Just because a reviewer loved or hated a sex toy doesn’t mean you will feel the same way. Always keep in mind what you enjoy personally when reading reviews. Dual Action Hummingbird Contest by Boobies, Babies, and a Blog ends 2/13

• Valentine’s Day Gift Guide

  MyPleasure.com

  25 Jan 2012 | 4:12 pm

  Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to buy your sweety or yourself a sexy gift. And we are definitely your one stop shop for this sensual holiday. Couple’s Gifts Last year’s guide included the WeVibe II so of course we had to include the new WeVibe III this year. The best couple’s sex toy just got better! It’s now more powerful, waterproof, and can be operated by a remote control instead of having to reach in between your bodies during lovemaking. Find out what you’ve been missing. Buy the WeVibe 3 now for 10% off for a limited time. Designed by lesbians for…

• A Week in Reviews

  MyPleasure.com

  20 Jan 2012 | 3:32 pm

  Welcome to our weekly wrap up of recently written sex toy reviews by our blogger friends. This is a great spot to read up on all of the items you’ve been thinking about getting, but just wanted to know someone else’s opinion first. But remember, everyone is different. Just because a reviewer loved or hated a sex toy doesn’t mean you will feel the same way. Always keep in mind what you enjoy personally when reading reviews. Chemistry Bubble Bath Set by Pixelated Kitten

• A Week in Reviews

  MyPleasure.com

  13 Jan 2012 | 3:09 pm

  Welcome to our weekly wrap up of recently written sex toy reviews by our blogger friends. This is a great spot to read up on all of the items you’ve been thinking about getting, but just wanted to know someone else’s opinion first. But remember, everyone is different. Just because a reviewer loved or hated a sex toy doesn’t mean you will feel the same way. Always keep in mind what you enjoy personally when reading reviews. Ride ‘Em Cowgirl by The Sub Mission Ride Em Cowgirl by Lucid Obsession

• Sex Toy Day Contest: Valentine’s Day Kit

  MyPleasure.com

  10 Jan 2012 | 2:47 pm

  A new contest has been posted over on SexToyDay. This one is a real treat perfect for Valentine’s Day. The winner will get a Freestyle W silicone dual action vibe that can function in manual mode or buzz to the beat of your favorite song or even work via Skype with your longdistance lover, an Undresser Kit with a pair of cute frilly pin up panties and tasty lickable Strawberry Honey body topping, and a bottle of our very own Sensual Essence Gel lube to keep things slippery. This Valentine’s Day Kit  is valued at $185! Enter for your chance to win free sex toys.

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  Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

• “You Say You Want a Revolution?” – the Beatles

  Mark Gungor

  13 Jan 2012 | 8:44 am

  We need a revolution. When I grew up in the 60’s, young people rebelled against materialism and morality.  We said “Enough!!” and fought back against the establishment – an establishment we regarded as corrupt and clueless.  When it came to a war we thought unjust we chanted, “Hell no, we won’t go!!”  When it came to materialism we said, “We don’t want it!!”, and walked about with no shoes and holes in our jeans.  And when it came to traditional morality, we rejected it and gave ourselves to free sex, drugs and rock and roll.  It had an enduring impact on our…

• Resolve to be Thankful

  Mark Gungor

  3 Jan 2012 | 1:34 pm

  Thankful? Haven’t we passed that holiday? I know, Thanksgiving was seven or eight weeks ago…the leftovers have vanished along with the attitude of gratitude that was quickly lost in the flurry of Christmas.  Now, here we are at the start of a new year. The presents have been returned, the wrapping has been recycled, and the tree is tucked away in the basement for another year. Many people make resolutions beginning January 1st to improve themselves and their lives.  Lots of us make promises to eat less and exercise more, or to pray and read the bible more and watch TV less. All good…

• The Ideal Christmas

  Mark Gungor

  9 Dec 2011 | 2:36 pm

  Yes, it’s that time of the year again…the most wonderful, happy, and magical season of Christmas! At least that’s what the retailers, songs and TV specials all proclaim starting mid-November. Yet for many people, this whole holiday season starting with Thanksgiving and ending with New Years is anything but wonderful or happy. Now, there may be a variety of reasons for this. For some people, it is the first year since a loved one has passed away, which makes for sadness. Others experience the whole season being separated by many miles from their family and friends either because of job…

• Bad Theology = Bad Marriage

  Mark Gungor

  22 Nov 2011 | 12:45 pm

  There is line of thinking that began in American culture during the hippy movement of the 1960s and has continued to grow in popularity until it proliferated even Christianity.  I’m referring to the concept of “unconditional love”.  Over and over we hear people talking about how we need to love others “unconditionally” and how others should love us “unconditionally”. It also has morphed into the idea that God’s love for us is “unconditional”.  What a bunch of horse manure! Nowhere in the bible does it say that love is to be without conditions…in fact, the phrase…

• Marry a Believer

  Mark Gungor

  8 Nov 2011 | 2:08 pm

  People have all kinds of ideas and notions on whom they are to marry, how they go about finding “the one” to marry, and the list of standards and ideals they have for the one they marry.  Let’s clear up a few things, shall we? The bible doesn’t say anything about waiting for your soul mate to get married. It also doesn’t say anything about God having that one special person just for you…although people will argue with me on that one! What it does say is that we are to get or find a spouse—that means you don’t sit and wait for God drop one into your lap.  Check out my new DVD…

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  Pleasurists Sex Toy Reviews

• Pleasurists Edition 165

  Scarlet Lotus

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:21 am

  Courtesy of the bedroom blogger Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 164? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 166? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 29th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists just started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a…

• Pleasurists Edition 164

  Scarlet Lotus

  17 Jan 2012 | 5:15 am

  Photo courtesy of Pixel* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 163? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 165? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 22nd @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists just started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a shiny…

• Pleasurists Edition 163

  Scarlet Lotus

  11 Jan 2012 | 1:58 pm

  Photo courtesy of Blacksilk* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 162? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 164? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 15th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists just started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a…

• Pleasurists Edition 162

  Scarlet Lotus

  4 Jan 2012 | 2:20 am

  the eyes say it all by cub69 Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 161? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 163? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 1st, 2012 @ 11:59pm Pacific. Want a shiny new toy? All you’ve got to do is enter. Win Your Choice of a LELO Insignia SenseMotion Toy or a Picobong Toy!

• Pleasurists Edition 161

  Scarlet Lotus

  27 Dec 2011 | 8:40 am

  fetish the new reality by cub69 Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 160? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 162? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 1st, 2012 @ 11:59pm Pacific. Want a shiny new toy? All you’ve got to do is enter. Tingle Me Giveaway Deadline: December 29th. Tantus Cush Giveaway!

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  Sex and Relationships - MSN UK Style

• Ask the sexpert: boosting your sex drive

  24 Jan 2012 | 8:01 am

  Are you having a relationship dilemma? Trouble in the bedroom? Well, help is on hand, with our sexpert Siski Green answering your questions.

• How do you get over a break-up?

  23 Jan 2012 | 9:10 am

  Some of us consume gallons of Ben & Jerry's, a few like to make voodoo dolls and others party 24/7. Tell us how you cope with a broken heart.

• Do men prefer blondes, brunettes or redheads?

  4 Jan 2012 | 6:32 am

  It was the title of the 1953 film starring Marilyn Monroe and it’s been a widely held notion for years that gentleman prefer blondes. But researchers have recently found that contrary to popular belief men actually find brunettes more attractive and intelligent than blondes.

• The girls' guide to unusual dating ideas

  30 Dec 2011 | 4:01 am

  MSN's relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr shows you how to get creative when dating someone new.

• Ask the sexpert: struggling to conceive

  29 Dec 2011 | 3:48 am

  Are you having a relationship dilemma? Trouble in the bedroom? Well, help is on hand, with our sexpert Siski Green answering your questions.

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  Viridian Passion

• K-Y Touch Massage

  19 Jan 2012 | 10:54 pm

  A while back I got a sample in the mail from Johnson & Johnson. K-Y Touch Massage 2-in-1 is supposed to be for massages and personal lubricant. I don't know how long they've been selling this product, but anyone who visited sex shops in the 80s is probably familiar with Motion Lotion.  When you rub some of the lotion into your skin it gets warm. If you blow on it you get a flash of heat. It's fun. It's just not very eco-friendly. I threw out my bottle of Motion Lotion when a friend looked at the ingredient list and noticed that the formula was very close to that of anti-freeze. The…

• Tit In Use Causes Comic Book Uproar

  12 Jan 2012 | 2:00 am

  I don't pay a lot of attention to the comic book world. I'm a big enough geek without them. Every once in a while something happens in the magical world of comics that makes me shake my head. On Monday, illustrator Dave Dorman complained about the cover of a comic book called Saga. The problem? Breastfeeding. He found it offensive and only there for "shock value." As you might think the backlash started soon after. I came late to the issue and only read about it on a site called Comic Alliance. By the time I went to Dorman's blog he'd taken the post down. I just don't get what's so…

• Alien Cathouse

  5 Jan 2012 | 2:00 am

  A new brothel is opening up in Nevada. This one promises women who are "out of this world." All you Captain Kirk clones can relax because you won't have to go to Risa to get alien sex. There are just so many jokes... I think this is a fine idea. Sex is about fantasy. If you want to make it with a T'Pol or Seven of Nine or even Slave Leia you should be able too. Sex should also be fun. If you can have a smile or a laugh while you're getting your ya-yas off it's all to the good. The only problem I have with this idea is that the costumes are being designed by Hollywood Madame Heidi…

• All I Want For Christmas

  23 Dec 2011 | 5:08 pm

  If you've been reading for a while you know I love the We-Vibe. They've just released the We-Vibe 3 and there are some pretty cool improvements. Here's the description from their website: Key Features 40% more vibration power 2 whisper-quiet motors wireless remote control or manual operation 6 thrilling vibration modes fully waterproof design compact and discreet 2-in-1 storage case/wireless charger up to 2 hours of play on a single charge G: 80 x 28 x 18 mm (3 x 1.1 x 0.7”) C: 80 x 29 x 21 mm (3 x 1.1 x 0.8") Body Safe soft, flexible, comfortable 100% lead-free, phthalate-free medical…

• For People Who Already Have Everything

  15 Dec 2011 | 2:00 am

  Introducing the Louis Vuitton Condom. They were designed by Irakli Kiziria as a World AIDS Day product suggestion. The design has since gone viral. The suggested price for each condom is $68. Read more. Is there a market for designer condoms? Probably. Slap a famous name on something and you can sell it for hundreds of times its real value. But would they do any good? Getting people to carry condoms is only half the battle. They have to be used. If some little trendoid insists on designer rubbers and has the money to fork out for them that's all to the good. As long as the product…

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  BlasianBytch.com

• Toy Review: Pink Inspire with attachments

  Blasian Bytch

  25 Jan 2012 | 6:49 pm

  I have to admit I wasn’t expecting much from the Pink Inspire its just so dang tiny. The massager itself is only 7 ½ inches long and a slim 1 ½ inches wide, the double prong attachment adds 2 ½ long and 1 ¼ wide, the three pronged attachment is 3 ¾ inches tall and 4 inches wide. That might sound large but this is a a wand massager its supposed to be super powerful and versatile , they are also usually the size of a toddler’s femur. I didn’t think think there was anyway that science could get all that power in this little toy. Being the woman I am – always looking for new and…

• I’m in The Pleasurists!

  Blasian Bytch

  12 Jan 2012 | 11:10 am

  I submitted my Review of the Lia 1 and it was accepted check out this issue.   Photo courtesy of Blacksilk*Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 162? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 164? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 15th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists just started accepting photo…

• Letting a Whore Have Her Say

  Blasian Bytch

  8 Jan 2012 | 2:59 pm

  A close friend of mine  linked me to a character study that appeared on the NYTimes.com ,  profiling a 52 year old sex worker in Hunts Point New York.   The  short profile story and video (after the jump)  ,in my opinion, was a rare change of narrative that most are used to when it comes to sex work in America.   Most of the time, there’s a very narrow view of sex work that is mistakenly interchanged with human trafficking  and child abuse.  The narrative usually follows a “normal” white woman who is seduced or captured into sex work and lurred into drug…

• It’s My 2nd Blogaversary!

  Blasian Bytch

  4 Jan 2012 | 10:59 pm

  BlasianBytch.com is 2 Today!! It’s been a hell of a year.  Sometimes it feels completely unreal how this year has been, it was like my life was a Korean drama, only with a lot more esteemed authors, facials and porn actresses.  At the start of this year I was failed freelancer slumming it on my bro’s broken couch, now 356 days later I’m typing this on the same shitty laptop- but in my own apartment where I sleep on a bed every night, in a room with a door.  That might sound mundane as shit to you but to me its somewhat of a miracle. In these 52 weeks, I had so many…

• Sinnamon Love Celebrates Her Birthday With Happy Endings AND MY CAMERA IS RACIST.

  Blasian Bytch

  3 Jan 2012 | 12:54 pm

  Porn legend Sinnamon Love celebrated her 38th birthday – yes you read that correctly 38th birthday – on Dec 30th.  I was delighted to be invited to cover the event and Sinnamon Love showed up more bubbly and adorable than most girls at wish they did on their Sweet 16.  The pint sized domme and adult movie legend was joined not only by porn starlets but also poets , authors and a iconic DJ. Revelers from all over the country partied with the birthday girl at the aptly named Happy Ending Lounge in Chinatown and got down to DJ Tony Touch working his magic on the 1 and 2′s. …

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  quizzical pussy

• Not a ten.

  quizzical pussy

  27 Jan 2012 | 9:31 am

  I lay no claim to being exceptionally dateable. It can’t be easy to let yourself fall for me, and maybe it’s not even smart. I realize everyone has their own personal red flags, but logically, I must live in much of their overlap. When you read discussions about evolutionary psychology, debates about weight, or even conversations on general attractiveness, someone will always raise the point that human beings are fundamentally attracted to health. This probably seems like a diplomatic, benign way to speak about physical beauty: Can’t we all just agree that we’re…

• ConTuesday! Moderately-priced intercourse package

  quizzical pussy

  24 Jan 2012 | 7:21 am

  It’s cute how I can’t just get a cold or the flu and then recover from it like normal people. No, that would be silly. Of course it becomes pneumonia. Pneumonia in the midst of life trauma type stuff. That, kind and indulgent reader, is basically why there was no ConTuesday last week. This week, though? Different story. There is a ConTuesday. I may still have pneumonia; I may still be having a month full of turpentine, gristle, and mud, but guess what? January’s almost over and I’ve always had luck with Februaries. Hey, former sex worker here. Every time a guy talks…

• Heartbreak

  quizzical pussy

  23 Jan 2012 | 9:27 am

  So my ribcage is hinged now, like a huge pair of jaws. It yawns wide, and there’s this chasm, a throat, where I normally expect my heart to thrum. Then it snaps shut in a low growl without warning, crushing my lungs, chuckling at the idea that humans need air. Either way my chest aches. Either way I’m powerless against the grinning beast. It has no tongue. It’s all teeth. Like a heartbreak with no explanation. Exactly like that. I am all searing thorax. The rest of me is numb. Share/Save

• Digital liberty

  quizzical pussy

  18 Jan 2012 | 10:44 am

  Things I don’t want the government to have the power to control (a random sampling of a much, much longer list): My reproductive system Whom I love and/or marry My ability to protect myself My blog My access to information If we let them seize the internet, they’ll never give it back. And you just know they’ll end up coming for the porn eventually. U.S. citizens, if you’re against blacklist legislation, please contact your representatives and let them know that SOPA/PIPA are some bullshit. Share/Save

• ConTuesday! Guilt cage.

  quizzical pussy

  10 Jan 2012 | 8:32 am

  I feel guilty a lot, mostly because I do stupid things a lot. Not malicious things, not even selfish things… literally I-did-not-think-about-this-at-all-before-I-went-ahead-and-did-it-my-bad things. Or sometimes, alternately, I’ll have thought quite a bit about something before implementing, but prioritized the exact wrong thing. Guilt is not useful or helpful in any way, but it’s familiar. It’s not exactly foreign to some of you guys, either. …I shouldn’t be pointing it out like that, should I? I’m such a douche. Had a hot, sweaty, sexy, awesome…

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  Peck and Call Girls: Modern Courtesans, Virtual Assistants Of Sex

• Exclusive Exploitation Community

  Peck and Call Girls

  17 Jan 2012 | 11:10 pm

  Both Klaudia and A Slip Of A Girl can be found talking about fashion, financial domination, and their gifts at Greedy Snobs, an exclusive club for like-minded adults. If you want an invitation, dare to ask here and here. *wink*

• Phone Sex: “Our Uncontrollable Passions, Flowing Through Our Mouths”

  Peck and Call Girls

  10 Jan 2012 | 4:27 am

  Good God, what a night that was, The bed was so soft, and how we clung, Burning together, lying this way and that, Our uncontrollable passions Flowing through our mouths. If I only could die that way, I’d say goodbye to the business of living. Petronius, translated from the Greek by Kenneth Rexroth

• Holiday Gifts & Contests From The Peck & Call Girls

  Peck and Call Girls

  19 Nov 2011 | 12:49 pm

  We love our callers and clients! So we’re celebrating you this joyous holiday season — from Thanksgiving through New Years — with specials and contests! Pinkie has a contest in which everyone who enters wins! Come up with a list of requirements for her to earn to BDSM badges. There’s also a grand prize too,

• Phone Sex Humor

  Peck and Call Girls

  14 Nov 2011 | 11:18 pm

  This photo of phone sex made us giggle — in part because the old flip phones had position options smartphones don’t have. *wink* Of course, phone sex and virtual sex know no limits, do they? *naughty eyebrow wiggle*

• Of Hobbies, Intimacy, And Phone Sex

  Peck and Call Girls

  11 Nov 2011 | 6:21 am

  The subject of intimacy substitution or replacement often comes up in what we do; after all, if we profess to offer companionship, intimate encounters not merely “wank material,” aren’t we some sort of substitute for the intimacy of marriage or other primary romantic relationships? There are dangers in long-term reliance on the type of companionship

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  Phone Sex Secrets

• "My Wife Doesn't Understand Me" & The Other Little White Lies Of Phone Sex

  Phone Sex Secrets

  26 Jan 2012 | 3:04 pm

  Phone sex is based in fantasy. Even those calls which seem more like therapeutic counseling or friendly chit-chat sessions occur because the caller believes in the fantasy of the girl on the other end of the line. This is not to say that you, the PSO, are not truly a sexy (understanding, dominating, garter-belt-and-stocking-not-sweat-pant-wearing etc.) person -- but the persona you cultivate and

• Thoughts On The Anderson Cooper Show On Working From Home, Being A PSO

  Phone Sex Secrets

  12 Jan 2012 | 2:01 pm

  Despite a promise from a show producer, I wasn't notified in advance of the Anderson Cooper piece air date; apparently it aired yesterday. Overall, the specific discussion on phone sex work was handled tactfully and rather respectfully. Though I still have to giggle when phone sex work is considered so "unconventional" when sex work is "the oldest profession." *wink* What was most upsetting,

• Being An Independent PSO Is Like Running Your Own Entertainment Studio

  Phone Sex Secrets

  6 Jan 2012 | 5:08 am

  Today there will be a taping of an Anderson Cooper show -- the daytime one, not on CNN -- in which phone sex work will again be discussed. I am privy to this knowledge as I was in talks with a show producer to be on the show; but declined as anonymity, so important to me, really couldn't be arranged. In talking with the producer, and the other producers of the media I have been involved with of

• PSOs On The Tonight Show

  Phone Sex Secrets

  4 Jan 2012 | 6:15 pm

  Jay Leno mentioned the Good Morning America / ABC phone sex piece last night in his monologue on The Tonight Show. He lead the story with the context of the increase in the number of moms getting into the phone sex business in the recent economy, and made a joke about President Obama creating jobs. Leno then made mention of what your mom might be up to when you call her and she asks you to hold

• Payments, Gift Cards, Gifts, Tips, Taxes & PSOs

  Phone Sex Secrets

  28 Dec 2011 | 2:26 am

  One potentially misleading statement made on the Good Morning America phone sex segment is creating a lot of drama. Near the end of the segment, Elizabeth Hasselbeck said, "For women who do not have bank accounts, some of the phone sex companies pay directly to a gift card." This is raising concerns about everything from taxes and IRS industry scrutiny to alternative payment methods and confusion

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  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

• “An Easy Way to Be Proactive!”

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  21 Jan 2012 | 12:15 pm

  Being triggered by ultra sexualized imagery everywhere is a PoSA’s commonplace nightmare. Being out with, or without your SAC (sex addict/ compulsive) when facing such ad images on billboards, sides of buses, store windows, magazine covers while in line at a store checkout, it’s enough to send us into a frenzy. And this type of imagery is only becoming more ubiquitous as seemingly everyone hops on the “porn-star imitation” bandwagon in a grab for the almighty dollar or their fifteen minutes of fame. But take heart- there’s good news! The National Organization for Women…

• A Very Blessed 2012 to You All!

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  2 Jan 2012 | 3:23 pm

  A Very Blessed 2012 to You All! Last night, New Year’s Eve, some dear friends came over and I suggested that before running off to various other parties that beckoned, that we share three things with each other: What one thing were we most grateful for in this past year? What one thing were we willing to let go of in 2012? What were we feeling brave enough to consciously bring into our lives in the upcoming year? I was astounded at the raw, naked honesty everyone expressed in their shares. Tears flowed and everyone was enriched from sharing in the ritual. A little vulnerable, perhaps,…

• Ask A Sex Addict in Recovery Your Questions

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  17 Dec 2011 | 12:03 pm

  Q- Why do addicts seem so cavalier about whether the relationship survives or not? He does not seem to care unless he’s being kicked out or I threaten to break up with him. Answer- Addicts who are not yet in recovery mode, or who are in the early phases of recovery, are often not yet able to be reflective and to consider the feelings and emotions of their partner. Addicts often feel more punished by being denied their ‘drug’ by the partner than feel empathy and guilt for their destructive behaviors. It is said that the active addict’s dream is to live a life without…

• Ask A Sex Addict in Recovery Your Questions

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  13 Dec 2011 | 8:01 am

  Q- Why don’t addicts ask us partners questions to better understand what we have been through and what we now currently need from them? They seem to have no interest in anything but themselves. Answer- This seems to be a sad and unfortunate aspect of sex addiction, those addicted tend to have an absence of empathy. And this lack of empathy is essentially one of the main qualities that Recovery helps develop in a recovering addict. What appears to be a common, initial feeling of a sex addict/compulsive (SAC) is a deep, incapacitating shame, which is different than guilt. Having to feel…

• Ask A Sex Addict in Recovery Your Questions

  PoSARC - Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center

  7 Dec 2011 | 7:17 pm

  Q- Please describe a genuine apology/amends-making. His apologies seem feeble and he does not seem in the least bit sorry that he hurt me, he seems sorry that he got caught. Answer- The amends matter is a complex scenario, since, for one thing, it is often tied to forgiveness. First off, there can be no forgiveness until you are ready to offer that, if ever. Most sex addicts/compulsives (SACs) are expecting immediate forgiveness of their actions to alleviate the shame they feel. And that is not as easy as a “Sorry, but I broke your favorite vase” sort of thing. It is my belief…

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  the ch!cktionary

• did you book your trip through a travel agency that offered some kind of package? i'm looking to vacation in southeast asia but packages seem so expensive!

  26 Jan 2012 | 10:54 pm

  No, I didn’t book a package. I paid for my transcontinental flights with airline miles and booked a couple hotels at employee rates, thanks to my mom’s discount (she works for a hotel chain). I also stayed with people during a couple points, when I couldn’t find available rooms. I’ll be honest: I’m not a huge fan of vacation packages. My first trip to Southeast Asia (back in 2008) was planned by a travel agency. I was traveling in a group and there was limited time, so a package made sense then, but if I could do that trip all over again (and one day, I totally will), I would have…

• Hands down, my favorite part of the all-too-brief trip to...

  26 Jan 2012 | 1:00 pm

  Hands down, my favorite part of the all-too-brief trip to Shanghai: our little sojourn to 50 Moganshan Road, a group of warehouses transformed into contemporary art galleries. It still carries some remnants of its indie past, but has clearly become increasingly developed over the years. I got a bunch of postcards from my favorite exhibitions, including Yu Lin’s Red Guards series and Xuanmin Jin’s Shikumen series. Sadly, we didn’t spend as much time in the galleries as I would have liked, since most were closed for the Lunar New Year. When I next find myself in Shanghai, though, this…

• Name ten of your favorite books? :)

  26 Jan 2012 | 10:42 am

  OOOH THIS IS TOUGHIE. This is probably an incomplete list (especially since I’m in LA and not currently in front of my bookshelf in Boston) and I do have to separate “literary” recs from pleasure reading, but here’s the former: Fear of Flying, Erica JongSlouching Toward Bethlehem, Joan DidionThe Bell Jar, Sylvia Plath The Handmaid’s Tale, Margaret Atwood Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas, Hunter S. Thompson The Women’s Room, Marilyn FrenchHunger: A Novella and Stories, Lan Samantha Chang You can likely deduce from the above list that my ideal book would be a coming-of-age story…

• The actual “sample” form at the Chinese visa office...

  25 Jan 2012 | 12:00 pm

  The actual “sample” form at the Chinese visa office in Hong Kong. Copies of this were hung up all over the room - I suppose this was an attempt to encourage foreigners to fill out their applications correctly and honestly? The Chinese government: even more ludicrous that I’d previously imagined.

• Language Immersion

  24 Jan 2012 | 3:15 pm

  When I was out at a nightclub in Shanghai the other night, there was this inebriated Chinese guy who was making my gaydar go off in all kinds of ways. One second, he’s humping a male acquaintance in my group - and really, there is no other way to describe the scene except “humping” - the next, he’s grabbing my hand and leading me off the dance floor to his table. I am more than a little confused and he doesn’t speak English so using my barely passable Mandarin, I am able to deduce the following: He is not interested in the aforementioned target of his humping.* He is, in fact,…

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  Sex Secrets

• 5 Tips to Become Good at Sex

  Svetlana Ivanova

  27 Jan 2012 | 6:00 am

  Do you want to send your bed-mate into fits of body-aching sexual pleasure? The good thing is that answering yes to this question is the first step, says adult webmaster Sarah Gibson. (I completely agree that her last tip is underrated.) Do you want to send your girlfriend/wife/current bed-mate into fits of body-aching sexual pleasure? Continue reading →

• 4 Home Remedies for Premature Ejaculation

  Svetlana Ivanova

  25 Jan 2012 | 4:00 am

  Premature ejaculation is the most sexual problem among men, but solving it doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. Michael Paladin discusses four home remedies for premature ejaculation. For men who experience premature ejaculation, sex can be bad news. Premature ejaculation means that a man reaches orgasm too soon to satisfy his partner. The good Continue reading →

• G-Spot Stimulation through Fingering

  Svetlana Ivanova

  22 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Da Kinky Kid talks about G-spot stimulation through fingering.

• The Best Sex Positions for Every Situation

  Svetlana Ivanova

  19 Jan 2012 | 8:00 am

  Sarah Jio reveals the best sex positions for every situations. Got pain? Pregnancy wishes? Confidence issues in the sack? We have a position for all that! We spoke to top female sexual health experts to hear their recommendations about the best positions for the most common sexual health concerns. Get ready to meet your new Continue reading →

• The Top 9 Most Amazing Vaginas

  Svetlana Ivanova

  17 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Vaginas are amazing, but some vaginas are more amazing than others. The Frisky reveals the top nine most amazing vaginas. Vaginas! So strange. So mysterious. So essential a component of the female anatomy. Sure, you may have a vagina. Or maybe you’re just curious about vaginas. Vaginas are like snowflakes. No two vaginas are alike. Continue reading →

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  Married And Happy

• Husband, One Reason Why Your Wife Sometimes Wishes She Was With Some Other Man Besides You…

  CalleZorro

  19 Jan 2012 | 6:53 pm

  My young teenage daughter and her friends have a problem… It’s a problem that most wives also have with their husband. As such, this article may very well help you improve your marriage. The problem sounds something like this: Girl: [calls boy on phone] Boy: [answers with a slow, drab, deflated, non-energetic tone of voice] Hullo? Girl: [with high energy and excitement] chatter…chatter…chatter…so what are you doing? Boy: [same low-energy tone of voice] Nuthin! Awkward silence ensues. So girl tries again. Girl: chatter…chatter…chatter…so, what…

• How to Increase the Amount of Sex You and Your Wife Are Having

  CalleZorro

  17 Nov 2011 | 8:36 pm

  If husbands and wives would just determine to ONLY do those things that lead to a happy marriage … to ONLY do what works for themselves and for their spouse … and if they would determine to NOT do any of the things that lead to unhappiness in themselves or their spouse … then marriage relationships would be easy. But as we all know, that is NOT what married people do. Now, I am not here to bash women … but I am here to articulate an important concept so that husbands can understand how to create the happy and sexual relationship with their wife that they want. If you…

• 7 Tips for Talking Openly About Sex With Your Husband Or Wife

  CalleZorro

  9 Aug 2011 | 4:14 pm

  How many times have you wanted to talk about something sex-related with your spouse but just could not seem to ever get it out? How much unhappiness have you experienced … what lackluster results do you continue to experience … because you have not yet been able to say to your spouse what you really want to say about sex? Or, how many times have you tried to talk about something sex-related with your partner only to have it turn into an unpleasant, unhappy situation? Whether you need to talk about a fantasy or a desire that you have in the sex-department … or you need to…

• Can I turn my marriage around?

  CalleZorro

  22 Jul 2011 | 2:55 pm

  Men frequently tell me their wife is just not affectionate or sexual and they want to know if it is even possible to get such a wife to be affectionate and sexual. The answer is, “Yes!” There ARE men who create the marriage they want with a wife who was previously blocked, locked, and shut-down. But, they did NOT create the marriage they wanted by just WANTING their wife to be different.  They did NOT create the marriage they wanted by being frustrated all the time because their wife was not what they wanted her to be.  They did not create the marriage they wanted by trying…

• Husband, Do You Feel Hopeless Or Depressed About Your Marriage?

  CalleZorro

  19 Jul 2011 | 6:30 pm

  Husband, as you consider the state of your marriage relationship for the last few years … and then project forward into the future, does it seem like a dim, gloomy, unhappy, unsatisfying future? Do you in fact feel hopeless or depressed about your relationship with your wife? If so, here is what you need to know… A key reason you feel that way is because you are not aware of any viable, workable, solution-oriented options. You don’t know what to do. You don’t know where to go from here. You don’t know how to fix your marriage … you don’t know how to…

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  The Female G Spot

• Are Meds Ruining Your Sex Life?

  Grafenberg

  25 Jan 2012 | 1:23 am

  Health issues affect our sexuality in a variety of ways, including hormones, chronic pain, stamina, depression and body image. One of the most common health issues affecting our sexuality is prescription medication. Most medications have side effects. When these are minimal or trivial, we ignore them. But some side effects are major. And when they affect your sexual functioning, ignoring them is difficult. The most common unwanted effects that drugs have on sexuality involve reduced desire, limited arousal and inhibited or impossible orgasm. Here are common sexual side effects of some popular…

• Apologize With Meaning

  Grafenberg

  18 Jan 2012 | 1:13 am

  Apologies are offered and accepted regularly in successful relationships. The question is, what are you —or your partner—apologizing for? Meaningful apologies can have several different goals: Acknowledging a partner’s pain Acknowledging your role in that pain Implying you’ll try hard to avoid doing the hurtful thing again Requesting a resumption of warm feelings Not every apology, however, is meaningful. When people say “I’m sorry,” and don’t know what they’re sorry for, the apology is a mere formality. It neither examines the present nor…

• Pleasurists Edition #164

  Ernst Grafenberg

  17 Jan 2012 | 10:00 am

  Photo courtesy of Pixel* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 163? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 165? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday January 22nd @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists just started accepting photo submissions for the art at the top of editions! For more information click here. Want a shiny…

• JimmyJane Form 4 Review

  Ernst Grafenberg

  10 Jan 2012 | 1:26 am

  Ratings Overall Ease of Use Effectiveness Jimmyjane’s Form design collection is characterized by sleek designs that challenge and tease the user’s imagination. I was looking for more odd shapes and features when I came across Form 4, another design in the series. At first, I couldn’t believe it belonged in the Form series because it is the only one that looks and feels like a vibrator. Although the design still has a discreet but quirky edge to it, the user does not have to guess what it does. With the Form 4, you don’t have to rack your brain trying to figure out how to use it.

• Get a Little Closer

  Grafenberg

  4 Jan 2012 | 10:34 am

  What is intimacy and why are some of us so uncomfortable with it? No single definition of intimacy can satisfy everyone, but here’s one that works for many people: intimacy is the feeling of being known. It’s a feeling that someone else knows your true self, and the trust that there’s a joint commitment to maintaining your connection even when it’s difficult. Intimacy takes many forms: verbal, physical, sexual, spiritual. A relationship is all the more powerful — and intimate — when it features more than one of these forms. Unfortunately, people may focus on…

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  Molly's Daily Kiss

• Anonymous – A New Project

  mollyskiss

  27 Jan 2012 | 3:16 pm

  27th January 2012 It is time to announce another new project on Molly’s Daily Kiss. I know, I must be mad right, on top of all the other projects and writing plans I have I decide to launch another new sub domain but in my defence I am hoping that it is you are going to write it and not me. Anonymous is a space I have created for you to share your anonymous words. In recent weeks I have been contacted by quite a few different people asking me to publish anonymous pieces on my blog on behalf of them and so I got to wondering if maybe creating a space just for people’s anonymous…

• The Bottom Line

  mollyskiss

  25 Jan 2012 | 3:48 am

  25th January 2012 This weekend he asked me to choose. He has never asked me to choose before. Actually that is not strictly true he has given me options like; the wooden spoon or the whip, or the leather paddle or the wooden paddle but never just a completely free choice from all the instruments of torture. When he saw my choice he smiled but there was something else there in his eyes. Surprise maybe? Yes, it was surprise, you see he was sure I would choose the flogger. Often there is a tussle in our play or sometimes even a downright dirty fight as I do love to be made to submit. I have…

• Ring My Bell

  mollyskiss

  21 Jan 2012 | 7:01 pm

  22nd January 2012 I had been keeping my eyes open for ages for one the old-fashioned red Tardis style telephone boxes but in many urban locations they had slowly been replaced with horrible modern alternatives that lacked the iconic style of the red phone bow and then with the rise of the mobile phone many had been removed altogether. Quite a few of the old style ones have been maintained in and around central London where their look has been deemed to be more in keeping with the surrounding architecture. However when you are looking for one of these to take photographs for the Scavenger Hunt…

• Only The Beginning

  mollyskiss

  17 Jan 2012 | 4:10 pm

  18th January 2012 Settling down in front of my computer on Saturday morning with the taste of his cock still lingering on my tongue and his cum just starting to leak out of my pussy I let out a contented sigh. For what felt like the first time in weeks we had a whole weekend to ourselves, no kids, no social plans, just us and 2 whole days of whatever we felt like doing. I had been woken by a hand in my hair, dragging me down his body and guiding my mouth onto his soft cock. As I held him tightly in the warm confines of my mouth I took a moment to breathe in his warm night-time scent that…

• e[lust] #32

  mollyskiss

  16 Jan 2012 | 6:57 am

  Photo courtesy of Lady Grinning Soul Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as libido, fake orgasms, teenage lust, voyeurism, BDSM consent and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #33? Start with the rules, come back in February to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ The Top Three Posts ~ Assent Matters by SherynB – Find your emotional power to recognize and say “no” to what you don’t want BEFORE you get naked and tied up and give up…

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  Los Angeles Dominatrix | Ms. Justine Cross

• Dungeon West Website Live!

  Ms. Justine

  20 Jan 2012 | 1:55 pm

• Best of Both Coasts: Los Angeles Dominatrix Mistress Justine Cross and NYC Dominatrix Mistress Alex

  Ms. Justine

  9 Jan 2012 | 8:34 pm

  When you can’t decide between the hot brunette dominatrix and the hot blonde dominatrix, just take them both! Mistress Alex from NYC will be visiting this week, January 8-13. Mutual interests include forced feminization, CBT, bondage, looking hot and kicking your ass. Can you handle Mistress Alex AND Mistress Justine?

• Why Some Dommes Never Have Reviews Published

  Ms. Justine

  5 Jan 2012 | 7:46 pm

  I used to offer discounts to clients who would post reviews of me or allow me to use their letters on my site. Since I had more control over my own site, I wouldn’t always wait for a client to offer a review, but instead ask if I could post a letter that was particularly compelling. All my clients complied as long as I left out personal and identifying details, of course. Nevertheless, as I frequent forums, and Maxfisch in particular, and see how traffic gets directed and how much clients use it to find a Domme, I was often disappointed when I wouldn’t see reviews about my…

• Vote for Me! Nominated for the Sexiest Feet Award at Los Angeles Footnight.

  Ms. Justine

  2 Jan 2012 | 1:38 pm

  Need I remind you? How much . . . . . . you want . . . . . . to worship . . . . . . the Sexiest Feet of Footnight? Last year, I won Most Popular Model, this year I am nominated for the Sexiest Feet Award at Los Angeles Footnight. Vote for me HERE. I will be attending Los Angeles Footnight and Awards Ceremony on January 26th. Hope to see you on your knees there! Or perhaps you will be lucky enough to be part of the human “red carpet” that I walk across in my heels to collect My prize!

• Los Angeles Dominatrix Top 10 Moments of 2011

  Ms. Justine

  29 Dec 2011 | 10:17 pm

  My breasts got ready for the party that is My life. Well, it’s been a helluva year. I’ve been on TV, I’ve been a Unicorn, I’ve been to London, I’ve been to shoots instructing celebrities how to spank each other, I’ve been to Eric Clapton. I FUCKING LOVE MY LIFE! While there are been many amazing moments this year, below are the top ten: 10. Most Popular Model at Footnight 9. Debut on Attack of the Show with Violet Wand 8. Spanking Nina Hartley 7. Torture Garden London 6. Attack of the Show again demonstrating Puppy Play 5. Fetish Fest Dominican Republic 4.

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  DateDaily

• Profile Mistakes Women Make

  Richard Connery

  26 Jan 2012 | 3:36 pm

  We all make mistakes with our profiles when we first start out, it’s a learning curve for all new members and not the end of the world.  The following are some of the most common mistakes that women can avoid making to guarantee a more successful experience.  I’m not suggesting that men don’t have faults in their profiles, far from it, these are just some of the errors commonly attributed to female profiles.Like many other men, I read some women’s profiles and just can’t quite fathom what message they intended to get across.  Your profile is your ‘life line’ to success and…

• Special Valentine’s Day Film

  Veronica Newman

  19 Jan 2012 | 3:35 pm

  Are you ready for St. Valentine’s Day?I know I’m not.But I am happy to see that Nancy Schwartzman is prepared.Nancy SchwartzmanSchwartzman has scheduled an exciting event for Valentine’s day. On February 14, 2012, 6pm EST, Nancy Schwartzman will début her new documentary about online dating. The event will happen online, here, and the premier will be followed up by a panel about love, intimacy, sex, and the Internet from some experts and excellent bloggers.Schwartzman’s documentary project is unique because she explores the true relationship side of online…

• Top 10 Cities Where You Will Find The Most Sensitive Men

  Veronica Newman

  18 Jan 2012 | 8:47 am

  Where are all the sensitive men!?  According to data from Chemistry.com, the top 10 cities where you can find the most sensitive men are mainly on the east side of the states. Many are vacation spots, few have harsh winters and 2 of the cities are in Florida! If your heart has been broken, maybe it’s because you aren’t living in the right city.Pompano Beach, FloridaRoanoke, VirginiaWest Hollywood, CaliforniaNashville, TennesseeBuffalo, New YorkSarasota, Florida eastGreenville, South CarolinaWilmington, North CarolinaIndianapolis, IndianaStaten Island, New York  

• Love Vs. Vocation

  Simone Finch

  18 Jan 2012 | 8:10 am

  “Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.”- Sigmund FreudBy this account, I am only half human. I’m kidding. There is plenty of love in my life. Love of family, love of friends, love of animals. But I must say that when I put on one of my favorite love songs, like say, “Ain’t Nothing Like the Real Thing” by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell, it doesn’t have the same spark as when I have someone specific in mind. But the search for this specific someone is so exhausting, and it’s the first thing I will push to the side for something else. For example, as I was…

• 15 Negligible Facts About Sex

  Veronica Newman

  16 Jan 2012 | 4:13 pm

  The basics of sex aren’t tough. You know what goes where, how everything works, and what can arise after the fact. But there are a lot of other things about sex that you may not know. Here are 15 pieces of sex trivia that you probably didn’t know.Infograph from here.1. 56% of men have had sex at work. Shocker! That means there’s over a one in two chance that your male coworker has gotten down in the office. Pay close attention during next meeting and try to guess who did the nasty.2. More women talk dirty during sex than men. Several magazine conducted surveys and found that…

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  e[lust]

• e[lust] #32

  admin

  15 Jan 2012 | 9:38 am

  Photo courtesy of Lady Grinning Soul Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as libido, fake orgasms, teenage lust, voyeurism, BDSM consent and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #33? Start with the rules, come back in February to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  ~ The Top Three Posts ~  Assent Matters by SherynB – Find your emotional power to recognize and say “no” to what you don’t want BEFORE you get naked and tied up and…

• A new year and a new method!

  admin

  3 Dec 2011 | 11:13 am

  There will be no edition for the month of December due to the timing of it with the holidays and also in order to clear the way for a new schedule.  2012 will introduce a new and improved e[lust]. Thanks to feedback on a post on my personal blog wondering if I should end e[lust] I’ve come up with a solution that I think will be better for everyone. e[lust] has been going for 2 years now and hopefully this next year will be better for everyone. Change #1 – A New Schedule Even though there are many ways to receive updates and reminders on when submissions are accepted, such as the…

• e[lust] 31

  admin

  10 Nov 2011 | 6:45 pm

    Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #32 ? Start with the rules, come back in January to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  ~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~  A Feminist Defense of Consensual Nonconsent – How does a woman who identifies as a feminist reconcile her desire to submit to her partner during sex? Being…

• e[lust] #30

  admin

  10 Oct 2011 | 1:23 pm

   Photo courtesy of Emmy @ Right Turn Without Signaling  Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #31? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~  Crotch Topiary & Other Delights – I admit I started simple, I realised my teenage dream of having a Winona-inspired…