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  My Sex Professor: Sexuality Education

• Take Stock Of Your Sex Life

  Debby

  9 Feb 2010 | 6:22 am

  Some people, toward the beginning of the new year (and February is still beginning-ish), find it useful to take stock of what the previous year has meant for them. Did they accomplish the goals they set out to accomplish the previous year? To what extent did they follow through on last year’s New Year resolutions, [...]

• Q&A: How Will Sex Change After We Have Kids?

  Debby

  8 Feb 2010 | 6:42 am

  We have a great relationship, and would like to have kids but we’re nervous about how it will affect things between us.  Any advice? This is always a hard question to answer because the research is pretty clear: having children is linked with lower marital satisfaction (I know, I know, the ugly truth that nobody [...]

• VIDEO: Brooklyn’s Vulvagraphics

  Debby

  8 Feb 2010 | 6:36 am

  As some of you may remember, I had been invited to share some of my research related to female genitals at the Vulvagraphics event in Brooklyn, NY earlier this year but could not attend for scheduling reasons (boo!). By all accounts, the event was a huge success and artful knitted vulvas were on display over the [...]

• A Ginormous Thank You to GCSU’s Women’s Resource Center!

  Debby

  7 Feb 2010 | 6:50 am

  This past Friday, I had the distinct pleasure of being the keynote speaker at Georgia College & State University’s inaugural Women’s Sexual Health Symposium (my talk was about 10 Myths, Rumors & Misunderstandings about Sex). They had an incredible turnout  of at least 200 women and men – an attendance that would be enviable for [...]

• Ever Had Your Feelings Hurt By Your Partner? Take This Survey.

  Debby

  6 Feb 2010 | 7:29 am

  A PhD student is recruiting men and women to answer an online questionnaire related to hurt feelings in romantic relationships. You can learn more about this important study and take it on the HurtLab web site.

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• Desiree Conference 2010!!

  swoplv

  4 Feb 2010 | 11:25 pm

  Desiree Alliance In conjunction with BAYSWAN, Best Practices Policy Project (BPPP), Center for Sex and Culture (CSC), International Sex Worker Foundation for Art, Culture and Education (ISWFACE), St. James Infirmary, SWOP USA, SWOP Tucson, SWOP LV, SWOP Chicago, SWOP NorCal, SWOP Santa Cruz, Harm Reduction Coalition, Sex Work Awareness, and $pread Magazine Presents Working Sex: Power, Practice, and Politics July 25 thru 30, 2010 in Sunny Las Vegas, NV!! Join us for the Academic and Policy track. Network with established and developing scholars who are engaged with research, theory, and…

• Internet Radio Show

  jillbrenneman

  26 Jan 2010 | 3:52 pm

  forwarded on behalf of Maxine Doogan Who: Host Maxine Doogan of the Erotic Service Providers Union will be joined by Douglas Fox of the International Sex Workers Union who will be updating listeners on the Crime Bill which criminalize clients of prostitutes. Susan Davis of Canada’s West Coast Cooperative of Sex Industry Professionals will be speaking about the legal challenge to over turn anti prostitution laws and Sienna Baskin, staff attorney of Sex Workers Project in New York will be updating us on a legislative effort to stop using condoms as evidence of prostitution. What:…

• Adult Industry Professional Self-Defense Program

  Serpent

  15 Jan 2010 | 2:38 pm

  Back Off! and SWOP Chicago join forces to present the Adult Industry Self-Defense program. This class consists of a 2-hour module that will cover the specific needs of the adult industry. it addresses general self-defense strategies and deals with environmental self-defense, including ejecting a client. Offered in a private setting. Open to all genders. Date- Wednesday, January 20, 2010 Location- Wicker Park, Chicago (exact location given upon RSVP) Time- 7:30-9:30pm Cost $25 Please contact Kevin Sogor by phone at (773) 252-4470 or email walking.armour@gmail.com to attend.

• Relevancy of Client Status

  Amanda Brooks

  15 Jan 2010 | 12:35 am

  One thing I’ve noticed again and again is that when men make online comments in any way supporting sex workers (like on news articles or major blogs), they always hasten to add that they have never seen a sex worker and have no need of it. Obviously, they believe client-stereotypes (e.g. all clients are ugly losers) and feel a strange need to pretend they’re not clients. I wonder why they even think the disclaimer is relevant — can’t they, as arguably intelligent people — support sex workers with or without vested interest? Why the need for qualifying their…

• Happy Holidays Everyone

  jillbrenneman

  24 Dec 2009 | 3:21 pm

  However you celebrate them, my warmest holiday wishes to you!

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  Sex and the 405

• Judge Orders Aide To Turn Over Edwards Sex Tape

  Anaiis

  9 Feb 2010 | 9:00 am

  Judge Abraham Penn Jones ordered Andrew Young, the ex-aide of former Senator John Edwards, to turn over the sex tape on Friday. Young and his wife, Cheri, were at the Pittsboro, North Carolina court to contest a temporary restraining order forbidding them from disseminating the videotape. The judge found the Youngs in civil contempt of court and ordered them to give the court the tape and other materials they may have by 2:00PM this coming Wednesday. If they fail to comply, the couple could be jailed. According to court documents, the couple has said they possess “a video recording…

• Facebook to Humanize the One-Night Stand? 0N N0Z!

  Anaiis

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:00 am

  POSSIBLE TECH URBAN MYTH ALERT! But still, so scary and full of sensationalist goodness, we just have to tell you. So get this — the Facebook app lets you sync the contact info on friends’ profiles with your address book, right? Awesome! Except… FACEBOOK KNOWS YOUR ONE-NIGHT STANDS. That’s what the subject line of the e-mail Valleywag received said. (We get some weird e-mails here at Sex and the 405, but that one’s just OMINOUS.) Anyway, yes, imagine Facebook identified and told you everyone who gave you their number — and vice versa? Don’t panic…

• OMG? Walgreens Is A Sex Shop!

  Anaiis

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:00 am

  Jenny Block, contributor to Fox on Sex (fair and balanced!), was recently surprised to discover the selection available at her local Walgreens. First, there is a surprising variety of “personal massagers.” “Quiet and powerful ones” in a Skittles-worthy array of colors. Multiple surface versions that boast the ability to be recharged. The “Comet Massager” that looks like it’s related to a Pixar space creature. The little guy even lights up. [...] One massager comes complete with a warmer, and several of them have all sorts of interesting nubs and bumps and…

• Becoming a Rope Slut

  Daisy

  9 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am

  “I think I’ll have you tied up and suspended tonight,” Sir M told me when I greeted him at a recent dungeon party. This was to be another chapter in my training and I was grateful for the de-emphasis on pain and the focus, instead, on altered states. Rope bondage is an area of BDSM that attracts many admirers with the beauty and creativity of the craft, combined with the image of seeing a submissive completely helpless. A good rope practitioner knows how to lay the rope in an artful way to accentuate the body and personality of the one being bound. Rope bondage for suspension requires…

• Those Kinksters Must Be Stopped!

  Anaiis

  8 Feb 2010 | 8:00 am

  Bethesda, Maryland, is, according to Forbes, one of America’s most well-educated small towns. It’s also the location of the most recent battle for sexual freedom. Paul Pickthorne, a Bethesda resident, hosts regular BDSM parties at his 3,600-square-foot home (dubbed “a castle-like McMansion” by the Washington Post, which obviously hasn’t set foot in California since the early-00s, otherwise they’d know anything under 6,000-square-feet is a Mini McMansion. But we digress). So the guy has BDSM parties. Why is this a problem? “Zoning,” we’re…

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• Sex Nerds and Oversharers: Your Contribution to Important Sexuality Research is Needed!

  Audacia Ray

  1 Feb 2010 | 8:33 pm

  I have always thought that research on sexuality is cool. Plus, having engaged in various kinds of research on sex, its presence (it being sex research, not actual sex) in my life allows me to make lots of puns (actual sex provides plenty of opportunities for punning as well). But in all seriousness, sexuality research is important, especially the good kind, done by good people. How many times have you read an article about the latest sexuality research report and been annoyed by not just the tone of the article, but the way the research is done? If you’re a thinking sex positive person…

• Love and Pain at Sex Worker Literati

  Audacia Ray

  1 Feb 2010 | 10:42 am

  This upcoming Thursday, February 4th is the “Love and Pain” edition of Sex Worker Literati. We’ve got a great line-up (below) that will be a complex mix of brevity and misery – we like to keep things complicated. And, I’m totally getting better at posting video on the regular. Above is Dylan Ryan’s performance from November. It’s got a lot of love and pain in it – this piece actually brought tears to my eyes when she performed it. Here are the details for Thursday, hope to see you there! Hosted by Audacia Ray and David Henry Sterry Happy Ending,…

• Video: Go-go boys, tentacle porn, and sex worker stories

  Audacia Ray

  23 Jan 2010 | 2:42 pm

  More video from Sex Worker Literati in September! The first is Gerry Visco, who describes herself as “illegally blonde” and writes about outrageous NYC nightlife at the New York Press. Gerry’s not just a chronicler of nightlife, she’s also a creator of mayhem. You can see what I mean in the below video, in which she not only has a lookalike but is also accompanied by two go-go boys. She’ll be making a second appearance at Sex Worker Literati in March for our “My Favorite Outfit” event. Also from September is a reading by Zak Smith (aka porn performer…

• Sex Worker Literati: Stories on Video & Call for Performers

  Audacia Ray

  18 Jan 2010 | 7:50 pm

  I’ve been a bit lax about it over the past two months, partly due to some hard drive messiness (le sigh), but I spend some time this weekend digging into my archives of video files from Sex Worker Literati. There are a lot of good stories coming down the pike, since I’ve now got 10 videos edited and ready to go, and I’ll be posting at least two a week for the next while. I still have to edit videos from the December and January readings. At the moment, there are eighteen videos online – you can watch them all on our blip.tv channel or subscribe via iTunes or Miro.

• Neither Victims Nor Voiceless (crosspost from RH Reality Check)

  Audacia Ray

  13 Jan 2010 | 10:46 am

  Yesterday I had my first feature go up at RH Reality Check, and it’s about sex work activism, the ways that the sex worker rights movement is sometimes misconstrued by the feminist movement, and it has some substantive writing on my time in India. Plus, there’s a bit about the process of producing the short doc about IWHC partner org SANGRAM. It was inspiring to meet the HIV-positive rural women, illiterate sex workers, and community health advocates who are working together to facilitate change in their communities. Many told me how for years, doctors in the local primary health…

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  NYT: Sex

• Abstinence Education Done Right

  7 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  No single approach will reduce sexual activity in all teenagers, but a new study suggests that there is a sensible, effective way to teach abstinence.

• Sex Education and Freedom of Choice

  7 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

• Sex Ed, With No Federal Strings?

  6 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

• Quick Response to Study of Abstinence Education

  2 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  A study of middle-school students found for the first time that abstinence-only education helped to delay their sexual initiation.

• Massachusetts: Sex Change Tax Benefits

  2 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  The United States Tax Court has ruled that a Massachusetts woman should be allowed to deduct the costs of her sex-change operation in a decision that could have wide-ranging consequences.

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• birth control consultation/issues, bleeding

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:56 am

  Hi there superstars! For the past couple months, I've been bleeding for two weeks! Hurrah! I am currently on birth control (Loestrin 24 Fe, generic is Microgestin or Junel, etc.) and I take my pills on time every day. I have a theory that my cycle is either trying to sync up with my friend's (whose period is a week before mine) or the hormone amount in the Loestrin simply isn't enough to cover what I need.I'm on the Loestrin because it was helpful for my cramps (which are... horrible.) but it's honestly not worth it if I'm going to bleed for half the month (which makes it really sad when I…

• Emotional Reactions During Orgasm??

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:36 am

  I had sex yesterday, for the first time in about a month, with a new friend of mine. It wasn't the first time I had orgasmed in a month, nor the first time I had orgasmed with "assistance" from another person in a month... But... It was the first time in a WHILE that I had CRIED upon orgasm. It has only happened just a few times, and the last time could be anywhere from a year ago to three years ago (my memory is a little fuzzy.) I just couldn't help it, like as soon as I had an orgasm, I just broke down into tears - why is this happening to me??

• Interior...Texture?

  9 Feb 2010 | 1:24 am

  I looked through the tags and couldn't really find anything of this nature. Sorry fi this has been posted before, maybe I'm just not looking well enough.What texture is the inside of your vagina and is there anything that causes a specific texture? I was reading posts over at one of the men's health communities and they were discussing how the inside of a woman feels. Basically all the commenters said that women's "canals"(?) feel different and ranged from being slick and smooth to having the same texture as chickenskin testicles. This was interesting to me as the one time I had intense…

• cyst or something

  8 Feb 2010 | 8:36 pm

   So I've noticed for the past few days I have a bump that is in the area between my vagina and my anus.  I've had a pimple there once before (it was a whitehead, I popped it and everything went back to normal)It seems this pimple is more of a cyst, I took a look with a mirror tonight and it's like purpley under the skin. I tried squeezing it. Bad move, I know, but I can't help but always try to pop things that look like zits. I'm just wondering if there is anything I can do. I seem to have angered it. :( I don't really want to go to a doctor just yet, I work and go to school so…

• Spotting on pills.. weeee

  8 Feb 2010 | 6:55 pm

  Alright. I didn't want to make a new post because I am sure this has come up before plenty of times. The search isn't working and I didn't find it in the tags! I've been on HBC for like 2+ years now. Sexually active. Got the kinks out when I started and haven't had any problems since (except my failed attempts at stacking, heh). I am taking it perfectly, at the same time every day. This past week was my inactive week. I had my period starting Tuesday like usual, and it seemed to clear up by Sunday save for one last tiny spot. I thought it was over and stopped using pads/tampons and went about…

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• 6 Non-Restaurant Valentine's Day Ideas

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:06 pm

  The classic Valentine's Day celebration is a romantic dinner, but that can be hard to pull off. First of all, restaurants are super crowded and it's hard to get reservations; many of them have prix fixe menus that limit your dining choices and the prix might be more than you want to pay. You can make dinner at home, sure, and candles and an elaborate menu ensure that it's different from any old home-cooked meal. If the idea of dinner just isn’t doing it for you but you still want to acknowledge the holiday, try out one of these alternatives.

• Should Women Settle for Mr. Good Enough?

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:05 pm

  Forget Mr. Right. A new book, "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough," says we might be setting our standards too high. - Jenna McCarthy,

• How to Throw a Single Gals' Valentine's Day Party

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:05 pm

  Get your girlfriends together and make the most of  February 14 by setting up a festive dessert bar. - Faye Brennan,

• User post: Why do guys avoid the single mother?

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:04 pm

  Okay, here's the deal: I'm a young mother with a two month old son. This was not something I planned on doing, but hey, stuff happens. Well, I love the fact that I'm single since I can flirt a lot and just kind of have fun (but not too much fun). The thing is though, I know I'm going…

• 5 Cheap, Last-Minute Date Ideas for Valentines Day

  9 Feb 2010 | 6:17 pm

  No matter what kind of woman you're taking out nor how serious you are, she's guaranteed to love these $100-and-under excursions — most of which will get you laid, and all of which have a gift to go with them.

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  ScienceDaily: Sexual Health News

• Antiretroviral therapy associated with increase in pregnancy in sub-Saharan Africa

  7 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  A new study conducted in a multi-country HIV treatment program in sub-Saharan Africa has found that pregnancy rates increase in HIV-infected women after they start antiretroviral therapy.

• HPV vaccines may reduce a wide range of genital diseases

  6 Feb 2010 | 2:00 am

  High-coverage human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccinations among adolescents and young women may result in a rapid reduction of genital warts, cervical cell abnormalities, and diagnostic and therapeutic procedures, researchers report in a new study. Some of these genital abnormalities are precursors of cervical, vulvar and vaginal cancers.

• Youth who self-identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual at higher suicide risk, say researchers

  6 Feb 2010 | 2:00 am

  Mental health professionals have long-known that gay, lesbian and bisexual teens face significantly elevated risks of mental health problems, including suicidal thoughts and suicidal attempts. However, a group of researchers has now come to the conclusion that self-identity is the crucial risk-factor, rather than actual sexual behaviors.

• Potential evolutionary role for same-sex attraction

  4 Feb 2010 | 8:00 pm

  Male homosexuality doesn't make complete sense from an evolutionary point of view. One possible explanation is what evolutionary psychologists call the "kin selection hypothesis." What that means is that homosexuality may convey an indirect benefit by enhancing the survival prospects of close relatives.

• New vaccine effective in preventing TB in African patients with HIV infection

  3 Feb 2010 | 11:00 pm

  Results of a clinical trial show that a new vaccine against tuberculosis is effective in preventing tuberculosis in people with HIV infection. Scientists found that MV immunization reduced the rate of definite tuberculosis by 39 percent among 2,000 HIV-infected patients in Tanzania.

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  This Could Be Dangerous...

• Valentine’s Day: What will you be forced to do?

  Lilly

  9 Feb 2010 | 9:21 am

  Valentine’s Day. I’m married now, so I have no right to bitch about it, right? Wrong. I hate sitting there on V-day at work, watching others get flowers, and wondering why I didn’t. I know why. It’s because I hate having him spend the money on something that’ll die soon. And I hate that whole forced-recognition thing. But then I see flowers like these and I slightly change my mind: The ever-popular chocolates are also, IMO, stupid. No I’m not saying I’d turn down chocolates (even though my ass tells me I should) it’s just that they’re so…

• Backseat Orgasms

  Lilly

  8 Feb 2010 | 6:09 am

  “I parked in the garage today. Top floor.” That was all Office Boy’s email said. While I had a pretty decent idea why he was telling me this, I decided to play coy and I asked him why. “Meet me inside the elevator lobby up there at 12, and you’ll find out.” “Will I need my coat? It’s pretty cold out there, you know. Where are we going?” “No coat. Not going anywhere. You’ll see….just be quiet and enjoy ;)” And so the morning progressed as it usually did on days like that. Flirts and looks and words strung together…

• Isn’t it Ironic

  Lilly

  5 Feb 2010 | 11:28 am

  You know how sometimes you don’t realize something as being true until it comes falling out of your mouth with no premeditated thought? Writing is like that, for me. It can be how I work shit out. So I handed in a few posts to Edencafe recently and they decided to run with my little theme and post them all on the same day. It’s Dangerous Lilly Day! Baby steps this week, one day for lunch I chose a green salad with a half cup of tuna salad on top, and a cup of light yogurt. Two months ago would have found me having the reuben. Was the tunasalad the best choice, when you consider…

• NYC Sex Blogger Calendar is recruiting nationwide!

  Lilly

  5 Feb 2010 | 4:44 am

  Reposted from the New York City Sex Bloggers Calendar website, which you should go check out because yours truly designed the header and the new sidebar buttons and I’m totally proud of them. :) Amazing artwork, Map of Canada and the US,  by Oupelay on DeviantArt, please check out the rest of his fantastic gallery. You’ve just flipped the January  page on your 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar, whispered a fond farewell to the lovely Mia Martina, and greeted the awesome Abiola Abrahms, who graces February’s page, and here I am about to talk to you about 2011.  If it seems early to you,…

• HNT: Driving with the top down

  Lilly

  3 Feb 2010 | 10:12 am

  The last time I tried this, I was alone and driving on the Turnpike where the other drivers are whizzing by at high speeds. This time I was with my hub and on a smaller 4-lane road where the drivers aren’t going by me quite as quickly. I fear one minivan contained impressionable young children. Oh dear. Hub is now further reminded why he should go on weekend trips with me even if its to see my mother, because the rewards are great. Icing and tits….not much else better! This Could Be Dangerous.... A blog by Dangerous Lilly is licensed under a Creative Commons…

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  Sex In The Public Square

• Graffiti Gone Wild

  Elizabeth

  7 Feb 2010 | 1:26 pm

   And now for a public service ad you will never see on US broadcast television, not during the Super Bowl, not ever: I saw several tweets about it and found the YouTube video embedded above linked by most. Lots of different users had posted the same video to YouTube and I found one that had a link to Creativity Online where you can see the full credits.I can't say enough about this video so I'm not going to say anything at all right away. What do you think of it?

• Focus on the ... Super Bowl?

  Elizabeth

  7 Feb 2010 | 12:30 pm

  It seems to me that Super Bowl Controversy is a sport unto itself. This year the controversy centers on an anti-abortion ad by Focus On The Family. The ad features football star Tim Tebow and his mother discussing her choice not to abort, despite medical advice that it might be best for her health, when she was pregnant with him.Focus on the Family is an exrtraordinarily regressive organization when it comes to women's rights and sexual freedom and I would not expect to like any ad of theirs. But this one in particular is galling because the only reason it tugs at our hearts is that Pam Tebow…

• The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health Wins!

  Elizabeth

  2 Feb 2010 | 6:25 pm

  From Megan Andelloux, founder of the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, now officially open in Pawtucket Rhode Island:The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (CSPH), the first non-profit sexuality resource and information center on the East Coast, has won the right to open its door and provide sex education for adults.The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health will provide one on one coaching services, group classes, drop-in hours, teaching resources, access to sexuality journals and in the fall, start an internship program and conduct sexual health studies. Megan Andelloux, a board…

• The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health Applies for Special Use Permit

  Elizabeth

  24 Jan 2010 | 10:01 am

  Megan Andelloux and the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health have not given up in their efforts to provide medically accurate information about sexuality to the residents of Pawtucket, RI and surrounding communities.The CSPH, if allowed to open, will make an invaluable contribution to improve the quality of life in Pawtucket and surrounding areas. Specifically, its mission is to educate adults about sexuality so that they can enjoy sexual pleasure in ways that also protect (and even improve) their own health and the health of their partners. By extension such an organization protects the…

• Re-posted: Sex Positive Journalism Award Winners Announced!

  Elizabeth

  18 Jan 2010 | 6:58 pm

  From info@sexies.org:The board and judges of the Sex-Positive Journalism Awards are proud to announce the winners of the 2009 Sexies. Selected from about 100 entries (not counting multiple nominations of the same piece!) submitted by both writers and readers, the winning entries cover subjects from teen pregnancy to conjugal visits, vaginal plastic surgery to prudish responses to public art. The winning articles come from all across the United States and Canada, and represent a range of genres, from news to advice columns. What they all have in common, however, is that they succeed in…

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• The Faux Ho Hot Mess @Audible.com

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  8 Feb 2010 | 11:12 am

  My New Podcast This Week @Audible_com: • The Faux Ho Hot Mess • My Favorite Sex Worker Blog, "Eco-Whore." I read her every day, the only site I read consistently besides the New York Times. I'd read her diary about any and all subjects— and happily, she does cover the...

• Who Dat Said Dat Crazy Erotic Quotation? Tuesday Puzzler...

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  6 Feb 2010 | 5:58 pm

  Who dat said: 1. "I don't want to live-- I want to love first, and live incidentally." 2. "Sex appeal is fifty percent what you've got and fifty percent what other peole think you've got." 3. "Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man." 4. "Literature -...

• I've Got the Sweetest Hangover! Love Song Winners...

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  6 Feb 2010 | 7:56 am

  Wow, that love song contest was wild. I was downloading, editing, and posting your songs without stopping for about eight hours with minor toilet breaks. "I've got blisters on my fingers!" Around midnight, some anonymous cutie called— and instead of singing into the phone, he blasted a scratchy LP of...

• Who Dat? My Teeny Tiny Super Bowl Party Recipe Redux

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  5 Feb 2010 | 11:21 pm

  I know how to make a Super Bowl chili for people who hate chili. It's chili for vegetarians that the meat-lovers will demand for seconds. Imagine a chili you can make in minutes but will make everything believe you toiled for hours. You can cook it as picanté as you...

• The Valentine Songs You Phoned In

  susie@susiebright.com (Susie Bright)

  5 Feb 2010 | 11:18 pm

  UPDATE: It's midnight, Friday, and I'm calling it a night... turn off the mike, superstars! The last songs just came in from Hawaii. This was so fun listening to and posting all these songs. I'll pick a winner tomorrow morning for a set of Dare Cards... I knew this would...

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• wherein i play fast and loose with protection

  Chelsea Summers

  3 Feb 2010 | 4:35 pm

  It's that time of the month again. That moment when I've a new piece on the inimitably wondrous Filthy Gorgeous Things. This time, I write about condoms, birth control, Soviet Russians, shopping and my own safe-sex whimsy in a piece called "The Protection Ritual: Safety and Fluids." Here's an excerpt:Wrapped in latex, a cock gleams with all the glory of meat in the butcher’s case. It’s both a beautiful and a horrifying thing, the condom-sheathed cock. It’s a thing that announces sex, screams sex, keens with sexual immediacy, even as much as it is one of the most…

• see me in the flesh, just not In The Flesh

  Chelsea Summers

  5 Jan 2010 | 6:24 pm

  I'm delighted to tell everyone who lives in the tri-state area--as well as those who live outside it and have access to a car, a jet or a matter transport machine--that I'll be reading at this month's Sex Worker Literati reading this very Thursday, January 7. I'm terribly delighted that Audacia Ray, a superwoman with an astonishing array of accomplishments, asked me to read because this series is pretty fricking awesome, and some of my personal idols like Molly Crabapple and Jo Wheldon and my close personal friend Melissa Gira Grant have read previously, and Candy…

• those fornicating sentences: on a grammatology of fucking

  Chelsea Summers

  8 Dec 2009 | 7:55 am

  It's a glass-half-full, glass-half-empty situation. On the frothy beverage side, I have a new piece up on Filthy Gorgeous Things. On the stark airy side, it's not free. But the Maraschino cherry is that the piece is only $.99. You can, therefore, buy said article as you would download a song by Lady Gaga and thus show Filthy Gorgeous Things how very worthy you find my writing. You can also buy a whole subscription to FGT and show the mag how very worthy you find the totality of their endeavors. Your choice, really.This piece, which I've entitled "On a Grammatology of…

• the gift that keeps on giving

  Chelsea Summers

  9 Nov 2009 | 5:19 pm

  Here it is, yet another free link to a new piece by me on the high-class, smarty-pants, pay-as-you-go erotica site Filthy Gorgeous Things. This issue revolves around euphoria, and my piece, "The Gift of Euphoria," describes those times when you give others that ecstatic moment. It begins thusly:There is that moment. The body relaxes into a limp capitulation even as it suspends taut with anticipation. The eyes may close or they may widen in surprise, though the pupils go invariably round as pushpins. The mouth makes a little “o,” the circular call of cherubim, of succubae, of…

• filthy/gorgeous/free...shhhh

  Chelsea Summers

  2 Oct 2009 | 5:27 pm

  So my new piece on Filthy Gorgeous Things is live and open for your reading pleasure. The piece, which I've called "Hush," talks loudly, purplish and long about secrets.Here's the first paragraph:Secrets in and of themselves are sexy. Knowledge, especially knowledge that is personal and private, is sexy. Power is sexy. And secrets, those delightful, frisson-bearing scraps and orts of information, hold power. A secret told enough times becomes a story, and while stories hold pleasure and while stories carry power, a story lacks the whispering, murmuring, susurrating sexiness…

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  The Virginity Project

• He's got a ticket to ride...

  The Virginity Project

  23 Jan 2010 | 3:43 am

  I’ve told this story before but I’ll tell it again. I searched high and low for the prostitute virginity loss story. I phoned a friend – or ten – I practically advertised on the Internet at one point until I realized that it might look a bit iffy. No story, asides from my endless (and unrequited) search for the Muslim story has taken me on so many twisty turny paths as my search for the prostitute story. And then one day they started rolling in. For no reason. Just like buses. It’s all true what they say about buses. None come for days and then there’s a ten-car pile-up. At one…

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  The Virginity Project

  31 Dec 2009 | 11:17 am

  Well now, seeing as we are passing tonight, not just from one year to the next but from one decade to another, here is an extra special treat. I don’t know what’s been happening lately, perhaps it is something in the stars, but I have been sent some fabulous stories of late. Not only that, but your ability to summarize your most intimate moments with such wit, verve and charm never cease to amaze me.Today’s story is from Tegan. She is almost nineteen years old and she lives in the Bible belt in the States. I’m not going to ramble on, partly because I am bushed but mainly because the…

• The Vow - Part Two

  The Virginity Project

  13 Dec 2009 | 11:08 am

  So, I promised to tell you the second part of last week’s story and here it is. Let’s recap. Our storyteller is twenty-three years old and she has not yet lost her virginity. She kept it because she made a childhood pact with two friends not to become a teenage statistic. No pregnancy, no nasty diseases and no boring boyfriend problems, at least until graduation. But what do you know, by the time graduation rolled around, she was the only that had bothered to keep the vow. Fast-forward five years, and she still hadn’t gotten around to letting go of it. Until now that is. There is little…

• The Vow

  The Virginity Project

  29 Nov 2009 | 12:56 pm

  When I first read this story, I assumed that The Vow in question had been made in response to parental pressure. I was wrong: ‘Both of my parents knew about my vow and both of them, whom have not agreed on a single thing since their divorce in 1996, told me square in the face that I would not make it. Neither my mother, nor my father believed it was humanly possible to hold off till marriage. I think my parents are happy that I chose to abstain but I don't think it is because of the normal reasons. They just had one less worry in the world. I wouldn't be getting pregnant.’ No, I…

• On the face of things...

  The Virginity Project

  7 Nov 2009 | 3:20 am

  You can go whole weeks here at the virginity project and nothing really happens. No one loses their virginity and if they do, they don’t feel inclined to talk about it and generally speaking, everyone appears to be at one with the world. And then all hell breaks loose.  Which is an exaggeration but really, its not often that I get emailed a question that I’ve never been asked before: ‘Ms. MonroDoes a persons face change when they lose their virginity?  Thanks Karl’ Now, I don’t know if I have some weird kind of dyslexia but I completely misread this question the first…

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  How to Tell if a Guy is a Jerk

• "It's You I Like" A Quote About Greatness

  Jennifer Jones

  20 Jan 2010 | 6:45 am

  In a world, that often worships wealth, beauty, prestige and power, I'm reminded of a simple quote that speaks to me of true greatness!"When I say it's you I like, I'm talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed."— Fred Rogers Greatness isn't about wealth, beauty, prestige, and power. It is about kindness,…

• Why I Started this Blog... and the death of my brother

  Jennifer Jones

  21 Aug 2009 | 12:51 pm

  Periodically I get some less than kind emails from people who seem to think I must hate men or have had some horrible experience with men hence I have an "issue."Not so... the truth is, (and as most readers recognize), I started this blog because I believe there are many fabulous men in this world who are not given a chance, and women who may have a difficult time recognizing the truly great men who are available. My hope is to help women see what makes a great guy and help them stay away from men who are abusive and cruel. In my opinion, the more women value themselves, and value the things…

• You Don't Need a Guy Who..... Ten reasons to get out of a bad relationship!

  Jennifer Jones

  13 Jul 2009 | 6:28 am

  Many women seem to have this need to be with a guy. We humans do like relationships but what is disconcerting is the idea that as long as a woman has a man all is well.Not so!Having a guy in your life should not be the dream; how about having a decent guy in your life?A great relationship is one where both partners are helping and supporting each other, sharing their lives together, bringing out the best in one another.Too often women seem to take whomever is available rather than pondering what is going on in her life as a result of the relationship.So here is a brief list of some things to…

• Maybe today is the day you can change your life? My favorite quote by Eleanor Roosevelt

  Jennifer Jones

  6 Jul 2009 | 6:16 am

  For all the women who feel they can't move on, can't reach their dreams, can't end an unhealthy or abusive relationship, or feel just plain stuck, here is one of my all time favorite quotes... (I have it on a little pewter angel hanging in my car),I gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which I must stop and look fear in the face... I say to myself, I've lived through this and can take the next thing that comes along... We must do the things we think we cannot do.~Eleanor Roosevelt~Maybe today is the day you decide enough is enough.Maybe today you will know that you are…

• Should I Break Up? How Do I Know When to End my Relationship? Help?

  Jennifer Jones

  4 May 2009 | 12:06 pm

  I frequently get emails and comments from women wondering if they should break up, and how to know when a relationship is not working.Of course there is no one-size-fits all answer, and each relationship is different but here are five guidelines that may help.Five guidelines to help you know when to break up:1. If you are in an abusive relationship you are going to continually be hurt emotionally, physically, mentally, sexually or all of the above. Typically the abuse will escalate and increase so holding onto the idea that the relationship will improve is just prolonging the pain. It is not…

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  Dating

• eHarmony Dating

  Dating

  Well, what can I say about eHarmony? They are one of the premiere dating sites, and for a good reason. I signed up for a full membership, tried it out, and all I can say is they really get down to the nitty gritty as far as what you would like in life. They definitely try hard to match you up with a potential mate!

• Love Dada Dating

  Dating

  I rate this site so highly because not only can you comfortably find singles online with a web browser, but you can find them when your away from your computer with your cell phone! Very nice! New singles are joining all the time, and Love.Dada has around 3 million members. It seems with the ease of cell phone AND internet usage, connections are made all the time. I cant recommend this site enough! Dont take my word for it, check out all of the positive and negative features of the site and the Love.Dada dating scene below.

• Real Mature Singles Dating

  Dating

  Real Mature Singles is a screened group of single adults who are ready to move beyond online dating and into something real.

• Thirty Plus Singles

  Dating

  If you're 30-ish, or way over it, then you may be looking for a more serious relationship. I think this is one reason why more single women and men seem to find Thirty Plus Singles so successful! This site has lots of no-nonsense dating features, it also has strict rules imposed on its sign-up options. The screening is so stern and thorough that people below 30 and with less than the approved income range of $25,000, cannot join. Beacuse of this, there are more professionals at Thrity Plus Singles compared to most other sites. The quality is highly observed even for its members, and it can be…

• VIP Singles

  Dating

  Elite Matchmaking for Professional Singles VIP Singles is a true matchmaking service. They assign a personal representative to you. This person reviews the profile that you submit to them, and from there, start suggesting matches. These are hand picked, and human scrutinized results. It really doesn't get much better than this! The personal attention really shines through once you go step through 3 phases of the online sign-up process. We've signed up and tried out VIP Singles for you, below find the 3 step sign-up process outlined.

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  aag

• Taxed

  aag

  8 Feb 2010 | 8:00 pm

  Early February brings tax season to the aag household. Under normal circumstances I would have had mine at least estimated by now but as I’ve been busier than (as my dad likes to say) a one-armed paper hanger, the forms got pushed farther back on the counter and lower in my overburdened thoughts. At least they did until the ex brought up the topic. He was prompted by a desire to submit his own taxes, which he proudly told me would bring about the issuance of a quite pleasant refund. I’ll try to do them this weekend I promised, then scurried off to address other brightly burning…

• Question from a Reader: Anal Sex and Worry

  aag

  7 Feb 2010 | 8:00 pm

  The other day this email from someone I’ll call Beatrix arrived in my email. Will you help me answer it? I have a fabulous, wonderful lover with whom I have been exploring new delights as well as being confronted by some faulty programming. Not to be too blunt but I’m having trouble with anal sex. I never tried anal before but it’s great with this man. However, I’m really bothered by the sensation of the outward stroke because it feels so similar to … well, umm… pooping. I’m terrified that I’m going to be messy all over him! So far, knock wood,…

• Jane, have a cookie

  aag

  7 Feb 2010 | 6:57 pm

  My boss, the inimitable Jane from Jane’s Guide, recently began tweeting. If you’d like a closer look at the ins and outs of running a porn-review website you really should follow her. Welcome to Twitter, Jane. Have a cookie. –(Jane’s Guide on Twitter) ------ This post, Jane, have a cookie, originally appeared on aag on Sunday, February 7, 2010. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and without my permission. Please email aagblog at gmail dot com and let me know. ------ Share:

• A Penitent Villain

  aag

  6 Feb 2010 | 7:07 am

  When you insult or offend someone, always admit it and apologize promptly, even if it wasn’t your intention or you had no idea. It is always better to be a penitent villain than to appear so socially inept as to not recognize when you’ve hurt the people around you. An evil genius is someone to bring to your side, a blundering fool is someone to keep as far away from you as possible. via Sans Jupe ------ This post, A Penitent Villain, originally appeared on aag on Saturday, February 6, 2010. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and…

• Please Forgive Me

  aag

  4 Feb 2010 | 8:09 pm

  Please forgive me. I’m working my poor lil ass off trying to finish up projects for a few clients. Monday will, no doubt, find me in a much more relaxed state as opposed to clinging to the ceiling by my toenails which is where I am right now. ------ This post, Please Forgive Me, originally appeared on aag on Friday, February 5, 2010. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and without my permission. Please email aagblog at gmail dot com and let me know. ------ Share:

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  Practical Polyamory™

• Calling All Poly Leaders - Poly Leadership Summit February 21-22, 2010

  4 Feb 2010 | 3:30 pm

  On February 21-22, 2010 an informal polyamory leadership summit will be held following the Poly Living conference at the Ft. Washington Holiday Inn and Conference Center in the Philadelphia metro area.  Whether you can be there or not, if you are not already a member of the Polyamory Leadership Network and wish to become one and get notices of future summits, please download, carefully read and complete this survey form to tell us about you and your activism work and e-mail it to the address shown at the end of the form.  For full details and to sign up…

• Countdown to Poly Living Conference

  4 Feb 2010 | 11:48 am

  Just 15 days left until Poly Living 2010Ft. Washington Holiday InnFt. Washington, PA (Metro Philadelphia area)Now is the time to register!Check out a taste of the presentations coming to you!KEYNOTE SPEAKER:  Cuddle Party Co-Founder  Reid Mihalko onWhat Happens When Polyamory Becomes Mainstream?For the activists among us, progress for the poly movement has never been fast enough. For those who've been "poly for years," shows like Big Love and the occasional Oprah episode on open marriages -whether "poly" is used or not- reassure us that things are shifting. For the newly…

• Kudos to Advice Columnist Bianca Phillips

  19 Jan 2010 | 2:31 pm

  Today Memphis Flyer advice columnist Bianca Phillips answered a poly coming out question from a member of a polyamorous triad and did an excellent job. This is especially encouraging considering how advice columnists vary widely as to their knowledge about and treatment of the subject of polyamory. Some can be downright snarky and disapproving, but there are also those like Bianca who wear no blinders and treat polyamorous advice seekers respectfully and fairly. I especially appreciate that she congratulated the triad for their relationship lasting so long, nine years.  Coming out to…

• Happy Poly Moment on The Daily Show

  15 Jan 2010 | 2:18 pm

  Thanks to my friend Nicholas for the tip about a happy poly moment on last night's The Daily Show.  This whole clip is pretty funny, at least it is if you enjoy the kind of editing that goes on where the questioner's questions aren't always what the interviewee was asked.  The poly part comes in at about 3:10.  Joy and George Reagan and George's unnamed girlfriend, the people being interviewed by comedian Jason Jones, appear to be the real deal. They also apparently agreed to get partly unclothed and climb under the sheets for a little three way kissing after Jason sets up the…

• Kaye Scholer Wins Asylum for Transgendered Client

  13 Jan 2010 | 9:49 am

  I've bragged here about my former law firm employer, WilmerHale, for their excellent pro bono work. As it happens, I changed megafirms in November 2009 and am now employed at Kaye Scholer, a NYC-based firm, in their Washington office. They, too, have a great pro bono program.   In the course of my work I work closely with a female African American attorney who focuses on pro bono cases involving discrimination, which feels very good.Big law definitely does give back, as is evidenced by the following.  Recently an immigration court granted asylum to one of…

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  Rhi in Pink

• Wedding Miscellany

  rhiinpink

  4 Feb 2010 | 6:09 am

  I logged into TheKnot.com this morning because I like to feel inadequate and stressed out. It told me that I have 161 to-dos and 205 days until my wedding. How many to-dos have I completed? ONLY TWENTY-EIGHT. So…here’s what’s going on: Engagement Photos: DONE and DONE! We had so much fun running around Portland on a beautiful day with our fab photographers Ashley and Aaron. I couldn’t be more thrilled with how they turned out. Dress: You may recall that I am a terrible daughter and instead of allowing my mother to go wedding dress shopping with me, I instead went dress…

• Friday Bullets: CHEESE! Edition

  rhiinpink

  22 Jan 2010 | 6:58 am

  Wedding talk shall be kept to a minimum in this post, because quite frankly, I’m sick of talking about it. I’ll be answering no more wedding related emails/texts/phone calls for the duration. I’m burnt out and I can’t take a break from work, so I’ll just have to take a break from the other huge cause of stress in my life. With that said, our engagement photos are tomorrow and I have nothing to wear. I am wearing my J.Brand jeans and my Hunter Wellies (if it rains) and that’s all I have planned. Please send suggestions. Keep in mind that I have to be able to…

• My Wedding, My Rules

  rhiinpink

  19 Jan 2010 | 7:34 am

  Apparently, the most asshole thing a bride and groom can do is not invite children to their wedding. So, I’ll just go ahead and put it out there…we’re not inviting children to our wedding. I do not feel bad about this, I’m not sorry about it, and quite frankly, I shouldn’t even have to justify it. This includes infants and toddlers, because, well, it’s my wedding and I say so. This does not include the children in our wedding, which include my two nieces (flower girls) and my step-nephew (ring bearer), also my best friend’s children who will be doing…

• Friday Bullets: I’m on a Boat Edition

  rhiinpink

  15 Jan 2010 | 7:06 am

  Friday Bullets are returning. You’re welcome. I know delurking day was yesterday, but will do me a favor and delurk today? I was very, very busy yesterday and couldn’t post. I promise to come visit your blog if you do. (generous, I know) I’d like to be excited about my 3-day weekend, but I have to work tomorrow, so I’m bitter. The work in question is manning womanning a booth at the Portland Boat Show. Where I’ve so far spent two days trying to refrain from hopping on a mini-yacht and singing this. And, because I apparently can’t get enough of fluorescent…

• Toxic

  rhiinpink

  5 Jan 2010 | 9:10 am

  I’ll admit it. I’m not the easiest of people to get along with. I’m kind of abrasive. I say whatever pops into my head. I’m not tolerant of much. I have many opinions, including many unpopular ones. But, I don’t hesitate to share them. But, if I’ve not totally offended you after that, I’m a very good friend. I listen and I give honest advice. I’m generous (sometimes too much so) and I’ll drop anything to help a friend. Unfortunately, I’m at a point in my life that my free time is extremely limited. I’m away from the house…

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  Scarleteen

• My father isn't respecting my personal boundaries.

  Heather Corinna

  8 Feb 2010 | 11:22 am

  My father and I don't have the best relationship but he continually forces me to give him hugs, kisses, etc. even after I say no. It really bothers me, even if it is just a kiss on the cheek. He also comes in my room a lot (without knocking) and lays down in my TWIN size bed with me and wont leave even after I tell him to get up. I don't know what to do anymore and I don't feel like I can trust him anymore because he never respects what I want to do. What should I do about this? Read the answer...

• If you now use a method of contraception that is NOT condoms (like the pill)...

  Heather Corinna

  8 Feb 2010 | 9:41 am

  When I started the other method, I immediately stopped using condoms. When I started the other method, I still used/use condoms for a few weeks. When I started the other method, I still used/use condoms for a few months or longer. When I started the other method, I kept/keep using condoms until me/my partners have been recently tested for STIs. When I started the other method, I keep/kept using condoms, period. When I started the other method, I had not used condoms before and still don't. I'm not sexually active, not having intercourse, or am same-sex partnered, so don't need…

• When the Big O is a No-Show

  Heather Corinna

  4 Feb 2010 | 10:54 am

  I am having a problem orgasming, like most women. I am 24 years old. I have tried masturbating myself thinking it will be more relaxing and easier, but its not. The problem I am having is I get so close, but I can't get all the way. I start to feel pleasure, then I feel my muscles start to tense up and spaz a little, but then it gets PAINFUL that I jerk away and can't make it to the orgasm. I don't know how to get past this painfulness or if it's normal. I have tried so hard to get through the pain, but its too much. This is starting to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend. Please help me.

• Can I get a girl pregnant if...

  Heather Corinna

  4 Feb 2010 | 8:36 am

  Can a girl get pregnant if I ejaculated in the condom then took it off and then stuck my penis back in her but didn't ejaculate in her unprotected. What are the chances? Read the answer...

• What's the Typical Use Effectiveness Rate of Abstinence?

  Heather Corinna

  3 Feb 2010 | 8:15 am

  What's the typical use effectiveness rate for abstinence? All I can find anywhere, even at organizations that teach abstinence, or say it's the only effective method of contraception, is the perfect use rate. How well does it really work for people in real life? Why doesn't anyone have that information on this method when we do for every other method? Read the answer...

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  Married And Happy

• When Your Wife Does Not Give You All You Want From Her...

  Calle Zorro

  18 Jan 2010 | 3:22 pm

  Consider this for a moment...what if you stopped fretting about everything you want your wife to be for you...all that you believe she is not...and instead, you started focusing on becoming a man who is inspiring to your woman...how much good could such a shift make in your marriage?How much more would your wife WANT to give you all that you want from her...that she now resists giving you?The answer is, you can never know until you give it a real try.The philosopher Emerson once said, "Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be."Think about this quote from…

• Why Jack's Wife Doesn't Want To Have Sex With Him...

  Calle Zorro

  30 Dec 2009 | 4:04 pm

  After having helped a lot of men from all over the world create a happier, more sexual marriage, I've come to understand an incredible truth: men unknowingly block the very affection, respect, and sex they desire.Interestingly, the more a husband refuses and rejects this truth...the more a man wants to shift the blame to his wife...the less affection, respect, and sex he has in his marriage...and the worse his marriage grows...guaranteed!Permit me to illustrate this point by drawing out a few paraphrased points from a "B-movie" I recently watch titled "Far Cry".In this movie, the leading male…

• How Can I Get My Wife To Be More Loving And Sexual?

  Calle Zorro

  8 Dec 2009 | 8:11 am

  I don't mean to do it...really, I don't...but it seems to happen anyway...usually, right after I name nonsense for what it really is. For instance, a man recently said the following to me:"I adore my wife. She is 100% perfect even if she is not because I LOVE HER! I tell her every day how much she means to me. I let her know exactly how I feel about her. Because I TRULY love her, I don't have any expectation of my wife. When she is acting like a child, I don't see any less of a woman than I did when we first met. It's been several years now and I still feel the exact same way about her. If…

• My Wife Does Not Give Me Love, Respect, Or Sex. Why?

  Calle Zorro

  30 Nov 2009 | 1:22 pm

  Recently, a man said the following to me:"I am so frustrated!!! No matter what I do, my wife does not give me love, respect, or sex.I constantly do nice things for my wife. For example:I let her sleep in everydayI clean house nonstopI take care of the children (the roles between me and my wife are switched)I tend to her hand and foot trying to make her feel like a queenI try not to let her down in anywayI tell her she's beautiful multiple times every dayI'm always complementing her on how intelligent she isI don't get mad and call her names or say hurtful thingsI support her a lot as well as…

• "I Want My Wife To Want Me As Much As I Want Her! I Want That Closeness Back That We Used To Have."

  Calle Zorro

  27 Nov 2009 | 1:07 pm

  Recently, a guy sent me the following:"I have a question about my wife. What if the little things you do -- that are just you -- get on your wife's nerves -- even though you are supportive and caring and everything -- and you still manage to get on her nerves or make her angry --and that causes her to lash out and start calling you names and belittling you -- you know, the hurtful things that make you feel unwanted or not good enough?What should I do then because I really love my wife and I just want her to want me?By that, I mean I feel as If I need her to actually (want want) me and get the…

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  The Frisky

• Blushing Bride Wants Pauly D To Give Her Away

  Kate Torgovnick

  9 Feb 2010 | 11:20 am

  Many women dream of their wedding days. They envision a sunset ceremony on a secluded beach and the inter-generational dancing at their reception, but most of all, they picture themselves in a poofy dress walking down the aisle ... with Pauly D....

• Italian Vogue Says “Be Yourself,” Just Make Sure You Look Like This

  Kate Torgovnick

  9 Feb 2010 | 11:10 am

  This month’s Italian Vogue came out emblazoned with an all-caps rallying cry for all the “individuals” out there. Oddball models Jamie Bochert and Agyness Deyn pose poutily on either side of crazy-dressing heiress Daphne Guinness and for a second we...

• Is Rihanna Jacking M.I.A.‘s Style Now?

  Kate Torgovnick

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:50 am

  Rihanna was accused of trying to be a mini Beyonce early in her career. Remember the long, honey blonde hair? But then RiRi got a little punky around the time Sasha Fierce was allowed to come out more and more. And while Rihanna and Bey look nothing...

• Fashion Magazine Layout Makes You Want To Say “Ew”

  Kate Torgovnick

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:40 am

  Our homeslice Copyranter points us to this freaky, and we do mean freaky, layout from Brazilian fashion magazine FFW in which a Kobe Bryant stand-in and his teammates get all weird and sexual with a young lady in the locker room. Er, what is going...

• The Bad Breakup Hall Of Fame

  Kate Torgovnick

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:30 am

  Unless you marry your first boyfriend, you probably have some experience with breakups. While some relationships end amicably, others have rather intense conclusions. From scary to almost funny, 10 women across the country share their tales of...

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  About.com Sexuality

• Susie Bright Dares You

  7 Feb 2010 | 4:01 pm

  My number one pick for Valentine's this year is also Susie Bright's first foray into sex games. Read on... Is there a difference between sexual ideas that come from the genuine pursuit of sexual knowledge and pleasure and those that come from a marketing team or wannabe TV sexpert? You bet there is. Susie Bright has devoted her adult life to learning about sex and the human condition, and sharing her discoveries not only with friends and lovers but also with the general public through her non-fiction writing and work as an editor of erotica. For open minded and openhearted sexual exploration,…

• Sex Tips for the Rest of Us – The Look and Sound of Desire

  4 Feb 2010 | 2:28 am

  Most sex tips I read don't apply to me at all. They assume too much, about my body, about my gender, about what I want from sex. I could go on, and on. But instead, over the years, I've been compiling sex ideas that try not to assume or expect too much. I call them sex tips for the rest of us. Some, but not all of us, are aware when something turns us on. We might find ourselves just slightly more tuned in, or note a change in our bodies. It might be sudden and shocking or slow and subtle. Whether you're aware of it or not, how often do you spend time thinking about why something turns you…

• Dr. Sandra Leiblum

  31 Jan 2010 | 4:01 pm

  Sex therapist and researcher Dr. Sandra Leiblum passed away on Thursday. She was a well-known psychologist and sex researcher whose career spanned almost forty years. Leiblum was involved in over 130 clinical and research studies, and the editor or co-editor of ten books, including the now classic Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy. I never had the opportunity to meet or hear her speak, but colleagues and friends describe her as both an important contributor to the field of sexology and a warm and generous teacher, mentor and friend. Most recently Leiblum coined the term persistent…

• A Sex Study I'd Like to See

  28 Jan 2010 | 4:01 pm

  Last week I went a bit overboard complaining about the limits of quantitative social science research. Reading Tania Rabesandratana's article about Flibanserin in the Inkling got me going again. It was this quote from Petra Boynton in response to a Flibanserin researcher marking a difference between "internal" and "environmental" factors in sexual desire (as if such distinctions are ever fully possible): Dr. Petra would like to see Flibanserin pitted against precisely such "environmental factors." "Why not test the drug not only vs. placebo, but also vs. using a sex toy or lubricant,…

• The Political Fall and Rise of Teen Pregnancy Rates in the U.S.

  27 Jan 2010 | 2:38 am

  Yesterday the Guttmacher Institute released statistics on teen pregnancy rates showing that for the first time in almost a decade the pregnancy rate went up. Among girls 15 to 19, the rate increased by 3 percent from 2005 to 2007. Last May analysis of teen birth rates also showed a 5 percent increase from 2005 to 2007. Noting the differences in coverage of this release is like a study in how news is politicized as it's created. For example while most of coverage includes the fact that the Obama administration is moving away from abstinence-only programs in favor of interventions that have…

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  Having My Cake and Eating It Too

• Valentine’s Day Ideas

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  9 Feb 2010 | 2:41 am

  It’s that time of year again and my inbox has been full of special offers from all my lovely suppliers. So I thought I’d share a few with you to see if you are inspired to treat your loved one. First up, we have the Valentine’s lovers sets from Ann Summers, who are offering some fabulous lingerie sets from £25 as well as an assortment of pressies, starting at £15. At Love Honey, there is a huge range of Valentine Novelty Gifts from £1.99 – great ideas, all with free delivery. Spice up your Valentine’s Day at MyPleasure! Sexy Gifts for Men, Women and Couples.

• Fix You

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  8 Feb 2010 | 12:51 pm

  For Ruf, on his birthday. He hates Coldplay… but, if anybody fixed me, it was him. Right from the start, he promised me that he would make me feel beautiful. Show me what it was like to be loved. For three years, he was there, right behind me, building me up and putting me back together, only to watch my family pull me apart again but he couldn’t let himself fall in love with me. It is, now, almost a year since the strength of his support meant that I had become strong enough to start breaking the bonds that tied me to a man who could and would rip me to shreds with a cursory…

• Mute Monday: SuperStars

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  7 Feb 2010 | 8:34 pm

  And it’s Ruf’s birthday today. He definitely should be mentioned here amongst the SuperStars! Mute Monday ============ This post, Mute Monday: SuperStars, originally appeared on Having My Cake and Eating It Too on February 8, 2010. Share This Post:

• Pleasurists #63

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  7 Feb 2010 | 12:06 pm

  Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #62? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #64? Be sure to read our submission guidelines and then you can use our submission form and submit it before Sunday February 7th at 11:59pm PST. Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter. Mia for You-a! Viva La Vulva! Deadline: February 6th. Jimmyjane for Her, LELO for Him Deadline: February 7th @ 11:59pm. Courtney Trouble Week!

• A Century At Twickenham

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  6 Feb 2010 | 11:49 pm

  To the English, Twickenham is Rugby. The stadium’s first rugby match took place on October 2, 1909 between original tenants Harlequins, and Richmond. January 15, 1910 saw Twickenham’s first international, England vs Wales. To celebrate a century of English rugby at Twickenham, this afternoon, England strode out onto the famous turf to face Wales in the RBS 6 Nations Championship. It was a fabulous day, with England arriving onto the pitch dressed in a new kit that was very similar to that worn by their predecessors all those years ago. Made in state-of-the-art modern fabrics but bearing…

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  Ask Dan and Jennifer

• 3 Tips To Talk Dirty Without Offending Her (Video)

  Daniel Rose, author Sex God Method

  9 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am

  Talking dirty is a great way to spice up your sex life and make sex more enjoyable and exciting for both you and your partner. If you’ve never talked dirty to your partner during sex, how can you start? Some women are put off by dirty talk, but other women really enjoy it. How can you avoid making her uncomfortable? Here are 3 tips to talk dirty to your partner during sex without offending her! Click here to view the embedded video. Start Slow If you’ve never talked dirty before with your partner, you definitely don’t want to jump in feet first. Avoid being vulgar at first,…

• John Edwards’ Situation Looks Bleak – Can It Be Saved?

  Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil

  8 Feb 2010 | 4:00 pm

  By now, the news of John Edwards’ admittance to fathering a child with a woman working on his campaign has hit the airwaves and is making its way around the media. Talk shows, news programs, morning shows ~ everyone is riffing off of this admission and everyone has something to say about it. One thing seems to be the general consensus: that following Edwards’ earlier admission to having an affair with this woman, yet denying paternity of the father, no one is actually surprised he’s reneged on this earlier claim. Can John Edwards’ Marriage Be Saved? Elizabeth has said…

• Q&A: Personal Question For Dan And Jennifer (Video)

  Dan and Jennifer

  8 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am

   People who have gotten to know us through our website, through YouTube and through Facebook often wonder what we’re all about. Why do we do what we do? Do we have kids? Do we talk to them about sex? Here are some answers to your most personal questions. Question: I have a question that’s been burning on my mind ever since I started following you on YT. You guys have kids, right and you guys are American, I take it. So, how do you reconcile what you do on YT (and as a job, I think?) and the kids? Do they know, do they mind or… well, what’s the deal? Anyway, great…

• How To Prevent Your Spouse Leaving You After Years Invested In The Marriage

  Sarah Elizabeth Malinak

  7 Feb 2010 | 1:00 pm

  Yesterday, while mailing one of our books out to a customer, the post master was curious about the name on our return address, “Creating Ideal Relationships, LLC.” He was friendly as well as inquisitive, so I told him my husband and I are relationship coaches. Immediately, he shared with me that earlier in the day a friend of his had come in to mail something and the friend’s response to the question, “Did you have a good Christmas?” was, “My wife divorced me after 27 years.” Not even knowing the gentleman in question, I was stunned and said, “Ouch! That’s hurtful. That’s…

• Q&A: Can A Woman Want Sex As Much As A Man? (Video)

  Dan and Jennifer

  7 Feb 2010 | 9:00 am

  One social stigma that has stuck around for years is that men are sexually ravenous, while women don’t really have a sexual appetite at all. Is this true? Are men the only ones who want sex and women just go along with it to make their man happy or to have babies? Or can women want and enjoy sex as much as a man? Question: Is it normal for a woman to have an insatiable sexual appetite, and to be able to separate sex from emotion like a man? –Facebook Question Click here to view the embedded video. Yes, Women Have Sex Drives Women, like men, have sex drives. She may desire…

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  iVillage Love & Sex

• The Orgasmic French Kiss

  Leave a lasting, eroticized impression with these tips for giving an orgasmic French kiss!

• 11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009

  Did you make mistakes in your relationships in 2008 that you want to avoid in 2009? What did you do right that you want to keep doing? We asked the iVillage community for their relationship resolutions, and we hope they'll inspire a few of your own.

• Conversation Topics That Mean He Wants Sex

  Is he trying to sleep with you? You may be able to tell just based on the conversations he starts!

• 5 Tips for Staying at His Place

  Sleeping at your place: Most men believe they can control the situation when in familiar surroundings, but that confidence can be both a blessing and a curse.

• Quiz: Are You A Great Date?

  Do you make a good impression on dates? Take this quiz and find out if you have found the right balance between being too easy and too hard to please.

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  Baggage Reclaim

• Should I Give Him A Second Chance? Or a 3rd, 4th, 20th…

  NML

  8 Feb 2010 | 3:45 pm

  Ah, Valentine’s Day is approaching and much like Christmas, exes will be potentially creeping out of the woodworks. Maybe you’ve been broken up for a while, watched him waltz off with someone else and have been wondering, ‘Why her and not me?‘ Or maybe he’s not with someone else (or at least not that you [...]

• So…What is he thinking when he keeps making contact or tries to get back together?

  NML

  6 Feb 2010 | 9:00 am

  In another excerpt from my ebook The No Contact Rule, I highlight the age old activity of wondering what he’s thinking. Between adding more meaning to his behaviour and judging things based on your own actions or on those of ‘normal’ people, it’s easy to expend a lot of mental energy and particularly when you’re [...]

• Forget ‘Mr. Good Enough’, Mr Perfect & The Fairy Tale: Get Real So You Can Get Happy

  NML

  4 Feb 2010 | 9:00 am

  Over the past week or so, I can’t seem to escape the title of this new book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough written by Lori Gottlieb, a New York based author who is basically saying that women who continue the pursuit of ‘Mr Right’ are setting themselves up [...]

• The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships Part Two

  NML

  2 Feb 2010 | 3:44 pm

  A few days ago, I gave you all an insight into how I bounced from relationship to relationship unwittingly playing ‘the opposites game’ – where you subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) home in on a trait(s) of your last partner that you believe to be part of the reason why the relationship didn’t work and then [...]

• The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating & Relationships (Part One)

  NML

  29 Jan 2010 | 4:08 pm

  Many moons ago, I went out with a guy who was about 9 years older than me. He chased me hard, I wasn’t interested, but after being burnt by another Mr Unavailable who had the looks, charm, flash car, and excitement (I was only 21…), suddenly, even though he didn’t ‘look’ like my ‘type’, it [...]

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  Dating is Warfare

• Dream Big, My Ass

  Dating Trooper

  1 Feb 2010 | 9:20 pm

  I guess one of the reasons I'm me is because I do things like this. I don't have New Year's Resolutions. I have a New Year's Motto. This isn't just a wishy-washy little promise that I have no intention of keeping. No, a Motto represents the foundation upon which all of my choices for the coming year rest. It's a belief system. And, just like any motto, it has to ring perfectly true if I expect anyone - especially me- to follow it.Some years I can never quite settle on one. So I just don't. Those are usually the years I tried to kid myself into thinking that I will start cooking and eating…

• Bejeweled Christmas

  Dating Trooper

  25 Dec 2009 | 7:24 pm

  OK, I'm going to say something and please don't judge. I know how corny this sounds, but it's true nonetheless. Here goes.There is something truly thrilling when you unwrap a gift from your boyfriend (I'm sure this applies to husbands and all sorts of other romantic attachments) and find yourself holding a velvet box containing some sort of jewelry....Let me stop you there for a second. This is not an engagement ring. Or any ring for that matter. And I knew that and was in no way expecting one (though I wouldn't mind one either:-). So, now that we have appropriately adjusted expectations, I…

• Sledgehammer of Truth

  Dating Trooper

  21 Dec 2009 | 6:31 pm

  I work with faculty quite frequently in my job, trying to convince them to do something totally new that will help them tremendously with only a small amount of extra effort. It took me about five minutes to figure out what needed to happen to get them to act.Let them think they came up with the idea first.So why did it take me 20+ years of dating to figure out that men are the same way?Yes, I am talking about the subtle female art of male manipulation. In the nicest way, of course.Because I grew up without a father figure or much of any relationship modeling in the house, this is an art that…

• Long Time No Blog

  Dating Trooper

  27 Nov 2009 | 11:32 am

  It's been awhile and, to tell you the truth, I'm not all that motivated to blab even after all this time. Not that I haven't been thinking about the blog. Actually, I've been thinking about it a lot. See, I'm taking a class on putting together a non-fiction book proposal so I've been busy thinking through how and if I could turn this blog into an entertaining book. Lots of homework, writing exercises and learning what the very business-minded publishers are looking for.The cool part is that I am just teeming with stories to tell. A few I may have touched on here but mostly they are the tales…

• The Declawed Cougar

  Dating Trooper

  21 Oct 2009 | 6:58 pm

  I know, I know. The whole "cougar" phenomenon has hit its peak and is on the rapid downhill pop culture slide. (Seriously, I just Googled 'cougar woman' and was blown away by the number of websites that specialize in helping younger guys hook up with adventurous "older" women or helping these "older" women be a better Cougar. Gross.) But since I have never been on the cusp of what's "hip" (I think I declared that Pearl Jam was actually "a pretty good band" around 1996), allow me to address the matter here. And it probably isn't going to be in the way you would expect. OK, here goes.I've been…

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  Stiletto Diaries™

• New Levels Of Absurdity Will Be Reached Before The End Of The Day

  Shasta

  8 Feb 2010 | 7:54 am

  Quite unexpectedly, one of the things I’ve found the most uncomfortable and difficult when it comes to my relationship with Aiden, is being really emotionally vulnerable with him. I can be physically vulnerable, that doesn’t scare me at all, but when it comes to talking about my feelings, or God forbid, crying in front of him (the HORRORS!) I would rather eat a pail of sand. I’ve always had kind of a hang up about crying in front of people.  My family really frowned on the shedding of tears, even during moments when it seemed like the appropriate response.  I very clearly…

• Don’t Play Leap-Frog With Unicorns

  Shasta

  7 Feb 2010 | 6:00 pm

  I don’t know which is more annoying: having the desire to blog, but being unable to think of anything particularly interesting to write about, or having lots to write about but no desire to blog. In response to my previous post, Perakath remarked: I feel a bit bad for Jack! Is he really okay with it all? I left it sit for a while, because Jack intended to respond personally (and he still might) but being me, I have a few things to say on the matter, and some additional comments on how the co-habitation is progressing. Over the weekend Jack and I had the opportunity to go out for dinner…

• Engaging Your Superior Colliculus Since Sometime In The Past

  Shasta

  1 Feb 2010 | 7:41 am

  Aiden has now “officially” moved in with us.  He has basically been living here for the past two weeks, but yesterday he gave notice to his landlords, and we fetched a bunch of his things from his apartment. While we were in town we had dinner with his parents, and he let them know that he is moving in with me.  They weren’t exactly surprised, since he forewarned them in October that he was looking for a job where I live.  I think that they like me enough that they don’t really mind him moving over an hour away, especially since they know we will visit as often as…

• Lelo Bob Review

  Shasta

  26 Jan 2010 | 5:53 am

  I have fallen terribly behind on my reviews as of late, so I’m playing catch-up over the next couple of weeks. We just love us some anal toys around here, and the Lelo Bob is no exception.  Made entirely of satiny silicone, this is the ideal toy for butt-play beginners. It provides fantastic stimulation, and although it’s made of silicone, is rigid enough to make insertion easy. Due to it’s diminutive size and prostate-friendly shape, it’s perfect for men who are curious about anal toys, or for those who don’t like anything too large back there.  Women may also…

• They’re Probably Up There Making Love…Or Playing Dungeons & Dragons…Or Both. At The Same Time.

  Shasta

  25 Jan 2010 | 7:36 am

  It’s Monday!  I realized, while driving the eldest minion to school this morning, that I haven’t blogged in over a week, but I promise that I have good reasons for that. Last weekend I went out with friends on Friday night and saw Daybreakers (pretty good movie, but unless you’re really into non-sparkly vampires, I would wait for the DVD).  Afterwards I went to Aiden’s house and spent the night, and the following morning we attended a FetFair together, along with a friend of his who is just coming out in the scene.  Aiden bought two new floggers, one of rope and…

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  Mommy Has A Headache

• Are you my ying? Am I your yang?

  2 Feb 2010 | 9:13 am

  The question of whether soul mates exist was tossed in the air here this week and rather made me giggle. But when I had sufficiently composed myself to stop gibbering like a babboon I was ready to grab my quill and put my thoughts on paper. Do I believe soul mates exist? The short answer is no.   Here's why. 1. Soul mates can't possibly exist because of the fact that if there is only one woman for every man who completes her/him then what in the name of God did people do before the invention of the motor car? Bearing in mind that the car not to mention the plane has only been around for…

• The Lunatic Is In My Head

  27 Jan 2010 | 7:44 am

  As part of a writing group I have joined which gives us prompts every week I am tackling the theme of What have the voices in your head been saying lately? Now, I am the first to admit that I have a huge problem with voices in my head. In fact I recently read a book I could really relate to called Total Recall: The Woman Who Can't Forget by Jill Price about a woman with a unique memory who can remember every single day of her life in crystal clear detail and it has driven her insane. Interestingly for a while she didn’t realise she was different from other people…

• Speedy Seductions

  20 Jan 2010 | 8:35 am

  Often I hear my single male friends whine "What do women want?" It seems that when it comes to women most men do not know how to seduce women. Believe me it is the easiest thing in the world, so why do men buy pricy books about tricking women by hypnosis, or attend speed seduction seminars that teach you to use 'key words' to tickle her 'hot spots.' Why also do men spend millions of dollars on pumping up their muscles, getting hair plugs, getting their teeth covered so they resemble chicklets etc. when the answer is staring them right in the face. Let's start with all the things that…

• Have you been Pinkified?

  18 Jan 2010 | 12:37 pm

  If you have girls there comes a point where they become seriously good value. Maybe because I never had a sister and my girls are now six and eight I am now entering into one of those happy phases of parenting where it is mostly a joy to be around them. They can now THANK YOU GOD spend hours and hours in lingerie, clothes and makeup shops helping me pick clothes, helping me pick out accesories and giving me an honest opinion on whether a silver glitter crop top makes me look like mutton dressed as lamb. Scarlett even said when I turned 39 on Sunday: "Why are you sad about it? I'd love to be…

• Arsenic Brownies

  13 Jan 2010 | 10:41 am

  Imagine if you will a haggis skin filled with cold porridge. The sort of body that seeps over the edge of chair as if alive like Jabba the Hutt. Imagine a woman liverish in skin tone who sits in the entrance of an apartment block wearing a two hundred year old puke coloured cardigan, and who never moves from that spot unless of course you have rung the bell to be let in when she will be nowhere to be found. Such a woman exists and her name is Grottia (not her real name) and on top of being physically repugnant she is the least helpful person you could ever encounter in your entire life.

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  Polyamory Weekly

• Poly Weekly #228: Does poly cause atheism?

  Minx

  1 Feb 2010 | 6:24 pm

  Irreligion: does poly create atheists? Joreth cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

• Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic

  Minx

  25 Jan 2010 | 7:08 pm

  Sam Lawrence and April of new sex-positive community site, Black Box Republic. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com for full show notes and links.

• Poly Weekly #226: How to choose a partner

  Minx

  17 Jan 2010 | 9:53 pm

  How to choose/vet a poly partner. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or the Poly Weekly Facebook Page.

• Poly Weekly #225: Modern Poly Fundraiser

  Minx

  13 Jan 2010 | 7:53 pm

  Postmodern poly! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or leave a comment at www.polyweekly.com or on our Facebook page.

• Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly

  Minx

  2 Jan 2010 | 10:57 pm

  The new Modern Poly activist website; poly for the holidays. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com

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  Savvy Miss Love & Sex

• My Worst Valentine’s Day: Savvy Readers Share Their Stories

  7 Feb 2010 | 12:00 am

  Here at Savvy Miss we like to believe in the mantra, “Hey, it could be worse.” So if you’re feeling glum because this Valentine’s Day isn’t going to turn out exactly as planned, these readers’ stories might just make you feel better about your situation (and show that maybe that this holiday isn’t...

• The Relationship Middle Ground: Where Is This Going?

  5 Feb 2010 | 12:00 am

  Between dating and a full-blown relationship, there’s always an awkward period where you’re not sure how to act. Should you answer his phone, buy him a gift? We help you decide.

• Relocating for Love...Everything You Need to Know

  30 Jan 2010 | 12:00 am

  Could you move to a new city to be with the one you love? While the move means you will finally live close to one another, it may not be the fairytale you expected. Here's what you need to know before you relocate for love.

• Top 20 Cheesiest Pick-up Lines

  26 Jan 2010 | 12:00 am

  Watching men use pick-up lines is kind of like watching them “adjust themselves” in public. You just can’t help but think to yourself: Why? I mean, how many women actually go home with a man who approaches her with “your daddy must have been a baker, because you’ve got a nice set of buns?” Futile...

• Six Things to Consider Before You Move in with Him

  17 Jan 2010 | 12:02 am

  Living together can be great-you'll split the rent and he'll always be there to snuggle with. But before you sign the lease, here are some things to consider.

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  San Francisco Sex Information

• Continuing Education For Sex Educators

  Lil'Miss B

  27 Jan 2010 | 7:04 pm

  San Francisco Sex Information’s Continuing Education program is a series of monthly classes on topics of interest to sex educators, helping professionals, and anyone curious about the workings of human sexuality. Admission is $5 for anyone who’s volunteered with SFSI in the past six months, and $15 for the general public. These classes do not necessarily fulfill Continuing Education requirements for professional societies. If a class counts as professional development hours for a particular profession (ie. nurses, therapists or teachers) it will be noted in the class description.

• How can I help my boyfriend give me better oral sex?

  Lil'Miss B

  27 Jan 2010 | 6:58 pm

  Q: How can I help my boyfriend give me better oral sex? He tries pretty hard to get me off, although not quite as often as I would like. It is difficult thought, because it takes me so long to orgasm and his lengthy efforts so often leave both of us frustrated that I would rather just let him fuck me and get it over with. It’s not fair. It is so easy for him to cum and he gets to do it so often. It is hard not to feel some resentment towards him even though he really does try. He says he enjoys eating me out, and I believe him, but sometimes he is just not good at it. It doesn’t…

• How to continue sex life after MS diagnosis?

  Lil'Miss B

  20 Jan 2010 | 8:21 pm

  Q: I am a 57 year old female, straight, and have had MS for the last 3 years. I left a long-term relationship a few years ago because it wasn’t going to be able to weather the MS. He wasn’t the right partner to be with once I had a serious, chronic illness. It scared him and made him angry and desperate. I have a particular set of symptoms that make me feel hopeless about ever having a partner again because of how this will interfere with sexual intimacy. I want to talk to someone who can reassure me and tell me I’m wrong. Maybe this someone knows solutions I haven’t…

• Can I take my sex toys with me to other countries?

  Lil'Miss B

  6 Jan 2010 | 8:04 pm

  Q: I would like to know if it is OK to travel with my sex toys in my checked-in luggage to Saudi Arabia. Will be a problem for me? What is your advice? My sex toys include rubber/silicon dildos and a vibrator. A: The quick answer, according to the web site www.virtualtourist.com, is that sex toys are prohibited by the Saudi Arabian government and you will not be allowed to bring them into the country along with alcohol, pork, adult movies, or statues of animal or human form. In general, traveling by airplane with sex toys may be problematic at best and will often add complications to your…

• Is it ok to have rape fantasies?

  Lil'Miss B

  30 Dec 2009 | 8:05 pm

  Q: I am a woman with a question I don’t exactly know how to phrase. It has to do with what excites me, sexually. It doesn’t have to do with typical bondage/S&M type fetishes, which I have explored actively throughout my life and have come to accept as not inherently bad for me. This interest it seems, however, has just been a cover up for what I’m really interested in. I’ve had rape fantasies for a long time, which I have read is relatively common for women, so I never worried about it. I very much enjoy rape themed porn, the more believable and realistic, the better. What…

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  Beyond the Birds & the Bees

• Teen Mom: Who Are You Calling a Whore?

  Sex, Etc.

  29 Jan 2010 | 11:52 am

  I was talking with some of my friends about MTV’s Teen Mom a few weeks ago, and one of them said, “They’re all whores.” My friend wasn’t calling the guys who the girls had sex with whores, just the girls—not that anyone deserves to be called a whore. I was really surprised and upset that my friend said this. Why is it that if you’re a teen mother you’re a whore? I don’t hear people calling 20-something-year-old mothers whores, even though they have unplanned pregnancies too. People—teens and adults—make mistakes and birth control fails.

• Calling All Artists: Promote Safer Sex!

  Sex, Etc.

  21 Jan 2010 | 2:52 pm

  Condoms, when used correctly, help prevent unplanned pregnancies, HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Condoms can be an important part of practicing safer sex, and here at Sex, Etc. we encourage you to make condoms fun. Sex, Etc. is not the only place promoting condom use; in fact, a whole city is promoting it! New York City’s Health Department gives away more than 40 million free condoms a year. Those free condoms have a package specifically designed for New York City, a black wrapper based on the city’s subway motif. Although that design is still loved,…

• Give Sexting a Ponder

  Sex, Etc.

  7 Dec 2009 | 9:20 am

  Do you know anyone who has come to school naked? Probably not, but maybe you do know people at your school who have been seen naked because they’ve sexted—shared nude photos or videos of themselves via text or online. Many teens believe that the only person viewing the message is the person they send it to, however, with the click of a button, the sext can easily be shared with many others. Although it may seem harmless, there can be negative consequences for sexting. Who would want a college admissions officer or potential employer to make a decision about you after seeing your nude…

• Two Things You Can Do—Not Just on World AIDS Day

  Sex, Etc.

  1 Dec 2009 | 11:20 am

  World AIDS Day is held once a year, every year, on December 1. While HIV/AIDS is a daily reality that needs to be discussed and addressed, this is one particular day when people take extra time to get educated, get tested and remember the over 33 million people worldwide, living with HIV/AIDS. AIDS-related deaths have been decreasing over the past couple of decades for two very good reasons: knowledge and treatment. Yet, HIV/AIDS still has no cure. This World AIDS Day, we encourage you to remember that there’s a long way to go in developing a cure for HIV and overcoming the social…

• The Real “Fright” about High Teen STD Rates

  Sex, Etc.

  25 Nov 2009 | 6:53 pm

  I spoke to Montel Williams on his Air America show Montel Across America, last Thursday. We talked about the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s (CDC’s) Sexually Transmitted Disease Surveillance, 2008, which was released last week. The CDC’s report found that STDs, such as chlamydia, syphilis and gonorrhea, are on the rise. And why is this relevant to us? Because the report found that there are over 19 million new STD infections each year and almost half of them occur in young people who are 15 to 24 years old. Montel, much like other adults who’ve been…

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  Simple Marriage

• Valentine’s Week of Giveaways: A Simple Marriage

  Corey

  9 Feb 2010 | 11:08 am

  Next up, a book that you may have heard about, if you’ve been around here for any length of time: A Simple Marriage. This is the book I wrote last year aimed at helping you experience more in marriage and life. Here’s what you’ll get with this book: Some foundational principles that are present in every marriage and how to use these principles to your advantage. An understanding of where you currently are in your relationship. The tools and steps to help create the relationship you desire. All the motivation and energy necessary to create a marriage out of this world. A spouse who…

• Love Everyday: Get the Free Ebook

  Corey

  8 Feb 2010 | 10:08 pm

  Pardon while we take a short break from our Valentine’s Week of Giveaways. Although, this break could actually be part of the giveaways, but this time we are giving away a free ebook to any and all who want one! Love Everyday is a collection of ideas, thoughts, tips, and the like complied from over 25 of my fellow love and relationship bloggers. There are essays from Dan Miller, Kathleen Quiring, Alissa Bowman, Mandi Ehman, SM Columnist Dustin Riechmann, Stu Gray, and many others. This Ebook is definitely worth the read. And the best part – it’s free. Download it here. Or…

• Valentine’s Week of Giveaways: Sweeping Her Off Her Feet With Food

  Corey

  7 Feb 2010 | 10:08 pm

  Welcome to the Valentine’s Week of Giveaways! All week long we’ll be giving away great products to lucky Simple Marriage readers. To get us started, how about some great romantic cooking? Eric Lee is a chef and author of Sweeping Her off Her Feet with Food. Seductive cooking … hot romance! What every marriage can benefit from. Here’s a bit more from Eric: I hope to share my passion for fusing food with romance, and to help you master the art of creating food that is in itself art. Fare that not only nourishes us physically, but makes us appreciate the heart that…

• Simple Marriage Podcast #2: Wanting and Being Wanted

  Corey

  4 Feb 2010 | 3:08 pm

  Welcome to the second episode of the Simple Marriage Podcast. In this episode we dive further into the idea’s discussed in our first episode about sexual desire differences, but come at it from a different angle. Today we discuss the idea of wanting and being wanted. Yep, there’s still a lot of talk about sex and intimacy. Yep, I try to answer some of the comments left from our first podcast. Yep, I am looking forward to the discussion this may generate. And yep, I am interested in any questions that may arise from this episode. So go grab a good cup of coffee, hop on the…

• “I thought we agreed on this!”

  Pearl

  3 Feb 2010 | 4:08 pm

  You were so prepared. You talked about how you want to parent your kids before they even showed up on the scene. You agreed on the lessons you want to teach your kids. You have the same vision for the type of people you hope to raise.  Then you realize that there were some important conversations you never had: What if my approach is different than yours? What happens when we start to criticize each other’s approaches? A Recurring Story My husband and I agree that our teen-aged sons should both remember and carry out their responsibilities on their own. Gone are the days of, “Did you…

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  Honey and Lance

• Spanking for Beginners (Guest Post)

  Lance

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:46 am

  I’ve been exploring D/s this year and I’ve been fascinated by the spanking part. Like, why do people get into it and why is it such a turn on, especially for her? Like most vanilla peeps, there was a point where I thought spanking was lame, even ridiculous. Now I love it and so do my partners. To shed some insight on the subject, I asked excellent sex and kink blogger The Beautiful Kind to share her thoughts on the subject. Please check out her blog for more goodness (NSFW). Also be sure to check back later this week when we have Eathan from idatewhite.com kinking it up. Enjoy!

• How To Get A Totally Jacked Chest That Women Will Love

  Lance

  5 Feb 2010 | 7:37 am

  (Another pic of Lance) Okay, who wants to have a totally jacked chest that will have chicks pawing at you? This guy right here does. Ups to Dadshouse who inspired me to write this from his comment in my post on destroying creepiness and improving your life. Being fit has always given me an edge in dating. I’m in good shape and lean, but I’m not so muscular as to be intimidating. I am however obviously visually fit. Not that I work out for the aesthetics…I focus all of my training and working out to play sports as well as I can. The side benefit is that I look great. I get…

• Jesus This Is Funny

  Lance

  3 Feb 2010 | 12:27 pm

  Need some lolz to get you over the hump? Lance has your back. My sister forwarded me this YouTube Bud Light Commercial. Probably the funniest forward I’ve ever gotten. Watch in the privacy of your cube, it’s sorta NSFW. Guffaws will ensue. Click here to view the embedded video. © Copyright 2009, Reckless Abandon, LLC. All rights reserved.

• Why I Wouldn’t Pay to Send My Kid To College

  Honey

  2 Feb 2010 | 12:40 pm

  Lance and I got into a spirited debate in the comments of a recent post about whether or not parents should shoulder the costs for their children to go to college.  Now, this issue is moot for me for a couple reasons: I’m not having children, and Jake and I have $100K in student loan debt – APIECE – so between funding our retirement accounts (we got a late start on that, too, since we were already about 30) and paying off our own debts, there’s no way we could afford to send our kids to college even if we had any. However, it does deserve consideration as a thought…

• State Trooper Fired After Getting Hummer From Porn Star

  Lance

  29 Jan 2010 | 7:35 am

  TFIG you bastardz! As usual, H&L only brings you the very best of the web. Tennessee State Trooper pulls over hot porn star, gets mad BJ in the squad car, takes video, ends up on blog, you can guess the rest. Porn Star, aka Barbie Cummings, still gets nailed for $180 speeding ticket. Is that move douchey or not douchey? You decide. Seriously, you can’t make this stuff up. Quote of the week: “I feel bad for him,” said Cummings. “That’s his job, and now he’s facing criminal charges. But at least he got (oral sex) out of it.” See the article at ABCNews.com.

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  debauchette

• redirect

  debauchette

  19 Jan 2010 | 7:34 am

  I’ve moved my blog to its own domain: debauchette.com You can find everything over there.

• decadence.

  debauchette

  23 Jan 2008 | 8:50 am

  When I arrived in London, it was made clear to me that the sky is falling. The stock market dropped, we’re entering a recession, and the American downswing will bring Europe down with it. The current president is just shy of nominating his horse as consul and the egregiously overpaid managers of funds – who form the bulk of my clientele – are about to have a good reason to cover their conspicuous displays of indulgence. There’s been something in the air for a year now, but it’s getting a little darker. It just feels like we’re due for a backlash, a backlash…

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  LUSTY LADY

• My boob casting

  Rachel

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:23 am

  photo by Gina de la ChesnayeIn the middle of my boob casting at Shag, where I'm also teaching 3 more erotic writing classes. See their newly-designed website for more information and soon the cast and my plaster-covered skirt will be up in the store!

• What I want for Valentine's Day: the Jimmyjane silk and suede blindfold

  Rachel

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:49 am

  Sex toy company Jimmyjane is selling a few Valentine's Day gift sets, including the one above. I'm coveting the blindfold. Details from their site:PLAY$44 (value $93)Elevate “fooling around” to a new art form. This twosome will get you started, but where it leads is up to you.– Silk and Suede Blindfold – gives a whole new meaning to “blind date”– Natural Massage Oil Candle – scented with TRUFFLE + GARDENIA

• Have sex with me on a plate...

  Rachel

  8 Feb 2010 | 9:07 am

  I mean, join me and lots of other lusty, food-loving New Yorkers at this Sunday's Sex on a Plate. Register at Eventbrite. It's at the gorgeous Roger Smith Hotel, where we held the Cupcakes Take the Cake 5-year anniversary and I may or may not have shot part of the Peep Show book trailer (among other things I may or may not have done there). Note: I am attending this free courtesy of the organizers. The text below is from the official invite. (Blame Blogger for formatting errors.) Yolanda Shoshana is the one who read about flirting with foodies at Sex & Food Night (click to watch video) at In…

• Happiness is a warm baby

  Rachel

  5 Feb 2010 | 3:22 pm

  Lunchtime fun starring me and Jessica-Louise, age five and a half months. I hadn't seen her in I think three weeks and she now eats baby food, makes little noises, grabs my fingers and moves them around, and lifts her head up to look at me when I'm holding her. A-DORABLE! Seriously. I told her dad my heart melted when I saw these photos. Also cute: both parents trying to get a perfect photo at our impromptu photo shoot. I predict more very cute kids in their future. Making her laugh and smile is so much fun.

• Lunch in Paris ... in Brooklyn!

  Rachel

  5 Feb 2010 | 10:13 am

  If you're not coming to my kick-ass even though it's snowing erotica writing workshop tomorrow at Shag (you have 3 other chances, though each class is unique - February 13 and 27 and March 6), you might want to check out this event at The Brooklyn Kitchen. I've started Lunch in Paris by Elizabeth Bard (sent to me courtesy of the publisher) and even though I know almost nothing about Paris or cooking, I'm enjoying it. See The Brooklyn Kitchen to sign up ($25). See also Elizabeth Bard's food-filled blog Lunch in Paris. Here's a photo from it:And she's @ElizabethBard on Twitter and has a…

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  violet blue ® :: open source sex

• Danny Choo’s photos from Tokyo Wonderfest 2010

  violet

  8 Feb 2010 | 2:03 pm

  Image by Danny Choo. I’m always excited when former Amazon site manager Danny Choo goes to a convention (such as Tokyo’s Wonder Festival). He takes fabulous photos, the images are typically naughty in nature yet not explicit, and he features them in elaborate blog posts that are often festooned with hilarious commentary. Don’t miss his just-posted Wonder Festival Booths photo post that has images in large sizes presenting great detail on jaw-dropping figurines; you can find the whole huge set in this Flickr album or watch the slideshow below. Image of filthy padded…

• sew cute: It’s Only Sex fabric

  violet

  8 Feb 2010 | 12:14 pm

  I’m not a particularly craft-focused girl (I prefer machinery) but when a reader sent me this fabric from an Etsy seller, I had to share my delight. Our reader domesticat writes, There’s an etsy seller — obviousart, in Oregon — who got a contract to do some line art for a condom distribution company. No idea which one. She retained the rights to her drawings afterward, and has made them available on fabric. Her etsy shop has the fabric, plus a pair of boxers made from the fabric. It’s also available directly from Spoonflower. I love this. It makes me laugh.

• discovering Duncan Hall

  violet

  8 Feb 2010 | 1:10 am

  Tonight while perusing Nerve’s always-fantastic premium member galleries (use my press account — login: nervepress pass: nerve520), I got lost in the dreamlike world of erotic photographer Duncan Hall. The photos in this post are from his Flickr page; you can find Nerve’s recent Hall gallery here, and he’s on Last.fm here. I picked some particularly hypnotic set pieces of his for this post, and there are more after the jump.

• stay warm (Siege)

  violet

  7 Feb 2010 | 12:45 pm

  A short seasonal video from Clayton Cubitt aka Siege. (Thanks, C!)

• sex education in media: my January class

  violet

  4 Feb 2010 | 2:57 pm

  In January, I taught a class on sex ed and online media, including brand presentation, social media hacks for individuals and organizations, and working toward viral content. It was one of my best talks. The first of SFSI’s public continuing education classes (aimed at sex educators), it was standing room only and sold out — they sadly had to turn people away and close ticket sales. I was excited to see all kinds of sex educators in the audience, and thrilled to answer questions about online presence from Planned Parenthood. I am sad that some people I really love — and put…

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  Cherry TV - "Juicy Talk for Women"

• Reaching and Intensifying Orgasm

  2 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  Today"s featured video is Reaching and Intensifying Orgasm. Some orgasms are quick and sparky. Others build then release. Some keep going and going. Listen in as the women give advice on reaching orgasm, and offer information on techniques that help orgasms last. watch video

• Help With Deep Throat

  25 Jan 2010 | 9:00 pm

  Today"s featured video is Help With Deep Throat. The movie Deep Throat took a somewhat uncommon oral sex practice mainstream. Now, we're all expected to do it! But it's not so easy. Gagging, breathing and even managing something that far down in our throat takes practice and technique. Advice ensues. watch video

• Masturbation (Long Version)

  19 Jan 2010 | 9:00 pm

  Today"s featured video is Masturbation (Long Version). Most of us have a set masturbation routine. Whether it involves sensual touch, fantasy, or just basic wacking off, we tend to masturbate the same way for years. Listen in as the women discuss. watch video

• Advice On Sexual Touch

  14 Jan 2010 | 9:00 pm

  Today"s featured video is Advice On Sexual Touch. It takes a while to learn what your partner likes in bed -- including how they like to kiss and be touched. Everyone is different, and it takes awareness and communication to figure out what your lover likes and how it can gel with your preferences. watch video

• Experiencing The Male Member

  30 Dec 2009 | 9:00 pm

  Today"s featured video is Experiencing The Male Member. To the uninitiated, a penis looks rather strange. And it takes a while for many women to get used to handling it and understanding the way it works. Here the women discuss early penis interactions and how they felt during the learning curve. watch video

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  Savage Love Podcast

• Savage Love Episode 173

  Dan Savage

  9 Feb 2010 | 4:00 am

  Word to the wise for those of you in open relationships: Don't tap the next-door neighbor. What's the delicate way to ask the lady whose panties you just bought if she would like to, you know, go out sometime? And now: Dan's detailed tutorial on how to give a great blowjob. Key lime cheesecake. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.

• Savage Love Episode 172

  Dan Savage

  2 Feb 2010 | 4:00 am

  A coven of bitches? All his girlfriend's pals hate him. Is it them, or is he the problem? Is a man a man if he likes other men? Internalized Homophobia 101. Down in the steamy Deep South, things are not as they seem. Sex clubs! Infidelity! Three-ways! Swinging! And, the woes of a conservative Christian couple make Dan's head explode. Boom! Call us at 206-201-2720 This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.

• Savage Love Episode 171

  Dan Savage

  26 Jan 2010 | 4:00 am

  Dan's old radio chum Mary Martone joins us for a very special episode of the Savage Lovecast, featuring unwitting exhibitionists, fat-baiters, adult babies, and the word fuck. Fuck! Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.

• Savage Love Episode 170

  Dan Savage

  19 Jan 2010 | 4:00 am

  Her cousin's boyfriend is locked away in prison. If the cousin slept with someone else while she waited it out, would that make her a skank-ass ho? A man who was abused as a child discovers that his lover wants to be the dominant in a BDSM relationship. Should he end it now? As a former waiter, Dan explains the proper etiquette for hitting on servers. And more. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage.

• Savage Love Episode 169

  Dan Savage

  11 Jan 2010 | 4:00 am

  Hear the tale of the bi, pagan, poly lady who is dating, of all things, an asexual. A man committed a pretty nasty electronic crime. Does he deserve to do time? A new Pavlovian weight-loss program. And more! Call us at 206-201-2720 Congratulations, Tim! Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.

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  Very Smart Brothas

• Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With.

  Panama Jackson

  8 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  In less than a week, the Hallmark creation that has complicated more relationships than Facebook will descend upon, well, everybody. Nobody is immune from Valentine’s Day. If you have somebody, you’re reminded that you need to make it memorable. If you don’t have anybody, everyday without a date is like your alarm clock on snooze: sure you’d like to sleep thru V-day, but television, Sarah Palin’s hand notes, and CVS’s discount rack keep reminding you that you’ve got nobody. Like, nothing AND nobody. As in loneliness. As of 10pm, both of the VSBs had…

• 4 Reasons Why Being Snowed In Can Suck Major A**

  Panama Jackson

  7 Feb 2010 | 9:00 pm

  It's pretty 'til I had to shovel it. Unless you get all of your news from TMZ or BET, you’ve heard that the mid-Atlantic region, and specifically the Washington, DC area got dumped on by snow to the tune of 18-30 inches.  For some of us, it’s a welcome, though inconvenient, mini-vacation and time to rest up because you really have no choice. But for some others, being snowed in can be that total bullsh*t. Oh, by the way, congratulations to all the Saints fans, real and as of this season or proximity-ass fans who decided to jump on the bandwagon yesterday. It was a good…

• black “firsts” we won’t be seeing anytime soon

  The Champ

  4 Feb 2010 | 9:01 pm

  rapper. record-setter. roach from the first black president and the first black head football coach at mississippi state university (sylvester croom. this was a really, really big deal when it happened, btw) to the first black woman to win an oscar for best actress and the first black roach to simultaneously impregnate two mulatto sex symbols, the past decade was filled with numerous black firsts many of us thought we’d never see. despite this continuous progress, there remains more than a few black firsts i doubt we’ll seeing anytime soon. here’s two of them. openly gay…

• the emo mandingo: how to be the sh*t

  The Champ

  3 Feb 2010 | 9:01 pm

  hello. my name is the champ, and i’m the coolest muthaf*cker any of you will ever meet. i’m cool ass hell. i’m cooler than ice, ice water, ice cream, and debra lee i’m to cool what crackheads are to home depot parking lots. if “being cool” was “being black”, i’d be the back of shaq’s neck my coolness is all-encompassing, incessant, omnipotent, and a bunch of other SAT words i could have used because i’m too cool to just say “big”, bitch. my cool plays chess while your cool eats checkers. f*ck king kong, the other…

• things that make you much more randy than they probably should

  The Champ

  2 Feb 2010 | 9:01 pm

  do you like chicken? of all the crushes i’ve harbored, none have impacted my life the way angie williams has. angie –a high school classmate– was the object of my silent appreciation for approximately three months in the spring of 1997. it wasn’t that she was the finest or sexiest girl in school or anything like that. i mean, she was definitely attractive, but my admiration completely stemmed from the fact that she was f*cking grown. not “grown” in the “i’ve had boobs and booty and i’ve been boning since i was 12” way or the…

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  Seasoned Sex ~ Sex and The Older Woman

• Ask A Cougar: Younger Man Seeks Older Woman…But Where?

  Pink Wrangler

  9 Feb 2010 | 9:18 am

  Recently, I got an email from a “cub” reader. He writes: How do I go about meeting cougars?  I’ve always been more attracted to older women and I’ve had some success in the past but much more failure. I’d like to increase my success rate and my conquests. I’m 25 and very comfortable with my age but it seems easier meeting younger women. Very respectfully, The Lil Cub Cats Like Milk but They Love Meat. Firstly, Lil Cub, I applaud your excellent taste in women. And I agree, the best doesn’t come easily. Without revealing too much about cougar habitat…

• Would you Hire a “Prostidude?”

  Pink Wrangler

  26 Jan 2010 | 10:26 am

  If there's one thing we gals like, it's choice: a selection from the cowboys4angles.com catalog. Regular readers to my blog may be familiar with posts I’ve done covering male escorts. Okay, I admit, at first I thought it was funny. But now I’m like, hey, this could be the wave of the future. And just maybe it’s about time. Have you noticed the new flurry of diagnostic acronyms flying around these days? Things like FSD (Female Sexual Dysfunction), SAD (Sexual Arousal Disorder), SDD (Sexual Desire Disorder), and ISD (Inhibited Sexual Desire)? It all amounts to a big…

• Cougars Rock The Boat, Again!

  Pink Wrangler

  24 Jan 2010 | 11:22 am

  Will the world ever be ready for the older woman, younger man equation? Carnival Cruise Lines says no, but recently some cougars rocked the boat, making it very clear, they’re not about to be thrown overboard. There’s this notion among some feminists that the patriarchy uses all its power to suppress knowledge about female sexuality and the full extent of its power. Knowledge of said female power being enough to disturb world order and even the whole universe. (Sort of similar to knowledge that E=mc2, which if memory serves came out of a man, but that’s another story.)…

• New Zealand’s Sexy Cougars

  Pink Wrangler

  19 Jan 2010 | 7:58 am

  Are all “cougars” the same? A reader, “2Passion,” has kindly sent me the Air New Zealand’s take on the cougar. Seriously funny and worth studying for cougar strategy. I’ve submitted a lengthy proposal to Air NZ for a grant to document cougar-cub mating habits in the wild (Fiji). Wish me luck! Related posts:Ask A Cougar: Does a cougar need to be rich, not just sexy?:  I review The Cougar which premiered on TV Land to determine if older women need to be both rich and sexy to date a younger man. ...Ask A Cougar: How to Be a Cougar…

• How to Turn a Guy into a Sex Toy

  Pink Wrangler

  7 Jan 2010 | 12:08 pm

  Meet the Mighty Bo. The Mighty Fun Vibrator for Him. Oh my. How we gals do go on about our vibrators and other sex toys. Yeah right. I think I’ve had two friends in my almost five decades of life mention their vibrators to me, in an embarrassed, under-their-breath kind of way. Just two. Even less talked about are sex toys for guys. I hate to admit it but it never occurred to me that a heterosexual guy would want to use a sex toy, let alone know how to use one. Recently though LELO, the luxury sex toy company out of Sweden, set the record straight for me. They sent me a “BO” to try.

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  YourTango

• Valentine's Day Weddings & Proposals (So Cute!)

  Denise Ngo

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:47 am

  Love or hate it, Valentine's Day puts the pressure on all of us to step up our game and romance the heck out of our loved ones. Some people go the chocolates and flowers route. Others plan elaborate and sensuous meals. Still others look to the big day as an excuse to escape on a romantic getaway. But try living up to these couples: Some of them got engaged on Valentine's Day, and still others had their actual weddings on February 14. So was it the lovey-dovey, fairytale event they'd always dreamed of? And how do they top such a thing years later? We asked couples who took VDay to the next…

• Unusual Ways To Tie The Knot

  Carly Okyle

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:30 am

  Not everyone has his or her heart set on tying the knot in a traditional way. It’s becoming increasingly common for couples to seek out locations that are a bit more unique and memorable. These six awe-inspiring places—from simple to simply over-the-top—are sure to leave you and your guests breathless.Keywords: ceremony, Engaged, making it work, marriage news, reception, taken, wedding, wedding trendBookmark/Share this post with: read more

• Dating A Narcissist: Should I Leave Him?

  Gwendolyn Bond-Upson

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:17 am

  With shows like The Pickup Artist remaining perennially popular, it seems that male narcissism is flourishing if not becoming epidemic while being fueled by our culture and the media. While egomaniacs may make for irritating but good TV, they can have a truly destructive impact on the lives of their loved ones. A Chicago Tribune article about dating narcissists offered some handy tips on how to diagnose and, more importantly, decide to live with (or leave) a narcissist. The American Psychological Association lists nine core traits of narcissism, but someone only needs five of these to qualify…

• Ronan Farrow: Mia Farrow & Woody Allen's Hot Son

  Denise Ngo

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:00 am

  Our jaws dropped last Friday when Rosie O'Donnell, who is a good friend of Mia Farrow's, posted a recent picture of Mia's 22 year-old son, Ronan Farrow, on her blog. Yowza! For someone who shares half of Woody Allen's genes, Ronan is quite the dreamboat. Given his father's comedic talent and his mother's activism, though, we're not surprised that Ronan's more than just a pretty face. Here are a few more reasons why he's our crush of the week (or of all time): Keywords: celeb love, Rosie O'Donnell, Woody AllenBookmark/Share this post with:

• Brangelina Sues Mag That Started Breakup Rumors

  Becky Broderick

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:00 am

  Over the past two weeks, there have been roughly 50,201 tabloid tales about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and all of them stem from a report published in the infamous UK rag News of the World. Brangelina never really addressed the breakup rumors directly...but now they've had it. They're going to court. Keywords: Angelina Jolie, angelina jolie news, Brad Pitt, Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie, brad pitt angelina jolie news, brad pitt angelina jolie separation, brad pitt news, Brangelina, brangelina news, brangelina separation, celeb gossip, celebrities, celebrity news, lawsuitBookmark/Share this post…

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  Hitched

• Use Colors to Create a Romantic Bedroom

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:27 am

  Create the perfect bedroom sanctuary for you and your spouse with a few passionate colors.

• 5 Ways to Beat Valentine’s Day Stress

  8 Feb 2010 | 9:39 am

  Don’t let this Hallmark holiday get you down. Use these tips to have a day both you and your spouse will enjoy.

• Valentine’s Day For Men

  31 Dec 1969 | 4:00 pm

  We know what women want, but what do men want for Valentine's Day?

• A Leap of Faith

  31 Dec 1969 | 4:00 pm

  Sara opens up about the different personalities between her and David and how they tackle risk in their lives.

• How to Write a Love Letter

  4 Feb 2010 | 9:30 am

  It’s never too late to write your spouse the perfect love letter. Follow these steps and show them you’re a regular Shakespeare.

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  Vibrators and Sex toys

• Brief guide to strap-on sex toys

  1 Feb 2010 | 3:53 am

  For beginners, strap-on sex may seem to be intimidating. However, with this easy guide and a little practice you will soon find yourself an expert. There are two types of strap-ons, male strap-ons and female strap-ons. Some strap-ons can be used by males as well as females. Strap-ons come with a dildo or vibrator that is used for penetration. Males who find it difficult to attain or maintain an erection often use strap-ons, whereas some males use a strap-on vibrator to enjoy masturbation while penetrating with a strap-on vibrator. Women use a strap-on vibrator to penetrate their partner…

• What's so good about the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion?

  19 Jan 2010 | 7:59 pm

  The Japanese company Tenga offers 3 lubricants, wild, mild and real hole lotion, all designed to give you a totally different, out-of-this-world experience. Different people like different Tenga lubricants but for a wild and ravishing night, the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion is just perfect.You can use the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion with your Tenga toys or other sex toys. It is totally safe for use during sex too. However, the menthol taste of the Tenga Wild Hole might not suit everybody's taste, especially during oral sex. Wild Hole Lotion is different from the other 2 Tenga lubes namely Real Hole…

• Masturbators in your man's closet – Should you be worried?

  5 Jan 2010 | 11:47 pm

  If you find a male vibrator or masturbator in your partner's drawer, your first reaction would most probably be of anger or hurt. Some couples do use cock rings and sex toys in their sex life; however, male masturbators is a different pitch altogether. So is there any need to be alarmed if you find one of his secret treasures?Ask himThe first thing that you must do in this situation is to talk to him calmly and ask him about it. Chances are that you are alarmed for no reason. But keep an open mind and be empathising. He might be using it not because he loves you any less or he finds sex with…

• In-depth review of the Tenga Hard Rolling Head

  29 Dec 2009 | 9:34 pm

  Originated in Japan and well known worldwide, the Tenga onacups are every man's dream come true. Its realistic sensations can send a surprising shiver of pleasure up your spine. The Tenga Hard Rolling Head is designed to accommodate penis with slight curvatures and like all Tenga onacups, it has a spine-tingling precision to give you strong and long lasting orgasms. WorkingThe Tenga Hard Rolling Head offers a sensual sensation that makes you feel like a thumb is slowly massaging your penis head. This feat it manages because of a small rubber ball at the tip of the cup. The flexible tube shaft…

• Candid Review of the Vibe Therapy Sutra

  24 Dec 2009 | 3:48 am

  The Vibe Therapy is the latest in the long line of proven therapy solutions follwing on from water therapy, aroma therapy and colour therapy.• About the Vibe Therapy SutraVibe Therapy has a wide range of luxury and high-end products. The Vibe Therapy Sutra is a chic g-spot vibrator that helps soothe stress with its therapeutic range of vibrating and pulsating functions. • Features of the Vibe Therapy SutraThe Vibe Therapy Sutra features 7 speeds and functions of vibration to choose from including pulses, throbs and escalations; you will really be spoilt for choice. The shaft of this…

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  Male Enhancement Products UK

• Various tips for taking your sexual performance to another level - I

  MenandBeauty

  5 Feb 2010 | 6:01 am

  Your sexual performance is an important indicator of your sexual health. It can make you anxious or extremely confident about yourself and your relationship. There is no doubt that your sexual performance is an important aspect of your life. No wonder, you are looking for various tips to enhance your sexual performance. Here are a few tips that might help get your ball rolling when it comes to sexual performance. Tip 1: Relaxing The trick to a great sexual performance is learning the art of relaxing your body, prior to, during and after sex. Don’t let anxiety drive your sexual activity. If…

• Viapro – An in-depth and honest review

  MenandBeauty

  30 Jan 2010 | 3:43 am

  There was a time, in the recent past that people suffering from sexual problems refused to talk about their problems. One of the reasons for this was that not many treatment options were available and most of the options available claimed a lot but delivered very little. Today, prescription pills such as Viagra and herbal pills such as Viapro have emerged as an effective option for treating erection problems. Erectile dysfunction is not a taboo topic any more, courtesy of such medications. Viapro – The goodness of herbs Viapro brings to you a combination of 22 different herbs that together…

• Semen analysis and its importance

  MenandBeauty

  22 Jan 2010 | 5:43 am

  Semen analysis, as the name suggests, is the analysis of the semen. It’s important, as it can identify certain semen characteristics and give information about the sperm count in the semen. Typically, a semen analysis is performed to investigate the infertility problems faced by a couple. This will also help formulate a treatment plan to increase sperm count. Fertility and sperm analysis Semen analysis brings to light various characteristics of the semen. These characteristics are just some of the factors that help determine the quality of the semen. If the semen analysis throws up a less…

• 10 Reasons why men are reluctant to visit a doctor - II

  MenandBeauty

  14 Jan 2010 | 10:33 pm

  Men aren't socialized into visiting the doctor – Unlike women, who start visiting their doctor for routine gynaecologic since the age of 16, men don’t visit a doctor until there is an emergency. After 40s, when they have the real need to visit a doctor, they find themselves uncomfortable visiting a doctor. Doctors aren't so capable in dealing with preventative health – Many men feel that since doctor’s aren’t so expert in taking care of preventive health there is no reason why they should go for routine check-ups. It is only once they start visiting a doctor after 40s that they…

• 10 Reasons why men are reluctant to visit a doctor - I

  MenandBeauty

  9 Jan 2010 | 2:08 am

  Studies show, men are quite reluctant to visit a doctor. Unless and until there is an emergency, they will keep putting off their visit to a doctor. Discussed below are some of the reasons why men are so hesitant to visit a doctor. Sitting around – According to a study, men are primarily reluctant to visit a doctor because they hate the idea of sitting around in a clinic and wait for their turn to come. Embarrassment – Men find it hard to discuss their intimate emotions, sexual health, mental health issues such as stress and depression or physical problems that involve the bowel or…

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  Say it with Naboulove...

• Evasion Virtuelle 28-Une Amie encombrante

  naboulove

  14 Jan 2010 | 9:18 am

  Prise dans le tourbillon du boulot depuis son arrivée Léa n’avait pas pu voir sa tante mais elle lui parlait régulièrement au téléphone, lui racontant le menu détail de son séjour en ne mettant en évidence que les strass et les paillettes: - Mon fiancé est merveilleux tata, il est fou de moi. A travers Léa, elle revivait la naïveté et l’insouciance de ses 20 ans, mais se sentant coupable après avoir arraché Fanny de ses rêves. Elle laisserait Léa rêver, et se nourrir de ses illusions d’amour parfait. Léa avait invité sa tante manger du poisson ”…

• Sexy New Year Resolutions…by NabouLove

  naboulove

  11 Jan 2010 | 2:22 pm

  It’s the new year so I thought of some sexy resolutions for the Naboulovers™.. 1-Learn how to say I love you in new sexy languages: French “je t’aime”, Spanish “Te Quiero”, Italian “Ti Amo” . Or even African languages Mbife (Bambara) ,Na ku penda (Swahili), Na Lingui Yo (Lingala) Mi Yidima (Fulani).. And look at him straight in the eyes & tell him how much you love him. 2-Train yourself to a luscious African Belly /Booty Dance: Mapouka (Côte d’Ivoire), Ventilateur (Senegal), Mutuashi (Congo) or else and do it alone to develop your sensuality. 3-Be a Drianke to your…

• Is the African man selfish…in bed?

  naboulove

  5 Jan 2010 | 10:36 pm

   Our men do have a reputation for having been granted big tools . You want me to be more explicit? It would be Xrated. I think you all got the gist so stop pretending. So from that ” Legend” ,Black men got a reputation of being real stallions. But while having lunch with some friends few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation between 2 of my girlz seriously questioning that image given to Our Male. Their main concern was : What is the point of having a big one if you only use it for your own pleasure? I could sense rancor in the tone of B’s voice. And D. Emphasized : yes…

• S.Africa’s polygamous Zuma weds for fifth time

  naboulove

  5 Jan 2010 | 2:47 am

  by Rajesh Jantilal Rajesh Jantilal – Mon Jan 4, 11:22 am ET NKANDLA, South Africa (AFP) – Wearing leopard skins and carrying a Zulu shield, South Africa’s polygamous President Jacob Zuma on Monday married for the fifth time, in a traditional ceremony in his remote hometown. The 67-year-old and his new bride Thobeka Madiba, 30 years his junior, danced in an open field at his homestead in Nkandla, a village deep in the countryside of KwaZulu-Natal province. The two formally wed when a tribal elder asked Madiba if she accepted to join the Zuma family. When she agreed, he pronounced…

• Le président sud-africain Jacob Zuma prend une troisième épouse

  naboulove

  5 Jan 2010 | 2:18 am

  NKANDLA (AFP) – 04.01.2010 15:25 AFP – Rajesh Jantilal Le président sud-africain Jacob Zuma a célébré lundi, à 67 ans, son cinquième mariage lors d’une fête traditionnelle dans son village natal, devenant ainsi l’époux de trois femmes après un divorce et un veuvage. La cérémonie d’”udendwe”, qui correspond en zoulou à la présentation de la fiancée aux anciens et aux esprits des ancêtres, a eu lieu à l’écart des médias dans son fief de Nkandla, au coeur de la province du KwaZulu Natal (est). Elle a conclu un processus entamé il…

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• Coochy Bikini Rash Free Shaving Creme

  swankysextoys

  19 Jan 2010 | 1:56 pm

  I have been so busy with the holidays that I have definitely neglected our blog, but now we are back and ready to give you some reviews of some of the products we used during the break! One of my favorites is the Coochy Bikini Rash Free Shaving Lotion! Now that we are in the new year 2010 it is time to get out with the old and in with the new! Of course, I’m just like most and would always either get professionally bikini waxed or just use extra conditioning aloe vera shaving cream, but I really love this product! It is soft and smooth when applied and helps the hair shave right off…

• Grrl Toyz Finger Gripper Rabbit Vibrator Massager

  swankysextoys

  14 Dec 2009 | 6:52 pm

  We have a true love for the Grrl Toyz line by Topco because they are so feminine and delicate. They almost bring a sexual innocence feeling when you use them as if I was masturbating like a virgin. One of the most popular and least expensive of the Grrl Toyz vibrators is the Grrl Toyz Finger Gripper Jack Rabbit Vibrator Massager. The finger gripper makes it alot easier to hold onto while you are turning and twisting into your vagina! The clit stimulator in the front is positioned very well and it has a slight g spot angled curve at the top to make sure you reach complete orgasm. The vibrator…

• Fetish Fantasy Strapless Strapon Dildo vs. Feeldoe Strapless Strapon Dildo

  swankysextoys

  13 Dec 2009 | 5:50 pm

  Strap on sex toys have always been one of the most popular sex toys used by couples in role playing to add spice and fun to the sexual relationship. They have developed into the easy to use vaculock systems where dildos can be suctioned into the harness and guaranteed not to move or shift. Now the new hit among strapon sex toys as actually not a strap on but a Strapless Strapon Dildo! The more premium and more expensive is the Feeldoe Strapless Strapon Dildo with its modern ergonomic shape fit into the vaginal cavity tightly in order to penetrate both the sexual giver and the receiving…

• Lelo Bo Male Vibrating Wireless Cock Ring

  swankysextoys

  8 Dec 2009 | 8:37 am

  This week my husband and I tried out a few of the cock rings we have in inventory and of course I was quickly drawn to the Lelo Bo Vibrating Cockring! It has a very masculine and modern look to it unlike most of the inexpensive cockrings you find in most sex stores. This one is wireless and does not use batteries! All you have to do is charge it and go! It is very lightweight and slides tightly into place adjusting to your penis size without any problems. The man can use the vibrating part upwards to stimulate a female clitoris or flip it upside down and use it to stimulate the male testicles…

• Favorite Ben Wa Balls for Sexual Stimulation and Kegel Strength

  swankysextoys

  30 Nov 2009 | 10:43 am

  You might not have heard as much about Ben Wa Balls before, but I’m sure you have heard about Kegel or Kegal exercises to tighten the vaginal wall muscles for several sexual health reasons. Some women practice Kegel exercises to tighten the vagina muscles that were stretched out after childbirth while others just want to have stronger muscles to help aid in vaginal strength. When you strengthen your vaginal muscles it can tremendously aid in the intensity and sensations during orgasm. It will also increase the sensitivity within your nerves throughout your vagina. Amazingly there is not…

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• I Hate Valentine's Day - A Survival Guide for Singletons

  Carly Drew

  8 Feb 2010 | 8:40 am

  If you're spending the most romantic day of the year alone, then you may be tempted to spend the day weeping in to your cup of tea and singing Bonny Tyler songs at full pelt. Although this sounds like fun (!), we've come up with a better way to enjoy Valentine's Day if you're single... [More]

• Rekindle Your Romance with Supersex for Life

  Carly Drew

  7 Feb 2010 | 4:30 am

  The season of love isn’t just for new lovers and secret admirers; it’s perfect for long term couples who want to add that spark back into their relationship. Buying lots of sensual sex toys and gorgeous lingerie is a good way to kick starting your love life but more lasting help is available in Tracey Cox’s latest book, Supersex for Life. Sex expert and relationship coach Tracey, has put together all her knowledge and advice into this one brilliant book, allowing those couples who have already explored the Kama Sutra and the tired 'ice cube blowjob' technique to find…

• Can you recommend a vibrator to relieve frustration for a 23 year-old virgin?

  Julie Peasgood

  6 Feb 2010 | 1:13 am

  I’d focus on a clitoral stimulator for the moment, as that’s much more likely to bring you relief. [More]

• Nipple Play - An Easy Guide to Your Favourite Erogenous Zone!

  Carly Drew

  5 Feb 2010 | 4:49 am

  Your nipples are one of the most sensitive and reactive parts of your body so don’t let this often ignored erogenous zone go without some sex toys of its own. From special bulbs that create a sensual vacuum similar to that of pouting lips to sturdy clamps which give you a firm but pleasant pinch, there is an enormous amount of nipple toys on the market and we’re here to guide you through all the options available...   [More]

• Are certain beds better for your sex life? We want to buy a new one - can you recommend anything?

  Tracey Cox

  3 Feb 2010 | 7:34 pm

  An ideal sex bed would have no headboard or footboard so legs and arms and heads can loll over the sides if you fancy it. [More]

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• For Healthy Marriage, Use 'We' Language

  drmarthalee

  9 Feb 2010 | 10:26 am

  Older couples and happier couples were the ones using more "we" language, indicating that long, healthy marriages are ones that exist in a cohesive conjugal environment, MyFox National reported. Robert Levenson, the lead researcher in the Psychology and Aging report, told Associated Press that using "we" words over "I" words was "part of this invisible language that can tell scientists what's going on inside a marriage". Researchers believe that speaking as a single, rather than as a couple, can lead to selfish tendencies. Furthermore, heart rates were found to be directly related to this…

• Reese Rideout, Men Of Israel Win Big At Cybersocket Awards

  Matthew Lawrence

  9 Feb 2010 | 8:10 am

  Last night the Cybersocket Awards were presented in West Hollywood.  Honoring the best (or, okay, the most popular) in commercial gay porn, trophies were handed out in a whole bunch of categories, most of which are web-based.  (This includes at least three sites that I have personally paid money to use in the past, so no major complaints about the winners.) Big honors included Movie Of The Year, which went to the expensive-looking porn travelogue Men Of Israel (NSFW) by Israeli-American director Michael Lucas [pictured]; Reese Rideout (NSFW) walked away with the Best Porn Star trophy,…

• Born Through IVF? Boys May Face Infertility

  drmarthalee

  9 Feb 2010 | 5:50 am

  Did you know men who have ring fingers the same length as their index fingers are more likely to have fertility problems compared with men whose ring fingers are longer? Researchers have found that boys conceived using an assisted reproduction technique where a single sperm is injected directly into the egg, instead of many sperm being mixed together with an egg, may have the same problem. The technique called intracytoplasmic sperm injection and known as ICSI is increasingly being used for men with low sperm counts or where there are motility problems or abnormalities in the shape. The…

• Xiaflex: Might Help Penises Stand Straight

  drmarthalee

  9 Feb 2010 | 5:38 am

  A new drug for claw hand, a condition that causes bent fingers, may serve double-duty as a penis-straightener. Pfizer's drug Xiaflex was not approved for this, but it may provide much needed relief for those suffering from Peyronie's Disease -- a hard-to-treat condition in which the penis becomes permanently and painfully bent. "It's a disease that's very frustrating," says Dr. Robert Davis, professor of urology at the University of Rochester, "hitting men in the prime of life," causing pain, sometimes erectile dysfunction, and making it difficult to impossible to have sexual intercourse.

• Ex-Madam To Run For NY Governor Seat

  Matthew Lawrence

  8 Feb 2010 | 8:33 am

  Kristin Davis, the so-called Manhattan Madam who went to jail for sleeping with New York governor Elliot Spitzer, may make her own run for the state's highest office this year, reports the New York Daily News.  Davis, calling herself "the first candidate in New York history to run while on probation," wants to legalize marijuana, prostitution, and gay marriage, and she wants to relax gun laws.  She's running as a Libertarian, in other words.

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• Jelq and Jelqing

  7 Feb 2010 | 7:45 am

  Jelqing Exercises These exercises are used to increase the girth as well as the length of the penis. Majority of men are not satisfied with their existing penis sizes. Jelqing is a safe and sure to succeed technique for such men to increase their penis size. This technique is undoubtedly a time consuming option, but it really works. Due to this very reason, jelqing is considered as the most popular technique for natural penis enlargement that is practiced in America. The sessions of jelqing exercises are normally based on a daily basis for around 20-30 minutes. These exercises should always…

• Vimax Pills - Rated #1

  16 Jan 2010 | 9:21 am

  From all the penis enlargement techniques and solution, pills are by far the most effective, and the most wanted solution. But there are a lot of websites in the internet selling bad, unsafely, and substandard penis enlargement pills. Only few of all the penis enlargement pills are safe and high quality. Vimax is one of the best solutions on the penis pills enlargement today. First, Vimax pills are made only by high-end ingredients, which can get the best results, with only one pill per day, unlike other companies which make you take two or three pills per day. You do not need other devices…

• ProSolution Gel Review

  21 Dec 2009 | 9:07 am

  ProSolution Gel takes a step above the rest for the fastest and most satisfying results. Since the product uses transdermal technology, users are now able to enjoy the effects they need during sex without much preparation.ProSolution Gel provides immediate change in sexual appetite, performance and penis size in a matter of seconds compared to pills and other cumbersome contraptions which take hours or days to see results. The results are quick but long-lasting which says a lot about sexual pleasure and performance only being only a touch away.How Does the Gel Work?ProSolution Gel…

• Vimax vs. ProSolution Pills

  20 Nov 2009 | 7:28 am

  Vimax and Prosolution are two of the most efficient pills from penis enlargement market today. ProSolution Pills claims that it can increase your penis size up to 25% as well as improving your erection hardness, staying power, sex drive, sperm amount and penis head size. Prosolution Pills is the result of many years of research and studies that can be seen in a powerful and effective penis enhancement formula. The men who used this product have observed a significant gain in penis size, and the main reason is because their system combines a potent formula with a free membership to a penis…

• Virility Ex Male Enhancement

  19 Nov 2009 | 7:56 am

  The Virility EX Pill is designed to immediately increase the size and power of your erections, and give you a more intense and satisfying sexual experience. If YOU want harder, longer-lasting erections, intense orgasms and the assurance of enduring virility, this may be the most important Web page you'll ever visit.Virility EX contains an herbal supplement that is a and a blend of traditional natural herbal ingredients and amino acids to helps support male virility.Here's what you'll get with Virility EX... * Bigger, harder, longer lasting erection on demand * Increased sexual stamina and sex…

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• ‘Getting away with it’ – Contraception Awareness Week 8-14 February 2010

  Dr Petra

  8 Feb 2010 | 4:39 am

  Today sees the launch of Contraception Awareness Week where we’re invited to think about contraception choices to suit our reproductive health needs. This year the theme of the week is focusing on unplanned pregnancies in the over 35 age group, something that’s common but often underreported – and unexpected when it happens to women. More information about the campaign and evidence underpinning it can be found via the Family Planning Association where you can also find out information about contraception options – whatever your age.

• How television constructs sex – an evolving case study of a prime time sex series

  Dr Petra

  7 Feb 2010 | 2:53 pm

  Over the past few weeks I’ve been hearing about GMTV’s LK Today show’s forthcoming ‘sex week’, a series of morning programmes aimed at a mainly female audience to be run in the week before Valentines day. It’s been an invaluable opportunity to observe how ‘sex’ is understood and constructed by programme makers, and how television journalists interact with sex educators, researchers and health practitioners. And ultimately what is chosen to count as content or ‘evidence’ for a programme. It begins with a survey … During the introduction to hearing about the forthcoming…

• Why ‘coulda, shoulda, woulda’ doesn’t work in sex education (whatever age you are)

  Dr Petra

  5 Feb 2010 | 9:18 am

  In a recent piece in Scarleteen Heather Corinna picks up on approaches to advice giving that will be familiar to many of us. Things like adding negative qualifiers, talking down to young people, moralising, or being ambiguous. They are all key no-nos in sex education, yet as you read through Heather’s account it’s obvious how very often we inadvertantly (and perhaps sometimes quite deliberately) couch our sex education messages in such a way that we undermine our practice. You can read the whole piece here – it’s great for anyone working in sex education or sexual…

• Teaching abstinence makes teens delay sex? Here’s the evidence behind the media hype

  Dr Petra

  2 Feb 2010 | 2:53 pm

  In the news today is coverage of research suggesting abstinence-based sex education leads to children delaying sex and is better than other approaches to sex ed. But is this what the study actually found? Here’s the low down on the paper and what the findings really mean for sex education. Study: abstinence programs most effective at delaying sex among youths – CNN Teaching abstinence makes children delay first sexual intercourse: research – Telegraph Study: abstinence only program shows promise – Baltimore Sun Study finds benefit in abstinence programme – New York Times These…

• Reflections from a month on Twitter

  Dr Petra

  1 Feb 2010 | 8:36 am

  When it comes to Twitter, I’m a late adopter. Colleagues have been using it for months and rave about it. I was always a bit sceptical. It seemed to be the domain of celebrities or media types documenting the minutiae of their day. Even at conferences where tweeting the proceedings now seems to be the norm, I found the ‘ooh I’m at such and such conference’ ‘ooh so am I’ neither gripping nor particularly accessible – even though I was assured such approaches were democratising. But a number of friends persuaded me I had the wrong idea about Twitter, and that I really ought to…

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• Can ED be prevented?

  Sally Gomes

  9 Feb 2010 | 12:04 am

  Yes, you can prevent erectile dysfunction and other erection problems. Few practices which can really help you prevent ED and “cure” in few cases include:Good exercise to keep you fit for sex.Making lifestyle changes like reducing or stop smoking, reduce usage of alcohol and other kind of recreational drugsReduce abdominal fat and reduction in weight if you are obese or overweightYou need to keep your lipids and cholesterol levels in control because excessive fat interferes with blood circulation and proper blood flow which is required for attaining or maintaining proper erections.Try to…

• Is Erectile Dysfunction a part of getting old?

  Sally Gomes

  1 Feb 2010 | 11:30 pm

  There is a myth surrounding men that erectile dysfunction is more prominent among older men. But it does not necessarily have to be a part of getting older. It is true that due to age related conditions like diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, kidney problems, hormonal imbalances and other medical problems, the incidences of erectile dysfunction are higher among older men but it should not be considered as natural part of getting older. As men grow older, they need more stimulation to get proper erections and erection is also not firm. Also many other aspects related to sexual function reduce…

• Medical Problems Causing Impotence

  Sally Gomes

  27 Jan 2010 | 3:01 am

  There are many physiological and psychological causes behind impotence problem. Like we learned in previous post on how does an erection occur and impotence/erectile dysfunction can occur when any one of the events in the erection process is disrupted. There are many medical problems which can affect this erection process. These include:Kidney ProblemsChronic Alcoholism Atherosclerosis (Hardening of arteries or blood vessels) Damage to nerves, arteries, muscles, and fibrous tissues(often as a result of disease)multiple sclerosisVascular diseases (Cardiovascular diseases affecting blood…

• Erection Process

  Sally Gomes

  20 Jan 2010 | 1:25 am

  An erection is result of complex mechanism involving following actions:Signal sent to brain that sexual stimulation (sensory or mental stimulation) is occurringNerves in the body send a message through the body from lower spinal cord area to body’s pelvic region and then to the penisPenis receives the message to relax so that blood can easily flow withinBlood flow creates the pressure making the penis hard and causes an erection to occurDuring the erection process, tunica albuginea (chamber within the penis) helps in sustaining erection through the sexual activity by trapping the blood…

• Comprehensive Female Reproductive Health Issues

  Sally Gomes

  15 Jan 2010 | 1:48 am

  Female reproductive health issues are problems that can affect a woman’s ability to have children. Besides, reproductive health problems can also be harmful to a woman’s overall health and affect her ability to enjoy a sexual relationship. Female reproductive health can be influenced by various factors such as age, lifestyle, habits, genetics, use of medicines and exposure to chemicals in the environment. Smoking, consumption of alcohol and drug abuse can also have an adverse effect on a woman’s sexual health. In addition, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can also cause problems in…

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• If you’re single, try something different for Valentine’s Day

  Angela

  5 Feb 2010 | 9:44 am

  Check out Positive Singles and then write me back and let me know how it worked out for you! If you don’t want to limit yourself to niche dating sites then check out some of the other online dating sites I’ve put together for you. Keep an open mind because you’ll never know who you might find! [...]

• It’s Ok To Lift Your Eyes

  Angela

  5 Feb 2010 | 8:22 am

  I WILL LIFT MY EYES By Bebo Norman God, my God, I cry out Your beloved needs You now God, be near calm my fear and take my doubt Your kindness is what pulls me up Your love is all that draws me in I will lift my eyes to the Maker of the mountains I can’t climb I will lift my eyes to [...]

• Questions Answered One At A time

  Angela

  31 Jan 2010 | 4:23 pm

  Questions asked from the “Will It Kill Me” Post When i tested three years ago for a full panle exam when i was about 19 years old, i was only positive for type 1 and negative for type 2. i had a bad cold or flu around decmeber and kept coughing till now so last week [...]

• Don’t Live Life In Fear

  Angela

  27 Jan 2010 | 10:21 am

  Three in the morning, And I’m still awake, So I picked up a pen and a page, And I started writing, Just what I’d say, If we were face to face, I’d tell you just what you mean to me, I’d tell you these simple truths, Be strong in the Lord and, Never give up hope, You’re going to do great things, I already know, God’s got [...]

• Will It Kill Me?

  Angela

  22 Jan 2010 | 8:20 am

  i am positive for type 1 and type 2. i only had one outbreak on around my lip about 3 years ago when i was 19 years old. at that time i was only positive for type 1 which i was told its just cold sores. now i just found out i have type 2 [...]

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• Valentine’s Day: Love it? Hate it? Indifferent?

  Kristen Mark (M.Sc.)

  9 Feb 2010 | 7:14 am

  In these cynical times do you love, hate, or remain indifferent to the "holiday of love"?

• Survey Reveals Major Gaps In Young Adults’ Knowledge About Safe Sex

  Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.)

  9 Feb 2010 | 3:00 am

  A recent study of 18- to 29-year old unmarried adults reveals startling gaps in young adults' knowledge about safe-sex practices and pregnancy.

• Blogging About Sex: Invitation To Harrassment?

  Natalie Ingraham (M.P.H.)

  3 Feb 2010 | 5:58 am

  So what does this mean for those of us who blog at Kinsey Confidential? I can't speak for the other bloggers but, for me, this was a way to go beyond our on-campus work at Indiana University and reach out to a larger audience.

• Kinsey Art Gallery Review – Private Eyes

  Kristen Mark (M.Sc.)

  2 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am

  Artwork on display for "Private Eyes: Amateur Works from the Kinsey Institute Collection" includes one-of-a-kind homemade erotic artifacts.

• Cuba’s Universal Health Care Covers Gender Reassignment Surgery

  Eric Anthony Grollman (M.A.)

  2 Feb 2010 | 3:00 am

  The costs of surgical procedures to change one's sex from either female to male or male to female are covered now under Cuba's universal health care system.