Oh, how I wanted to be in Brooklyn for the very recent Vulvagraphics event celebrating female genital diversity. However, due to scheduling chaos I couldn’t be there so these photos of knit & crochet vulvas (and a guest post by Rachel Liebert) have been my solace. As you know, I adore all things vulvas from my vulva puppet to [...]
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My Sex Professor: Sexuality Education
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Celebrating Female Genital Diversity in Brooklyn and Beyond: The International Vulva Knitting Circle
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When Men Take A Long Time To Orgasm: Delayed Ejaculation
3 Nov 2009 | 6:17 amThings to Know about Men’s Orgasm: #1 Sometimes men take a long time, too. And not just in the bathroom with their laptop or newspaper in hand. Although we often think of women being the ones to take forever and a day to orgasm (especially when just learning to orgasm for the first few dozen times), [...] -
PHOTOS: A Peek Inside the Kinsey Confidential Recording Studio
2 Nov 2009 | 7:51 pmThis morning I taped nine (!) new Kinsey Confidential podcasts with our wonderful producer, Annie. Unlike other mornings, we had a special guest join us in the studio today. Bernard Gordillo surprised me by showing up to take photos of the process (see more after the jump). It was a fun morning for him to be [...] -
VIDEO: Fruit Bats Have Oral Sex Too – Well, At Least Fellatio
31 Oct 2009 | 7:41 amIn a Halloween-timed scientific publication, a team of researchers from China and the United Kingdom have found that not only do fruit bats have oral sex (specifically, fellatio) but that they (a) do it in at least one interesting way and that (b) fruit bat fellatio is association with a longer time spent copulating (aka [...] -
The Night Dan Savage Felt My Vulva (Puppet)
30 Oct 2009 | 1:38 pmYesterday, in the midst of guest lecturing, working on a research paper and meeting with students, I had the pleasure to meet Dan Savage (yes, of the widely read Savage Love column and podcast series) when he came by The Kinsey Institute to meet with research staff and tour our art collections. That’s when the [...]
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Bound, Not Gagged
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Las Vegas Attorney Seeks to Aid Brothel Workers
27 Oct 2009 | 3:47 pmBy way of the Sex Workers’ Virtual Community, attorney Leon Greenberg is offering to represent brothel workers on a contingency basis for unfair labor practices. He appears to be teh real deal and here’s what he says about himself: I am an attorney who represents employees who are not paid proper overtime wages, minimum wages, or other compensation owed by their employers. It has come to my attention that Nevada brothel sex workers are considered “independent contractors” by the brothel operators. As a matter of law I believe that to be incorrect and they clearly… -
“Working Sex: Power, Practice, and Politics”: Desiree Alliance Conference July 25-30, 2009
23 Oct 2009 | 8:53 pmMark your calenders for the 2010 Desiree Alliance conference in Las Vegas! Check out this link for more info.: http://www.desireealliance.org/conference.htm -
A ‘course’ on trafficking with only one hurdle
12 Oct 2009 | 9:38 amFollowing up on the issue of misuse of academic status and questionable credentials, last year she included a piece of my writing in the syllabus of a course at the University of Rhode Island called Human Trafficking and Contemporary Slavery. Mine appears to be the only reading not taking an avidly ‘anti-trafficking’ stance. The goals for learning about the week’s topic, Analyses of Sex Trafficking & Prostitution, were: ’Read different analyses and perspectives on sex trafficking and prostitution from different philosophical and analytical perspectives:… -
Comments by “Citizens against Trafficking” about Photo of Cambodian Sex Workers Protesting Law Enforcement Brutality
30 Sep 2009 | 2:29 pm“Citizens against Trafficking” (CAT) wrote the following about a photo of Cambodian sex workers protesting law enforcement brutality under U.S. imposed anti-prostitution legislation: “Look at this photo from a ’sex workers’ rally’ in Cambodia. The writing on their t-shirts says ‘Sex Work is Work: Defend the Right to Livelihood.’ Look at the faces of these women. Do they look like happy, empowered women and girls rallying to demand their right to be prostitutes? Or do they look like victims of trafficking told to put on t-shirts and sit while… -
Store this number as “creepy diaper guy”
30 Sep 2009 | 1:24 pmFrom Alex Leo of the Huffington Post: Senator David Vitter, a man who endured a public scandal after being outed for visiting prostitutes, has devoted himself to taking on ACORN (Association of Community Organizations for Reform Now) after the group advised an under-cover couple posing as a prostitute and pimp to lie about her profession and launder her earnings in order to receive housing aid. Andy Cobb is not amused. The satirist made a video asking Americans to call Vitter’s office to discuss his prostitution scandal and lack of punishment. Cobb wrote this on his YouTube page:…
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Personal Snapshots: You Had to Be There
19 Oct 2009 | 5:44 amOn Friday night I read at a Feminist Sex event at Bluestockings Bookstore here in NYC. The event was put together by Shira Tarrant, the author of the recent Seal Press book Men & Feminism, and featured me, Abiola Abrams, and Sinclair Sexsmith. Shira read a few different excerpts from her book, Sinclair read a great and analytical piece about how feminism got in the way of her getting the sex she wants (because that sex happens to include the desire to hit women), and Abiola read her piece “Slut” from the Dirty Words anthology. And me? I read a piece that I wrote this week… -
Book Review: Byron in Love
17 Oct 2009 | 6:51 pmByron in Love: A Short Daring Life by Edna O’Brien My rating: 4 of 5 stars Oh, Lord Byron. Sigh. I was seriously obsessed with Byron, John Keats, Percy Shelley, and Mary Shelley when I was in high school. Why yes, I’ve seen Gothic about a million times. Also, on my first solo trip to Europe, I visited some of their haunts in Switzerland & Italy, saw Keats’ death mask, locks of their hair… I’m a nerd, I know. There are a number of biographical tomes on Byron, and this is one of the most easily digestible ones. And that’s not just because it is… -
Pay As You Go: Sex Worker Shorts at UnionDocs, October 24
14 Oct 2009 | 7:31 pmPhoto of Kamalabai Pani by Audacia Ray/International Women’s Health Coalition Pay As You Go: Sex Worker Shorts Saturday, Oct. 25 - 6pm & 8:30pm Suggested donation $7 per show, $10 double feature price. Special free panel discussion at 7:30pm between the programs. PROGRAM 1: 6:00 – 7.30 pm You Must Know About Me by HOPS and WITNESS. Macedonia, 2009 (18 mins) DVD “You Must Know About Me” features interviews with sex workers from Skopje, focusing on 3 main themes: Their family lives, the conditions they work under, especially the violence and discrimination they face from police… -
Thoughtful Masculinities (Theory and Practice)
13 Oct 2009 | 8:57 amI’ve been thinking a lot about masculinities lately. Especially: as I go deeper and deeper into the feminism rabbit hole, as my career winds itself around fighting gender inequities and the injustices that face women, and the entanglements of women’s and sex workers’ movements which seem to persist in existing on the defensive and counter to men’s violence (and maybe sometimes in opposition to masculinity in general). And, also: as I ponder my romantic, gender, and sexual entanglements with masculinities and try to parse WTF it all means. There’s been a piece… -
Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy: Sex & Consent Edition
4 Oct 2009 | 11:46 pmBack in June 2008 I hosted the Fourth Carnival of Sexual Freedom and autonomy - and I’m doing it again! You can find out more about the Carnival here - this time I decided to get thematic. There’s been a lot of fiery and interesting conversation happening over the past month about sexuality and consent, so I thought I’d pull together some of the interesting stuff I’ve been reading on that subject, especially the spotlights on two controversial men: Roman Polanski and Tucker Max. First up, a really fantastic piece by Heather Corinna, for Scarleteen, called How You Guys…
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The Sex of Athletes: One Issue, Many Variables
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The Id Girl
17 Oct 2009 | 9:00 pmNo filter. Tracey Emin has built a glittering career in the art world on her full-frontal candor, with installations titled “My Bed” (featuring used condoms, cigarette packets, stained underwear) and “Everyone I Have Ever Slept With 1963-1995.” Her work situates the crotch at the center of the universe. In “Strangeland: The Jagged Recollections of a Beautiful Mind” (Hodder & Stoughton), a 2005 compilation of her writing, she recounts being sexually abused as a child and raped at 13, relives the... -
All’s Not Well in Sex and Food
8 Oct 2009 | 9:00 pmOn the front of primal appetites, David Letterman gives sex a bad name, and restaurants suffer in the recession. -
The Courts and Privacy
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When the Cool Get Hazed
26 Sep 2009 | 9:00 pmNews of a “slut list” at a top-ranked New Jersey high school last week highlighted disturbing new twists in girl-on-girl hazing.
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Severe Cramps & Prolonged Period
7 Nov 2009 | 12:50 amPlease help me. :( I went to the doctor yesterday about this issue and was told to wait it out, but it's become increasingly worse.I have had my period for about six weeks now. At first I didn't think anything of it because I'd missed a couple pills of my birth control and thought the next pack would regulate it. I'm now almost finished that next pack and it hasn't gone away. The bleeding is fairly light, though has become heavier over the last five days or so.Tuesday night I had this pain in my abdomen. Nothing like menstrual cramps, it was like every muscle is my abdomen was tensed up. At… -
Ocella Concerns - UPDATE
6 Nov 2009 | 8:37 pmPrevious post here: http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/17361892.htmlThey performed an ultrasound on both of my legs, which were negative for blood clots. WOOHOO! But I'm not totally satisfied...I spoke with my OBGYN about Ocella, and that I really, really LIKE taking it, but she was very adamant about me getting off of it ASAP. When I asked about other HBCs I could take similar to Ocella but with a different formula, her answer, "NO - I don't want you taking any HBC." And her only reasoning? I smoke cigarettes.I totally understand smoking increases your risk. However, I really… -
question about effectiveness of pill
6 Nov 2009 | 6:25 pmSorry if this is confusing, I'll try to be clear as possible.I'm on Yaz and usually start my new packs on Wednesday, but didn't have the money to get my new one until today (Friday) and I went ahead and took the first pill. I know that I could technically go 7 days hormone free and still be protected (last active pill was taken on Friday Oct. 30 which makes today day 7), but I'm wondering if my protection may have been compromised throughout the month. I'm not currently worried about pregnancy (last time I had sex was Oct 5th during the placebos of my last pack; have taken 2 pregnancy test… -
Sepia 200
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Pregnancy risk which I'm probably overthinking...
6 Nov 2009 | 4:21 pmI took my last dose of my antibiotic (generic for Vantin; used for my UTI/kidney infection) on Thursday the 29th. I took it for two weeks before that.I took Diflucan that night as well (which if you remember my last post apparently has a birth control interference warning now).I had sex Friday night; I only had one condom and we didn't use that for PIV...He came, inside me as per normal... I totally forgot about asking him to pull out in the heat of the moment. I know, idiotic of me.Saturday and Sunday I took my birth control on time as I'd been before the sex Friday. Monday, I took it an…
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Love + Sex
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Worst Sex of the Week: K-Fed sperminates again, Fergie's husband and the stripper, and Mini-Me gets dangerous
6 Nov 2009 | 10:43 pmWelcome to a new Shine feature "The Worst Sex of the Week," where we round up the grossest, saddest, and just plain weirdest Love+Sex stories of the past seven days. First up: Fergie's crisis, a scary Mini-Me, and Colin Farrell's unfortunate sex tape. -
Is a Generic Birth Control Pill As Effective As a Brand Name Pill?
6 Nov 2009 | 7:00 pmDr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she -
User post: Should You TAlk To Your Ex Or Not?
6 Nov 2009 | 6:01 pmWell my ex and i were together for one year and seven moths.We broke up 3 months a go and well we didnt talk since then. Well two days a go he text me and told "Good Morning my Love how are you going? Well i reply by telling him good and you.Well since two days a go we have been… -
More Heartbreak for Jessica Simpson
6 Nov 2009 | 4:05 pmShe falls hard and fast for a guy again, only to find herself dumped in a hurry. - JoAnna Zulli, BettyConfidential.com Stop me if you’ve heard this… -
User post: If you saw an old love on a personals site would you make contact?
6 Nov 2009 | 3:52 pmI saw on a personals site that a guy I used to date a long time ago is now single and looking for someone to date. We dated for about a year and we decided to stop seeing each other because he was still married but separated from his wife at the time. He is divorced now. We had a…
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Women - "Weak in the Knees" AMNON TAMAR AND JONADAB Pt.2
5 Nov 2009 | 10:15 am“Some time later, this happened: Absalom, David's son, had a sister who was very attractive. Her name was Tamar. Amnon, also David's son, was in love with her. Amnon was obsessed with his sister Tamar to the point of making himself sick over her. She was a virgin, so he couldn't see how he could get his hands on her. Amnon had a good friend, Jonadab, the son of David's brother Shimeah. Jonadab was exceptionally streetwise. He said to Amnon, 'Why are you moping around like this, day after day—you, the son of the king! Tell me what's eating at you.' "'In a word, Tamar,' said Amnon. -
News - 1 in 5 iPhone People Looking At Porn
5 Nov 2009 | 5:38 amWe submitted X3watch to the Apple store and are awating approval. Here is the latest study. Shopping site Retrevo has been talking to iPhone users and has discovered that they prefer cool gadgets to degrees, but still consider themselves intellectual. The "study" involved polling 445 iPhone and Blackberry users about their relationships with other people and their kit, and discovered that iPhone users consider themselves to be extrovert intellectuals who know a lot about the media but find a lack of high-tech gadgets to be a turn off. 35 per cent of iPhone owners said they would find a… -
Wives - The Power of Our Story
4 Nov 2009 | 10:13 pmWe all have a story. I do, you do, my weird neighbor who shovels the snow off of his lawn does – we all have a story. Over the years I have become very comfortable sharing our story of sexual addiction; the story of my husband's transgressions, my responses, and God's grace. I didn’t used to be comfortable sharing our story. I thought that my story, the story of a sex addict's wife, was dark and ugly. It scared me. Not only did it scare me, but I was sure it would scare others too. Rather than share my real story, my authentic story, I recreated one that I thought people would… -
News - 1 Female Intern Needed
4 Nov 2009 | 10:00 amThe Strip Church is looking for a January-May girl intern to work directly with the brothel and strip club outreaches that are happening in Vegas! This is an opportunity and life experience that you do not want to miss. The is stepping out and doing rather than just talking! Come be a part of the fun and adventure in 2010 as we continue to build relationships in Las Vegas. Apply on line and who knows you may just find yourself right where God wants you! We are asking that all videos applications are submitted by this coming Sunday. We will provide housing for you plus school credit if you… -
News - Porn Debate WI LIVE ON FACEBOOK
4 Nov 2009 | 9:52 amWe are very pleased to invite you to the ClickCast Live event for the WI Porn Debate - Ron Jeremy vs. Craig Gross Wednesday November 11th 7th at 5pm PST / 7pm CT/ 8pm EST. You'll have a chance to talk to Craig and Ron "real time" about everything from their favorite pizza toppings to Craig's much anticipated new book..."Jesus Loves You...This I Know."ClickCast is a press junket meets live viral chat on Facebook where YOU ask the questions and view live video of the event. That's right....no middle man between you and the big shots. You can RSVP for t he event and invite friends on…
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This Could Be Dangerous...
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Enjoy the Silence
4 Nov 2009 | 11:56 amForgive the even bigger silences around here till next week – I’ve packing to do!! I’m terrible at packing. I can make half a dozen lists and still be scrambling at the last minute plus forget things. No promise for more “flashing the streets of NYC” pics this year, our hotel room is higher up. But, who knows! I’ve got to get all my packing done tonight because tomorrow night I’m going to bed way early…my train leaves at 5am and I doubt I’ll be sleeping on the train. I’ll still manage to procrastinate some, I’m sure. In the… -
Spontaneous
3 Nov 2009 | 7:02 amWhen I’m driving long distances alone I either listen to music, or think. This trip I let my mind wander on its own. It took an old, familiar route that day – a route I try not to go down willingly anymore. But so be it. And the old, familiar throbbing and wetness between my legs followed quickly behind, enjoying this re-visit. I didn’t expect this, I tend not to of late. And so the trusty bullet vibrator that used to always have a home in my handbag was languishing in the toy drawer back at home. Little damn use to me, there, two hours away. Soon my lack of patience and my… -
Pleasurists #51
1 Nov 2009 | 11:27 amPleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #50? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #52? Submit it here before Sunday November 1st at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed. Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter. Blogiversary blowout: oodles of sex toys Deadline: October 27, 2009 @ 11:59 p.m. PST. They say it’s your birthday! November 8th @ midnight Central. Happy Blogiversary to Me Contest! -
FlashFictionFriday: Ethereal Exhibitionist
30 Oct 2009 | 10:02 amI’ve decided to try out this weekly thing called Flash Friday Fiction, where you write a post based on the photo provided that is 100 words. I just couldn’t keep it at 100 words, I tried but couldn’t get my mind’s vision down to just 100 words. Click on the banner to join in or see what others’ takes were on this photo! I saw her last Halloween in my neighbor’s window. Naked and beautiful, only a whisper of presence. She looked at me; once she knew she had an audience she touched herself seductively. But she was gone soon; I thought perhaps I imagined it. -
Ask Lilly: Introducing Your Personal Shopper
28 Oct 2009 | 8:31 amI like making people happy. Sex makes people happy. No, this doesn’t mean I’m going to become Lilly, International Prostitute (although some days I consider it, when the bank account balance weebles and wobbles). But it does mean that I am more than happy to help you pick out sex toys. Hello, I am Lilly – your personal sextoy shopper! I’ve had a few readers-who-aren’t-bloggers ask me for some recommendations after they’ve felt comfortable enough to do so. Men, namely. In fact most of those who ask for my help are men. But giving recommendations to men for…
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Sex In The Public Square
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Vagina in Vogue
4 Nov 2009 | 7:15 amIn recent years, the number of women going under the knife for cosmetic genital surgery has skyrocketed. More and more women are regularly participating in painful bikini waxing procedures to return to the bare pubis of their youth, and increasing numbers of adolescents are seeking genital piercings to decorate their labia. The popularization of all of these procedures begs the question, what is the Western female genital aesthetic and how is it established? Furthermore, we must ask: What are the implications of women pursuing a genital ideal? American representations of the female… -
Introducing Jill Di Donato and SITPS Show and Tell
3 Nov 2009 | 1:25 pmMeet Jill Di Donato. I met Jill back in June when Sex In The Public Square, Center for Sex and Culture, and some amazing sex bloggers and writers got together at Happy Endings for a reading where we raised money for CSC. Jill heard me say that I was wanting to expand Sex In The Public Square and came to me with an idea for a new column, Show & Tell, which would be a place for people to write about the sexuality-and-society issues that are most personally important to them. Since no good deed goes unpunished Jill has been assigned as the curator/editor for our new venture! She's… -
Visions of Sexual Freedom
2 Nov 2009 | 3:50 amSome time ago Tess asked each of us who posed for the 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar (raising funds for Sex Work Awareness) to write a little bit about how our ideas about sexual freedom are expressed in our photo shoots.Mea culpa. I am finally managing that post just days before the calendar's launch party. Will you be in NYC this Friday? Join us from 6:30-9:30 at Fontanas and get your calendar signed by models, photographers or anyone else who tickles your fancy! (I also hear there's going to be some pretty fantastic swag.)I posed on Frying Pan, a rusting old lightship-turned-bar docked at… -
No. More. Silence.
28 Oct 2009 | 10:45 pmA good friend shared a link to this post and I asked Wendi Deetz (the author) if I could repost here, she agreed.http://www.facebook.com/reqs.php#/notes.php?subj=1077186723 Mon October 28 at 11:26pm I am disgusted, outraged and appalled - and yes, you've seen me this way before. Can you remember your homecoming dance? If you can, I want you to imagine yourself there. What is it like in your body? What is it like in your life? Maybe, like me, you never went to a homecoming dance, but you can remember what it's like to be 15, 16, 17. You might remember your younger self delighted or… -
Marriage Isn't The Only Valid Relationship
26 Oct 2009 | 8:34 amBACKGROUNDA hearing begins in Washington, DC this coming Monday (and continues the following week) on a piece of legislation proposed by Councilman Catania. Bill 18-482, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Equality Amendment Act of 2009, that will finally grant same-sex partners the right to marry in the District of Columbia.Unfortunately, the way the bill is currently written it will also end the Domestic Partner registry in DC. This registry is so well-written it has been the model for others across the country. In ending the ability to register as domestic partners, the bill will give…
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Susie Bright's Journal
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My Halloween Musical Gift to You!
31 Oct 2009 | 2:39 pmvia www.youtube.com Tom Waits on "Fernwood 2Night," circa 1977. One day I hope to use every single one of Tom's lines that he cuts loose in this after-piano interview. I will start tonight! Have a very spooky little evening... -
I'll Be Reading My Favorite Judy Grahn Poem Tonight, in San Francisco
30 Oct 2009 | 9:42 amAlso showcasing performances inspired by Judy’s writing... “To The Mother Of All Bowls” choreographed and performed by Anne Bluethenthal and Dancers “The Psychoanalysis of Edward the Dyke” presented by Susie Bright Staged excerpt from The Queen of Swords directed by playwright and actress Jovelyn Richards Reading from “A Woman Is... -
Susie's Review of "The Erotic City" in SF Chronicle
25 Oct 2009 | 4:43 pm"Every San Francisco neighborhood has two characters at each other's throats. "The "Tweedledums" are the cranks - you see them glaring at your T-shirt from their second-story window. They scream "Pervert!" at two women pushing a stroller down the street; they scold the Catholic schoolgirls to pull their skirts down.... -
How Erotica Causes Better Car Crashes
23 Oct 2009 | 3:55 pmOn my audio show today: How Erotic Audiobooks Nearly Caused Multiple Collisions Listen to an excerpt: Download Pf_suzy_091023_sample Also, on today's episode: my doubts about "the woman who can't stop orgasming"— and a lesbian listener who wonders why her girlfriend won't kiss her from head to toe. Photo Credit: Holly... -
Our Marketing Plan : The Publisher Advises a New Author
17 Oct 2009 | 12:28 pmI’ve attached a list of celebrities we think would be great to blurb your book, so find out their numbers and call them up. Be sure to do all this by Monday, because Sales Conference starts Tuesday. We come back Friday and then immediately on Saturday (!) all of editorial...
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Sex and the Ivy
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Jessica Valenti, Weddings, & Social Expectations
23 Oct 2009 | 5:20 pm[Cross-posted from my daily blog The Chicktionary] Feministing editor Jessica Valenti has just publicly responded to critics of her wedding. In today’s post, she gives her take on media coverage of her nuptials and the appallingly cruel backlash and accusations of hypocrisy. Though I admit that I was surprised to learn she decided to get married, I can’t fault her for wanting to take part in an institution and ritual so ingrained in our society. The festivities she describes sound exactly like what I hope the weddings of my friends will be like. I, on the other hand, don’t know if… -
On Privilege & The Ivy League
22 Sep 2009 | 9:14 pm[Original post and full discussion on The Chicktionary] what a spoiled little life you lead. how DO you pay for all your globe trotting and partying? you must have rich parents or a sugar daddy. or maybe you moonlight in addition to your ‘writing career’? anyway, enjoy your life of privilege while it lasts. someday you may find yourself scrubbing floors or pots and pans or caring for the sick or elderly. life is not a beach, as the saying goes. -comment by joe The bottom line you Ivy league snob, is that you throw all of your globetrotting in the face of the 99% of readers who are… -
Why I Won’t Shut Up About Having HPV
17 Sep 2009 | 7:23 pmIn case you haven’t heard, my pap smear came back abnormal. I’d be surprised, actually, if you haven’t heard considering that I’ve been practically shouting this fact from rooftops. (I first mentioned it on Twitter and later on this blog). Probable cause of the funky stuff going on down there? HPV. Which means that I have a STI. That’s not so surprising, given that nearly 80 percent of sexually active adults will contract HPV at some point, nor is it cause for concern, since most cases clear up on their own. And yet … when I realized I couldn’t get my IUD last week because of… -
My IUD Debacle At MGH
11 Sep 2009 | 7:46 pmIf you were following my Twitter yesterday, then you might have been witness to my debacle of an appointment at Massachusetts General Hospital (supposedly one of the best hospitals in the country). The short version: I went in expecting an IUD and came out with a colposcopy appointment. For an abnormal pap smear. That I had done in July. The long version requires some backstory: I went into MGH this summer right before leaving for Germany for an IUD appointment. At the time, roughly late July, I hadn’t had a pap smear in a year, so they recommended that I first get one to make sure I… -
A Capitalist Motive Behind The Beauty Myth
24 Aug 2009 | 11:34 amHow heartening to see that I’m not the only one who’s tired of chronic air-brushing in women’s magazines. Last week, I wrote on The Chicktionary about the positive response to Glamour featuring a plus-size model in its latest issue, and other Tumblr bloggers responded with a host of reposts in agreement. Despite all the body-positive messages women receive nowadays, I can’t help but think that none of it has sunk in, partly because efforts like Dove’s “Campaign for Real Beauty” are only necessary because companies, Dove included, have been cashing in…
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The Virginity Project
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On the face of things...
7 Nov 2009 | 3:20 amYou can go whole weeks here at the virginity project and nothing really happens. No one loses their virginity and if they do, they don’t feel inclined to talk about it and generally speaking, everyone appears to be at one with the world. And then all hell breaks loose. Which is an exaggeration but really, its not often that I get emailed a question that I’ve never been asked before: ‘Ms. MonroDoes a persons face change when they lose their virginity? Thanks Karl’ Now, I don’t know if I have some weird kind of dyslexia but I completely misread this question the first… -
And when did you last see your virginity....
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Ride 'em Cowboy...
20 Oct 2009 | 12:51 pmAs ever, losing virginity can mean many different things to many different people. Never was this more true than in the case of Brad, the owner of a story that caused consternation amongst my friends, family, various random passers by in the street and selected members of the local clergy. Brad is a long standing correspondent of mine and when he dropped the following bombshell one day, I was only too happy to listen. Brad wanted to tell me about the time that he lost his anal virginity. Yes readers, his anal virginity - to his wife. Now whether this is in fact a legitimate loss of virginity… -
To be or not to be.....
26 Sep 2009 | 4:20 amWhoops! The Virginity Project took an accidental sabbatical. Once again, the day job took over the show but it’s all over now and I am on the hunt again for my next freelance contract. Meanwhile, I had this interesting exchange with a young American woman…. This week’s storyteller makes so many interesting points about sex and virginity that it’s hard to know where to begin. The point that stands out a mile for me is when she tells us how shocked she was to discover that there was a word to describe the state of never having had sex – or the ‘default’ state as she calls it. This… -
The very best of British...
6 Sep 2009 | 5:54 am
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Dating
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eHarmony Dating
Well, what can I say about eHarmony? They are one of the premiere dating sites, and for a good reason. I signed up for a full membership, tried it out, and all I can say is they really get down to the nitty gritty as far as what you would like in life. They definitely try hard to match you up with a potential mate! -
Love Dada Dating
I rate this site so highly because not only can you comfortably find singles online with a web browser, but you can find them when your away from your computer with your cell phone! Very nice! New singles are joining all the time, and Love.Dada has around 3 million members. It seems with the ease of cell phone AND internet usage, connections are made all the time. I cant recommend this site enough! Dont take my word for it, check out all of the positive and negative features of the site and the Love.Dada dating scene below. -
Real Mature Singles Dating
Real Mature Singles is a screened group of single adults who are ready to move beyond online dating and into something real. -
Thirty Plus Singles
If you're 30-ish, or way over it, then you may be looking for a more serious relationship. I think this is one reason why more single women and men seem to find Thirty Plus Singles so successful! This site has lots of no-nonsense dating features, it also has strict rules imposed on its sign-up options. The screening is so stern and thorough that people below 30 and with less than the approved income range of $25,000, cannot join. Beacuse of this, there are more professionals at Thrity Plus Singles compared to most other sites. The quality is highly observed even for its members, and it can be… -
VIP Singles
Elite Matchmaking for Professional Singles VIP Singles is a true matchmaking service. They assign a personal representative to you. This person reviews the profile that you submit to them, and from there, start suggesting matches. These are hand picked, and human scrutinized results. It really doesn't get much better than this! The personal attention really shines through once you go step through 3 phases of the online sign-up process. We've signed up and tried out VIP Singles for you, below find the 3 step sign-up process outlined.
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Glimpses
5 Nov 2009 | 8:00 pmYou might think the possibility of countless orgasms is the primary draw in going to a party where sex is almost bound to take place at some point during the course of the night (if not constantly all evening long). For some it might be; in fact for me it often is the first motivating factor. But immersed in the situation I find other things far more amazing than just the orgasms. Although I hadn’t seen her for months, when I did she was naked and surrounded by people intent on giving her pleasure. She said yes when I begged to fist her, so after a few minutes spent rearranging… -
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Practical Polyamory™
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Monogamy vs. Polyamory Debated on CNN.com Live
1 Nov 2009 | 8:31 pmWithin the last week CNN.com Live hosted an excellent debate on monogamy, polyamory, and human instinct. Representing the polyamorous viewpoint by telephone were Family web series creator Terisa Greenan and one of her partners, Scott Campbell. Terisa and Scott did an excellent job of answering questions and clearing up some common misconceptions about polyamory. By the way, you can see the most excellent season finale of "Family" at the link I just provided complete with de rigueur cliffhanger ending. Fun seeing Chris Bingham of Bone Poets Orchestra and Gaia Consort before that, who with his… -
Polyamorous Personal Development Guru Steve Pavlina and Wife Separate
29 Oct 2009 | 11:12 amAfter posting very candidly to their very popular personal development website early this year about their decision to open their marriage, I'm sorry to say that author and personal development guru Steve Pavlina and his wife, Erin, have decided to divorce. Steve cites polyamory as part of the reason in his recent blog post entitled Separation.Steve says that the communication demands were too much for them to handle. Yes, there is a big investment of time and energy up front when a married couple transitions to an open marriage. I imagine both are very busy people from… -
Army Disciminates Against Bereaved Poly Family, ACLU Saves the Day
16 Oct 2009 | 11:45 amI was dismayed but not surprised to have learned just yesterday, via an alert subscriber to a poly email list focused on poly southerners, about the following story reported there. It well illustrates that Don't Ask Don't Tell is not the only discriminatory military law that needs to be put out of our misery. Apparently a long-term M/F/M/F poly quad with several children was doing what I've believed for a long time could be an entirely sensible solution to the burden of extended isolation and loneliness partners of deployed servicemen and servicewomen regularly have to… -
Abstinence Only Sex Ed Funding Rears It's Irresponsible Head Again
13 Oct 2009 | 9:55 amIf you, as I, oppose taxpayer-funded abstinence-only sex education, you'll be disappointed to learn that on last Tuesday night, Senator Orrin Hatch (R-UT) pushed through an amendment in the Senate Finance Committee authorizing $50 million in funding for abstinence-only programs as part of Health Care Reform - despite over 10 years of evidence that these programs do not work.By a razor-thin vote of 12-11, the Senators on the Finance Committee gave conservative ideology a victory over science and common sense.Please take a moment to tell your Senators it's time to stop these programs once and… -
Practical Polyamory is one of The Daily Reviewer's Top 100 Sex Blogs
29 Sep 2009 | 10:43 amTop sex BlogsI am pleased today to learn that this blog has been recognized by The Daily Reviewer as one of it's Top 100 Sex Blogs based on reader votes. I don't consider this blog a sex blog, but it's certainly sex-positive, and I'm happy for the award regardless. I am also honored to be included in the fine company of Cunning Minx's Polyamory Weekly, Heather Corinna's Scarleteen (sex ed info for teens), Ask Dan and Jennifer, Susie Bright's Journal, and the Savage Love Podcast. (Click the award above to see all of the winners.) Interestingly, there only seem to be 40…
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Rhi in Pink
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Confessions
29 Oct 2009 | 7:01 amI have voice crushes. My original voice crush was Ira Glass. Now, I have a voice crush on Peter Sagal and Kai Rysdall. (The Ira voice crush remains) I want to elope. I’m so sick of wedding input from random people. My wedding budget is none of your business. If you’re worried that my wedding budget is preventing me from buying a house, worry about something else, because IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. We have a potluck at work today and I want to call in sick. Unless I know you very well and I know your general kitchen cleanliness well, I don’t want to eat something you made… -
Friday Bullets: Very, Very Sick Edition
16 Oct 2009 | 6:38 amI’m fairly certain that for the past 4 days I’ve been suffering from a little something the world likes to call H1N1. Here’s something that’s REALLY stupid: if you’re an otherwise healthy adult, you’re not supposed to go to the doctor unless you have “complications,” so if you’re an an otherwise healthy adult you can count on suffering through this for four (and counting) days. Your doctors office might pretend that they can help you, but mainly they’ll just make you wait 5 hours for a phone call back and when you finally get sick of… -
Friday Bullets: Birthday Boy Edition
9 Oct 2009 | 7:27 amI can’t decide whether this week went by super quickly or super slowly. I keep changing my mind. I’ve had tiny hints of a cold all week long, each morning waking up with a scratchier throat than the day before. Then, last night right before bed, I developed the worst stomachache ever. It’s still here. I’m trying to ignore Dr. Google’s offer for a house call, but it’s SO HARD. (feel free to ask Dr. Google what stomach pain around the belly button lasting for 12 hours means for me). Today we’ll be looking at 3 potential wedding venues. One of them is… -
Cheeseburger heaven is found at Christopher’s Gourmet Grill
7 Oct 2009 | 6:35 amI’m so excited to bring you the Very! First! Burger Review in the Girls’ Guide to the Perfect Portland Burger. This is from my dearie, Ashleigh. I could tell you how much I love Ashleigh for hours, and hours…but I think you really want to hear about the burger. Want to review a burger? Let me know! When what you want is a memory of something old-fashioned (meaning the first time you ate one in high school), full of flavor, and with a side of crispy-soft fries, you’ll head over to Christopher’s Gourmet Grill in NE Portland. The outside of the building is deceiving. It’s… -
Don’t Ignore Me, Please
6 Oct 2009 | 6:30 amOne really fun thing about being engaged is that everyone is really, genuinely happy for you. Seeing a girlfriend and having her grab my left hand and then jump up and down with me or having the bartender at your local wine bar yell, “Hey! Congrats Guys!” is fantastic and has not gotten old (yet). And, I’m loving it. But, one thing that I never, ever expected is that even some of your very best friends and family members won’t acknowledge a damn thing. And, if there’s anything I hate, it’s being ignored. I hate being ignored so much that as a child, my…
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This Marriage Thing
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Saying Sorry
Hey, this is the beginning of a long weekend. Yipee. The sun is rumored to make an appearance in Boston on Sunday. We'll see. Meanwhile, my good friend and fellow blog goddess, Alisa Bowman of Project Happily Ever After, is sharing her two cents on why being in love ... -
Whose Rules Rule: Grandma or Mommy?
There's no real reason for my fixation on rules at the moment. First, marriage rules then an interesting article in the WSJ.com caught my attention. Of course, it did with grandma in the title. I'm a wee bit obsessed with grandbabies. Grandbabies- those little bundles of extreme joy wrapped up ... -
Stop- Carnival Time! 121
Yes, that was a horrible MC Hammer reference. What do you want? It's Sunday and I spent the afternoon at the Allston Main Street event, Taste of Allston, scarfing down the cuisine of the local restaurants, including pork bulgogi, sag paneer, and buffalo wings. I even ran into two of ... -
Love and Intimacy with Diana Daffner, MA
Slow is good. That's the message I took away from the wonderfully playful conversation I had with Diana Daffner yesterday. You recall I was trying to interest all of you in talking about tantric sex as a way of deepening your connection with that special person? Well, I'm still thinking ... -
Marriage Rules
You know, they say that each person is a unique culture, complete with his or her own customs, celebrations and rules. I think that's true and what makes being married especially tough sometimes. Being married is like visiting a foreign country and only partially speaking the language. You understand what they're ...
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Scarleteen
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I don't feel safe with him: how can I change my feelings?
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Comprehensive Sex Ed for the Comprehensively Celibate
31 Oct 2009 | 3:04 pmAs someone who was all but completely celibate throughout high school and this was not at all by conscious choice, I can tell you that I often found it frustrating to deal with the fact that a lot of teenagers were under- or mis-informed about safer sex, that a lot of teenagers were sexually active, and that a lot of politicians and think tanks believed in stanching teenage sexual activity entirely. I was fourteen when I started listening to Loveline (though I didn't always agree with Dr. Drew) and it began my path of sex-pertise (as it were). I was eager to get informed. -
I'm bisexual, so why don't I feel exactly the same about men and women?
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SEXploration: The Naked Truth and Savage Love
31 Oct 2009 | 11:11 amI am halfway through my exchange semester in the US, and enjoying all of the opportunities that an American college campus affords me. This past week, my campus put on an event called “Sexploration Week”. Run by the university's health center, this meant info-stands with free condoms, rapid-result , anonymous HIV testing, and several presentations by guest speakers. As both a curious college student and someone who is interested in the field of sex education, I was very excited about the event. -
Preventing Teen Pregnancy: Three Words Most Likely to Make My Blood Boil
22 May 2009 | 9:03 amI hate, hate, hate that phrase. Nearly everywhere I go or look as a young adult sexuality educator anymore, I run into it incessantly. Let me be clear: I don't hate doing all that we can, to help people of every age to avoid pregnancies or parenting they do not want or do not feel ready for. I'm so glad to do that, and it's a big part of my job at Scarleteen and elsewhere when I work as a sexuality and contraception educator and activist.
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Married And Happy
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Your Wife Has No Desire For Sex? You Better Read This
5 Nov 2009 | 7:59 amRecently, a man asked me the following question:"Calle, can you tell me what's going on? My wife and I have been married for 15 years and after the first year, the sex started becoming less and less frequent. My wife simply wasn't in the mood for it...she didn't feel like having sex...she had a "headache"...she was "tired" or whatever.Now, if we make love once a month it's a miracle and even then, she's clearly and obviously just "giving it" to me so I'll shut up and go away. It doesn't seem to matter what I say or do, my wife just doesn't seem to have any interest in sex. And, that's how… -
Bob's Wife Cheated On Him…And What YOU Need To Learn From Bob!
31 Oct 2009 | 8:33 amFellow husband, are you falling short in satisfying and fulfilling your wife? I'm wondering this because I see the same "pattern" emerge again and again when a wife cheats on her husband.As someone who does extensive research into marriage relationships, I frequently get to interact with men whose wife has cheated on them. And, what's interesting is that these men "thought" they knew their wife...they thought they knew what she wanted...and what she liked and didn't like...and who she really was. But, when these men contrasted what they "knew" with what their wife and her lover actually DID,… -
Would Fixing This Mistake Turn On Your Wife Sexually?
15 Oct 2009 | 1:26 pmThere's a serious mistake that some men make in the way they think about their wife and their marriage and this error causes them to lose out on a LOT of intimacy that they'd otherwise get to enjoy. Even worse, it eventually drives their woman to either leave the marriage or to seek out a more satisfying partner on the side.We have a word for this mistake; it's called entitlement and here's just one example of how the line of thought behind this mistake goes..."I am the husband and my job is to "work" and provide for my family. I take responsibility for our financial welfare and all money… -
What Is Love? Happily Married People Say It Is...
13 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amWhat is love?Well, unhappily married people would say it's that "magic" feeling that "just happens" between two people...it's not something you can consciously create...it's that "spark" that's either there or it isn't.And, with a definition like that, you know WHY these people are unhappily married.Love is the thing that people want more than anything else in life...and unhappily married people have defined it as something that's completely outside of their control.They've defined it as a WHIM that can come AND go...it's something that's unbelievably exciting when it's there and intolerable… -
Do It Yourself Marriage Counseling: Try This...
12 Oct 2009 | 9:00 amWhen a married couple finds themselves needing help in their marriage, the generally accepted "solution" is to seek out a marriage counselor / therapist. Well, at $75 - $200 per hour and a weekly session for both the husband and the wife and appointments scheduled well into the future, this option can quickly become prohibitively expensive.Moreover, there's usually the issue of participation and cooperation. There's almost always one spouse who really wants to get help...and one who doesn't.Further, there's usually a problem related to privacy. There's usually at least one spouse who is not…
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The Frisky
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Quickies: Deleted “Bruno” Scene Is Uncomfortable & Psychic To Contact Michael Jackson
6 Nov 2009 | 4:00 pmThe above clip is an “exclusive” deleted scene from the “Bruno” DVD. Things get really uncomfortable when baseball legend Pete Rose is forced to sit on a landscaper. [Maxim]—I’m so ashamed to admit I laughed. I had no plans of seeing any of this... -
This Week On The Frisky: What Were The Cool Kids Reading?
6 Nov 2009 | 3:50 pmWhat had the cool girls muffling their laughter in the cubicle this week? These were the most popular stories of the week on The Frisky: MONDAY: Most Re-tweeted Story: Reason #612 Not To Be Friends With Your Mom On Facebook Most Read... -
Quick Pic: Keep Your Ears Warm This Winter With A Hair Hat
6 Nov 2009 | 3:40 pmThis week, the temperature dropped enough for our ears to feel the cold. It’s time to bring out the hats and ear warmers but wouldn’t this “Hallowig” hair hat be a more, um, interesting way to keep toasty this winter? Knit yourself a new ‘do by... -
The Boob Tube: What’s On TV This Weekend
6 Nov 2009 | 3:30 pmSaturday “Dirty Jobs” on Discovery at 10:00 a.m. “Little House on the Prairie” on Hallmark at 11:00 a.m. “Stardust” on The Movie Channel at 11:25 a.m. “Fried Green Tomatoes” on Encore at 12:30 p.m. ”Scrubs” on Comedy at 1:00 p.m. “MTV Cribs”... -
Today’s Lady News: Marilyn Manson’s New Music Video Is Disturbing—Shocker!
6 Nov 2009 | 3:10 pmMarilyn Manson has an extremely disturbing new video for his song “Running To The Edge of the World” where he murders a bikini-clad woman who looks like his ex, Evan Rachel Wood. I guess it wasn’t enough for Marilyn to tell Spin after their breakup,...
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About.com Sexuality
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Doing It Decent - Hearing Your Parents Having Sex
3 Nov 2009 | 5:08 pmEvery other week Doing It Decent considers the ethics of a sexual situation from our readers. Grappling with a touchy sexual ethics issue? Send an email to sexuality.guide@about.com, and be sure to put DID in the subject line. All questions will be posted anonymously with identifying information removed. This week's question: Hearing Your Parents Having Sex My question is actually OPPOSITE of your last column about the lady hearing her son. I am 26 years old and a single mother of a 4 and a half-year-old son. Because of special circumstances my parents asked me to move back home to help them… -
Possible Treatment for Erectile Dysfunction Resulting from Priapism
2 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pmMuch more than a comedic story arc on your favorite hospital drama, priapism is a serious condition that remains a mystery to scientists and a curse for people who experience it. Recently researchers at the The University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston, with the help of some enzyme deficient mice, have discovered something that could lead to a better understanding of priapism, and to a preventative treatment for erectile dysfunction that often results from it. Primarily associated with men, priapism refers to prolonged erections lasting at least four hours, and usually more than… -
The Next Generation of Home Parties
2 Nov 2009 | 8:32 amChange comes to retail sex slowly. I got my first job in a sex shop in 1987 and over the almost quarter century I've been in the industry there's been a major change in the way retail sex shops present and provide services to customers. Much of the change has been superficial, but some of it hasn't. And what's most exciting about these changes is that they have come on the one hand from sexually progressive people entering the industry and on the other from consumers who are becoming more and more empowered to demand and expect quality products and good customer service. I haven't seen the… -
The Ethics of Choice, Revisited
1 Nov 2009 | 8:03 amI wish I could be in New York next Tuesday for this talk. There are so many ways that disability studies, and more broadly my colleagues, friends and partners with disabilities, have blown my mind around issues like sexuality, gender, and embodiment. One of my earliest "aha" moments (which to be honest felt more like an "oh sh-t" moment) was hearing Pat Israel, a Canadian disability activist, talk about her struggle to identify as disabled, feminist and pro-choice. The position of so many feminist health organizations, that a woman's right to choose must be absolute and unquestioned, serves… -
Youth, Sex, and Technology Conference
29 Oct 2009 | 5:27 pmThe call for proposals for the third annual Sex:Tech Conference focusing on youth, sexual health, and technology is almost over and as a regular attendee (and proud ISIS board member) I'm wondering if you've thought enough about what you might bring to Sex:Tech. One of the reasons the conference is so great is that there are always things and people you wouldn't expect and you don't get to meet or hear from at other conferences. I know the planning committee is open to unique proposals ("unique" in this context means more than just "no power point" just as "sexual health" means more than just…
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Having my cake and eating it too
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Disconnect
7 Nov 2009 | 2:07 am"I'm worried about Kitty. I'm worried about you and Kitty."I didn't see this at first but, Robert, when she talks about you now... She's a little detached, a little clinical.""Well, she's coping...""Or she's pulling away. Ive seen her do it. Right before she left for New York, she and my mother used to have these terrible knock down fights. They couldn't be in the same room together. And then -
HNT: Underworld
5 Nov 2009 | 2:53 amOf course you don't get the full effect without the leather trousers, the boots and the fabulous soft leather full length coat, but such is life and my self-timer just couldn't seem to get all of me in... so here's the leather basque.For non-mousers, click here -
Take It Bitch!
3 Nov 2009 | 2:30 amMr Vanilla Edge wrote a post last week that got me thinking.He ended with this:Some people enjoy the subjugation aspect of BDSM play. I’ve read of women getting so wet that they actually drip their lubrication when they think about past or upcoming scenes. I’ve read about men who go weak in the knees when thinking about being forced to serve under cruel, dominating women. Some men — and some -
Mute Monday: Classic Cakes
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Question Time: the BNP on Homosexuality and Immigration
1 Nov 2009 | 2:36 am'...I understand that a lot of people find the sight of two grown men kissing in public really creepy...'Nick Griffin, BNP, on Question Time October 2009This was the statement that confirmed for me why Nick Griffin has been getting so many votes.Even though his policies are indefensible to most educated people, he actually voices thoughts that many repress for fear of not being politically
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Ask Dan and Jennifer
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Sex Toys for Boys: Male Masturbators, Penis Pumps, and More (Video)
6 Nov 2009 | 7:33 amMale masturbators don’t get enough P.R. Everyone’s heard of vibrators, dildos, etc. for women. But there are actually some really great sex toys out there for guys to enjoy on their own or with a partner. We recently did a video on the 5 most popular sex toys and one in particular created lots of emails and questions – the “pink squishy”, a.k.a. the Super Head Honcho which is a male masturbator. So, we decided to do another video focused purely on the different types of male masturbators. Here are 5 of our favorites… “Have you ever tried a male… -
What Gives A Woman Sex Appeal?
3 Nov 2009 | 6:30 pmRecently I ran across a fellow relationship coach’s online sales copy for a membership site she offers to women. It promised all kinds of yummy things. Better sex, greater intimacy, your man looking at you the way he did when you first fell in love or, if you were single, men looking at you in ways they never did before. She delivered the invitation in a video that was smart, sexy, and charming. Stopping Sexual Manipulation Who wouldn’t want that? I wanted to know more, so I signed up for more information. Immediately, I got directed to another page with long sales copy and… -
Meet The Sexy New Breed Of Cougar Women
27 Oct 2009 | 5:00 pmCougars like their meat medium rare. That’s according to a new survey showing older woman who date younger men prefer their cubs between the ages of 24 and 29. The Cougar Report 2009, carried out by Cougared.com, a dating website targeted at older women and younger men, found that almost half of the women surveyed would prefer to date a man in the 24-29 age group. Men in their 30s are not too far over the hill though for prowling cougars – one third of women said they prefer men between 30 and 37 years old. Men outside these age groups hardly get a look in. Cougars would rather chase… -
The Problem With Pleasure
26 Oct 2009 | 5:00 pmThe problem with pleasure is nothing…except the interpretation we bring to it. Sometimes I think the only other topic with more confusion around it is that of money (i.e. the misreading of scripture that “money is the root of all evil”). From a similar, puritanical place we are taught that pleasure is synonymous with selfishness. That it degrades the spirit. That giving pleasure is better than receiving it. That we shouldn’t have too much fun because then something bad will happen. Different Kinds Of Pleasure There are aphorisms and superstitions around the topic of pleasure… -
Letterman Scandal Shines Light On Serial Adulterers
25 Oct 2009 | 5:00 pmAs news broke recently about David Letterman’s admitted relationships with women who worked for him, it points again to the fact that people in the spotlight tend to act out when stressed and pursue illicit relationships. The Letterman scandal was brought to light by a CBS newsman who originally tried to use the information as part of an extortion scheme. The man was apparently desperate and deeply in debt when he tried to blackmail the talk show host for two million dollars, forcing the late night comic to acknowledge having sex with some of the women who work for him. This…
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iVillage Love & Sex
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The Orgasmic French Kiss
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11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009
Did you make mistakes in your relationships in 2008 that you want to avoid in 2009? What did you do right that you want to keep doing? We asked the iVillage community for their relationship resolutions, and we hope they'll inspire a few of your own. -
Conversation Topics That Mean He Wants Sex
Is he trying to sleep with you? You may be able to tell just based on the conversations he starts! -
5 Tips for Staying at His Place
Sleeping at your place: Most men believe they can control the situation when in familiar surroundings, but that confidence can be both a blessing and a curse. -
Quiz: Are You A Great Date?
Do you make a good impression on dates? Take this quiz and find out if you have found the right balance between being too easy and too hard to please.
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Baggage Reclaim
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Do you understand the dynamics of your relationship?
6 Nov 2009 | 12:15 pmRecently when speaking and corresponding with readers, I’ve been emphasising the importance and impact of the dynamics of your relationship. As I’ve said again and again, we teach one another how to treat us and what to expect with the use (or absence) of boundaries, and as we engage with each other and time passes, the [...] -
NML’s 50 Thoughts about Relationships, Communication, & Emotional Unavailability – Part 4
29 Oct 2009 | 9:03 amFollowing on from parts one and two and three. 41. When we think or talk about something a lot and wish we could have said or done something different, often it’s because we had our control or right of reply removed. Mr Unavailable’s and assclowns, especially the narcissist sorts, are very good at removing your right [...] -
NML’s 50 Thoughts about Relationships, Communication, & Emotional Unavailability – Part 3
26 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amFollowing on from part one and two… 21. Men, well assclowns and Mr Unavailable’s certainly, have fairy tale ideas too. They build sandcastles in the sky and are seeking perfection and the moment that something pierces that ideal, they go off the boil and retreat to cold or lukewarm temperatures of behaviour. They believe that if [...] -
NML’s 50 Thoughts about Relationships, Communication, & Emotional Unavailability – Part 2
22 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amFollowing on from part one yesterday… 11. If you’re still talking about it, you’re still pissed off. Sometimes the other party assumes that an issue is ‘dealt with’ because you spoke about it with them and maybe they apologised. But if you’re still going on about the issue, it’s obviously not resolved. Either talk about it [...] -
NML’s 50 Thoughts about Relationships, Communication, & Emotional Unavailability
21 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amOn Monday I wrote about how my parents had taught me some valuable lessons over the past few months after a couple of run-ins with them that were uncomfortably reminiscent of some of my poor relationships. I am always learning from my own experiences and those of others, so I have jotted down some quick [...]
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Dating is Warfare
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The Declawed Cougar
21 Oct 2009 | 6:58 pmI know, I know. The whole "cougar" phenomenon has hit its peak and is on the rapid downhill pop culture slide. (Seriously, I just Googled 'cougar woman' and was blown away by the number of websites that specialize in helping younger guys hook up with adventurous "older" women or helping these "older" women be a better Cougar. Gross.) But since I have never been on the cusp of what's "hip" (I think I declared that Pearl Jam was actually "a pretty good band" around 1996), allow me to address the matter here. And it probably isn't going to be in the way you would expect. OK, here goes.I've been… -
To Friends and Foes
13 Oct 2009 | 12:38 pmHi readers (and apparently there still are some of you left, which is nice to know).First of all, I'd like to thank those of you who've sent me kind emails and left thoughtful comments on my last post. It warms my heart to think about how total strangers can connect so legitimately through a venue like this. So thanks.But I do feel the need to clarify a few things so you know where I am these days - and where I'm not.The Harsh CommentsAs far as I'm concerned, those come with the territory of putting my life out there on public (if anonymous) display. When they come, I read them over and then… -
A Roomful of Faces
15 Sep 2009 | 5:42 pmFirst allow me to set the stage.A crowded living room full of my mom's friends -- many of them the Yenta ones I've told you about before. Everyone's sitting in a circle, my mom at the head (it is her birthday party after all). Next to my mom is an empty chair and next to the empty chair is a woman with a warm eyes and a stack of books to sell. Every 5-8 minutes, someone from the circle gets up, walks across the the circle and sits down in the empty chair. All of this so the warm-eyed woman can stare at them for a few minutes and read their face.Yep, face reading. That's what my mom wanted to… -
And Seal it with a Tupperware Lid
9 Sep 2009 | 9:56 pmI realize as I write this blog entry that I'm going to make Wine Guy look like a saint. From the little he has read of this blog, this is what he dislikes the most - that he comes across far better than he actually is. I don't disagree with this. In fact, I often wish you all knew the non-saintly things WG does every single day. Like clip the dead skin on his heels in the dining room. Or ask me for the millionth time "Guess what?" just so he can reply "Chickenbutt."But, alas, I made a promise to myself (and to him) way back when I first told him about this blog that he need not worry - this… -
List of Laments
28 Aug 2009 | 2:20 amIt's 2:20am, I'm wide awake after two hours of fitful tossing and turning. What better way to sort out why than a blog entry? Due to the hour and my drowsy state of mind, allow me to list out the recent events of my life that are flashing around in my mind in a pitch black bedroom (Wine Guy peacefully snoring beside me).Within the last two weeks I have learned the following:1. Naval A-hole is married (as discussed here).2. I learned that Only Child got engaged (and, unlike the way it was with me, he actually sounds like he will go through with it. He even manned up and bought a ring this…
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LadyThrills.com
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Idiot of the Day - Denise Richards
26 Oct 2009 | 10:45 amIf you don't know what Twitter is exactly, please step away from the computer. Denise Richards wins the Idiot of the Day award for posting her private number on Twitter and then thinking she deleted it, when, in fact she did not. So the 1.28 million followers Denis Richards has on Twitter were probably calling her like mad. So now she changed her number and apologized for being such a doof. Read more at Celebitchy.com -
Channing Tatum Stripping Video
12 Aug 2009 | 6:57 amChanning Tatum is sexy as hell, even at 18, wearing a thong and lip syncing on stage, he proved that he was the man. And man does he have a package!We love you Channing Tatum!The song in the beginning is by Shai and is called "Comforter". -
Celebrity Flaw - Madonna Veiny Arms
27 Jul 2009 | 9:28 amWhat the hell happened to Madonna? Why does she look like her skeleton's on the outside?Somebody give this woman a hamburger, for the love of God! -
Tony Romo Dumps Jessica Simpson
13 Jul 2009 | 5:34 pmPoor Jessica Simpson is single again because Tony Romo dumped her ass now that his new season is about to begin. Jessica Simpson is now spending her time on Twitter and trying to land the covers of all the tabloids. Unfortunately, a little thing called Michael Jackson has monopolized the tabloids.Jessica Simpson is about to gain more weight than we have ever seen before. Unless of course, John Mayer decides to pay her a visit or two now that Tony Romo has given her her 4%.Hopefully, this won't translate into another awful country album on Jessica Simpson's part. And for her sake, I hope Tony… -
Celebrity Flaw of the Day - Mena Suvari Cellulite
8 Jul 2009 | 8:03 amAh yes, the cellulite is back and this time Mena Suvari is the carrier. Although from the front, Mena Suvari looks downright flawless, when baby girl turns around, she has the hamstrings of a cottage cheese mama. Now I'm not laughing it up while I write this, I feel for all women who just can't shake that orange peel away, but I do take comfort in the fact that even a boatload of money cannot take that cellulite away. Nevertheless, Mena Suvari is beautiful, with cellulite or without cellulite.
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The Principles of Pleasure
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BDSM for Beginners
2 Nov 2009 | 12:36 pmAs I mentioned before, we have some exciting web changes coming soon. Until then, we've all been seriously busy (sex) bees curating, creating, and coming up with new ways to connect with our lovely clientele (that's you). Here is little taste of what's to come in our expanded information and education sections of our website.BDSM for BeginnersYou’ve probably seen some form of BDSM depicted on television, in movies, or even snuck into an otherwise “vanilla” porno. Maybe it made you curious, maybe it turned you on, or maybe it turned your partner on and now you sleep with one eye open,… -
Big Bang in the Big Apple (Sorry, we had to go there)
16 Oct 2009 | 3:26 pmThe east coast leg of our Big Bang Sale kicks off tonight in our New York store with a FREE happy hour from 6-9 pm!Life in the big city can be fast and hard, and maybe you like it that way, but there's always time to catch a great deal. At the Big Bang Sale, you'll get at least 25% off every single item in the store and save even more on last chance items. Not to mention paying a visit to a major site of New York cultural history; The Rabbit episode of Sex and the City was filmed here!FREE happy hour cocktails Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evening from 6-9 pm. See you there! -
FREE Workshop Tonight at the Los Angeles Store!
30 Sep 2009 | 1:10 pmQueering Your Sex Wednesday, September 30th 8-10 pm, FREE!Geared toward all gender-variant, gender curious folks, or anyone looking to incorporate some type of gender or non-traditional power play into their sex. The class covers communication and negotiation, anatomy (including trans bodies), strapping it on, blowjobs on non-bio cocks, role-playing, and tips, tricks and toys for hot queer sex.This is a complimentary workshop with seats on a first come basis. Registration not necessary.Queering Your Sex is for everyone, and all gender and sexual identities are welcome. I'll be there… -
And the Bang goes on...
28 Sep 2009 | 12:06 pmWith barely a chance to catch our breath following the orgasmic success of the Big Bang Sale in LA, we're ready to bring the Bang to our Chicago store!We could totally make a joke right now about the windy city blowing even better this weekend, but we won't. Because we're classy.Join us on Friday 10/2 at 7 p.m. for a preview party with cocktails, DJ, and deals like 25% off the entire store, including products that have already been marked down, then get ready for Saturday 10/3 - Sunday 10/4 when the Pleasure Chest annual Big Bang Sale officially hits Chicago!And, as if October in Chicago… -
The Big Bang Sale is going to be, well, Bangin'!
22 Sep 2009 | 4:07 pmWe here at The Pleasure Chest wouldn’t necessarily call ourselves size queens, but we love big surprises and even bigger announcements. So, as you might imagine, it was pretty hard for us to keep our Big Bang Sale under wraps.We’re so excited we could burst! In fact, that’s the plan.Come in to the Los Angeles store Friday 9/25 – Sunday 9/27 to save an explosive 25% off everything in our store. Sale savvy folks will want to come in early for our sneak preview party on Thursday 9/24 starting at 7 p.m. with free cocktails and a DJ.There's going to be huge discounts on our products, and…
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Stiletto Diaries™
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No Roads Less Traveled Than The One We’re On
2 Nov 2009 | 1:05 pmI’ve hinted and mentioned here and there that Aiden and I have a certain amount of D/s in our relationship. For those of you who are maybe not familiar with the finer points of kink relationship dynamics, D/s refers to Domination and submission. One person in the relationship is the Dominant, and the other is the submissive. What that means exactly is different for everyone. Rather than go into a long and complicated explanation I will refer you here, to a page on D/s dynamics, and here, which is for those of you not familiar with BDSM in general. For the past month or so, he and… -
Harry Fucks Hermione. And Then Ron
31 Oct 2009 | 8:11 pmSo I’ve been bleeding for nine days now. Yes, NINE, which is four days longer than normal. This post is going to talk about blood, a lot, you have been warned. No, I’m not going to bitch and complain because it’s really not so bad. My period came early this month (the first cycle I’ve had since I had my IUD put in) which isn’t unusual for me. The unusual part was that it arrived without a single cramp. It started very lightly, and has continued to be maybe a quarter of the volume I usually deal with. Using a DivaCup* makes it really easy to keep track… -
Vancouver – Day 3 & Day 4
29 Oct 2009 | 6:33 amI woke up early Saturday morning, packed up my things, left a goodbye note for my siblings, who were sleeping off our late night out, and then walked to the 7-11 on the corner for a coffee. Caffeine in hand, I walked to the skytrain station, bought my ticket, and waited for my train. I got on the wrong one, but at least going the right direction, and took it to the next stop. I figured out which train I needed then and caught the right one on my second attempt. The skytrain ride was good. I drank my coffee, sent some pictures to Aiden, and watched people getting on and off at various… -
24 Inch Deluxe Leather Riding Crop Review
27 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amI am *really* behind on reviews, but better late than never I suppose. Anyway, to make up for the delay, I’m putting up some photos to go with this product, and it’s the first time in a loooooooooooooooooong time that I’ve included photos! The 24 Inch Deluxe Leather Riding Crop (also known around here as ‘the long-tip crop’) is, as you may have guessed, not really intended for use on horses. Except perhaps of the human variety, but that’s a topic for another post It is built differently than a standard crop, in that the tip is long and narrowish. -
The Things We Said – Do As You Are Told
24 Oct 2009 | 9:45 amJack: I’m going to go and get this shelf from Canadian Tire so that you can put it up Shasta: Sounds good, but I’m not going to put it up today Jack: Why not? Shasta: Because I’m tired Jack: Aiden, tell her that she HAS to put up the shelf, today! Shasta: Goddamnit Share this on del.icio.usDigg this!Share this on RedditStumble upon something good? Share it on StumbleUponShare this on TechnoratiPost this to MySpaceShare this on FacebookTweet This!Subscribe to the comments for this post?Add this to Google BookmarksShare this on FriendFeedSubmit this to…
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Mommy Has A Headache
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Her Imaginary Boyfriend
1 Nov 2009 | 7:13 amYesterday night my husband John, the kids and myself had been invited round to my friend Hannah’s house for trick or treating. But more exciting for me was the fact that I was finally going to meet Ed, her new boyfriend.Now Hannah has been dating this guy for four months so it is nothing short of a miracle that I haven’t met him yet. At first things were great between them. Unlike her last boyfriend who she found cheating on her she told me he seemed pathologically faithful from day one and declared love by around the first week mark. They shared the same taste in music and generally got… -
Knight Rider turns Shrink
28 Oct 2009 | 8:22 amNo, it's not April Fool's Day I swear. David Hasselhoff, of Knight Rider, Baywatch and America’s Got Talent fame is opening up his brain and allowing you the opportunity to dig deep into his legendary wisdom. Yes, The Hoff's BRAIN now has an IPhone application called Ask The Hoff which answers questions using pre-recorded responses from Hasselhoff while an animated version of the star is displayed.If you've ever wanted to access the Hoff's brain and I know I haven't you can now ask it questions about life and receive answers from a man who is known all around the world as the Californian… -
I Birthed a Closet Organiser
22 Oct 2009 | 8:34 am"Ah yes,and here at the end of the tour we come to the desk of the famous writer Emma Kaufmann who wrote many a bonkbuster at this desk. She claimed chaos fuelled her creativity."If you are wondering where I have gone I really am writing a novel - honest. The upside of writing a novel is it stops me from thinking about food 24/7 and I think I have already lost three pounds. The book is a black comedy murder mystery but I am keeping it very much under my hat at the moment. Writing a novel is quite good in so many ways because when your husband says, "Why is there only a dried carrot in the… -
Speaking In Tongues
13 Oct 2009 | 6:13 amPlease don't explode with excitement but I can now reveal the identity of the newest revolutionary sex toy. Yes The Sqweel Oral Sex Simulator is here!!! This new toy has ten tongues and can talk the language of love better than many men. The blurb says: "The sensational new patent-pending oral sex simulator has a wheel of ten teasing tongues that will lap you to orgasm time and time again. Sorry guys, you're not even needed for oral sex any more!"As you know I have been road testing this device and a lot of men may be saying:"Hoorah, no longer will I have to get carpal tunnel syndrome in my… -
Guess The Sex Toy
7 Oct 2009 | 6:45 amIf you're wondering what I've been up to recently I'm actually doing some important humanitarian work. I have been sent a revolutionary new sex toy that is NOT named after an animal (dolphin, chipmunk, alligator etc) which is going to be launched onto the UK market on October 13th and - it is claimed - will start an Orgasm Revolution. I will say this for it - it is different to any sex toy you have ever seen. I am meant to be trying it out but right now I am staring at it. It is still in its box and it looks a bit scary. Okay here I go. I'm unwrapping the box. Oh God what is it?I am not…
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Polyamory Weekly
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Poly Weekly #218: Poly in the UK
1 Nov 2009 | 8:39 pmGraham Nicholls on polyamory in the UK. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #217: Do the math
25 Oct 2009 | 8:22 pmDo the math. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 202-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #216: Is polygamy feminist?
18 Oct 2009 | 9:42 pmIs polygamy feminist? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #215: Christianity and Sexual Ethics
9 Oct 2009 | 2:58 amChristianity and sexual ethics--Simon LeClerk gives one view. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com. -
Poly Weekly #214: Objectumsexuals
4 Oct 2009 | 3:53 pmObjectumsexuals. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or visit www.polyweekly.com
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Savvy Miss Love & Sex
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Top 10 Reasons to Tie the Knot
5 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amWalking down the aisle can be daunting, but there are some definite perks. Here are the top 10 reasons to tie the knot.10. You’ll always have someone to bring you chicken soup when you’re sick in bed.9. You’ll have two sets of parents to give you holiday gifts.8. You’ll never have to ask, “So,... -
What His Age Means for Your Relationship
3 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amCan you make a relationship work despite an age gap? Find out the pros and cons of dating a significantly younger or older partner. -
The Relationship Middle Ground: Where Is This Going?
27 Oct 2009 | 12:00 amBetween dating and a full-blown relationship, there’s always an awkward period where you’re not sure how to act. Should you answer his phone, buy him a gift? We help you decide. -
After the Wedding: How to Adjust to Married Life
4 Oct 2009 | 12:00 amSometimes couples get so wrapped up planning the wedding; they forget about the actual marriage. Married life isn’t all cozy dinners and regular sex; it’s also a lot of compromise and communication. So what are the newly-wed hurdles and how will we get through them? Compromise.The word sounds... -
Top 10 Things Every Single Gal Must Experience
22 Sep 2009 | 12:00 amThe other day my girlfriend called up to regale me with yet another of her single and fabulous stories. This one involved cocktails, a hot tub and a couple of sexy strangers. It reminded me of my own single days, and for that matter my own pair of sexy strangers. After we hung up, I got to thinking...
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San Francisco Sex Information
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Didn’t have sex, but still worried about pregnancy…
4 Nov 2009 | 8:48 pmQ: I’ve read your FAQ and read that, “It is almost impossible for a woman to become pregnant from a man ejaculating on her clothing or near her underwater. ” My situation is that I’ve never had direct genital contact with my boyfriend (no penetration, no rubbing genitals, no nothing). However, I’ve masturbated him, and although after his ejaculation was always on his body (and never near me), and that we have always washed our hands with water and soap afterward, not always did we wash his penis. We did wipe it dry though, and put it back in his pants. I’m… -
Why can’t I orgasm?
21 Oct 2009 | 7:51 pmQ: I’ve never had an orgasm. I’ve tried masturbation, and what I try that isn’t painful, is ineffective. The only two times I’ve had sex have been very painful and not enjoyable. I’ve had oral sex with a couple of guys and nothing has made me climax. I’m thinking that much of it could be psychological. I felt ashamed after a guy has given me oral sex. I’ve had weight and body image issues for a long time, and have always refused to have sex while being overweight. But I still have always been afraid that there is something anatomically or psychically… -
The best STD test answers ever!
14 Oct 2009 | 7:21 pmQ: I’m trying to find accurate and consistent window periods for testing for various STDs as well as how long it takes to get results. Unfortunately, this information seems to be very hard to find at all and sometimes conflicting when I do find it. I know this will vary from state to state, clinic to clinic Of greatest concern is the time it takes to get results. Please give me information for all the common STDs. Thanks. A: Here are our best answers, broken down by disease. > Chlamydia – standard used to be a bacterial culture (takes a few days to come back), but more common… -
I had a dream I kissed a girl. Am I bisexual?
7 Oct 2009 | 7:57 pmQ: I am 14 years old and last night I had a dream about me hooking up (majorly) with another girl. I have never properly kissed either a guy or a girl but I had this really intense dream which makes me think. Am I in denial? Am I actually a bisexual or even a lesbian? I’ve always thought it would be interesting to kiss a girl as well, just to say I have done it. But I think I would rather do the whole guy thing. Can you please help me? A: Aren’t dreams amazing? So, what you have experienced is only a dream. Just as simple as that. There’s nothing wrong with feeling… -
What is the actual size for a 14 year old boys penis?
30 Sep 2009 | 7:29 pmQ: What is the actual size for a 14 year old boy’s penis? A: Thank you for your question. The length and circumference of the penis of boys will change as they grow older and go through puberty. Puberty is the process of physical changes by which a child’s body becomes an adult body capable of reproduction. Puberty will occur at different ages for different boys, for some it can start as early as 9 and for others not until 14 or even later. Two fourteen years old boys can have penis sizes that are significantly different. Some boys will not have achieve their adult size penis…
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Beyond the Birds & the Bees
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Tricks, Treats and Sexiness
5 Nov 2009 | 9:42 amThis past weekend, teens celebrated Halloween—the “sweetest” time of year with candy, mischief, scary spirits—and sexy costumes?! For some teen girls, Halloween is a fun, harmless opportunity to take exciting risks. From “naughty schoolgirls” to “sexy cops,” girls dressed up in provocative outfits to flaunt their wild sides and show off their bodies. Teens who normally aren’t all caught up in being sexy chose to wear revealing costumes that were tinier, tighter and shorter than ever. A recent article from the campus newspaper at Northwestern… -
Teen, Supermodel, Covergirl….and Pregnant
30 Oct 2009 | 12:21 pmThe cover of the November issue of Teen Vogue pictures 19-year-old Jourdan Dunn and 18-year-old Chanel Iman along with the cover line “Teen Supermodels Jourdan and Chanel on Their Rise to the Top.” Inside the magazine, Jourdan and Chanel talk about their careers as supermodels, but it’s what Jourdan reveals that’s got people talking. Jourdan is expecting a baby sometime this December and her boyfriend, mother and modeling agency are supportive of her. There was some debate at Teen Vogue, as to whether the magazine should still run the cover after they found out… -
Gardasil…What About the Guys?
26 Oct 2009 | 12:04 pmWith the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approval of the vaccine Gardasilin 2006, girls can now protect themselves against the strains of human papillomavirus (HPV) that cause many cases of cervical, vaginal and vulvar cancer, as well as genital warts. But, what about the guys? Recently, Gardasil was approved for boys, and an advisory panel from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), following the FDA approval, said that doctors are free to recommend the vaccine to boys. But saying that doctors are free to recommend the vaccine to boys is very different from their… -
Teen Relationships with Facebook: It’s Complicated
16 Oct 2009 | 10:59 amTaylor and Alex are now an item. They’re making it “official” by declaring it on Facebook. Thank goodness your news feed keeps you up-to-date on all the latest, right? You wouldn’t want to be the last one to know. But, really, how are Facebook and other popular social networking sites changing teen relationships? From boldly stating your interest in people of certain genders to declaring your relationship status, social networking sites make our relationships very public. With a simple click or an update to our information, whole networks of friends (and random people we’re virtual… -
Gender Discrimination Is Us?
9 Oct 2009 | 2:10 pmPretty pink princesses or muscle-bound superheroes? Monster trucks or sparkly ponies? Go into just about any toy store, and you’ll notice that half of it is pink with toys for girls and the other half has brightly colored toys meant for boys. Is that really fair? Does our gender really have all that much to do with what kinds of toys we should like? A group of sixth graders in Sweden don’t think so. The students had been learning about gender roles in school and felt that the 2008 Toys “Я” Us Christmas catalog portrayed outdated gender images by having girls and boys…
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Midwest Teen Sex Show
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MTSS introduces Blue Movies
26 Oct 2009 | 4:32 pmNikol introduces the new comedy series Blue Movies. It's about porn. -
MTSS 25: Prom (Full Episode)
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MTSS 25: Prom (Teaser)
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MTSS 24: Condoms (Full Episode)
8 Apr 2009 | 4:57 pmNo matter how many times youâve seen the banana demo, itâs not the same as putting one on a boner. -
MTSS and KoldCast.TV Are Still Dating
24 Mar 2009 | 8:31 amBritney and Neil brainstorm a new video to promote the continued sponsorship from KoldCast.TV.
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Simple Marriage
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Do You Just Want To Be Happy?
5 Nov 2009 | 8:07 amAt the beginning of 2009, I wrote this post – What’s Your Big Idea? In it, I discussed my reaction to Steve and Erin Pavlina’s decision to explore the realm of a polyamorous marriage. For those not familiar with this term, polyamory is the practice or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of all involved. If you’re relatively new to Simple Marriage, I’d suggest you follow this link and read the post before proceeding. See you again in a few minutes. Okay, now that you’re back, allow me to give… -
Why you shouldn’t have the goal of “I just want to be happy”
4 Nov 2009 | 6:08 amIt’s too vague and elusive. Photo courtesy lilit Want more? A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Check out the Simple Marriage Community. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. No related posts. -
Two New Free Marriage Courses
2 Nov 2009 | 3:39 pmLast week I announced the addition of a new area here at Simple Marriage – Free Marriage Courses. The launch began with a course on Communication in Marriage. Now there are two new courses: Let’s Talk About Sex and Family Life and Parenting. Follow this link to find out more. Enjoy. Want more? A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Check out the Simple Marriage Community. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. Related posts:What Do You Know About Sex?13 Ways To Make Your Spouse Hate SexHow Pornography Impacts Marriage… -
In One Word – Marriage Is …
29 Oct 2009 | 5:02 pmThis ask the readers question was posed at the beginning of summer. It received some great responses. Now I’d like to narrow the replies down even more … to one word. So here you go - In one word, Marriage is … Photo courtesy pedrosimoes7 Want more? A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Check out the Simple Marriage Community. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. Related posts:Could Too Much Sex Negatively Impact Your Marriage?8 Principles for a Zen MarriageIf Your Marriage Were A Movie, Would You Want To Go… -
Improve Your Marriage and Life by Eating Slower
28 Oct 2009 | 7:22 amOne of the problems in our daily lives is that many of us rush through the day, with no time for anything … and when we have time to get a bite to eat, we gobble it down. That leads to stressful, unhealthy living. And with the simple but powerful act of eating slower, we can begin to reverse that lifestyle immediately. How hard is it? You take smaller bites, you chew each bite slower and longer, and you enjoy your meal longer. It takes a few minutes extra each meal, and yet it can have profound effects. As we head into the Holiday season, where food is often prevalent, if you slow down when…
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Honey and Lance
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Keeping it Real vs. Playing the Game
3 Nov 2009 | 6:49 pmI recently asked a question on the Ask Penelope group on brazencareerist.com: Will a girl come over to my house for dinner on a first date? Versus meeting for drinks? I’m trying to keep it real and skip the BS. What I thought was basically an innocuous question (okay, a little provocative…hey, it’s me) got me massacred on the forum and again on comments in Honey’s post How Safe is Too Safe? Which was totally fine because it got everyone thinking. A little background. I communicated with this girl on Match.com, we emailed back and forth, and it turned out she worked at… -
Vacation Planning and Other Updates
3 Nov 2009 | 12:10 pmWell I don’t know about you all, but this week keeps getting better and better. State Fair Fun Saturday we decided to go to the Arizona State Fair. This was, I think, the third year in a row that we’ve gone, and as usual we had a great time! We did some of the rides and games, Jake bought me a new semiprecious stone for a metal torque/choker that he’d bought me at the same booth last year (I’m liking this tradition), and – the theme of this year’s fair visit – ate everything in sight. Yum, food. In addition to $8 drafts of Bud Light (!) we had… -
How Safe is Too Safe? Or, Lance Blows Up Brazen Careerist
30 Oct 2009 | 11:05 amSo, Lance blew up the comments in the “Ask Penelope Trunk!” chatter section – check it out on Brazen Careerist, and then sign up if you didn’t after reading his review of the updated site. Similar to dadshouse’s entry on how a woman he met online didn’t want to meet up for a hike on a first date, Lance’s date refused to come over and let him cook dinner for her at his house. Like DM, Lance is frustrated by the fact that women feel unsafe in their initial encounters, largely because it either leads to “sipping Bud Lights while we stare at each… -
Negotiation: Get What You Want By Giving
29 Oct 2009 | 5:02 pmThe second of the two presentations at the professional development conference I attended last week (you can read about the first one, “recession-proofing your personal relationships,” here) was on negotiating. Now, the conference was sponsored by a woman’s professional organization, so that’s what the focus (and most of the supporting anecdotes) was on, but I think there’s value in it regardless of your gender. “Hard” versus “Soft” Negotiating This is one of the core principles of the well-known book Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher and… -
1901
28 Oct 2009 | 12:52 pmThis song is my frickin’ jam right now: © Copyright 2009, Reckless Abandon, LLC. All rights reserved.
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Ellie Lumpesse: A Pretentious Pervert
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Light
29 Oct 2009 | 4:01 pmI’m on my knees in front of him and looking up. There is dim light streaming in the windows. I’d like to think it is the moon but it is most likely the sub-division street lights casting this cool tint on the moment. Regardless of the source, he looks painfully hot. I can feel myself get wetter as I slide my mouth over his cock and crane my neck to catch his expression. Perfect. That look on his face and the way he bites his lower lip and the catch of his breath making the only sound in this room. His eyes are closed but I keep my gaze trained on him. Eventually he opens his eyes… -
(this post is hardly about) Dark Odyssey Summer Camp
21 Oct 2009 | 10:36 amI went to camp last month and had a very important time. It took several weeks for the bruises to fade but I’m still processing the self-discovery. I entered camp strongly suspecting that it would be my last foray into non-monogamy for awhile. Incidentally, I didn’t have a lot of sex. I spent most of my play time getting punched and beaten by lovely people. I also made some personal connections that I hope will persist. No one has asked me to be monogamous but after being pretty roughed up in my last relationships, I’m starting to think that polyamory and all that goes with… -
What’s to love?
8 Sep 2009 | 8:55 pmAs I focus on some key transitions in my life, I’m nurturing a new relationship. When I first mentioned Mr. Vanilla I described him as not being emotionally available. While our connection has grown and solidified in the two months that we’ve been dating, we’re both hesitant to box it in with labels. Notably, for me at least, love can be a terrifying word. In my past, less healthy, relationships that emotion has represented a willingness to sell myself terribly short and subjugate my own needs and well-being in incredibly harmful ways. Feeling loved and loving has caused me… -
Summer
21 Jul 2009 | 8:16 pmMr. Vanilla is an incredibly normal guy. He has a massive collection of relatively mainstream music. He has an average career. He isn’t a pervert. He isn’t emotionally overwrought (or even emotionally available, for that matter). Mr. Vanilla and I have gone on half a dozen pretty normal and average dates. Drinks, coffee, dinner, movies at home, a stroll on the beach. Mr. Vanilla is gentle when he touches me. He is not passive or unconfident, just deliberately gentle. He has reminded me that a soft, subtle touch can be just as controlling as a rough or painful one. Yesterday Mr. -
Independence
5 Jul 2009 | 6:23 pmI’ve had a hard month. Without going into too much detail, Michael said the following statements to me all in the course of a single day: “I love you more today than I ever have.” “If I were making choices based on who makes me happiest or who I love more, I would stay with you.” “I believe you may be the greatest love of my life and I don’t think I’ll ever get over you.” “I cannot be with you anymore.” The last one seems like a bit of a contradiction and it was. I thrashed around in supreme pain for a few weeks. I was…
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Girl with a one-track mind
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Hello
30 Oct 2009 | 10:17 amI'm still here, just been very, very busy. I have at least half a dozen almost-finished blog posts sitting on my laptop which I will publish as soon as I get the chance. I'm only human, so cut me... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Wand
3 Aug 2009 | 8:23 amAs regular readers will know, I only rarely plug products on this blog. Mostly this is because –a) Sexbloggers' reviews of sex toys are dull as fuck to read;b) Many sex toys are crap and not worth... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Kiss
14 Jul 2009 | 5:23 amThe first time I met him face-to-face I wanted to kiss him.Actually, I had wanted to kiss him for some weeks; each conversation we had over email, IM, or Skype increased my desire, so that by the... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Contribute
29 Jun 2009 | 11:56 am1. You may recall that I'm an ambassador for the young people's sexual health charity Brook. Some Brook employees are running the London 10K race next weekend (I am not able to join them, sadly, due... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Integrity
21 Jun 2009 | 10:07 amLet us be clear: this is not a fight between 'old' and 'new' media. This not about blogger vengeance or a mob mentality wanting to lay in to print media. This is about journalistic integrity,... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content.
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LUSTY LADY
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Free 24-karat gold vibrator 11/19 courtesy of JimmyJane
6 Nov 2009 | 9:33 amSince I know tonight's double header (Bluestockings/Fontana's, see below) action won't be enough and, you kow, I will also be celebrating turning 34...please join us for this extra special night November 19th. 10 readers, 300 cupcakes, 1 gold vibrator, and lots more prizes!Yes, it's true, in addition to tons of other prizes and 10 fabulous readers, we are giving away a $325-value 24-karat gold Little Gold vibrator at the 4-year anniversary party/reading at In The Flesh Reading Series on November 19th courtesy of JimmyJane! One lucky winner will get to take this valuable sex toy home. Here's… -
Call for Submissions: Naked
5 Nov 2009 | 7:25 amPutting these in separate posts for ease of linking. I also very much need stories for this book, but the deadline isn't until January 1st.Call for SubmissionsNakedTo be edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel and published by Cleis Press in Fall 2010Deadline: January 1, 2010Female authors only as this is a book of women’s erotica. This book of erotica by women will focus on the theme of being naked in some way and should be told from a female POV, first, second or third person. How you interpret that is up to you; literal nudity, being emotionally naked, voyeurism, exhibitionism, body piercings,… -
Orgasmic deadline extended to November 15th
5 Nov 2009 | 7:01 amI got some great stories in for my women's erotica anthology Orgasmic, and am still reading, but need some more juicy stories. I have a lot of sex toys so unless it's something creative/non-traditional (like it could be a sex machine, but not a rabbit vibrator) then I'd go in another direction. Hot, original, fun, creative. I'd like to see a few more couples, varied settings, etc. Happy writing!OrgasmicTo be edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel and published by Cleis Press in Fall 2010Deadline: November 1, 2009Female authors only as this is a book of women’s erotica. This book of erotica by women… -
Support Leibya Rogers...because her nipples taste like tofu
4 Nov 2009 | 3:48 pmI mean, how can you not love a woman who sings "Katie Holmes you need a little Leibya?" She's trying to raise $3,000 by December 23rd through Kickstarter, all of which is explained above. You pledge and nobody gets charged until she meets her goal. You can donate as little as $1. Watch the video below for "Leibya Spells Freedom" (directed by Sara Schaefer!) - isn't that worth it? (FYI, I have seen Jewel in concert and used to go to Lilith Fair and have Ani DiFranco CDs, but I love Leibya's/Mindy's take on all of this. And tofu. "All vegans will go to heaven." Love it!) -
"My First Play Party" - live reading this Friday at Bluestockings
4 Nov 2009 | 3:27 pmNot my actual first play party, but my fictional story of the same name from Where the Girls Are: Urban Lesbian Erotica, edited by D.L. King. I'll be reading from it Friday night at 7 at Bluestockings, 72 Allen Street, before heading over to Fontana's to flash my boobs/sign sex blogger calendars.Here's a snippet from the story:“This is Beth,” Marcy said, then ordered me to turn around. I got it right away—they were getting introduced to me, but I wasn’t getting introduced to them, except to learn immediately that they were tops, and I was not.“What’s she got under there?” one of…
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violet blue ® :: open source sex
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gratuitous sex research pr0n
4 Nov 2009 | 2:53 pmImage by Julia Skobeleva. When you’re a sex educator, lecturer, researcher and all-around sex geek, data and research related to sexuality is its own pornography. I can never seem to get enough — it’s so fascinating, titillating, the information itself is totally irresistible. For a sex research perv like me, the October 2009 (Volume 12, No. 5) special issue of Sexualities [journal] is a double whammy to be savored like a long, lazy afternoon with a lover. Why? The topic is “Researching and Teaching the Sexually Explicit” edited by Edited by Feona Attwood and… -
tiny nibbles: best online sex resource for women! (Self Magazine)
3 Nov 2009 | 3:01 amSelf-portrait by Tatiana Reis. Exciting news! Tiny Nibbles is named among the just-announced Self Magazine’s “Best Sex Resources for Women” — only nine were chosen, and the accolade is so fantastic to receive. It feels *so good* to be recognized for all the hard work putting all these resources together, plus the ongoing dedication to staying ahead of the curve with everything sex, from news to health and erotic entertainment… and more. Thank you! This is a great opportunity to point out that I just did a huge overhaul of the Links (linklove) page which now… -
sadly, when it comes to punishing teens for sexual behavior online, this story has it all
1 Nov 2009 | 1:39 amImage by Modern Citizen. I should be asleep. Outside I can hear the Castro going off with Halloween revelry. Tomorrow I’ll be on a plane with dotBen, tagging along as he goes to a conference and I take a writing holiday (that’s a vacation, which I have not had one of for three years, but during which I plan to write). Still, this story can’t sit. Not for me, anyway. Astute and articulate reader M writes the intro better than I can, saying “I hope you don’t check your business email too much over the weekend and get bummed out by this in the middle of it. -
happy Halloween: sexy movies for staying in
31 Oct 2009 | 8:45 pmImage by Randem. …or for a spooky sexy Sunday. I’ll be offline for a while tomorrow, so try to behave yourselves. After my last column about putting the sex back into vamps, a number of people emailed me with sexy vampire movie and book suggestions — some are new and strange, some are classics, here is a sample: * “”Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter,” a little-known film where Jesus is resurrected in Toronto to save the lesbian population from vampires that have decimated it.” * “My submission is “Blood & Donuts”. Odd, intense, (sadly… -
pre-Halloween shenanigans
31 Oct 2009 | 8:16 pmOw, my head. Still. I think tonight I’ll stay in and watch movies… Last night was a blast! * Here’s Scott Beale / Laughing Squid’s post and superb photos from the shenanigans: Pre-Halloween at the Blogger Bungalow III (laughingsquid.com). * Here is my photoset on Flickr (flickr.com). * There’s a very short video of me in my zombie cheerleader outfit here (12seconds.tv). Big, big thanks to our two dedicated, amazing, sweet female assistants — Tina Horn and Zhaira. Below is the lovely Ms. Horn.
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Cherry TV - "Juicy Talk for Women"
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A Discussion On Orgasms
2 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pmToday"s featured video is A Discussion On Orgasms. While a male orgasm is seemingly the same in spite of the situation, the female orgasm has a range of intensities and types (clitoral, g-spot, vaginal). Here the women discuss the difference between reaching orgasm via masturbation and with a partner. watch video -
In and Out of Rhythm
25 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is In and Out of Rhythm. A factor of good sex is rhythm -- the way two bodies move together. When it's on, and the couple moves as one, it feels great for both. When it's off, and each is moving to their own rhythm, the connection is diminished. Can it be helped? Listen in. watch video -
Masturbation/Big O Connection
11 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Masturbation/Big O Connection. Many women experience orgasm during sex without having masturbated, but it tends to be more difficult. Masturbation helps us figure out how we like to be stimulated, what feels good, and what orgasm feels like. Here the women discuss their experience. watch video -
Dating A Friend's Ex, Plus
1 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Dating A Friend's Ex, Plus. How long do we have to wait before we can go out with a friend's ex-boyfriend? Some say never, others say a year. Are there any rules? The women discuss along with stories about not recognizing their sexual rights. watch video -
Lost In Our Vagina
8 Sep 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Lost In Our Vagina. Here is an extra-long clip from our sexual mishap show in which the girls talk about missing condoms and tampons. As you'll hear, it's happened to a lot of us, and we all have different ways to deal with it watch video
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Savage Love Podcast
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Savage Love Episode 159
3 Nov 2009 | 4:00 amSexual allergies: Can sex make you sneeze? Learn something new about your nose. When doling out wedding invitations, a caller wonders if he should include the third partner of a polyamorous couple. Mustache musk: A man's lover has stank in his 'stache. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by DigitalDesire.com. -
Savage Love Episode 158
27 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amHe's fat and won't lose weight for her. If he won't shape up, should she ship out? His latest hookup is still in the closet. Should he keep fucking him or drag him out? Her boyfriend is going bald. Should she dump him now before he becomes Dr. Phil? That's cold. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 157
20 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amA college sex educator is horrified to hear that one of her students is planning on hooking up with a sadistic psychopath. Should she offer to chaperone? Mother? I'd like to tell you all about my polyamorous new relationship! How can a man tell his girlfriend that he's planning on donating sperm to his best friend so she can have a child? And you think your life is complicated? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by DigitalDesire.com. This episode was brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 156
13 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amSure, you give advice to married men, but who speaks for the piece on the side? Is it safe to shift from anal to vaginal sex? A bi man into three-ways, four-ways, and double penetration battles his girlfriend's creeping regret. And more. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 155
6 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amA woman loves fucking a man who's convinced she's going to hell. A man broke his cock whilst betwix his lady's legs in the shower. Is it time to see a doctor? Ever seen a dick that looks like a soup can? Well HAVE YOU? Don't stew. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by DigitalDesire.com. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage.
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Successful Online Dating
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Is He Interested? Basic Body Language
4 Nov 2009 | 7:07 amDuring the first few dates, it’s often a little nerve wracking trying to figure out just where you stand. Act too interested, you scare the other person away, act too aloof and you hurt their feelings. So how can you find out if the other person is interested without asking outright? While there’s nothing wrong with open communication, sometimes a little reassurance is a good thing. Here are a few of the non-verbal cues that can tell you how your date, man or woman feels about you: Smiles – Seriously, this one should be a no brainer, but there is always the nervous smile. You know a… -
No Spark, No Hope? No Way!
31 Oct 2009 | 10:05 amI had a date the other night with a guy I met on OkCupid.com. According to his online profile, we have a ton of things in common. It was hard to tell about his physical appearance from the photos, but the conversation was good online, so we progressed to text messages, and soon had plans for a Saturday night. Now one thing you need to know about me, is I am always decidedly unexcited about a first date. I become a terrible pessimist. So when I was telling my friends about it, I sounded less enthusiastic then I do before a dentist appointment. So I found all the things I didn’t like in his… -
What Does Your Profile Say About You?
9 Sep 2009 | 8:42 amThe hardest first step in any online dating venture is writing your profile. How do you, in limited words, define who you are? How do you enumerate all of your wonderful values without sounding cocky or unrealistic? How honest about your flaws should you be? Your Dating Resume I consider a profile to be a “dating resume.” Now, that doesn’t mean I list the dates of all my past relationships and explain any gaps between boyfriends! That would just be crazy. Instead, I try to outline the reasons I’m an amazing catch – but with a focus on the type of guy I want to meet. Just like I have… -
Watch Out for Local Singles LOL
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Advice for Guys
26 Aug 2009 | 7:49 pmHow to Keep a Girlfriend: Wise eight-year-old boy to brother: Getting a girlfriend is the easy part. But you have to know how to keep them. Attentive six-year-old: How do you get them to stay? Wise eight-year-old: You have to find out what kind of food they like to eat. And give them a plastic unicorn… (…a random Internet find)
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Very Smart Brothas
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hay season: the people, places, and things that make me itch
5 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmalong with unusual virility, and a head shaped like the working end of a cruise missile, my parents passed an acute sensitivity to idiocy on to me. as i’ve grown older, these sensitivities have become so concentrated and pronounced that i can now honestly say that i’m seriously allergic to bullsh*t. this affliction is extremely troublesome, as it causes me to start itching uncontrollably whenever i’m in the presence of or a witness to it. in fact, just last week i almost scratched my entire left forearm off when trying to listen to “ghetto techno” all the way… -
12 things about sex i’ve learned since becoming an adult
4 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmt-shirt worn by new black superhero, “the optimist” i felt myself overcome with a sudden sense of relief and contentment yesterday afternoon while reading two articles (”crying after sex, really” and “what brings you to the big o?“) and the accompanying comments you see, as a grown man, i felt that i should be a expert by now on the female orgasm. i mean, (i think that) i’ve seen them and (hope that) i’ve been an active part in inducing them, but if i were coaching a sex team and was asked by my players to diagram a female orgasm play for an… -
nothing but the truth
3 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmimagine that you’re in a perfectly happy relationship. but, a deadly combination of an unusually stressful week (you just got demoted at work for a monkey. not a figurative monkey either. your boss decided that placing a real, live monkey in your old position would be more productive than keeping you there. and, after a couple of days, you realized that he was right. plus, you’re a redskins fan, and the monkey oddly favors jason campbell), an unusually compassionate blind blasian stripper, and an unusually strong ultimate zombie pushed you off the cheating cliff once three months… -
milk was a bad choice: 10 signs that you’re in a sh*tty relationship
2 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmit usually doesn’t start this way. it probably began with the same passion, enthusiastic spontaneity, unbridled optimism, and unprompted sunday bj’s synonymous with most happy couples. you liked each other, alot, and still actually do on wednesdays, but somewhere along the line your joyful coupling turned into a joyless abyss of unrelentingly sh*tty sh*ttyness. thing is, like most of us, you probably didn’t realize exactly how terrible your relationship was until you got out of it. sure, everyone else could see it, but you were too blinded by your investment and occasional… -
lost in translation: what men usually hear when women are talking to us
1 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmin his most devoted attempt to fight crime, the champ debuted the compass in may, providing the women of vsb with an infallible guide to decipher what men really mean when we’re talking to them. despite his efforts, crime has continued and nicky minaj is still alive, heart-breaking facts inspiring the champ to clear the lines of communication a bit more with the vsb guide to what smart men usually hear when women are talking to us because sometimes the distance between what you say and what we actually hear is farther apart than shaq’s eyes. “we need to…
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Seasoned Sex ~ Sex and The Older Woman
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Female Hormones and Weight Gain
22 Oct 2009 | 1:58 pmCalling all chubby cougars. Here’s weight loss help! Everything you need to know about female hormones and weight gain. Recently, I got invited to a cougar-themed birthday party. The birthday girl was turning 40 and wanted to celebrate her finally qualifying for the club that has more fun (the cougar club–what else?) by forcing all her friends to wear animal prints and behave very badly. So far, so good, right? Except for when I arrived and scoped out the “jungle scene,” I couldn’t help but notice that most of the cougars were, well, on the chubby side. Okay, they were… -
Why Women Have Sex
20 Oct 2009 | 5:33 pmLOTS OF REASONS TO HAVE SEX. FEWER MEN. What is good sex for? I’ve asked myself that a million times and come up with the uninspired answer—it feels good. Thankfully there is now real research providing hundreds of more reasons, some even surprising. All of which explains why sex gets so complicated for women especially—we ask a lot from it. As reported in Time on October 6, Cindy Meston and David Buss, psychologists at the University of Texas, interviewed over 1,000 women around the world for their book Why Women Have Sex. They list 237 reasons, with the most frequent including:… -
The Truth About Male Escorts
9 Oct 2009 | 10:35 amFREE RANGE COCK. I know, I know. You’re just dying to find out what it’s like to go out with a male escort—to have a “date” completely on your terms. Of course, you’re also curious to discover just what the draw is from the customer’s point of view for, allegedly, the oldest profession in the world (prostitution, which for the most part, has put women on the service provider side the equation). Now before you get your fingers all covered in chocolate, I don’t mean to imply that all male escorts are gigolos (for more on male escorts, see my earlier post). -
If Your Depression Could Talk…
29 Sep 2009 | 11:05 amI was talking with my Ma the other day about my relationships. She was a little sad, worried even, that I was single yet again, having recently broken up with Michael (my ex-cub, 19 years my junior). It was the yet again part that got to me—as in, I’ve blown it yet again, as in I’ve wasted time yet again, as in I’ll be whining and sobbing about being single and alone yet again. Not that my Ma said any of this. It’s just that I beat myself up when things don’t go the way I think they should—which is, if I’m being honest, all the time. Then I had this other thought. While… -
My Gray Hair Makeover
23 Sep 2009 | 11:41 amIt recently became clear to me that I am staking too much on a new haircut. Now that I’ve broken up with my cub, I feel I need a new beginning, a “freshened up look,” as my Mom would say. Can a new haircut really give you a new lease on life? I was about to find out. Dylan's Barbershop, Where My Reinvention Began. (Photo by Craig Alexander) I’d been inclining towards a change for a while now. The first stage was to cut my long hair to just above my shoulders. I’d grown it long so I didn’t have to worry about regular cuts. I’d also been dying it a…
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The Reverse Cowgirl
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A New Blog
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They Shoot Porn Stars, Don't They?
13 Oct 2009 | 6:15 amToday marks the debut of "They Shoot Porn Stars, Don't They?," a text-and-photo essay about the adult movie industry and the recession.Originally, I wrote it for a publication, but I subsequently pulled it. When no other publication expressed an interest in publishing it, I decided to self-publish it.The site was designed and illustrated by the talented Chris Bishop, who created the infamous -
Break
27 Jul 2009 | 5:09 amI'm going to take a break from blogging for a while. If you would like to follow my activities, you can do so by way of my Twitter. -
Home
24 Jul 2009 | 8:15 amArtist Molly Peck bid on and won my Significant Object story. This is a photo of the Significant Object at its new home. If stories are children looking for adoption, this one has a happy ending. -
The First Line
23 Jul 2009 | 5:09 pmAt 12:01 p.m., Special Agent Xerxes Xavier Jr., 34, begins to rise from behind his cluttered desk in his cramped and overcrowded office inside the J. Edgar Hoover Building at 935 Pennsylvania Avenue, pushing the metal chair away from himself, and the green vinyl seat cushion lets out a thin hisssss! from the depression that he has left behind. -- the first line of my novel, Nothing Is Real but
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YourTango
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5 Male-Suggested Road Trip Must-Haves
6 Nov 2009 | 1:45 pmTaking a road trip with a lover is sometimes as precarious as a first date. Say or do the wrong thing—or forget to bring a proper caseload of snacks—and you're in trouble. While it's clear that some things should be utterly avoided on the road—like discussing whether dating for two months makes things "exclusive"—other major tragedies in coupledom can be avoided if you follow a few helpful tips.Keywords: couple, men, road trip, taken, travel, what guys thinkBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Love Bytes: Virgins, Lap Dances And Holidays
6 Nov 2009 | 11:31 amLove Bytes: 10 must-click love and relationship links: Bad dating advice, dating an iPhone user, men's right's groups, and common pickup mistakesKeywords: dating advice, love buzz, love bytesBookmark/Share this post with: -
Levi Gets Awarded For His Johnston, Prematurely
6 Nov 2009 | 11:00 amLevi Johnston hasn't even posed for the camera and yet already he is being given awards for his "bravery" and "confidence" based on assumptions of full-nudity.Keywords: celeb love, celebrity, levi johnston, sarah palinBookmark/Share this post with: -
Female Drivers: Truths And Lies
6 Nov 2009 | 10:01 amAlmost half of female drivers rate themselves as poor, and most men agree: lady drivers suck. What's up with the low self-esteem?Keywords: car, driving, ford, gender difference, lie, truthBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
J. Lo Fears Spanking Video To Surface
6 Nov 2009 | 9:00 amJennifer Lopez' ex-husband, Ojani Noa, is back at it again, trying to make a quick buck of his one year marriage 12 years ago to the celebrity super-star. This time by including racy sex game footage in his "parody" film How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story. According to the National Enquirer, the Cuban-born waiter has 11 hours worth of tape that shows her frolicking around half-naked, flashing her crotch and getting spanked.Keywords: celeb love, celebrity, celebrity sex tape, Jennifer Lopez, sex tape, spankingBookmark/Share this post with: read more
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Hitched
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The City of Lights Beckons
6 Nov 2009 | 9:50 amSara and David take a trip to Paris and face another crossroad of where they are and where they want to be. -
Why You Shouldn't Fake an Orgasm
5 Nov 2009 | 9:27 amFaking may seem like a harmless act, but learn how it can be destructive to your marriage. -
Stopping Fights Before the Holidays
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5 Ways to Deal with Strained Family Relationships
3 Nov 2009 | 9:34 amEstranged family relationships leave one reader wondering how she can turn things around or simply move on. -
Practice Behavior Promoting What You Value
2 Nov 2009 | 10:32 amDo you practice what you preach? Take the steps to match your behaviors with what you value.
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Vibrators and Sex toys
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Are sex toys safe to use during pregnancy? – You are the best judge
6 Nov 2009 | 2:04 amMany pregnant women continue to have a sex life after they have become pregnant; this is perfectly natural and healthy. Most pregnant women experience fluctuations in sexual desire as the pregnancy advances. Sometimes they may go off sex completely or may have an increased libido. Some women enjoy sex more than ever during pregnancy, and don’t hesitate to use sex toys as well.Before making the decision to have any type of sexual contact during pregnancy, which also includes using sex toys, the best thing that you can do is talk to your doctor about it. Don't automatically assume that it is… -
An interactive dial interface and combination settings make '16 Function Dolphin Vibrator' a sex toy to reckon with
3 Nov 2009 | 4:59 amThe 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator, a female sex toy, is a multi-tasking clitoral and vaginal stimulator that can be used in water also. You can enjoy the non-stop pleasures of the 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator. It comes with dual controls, rotating and vibrating actions and a soft jelly shaft. The 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator gives you complete pleasure and sweet satisfaction every single time. Moreover, it features ten modes of clitoral vibration and six reaming rotation modes, each at 4 different speeds; its extreme variety in vibration makes it a great sex toy to add to… -
With Clone a Willy you can replicate your penis
28 Oct 2009 | 5:17 amThe Clone-A-Willy kit contains everything. With the help of these ingredients which include moulding powder, moulding container, patented liquid skin, liquid rubber and stir stick, you can safely create an exact clone of any penis – even your own. The first step is to create a ‘negative’ mould of your penis using the moulding material as well as the especially designed container. Once the mould has been created, you can fill the mould with ‘liquid rubber’ – a completely safe product that is designed to look like ‘real skin’. Leave it to cure and before you know it, a… -
An in-depth review of the Rude Boy
13 Oct 2009 | 2:57 amThere are very few good male sex toys around. Most of them are cheaply made and look pretty gruesome. Rude Boy is a welcome change, as it is not crude, offensive or shaped and designed like female genitalia. In fact, it does not even look like a sex toy. No one can tell that this sophisticated black gadget is capable of giving massive multiple orgasms to men. What do we love about it? The Rude Boy is a dual action vibrator that stimulates the prostate and the perineum. The prostate or the P-spot is a highly erogenous zone in men and when it is stimulated it leads to multiple non-ejaculatory… -
An honest review of the Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator
11 Oct 2009 | 10:50 pmMost women hanker after a rabbit vibrator and buy one after doing some kind of research and price comparison. Most rabbit vibrators will use up a lot of batteries and even if the vibrator is cheap, it will prove to be expensive in the long run because of the amount of money you’ll need to spend paying for batteries. The Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator is a great alternative to battery operated vibrators because not only does it help save the cost of batteries but also it is less expensive compared to many other vibrators.What’s so good about it?The best part about this vibrator is that…
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Sexuality News
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Kamasutra the three types of men
6 Nov 2009 | 2:41 amAfter getting such a good response from my friends here on Kamasutra, I am bringing in one more post on this topic but this time its for men. Classification of Kamasutra The Kamasutra, in addition to sexual positions and varied range of topics provides a classification of men taking into account the size of his genitals. The author of the Kama Sutra, Vatsyana, divides them into 3 types, the hare man, horse man and bull riding man. According to the measurement of genitalia was produced a profile that included not only the complexity, details of the face and hair but also the salient features… -
Men prefer blondes
28 Oct 2009 | 5:43 amIt is a myth or a reality Men are attracted to the blonde women is not a myth. The explanation appears to date from earlier times when some deficiencies in food by women lose hair color and skin that made them different from other arousing the attraction of men. Other theories about why men fall exhausted to the seduction of blondes say they are more innocent and fragile which arouse the male protective instinct. As is the myth that men prefer blondes The phrase that gentlemen prefer blondes title stems from a novel by American author Anita Loos in 1952 and made into a film next year starring… -
If you want to seduce, go and play
15 Oct 2009 | 11:32 pmStep closer We are continuing the theme of seduction and how to seduce talk about the importance of physical contact when trying to conquer a woman or a man because it works the same way for both sexes. The title says if you want to seduce come closer and touch, but this does not mean you get close and touch and out of the blue to someone you do not have to afford treatment that trust, this would produce an unpleasant reaction. The advice is for people who already have some type of relationship either friendship, work, education and like a person but do not know how to attempt the seduction… -
Seduction and more
13 Oct 2009 | 3:27 amTo seduce is to conquer The seduction is a way to gain acceptance of others, please, attract and fall in love, as the evidence sought to achieve through seduction. When it comes to seduction or associates the word seduce a woman trying to conquer a man, but there are many forms of seduction and exert all since childhood without even knowing it. Marketing experts and those working in advertising know much about seduction and its purpose is to seduce the public with certain products. First evaluated to be running the advertising sector and on that basis try to entice potential buyers, it is not… -
Tips to seduce
11 Oct 2009 | 10:52 pmIncrease personal seduction The seduction needs of security and self-esteem to exercise effect on others who do not value himself can hardly seduce someone. There are certain factors that make people feel seduced, such as physical appearance, charisma, success, fame or power. Most do not have all these attributes but can also be seductive or alluring and attractive. As seduce * No one is going to seduce others if you do not love yourself, if others see that you do not want to think that if you yourself or you do not want it is because you have no value. One way to demonstrate self-esteem is…
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Male Enhancement Products UK
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Who can use penis pumps?
6 Nov 2009 | 2:56 amPenis pumps, also known as vacuum pumps or vacuum constriction devices, are external devices that help men to maintain erections. Many men suffering from impotence use penis pumps as an alternative to costly impotence medications available on the market. According to studies, 50% to 80% of men are satisfied with the results of these penis pumps. Some men even use them for penis enlargement and sexual aids during masturbation and foreplay. Men of all ages can use penis pumps and penis extenders safely. These devices can also be used if you are suffering from conditions such as: Poor blood flow… -
The role of penis pumps in masturbation
31 Oct 2009 | 12:02 amPenis pumps are vacuum devices that are designed to enhance erections and increase penis size. However, many men find using penis pumps sexually stimulating and identify the vacuum-like effects of penis enlargement pumps with oral sex. Many men find the unrelenting effects of vacuum pumps enjoyable and take immense pleasure in the suction effects of penis pump. For this reason, many men use penis enlargement pumps for sexual stimulation because they are more useful. When penis pumps are used a masturbators their suction effect makes masturbation more fun. These pumps also make masturbation… -
Ageing and its effect on sex - II
23 Oct 2009 | 10:50 pmDelay Cream If ageing is playing spoil sport in your sex life, then the Delay Cream can help you out. It’s specifically meant to control premature ejaculation. This cream needs to be applied to the tip of the penis, before sexual intercourse. It contains a substance called lidocaine, which is essentially a numbing agent. If you think that this numbing agent is going to take away all sensation from the penis, make sex unexciting, you are mistaken. It only numbs the penis head but lets the sensations run through the shaft. V-Rx Female This product for female helps women to get a relief from… -
Ageing and its effect on sex - I
15 Oct 2009 | 10:18 pmAs you age, your body experiences many changes, both at the physical and psychological level. Besides wrinkles, grey hair and joint problems, the changes that you might be apprehensive about are the effects of age on your sex life and performance. You lose the sexual vigour you once have as a young man, as the production of testosterone in the body decreases. Women too go through these changes and face various medical conditions that affect sex life. Hormonal changes as a result of ageing Various hormonal changes occur within the body that affects sexual performance. This affects the sex… -
How is erectile dysfunction diagnosed? - II
13 Oct 2009 | 4:49 amIf the doctor suspects that physiological factors may be causing erection problems, you will be asked to get some blood tests done to check for diabetes, hormone problems besides many other conditions. Your doctor may also order any one of the following tests to further diagnose your condition: Ultrasound – to check blood flow to your penisNeurological evaluation – to assess possible nerve damageDynamic infusion cavernosometry and cavernosography (DICC) - to view any possible abnormalities in blood pressure and flow into and out of your penis.Nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) - to measure…
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Say it with Naboulove...
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Evasion Virtuelle 20- Une mauvaise surprise
5 Nov 2009 | 6:38 am20- Une mauvaise surprise -Et encore Une bouteille de Laurent Pépé Champagne ya ba stars[i] pour la grande Cynthia !!! Le DJ du RamDam hurlait à tue-tête dans le micro . – Spécial dédicace à la grande prêtresse très très forte Cynthia Mwasi Kitoko[ii]! Fally Pupa di Caprio la Merveille !! Nzembo «Liputa » pona yo moko[iii]. Les yeux de Cynthia brillait ! elle exultait ! Elle était la Star de la soirée. L’étoile du moment. Elle se tortilla sur la piste chantant en chœur avec Fally : « Vers-moi ,vers- moi ,vers-moi , vers-moi. Sango nasuka ya misa alobaka… -
Evasion Virtuelle 19-Comme un grain de folie
30 Oct 2009 | 9:05 am19-Comme un grain de Folie Ce furent des après midi d’adultères au gout de miel qui se succédèrent. Les quelques jours passés à s’aimer, à réinventer le quotidien avaient un parfum d’éternité pour les deux naufragés. Ils s’accrochaient l’un à l’autre comme à des bouées de sauvetage. Fanny entrait et sortait de chez elle comme une adolescente en crise. Incapable de rester en place. Pétillante et sucrée comme un fanta Orange. Elle voyait la vie en Orange, Effervescence couleur vitamine C, couleur énergie, couleur de son bonheur. Dans sa chambre, elle ne… -
Evasin Vituelle 18-Qui sème le vent récolte la tempête.
28 Oct 2009 | 10:21 am18-Qui sème le vent récolte la tempête. Mais Fanny ! Réponds au téléphone ! Il s’adressait ainsi au répondeur téléphonique qui se déclenchait à chacun de ses appels. La journée avait été éprouvante aussi bien sur le plan professionnel, que sur le plan personnel. La banque Centrale avait rejeté certaines de leur demandes et la petite peste de Cynthia lui menait la vie dure. Et maintenant, cela faisait bien 2 bonnes heures qu’il essayait de joindre son épouse sans succès. Quelle poisse ! Il lui envoya un texto, sachant qu’elle avait l’habitude de laisser trainer… -
Egyptian lawmakers want to ban fake hymen by John Freeman AP
24 Oct 2009 | 5:45 amEgyptian lawmakers want to ban fake hymen By JOSEPH FREEMAN, Associated Press Writer Joseph Freeman, Associated Press Writer – Mon Oct 5, 12:05 pm ET CAIRO – Conservative Egyptian lawmakers have called for a ban on imports of a Chinese-made kit meant to help women fake their virginity and one scholar has even called for the “exile” of anyone who imports or uses it. The Artificial Virginity Hymen kit, distributed by the Chinese company Gigimo, costs about $30. It is intended to help newly married women fool their husbands into believing they are virgins — culturally… -
Evasion Virtuelle 17-Seuls au monde.
23 Oct 2009 | 5:22 am17-Seuls au monde. Il avait choisi la Résidence Maisha pour son ambiance discrète, romantique et luxueuse. Luxe, Calme et Volupté. Serais-je en train de retrouver mon âme de poète ? Il avait cessé d’écrire quand ses cahiers noircis de proses et de rimes adressés à Fanny était restés sans réponse. .Le grand Thierry Ndong Nze bourreau des cœurs, serait il en train de retrouver son cœur d’adolescent ? Il en voulait à la mère de Fanny de l’avoir effacé de la vie de sa fille, sans donner une seule chance à leur histoire. Elle ne nous a même pas donné le luxe de…
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Black Heart Magazine
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HOT HIP-HOP
4 Nov 2009 | 7:29 amHip-hop is sexy. The rhymes, the rhythm, the way deft lyrics take centre stage over naked beats… It’s all designed to turn you on, to arouse your body and sometimes even your mind. And, as local MC A.B. Norml proves with her forthcoming double album, it’s not just for the boys. A.B. Norml, or Abbie for [...] -
PIN-UP OF THE WEEK: EVOLPUSS
26 Oct 2009 | 6:00 amPORTRAIT OF THE ARTIST This week’s Pin-Up of the Week is the decadent Evolpuss, a self-described “candy-coated rotten apple,” who also doubles as a dental hygienist from “hot as hell” southern Arizona. Evolpuss is a curvaceous 38-25-36 Aries blonde who’ll rot your teeth, so watch out! Turn-Ons include “a wicked sense of humour, intelligence, muscles, good Japanese [...] -
CAR TROUBLE
23 Oct 2009 | 1:05 pmHe is bent over my smoking engine, and I admire the curves of his ass in the worn blue jeans. He rises and turns, and I can see the sweat dripping from his brow. “She’s gonna need some work,” he pronounces, “We’ll have to wait for a truck.” He puts down his wrench and removes his white [...] -
SQUIRT!
22 Oct 2009 | 8:15 amDid you know that women can ejaculate? While you may have seen a few theatrically spurting forth buckets of cum in porn, according to Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, all women can ejaculate—not just porn stars. First things first though: Mostly, women don’t “arc” like they do in porn. Mostly, female ejaculation [...] -
MUSLIM SEX ADVICE
20 Oct 2009 | 6:00 amThere’s a really interesting article by Samer Elatrash up on the Maisonneuve site entitled Muslim Sex. It notes that there’s a tradition within the Muslim faith for asking sex-related questions of both the Prophet Muhammad himself, as well as of one’s local clerics. The idea of asking a religious leader for sex advice is definitely [...]
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Honest Sex Toy Reviews
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Lelo Billy Male P Spot Prostate Massager
4 Nov 2009 | 6:51 pmWe cannot seem to get enough sex toys from Lelo as they just keep getting better. They are very sensual with quite a modern 21st century flair. Our new favorite is the Lelo Billy Prostate Massager which takes the male p spot to a whole separate level. Billy comes in two masculine yet gentle colors blue and bordeaux. Billy by Lelo is the perfect G-spot massager for those who wish to explore a more energetic sensation within. Benefiting from an ergonomic design tailored precisely to the male form, he offers sustained control through five differing stimulation modes. Such versatility achieves… -
Sex Toys Fun and Fashionable?
29 Oct 2009 | 11:25 amWe like to think that sex toys can be both fun and fashionable at the same time. Of course, we are not talking about wearing them as a belt, but times have definitely changed since the days of the old huge massagers your mother had to hide in the closet. Now there are so many portable sex toys that you can tote around with you like your favorite cell phone or handbag! Here are a few of our favorites! The Lipstick Vibe in Pink by Pipedreams Talk about fashionable and sex toy then we definitely think about the infamous lipstick vibe that is easy to carry in your purse and no one will have any… -
Foreplay Soy Sensual Pheromone Candle
28 Oct 2009 | 7:53 pmOne of my favorite accessories not only in the bedroom but also around the house is a wonderful relaxing candle that actually burns steady and smells wonderful. There are only a few candles out there that I continue to use because they don’t live up to my expectations. The first time I was actually exposed to the Foreplay Soy Sensual Candle was a visit to my massage therapist. After a long day at work, I like to take an hour to relax and unwind with a very sensual massage and of course I give my therapist free reign to any of the products she needs for for her store. I could not stop… -
Pocket Pussy is Like Masturbating with Refrigerated Biscuits? WTF?
25 Oct 2009 | 5:58 pmSo, I know you are very curious about this one as I was indeed anxious to hear the response from my male friend about the Autumn Pussy Pocket Pal Stroker I gave him to try as a review and let me know the results. A few days later he came over to visit, and of course I could not resist to ask him what he thought about the male masturbator and to give his honest opinion to me. Boy, did I open a can of worms? His initial response was that it felt like he was masturbating with those croissant refrigerated biscuits! OMG! I almost burst out laughing and couldn’t figure out initially if that… -
Hanson Paddlewerks for True Fetish Spankers
20 Oct 2009 | 1:45 pmOk..so we understand that not everyone likes to be spanked and paddled! I truly understand as I was chased around the yard as a child told to pick out my own switch (which actually was a tree limb) everytime I was in trouble as a child. So anything that would remind me of that horror is definitely not a part of my fetish fantasies. But, one of my best friends has a whole different outlook on things when it comes to having her tail beat. She absolutely thrives off of it like a drug addiction. The harder the sting the better the endorphine rush is for her. We are pleased to introduce you to our…
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Sex Toys Blog
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Lesbians Selling Vibrators to Housewives Door to Door
7 Nov 2009 | 5:01 amUnusual title, no? Sadly you won't find any videos of lesbians selling vibrators to housewives door to door in this blog post, but you will discover more of the strange search terms that seem to lead to LoveHoney. And by writing this, I've realised that LoveHoney will now rank even higher for the search term 'lesbians selling vibrators to housewives door to door'. I really must stop typing that... [More] -
Are there any sexual positions during intercourse that would give my husband a tighter feeling?
5 Nov 2009 | 4:11 amThe best positions to give your husband a tighter feeling are missionary with your legs over his shoulders, or with your feet resting against his chest. [More] -
Harrie's Weekly Sex Blog Round-Up
3 Nov 2009 | 4:59 amWelcome to LoveHoney's weekly sex blog round-up! As usual, I, Harrie Handley, will be your compere, your ring master and your guide through everything smutty and saucy in the blogosphere. See my latest picks of naughtiness and suggest one of your own! So Halloween has come and gone. In the end I dressed up as a zombie sailor girl. I must say that this year's standard of good costumes was immense. In my local pub alone I happened to meet the Virgin Atlantic cabin crew, a very much alive Elvis, a schizophrenic devil and Dog the Bounty Hunter. Of course it's not just me that seems to be talking… -
Sex Toys To Take On Holiday
2 Nov 2009 | 2:00 amIf you're planning a dirty weekend away, then it's worth considering which naughty products you need to pack. With security as high as it is, having your njoy Eleven pulled out of your hand luggage and investigated isn't as unlikely as it sounds. You won't find this information on any travel programme or in any holiday brochure, so listen carefully to our advice on flying with your sex toys... [More] -
My husband has a high sex drive but I've lost interest. What should I do?
2 Nov 2009 | 12:25 amStart by compromising. He decides on the least amount of sex per fortnight he’d be happy with; you decide on the most often you’d be willing to do it. [More]
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CarnalNation Headlines
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News: Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health Blocked
6 Nov 2009 | 7:18 amThe American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) is taking a stand to support the opening of the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island. A zoning officer from the city has blocked the business from opening in a Main Street building on the grounds that it violates the building’s zoning use because of its educational nature. But The Providence Journal reports that other educational businesses are located in the building, including a chess club. “The ACLU says the decision raises serious constitutional concerns because the city’s director of administration, Harvey… -
News: School-Sponsored Sex Toy Parties Cause Stir At Duke
6 Nov 2009 | 7:06 amResearchers at Duke University have caused something of a flap after one behavioral economist advertised last month for study subjects. The study, a look into home sex toy parties, sought female students "view sex toys and engage in sexually explicit conversation with other female Duke students," reports The News Observer. Females recruited for the study will be required to answer a few surveys about their sexual attitudes and behaviors, and must then attend a simulated sex-toy party. Participants in the study would receive a gift bag and a discount on sex toys. -
News: Conjugal Contradictions: Petting vs. Penetration in Belgium's Age of Consent Laws
5 Nov 2009 | 3:57 pmEverybody remembers their first kiss, that scary but exhilarating early teenage experience. It would be even more memorable if you or your partner landed in jail because of it. Though it sounds far-fetched—ridiculous even, such a scenario could happen if you are a Belgian teenager under the age of 16. While that memorable kiss or some heated petting might land you and/or your partner behind bars, you could, under the right circumstances, lose your virginity at 14 with relative impunity. Yes, you did read that correctly: penetrative intercourse can be legal for minors while kissing and… -
News: Miss Asia Semi-Finalists Have Breasts Judged
5 Nov 2009 | 11:02 amDuring the semi-finals of the Miss Asia pageant in Hong Kong, several participants were singled out to have their body parts, such as their breasts, scrutinised in minute detail. The segment which drew the most fire was the so-called “breast screen test.” Three of the most well-endowed contestants were asked to stand behind a board that was cut to show only the girls’ chests. With just their bosoms on display, the contestants were critiqued by one of the judges, Miss Chen Fei Jia, a model. Contestant Miss Lin Zhi Jun, whose vital statistics were 351/2 by 26 by 361/2, was… -
News: Sex Workers and Sex Bloggers In NY Tonight and Tomorrow
5 Nov 2009 | 10:19 amFor those of you in the New York area, there's some fun and sexy happenings going on this weekend: Tonight at the Happy Ending Lounge (302 Broome St) there's Sex Worker Literati, hosted by Audacia Ray and David Henry Sterry. It's a monthly event, and this month's featured writers are Audacia Ray, Miss Calico , Dylan Ryan, Jo Weldon, Solitaire, and CarnalNation contributor Megan Andelloux.
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Penis Enlargement Facts Revealed
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PenisAdvantage Review: A Safe, Step-by-Step Method of Adding Inches to Your Penis Size – In Length & Girth without expensive useless pills or crazy co
22 Oct 2009 | 7:37 amI swear, if you’d have asked me about penis enlargement a few months ago, I wouldn’t have reacted well at all. That’s because I think I’ve probably tried more useless junk than any other guy out there. Pills, suction things, creams, everything. The only thing I didn’t try, thankfully, was surgery.Ask me about the subject of penis enlargement now, though, and I’m much more positive and happy to reply! That’s because of PenisAdvantage, which offers a new approach to achieving new size down below. Unlike so many other things, PenisAdvantage is totally natural and safe. You use… -
Natural Penis Enlargement: How to strengthen your erection and gain control over when you reach orgasm
20 Oct 2009 | 7:36 amAs you no doubt already know, millions of men and women alike obsess over the subject of penis size. You see jokes on TV referencing the issue, overhear people in the street discussing the topic, and read – on a daily basis – of the displeasure and embarrassment of men with small penises in the columns of dozens of magazines. So it pretty much goes without saying that penis size is an internationally popular subject of debate.So, what can us men do about what we have down south? And what do women really want from us and our members? Is it sheer size they want? Length? Girth? Both? -
Foreskin Restoration – How to Attain a New Foreskin Using a Simple Exercise Any Man Can Learn and Use
17 Oct 2009 | 7:34 amBy the 1970’s, 80% of American infant boys were being circumcised. These days that figure is lower, at 60%, but still pretty massive when compared to the international average, which is a mere 15%.The fact that you’re reading this article suggests that you’re circumcised and have at least some interest or curiosity in the subject of foreskin restoration – that is, getting back the skin around the head of your penis that you no longer or have never really had. You’d probably be surprised at how many circumcised men are interested in the subject, too. Years ago, you’d never hear… -
What is the TRUE average penis size and is it possible to enlarge it NATURALLY?
15 Oct 2009 | 7:30 amThe average penis size has been a “bone” of contention for decades and decades. The reason it’s so frequently debated, argued over and worried about is because the issue affects so many people, male and female. For men, a small penis means possible harassment in gym showers and embarrassment in bed. For women it presents a different problem: its below-average size could well limit their sexual pleasure and at the same time inhibit the man’s confidence so much that his sexual performance could also be unsatisfactory.It’s really no wonder penis size, and the average length and girth… -
How does internal and external penis enlargement work?
4 Oct 2009 | 5:06 pmIf you are looking to increase your penis size, then there are a number of different routes you can follow. Some of the external devices available you may have already heard about, such as penis enlargement devices, penis weights and penis pumps. However there are also quite a few internal techniques which can experiment with too.Why enlarge your penis?Penis enlargement has been a fascination of men for centuries. Debuting in Greek and Roman art and architecture; gods, leaders and officials were often displayed as having a long, rock hard erections.For almost 2,000 years men have aspired to…
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Married With Sex Toys
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Free Site Friday – PornHub.com
16 Oct 2009 | 7:22 pmLooking for a free porn site with videos from every genre imaginable? How about the ability to view premium HD content? Live sex chat? An active member community? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions than our Free Site Friday pick this week will leave you smiling. So for this weeks [...] -
The Myth Of The Porno Penis
15 Oct 2009 | 6:55 pmRecently EdenCafe.com asked for males to submit body image articles to them for publication on the site. An article that I authored was accepted and can now be found at the site. Here is an excerpt: According to Wikipedia the average penis size is approximately 5.1 to 5.9 inches in length when fully erect, but according [...] -
Stalker Sunday – @seymorebutts Edition
11 Oct 2009 | 4:51 pmFor this week’s edition of Stalker Sunday we at MarriedWithSexToys.com have chosen to feature porn producer/star and reality star extrodinaire: @seymorebutts – Why should you follow @seymorebutts? Because his tweets are typically funny or full of great quotes from his upcoming books and because he is a force in the porn industry and you might just [...] -
Free Site Friday – AssFap.com
9 Oct 2009 | 7:04 pmFor this weeks editon of Free Site Friday we give you one of our favorite sites about our favorite body part…the ass. So without further ado we present to you: AssFap.com – AssFap.com is a free porn site dedicated to delivering you high quality pictures of nothing but the finest female asses on the planet. So [...] -
Stalker Sunday – @misskacistarr Edition
4 Oct 2009 | 11:13 amFor this weeks editon of Stalker Sunday we chose to feature: @misskacistarr – Why? Because its Kaci Starr. For more reasons why check out her Free Ones page as well as her blog. Those are two very compelling reasons to get you to follow @misskacistarr on twitter.
