Posted on behalf of Maxine Doogan Article Source ISTANBUL Activists and sex workers in Turkey are working on a project to establish Turkey¹s first sex workers union. They are hopeful about finding a solution to their problems and changing society¹s approach toward sex workers. They will organize an awareness walk to bring attention to their issues Turkey’s sex workers seek to establish a union An initiative to establish a union for sex workers in Turkey has been proceeding slowly but patiently for almost a year. Several activists plan to establish a trade union to protect the…
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Bound, Not Gagged
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Turkey’s sex workers seek to establish a union
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New Agency Bust
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Join us at San Francisco Pride
27 Jun 2009 | 6:35 pmSex Workers will be representing at San Francisco Pride tomorrow!! If you are in the area, definitely fight the crowds and come meet up with us!! Also a bunch of Sex Workers have their own contingent in the Dyke March! Sex Workers Outreach Project will be hosting 2 booths, a Beer Booth and an Information Booth (with totally hot Whore and U.S. Out Of My Underwear Shirts!) Sex Workers Dyke March contingent will meet at 6:45pm Sat the 27th on the corner of 18th and Dolores, directly to the side of the Dolores Park Cafe. Bring any signs, fabulousness, lovers and allies. Our Beer Booth will be at… -
Sexism in Prosecution
27 Jun 2009 | 6:07 pmSo a woman and a man were caught by police while engaging in sex for goods (he offered her a case of chips in exchange for oral sex, to which she agreed). The woman got arrested, the man did not. The woman had her mug shot taken and released, and now published, the man did not. Nor was his name published. The woman’s was. WTF?? Here is the story. (I am including the link to the SWOP LV News blog instead of original to try to give the woman some anonymity.) -
Alleged serial rapist of prostitutes caught
27 Jun 2009 | 6:00 pmWhile we have heard and experienced awful stories about police, I have to commend the Atlanta police on this one. They are asking sex workers to come forward to help convict a serial rapist who targets sex workers, and they believe he is responsible for raping at least 6 women. They are promising to not arrest them. I am hoping this will remain the case. But do we have anyone in Atlanta who can check in on this from time to time? Here is the story.
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Waking Vixen » Blog
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(Video) Michelle Goldberg on the Global Battle Over Reproductive Health
25 Jun 2009 | 11:23 amIn her new book The Means of Reproduction: Sex, Power, and the Future of the World, author Michelle Goldberg exposes the global battle over women’s reproductive rights that pit reformers against an international alliance of fundamentalists, with profound consequences for both individual lives and worldwide development. Last night IWHC hosted an event with Michelle so our friends and staff could learn more about her approach to writing the book. We were especially interested to hear what she had to say because she chronicles the rise of the international women’s movement, including… -
Women’s Studies Professor Isn’t Listening to Women: Sex Workers Clash with “Experts” in Rhode Island
25 Jun 2009 | 6:39 amThis is cross-posted from Sex Work Awareness. Donna Hughes, a Professor of Women’s Studies at the University of Rhode Island and an outspoken opponent of the sex industry, wrote a piece for the Providence Journal called RI’s Carnival of Prostitution. In the piece, she describes a hearing in which sex workers speak out for themselves and give their perspectives on legislation to re-criminalize indoor prostitution in Rhode Island. Learn more about about what’s going on (well, sort of) from the archives of the Providence Journal. Filmmaker Tara Hurley responds on her blog… -
Book Review: The Masters of Sex
21 Jun 2009 | 11:27 pmMasters of Sex: The Life and Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love by Thomas Maier rating: 4 of 5 stars I’m not generally in the habit of reading biographies (exception: I’ve read all the biographies there are to read about Victoria Woodhull), because I don’t really subscribe to the “great men” approach to history (I’m somewhat more susceptible to “great women”). I’d rather read about social movements and popular culture. That said, William Masters and Virginia Johnson spawned a new age of… -
My Criticisms: HIV, Porn, and Reponsibility
17 Jun 2009 | 7:57 amI’ve got a guest post up at Feministing about the new HIV cases in porn valley, with some slightly harsh words about the ways that testing and prevention are thought of as the same thing, and a call to responsibility. Here are a few excerpts from the piece: This past week it was revealed that there are some new cases of HIV within the adult industry in Los Angeles. The LA Times and LAist have both covered the story, as have adult industry media outlets AVN and Xbiz. A stunning majority of straight porn companies do not require condoms and actively discourage their use - in the business… -
Restricted Access to Online Sexuality Info: My First Funded Research Project
15 Jun 2009 | 7:07 amThis year continues to be something of a banner year for me gaining legitimacy in the world. Remember when I went from being a sex worker, blogger, and porn director to being a professor and non-profit full time job haver? Yeah, that was pretty awesome. The latest development in the Year of Legitimacy (it deserves to be capitalized) is this: Sex Work Awareness has been named the United States country research partner for the Exploratory Research on Internet & Sexuality (EROTICS) research project, funded by the Association for Progressive Communications’ Women’s Networking…
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NYT: Sex
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The Way We Love Now
28 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmHave modern American couples let anxieties about children, mortgages and success destroy their passion and romance? -
The Adult Store Goes Mainstream
27 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmVibrator use is becoming nearly as common of an appliance in American households as the drip coffee maker or toaster oven. -
Practice, Practice, Practice
27 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmFor William Masters and Virginia Johnson, this biographical account reveals, it was all sex all the time, but love was a forbidden word. -
Out of the Bedroom, Into the Clinic
25 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmThe long and disquieting story of the pioneering sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson. -
New Protections for Transgender Federal Workers
23 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmThe inclusion of transgender men and women in the discrimination guidelines is seen as a breakthrough by transgender and gay rights advocates.
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reusable instead-type cup
2 Jul 2009 | 1:56 pmI really like Instead cups, I think they're great...however...I still hate throwing them away and I do not want to reuse them! Does anyone know of a reusable Instead-type cup? I know that there are divacups and whatnot, but they aren't the same shape as insteads and I'm afraid that I won't like them as much.So if anyone knows of anything, please let me know! Thanks :) -
Yaz: placebo week & missing pills, etc
2 Jul 2009 | 1:36 pmOkay, so I've been on Yaz for a little over a year now, (I'm a Sunday starter) but my period still hasn't synced up to my placebo pill days. I don't really keep track (I know I should, but I just forget constantly) but I'd say that I usually get my period around the end of the placebos and/or when I start taking the active pills. Is it still safe to have sex during the placebo days? I'm not sure.Also, I missed my pill this past Tuesday, taking it when I remembered Wednesday morning. Normally, that means no sex/backup protection for a week, yes? However, that was also the last active pill… -
Period Weight Gain
1 Jul 2009 | 10:37 pmI feel like this is a stupid question and I should know the answer by the time I'm 21, but still...Is it normal to gain 3-5 pounds before your period, and then still have that extra weight halfway through your period? When does it go away- after it's over?I'm asking because I'm having to keep close track of my weight for other medical reasons, and it honestly freaks me out a little bit that I gained 5 pounds in a week with the amount of exercise I do and the amount of food I eat. There's no way it's from either of those sources. I have amenorrhea and just went back on birth… -
bleeding post-hyterectomy
1 Jul 2009 | 9:35 pmim on a roll tonight! (re my earlier entry: my fiance is currently drinking buckets of water and taking cranberry pills, and is going to a clinic tomorrow. thanks to all who commented!)my mother had a complete hysterectomy last december. today she told me she is bleeding lightly. she is 57 years old, and aside from high cholesterol, she is in pretty decent health. she has had no complications from the procedure until now. she is planning on calling her ob-gyn tomorrow, but in the mean time she is in a bit of a panic. all the things she read on google were... not good. what is the most likely… -
male uti
1 Jul 2009 | 8:06 pmi know this isnt vagina-related, but its an emergency! i suspect my fiance has a urinary tract infection. i know men can get them, but this is my first time actually dealing with it. (i have personally had them many times before.) he has no health insurance, so seeing a doctor simply isnt an option. ive read online that male uti's are a bigger deal than when women have them. is this true? besides tons of water and cranberry juice, what else can we do?!
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Love + Sex
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Why We Need To Rethink Romance
2 Jul 2009 | 10:04 pmRoss Douthat wrote an interesting Op-Ed piece in the The New York Times titled "The Way We Love Now" which analyzes the state of love, marriage and romantic contentment in 2009. Douthat wonders if we as a society have morphed into a culture of bed-hopping, cheating hearts and sexless, impossibly unsatisfied curmudgeons. Read: Cheating Myths Debunked -
Is 21 too young to get married?
2 Jul 2009 | 8:09 pmKevin Jonas, the oldest Jonas Brother, is engaged to his girlfriend, Danielle Deleasa, after two years of dating. The couple met while vacationing with their families in the Bahamas. 21-year-old Jonas flew directly from his concert in Vancouver to Deleasa's New Jersey home to propose. "It… -
Bridezilla dream come true: 24/7 wedding channel to launch
2 Jul 2009 | 8:08 pmMost women have seen and perhaps enjoyed TV shows like "Bridezillas," "My Fair Wedding," and "Amazing Wedding Cake," or movies like "Bride Wars," "The Wedding Planner," and "My Best Friends Weddings." The success of such shows and films has… -
Why Guys Cheat in the Summer
2 Jul 2009 | 4:31 pmDuring the warm-weather months, men are more likely to be unfaithful. Find out why and how to spot the -
Have You Ever Tried To Make Your Ex Jealous?
2 Jul 2009 | 4:30 pmDon't front--I know you've fantasized about bumping into your ex in the company of a studly new boyfriend, looking your very best and totally, completely over what's-his-name. But how far would you go to unleash the Green-Eyed Monster on your ex? As far as Kate Gosselin from Jon & Kate Plus 8, who recently split from hubby?
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Teens - The Devil Made Me Do It
2 Jul 2009 | 2:03 pmWhat's up X3 teens? I normally write for the mens section but i felt like i need to get one out to you guys this week too. I promise it is short and sweet... A long time ago i use to work in an ER as a tech. I would draw blood, do EKG's and other things. One of the other things i would do was assist the ER Docs when they would have to put in stitches. There was this one Dr. who always said when he stuck someone with the needle "I'm sorry the devil made me do it!" He was taking the blame of hurting this person (he didn't mean to, needles do hurt) off himself and putting it on the… -
Men - What I Make Up About That!
29 Jun 2009 | 9:31 pmAs I child many of us had fun making stuff up, it is a part of childhood. Against unimaginable odds, the good guys (me) would win! My parents would get that look in their eyes when I had a red sheet draped across my back and I am trying to get up on the roof…you could see them wondering “Does he think he can fly?” The brain is so powerful; it can handle everything we encounter and still has plenty of time to wander off on its own. When we go to bed, the brain gets bored and starts to make up things so bazaar it can leave you wondering for days… -
Pastors - Missionary Positions
28 Jun 2009 | 9:43 pmI just got back from a week long trip to Fresno, Ca, working in the urban poor community alongside World Impact (www.worldimpactfresno.org). We took a student leadership team, along with three adult youth workers. Pretty sweet deal. Throughout the trip, I kept re-imagining what church could be. You see, so often we get stuck in this frame of mind that church is only on Sundays, that it follows this fairly rigid order of service, etc… As I served amongst those considered the poorest of the poor, I couldn’t help but think- this is what ministry really is: bringing ministry to the… -
News - Hot Summer Update
28 Jun 2009 | 9:20 pmHey Everyone, Hope you summer is heating up. It is 106 degrees as I write this in Vegas. Here is what is coming at you in this update. -Erotica LA is over and was incredible. We had a great team and you can read all about it here and watch the latest edition of XXXchurch.tv to see what happened in LA. We handed out over 4,000 bibles at the show. My wife got to go to Godchicks this weekend in LA which was a conference put on by the Oasis Church who hosted us for the LA show. She ran into one of our volunteers from the show who had brought a girl from the industry to the women's conference. -
Parents - Giving Some Direction
28 Jun 2009 | 8:19 pmDirecting our children is a huge responsibility that I have been thinking about a lot this week. I think that there is a good example for us in Genesis 18:19: For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him. Abraham is a man who was made famous by his faith, obedience, and humility. He had faith in God's promises (even the ones that seemed crazy), he was obedient to God's direction and his laws (even when…
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Regina Lynn's SexRev2.0
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Have I mentioned recently that I fangirl Randall ‘XKCD’ Munroe?
22 Jun 2009 | 1:22 pmToo bad he’s outside the Standard Scale of Creepiness — he’s younger than my age divided by 2, plus 7. The squashing in these images is my fault. Click to see the originals, and don’t forget to mouse over them for the hovertext when you get there. Example 1: Example 2: -
Announcing: Sexier Sex Lessons
20 May 2009 | 11:23 amThe new Sexier Sex Lessons blog is up and running and has a couple of months of content now, so it’s ready for you to check it out. It’s a simple blog: one mini-lesson every Wednesday, either excerpted from the book or brand spankin’ new. I’m trying to keep the posts short enough to scan through in a minute and long enough to have something useful to share. Today’s topic is How to Laugh Your Way through Technical Difficulties and into Great Webcam Sex. We’ve also had these and many more: How to Build A Sex Tech Collection Your Friends Will Envy How to Find… -
A modern take on a historic vibrator
6 May 2009 | 9:13 amYou know that the first modern vibrator was powered by steam, yes? Look at what this engineering major with sexuality minor came up with: Photos & Story of Sleek Steam-Powered Vibrator its been proven to work (and vibrate) off of compressed air, I’m seeking a more powerful boiler than my pressure cooker so I can actually run it off of steam so please let me know if you know of one. this is prototype so its got some quirks, the engine isn’t quite as optimised as I would like (it takes way more pressure than it should to get it working) and the offset weight I need to machine… -
Greetings to WHYY listeners
6 May 2009 | 9:05 amI just spent an hour on the phone with Marty Moss-Coane on WHYY/NPR in Philadelphia, talking about sex and tech and online relationships, and wow does the time fly. Anyone who wants to continue the conversation (especially if you asked me for feedback on your dating profile, 45 seconds before the break), email me: ginalynn@gmail.com. I think the show might be posted here eventually, as there is a search form to look up guests or show dates: Radio Times -
‘Complete Woman’ article interviews me ‘n’ Dr. Ruth…
5 May 2009 | 12:42 am… and I can’t find it anywhere online. Perhaps I shall scan it in from the hardcopy magazine. It’s a feature about having great sex at any age (although it starts with the 20s and ends with the 50s “and beyond”). The cute thing is that they gave Dr. Ruth and me a mini-bio at the end, with our photos, and we have very similar glasses and smiles. I showed it to my grandpa, who is 94, saying “Look, Grandpa, they picked me to be the other source, right next to Dr. Ruth!” And he said that he had “heard of her.” And then: “I wish you would…
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Sex In The Public Square
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Account Deletion Email
1 Jul 2009 | 8:04 pmIf you got an email today saying that your account was deleted please disregard it. The problem came from deleting some accounts on a test site. We did not realize that the test site sends out the same kinds of system emails that the live site does. If you want to be extra certain that your account is fine, please try logging in, or resetting your password. We have checked our databases, though, and all accounts appear to be fine. Please let us know if you experience any problems using the site. -
Swimming naked: A declaration of independence
30 Jun 2009 | 6:02 pmIt's almost Independence Day weekend in the United States and so I am making my own very specific declaration of independence. In honor of "the personal is political" and in honor of Independence Day (and because I happen to have a very recent photo of me swimming naked near an American Flag) I want to make a simple declaration: I need to be free to swim naked. I dislike the confinement of swimsuits. They cling and bind and besides, other than wet t-shirt contests, why would anyone put on clothes specifically to get them wet? We take off wet clothes! Why put something on to go in… -
Some Lurid Prostitution Myths Debunked
25 Jun 2009 | 7:30 pmReprinted from the Providence Journal (Rhode Island), June 19, 2009 by Ronald Weitzer In the past few weeks, advocates of criminalizing prostitution in Rhode Island have made many assertions about the “horrors” of prostitution to push legislation forward. Most of these claims are myths. -
Prostitution decriminalised in Taiwan
24 Jun 2009 | 1:45 pmvia Mistress Aliya - Taiwan OKs legalized prostitution zone. Taiwan began a process of legalizing prostitution Wednesday making the island the latest place in the world to decriminalize the world's oldest profession.In six months, authorities will stop punishing Taiwan sex workers after prostitutes successfully campaigned to be given the same protection as their clients, a government spokesman said. [Reuters] This after much campaigning by The Collective of Sex Workers and Supporters. Why? -
Entrenching privilege: Child-care, parenting and politics
21 Jun 2009 | 7:17 amA Father's Day Reflection The story of Sarah Coral Hanson-Young illustrates two intersecting themes that entrench male privilege - the representation of gender in politics and the imbalance in responsibility for parenting. It is of concern that many (but not all) legislatures under-represent women, ensuring a cycle in which women's interests remain a low priority and decisions that are gendered continue to be taken. Yet so long as women carry an unequal burden of domestic and child-care responsibility this is…
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Susie Bright's Journal
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What This Blog Needs is a Little Dada
29 Jun 2009 | 5:52 pmOne day I put a new phone message pad on the table next to our kitchen phone. It was a brown-paper square pad illustrated with a pen & ink portrait of a rabbit's derriere. Something about this design inspired every visitor to our kitchen to embroider the original to their... -
Feelin' It
25 Jun 2009 | 8:49 pmThis is 10-year-old Micheal's audition at Motown. When he sang, it was the only time he could tell the truth and survive it. His songs always seemed to be about something else. MJ was not only denied childhood, but his gender feeling, his sexuality— everything real about him had to... -
Susie's Erotic Treasury, the Audio-Book!
19 Jun 2009 | 1:56 pmGoodie-gumdrops, my book X: The Erotic Treasury is now an audio-book... anyone need a bedtime story? I've fallen in love with the voice actors; they make all my favorites come alive in a new way. Here's a sample from "Parts for Wholes," by MonMouth: And a second, "Must Bite," by... -
Who is Adrian Colesberry and Why Do I Want to Make Love To Him?
18 Jun 2009 | 4:26 pmI get review copies of books all the time, especially sexual advice books. Sad to say, I don't enjoy 99.9% of them. Isn't that awful? I am picky and jaded. A few months ago, a book arrived with the most ludicrous title, and I had to flip to the first... -
The Shuffle 15
7 Jun 2009 | 9:25 amOkay, you know I'm a sucker for music games like this. My friends Caitlin and Jeff posted the game on Facebook— "15 Songs Shuffled from my iPod." Here's how you play: 1. Turn on your MP3 player. 2. Go to "shuffle" songs mode. 3. Write down the first 15 songs...
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Sex and the Ivy
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Sex and the Ivy’s July 4th Giveaway
1 Jul 2009 | 12:36 pmHi kids, long time no blog! In part due to lack of planning but mostly due to morbid curiosity, I decided to stay in Boston for Independence Day, because I figured experiencing the rabid patriotism of this historic town might make up for the total lack of fireworks I enjoyed last year in London surrounded by Redcoats. What better way to celebrate the nation’s birth than to don a Revolutionary War reenactment costume and promote the most patriotic duty of all … um, self-pleasure? This holiday, one lucky reader will receive the Womolia Heat ($99.95) from Emotional Bliss, a line of… -
Then & Now
27 Mar 2009 | 12:04 amI’m incredibly scared of loss. And I know I shouldn’t feel like I lose something by sleeping with someone, but I do. I decided to stop having sex because I was sick of giving away all these pieces of myself and subsequently worrying about unintentional attachment, ill-advised yearning. It felt like I had no control. I rarely reread entries on this blog, but tonight, I clicked on this link on the sidebar. I feel so far away from this girl, and yet, I think I finally understand what people mean when they tell me that my blog entries make them wish that they could give me a hug. Lame as it… -
Lena’s Super Awesome V-Day Giveaway
29 Jan 2009 | 10:26 amTIS THE SEASON TO BE LONELY! Or… not. If you’re single, you may want to tackle every happy couple you see around Valentine’s Day, and I don’t mean in an erotic kind of way. Luckily, you can satisfy all those urges without the messy emotional entanglements of a relationship or the obligation to spend two months’ salary every year for no reason. Public (sexual) servant that I am, I’m giving away a host of eco-friendly, ethically made, all-around-awesome prizes from my gift guide and all you have to do is read this really long spiel and answer some questions… -
Sex and the Ivy’s 2009 Valentine’s Day Gift Guide
28 Jan 2009 | 2:03 pmDitch the Victoria’s Secret and put down those diamond earrings; sustainable undies and vintage gems are way sexier and more original to boot. Ethical consumption might seem like an oxymoron, but it’s not just a trend for Americans with guilty consciences. The consequences of free trade on the environment and workers (many of whom live in the developing world) are far-reaching and destructive. Consuming ethically means acknowledging that while we can’t account for the supply or production chain of all products we consume, we try to the best of our ability to buy things that… -
A Retrospect
10 Jan 2009 | 2:27 amI’m starting out 2009 the way I started out 2008: in the beautiful Alps, minus one sex scandal, plus one gorgeous man and his cute pup. If you asked me last January how I felt about the upcoming year, I probably would’ve kicked you in the face. I was naked on the Internet (literally and figuratively), lying to my mother, and dating out of spite. I spent the holidays calling police departments in three different cities and crying hysterically in airports. In what can only be accurately described as a “total breakdown”, I killed Sex and the Ivy, retreated from campus,…
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The Virginity Project
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The first cut is the deepest....
23 Jun 2009 | 2:06 pmWhew, the Virginity Project has been swept away lately by absorbing ‘educational’ courses, more work than you can shake a stick at and my first trip out of London, tragically, for almost ten months. One does have a nasty habit of staying put and then wondering why one is so sick of the sight of one’s own surroundings. That is all, thankfully, to change soon as a trip to the motherland – Greece – is in the offing. All the while, small things sustain me and they are often to be found in books. Two have amused me lately. The first was ‘Diplomatic Baggage’ by Brigid Keenan. I bought… -
10 Jun 2009 | 2:15 pm
10 Jun 2009 | 2:15 pmI remember my first trip to the States like it was yesterday. I was so excited that I spent weeks beforehand having feverish dreams about forgetting the most basic of items. Items, it seemed that were critical components to the enjoyment of my trip – contact lenses, shoes, guide books. It was alarming to find out just how much truck I placed on the most innocent of accoutrements but I was absolutely gagging to go to America and I wanted everything to be perfect. As a British person, one feels like one has been to America before one has even arrived. Films have taught us all we know and it… -
Fresh off the press..
7 Jun 2009 | 1:51 amThe Sun Newspaper is looking for three women to tell their virginity loss stories for the Women’s pages. If you meet the criteria below and are happy to be identified, get in touch with Laura. You will be handsomely paid for your effort. Here is the brief: ‘My request: I am looking for 3 women - max age 35 now - who are happy to tell me about the experiences of losing their virginity at different ages between 20 - 35 for our women's pages. (i.e. you can have lost it at 25 and be 35 now, but not have lost it at 35 and be 50 now). I am looking for a mixture of different experiences -… -
And your point is....
23 May 2009 | 9:11 amOnce again, theres a first time for a whole bunch of things. I found this out to my advantage on Tuesday night when I went Salsa dancing for the very first time. Could I feel like any more of a twat than I did for the first twenty minutes? Probably not. But at least I wasn’t the only one. I have been putting this off for months and as the proud instigator of these shenanigans looked on - my talented dancing friend Lydia – I fumbled my way through the moves as twenty men and women facing each other in a trembling line attempted to put one foot in front of the other and make sweet music… -
The love that dare not speak its name..
17 May 2009 | 10:20 amThere’s a first time for everything. So goes the title at the top of this blog and I never realised at the time how true that was. When I started to blog, I intended to talk only about virginity loss but along the way, I realised that a. we might get bored and b. there are all sorts of first times. This has been a recurring theme ever since. When you ask anyone about their first time, they can usually pinpoint the moment at which they lost their technical virginity….but ask them about the first time that they actually enjoyed having sex and that’s another story altogether. Occasionally…
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Dating
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eHarmony Dating
Well, what can I say about eHarmony? They are one of the premiere dating sites, and for a good reason. I signed up for a full membership, tried it out, and all I can say is they really get down to the nitty gritty as far as what you would like in life. They definitely try hard to match you up with a potential mate! -
Love Dada Dating
I rate this site so highly because not only can you comfortably find singles online with a web browser, but you can find them when your away from your computer with your cell phone! Very nice! New singles are joining all the time, and Love.Dada has around 3 million members. It seems with the ease of cell phone AND internet usage, connections are made all the time. I cant recommend this site enough! Dont take my word for it, check out all of the positive and negative features of the site and the Love.Dada dating scene below. -
Real Mature Singles Dating
Real Mature Singles is a screened group of single adults who are ready to move beyond online dating and into something real. -
Thirty Plus Singles
If you're 30-ish, or way over it, then you may be looking for a more serious relationship. I think this is one reason why more single women and men seem to find Thirty Plus Singles so successful! This site has lots of no-nonsense dating features, it also has strict rules imposed on its sign-up options. The screening is so stern and thorough that people below 30 and with less than the approved income range of $25,000, cannot join. Beacuse of this, there are more professionals at Thrity Plus Singles compared to most other sites. The quality is highly observed even for its members, and it can be… -
VIP Singles
Elite Matchmaking for Professional Singles VIP Singles is a true matchmaking service. They assign a personal representative to you. This person reviews the profile that you submit to them, and from there, start suggesting matches. These are hand picked, and human scrutinized results. It really doesn't get much better than this! The personal attention really shines through once you go step through 3 phases of the online sign-up process. We've signed up and tried out VIP Singles for you, below find the 3 step sign-up process outlined.
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Worry
1 Jul 2009 | 8:00 pmWow, we’ve had so many great entries for the Tuesday Super-Swag contest. You have until Sunday July 5th at 12:01 am to get additional entries in. Go check out all the new posts at Beyond the Birds and the Bees. —— Months ago the ex announced his intention to take our eldest child on a week-long vacation to his home town. I agreed, half (at least) convinced that like so many of his other plans this one would not come to fruition. Each passing week showed him to be more dedicated than I’d imagined. He drew up an ambitious yet thoughtful itinerary, contacted childhood… -
Proud
30 Jun 2009 | 8:00 pmIf you were watching from the doorway you’d have seen a woman perched at the edge of the bed with head down and ass thrust saucily up. You’d have seen a man move in from behind and impale her on the glistening flesh which only moments before had been shoved down her throat. For a while you would have noticed nothing unusual, just two middle-aged lovers wholeheartedly enjoying themselves in the early morning sunlight. You might have thought they seemed into each other (and the act itself) rather more than expected what with all the dirty talk, hair pulling and ass-slapping. … -
Tuesday Super-Swag
29 Jun 2009 | 8:00 pmI’ve spent the last couple of days trying to catch up on my sex toy reviewing. Ah, the lonely, difficult life of the sex toy tester. I’m going to have a repetitive stress injury in my wrist, you just wait and see. I’ve got some swag to give away, but this time y’all are going to have to work for it. I’ll randomly choose one person who shares a tale with Beyond the Birds and the Bees between now and Sunday, July 5th at 12:01 am Eastern time to win a whole box full of fabulous swag. All you have to do to enter is include your story on the standard submissions… -
Not Here
28 Jun 2009 | 8:00 pmFor the next two glorious days I will be child-free, a prospect which makes me giddy with excited anticipation. I’d be even more giddly if any plans other than work, work and more work were on the agenda. Oh silly me, I do have other plans. Freedom during the week means that I’ve crammed a slew of necessary but dull appointments onto the schedule as well. I get to have my boobs squished, pupils dilated and head examined. Yay? The upshot of this for you is that regular posting will resume on Wednesday. In the meantime, have a look at some stuff going on around the… -
Dirty House
25 Jun 2009 | 8:00 pmWe ought also to take into consideration our own natural bias; which varies in each man’s case, and will be ascertained from the pleasure and pain arising in us. Furthermore, we should force ourselves off in the contrary direction, because we shall find ourselves in the mean after we have removed ourselves far from the wrong side, exactly as men do in straightening bent timber. –Aristotle’s Ethics As I write this I am taunted by a hideously filthy living room floor. Cracker crumbs, mulch fragments and assorted shreds of random fuzz stare up at me, begging to be vacuumed.
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Practical Polyamory™
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Audacia Ray on the Sanford Scandal
2 Jul 2009 | 9:31 amI recently met the awesome Audacia Ray at the Sex 2.0 conference held in the DC area in May. Audacia Ray is a sexual rights activist and is the author of Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing In On Internet Sexploration (Seal Press, 2007). Dacia is also the Program Officer for Online Communications and Campaigns at the International Women’s Health Coalition and an adjunct professor of Human Sexuality at Rutgers University.Dacia is a guest today on The Takeaway, a new national morning news radio program co-produced by PRI (Public Radio International) and WNYC Radio in… -
Help Repeal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"
2 Jul 2009 | 7:06 amThough I don't tend to speak of it here, another facet of my life is that I am an Army mom. I also oppose the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy that prevents LGBTs from being out if they are serving in the military.On Tuesday, a military board told Lt. Dan Choi -- an Iraq War veteran (as is my son-in-law) and Arabic linguist -- that it was recommending his discharge from the Army for "moral and professional dereliction" under the military's "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy.Despite this setback, Lt. Choi is not giving up. Bolstered by more than 300,000 signatures to letters of support calling for… -
Sally Kern: Economic Crisis can be Blamed on Obama's Immoral Policies
30 Jun 2009 | 9:19 pmIn March 2008 I posted here about Oklahoma State Representative Sally Kern's hate speech against LGBTs. Well, friends, she's at it again, as Professor Jonathan Turley explains. Also, Rush Limbaugh seriously believes that Obama's economic policies were the cause of Republican Gov. Mark Sanford’s affair with a beautiful Argentinian woman. Seriously. Is it possible that the extremist leaders of the religious right and sore loser conservative commentators are really losing it? One can always dream. -
UUPA Compares and Contrasts Polyamory and Polygamy
27 Jun 2009 | 9:53 pmI am a member of the Board of Trustees of Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness, and in preparation for this week's annual UU General Assembly in Salt Lake City, trustee Jasmine Walston and others drafted the following language for a brochure to be used to answer anticipated questions at UUPA's booth in the exhibit hall and elsewhere regarding the differences between polygamy and polyamory. It is exceedingly well done and provides a lot of food for thought. I share it with you here.UNITARIAN UNIVERSALISTS FOR POLYAMORY AWARENESSPolygamy and PolyamoryQ: Polygamy and Polyamory – Are… -
Loving More Sanford Press Release
26 Jun 2009 | 9:29 amLoving More Non-Profit970-667-5683June 25, 2009LOVING MORE® non-profit is all too familiar with Governor Mark Sanford’s challenging situation. We are an organization that helps and supports people in finding ethical, mutually agreed-upon ways for loving more than one person in honest multi-partnered relationships. We help partners consciously negotiate their relationship styles and agreements, whether monogamy or polyamory, with ethics and integrity. Loving More Executive Director Robyn Trask issued the following statement. "My heart goes out to Mr. Sanford, his wife and kids, and to his…
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rhiinpink.com
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The Meanest Thing Ever Said
30 Jun 2009 | 6:13 amPicture it: Dinner at nearby chain restaurant (I freaking hate chain restaurants, but we were unable to agree on an acceptable location). Him: You look cute today Me: Thanks! This is my new pencil skirt from J.Crew and I LOVE IT. Him: Aren’t you worried that you’re getting close to being too old to shop at J.Crew. Me: Blank Stare, and perhaps some tears. Remind me to tell him about Lauren Hutton. -
Hey Jealousy
28 Jun 2009 | 12:41 pmThere’s really no way to write this without sounding like a selfish bitch. So, I’ll just admit it now: I’m a selfish bitch. I mentioned yesterday that I had a Bachelorette Party to go to, and I went and had a lovely time. My girlfriends are fantastic and I’m so lucky to have them in my life. I’m also thrilled that my friend has found someone to share her life with. He’s a fantastic guy and they are wonderful together. But, throughout the course of the night, there was a tiny voice in my head that said, “This should be you. You should be the one… -
Friday Bullets, One Day Late
27 Jun 2009 | 9:45 amFirst things first, have you entered to win a $100 Visa Gift Card from SmartFood? Head over to my review blog to enter. The past couple of weeks have been really, really ridiculously busy. This weekend, I am EXTRA THRILLED as the boy is out of town and I have most of the weekend to myself. On the agenda (subject to change): Pedicure, Gossip Girl, JCrew.com, Pink Wine, Real Housewives of New Jersey, cheese and bread, etc. The only things I absolutely HAVE to do this weekend are: Eye Doctor (which maybe I should think about getting dressed for), Bachelorette Party, and get 2 workouts in. -
Anniversary Update
16 Jun 2009 | 9:56 amI’m sure you all know, because it’s marked on your calendars, that the boy and I recently celebrated our 1st anniversary. We had a lovely weekend in Oregon’s wine country where we tasted lots of wine, ate awesome food, and where I got a very bad tummy ache. We stopped at Torii Mor where we tasted a few pinots as well as an amazing port. We also stopped at my very favorite winery, Sokol Blosser, where we were told that my beloved Rose of Pinot Noir is running out. I bought two bottles, but really feel like I should go buy more. Running out would be a travesty. Do you know… -
Ranty
11 Jun 2009 | 7:12 amToday, I am going rafting FOR WORK. And, I woke up in a terrible mood. So, rather than share my bad mood with my colleagues, I’m sharing it with you lovely people. YOU’RE WELCOME. On summer mornings, I love opening my patio door to let fresh air in and to let Gelsey frolic wtih the birds. That was until some chain smoking asshole moved in upstairs who was already up and smoking a cigarrette at 5:41 this morning. I no longer want to play peek-a-boo with your kid at restaurants. It is fun for 25 seconds, but after that, it is up to you to tell your kid to let the disgruntled lady…
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This Marriage Thing
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Love and Intimacy with Diana Daffner, MA
26 Jun 2009 | 10:03 amSlow is good. That’s the message I took away from the wonderfully playful conversation I had with Diana Daffner yesterday. You recall I was trying to interest all of you in talking about tantric sex as a way of deepening your connection with that special person? Well, I’m still thinking about it and the power of 10 second kiss. Boy, I can’t even say how excited I was to do this interview with Diana, who along with her husband Richard, offer a new perspective on love on the physical and spiritual level. They’ve been able to create a practice that combines the… -
Transform Your Relationship with Adult Children
13 May 2009 | 11:47 amParenting never ends. Just like matter itself it simply changes forms. (remember those HS science classes) . Having two emerging adults in my family caused me to re-examine my role as a parent. My nest isn’t empty yet, but it soon will be. Here’s a news flash: kids grow up. Ok, not exactly new, true. Yet, it still blows my mind. My kids are grown. Now, I use that word cautiously lest my mother hear. To her, no child is ever grown no matter what age. And, I think there’s some truth to that. Miss Thang tells me I’ll always be Mom, even though we…
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Scarleteen
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Want to be a peer sex educator?
1 Jul 2009 | 10:33 amIn case it isn't obvious from the message boards and our peer-written content on the site, peer-based sex education and support is really important to and at Scarleteen. While I love my job as a sex educator who is an older adult, and think there's a lot of value in my doing this work, at the same time I feel like there's an extra power and a special kind of support with peer-to-peer education and interaction that I can't do. -
Why do I feel so bad later when it feels so good at the time?
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First-Time Intercourse: It Was...Good?
1 Jul 2009 | 8:28 amI'm an Australian student in my final year of high school, constantly dealing with stress. From everywhere. Family, work, homework and study...it's no wonder, really, that when we hear all about how fantastically stress-relieving sex can be, we want to try it. It's no surprise. read more -
Good sex is non-zero!
14 May 2009 | 1:14 pmI've continued to enjoy TED videos, featuring people like Aimee Mullins, and my interest really doesn't seem to be subsiding any time soon. TED is the "Technology, Entertainment, Design" conference who's video talks and lectures are released on-line every weekday. Most recently, my thoughts on it have circulated around journalist, Robert Wright... -
Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown
7 Jun 2008 | 1:23 pmThrow a rock at any sex education site or service, ask what the most common question we get is from men and we'll all tell you -- with an air of exhaustion, mostly because we get asked it so often and it's so clear to us how these worries hold men back from feeling good about themselves and their sexuality, as well as how they often negatively impact sexual relationships -- that it's about penis size. read more
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Married And Happy
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More and Better Sex - 8 Tips for Men
22 Jun 2009 | 3:39 pm1. The more emotional pain a woman carries, the less she wants to be touched in her private areas. And, unless a woman has a man who completes her, she IS carrying emotional pain – it's just a matter of what degree. Most women do NOT have such a man. That means you have a huge opportunity...2. Take the judgment out of sex. Forget about questions like, "Did I do it right?" or "Was that good for you?" or "How do I feel / look?" Instead, make it a time of connecting, exploring, and experimenting. Make it a time of conveying feeling. Make it a time of expressing love through touch and skin… -
10 Sex And Marriage Truisms That Affect YOU
11 Jun 2009 | 2:34 pmMen, have you thought about the following truisms and how they impact you lately?The more sex you have with your wife, the less likely she is to cheat on you.The more sex you have with your wife, the less likely she is to be pursued by other men.You ambition and drive for resources is far more important to your wife than your looks.Keeping your relationship happy and sexual is how you keep it going – it's how you retain your lady.Spying on your wife, snooping through her private places, exhibiting jealous behavior around her and/or creating a big fuss when others get too close to her is a… -
Men, How About A More Sexual Marriage?
10 Jun 2009 | 7:08 amIf you are a man in a relationship that's not as sexual as you would like, then I have good news for you: YOU CAN HAVE A MORE SEXUAL MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.Yes, you really can. As impossible as it may seem to you right now, I can assure you that enjoying more sex is entirely possible for you.However, I must also tell you that creating a more sexual marriage or relationship is an up-hill battle that will require courage, strength, patience, persistence, education, and personal growth on your part.Here's why...How a woman views things of a sexual nature depends upon how she has been… -
The #1 Reason So Many Women Avoid Intimacy With Their Man
29 May 2009 | 11:33 amA normal woman LOVES intimacy. It's what she daydreams about. It's what her fantasies are filled with. It's what she wants all the time.If that's true, why then do so many women avoid, withdraw from, and resist intimacy?Actually, normal women – women who are emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually healthy – do NOT avoid, withdraw from, or resist intimacy.They do however, MOVE AWAY from the feeling of being USED.Women DO withdraw from being an ACCESSORY that's "pulled out" and "used" on an "as-needed" basis.Women DO resist a man who ignores her and pays no attention to her… -
5 Cool Ways To Stir Up Sexual Thoughts In Your Wife's Mind...
26 May 2009 | 4:36 pm1. Touch your skin to her skin in unusual and different ways. For example, while facing your wife, connect the area between your wrist and your elbow to that same area on her and just hold the connection for several seconds and look at her arm(s). You can do it with both arms or just one while you use the other hand to tickle your fingertips across her forearm / underarm skin.2. When you're tired and ready for YOU time and just don't feel like giving any more to any one else then go ahead and summon up enough extra energy to connect with your wife in a non-sexual way. Tell her that that you…
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The Frisky
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Quickies!: Jackson Funeral To Be Held At The Staples Center?
2 Jul 2009 | 8:00 pmMichael Jackson’s funeral is reportedly being held at the L.A. Staples Center next Tuesday, July 7—the same date he signed his will seven years ago. [Starpulse] Director Michael Bay (who is behind the “Transformers” movies) agrees that his star,... -
Gay Sex No Longer Illegal In New Delhi
2 Jul 2009 | 7:50 pmThe gay pride parade in New Delhi, India may have just ended, but supporters of the gay right’s movement rose that striped flag once again in celebration of the decriminalization of gay sex in the traditionally conservative country. While the New... -
Love Conquers All In Japan
2 Jul 2009 | 7:40 pmWhile most businesses in Japan are crashing, the hotel industry has found a way to “stimulate” the economy. Giving new meaning to the term “love shack,” the country’s love hotels are racking up some serious tail. Chock full of “amenities” like DVD... -
Drug Addicted Women Paid $300 To Go On Birth Control
2 Jul 2009 | 7:30 pmA controversial group called Project Prevention in Knoxville, Tennessee is paying drug addicts and alcoholics not to get pregnant. The group is traveling across the United States this summer in an RV, offering addicts $300 to be sterilized, or $300... -
Quick Pic: Seal Takes His Pups For A Walk
2 Jul 2009 | 7:20 pm...after kissing Mommy goodbye, of course. [NYC, 7/2/09]
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About.com Sexuality
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Real Touch: The Finger Review
30 Jun 2009 | 5:01 pmI’m sitting on the edge of a bed in someone else's hotel room in Glendale, Arizona with my fingers knuckles deep inside Real Touch. Most of the time... -
‘Round About Sex: Dinosaur Sex
29 Jun 2009 | 5:01 pmThere are all sorts of ways to approach sex. Being a sex educator I tend to take the most direct route (which, ironically, doesn’t always get me there the... -
What Is Virtual Pornography?
26 Jun 2009 | 8:21 amThis CNN headline caught my attention yesterday morning: Tennessee man charged in 'virtual pornography' case I clicked on the link assuming the story was about someone charged for possessing porn that was... -
'Round About Sex: Soft Core Autism Awareness
22 Jun 2009 | 5:01 pmThere are all sorts of ways to approach sex. Being a sex educator I tend to take the most direct route (which, ironically, doesn’t always get me there the... -
Are Teens Heading in the Wrong Direction?
22 Jun 2009 | 8:03 amThe latest media release from the Guttmacher Institute announced that teens are heading in the wrong direction. They are referring to a new study that shows teens are less...
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Having my cake and eating it too
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HNT: A Tale of Two Fingers
1 Jul 2009 | 11:40 pmI hurt my knuckle hitting pads at training. Took the skin off it. This meant that every time I tried to hit something, it started bleeding again and necessitated the wearing of gloves.When Ruf noticed, he took me off to one side and cossetted me. Applying a kids' spotty plaster with firm but gentle fingers and ensuring that it wouldn't slip off the wound.For me, there was something so tender -
Play with Gigi and Iris
30 Jun 2009 | 2:23 amI was going to post some soul-searching thesis on a dark subject that has resulted from my counselling sessions but, you know what? It's hot, the sun is shining, my children are being very well behaved and their father is away this week. Ok, so I'm making pocket money the reward for keeping their rooms tidy and helping me with washing up and dishwasher chores but, who cares if it actually works -
Mute Monday: 1961 - A Year in Pictures
28 Jun 2009 | 4:01 pmhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Farthing_1946_GeorgeVI_Wren.JPGFarthings stop being legal tender in the UKhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Jfk_inauguration.jpgJFK inaugurationhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Ham_the_chimp.jpgHam the Chimp in spacehttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolf_EichmannAn infamous Nazi stands trialhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Gagarin_space_suite.jpgThe first man in -
Bed
28 Jun 2009 | 2:21 am'My bed smells of you. I'm trying to read but you keep interrupting.'That text made me think about him. Lying in his bed with the smell of my perfume emanating from a negligee that I had placed strategically beneath the pillow I had vacated only 15 hours before. Despite my only fleeting visits, the room is still full of memories that enforce how big a part of his life I have become.If he looks -
OverRated: Wall to Wall Sunshine
26 Jun 2009 | 3:59 pmEveryone I know loves it. The hotter the better. They moan continually about our inclement weather with its diagonal rain and polar gusts, spending a fortune going off to warmer climes to lie in the sun for weeks on end and fry. Me...? I'm rather different. Well, these days anyway. As a child I regularly took a layer of skin off my back and shoulders as I lay out on the grass taking in the rays.
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Ask Dan and Jennifer
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Is There Such Thing As TOO MUCH Self-Help?
30 Jun 2009 | 5:45 pmMy answer to this question is: “yes.” I came to this conclusion in my mid-30s after asking myself this very thing over and over. At the time I was well, I guess what you could call obsessed with self-esteem-building, spirit-lifting, relationship-advising, co-dependent, neurotic, feminist, esoteric, astrological, paleontological, philosophical paradigms and relief. There was enough of it in my personal library to diagnose and heal several galaxies. Looking For Self-Help? I had it all – from the esoteric to Far East philosophies to New Age modalities and even the dead: Kierkegaard,… -
That “Mothering” Tone Of Voice And Behavior Does Not Work For A Man: Which Means It Doesn’t Work for You!
28 Jun 2009 | 5:49 pm“How can we have a loving relationship with anyone if we spend most of the time thinking about how awful it (the relationship) is?” ~ Joseph Bailey I found that awesome quote online today along with a woman’s wonderful response to it. She talked about how she used to disrespect her husband and denigrate her marriage. As a Christian, she’d come to understand that words have the power of life and death in them. It’s a powerful push to take responsibility for every word that proceeds from your mouth! She said she was learning how to uplift and encourage her husband, sowing seeds of… -
Don’t Lose Yourself To Get Love
26 Jun 2009 | 5:52 amFar too many people have the notion that in order to find and keep love in our lives, we must first abandon our authentic selves to become some version of whatever the other person wants us to be. Most of us, at some point, learned this was a good idea – maybe from our parents, from our friends, as kids, or even later in our adult lives. However it happened, most of us are imprinted with the belief that love has to be earned—or, at minimum, looks a certain way. (IE. I do this or that and then you’ll love me.) Dr. Helen Fisher, whom I greatly esteem, calls this your love map. What Is A… -
Curiosity Creates Romance
25 Jun 2009 | 6:11 pmHidden expectations are one of the primary things that hurt a relationship. The expectations go beyond the desire to be loved for who we are. They have to do with us looking good and being right where our friends and family are concerned. The expectations include things like what we want this person to be like, what he or she should look like, sound like, and act like. They can be about wanting him or her to have a certain religion, a particular sense of humor, and a certain body type, even a desire for finger nails and toe nails to be shaped in a familiar way. Hair color and texture can… -
How Do I Introduce BDSM To My Boyfriend? (Video)
24 Jun 2009 | 6:26 pmEveryone has their fantasy or fetish, and everyone likes different things. It’s part of what makes us such a sexually diverse culture! Many people are into BDSM, or bondage, whether it’s soft BDSM or really getting into dominant and submissive roles. If you like BDSM, how can you introduce it to your partner without getting rejected and possibly even involving them in your fetishes and fantasies? Dear Dan and Jennifer, I’m very comfortable with my sexuality and a little on the BDSM side… I’ve been this way for years. My fiance and I have done a few things, but…
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iVillage Love & Sex
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The Orgasmic French Kiss
Leave a lasting, eroticized impression with these tips for giving an orgasmic French kiss! -
11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009
Did you make mistakes in your relationships in 2008 that you want to avoid in 2009? What did you do right that you want to keep doing? We asked the iVillage community for their relationship resolutions, and we hope they'll inspire a few of your own. -
Conversation Topics That Mean He Wants Sex
Is he trying to sleep with you? You may be able to tell just based on the conversations he starts! -
5 Tips for Staying at His Place
Sleeping at your place: Most men believe they can control the situation when in familiar surroundings, but that confidence can be both a blessing and a curse. -
Quiz: Are You A Great Date?
Do you make a good impression on dates? Take this quiz and find out if you have found the right balance between being too easy and too hard to please.
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Baggage Reclaim
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Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailable’s & Assclowns - Part Three
30 Jun 2009 | 9:14 amLet’s be real, rejection sucks, especially if you actually expend brain energy thinking of yourself as a reject (i.e. not good enough) that’s been rejected (discarded). In part one of this three part series, I explained how our ability to cope with rejection or even readiness to perceive certain actions from these men as rejection [...] -
Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailable’s & Assclowns - Part Two
26 Jun 2009 | 9:00 amIn part one, I explained how our ability to cope with rejection is tied to our self-esteem and that our sense of rejection is compounded by the fact that we engage in a self-fulfilling prophecy of choosing partners that reflect our fears and negative beliefs, which in turn, when we habitually engage with these types [...] -
Coping with feeling rejected by Mr Unavailable’s & Assclowns - Part One
23 Jun 2009 | 9:20 amThere are two key things that everyone desires and fears in life; acceptance and rejection, and where you don’t get one, you get the other. One of the most difficult things for someone who has been involved with a Mr Unavailable or assclown is the lingering feeling of rejection, something that [...] -
Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailable’s & Assclowns after you break up?- Part Three
18 Jun 2009 | 9:00 amSo we reach the final part of this three part post on whether you can, or should stay friends with a Mr Unavailable and/or assclown. In part one, I explained the immediate factors that make it tricky to stay friends with these men and the real reasons why you will want to stay ‘friends’, and [...] -
Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailable’s & Assclowns after you break up?- Part Two
15 Jun 2009 | 7:39 amIn part one, I gave you a whole host of reasons why it’s foolhardy to pursue friendship with a Mr Unavailable and/or assclown and also explained why you may want to pursue friendship with them. The one thing that I want you to keep saying to yourself, out loud if you can is: Why the hell do [...]
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Dating is Warfare
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Everything in its Place
2 Jul 2009 | 1:47 pmIt's a tension that has slowly built up over the year that Wine Guy and I have lived together. Every day we bring more of it into the house - mail, brochures, coupons, greeting cards, invitations, receipts. Basically, crap. And it never ends.I'm no neat freak. In fact, I'm kind of messy. But I am big on knowing where things are and putting them in their properly dedicated place. This means I rarely spend ten minutes tearing the house apart looking for the receipt I need to return something. I generally know where my keys are and my bills get paid on time because they are placed right next to… -
Happy Hip Update
18 Jun 2009 | 10:49 amThe fact that I haven't mentioned my recovery from hip surgery since mid-April is, thank goodness, a very good sign. My recovery went really smoothly, thanks in large part to the support (and yummy pajamas and treats) I got from my friends at my "Hip Shower."This recovery felt much faster than last time and I'm already walking without any sort of crutch or cane, though I get sore and tired pretty quickly still. I returned to work last week at half-time and begin full-time work next week.As much as I hate to admit it, I've been in a far sunnier mood since I returned to work and again have a… -
Delayed Dining
12 Jun 2009 | 6:27 pmI like the idea that after 2 years and 2 months together, Wine Guy and I still have a few milestones left to achieve - beyond marriage, children and divorce, of course. Well, I knocked one of those off last night in honor of Wine Guy's birthday.Although this was a rather significant milestone (in my opinion), it is also one that normally comes in the first 2 months of dating, not years. Nevertheless it was a big moment -- for us as a couple and for me as a kitchen-phobic individual.I cooked my first meal for Wine Guy.Notice I did not write that I prepared this first meal, planned it, ordered… -
The Man-Purse Challenge
18 May 2009 | 10:17 pm"Can you hold this for me?"Sounds like an innocent enough question. And when my purse has any spare room, as it often does, I always say yes.It's rarely a woman who asks me this question. Mostly because she would also be carrying a purse to hold her standard must-carry items - wallet, phone, lipstick, tampons.But the man-- the poor man. Cursed with the back pocket as his only solution. Before the cell phone and other bulkier electronic must-carry items, all the man needed to worry about was the wallet. Easy enough to slip in the back pocket. No lipstick, hopefully, to worry about and all that… -
Games for Grownups
14 May 2009 | 12:12 amAfter two years, I can't freakin' believe Wine Guy finally tricked me into allowing video games into the house.I HATE video games.OK, the vintage Atari 2600 games are just fine in my book. Lord knows I spent much of my youth playing them. But as a teenage babysitter, I saw how absolutely mindless and antisocial the boys I watched became while playing.Then throw in Naval A-hole and the marathon sessions of Halo with his squadron buddy that he forced me to attend during my visits up to rural Washington state just to see him....well, you can see why I dislike them so much.Wine Guy is well aware…
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LadyThrills.com
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The Michael Jackson Metamorphosis
26 Jun 2009 | 5:39 amMichael Jackson died on June 25, 2009, and all I can think about is what he would've looked like had he not had all those surgeries.I wonder if he would've gone through all the crap he went through had he seemed more "normal" to the outside world. Why did he change his look so drastically? Why wasn't he happy with himself? Did his radical surgeries kill his career? Did people have a hard time looking directly at him? At the end of the day, Michael Jackson was a man with feelings and emotions like the rest of us, but most people couldn't see it because they were so busy looking away in horror. -
Farrah Fawcett Died at 62
25 Jun 2009 | 10:51 amFarrah Fawcett, 62, has died today, June 25, 2009. Her entire family was by her side and Ryan O'Neal is said to have married her before her passing. Our thoughts and prayer go out to Farrah Fawcett and her family at this time.No matter how old she got, we always looked at Farrah Fawcett as that sexy beauty on Charlie's Angels. Even when she had a moment of weirdness on Letterman, we still thought she was sexy. Here's to you, Farrah Fawcett, you're everyone's angel now. -
Perez Hilton is Secretly Straight
25 Jun 2009 | 10:18 amPerez Hilton, perhaps the most overated gossip blogger, has finally issued an apology for calling Will.i.am a faggot. Yes, Perez Hilton really did call Will.i.am a faggot. It's kind of weird, but I think that all this proves what I've always known to be true. Perez Hilton is straight. There, I said it. I think that Perez Hilton is just acting gay so that he can get closer to women and then Bang! And he'll always say, "Wow, I don't know how that happened. I really did like penis, you know?"But all kidding aside, or not, I think this might actually be the beginning of the official "We hate… -
David Carradine Dead Bangkok
4 Jun 2009 | 11:55 amDavid Carradine, (I shamefully admit that I thought he became famous because of the Kill Bill franchise), was found dead in Bangkok on Thursday June 4, 2009.David Carradine was found naked, hanging in the closet at a suite at the luxury Swissotel Nai Lert Park Hotel. David Carradine was in Bangkok filming the a movie called "Stretch".I have to admit that I am shocked. May David Carradine rest in peace. He was 72. -
Chris Brown Surfaces on YouTube
27 May 2009 | 6:32 pmChris Brown surfaced on YouTube promoting a new album and telling the world "I ain't no monster." Wow, who woulda thunk it?Chris Brown seems to be completely unapologetic for what occured in February 2009 and denies that Rihanna had a black eye and sorta dismisses the fact that he was even arrested for it. What do you think? Is Chris Brown's career over? Or will the public let it go and embrace him once again?
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The Principles of Pleasure
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Nearly Half of Americans Use Vibrators
30 Jun 2009 | 9:02 pmA scientific study has finally confirmed what we at The Pleasure Chest have known for years: Americans are into vibrators.The study, which was funded by Trojan condom's parent company, shows that it isn't just women who are vibe users: 45% of men have also confessed to using them as well, with heterosexual men typically using them during intercourse and foreplay.The study also goes on to say that people, both male and female-bodied, who use vibrators were more likely to have had gynecological and testicular exams on a regular basis, and claimed higher levels of sexual satisfaction. I think… -
Vibrating iPhone App
27 Jun 2009 | 10:55 amThere's been a great deal of buzz (ha!) recently about a new vibrator iPhone app recently approved by Apple. The vibrator app, created by MyPleasure.com, turns your sleek little iPhone into an innocuous, 3G vibrating wonder.According to the press release, the vibrations are limited by the level of vibrating power on the iPhone, which seems to have bummed out at least a few of the people who've given it a first-run test drive. I, on the other hand, think this is brilliant. It's a tease, and what is a tease if not something that just makes you crave more. This app is clearly meant for you to… -
Chicago Pride
24 Jun 2009 | 5:04 amIf you're planning on being in and around Chicago for Pride this weekend, then consider this sweet deal: The Pleasure Chest Chicago is offering a $100 gift card for marching with them in the parade!You can read more of the details here, at The Inqueery.Or, follow The Pleasure Chest Chicago on Twitter! -
Safer Sex NYC
23 Jun 2009 | 4:56 amWhat are you doing this week, NYC? If you're in the greater Metro area, you should consider hitting up this safer sex event, sponsored by The Museum of Sex. It benefits the organization AIDS Service Center NYC, which helps to fight the spread of AIDS in an age when new cases of infection are back on the rise.Drag queen legend Flotilla DeBarge will be making her presence know, as well as a bevvy of other performers and celebs. If the tickets to this event are a little steep for you, then visit The Museum of Sex online for a $3 off coupon to hit up all their exhibits for a little dose of sex in… -
Fun With Bondage Tape!
20 Jun 2009 | 9:22 amA couple of people have been making mention of bondage tape on Twitter recently, and it got me thinking about all of the fun uses there are for bondage tape. It's such a fun thing to play with because it's versatile: if you're just starting out in the world of bondage, it's unintimidating enough to be a starter. If you're a pro, though, then you should have no problem using it to hogtie in a snap.Bondage tape makes sexy little easy-to-remove lingerie outfits. See the above photo for inspiration. You can even complete the deal with some cuff bracelets and choker! That's an entire bedroom…
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Stiletto Diaries
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The Things We Said - Bush Trout
25 Jun 2009 | 10:15 amJack: It was much cooler down by the lake shore in Toronto today V: I wish my bus route was down there Shasta: *Laughing Hysterically* I thought you said “I wish my BUSH TROUT was down there” V: Bush trout? WTF? That makes me think of something sick. Shasta: Like rancid vagina! -
Limbo Lower Now!
24 Jun 2009 | 8:03 amSo nothing definitive came from Jack’s interview. It went well, and he feels good about his chances. The company has decided not to hire anyone until the end of July, and so we wait. Waiting isn’t the worst thing in the world, although I loathe any state of limbo generally speaking. I like to know where I am going. I like to lay plans. I like direction. For now I will busy myself with preparations for listing our home and relocating our possessions. A garage sale of mammoth proportions is being planned. I am gathering from all corners of the house items which I have… -
I Said I Would Never Move Again, But…
22 Jun 2009 | 2:22 pmThis week could bring another of those life-altering changes that seem to occur with unusual regularity around here. The tides of change seem to wash away all of the plans we’ve foolishly bothered to draw in the sand. Jack has a second interview for a new job. A job that would have us move back from whence we came. Back to Alberta. To friends, family, and the mountains. There is nothing wrong with his current job, except for the fact that the hours are long and often thankless. The commute is far, and gas prices high. I hadn’t wanted to say anything until now, as… -
This Will Bring Fire To Your Crotch*
3 Jun 2009 | 1:25 pmWhere have I been? I hadn’t planned on taking such a long hiatus from this place, but a combination of circumstances have come together to prevent much in the way of writing, and before I knew it we’re 3 days into June and May was completely gone. Gone, and I’d hardly done a lick of writing. While it’s a bit depressing, to be honest, I’ve been glad for the break. I haven’t felt like writing, and so I doubt any of my posts would have been worth reading. This is such a busy time of year for us. Presently my aunt is visiting us from Alberta for 12… -
Position Of The Day Playbook Review
2 Jun 2009 | 8:18 pmI know I’ve been away a long time, but I’m getting back on the blogging wagon by posting a review of one of my recent favorites. It has less to do with sex toys and more to do with having fun and getting down to it with your partner(s)! The Position Of The Day Playbook is your guide to 365 days of hot sex, or at least plenty of laughs. This little gem has become an instant hit at our house. Between the ridiculous names they have come up with for positions (such as The Prude Awakening) and the Cirque De Sole style contortions some positions demand (like The Fosse),…
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Sex Secrets
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Sex Secrets Has Moved!
29 Jun 2009 | 3:00 amIt’s time to change your bookmarks, feeds, and links.This blog has moved again, but for the final time, I hope. After starting at Blogspot in April 2007, and moving to WordPress.com in October of that same year, Sex Secrets finally has its own domain. The new url is http://sexsecretsblog.com, and the new feed is http://sexsecretsblog.com/feed. [...] -
5 Bizarre Sex Tips
28 Jun 2009 | 3:00 amNicole McEwen reveals five things that DON’T turn her on. Me either (except number three sometimes). Women have sex in lots of ways… with strange partners, strange toys and in strange settings. Here are 5 sex acts that may rev some women’s engines, but leave mine stalled: Wearing furries is a perfectly natural sex activity. Call me crazy, [...] -
Coitus Interruptus Erroneous: Pulling Out Actually Works
27 Jun 2009 | 4:13 amWithdrawal is one of the oldest forms of birth control. We’ve been taught that coitus interruptus is not effective. However, new research shows that it could be as effective as using a condom if done correctly. Coitus interruptus, withdrawal, pulling out, raw dog. Of all the names ascribed to the intimate act that is a man [...] -
Mr. Perfect Made Easy: 23 Ways to Be the Man She Wants
26 Jun 2009 | 6:14 amTip 4: No polyester sheets. Easy enough, right? Sarah Miller tells Men’s Health readers what else women want. 1. You can put down the weights and the protein shakes. You might want us to be perfect looking; we simply want you not to be fat. 2. Replace all of those hideous size-extra-large T-shirts with something that actually [...] -
Why Women Fake It
25 Jun 2009 | 5:12 amMen’s Fitness claims a woman’s inability to orgasm is due to two reasons. (Spoilt describes how faking orgasm feels for a woman.) Typically, both reasons lay the blame on the woman for her inability to orgasm and not on the more likely culprit – her selfish or clueless male partner. Our recent sex poll found that [...]
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Mommy Has A Headache
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Black Lung in Buenos Aires
29 Jun 2009 | 5:23 amWell twelve days in Buenos Aires and still it is so romantic. It rains today and everywhere around me there are people with hacking coughs and swine flu masks. There is so much pollution dripping from the walls of the streets that I think I have the black lung. I cough and cough and feel surprisingly upbeat.Staying in an apartment has its charms. I always did live in an apartment in London and there is definitely something charming about being woken at 3am by two people upstairs having a blazing row, the thunderous sound of a toilet chain being pulled, the theme tune from Hawaii Five O… -
Flap Trimming on the NHS
12 Jun 2009 | 7:25 amOkay, well I am gearing up for my trip to Argentina next week. I have had a Brazilian bikini wax and have stocked up with pills for the twenty hour flight with two kids - I think most of you will understand if I pack a few Valium, no?I am also packing my binoculars so that I am sure to really get to see all the cultural sites in Buenos Aires such as:These lads are from some Argentinian rugby team called "Los Pumas". And apparently the polo players are even sexier. Maybe I will 'Do a Barrantes' like Fergie's mum did.Susan and Hector BarrantesRemember Susan Barrantes, who got one sniff of polo… -
High Infidelity
9 Jun 2009 | 9:54 amInfidelity is a complex subject so I'm not going to try and give a few glib answers about why people do it but it does seem to me that people are a lot less enlightened about infidelity these days than you might think. In the old days it was, Oh Mrs Simmons from 93 had an affair and everyone knows her son Jimmy isn't really Mr Simmons' but let's not talk about it. Basically you just ignored the fact your husband or wife was up to no good and let the pain fester like a septic wound until you died because divorce was taboo.I remember visiting my granddad (83) after being out of touch for many… -
Wanted: One Baby Bird Murderer
4 Jun 2009 | 7:43 amYesterday I walked to school with the kids and Scarlett found a robin's egg on the pavement and was very excited about it. She asked me to take it home and hatch it. Me "You are joking?"Scarlett "It would be the easiest thing in the world. You'd just keep it warm." "How?" "Under some blankets." "It would suffocate." "Then sit on it like a bird.""Yes good idea. I could build a nest in the front room and sit on it for a week wearing a Tweety Bird costume. Then when it is born I could chew worms and feed them to the tiny hatchling with tweezers. Er, no. Why don't you just take it and show it to… -
Bruno's Austrian Nuts
1 Jun 2009 | 8:48 amIf you are feeling a bit down I guarantee you will laugh your socks off at this clip from the MTV awards. Sacha Baron Cohen is now Bruno - a flamboyantly gay Austrian fashion correspondent hoping to make it big in Hollywood.Seems like a fake "controversy," since everything is fake these days on TV but then why does Eminem storm off?At last I have an ambition in life, I wanna be Bruno's bitch so bad. And as an Austrian I am highly qualified to assume this position.I have already written him a job application to this effect (I really did always want a gay son):Dear Bruno,The moment I saw you at…
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Polyamory Weekly
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Poly Weekly #205: Catchup with Minx
28 Jun 2009 | 11:58 amMinx catches up; Shibaricon. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #204: Polyamory at Sex 2.0
19 May 2009 | 2:44 pmPolyamory at Sex 2.0. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #203: Poly History 201 with Oberon Zell
4 May 2009 | 8:17 amPoly history 201 with Oberon Zell Ravenheart. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #202: Poly History 101
29 Apr 2009 | 8:11 pmPoly History 101. Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #201: Would dating this person make you less jealous?
19 Apr 2009 | 6:35 pmWould dating this person make you less jealous? Email cunningminx@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter cunningminx or visit www.polyweekly.com
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Being Amber Rhea
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Closed for business
16 Jun 2009 | 2:12 pmIn some ways I never thought this day would come, but I’ve been feeling the need for a while now: I’m closing this blog. Not necessarily forever - because I don’t want to be one of those bloggers that makes some grand exit statement and flounces off, only to reappear back at the same URL a few months later - but for the near future, at least. Who knows, I might end up back here at some point, writing about any number of things. Or this might become another internet artifact. I don’t have a grand exit statement, other than this blog has run its course and is no longer… -
Twitter updates for 2009-06-15
15 Jun 2009 | 8:59 pmMy latest (and last?) “Thanks for the memories” video: http://blip.tv/file/2241588/ # How much do I love LottaFrutta?? I think it will need to become a Monday morning tradition. Great way to start off the week. # Unfortunately it looks like one of my work monitors may be on its last legs. # Guy from Freecycle is supposedly coming to pick up all my old Apple stuff tonight. But, he sounded like a stoner. Are they worse than CL? # . @SnellvilleBlog - They’re coming to the house but I might not be there, Rusty might; and anyway all of Twitter knows now! :P # Multi-tasking like a… -
Farewell to the Apple IIe and Mac Plus
15 Jun 2009 | 7:59 amHere’s what will probably be the last of my “Thanks for the memories” videos. Sorry for the camera shaking at the beginning; hopefully it’s not bad enough to make anyone seasick. I talk about the Apple IIe and the Mac Plus. (I also have an Apple IIgs Woz Limited Edition but I couldn’t think of anything to say about it!) --- [This is a post from Being Amber Rhea. You might see it aggregated on Facebook or Tumblr, but other than that, if you see it somewhere else, someone is using it without my permission.] -
links for 2009-06-15
15 Jun 2009 | 5:30 amThe Food Issue - Why Tip? - NYTimes.com (tags: food restaurants business interesting history money economics) 301 Redirect - How to create Redirects (tags: web reference howto tips htaccess 301 redirect) Show all files in the Finder | Software | Mac OS X Hints | Macworld (tags: howto tips apple mac osx unix macosx terminal hiddenfiles) --- [This is a post from Being Amber Rhea. You might see it aggregated on Facebook or Tumblr, but other than that, if you see it somewhere else, someone is using it without my permission.] -
Twitter updates for 2009-06-14
14 Jun 2009 | 8:59 pmTrying to wake up, so we can go to breakfast at Solstice Cafe and then go take some pictures. # Not terribly impressed w/ Solstice Cafe, but you never know until you try! Also, took some neat pictures on Memorial Dr. # @jaclynf - No, I’m where I always am: Atlanta! # Listening to a mockingbird outside my window :) # OMG the Seminole Rap http://bit.ly/o1zLM Seriously you guys # @sunluff - I really enjoyed that book # I think I’m going to end my blog and start a new one. You heard it here first folks. :P # Sometimes I wish I had been a late-90s cam girl. # I think I want to make…
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Savvy Miss Love & Sex
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The Dos and Don’ts of Fighting Fair
22 Jun 2009 | 12:00 amConflict is part of all relationships—how boring would it be if we agreed all the time? But that doesn’t mean every disagreement needs to turn into yelling, name-calling and three days of the silent treatment. To help us solve the inevitable conflicts reasonably, we asked the experts for tips to... -
The International Dating Scene: Around the World in Seven Dates
21 Jun 2009 | 12:00 amThe anticipation, the surprises, the awkward moments—it’s no secret that the world of dating can be unexpected, wild, and simply weird. But have you ever wondered what it’s like on the other side of the globe? From the strict rules of the Middle East to Europe’s laid back approach, find out the... -
Why Men Secretly Like Dating Games
4 Jun 2009 | 12:00 amWe buy books like The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches for advice on dating games from women—but now we’d like to hear from a man. Learn the games he says we can win. -
The Top 10 Signs He’s a Keeper
22 May 2009 | 12:00 amAuthor Flannery O’Connor titled her famous short story, “A Good Man is Hard to Find,” and we know why. If you think you’ve found your loyal Colin Firth in the sea of one-night stand Colin Farrells, then you just might have a keeper. Top 10 Signs He's a Keeper 10. He remembered your... -
Top 10 Reasons to Tie the Knot
16 May 2009 | 12:00 amWalking down the aisle can be daunting, but there are some definite perks. Here are the top 10 reasons to tie the knot.10. You’ll always have someone to bring you chicken soup when you’re sick in bed.9. You’ll have two sets of parents to give you holiday gifts.8. You’ll never have to ask, “So,...
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San Francisco Sex Information
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How should I start masturbating?
1 Jul 2009 | 8:39 pmQ: I am female. My fiance mentioned to me lately that a good source of therapy for my emotional anxieties and for my insomnia would be masturbation. I have no clue on the subject so I have researched it. I know it’s an exploration of yourself and finding what pleases you. I am contemplating getting a toy. I guess what i am asking is I need ideas on good first time toys and tips. And yes I am laughing at myself right now because I sound so clinical about this and I really am not. A: If you can shop online try some websites like Goodvibes, Babeland, and Blowfish. They are woman friendly… -
Use condoms with Nonoxynol-9 yes or no?
24 Jun 2009 | 7:10 pmQ: My health teacher told me to use condoms with Nonoxynol-9, but MTSS said that it causes tearing and increases disease transmission. So I know that spermicidal condoms are good for preventing pregnancy, but I am a gay guy. I am more worried about diseases than pregnancy. So which condoms do I use, spermicidal (with Nonoxynol-9), or non-spermicidal? A: We agree with MTSS and do not recommend the use of condoms with Nonoxynol-9. It can cause irritation which can let viruses such as herpes, HIV and other STD’s enter the body more easily. This is a concern for both men and women. Our… -
Why does intercourse hurt?
17 Jun 2009 | 7:58 pmQ: I am female. I have been having intercourse for a fairly short time-the latest being my fourth. Every time, however, I have the same problem–penetration is painful; not unbearable, but certainly not normal or slight. Relaxation or lubrication is not the problem, nor is my partner doing anything to cause this. He is very patient and even offers to stop constantly, and did so the last time because he didn’t want to hurt me. Neither of us have any infections/STDs to cause it. Is this normal? Will it improve with time? A: Some people may experience pain the first few times they… -
Can I still give people my HPV after 28 years?
3 Jun 2009 | 8:43 pmQ: Thirty years ago I had genital warts that were effectively treated, and I have had no recurrence of the warts during this past 28 years. Now I am a man in my 60s. What are the possibilities that I may still communicate the virus at this time? Are there any tests that I can take to determine if I have the virus? A: It’s unlikely that you will transmit genital warts to anyone at this stage, although not impossible. There’s no way to tell for certain whether the virus is still in your system; there are currently no HPV tests for men. However, HPV infections often clear up on… -
How can I get rid of this fetish?
28 May 2009 | 4:41 pmQ: I have a spanking fetish, and I desperately want to overcome it. I am not entirely sure what the fetish is caused by, but I have always fantasized about it for as long as I can remember - probably since I was about three years old. (Seriously.) I am a self-confident person, but this is my Achilles heel, a secret that makes me feel shameful and repressed. Of course I want to act upon my desire, but my desire to be wholly normal - and confident in my sexuality, I think - is stronger. I am white, and I’ve noticed that my fetish is really only common in other white people. My boyfriend…
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Beyond the Birds & the Bees
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It’s Time to Get Tested
25 Jun 2009 | 2:00 pmDid you know that one out of five people with HIV in the U.S. does not even know they are infected? If you think, “Oh, it could never happen to me,” ask yourself, “How can I be sure?” Think about it! Anyone—young or old, male or female, black or white, gay or straight—can get HIV. So how can you really be sure whether or not you have HIV? There’s only one way to know for certain—get tested. No matter how safe you think you are are when having sex, get tested. No matter how much you trust your partner to be STD and HIV-free, get tested. No matter how scared… -
A View from the Cervix
19 Jun 2009 | 1:31 pmGynecologist, noun: A medical doctor specializing in women’s reproductive health care. Every woman should begin having regular visits to a gynecologist at some point in her life, especially if she’s sexually active. Does the thought of seeing a gynecologist send you running to hide under your bed? If you’re scared or nervous, it’s probably because you’re aren’t sure what to expect. Read what Cydney and Desiree had to say about their first visits to the gynecologist. One of the most important things a gynecologist does during a pelvic exam is perform a Pap… -
Defining Adam Lambert
12 Jun 2009 | 9:02 amName: Adam Lambert Age: 27 Hometown: Hollywood, CA Claim to Fame: American Idol runner-up Sexual Orientation: ? For a while, there was speculation about whether American Idol’s latest runner-up was gay, but never any confirmation—until now. Lambert has officially come out in Rolling Stone magazine, saying “I don’t think it should be a surprise for anyone to hear that I’m gay.” But why all the fuss in the first place? Maybe it started with Idol’s season two runner-up, Clay Aiken, who kept the fact that he was gay a secret. In an interview with People… -
MTV’s New Series on Teen Pregnancy
11 Jun 2009 | 8:50 amHave you ever wondered what it’s like to walk in the shoes of a pregnant teen? MTV’s new documentary series 16 and Pregnant takes a deeper look at the everyday lives of teens handling the ups and downs of growing up all while dealing with pregnancy. Take a look at the trailer: 16 and Pregnant looks like it could be an eye-opening TV series on teen pregnancy. If you plan on watching the show, let us know what you think about it! -
This Year’s Prom Queen Is…a Guy!
5 Jun 2009 | 12:06 pmPresident Obama has proclaimed June “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month.” We’d like to kick off LGBT Pride Month with the true story of 18-year-old Sergio Garcia. He ran for—and won—the title of prom queen at Fairfax High School in Los Angeles, CA. You might be scratching your head and wondering how can a guy be the prom queen? The title of prom king didn’t feel right for Sergio. According to him, being the prom queen was a better fit for his personality—the title matched his gender expression. Of course, some people had reservations about having…
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The Swop-East Blog
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Another CL Tragedy
8 Jun 2009 | 8:37 amA woman and her child are killed because of CraigsList. Moral of the story...stop having babies! AGs should step in and regulate births to prevent any more killing of children. Either that or arrest anyone under the age of 5 as a murder-prevention measure. That'll take care of pyschotic baby-killers! What? Wrong violence-preventation strategy? If it "works" for sex workers, why can't it "work" for helpless children too? (Thanks to a friend for the link.)All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise. -
News Bit
15 May 2009 | 9:36 amThis report on sex workers with HIV, though scary on the surface, just re-confirms that sex work isn't the issue, drug addiction is. And anyone can be a drug addict.All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise. -
News Bits (new and old)
12 May 2009 | 7:27 pmMumbai's red light district being sold to real estate developers. (Thanks for the link to a BnG poster.)"Shell said that he has been surprised by the response he receives from college students. "They don't care about condom usage or about their partners," he said, adding, "There is a blatant disregard that anything is going to happen to them." I think I'm including this here simply to contrast it with most sex workers' hyper-awareness of disease risk, yet sex workers are considered major disease vectors when statistics don't bear this out.Possible legal advisor for the US State Department,… -
News Bits
6 May 2009 | 3:56 pmSomehow that Madoff may've visited massage parlors or escorts has something to do with him running a Ponzi scheme. Someone please connect the dots for me. South Carolina goes after CraigsList Erotic Services ads because...well, crime is at an all-time low and there really isn't anything else to do.(Thanks to a friend for both links.)All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise. -
Influx of Strippers
23 Mar 2009 | 10:31 amThe economy is bringing an influx of newbie sex workers to the field. $2000 in a good night in this economy for a newbie stripper? I'm not quite buying it. I know the clubs in Vegas are packed -- with strippers! Sex work indeed offers a flexible schedule. Fast cash? Not as much as it used to. Easy cash? Never.(Thanks to a friend for the link.)All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise.
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Simple Marriage
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Ask The Readers: What The Difference Between A Good Marriage And A Great Marriage?
2 Jul 2009 | 10:08 amphoto credit: Maximo Lopez (netsella) Across the country and around the globe, there are bad marriages, good marriages, and even great marriages. The difference between bad and good is likely easy to spot, but what’s the difference between good and great? That’s the focus of this week’s ask the reader: What’s the difference between a good marriage and a great one? Have a great 4th of July weekend! A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. Related posts:7 Marriage Hacks… -
How To Self-Soothe Your Way To More In Marriage
1 Jul 2009 | 11:14 amphoto credit: Greg Pye To become acquainted with oneself is a terrible shock. ~ Carl Jung Marriage, or any committed relationship, has the ability to bring excitement and passion into our lives. At the same time however, as the relationship progresses and more roadblocks and perpetual issues arise, we may begin to feel distant from our partner. Think back to when you first began your current relationship. It’s likely that you believed you had found the answer to life’s problems, you’d found a partner to share in life’s journey, you’d never again be alone, and it… -
How To Keep Arguments From Escalating
28 Jun 2009 | 6:43 pmphoto credit: *clairity* As you go through life and learn the various tasks involved in growing up, perhaps one of the most anticipated task in life is learning to drive. Do you remember how much you looked forward to the freedom driving would afford you? I do. While learning to drive, one important lesson you must learn is how to stop the car. It’s the first thing you’re taught. There are even cars you drive while learning that have an extra brake pedal on the passenger’s side. The reason – learning to apply the brakes is vitally important to all those in the car, and… -
Simple Marriage Audio Plus An Upcoming Challenge
25 Jun 2009 | 8:44 amphoto credit: Colleen AF Venable For over a year now I have sought to publish an average of 3 posts each week written to assist you in experiencing more in marriage and life. Throughout our journey together I feel like I’ve really gotten to know several of you via your comments and emails. I think it’s safe to say we’ve become friends, right? Since we’re friends, I wanted to let you into my world a bit more. I want to lift the veil of the written word. From time to time I get opportunities to speak and teach. Recently I had the chance to speak at my home congregation… -
When Will He Ever Stop Doing…?
24 Jun 2009 | 8:08 amCome join the discussion over at Simple Mom today. The monthly column I write for Tsh is posted today and I think you’ll enjoy it. If you do enjoy it, please share it via StumbleUpon, Twitter, or Digg. When Will He Ever Stop Doing…? This is also the first post that will begin a series here at Simple Marriage. Hope to see you there! A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. No related posts.
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Condomunity» Condoms Resource in Fancy Pants | Condomunity.com
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King Apparel’s Special Pockets
2 Jul 2009 | 8:05 amStoring condoms in the right place when going out is a stiff subject. After all you don’t want it to stick out of your wallet or in any other unsafe place. UK’s King Apparel suggests you to have your condom in your jeans in an inside stash pocket. King is a streetwear label and as such they are in a great place to tackle teenage pregnancies and STD’s in the 15-18 year age range. To achieve the best results they partnered up with Want Respect? in 2007 and presented the jeans with a condom pocket I mentioned before. Now, two years later, all of their jeans and shorts come with… -
Win 1 of 10 iPod Nanos
1 Jul 2009 | 10:40 amWe’re back again and to celebrate that you can now win 1 of 10 iPod Nanos over at Condom Girl (ok the competition also exists without this post). As of today you may enter the competition here and win one of the pictured items by either: Subsribing to their Newsletter on the site OR Purchasing something with the promo code: COMP-CONDOMUNITY OR Simply sending in an email telling them you’d like to win (put the COMP-CONDOMUNITY as the subject of your email The competition runs until the draw on Sept 30th. To email them use this address here “info at condomgirl.co.uk”. -
Italian Football Stars Launch Branded Condoms
15 May 2009 | 1:11 pmChristian Vieri and Milan football club legend Paolo Maldini now officially have their own condom brand. They’ve launched the limited edition of their rubbers in a press conference this week. Akuel Blues Sweet Years Limited Edition is obviously limited to a certain period to their fashion label Sweet Years they started a few years back. The goal for this campaign (apart from always being incredibly great press) is to support and donate all proceeds to a youth sex education project. By the way, just in case you have some condoms to spare and don’t know what to do with them, how… -
Craziest New Condom Patents May 09
12 May 2009 | 1:43 pmI’ve just had a few new condom creations or rather the patent applications hit my inbox and I thought they were so hilarious I just had to share them with you instantly. Here’s a short overview over 8 forms that inventors want you to wear. Which one is it going to be? A banana, rocket, submarine or a microphone condom? Or rather a zeppelin, full beer glass, dolphin or cucumber condom? I tend to the full beer glass condom just because it makes no sense at all. To see more details for these creations stay tuned as I’ll cover them in more detail later on. Though probably the… -
C-Box Condom Dispenser
7 May 2009 | 12:23 pmWe’ve covered various condom dispensers in the past like the Don’t Panic Button and the fantastic Cucoon. Here’s another, newer creation called C-Box by Don’t Kill the Mood. While the mentioned products all have fancy names in common, they are very different in their looks and meaning. The C-box is a discreet black or white packaging that isn’t really going to cause attention (compare with Don’t Panic Button and Cucoon). What it does for you? It stores condoms, lucrication packets and individually wrapped wet towelette packets so you have everything…
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Honey and Lance
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Get Fit and Improve Your Dating Prospects
19 Jun 2009 | 12:06 pmThis is a guest post from Jackie, aka The Girl With No Name. Jackie is a popular video blogger based in Vancouver, Canada, and she specializes in fitness and achieving fitness at home. She’s also a fantastic Twitterer and her stream was so popular that she won the 2009 Shorty Award for best sports Tweets–beating out @lancearmstrong! I’ve been communicating with Jackie over Twitter and email for a couple of months now and I finally managed to pry a guest post out of her. True to form, this is a vlog that reviews some awesome tips for working out at home and why getting in… -
Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!?
18 Jun 2009 | 2:54 pmApparently the universe is apologizing for my terrible weekend. First, the BF was able to verify with his supervisor that a) his company isn’t going to do any layoffs, and b) even if they were, his position wouldn’t be in jeopardy. Awesome! So he’s going to try for a little work/life balance and we’ll see how that goes. Second, remember how I’d been trying to decide whether I should go back to school or take on some freelance work? Well, in this post I mention that I’d decided to go for the school thing, since (as DD tells me repeatedly) it’s… -
Being Tall vs. Great Game? Take the Game.
16 Jun 2009 | 7:36 pmPenelope Trunk wrote a provocative post today, about how tall people are generally more successful at work and make more money. In her post, she begins by arguing that good looking people do better in life than not-good-looking people. No doubt. You can’t refute that. Midway through her post, though, she switches gears and says that tall people are the folks who are more successful. She is equating tall people to good looking people. Okay, I guess P-Trunk likes tall dudes. Of all the tall people I’ve meet through work and other avenues, the tall ones are ALWAYS the awkward,… -
Crummy Weekend
16 Jun 2009 | 4:16 pmSo the weekend actually turned out kind of crummy. On Friday, the BF completely forgot that he was going to come home early and cook me dinner, so he came home after 9 p.m. I’d finally given up and had a bowl of sweet pea soup around 8:45 but ended up going to bed hungry. The BF promised that he’d make the fish for lunch the next day. Well he woke up with a list of errands that he wanted to run…he didn’t get out of bed until after noon, so I asked whether we were still having lunch. Then there was a disagreement about how to cook the fish…he did end up… -
Away We Go
12 Jun 2009 | 6:05 pmThis has been a strange week. Per our recent agreement, the BF slept in the spare bedroom on two nights because he’d taken the “good” sleeping pills and didn’t want to reduce me to a hysterical, sleepless mess like he has in the past with his insane excessive snoring. So I feel like I am missing my snuggles! Fortunately, the BF is going to come home early tonight (which means before 8 p.m.) and cook me fish on the grill. Yum, I can’t wait! I also didn’t see as much of him this week because I went with a dozen or so ladies from the alum club to see a…
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This Could Be Dangerous...
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Red Hot Bordello Bra
1 Jul 2009 | 7:19 pmTitle shameless stolen from a man who’s clearly got a way with words - he follows me on Twitter and when I posted a quick n’ dirty cellphone pic of one of my two red slutty sex bras that I just bought, called it “Red hot bordello buffet”. Does quite indeed look like “here…..have some tits”, doesn’t it? That doesn’t do the bra justice though. Sure shows the support though! The cups are snug but if I lift and center the girls “properly” in the cups, and then bend over……well, that’s why it’s called a sex… -
I’m in love with Liberator
29 Jun 2009 | 7:19 pmFor almost a year now I’ve watched longingly as peers in the blogosphere talked about and reviewed Liberator items. Recently I got lucky and was graciously allowed to review some Liberator gear. Today is about the Black Label Wedge/Ramp Combo. First let me get this part out of the way: I love it, I have no cons to point out, I think everybody should save up for Liberator furniture or shapes, and well….yeah. I’ll be gushing for the whole damn post. The Wedge Even on its own the Wedge is mucho useful. I have short arms and so jerking off with anything other than the Pure Wand… -
Random Acts of Babbling
28 Jun 2009 | 4:45 pmRandom updates, random mutterings, you know me. Never linear. Where to start where to start…. Oh! The most lovely and talented VanillaImpaired made me a Little Miss Lilly!!! (from this post) Ain’t it cute?? Rori is doing her Top Sexy Bloggers again, but a little different this year. She’s taking on people to help judge the nominated bloggers and I happily volunteered! Yay I can’t wait! So get your butts over to this post and nominate the blogs of your favorite sexy bloggers - keep in mind to list the blog and not just the blogger name. Unlike last year, the number of… -
Riding a Rocket Straight to Orion
27 Jun 2009 | 6:50 pmMy first review for EdenFantasys! I’m getting pretty picky with my vibrators but you know I’m still a girly girl at heart who sees something pretty/unique/fun/shiny and goes “oooooo”. Sometimes I end up finding out that I picked the item just based on looks. That’s how I picked the Orion Bottle Rocket vibe. Well, the Bottle Rockets by Evolved are pretty new. They’re a twist on the typical “pocket rocket” type of vibrator, and the packaging is a cute clear plastic bottle. You unscrew the bottom to get the vibe out. And that bottle cap? It’s… -
Sugasm #168 - Woot!
27 Jun 2009 | 6:00 amThe best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #169? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set. This Week’s Picks Covet “My mouth waters at the sheer beauty.” Lilly’s Turn - Part 3: Wherein Lust, Greed and Risk Intersect “She was biting her lip to prevent herself from making a sound.” Oh Dirty Girl “It was at that moment that I knew I needed him to take me and take me dirty.” Mr. Sugasm Himself…
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Girl with a one-track mind
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Contribute
29 Jun 2009 | 11:56 am1. You may recall that I'm an ambassador for the young people's sexual health charity Brook. Some Brook employees are running the London 10K race next weekend (I am not able to join them, sadly, due... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Integrity
21 Jun 2009 | 10:07 amLet us be clear: this is not a fight between 'old' and 'new' media. This not about blogger vengeance or a mob mentality wanting to lay in to print media. This is about journalistic integrity,... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Privacy
16 Jun 2009 | 8:02 amSo the Times newspaper has outed another anonymous blogger, 'eh? Congratulations to them, I hope they feel proud of their achievement. Real quality journalism, there.People will argue, I'm sure, that... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Sore
15 Jun 2009 | 3:04 pm– "You do realise, don't you, that people always say, "Oh, you're simply in a 'honeymoon' period: you'll both calm down after a while!". I have to let you know: there'll be no end to it - I just have... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Amazing
31 May 2009 | 4:36 am1. Amazing: the amount of pain I've been in from my dislocated shoulder. Turns out my long-standing chronic Hypermobility Syndrome, whilst great for fucking doggie style, also has some drawbacks. Now... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content.
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LUSTY LADY
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Something to look forward to: September 17th
1 Jul 2009 | 9:34 pmThis has been a horrible week, but I do have a kickass September 17th In The Flesh to look forward to (other things too, but at the moment, I'm super excited about this). Proper release when I can do it, but for now, books you should check out, whose authors will be reading. Kerry Cohen is coming in from Portland and Diana Joseph is coming in from Minnesota! I'm beyond honored especially to have those two, and I'm hoping I can go read in Minnesota next year. If you haven't read Diana Joseph's memoir I'm Sorry You Feel That Way, please stop reading my dumb blog immediately and go check it out. -
I want to make love to this book cover
1 Jul 2009 | 7:07 pmKathleen Warnock told me last week that my story "Swollen" didn't make it into Best Lesbian Erotica 2010. It was the best possible kind of rejection - personal, a bit regretful, and she told me to submit it next year. I think that makes me 5 for 10 for the years I've been submitting to the series, basically every year since "Monica and Me" was in Best Lesbian Erotica 2001.I'm disappointed, partly because I would've pulled off a Best Of hat trick, but mostly because this cover is one of the best, imo, I've seen Cleis do. SO hot. Plus a band (BETTY) is the guest guest judge, how cool is… -
True Sex Confessions July 16th (with audience participation!)
1 Jul 2009 | 6:23 pmThis has been one of the most nightmarish In The Fleshes to book, which is sad cause I love True Sex Confessions Night, but seriously, I sometimes forget all the work that goes into running a reading series. But far the course in a week like this. August and September are booked with amazing lineups, and October is Comedy Sex Night and November is Spanking Night. And after that will be Sex and Food Night, and I plan to have snacks, like mini hot dogs and tater tots if I can figure out how to do it. Cause, well, those are sexy to me.This is the rare chance for audience participation, and is… -
Megan Hart book cover hotness: Switch
1 Jul 2009 | 5:51 pmOMG, Megan Hart's Harlequin Spice novels have seriously the hottest covers. I'm drooling over this one:Switch will be out in January 2010, here's what's on her site:Switch• Paperback: ? pages• Publisher: Harlequin Spice, January 2010• Language: English• ISBN-13: 978-0-373-60539-2Don't think.Don't question.Just do.The anonymous note wasn't for me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not in the habit of reading other people's mail, but it was just a piece of paper with a few lines scrawled on it, clearly meant for the apartment upstairs. It looked so innocent, but decidedly-- deliciously--it was… -
The key phrase being "EZ pass to my pussy"
1 Jul 2009 | 4:29 pmOr, yes, I hooked up with a stranger at the Hotlanta airport last year. And New York Press published my essay in their "Flavor of the Week" column. It's my first time being published there. I had sent it to Marie Claire because they have an excellent sex and love section with both reported and first-person pieces, but I never heard back. Not giving up; someday I'd love to have a piece published there. Big thanks to Jerry Portwood for including this and for the cool artwork.Just as I found a spot to settle in, a very cute guy sat down across from me. “You were going to New York, too?” he…
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violet blue ® :: open source sex
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stay cool
2 Jul 2009 | 3:40 pmImage of Jenni from this absolutely gorgeous outdoor infinity pool gallery. It seems like everyone is having a heatwave right now. So just for you, I took it upon myself to toil over my steamy little laptop and comb though the endless stream of free hosted galleries I get and pick out the sexiest — coolest — pretty nekkid girls in water galleries for you. To help you stay cool, or at least enjoy getting hot and bothered looking at sexy babes cooling off in tubs, on beaches and wherever water gets them wet and refreshed. The double entendres are up to you… Enjoy, and keep… -
this week’s SF Chron column: the dildroid and iPhone sex apps
1 Jul 2009 | 11:19 pmImage by CoreForce. This week’s San Francisco Chronicle column is a brief and ridiculous history of people trying to make the iPhone into a sex toy, sex phone apps, and a mixture of dismay, bemusement, hope for the Android, and a sigh of resignation that no one’s going to be imaginative enough to really make a hot/fun/exciting sex app in a market that’s thriving on application creation. Here’s a snip from The Dildroid: Violet Blue - Still waiting for the future of phone sex: I got all excited when I saw the first leaked video of the Android phone’s capabilities. -
dakimakura
1 Jul 2009 | 10:44 pmImage by Danny Choo. A dakimakura is a kind of large pillow from Japan. The name means “hugging pillow”. Danny Choo got a couple of adult anime dakimakura pillow covers and had quite an interesting time reviewing them. But then, Danny Choo is a really unusual guy, and so we can expect nothing less than excess from a man who takes an accessory for an adult Japanese “love pillow” and turns it into a bank robbery disguise, a carpool dummy, a pad for his stuffed Firefox mascot, and unfailingly refers to the male penis as a “dolphin”. You can buy your own here… -
a tale of two obscenity trial outcomes
1 Jul 2009 | 1:40 pmImage “Forensic Mistress” by Randem. I’m endlessly fascinated with obscenity law, the definitions and interpretations of what’s deemed obscene from one community, individual — or country — to the next, and how it all rests in the eye of the beholder. How it varies in detail and context between the UK and the US is really interesting: two obscenity trials came to a close this week in both countries with outcomes that reverberate in various ways (such as what’s “obscene” in fictitious depictions of sex and violence in writing and… -
love ain’t the problem
30 Jun 2009 | 7:23 pmThe SF LGBT Pride parade yearly attracts in excess of over one million visitors to San Francisco — more than doubling the population of our City for a weekend. Someone with copies of the notorious “Love ain’t the problem / Stand up against h8″ graphic taped up a few posters around the parade areas. I saw one, then it disappeared, and I wondered if someone official took it down, or if vandals offended by the idea of gay marriage and an image of two women kissing tore it down. Looking through some Flickr images from the weekend, it looks like this lucky couple not only…
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Cherry TV - "Juicy Talk for Women"
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When We Started Masturbating
23 Jun 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is When We Started Masturbating. For those of us who masturbate -- some of us began when we were young, while others started when we were older. We also began due to a variety of stimuli. Here the women talk about their early days masturbating. watch video -
Techniques We Now Love
16 Jun 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Techniques We Now Love. For many of us there are certain sexual acts we dislike and tend to avoid. Sometimes that changes when our partner is someone we love and trust. Here the women discuss techniques they used to loathe, but now embrace within their loving relationship. watch video -
Great Kissing/Good Sex
15 Jun 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Great Kissing/Good Sex. Good sex, like great kissing, is subjective. Yet good sex can be achieved many ways, while great kissing often depends upon compatibility. How does one become a great kisser? And how do we elevate our partner to great kissing status? The women discuss. watch video -
Grooming The Pubes
11 Jun 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Grooming The Pubes. For a while now the trend for female pubic hair has been less is more. But does everyone agree? And what about the men? Do we prefer they follow our lead? Here the ladies discuss their preference for the upkeep of their personal and partner's pubes. watch video -
Ladies Loving Porn
19 May 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Ladies Loving Porn. Porn can be an issue in relationships. Many women get upset learning their man looks at porn. It's pretty natural though and has nothing to do with their attraction to their woman. And, some women like porn. Here they talk about what kinds they like. watch video
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Savage Love Podcast
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Savage Love Episode 141
30 Jun 2009 | 5:00 amA high-school student marvels at the vast army of bisexuals marching through the halls. A man got his messed-up girlfriend pregnant. Now she's living in hotels with the child, and he wants custody. Is it cool to wear your girlfriend's clothes at work? Actress dates actor. Actor breaks up with actress. But now, actor and actress are cast in a show in which they play lovers. Save me a seat! Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 140
23 Jun 2009 | 5:00 amTwo tales of texting exes: Is obsessive texting a modern way of cheating? Her friend is in a miserable, sexless marriage. Is it wrong to advise her to cheat in order to save the relationship? A betrothed couple have been saving themselves for marriage for religious reasons. But what if they're a lousy match sexually? Would that make God happy? Well would it? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. -
Savage Love Episode 139
16 Jun 2009 | 5:00 amA man in his 20s is dating an 18-year-old woman. He's trying to be a good and responsible lover but still wonders if he's a creep. A man and his mother watching TV together argue about whether rape fantasies are icky or not. She's into being humiliated. He's into humiliating her. Still, she wonders: "Why is he doing this to me?" And a lot more. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 138
9 Jun 2009 | 5:00 amFirst, a semantics discussion. Does the word "fetish" have to be so very dirty? A man in his 20s wonders if he can calm his brain down and curb his desire to bang every woman he sees. A woman complains that her lover won't go down on her, yells at her, and then whines that he doesn't want her to break up with him. When is the right time for a bisexual come out to his lovers? And a lot more. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. -
Savage Love Episode 137
2 Jun 2009 | 5:00 amPoly pain: It's so sad when one person wants to open the relationship and the other doesn't. You know what else is sad? When your boyfriend tells you he's "asexual." A woman with strong pro–gay rights views discovers to her horror that her fiancé is against gay marriage. And a lot more. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.
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Very Smart Brothas
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link of the week: its too big, its too wide…
1 Jul 2009 | 9:20 pmas you all probably know by now, i’m the sh*t. don’t be mad at me, though. i can’t help it, and even if i could, i probably wouldn’t. it seems like it’d be too time-consuming still, while being the sh*t has its obvious perks and bonuses (ie: free chicken from starbucks and the inherent ability to switch stations back the exact moment the commercial is over), i’m actually a bit over my sh*ttyness now because apparently everyone else thinks they’re the sh*t too. bummer between our blogs, twitters, facebook accounts, smart phones, ironic pseudonyms,… -
the king and me: what michael jackson’s death says about us
30 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmadmittedly, i haven’t been as affected by mj’s sudden death as most others seem to be. while i’m saddened by his untimely end, the news registered with me more in a “damn. someone famous as f*ck just died!!” sense than a “he was a part of my life” sense. (in fact, when my girlfriend first texted “m.jackson just died” to me, i assumed she was referring to “mark jackson“, which strangely made me feel a little worse than the actual truth) despite this relative detachment, i’ve been mesmerized and amazed by the consensus… -
the end of the beginning
29 Jun 2009 | 9:11 pm***admin note*** before reading, please click the blackweblogawards icon on the side of the page and sh*t. you know, other than us pimping our t-shirts, our twitter page, our facebook page, and us publicizing the fact that we’re the only independent blog in recorded history to get over 100,000 comments in less than 300 entries, we don’t usually self-promote here at vsb.com. our commitment to crime fighting prohibits it. crime fighters don’t self-promote, and as you all know, its not a game with our crime-fighting game. we’re making an exception now. vote and sh*t,… -
i’m good: the best decisions you never made
28 Jun 2009 | 9:11 pmin the history of bad decisions, you can argue that will smith passing up the role of neo in “the matrix” because he needed to finish filming “wild wild west” ranks in the top three, right up there with “praising your argentinian mistress at a supposedly penitent press conference” and “making a 129 year old don cornelius read a 10,000 word intro for the o’jays at the BET awards”. despite this, smith claims that he “would have absolutely messed up” the movie, and says that he wasn’t mature enough as an actor to let the… -
When They Reminisce Over You: A Tribute To Michael Jackson (1958-2009)
25 Jun 2009 | 9:00 pmI’m heartbroken today. I’ve been heartbroken since the news hit at like 630pm on June 25, 2009. June 25, 2009 - a day that will live on in infamy. It is the day that Michael Jackson, the King of Pop, died. And I’m heartbroken. Devastated, even. Shocked. Surprised. All of them. I am a grown man and I shed a tear for Michael Jackson. It hurt me that much. Just hearing his music right now is having a familiar yet unsettling affect on me. I feel like I just lost a member of my family. Like almost everybody else in the world, I was raised on Mike. I have actual…
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Seasoned Sex ~ Sex and The Older Woman
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Vibrator Buzz
30 Jun 2009 | 7:03 pmDon't be fooled by the name. If it vibrates, it's a vibrator. I still remember my first time. It was in a Brookstone gadget store at the Detroit airport. I was waiting for a connecting flight home, finishing up a long and dull business trip. As I browsed through talking alarm clocks that had more to say than me, and pens that doubled as coffee makers, something shiny caught my eye. It was white block lettering on a black box that beckoned with the words, “Pinpoint Mini Massager.” I could really use that thing, I thought to myself as I massaged my achy neck. I picked it up and… -
Jack. In My Box.
17 Jun 2009 | 3:41 pmJack in The Box has now addressed the serious topic of menopause. And guess what? They’ve come up with a natural menopause treatment. All I can say is, thanks, Jack, for getting in my box and helping out. Check out Jack’s menopause solution on video here: The Jack Solution. Related posts:4 Reasons to Avoid Natural Menopause Treatment: Think all natural menopause treatments are good just caused they're natural? Here are four reasons to prefer real bioidentical hormone replacement....Going Into Menopause at Age 38: My Story: Menopause isn't exactly fun. Imagine… -
Sexual Satisfaction: You Know You Want It
12 Jun 2009 | 11:04 amWANT TO MAKE ME COME? SUCK MY HEEL. “I told that bastard,” my girlfriend said huffily, “I didn’t come! And he says, ‘Well, then, you better go,’ and starts laughing his stupid head off.” “What an asshole,” I said. “Yeah,” she said, “Especially since we were in my car.” “And he’s your husband,” I added. “Gawd, don’t remind me,” she said. And thus concluded yet another of hundreds of similar conversations I’ve had with my girlfriends about, how to tell a guy you didn’t come and then help him help you. Because as it turns out, about a third of women… -
Best Orgasm Tips
3 Jun 2009 | 2:25 pmLET HIM KNOW YOUR LIPS AREN'T JUST FOR SUCKING. Who knew the cure for some really big problems is right under our nose and between our legs. Yup, according a recent post by Penelope Trunk, people who have orgasms earn more, hang out with higher powered people, are better at public speaking, and walk with a more confident gait. Of course, there’s always a hitch. Or in this case, a gap—the “orgasm gap.” Reports Hannah Seligson in the Daily Beast: “Women are shattering political glass ceilings, surpassing men in the workforce, and even winning Indy-car races. But… -
Ask a Cougar: Why do Younger Men Like Older Women?
18 May 2009 | 8:17 pmSEX IS ONE THING OLDER WOMEN KNOW INSIDE OUT. I got an email from an anonymous cougar who wonders why younger men like older women. She’s had a relationship with a young man and described it as torture, always worried if he’s comparing you to younger women. Well, I got news for you. He’s already compared you with girls his age. They came up silly, slutty, and boring. You came up intriguing, sexy, and exciting. He went with you. That’s not my opinion. I interviewed my cub, Michael, because, I too have often wondered about this. Here’s how the conversation went: Pamela: You’re 28.
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The Reverse Cowgirl
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Portrait of the Artist with an Octopus
2 Jul 2009 | 3:30 amNight before last, I received an email from Molly Peck, a New York-based artist. The subject header read, "Susannah Breslin is happy," which definitely got my attention, as I am having a hell of a week. In any case, there was an image attached to it, the one you see here, which is a painting that Molly made. The source material is here, and, yes, that's me. Molly, whom I didn't really know -
A Vintage Interview with Todd Phillips by Alex Godfrey
30 Jun 2009 | 9:01 pmThe other day, I wrote a post about GG Allin after I saw a documentary by Todd Phillips about GG, "Hated: GG Allin and the Murder Junkies," which is floating around because Phillips directed "The Hangover," which is a pretty popular movie this summer. Afterward, I got an email from Alex Godfrey, a London-based journalist, who, years ago, worked for Hotdog, a UK-based magazine that I wrote a few -
Why Write for Free When You Can Pay to Write? [Updated]
29 Jun 2009 | 9:01 pmThis is a situation in flux, so if things change, well, fuck it, chalk it up to transparency. Lots of people, most of whom you can find links to here, have been talking about whether or not one should write for free. Mostly, I agree with Doree, who says--Oh, shit. I guess it wasn't her. Well, whomever said most of the time you shouldn't, but some of the time you should, I agree with that -
Punk & Porn [Updated]
28 Jun 2009 | 9:01 pm[The content of this post is particularly graphic in ways somewhat more vulgar than usual. So, if you are a) a gentle soul, b) eating, or c) easily excitable, you may do best to click elsewhere. If not, read on.]Last weekend, I watched "Hated: GG Allin and the Murder Junkies," which Pitchfork is playing because the director, Todd Phillips, directed "The Hangover," which is, like, the hit movie -
Crazytown
26 Jun 2009 | 7:04 am"You know, madness is a lot like gravity ... sometimes all you need is a little push." -- The Joker
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YourTango
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Miley Back Together With Nick
2 Jul 2009 | 3:00 pmMiley Cyrus ended her year-long relationship with underwear model Justin Gaston because she still loves her ex-boyfriend, Nick Jonas.Keywords: Jonas Brothers, justin gaston, miley cyrus, nick jonas, rebound, reunionBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Love Bytes: 10 Fourth Of July Date Ideas
2 Jul 2009 | 2:00 pmLove Bytes: Six must-click sex, love and relationship links. Dating at Ikea, 4th of July date ideas, and having love and a career.Keywords: Career, date, Dating, love, love bytes, Married, relationship, single, single women, vibratorBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
4 Reasons To Love Your Independence On The Fourth
2 Jul 2009 | 1:28 pmOn July 4th, 1776, the American Colonies broke their ties to a tyrant King and began "The Great Experiment" of Democracy. This year, we celebrate 233 years of independence and the rights and freedoms that came along with it. And really, when you think about it, which among us has more of a claim to that inheritance than any of the single ladies out there? Because, as YourTango sees it, they remain the true residents of this land of the free and home of the brave! In this spirit, we've rounded up the top 4 reasons why all the independent women out there should light a roman candle for their… -
Wife Vs. GPS
2 Jul 2009 | 12:37 pmThis is one man who's happy to ask for directions. But should he trust his wife… or his new GPS? "For the last nine years, my wife has been my shining directional beacon, a kind of sit-next-to-me Northern Star. When we lived in New York City, she would send me on the subway with yellow post-it notes that detailed the stops and transfers. Without these handwritten guides, I'd likely be penning this story as an emissary of the mole people. But this year, I was given a Garmin global positioning system (GPS) as a birthday gift—a robot whose sole responsibility was to offer me the best route… -
Is This Sex Act Good For Your Fetus?
2 Jul 2009 | 12:17 pmAs far as I can tell, not only should you be having lots of oral sex with the father of your baby—even up to a year before conceiving—you should also make sure to ingest his seminal fluid. Listen to what I'm telling you: the international medical community is giving you an Rx for oral. Sure, they say frequent intercourse is good, too, but oral is better. So, if you care about having a healthy baby and not potentially unleashing what scientists call a "destructive attack on the foreign tissues" of your fetus, if you want to avoid immunological disorders during pregnancy, and I'm sure you…
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The Blog Erotic
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No Fireworks? 5 Steps to Revive a Boring Sex Life
26 Jun 2009 | 10:12 amFireworks enchant us. They suggest fantasy and fun with fleeting moments of intense spark. That's why sex and fireworks are so often compared. But admit it, your sex life may have fizzled like an aerial display above a gloomy harbor.What is always the first step to changing things up? That's right, admit there's a problem. Look, there's no sense in either of you feeling obliged to have boring sex, then rolling over to stare at the ceiling only to ask yourself, "What was that?"Next step? Admit your boredom. Yep, take a risk. Let your partner know that you've gotten bored. … -
Passionate Sex: 3 Keys to Sexual Excitement
17 Jun 2009 | 1:46 pm"I want to feel wanted," is a refrain I often hear from clients who are in the throes of a relationship meltdown. And what makes someone feel more wanted than having someone they cherish make passionate love to them? Unfortunately, all too often, passion fades and partners are left feeling hollow and lonely.There are many ways to increase feelings of passion in the bedroom, but 3 of the most important keys to passionate sex include: Be authentic with your lovemaking. It doesn't help to read a sex manual and then try out the latest oral sex move. What creates more passionate sex is to… -
10 Top Reasons to Use a Vibrator (Even If You're Married)
9 Jun 2009 | 1:08 pmMore than half of women and nearly half of men have used a vibrator as part of their sex play, according to a blog post by sex educator Cory Silverberg. That's compared to only 1% of people way back in the 70's (but I'm guessing most people lied, using a vibrator back then would have been considered completely embarrassing, worse than having a bra strap show). What is it about vibrators that make them so much fun? Well, everyone has a different reason for using them. It is interesting to note that a lot of couples that I see in my practice don't use vibrators, even though many fit the… -
Would You Rather Be Having Sex than Blogging About It?
1 Jun 2009 | 10:38 amYes, I took a hiatus from blogging about sex last week. Look, I'm a psychologist, and we don't disclose a lot that's personal about ourselves, because when a client is in the office, it's all about you. But I can tell you that it can definitely be more fun to have sex than to blog about it! And, just as I preach, sometimes putting work aside for pleasure is a very good idea.But now I'm back, feeling rather, well, refreshed. And what did I find to share with you? How about a TresSugar article stating that 8 out 10 Brits would rather sleep than have sex? Sad, but true. What does… -
"Smart" Women and Orgasm: Don't Feel Bad Over "Low EQ"
21 May 2009 | 10:31 amLate last week, the media buzzed about a research article that suggested that "smart" women are more likely to experience orgasm than...dumb ones? [If you want the quick skinny, check Dr. Petra Boynton's blog posts, in which she criticizes both the researchers (for the construction of the study and the researchers' conclusions, which are based on barely significant data) and the media (for equating Emotional Intelligence, or "EQ" with "IQ").]My take is that women who either do not experience orgasm (anorgasmia) or who experience it infrequently have yet another reason to feel that they are…
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Vibrators and Sex toys
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Sex toys market booming in recession
22 Jun 2009 | 4:34 amRecession has affected almost all the fields and sectors. But a surprising fact has come across, recession has actually affected sex toys market but in a positive way. That’s right; people are getting sex toys like they never had. I think this is because now people have got enough time to look in to their personal life and want to bring some creativity and innovation there. This goal can be totally fulfilled the wide range of sex toys.Advertising Age reports have noted that these sexual enhancement devices have just broken the roofs. Lubricant sales jumped 32% in the first quarter, and… -
Sex toys, 5 Reasons not to get terror
8 Jun 2009 | 10:47 pmThroughout my life I saw many things that caught my attention strongly and one of them is almost legendary fear of men into sex toys, of course the ones which their partners bring. Within seconds hundreds of questions cross the minds of insecure lovers "Why did she need this device? What am I doing wrong? Is there a problem with the size of my penis? Any reason for that is so big? Am I being replaced? "But we must keep calm, because there is no chance that men will be replaced by a toy with batteries, on the contrary if you have the confidence to show that you will most want to do things that… -
Rampant Rabbit – Vibrating Love for Every Girl
18 May 2009 | 2:53 amRabbit vibrators have gained more popularity and success after appearing in the famous sex and the city series. These rabbit vibes have become ubiquitous after giving Charlotte the best orgasm of life. Rabbits are no longer devices which need to be hidden, but something to be shown off to your girl-friends or even your boy-friends if they are ready to take a challenge to beat it at the pleasure race. With the increasing popularity and demand, sex toy makers have given the women’s world a huge range of rabbit vibrators which are improving on each new edition launch. From this bulk of… -
Clone a Willy Penis Mold Kit to Make Your Perfect Penis Replica
14 May 2009 | 2:46 amYes people that’s right a penis replica. Replica of your man’s strength and your weakness. But why? For me this question would be more weird and I would cross-question these people Why Not? Is your man going to be with you every time? No way, so why not keep this little weakness of yours with you when he is gone. This penis replica would not only give you penetrative feeling but the pleasures of your favorite vibrator as this replica also comes with a vibrator to insert in the mold. This is really great to finally get a kit to immortalize your partner’s manliness in minutes and all you… -
The next generation of stimulation system – Nexus ISTIM now out in the market
7 May 2009 | 11:12 pmYes thats true the next generation of the sexual stimulation is designed by the famous Nexus Brand. The Nexus iStim is designed to pleasurably electrify the erogenous zones and deliver increasing sexual anticipations every time. This vibrator kit uses the revolutionary Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulator which is more popular as TENS machine. This delivers electrical pulses into the body in small amounts which are just the ones to jolt your sexual desires to new heights. Nexus iSTIM is designed with exclusive attachments to plug into your favourite Nexus toys like nexus glide, nexus…
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Vigrx - Penis Enlargement Pills
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Tips for men to cure sexual problems in safe manner
29 Jun 2009 | 11:49 pmErectile dysfunction has become a common problem which troubles a man. Though the problem is increasing day by day the awareness for it is still not present. That is why men really get uncomfortable and embarrassed when you start discussing their sexual problems. Medications are available for them both prescription and non prescription one. But if you take care of few things in your life and maintain a healthy lifestyle then this problem can be tackled up to some extent. Sexual problems are most of the time responsible for the psychological problems as well. Anxiety and depression are some of… -
Success Story of Penis Extender – More than increasing penis size
23 Jun 2009 | 11:33 pmIf you were researching about the penis extenders then I am sure that, you must have come across more disadvantages than the benefits. But let me tell you that these extenders do offer you results and benefits if the goal set for them are obvious and achievable. You can’t expect an extender to increase the size over night and you can’t add 5-8 inches to your penis. These results are impossible and no product can give you this. An Italian study into the usefulness of penis extender which confirms the increase in length, but it didn’t find any changes in the girth. The new study,… -
Penis Enlargement Pills – Safe male enhancement option and painless too
17 Jun 2009 | 1:13 amPenis enlargement pills are the ones which offers safe and permanent enlargement of penis. Not all the pills available in the market are safe. So if you are planning to go for penis pills to enlarge your penis then my recommendation would be always go for FDA approved penis pills like VigRX. FDA approved penis pills uses only natural herbs as its ingredients and is safe in nature. Do Penis Enlargement Pills Work The first question that will come in your mind before using these pills is “Will these pills work for you?” The question is obvious and not amusing. How you get penis erection? -
Different Techniques to enlarge your penis size
10 Jun 2009 | 6:07 amThe marketers today offer many different types of nonsurgical penis enlargement products, and promote them with serious search advertisements on websites, newspapers, magazines etc. But if you really look for these products and read about them carefully, you’ll observe that half of the products make totally groundless claims of safety and effectiveness. There are only few products which have got the nod from authorized medical agencies. So it actually depends on you that how you can gather the correct and honest opinion about particular penis products. The best sources can be your doctor or… -
Average Penis Size – Clear Your Doubts and Know your Size
3 Jun 2009 | 11:09 pmThe modern man thinks in the way that bigger is always better. Though this wasn’t the thought in ancient time but times have changed and so did men's views of their genitals. How important the bigger penis is to a man? Despite what sexologists say about how penis size is not an important issue to attract females, men are still prone to believe that one's penis size is a measure of their masculinity and sexual dexterity. Studies have also shown that penis size plays an important role in most men the level of self-esteem. Those who believe that their manhood is not equal to the average often…
