Whew. It’s been a chaooooooootic couple of weeks. Sorry if it felt like I was MIA at times. Last week, I was in Philly for the American Public Health Association meeting at which I gave two talks: one about women’s use of lurbicants (turns out most women in our study didn’t experience genital irritation to any [...]
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My Sex Professor: Sexuality Education
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Signed Books, Gay Marriage & Sex Food, Oh My!
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Eradicate Cancer With Your Vagina
19 Nov 2009 | 6:51 amMen may be growing mustaches to raise awareness of prostate cancer and other male cancers, but what can women who cannot grow mustaches do for the cause? Have sex with a man with a mustache, that’s what (via Asylum; Thanks, M.). -
Weird & Wild: Five Ways Animals Get Creative About Sex
19 Nov 2009 | 5:42 amCurious about slugs with erections bigger than human ones? Or penis fencing? I was too. As much as I enjoy studying human sexuality, I am fascinated by what other animals in our wonderful world get up to when it comes to their sex & mating lives. Today, guest blogger David Manly teaches us a few [...] -
How Saying No to Sex Can Help You Learn to Love It Again
18 Nov 2009 | 5:52 amPeople often ask me to tell them one single thing they can do that will change their sex life for the better. My often surprising response? Say no to sex. That’s right: I firmly believe that the occasional, well-delivered “no” can make for more loving, pleasurable, mindful sex – a topic I spent a good amount [...] -
Men’s Orgasms: They’re Not (Always) About You
17 Nov 2009 | 5:42 amThat would be particularly true if you are a lesbian who only has sex with other women. But I digress. If you like/love/lust after men, then you also may like/love/lust after getting them aroused, encouraging them to make a move and watching them get increasingly excited and worked up during a heated make-out session or a [...]
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Bound, Not Gagged
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Rights, Not Rescue: Dutch Org Mama Cash Hosts Conversation about Sex Work
18 Nov 2009 | 2:07 pmThis post was written by Dutch feminist Marije Janssen and originally published on the International Women’s Health Coalition blog Akimbo. On November 10th, international women’s social change fund Mama Cash packed the house at the culture and politics center De Balie in Amsterdam for Rights, Not Rescue. The evening-long event about sex workers rights had an interesting selection of international guests. Although I follow the work of Mama Cash closely, it was a pleasant surprise for me to learn that they so actively take a stand in the current debates surrounding sex workers and their… -
serial killer targets “a certain profile of a woman”
18 Nov 2009 | 2:15 amI am so upset. Again, women have been assaulted, raped and murdered by a serial killer: Again, the “justice system” has turned a blind eye. A blind eye to a women who was “bleeding and injured” because she wasn’t “credible.” Read: a prostitute. While this article does not use the exact term “prostitute,” nor does anyone in the interviews, we can read @#&*#! Advocates fear that sensitivities including shame, checkered backgrounds and mistrust on the part of the women he tended to befriend might make it tricky to learn of more… -
Open Invitation to the Int’l Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers
14 Nov 2009 | 7:50 pmIn 2009, sex workers from around the globe met gruesome deaths and endured unspeakable violence. Some died at the hands of a solitary perpetrator; others were victims of serial “prostitute killers.” While some of these horrific stories received international media attention (Boston, Grand Rapids, Tijuana, Cape Town, Sussex, Moscow, New Zealand and Hong Kong, just to name a few), other cases received little more than a perfunctory investigation. Many cases remain unresolved, sometimes forever. In fact, most violent crimes against sex workers remain unreported. Stigma and criminalization… -
Sex Workers and Unpersons.
11 Nov 2009 | 12:09 amI haven’t written here in a while. I spent the last few months in a wheelchair, and then healing from being in the wheelchair, and now being sick the past month and finally getting treated for pneumonia. But I’m coming out of that now, and I’m moving forward. These experiences has given me so much to be thankful for! I’m thankful that I’ve had the privilege of making more friends that do disability activism, so that I can learn from their community, and their amazing strengths. I’m thankful that I’ve had the opportunity to really experience… -
Donna Hughes and the anti rights activists victory in Rhode Island
8 Nov 2009 | 8:28 amRecently URI Professor Donna Hughes lead a successful campaign to criminalize indoor sex workers in Rhode Island. She and her allies championed this in the legislature as their great David Vs. Goliath battle and a resounding victory for women and trafficking victims. However, this “victory” in actuality means that both consenting legal adult sex workers and trafficking victims are now subject to arrest where they weren’t before. Leading to a few thoughts. 1. The fear of arrest places the police and legal system out of reach for sex workers that were victimized by a crime. 2.
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MARIA: Social Justice and Abortion Access in Mexico
17 Nov 2009 | 5:58 amMost of the blogging I’m really proud of these days is happening on Akimbo, the blog I edit for the International Women’s Health Coalition. This is a post I wrote for Akimbo and published yesterday (click here for the original post). If you’re interested in sexual rights and reproductive health with an international focus, you should be reading Akimbo. I mean, I’m biased, but we do some pretty awesome stuff over there. For example: a piece we published last week by our Camerounian partner Sébastien Mandeng, in which he chronicled his recent run-in with homophobic… -
(In Which I Try To Have) A Strategy for My Better Future
12 Nov 2009 | 12:26 pm“Maybe you should give yourself a break, like take a vacation through the end of the year,” Sinclair suggested a few nights ago as I stressed about whattodo whattowrite howtobemoreproductive. Why do I want to be writing and doing and making more more more stuff to put out into the world? This is a central question, a question of strategy, something I’m not awesome at but trying desperately to learn. I AM good at this cycle: have idea, get extremely excited, workworkwork create gogogo, release into the world, feel high of accomplishment, drop real low in coming down. Repeat… -
Personal Snapshots: You Had to Be There
19 Oct 2009 | 5:44 amOn Friday night I read at a Feminist Sex event at Bluestockings Bookstore here in NYC. The event was put together by Shira Tarrant, the author of the recent Seal Press book Men & Feminism, and featured me, Abiola Abrams, and Sinclair Sexsmith. Shira read a few different excerpts from her book, Sinclair read a great and analytical piece about how feminism got in the way of her getting the sex she wants (because that sex happens to include the desire to hit women), and Abiola read her piece “Slut” from the Dirty Words anthology. And me? I read a piece that I wrote this week… -
Book Review: Byron in Love
17 Oct 2009 | 6:51 pmByron in Love: A Short Daring Life by Edna O’Brien My rating: 4 of 5 stars Oh, Lord Byron. Sigh. I was seriously obsessed with Byron, John Keats, Percy Shelley, and Mary Shelley when I was in high school. Why yes, I’ve seen Gothic about a million times. Also, on my first solo trip to Europe, I visited some of their haunts in Switzerland & Italy, saw Keats’ death mask, locks of their hair… I’m a nerd, I know. There are a number of biographical tomes on Byron, and this is one of the most easily digestible ones. And that’s not just because it is… -
Pay As You Go: Sex Worker Shorts at UnionDocs, October 24
14 Oct 2009 | 7:31 pmPhoto of Kamalabai Pani by Audacia Ray/International Women’s Health Coalition Pay As You Go: Sex Worker Shorts Saturday, Oct. 25 - 6pm & 8:30pm Suggested donation $7 per show, $10 double feature price. Special free panel discussion at 7:30pm between the programs. PROGRAM 1: 6:00 – 7.30 pm You Must Know About Me by HOPS and WITNESS. Macedonia, 2009 (18 mins) DVD “You Must Know About Me” features interviews with sex workers from Skopje, focusing on 3 main themes: Their family lives, the conditions they work under, especially the violence and discrimination they face from police…
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NYT: Sex
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Italy: Woman in Political Scandal Is Found Dead
20 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pmA Brazilian transsexual involved in a scandal that prompted the resignation of an Italian governor was found burned to death in her home on Friday. -
Anything He Can Do, She Can Do
14 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pmA classical pianist who came out as a transgender woman a decade ago shares her story of determination. -
The Sex of Athletes: One Issue, Many Variables
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The Id Girl
17 Oct 2009 | 9:00 pmNo filter. Tracey Emin has built a glittering career in the art world on her full-frontal candor, with installations titled “My Bed” (featuring used condoms, cigarette packets, stained underwear) and “Everyone I Have Ever Slept With 1963-1995.” Her work situates the crotch at the center of the universe. In “Strangeland: The Jagged Recollections of a Beautiful Mind” (Hodder & Stoughton), a 2005 compilation of her writing, she recounts being sexually abused as a child and raped at 13, relives the... -
All’s Not Well in Sex and Food
8 Oct 2009 | 9:00 pmOn the front of primal appetites, David Letterman gives sex a bad name, and restaurants suffer in the recession.
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Cramping
21 Nov 2009 | 10:45 amSo, a couple days ago I forgot to take my pill (don't worry, I am using back-up). The day after I was supposed to take my pill, I remembered and took the missed dose. On the same day, I took my scheduled dose at the scheduled time. (In my pamphlet attached to the BC, it says this is fine to do). Now, for a few days, I have been experiencing random, but very painful, cramps. I was on my week 1 when I took the 2 pills in the same day. I am now into week 2. During my period week, I did not have sex nor have I had sex after missing the pill (I've been stressed so I haven't really been in the mood… -
UTIs and antibiotics
21 Nov 2009 | 10:33 amFor the past couple weeks my urine has been having this very strong and off odor to it. Although this will sound weird, I swear, it smells like chicken broth. I thought it might be a hydration thing and made sure to up my fluid intake and figured it'd go away on it's own. It didn't. Though, some days were better than others. A few things I read online seemed to indicate it might be a bladder infection. Now, I'd been experiencing no other symptoms that I usually get with a UTIs: no super frequent urge to pee without actually having to pee or poor bladder control and weak stream. But I don't… -
Flibanserin
21 Nov 2009 | 10:27 amRecently there was a big hooh-hah about the new mixed serotonin antagonist/dopamine partial agonist flibanserin, which enhances sexual activity in females (albeit at a level that isn't dramatic). It's not a tremendous surprise, as 5HT1A antagonists and 5HT2C antagonists have known to be prosexual in rats for some time (although flibanserin is a partial agonist at 5HT1A and an antagonist at 5HT2C). Psychedelic tryptamines have a weird profile that's almost opposite the medication (partial agonists at 5HT1A, 5HT2A and 5HT2C) but are often prosexual (5-MeO-DMT being shown to facilitate sexual… -
Am I Ovulating?
21 Nov 2009 | 9:03 amThis may be a stupid question butttt I am on Tri Lo Sprintec. I have been for a few months. (I was also on BC for 4 years in high school...I'm 22 now) I just finished bleeding and am on the 4th pill of my new pack. The last 2 days I have very thick clear discharge. I've never gotten this while on BC but did get it when I was ovulating (obviously when I wasnt on BC). However, I usually cramp up like a mofo when I ovulate and haven't felt that. I had PIV sex last night and my SO ejaculated inside me. Should I be worried? Do I wanna go get a morning after pill? Should I just wait it out and see… -
Cyst on outer vagina?
21 Nov 2009 | 8:50 amThe past couple of days I noticed a hard mass on the outside of the opening of my vagina. It's not painful and there's no head and it's not red. If I try to squeeze it, nothing comes out but I noticed the upper part of the labia is a little red but I think it's cuz the "cyst" is right next to it. I did some research and it says it could be a bartholin's gland cyst or an ingrown, but I've had many ingrown hairs and it doesn't look like it.So should I worry and make an appointment with the gyno or will it eventually go away on its own?Thanks!
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Love + Sex
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In Sickness and in Health ... But Hold the Sickness
20 Nov 2009 | 7:29 pmBy: The Love Goddess When illness strikes, a new study shows that men are more likely to run for the hills. This just in: When men receive a diagnosis of brain cancer, their wives give them the… -
Would You Choose Sleep Over Sex?
20 Nov 2009 | 7:00 pmThere is no doubt about whether or not Victoria Beckham loves her husband, David Beckham... When Allure asked if she preferred sleep to sex,… -
7 Book Characters Hotter Than Edward Cullen
20 Nov 2009 | 6:58 pmLike it or not, Edward Cullen is the fictional hottie du jour. Never before have women been so enamored by a sparkly, lovesick centenarian torn between protecting his girlfriend and eating her for dinner. Despite Edward's edgy persona and "angelic" good looks, we're not convinced that he's the literary dreamboat that thousands of Twilight fans have made him out to be. What can we say? Book hotties of the past have set the bar pretty high, and we're not entirely signed on to the "being watched through our bedroom windows" fantasy. Before Edward Cullen… -
Lingerie with a GPS tracking device: Creepy or sexy?
20 Nov 2009 | 6:51 pmWe've always thought that the gift of lingerie was more about the gift giver than actually something for us (who's really reaping the benefits of that sexy little bra? Not really you), but this latest innovation is taking the selfish-present idea to a whole new level. Brazilian company LindeLucy Lingerie has just put out a collection of underwear called “Find Me If You Can.” Each of the pieces—ranging from bras to teddies to garter belts—is equipped with a built-in, pager-sized GPS system that allows those with the password to track your whereabouts online. -
9 Great Places To Meet People (Other Than Bars)
20 Nov 2009 | 2:17 pmMost of my stories about meeting people occur in some seedy bar or club. It's a shame that I think I need to be in a drinking environment to meet people. There is good news though: there is no law that says we have to be in a bar to meet people. The "non-alcoholic" list…
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News - The Donald With Some Bad Advice
19 Nov 2009 | 3:05 pmJust read this all over the Internet: Donald Trump has pretty much summed up what everyone else is thinking. When Carrie Prejean called him for advice, he told her to release the sex tape and make the dough. After making “the biggest mistake of her life”, doing a solo sex tape (or eight), she tucked her tail between her legs and shut up about her lawsuit against the Miss California pageant. Now, she’s dialing up the one man who she thought would give her some practical advice, The Donald. And what does he tell her? Give up the goods and donate the cash. According to sources,… -
Women - "Weak in the Knees" JERUSALEM Pt.1
18 Nov 2009 | 11:09 pm“God's Message came to me: 'Son of man, confront Jerusalem with her outrageous violations.' Say this: 'The Message of God, the Master, to Jerusalem: You were born and bred among Canaanites. Your father was an Amorite and your mother a Hittite. On the day you were born your umbilical cord was not cut, you weren't bathed and cleaned up, you weren't rubbed with salt, you weren't wrapped in a baby blanket. No one cared a fig for you. No one did one thing to care for you tenderly in these ways. You were thrown out into a vacant lot and left there, dirty and unwashed—a newborn nobody… -
News - Hey Oprah!!!!
17 Nov 2009 | 8:06 pmI don't normally watch Oprah. I am not in her book club but would love to be on her show one day. Not cause she is Oprah but because she has cornered the market speaking to women. I don't know of anyone else with such a loyal audience. Today she talked about women and porn. She said nothing negative about porn. She talked about the difference between porn and erotica. She had Jenna Jameson on the show who talked about her time in the industry. I think overall besides Jenna's honesty the show was pointless. If anything she encouraged erotica and porn for women. If Oprah really had a… -
Teens - YOUR Story The Next Step.
17 Nov 2009 | 10:05 amThese are truly dark and pervasive times we all live in. Yesterday on the news we heard that the body of a young girl (5) was found dead off the side of the road, apparently ditched after her mother (who recently was granted custody after kicking her addictions) had sold her into child prostitution. No other story envelops our dark nature that so pervades our very existence (see media here). We know that these are dark times. But we also know that these are bright times. This is in incredible time in history to be alive in. Presently, we all have a chance to help shape our world and… -
Couples - Wrong Way Down a One Way Street
16 Nov 2009 | 6:17 pmSo here you are heading downtown to an appointment minding your own business and you turn onto the next street. You look up and you notice that cars are driving on the wrong side of the road and right at you. Then your head clears up for a quick second and you realize that you are heading down a one way road and you are headed in the wrong direction. The first thing you do is to do whatever it takes to correct the situation, and turn yourself around heading in the right direction. Not only driving can we head down a one way street in the wrong direction but, we also can do it…
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This Could Be Dangerous...
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Proper Lessons in Kink
19 Nov 2009 | 6:23 amOne of the *very amazing* people I met in NYC recently is Princess Kali. My first impression of her was how genuinely nice and sweet she is and how you just feel at ease around her. Beneath that sweetness is an air of poise and control that commands respect quietly. Wait no, scratch that. That was my second impression. My first impression was staring discretely at her lithe ballerina-like body as she grabbed her breakfast in the hotel lounge, wearing this tiny stretchy little black dress with no bra and these big menacing black punk boots. Duh yes I wondered if she was wearing panties. -
HNT: Rope Bra
18 Nov 2009 | 5:27 pmOne of the things that I did during my NYC weekend was to attend a Sensual Rope Bondage class taught by Twisted Monk. I’ll be talking more about him and the class next week but for now I thought I’d share the rope chest harness that was done on me. I had taken off my bra for this because I knew that snug rope over an underwire bra likely wouldn’t feel too good. What resulted was an almost anime-like effect. photo credit: Stacie Joy This is the harness not quite done yet, but hey there was a leash! Photo by BadBadGirl And this is the finished (mostly) harness that offers more… -
And so it begins…
17 Nov 2009 | 7:07 amIt’s done, it’s finished, it’s up. The first edition of e[lust] is finally out the door. Whew! I had great helpers but I still had a lot of work to do – hopefuly by edition #3 I’ll have worked out the kinks and it’ll go more smoothly. As usual it was the theme that gave me the biggest headache – finding one with a simple design, with columns the way I wanted AND that would look right on all browsers? Harder than you think. {as I am sitting here writing this, I realize I left out a link before I posted the first edition. So typical of me!! At least I… -
That Curve, That One Right There
15 Nov 2009 | 7:19 amThere are so many curves that I love, many of them pertaining to the female form. But this particular curve catches my eye sometimes, as it did this particular night. It’s the curve where the top of a woman’s breast flattens to collarbone, the curve that gets pronounced when she is wearing a bra with amazing support. Certain bras will give us this support from the bottom up, and if no bra strap or clothing is able to meld into that dramatically pronounced sudden curve, it becomes this deliciously perverted little spot. Something like this: With this kind of support our breasts are… -
Review: Bare Essence Gift Box
14 Nov 2009 | 8:36 amWith this review I decided to try something different – the mysterious world of lab-created pheromones. We know that pheromones are something that is excreted in sweat that attracts people on a base level, but the sciences behind them seem to vary especially when it comes to products containing Androstenol. When I researched it I couldn’t find any definitive answers online. So the main test then would be using it. Did it work? Since I didn’t do a formal study I’m not sure that I can say one way or another. I know that I’ll continue to use it and try to be more…
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Sex In The Public Square
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Little Miss Perfect
18 Nov 2009 | 6:21 amMeet Sandy,[1] a smart, attractive, successful woman in her thirties. She’s an editor at a premiere magazine, has tons of friends, a warm, supportive partner whom she loves and likewise adores her, two rehabilitated shelter cats, a Sedaris sharp sense of humor, time to volunteer and work on her novel, and to top it all off, a brownstone in Park Slope, Brooklyn. In short, she has it all. Yet every once in a while, she’ll call me in hysterics having talked herself into a panic over something in her life that’s not perfect. These blips, as I call them, can be small and… -
Lessons Learned at Harvard Law School
17 Nov 2009 | 12:49 pmLast night's panel discussion of sex work and civil liberties at Harvard Law School, hosted by the HLS ACLU, the American Constitution Society and the Women's Law Association (?) was a learning experience. I learned that some formats, which sound helpful in theory, are very limiting in practice. I learned that one should never make assumptions about an audience. And I learned that when you've had the last word and the panel is officially over, letting it be reopened is a very bad idea. The panel was extremely well moderated. Professor Glen Cohen promised at the beginning to keep a tight… -
Sex Work and Civil Liberties: A Panel Discussion at Harvard Law School
15 Nov 2009 | 3:42 pmI just got back from a New York State United Teachers conference and tomorrow I'm heading up to Cambridge to participate in a panel discussion about sex work and civil liberties. If you're in that area I'd love to see you there! Sex Work and Civil Liberties: A Panel DiscussionMonday, 11/16, 5:30pmHarvard Law School ACLUPound 107 (map of the law school campus: http://www.law.harvard.edu/about/map.html)Featuring Vednita Carter, Dr. Melissa Farley, Dr. Samantha Majic, & Dr. Elizabeth Wood.Moderated by Professor I. Glenn CohenFree and open to the publicCo-sponsored by American… -
From SWOP Tuscon - Events for Dec. 17 2009International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers
12 Nov 2009 | 5:35 pmSex Worker’s Outreach Project - Tucson www.swop-tucson.org Please Join Us December 17, 2009 for the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers Event in Tucson, Arizona! November 11, 2009Dear Friends & Supporters of Sex Worker’s Rights:In 2009, sex workers from around the globe met gruesome deaths and endured unspeakable violence. Some died at the hands of a solitary perpetrator; others were victims of serialprostitute killers. While some of these horrific stories received international media attention ( Boston, Grand Rapids, Albuquerque, Tijuana , Hong Kong , Moscow… -
Tracy Quan's new piece about Christianity’s favorite fallen woman
11 Nov 2009 | 9:53 amHave a look at Tracy Quan's neat piece about "The Sexiest Saint" on the Daily Beast. SITPS readers will enjoy her fresh perspective on sex and religion. She points out that contemporary people can better identify with a saint with carnal appetites than, well, saintlier figures. Quan writes, "Today's multitasking, sexually experienced woman can relate more easily to Mary Magdalene than to Mother Mary or, for that matter, Mother Teresa." Amen!
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Susie Bright's Journal
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Lies, Damned Lies, and Quotations!
16 Nov 2009 | 1:45 pm"Hiring someone to write your autobiography is like hiring someone to take a bath for you." —Mae West I am an ardent quotations collector— I collect my favorites on slips of paper, write them on my hand, hoard hundreds on my hard drive. I belong to a brilliant "Quotation of... -
Mad Men, Ft. Hood, & the Stupak Amendment: Connect the Dots
14 Nov 2009 | 9:03 amI can't be the only one to make the connection. For those of us who who are devoted to the American tele-novella Mad Men, the recent psycho-shooting at Ft. Hood had an eerie plot echo. (Spoilers ahead). In Mad Men, which takes place in New York of 1963, there's a... -
My Halloween Musical Gift to You!
31 Oct 2009 | 2:39 pmvia www.youtube.com Tom Waits on "Fernwood 2Night," circa 1977. One day I hope to use every single one of Tom's lines that he cuts loose in this after-piano interview. I will start tonight! Have a very spooky little evening... -
I'll Be Reading My Favorite Judy Grahn Poem Tonight, in San Francisco
30 Oct 2009 | 9:42 amAlso showcasing performances inspired by Judy’s writing... “To The Mother Of All Bowls” choreographed and performed by Anne Bluethenthal and Dancers “The Psychoanalysis of Edward the Dyke” presented by Susie Bright Staged excerpt from The Queen of Swords directed by playwright and actress Jovelyn Richards Reading from “A Woman Is... -
Susie's Review of "The Erotic City" in SF Chronicle
25 Oct 2009 | 4:43 pm"Every San Francisco neighborhood has two characters at each other's throats. "The "Tweedledums" are the cranks - you see them glaring at your T-shirt from their second-story window. They scream "Pervert!" at two women pushing a stroller down the street; they scold the Catholic schoolgirls to pull their skirts down....
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Sex and the Ivy
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Christina Hoff Sommers & “The Failures of Modern Feminism”
20 Nov 2009 | 1:08 pmAs The Crimson reported today, “conservative feminist” Christina Hoff Sommers gave a talk on the failures of modern feminism last night. I found the discussion extremely disappointing, in part because it became abundantly clear early on that Sommers has a very limited understanding of feminist history and theory. I meant to live-blog the event, but didn’t. Now, as I go through my notes, the sheer number of inaccuracies and misconceptions astound me. Some of Sommers’ points (everything in quotations are direct quotes transcribed during the talk): “I can’t… -
Harvard University Admissions Commercial
12 Nov 2009 | 1:23 pmIf Harvard marketed itself like ITT Tech and the University of Phoenix, this commercial would be the result. Produced by the team behind Back of the Class — thanks for the link, guys! -
Asian American Female Sexuality Panel
9 Nov 2009 | 1:30 pmWe went through a whole slew of topics at tonight’s panel on Asian American women and sexuality. Some of the interesting points of discussion: * The origin of sexual stereotypes: I attributed the image of the meek, submissive Asian woman to the history of Western colonization and occupation in the East, where forced and “voluntary” sex trade was rampant. Since the majority of encounters were transactional, women occupied subservient roles. Prostitution aside, interactions between Asian women and male foreigners nonetheless tended to be inherently unequal due to the… -
Jessica Valenti, Weddings, & Social Expectations
23 Oct 2009 | 5:20 pm[Cross-posted from my daily blog The Chicktionary] Feministing editor Jessica Valenti has just publicly responded to critics of her wedding. In today’s post, she gives her take on media coverage of her nuptials and the appallingly cruel backlash and accusations of hypocrisy. Though I admit that I was surprised to learn she decided to get married, I can’t fault her for wanting to take part in an institution and ritual so ingrained in our society. The festivities she describes sound exactly like what I hope the weddings of my friends will be like. I, on the other hand, don’t know if… -
On Privilege & The Ivy League
22 Sep 2009 | 9:14 pm[Original post and full discussion on The Chicktionary] what a spoiled little life you lead. how DO you pay for all your globe trotting and partying? you must have rich parents or a sugar daddy. or maybe you moonlight in addition to your ‘writing career’? anyway, enjoy your life of privilege while it lasts. someday you may find yourself scrubbing floors or pots and pans or caring for the sick or elderly. life is not a beach, as the saying goes. -comment by joe The bottom line you Ivy league snob, is that you throw all of your globetrotting in the face of the 99% of readers who are…
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pretty dumb things
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the gift that keeps on giving
9 Nov 2009 | 5:19 pmHere it is, yet another free link to a new piece by me on the high-class, smarty-pants, pay-as-you-go erotica site Filthy Gorgeous Things. This issue revolves around euphoria, and my piece, "The Gift of Euphoria," describes those times when you give others that ecstatic moment. It begins thusly:There is that moment. The body relaxes into a limp capitulation even as it suspends taut with anticipation. The eyes may close or they may widen in surprise, though the pupils go invariably round as pushpins. The mouth makes a little “o,” the circular call of cherubim, of succubae, of… -
filthy/gorgeous/free...shhhh
2 Oct 2009 | 5:27 pmSo my new piece on Filthy Gorgeous Things is live and open for your reading pleasure. The piece, which I've called "Hush," talks loudly, purplish and long about secrets.Here's the first paragraph:Secrets in and of themselves are sexy. Knowledge, especially knowledge that is personal and private, is sexy. Power is sexy. And secrets, those delightful, frisson-bearing scraps and orts of information, hold power. A secret told enough times becomes a story, and while stories hold pleasure and while stories carry power, a story lacks the whispering, murmuring, susurrating sexiness… -
my rejected tail piece: the good, the bad and the anal
30 Jul 2009 | 4:35 pmI wrote a piece for a magazine that was rejected. It's about anal, and if you want to read it, it's below the fold. I suspect my own ambivalence about writing the piece imbued it a bit too heavily for publication. Hey, it happens. My remunerative loss, your chewy gain.The Good, the Bad and the AnalThe essential question remains: why would you want to put anything up there? It’s a good question, one that sits docile if provoking in the recesses of my mind each and every time I have anal sex, and I have had it often. Though quite probably not often enough and certainly not recently. -
oral for nothing, a chick for free
5 Jul 2009 | 1:40 pmWhile the thinky-kinky high-class smut site Filthy Gorgeous Things has rightfully gone all subscription service, you can read my new piece for nothing. Free. Gratis. It's as unlocked as Pandora's box and three-quarters as naughty. This new piece, "Choke," centers on an act near and dear to my esophagus: face-fucking. I seem to write a lot on oral, but then the adage has always been to write what you know, and I certainly can't write about sports.Here's the first paragraph: Its kinetic springiness is a draw, as is its shape that seems cheery vaguely Teletubby in… -
spencer t. jones, the dog of my life
3 Jul 2009 | 1:28 pmI wrote this piece a couple of years ago to honor my loss of my first dog, the legendary Spencer. I've reposted it here because try as I might, I don't think I could write anything more beautiful and right. Three years ago on 3 July 2003, I euthanized my dog, the Legendary Spencer. I quail a bit at the word "euthanize"; I find my chest contracts at it. It's an ugly word. To my mind, though, the euphemisms are worse: put down like an insult or put to sleep like a child, as if there is a time when he, my furry eternal toddler, will rise again.Three years ago Spencer…
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The Virginity Project
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On the face of things...
7 Nov 2009 | 3:20 amYou can go whole weeks here at the virginity project and nothing really happens. No one loses their virginity and if they do, they don’t feel inclined to talk about it and generally speaking, everyone appears to be at one with the world. And then all hell breaks loose. Which is an exaggeration but really, its not often that I get emailed a question that I’ve never been asked before: ‘Ms. MonroDoes a persons face change when they lose their virginity? Thanks Karl’ Now, I don’t know if I have some weird kind of dyslexia but I completely misread this question the first… -
And when did you last see your virginity....
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Ride 'em Cowboy...
20 Oct 2009 | 12:51 pmAs ever, losing virginity can mean many different things to many different people. Never was this more true than in the case of Brad, the owner of a story that caused consternation amongst my friends, family, various random passers by in the street and selected members of the local clergy. Brad is a long standing correspondent of mine and when he dropped the following bombshell one day, I was only too happy to listen. Brad wanted to tell me about the time that he lost his anal virginity. Yes readers, his anal virginity - to his wife. Now whether this is in fact a legitimate loss of virginity… -
To be or not to be.....
26 Sep 2009 | 4:20 amWhoops! The Virginity Project took an accidental sabbatical. Once again, the day job took over the show but it’s all over now and I am on the hunt again for my next freelance contract. Meanwhile, I had this interesting exchange with a young American woman…. This week’s storyteller makes so many interesting points about sex and virginity that it’s hard to know where to begin. The point that stands out a mile for me is when she tells us how shocked she was to discover that there was a word to describe the state of never having had sex – or the ‘default’ state as she calls it. This… -
The very best of British...
6 Sep 2009 | 5:54 am
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Dating
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eHarmony Dating
Well, what can I say about eHarmony? They are one of the premiere dating sites, and for a good reason. I signed up for a full membership, tried it out, and all I can say is they really get down to the nitty gritty as far as what you would like in life. They definitely try hard to match you up with a potential mate! -
Love Dada Dating
I rate this site so highly because not only can you comfortably find singles online with a web browser, but you can find them when your away from your computer with your cell phone! Very nice! New singles are joining all the time, and Love.Dada has around 3 million members. It seems with the ease of cell phone AND internet usage, connections are made all the time. I cant recommend this site enough! Dont take my word for it, check out all of the positive and negative features of the site and the Love.Dada dating scene below. -
Real Mature Singles Dating
Real Mature Singles is a screened group of single adults who are ready to move beyond online dating and into something real. -
Thirty Plus Singles
If you're 30-ish, or way over it, then you may be looking for a more serious relationship. I think this is one reason why more single women and men seem to find Thirty Plus Singles so successful! This site has lots of no-nonsense dating features, it also has strict rules imposed on its sign-up options. The screening is so stern and thorough that people below 30 and with less than the approved income range of $25,000, cannot join. Beacuse of this, there are more professionals at Thrity Plus Singles compared to most other sites. The quality is highly observed even for its members, and it can be… -
VIP Singles
Elite Matchmaking for Professional Singles VIP Singles is a true matchmaking service. They assign a personal representative to you. This person reviews the profile that you submit to them, and from there, start suggesting matches. These are hand picked, and human scrutinized results. It really doesn't get much better than this! The personal attention really shines through once you go step through 3 phases of the online sign-up process. We've signed up and tried out VIP Singles for you, below find the 3 step sign-up process outlined.
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aag
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Genderfork
21 Nov 2009 | 12:48 am------ This post, Genderfork, originally appeared on aag on Saturday, November 21, 2009. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and without my permission. Please email aagblog at gmail dot com and let me know. ------ Share: -
RSVP
20 Nov 2009 | 9:25 amClick image to view rest of gallery. ------ This post, RSVP, originally appeared on aag on Friday, November 20, 2009. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and without my permission. Please email aagblog at gmail dot com and let me know. ------ Share: -
Opinion
19 Nov 2009 | 8:00 pmWhat name is given to the person raising your children’s siblings? It’s a question I’ll soon have to face, as my little ones’ birth mother is in the preliminary stages of planning for the placement of the baby she’s now carrying. I am so grateful that she’s taking this route as opposed to the one she drifted into the past two times. Perhaps having two babies sucked into the maw of The System finally convinced her of the wisdom of thinking ahead. The process can be as relaxed or rapid as it needs to be. I’ve heard of birth mothers making plans with our… -
Crucifix
18 Nov 2009 | 8:00 pmOver the past several months ownership of the medical practice my family uses has been in transition. Previously it was part of a large regional group; now it’s owned by a multi-state corporation with strong ties to the Catholic church. Thus far the new management has brought about no perceptible changes but for one: Every hallway, every exam room, every office and (presumably) every janitor’s closet is now adorned with a crucifix. Somehow we’ve managed to stay out of the bathrooms at our visits so I cannot report on the proximity of these icons to the toilets. I should have… -
There is a basin in the mind
18 Nov 2009 | 12:20 pmThere is a basin in the mind where words float around on thought and thought on sound and sight. Then there is a depth of thought untouched by words, and deeper still a gulf of formless feelings untouched by thoughts. Their Eyes Were Watching God via smut to-go ------ This post, There is a basin in the mind, originally appeared on aag on Wednesday, November 18, 2009. If you are viewing it anywhere other than in a feed reader or email, it was scraped illegally and without my permission. Please email aagblog at gmail dot com and let me know. ------ Share:
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Practical Polyamory™
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Support Scarleteen and Comprehensive Sex Ed for Teens
14 Nov 2009 | 8:28 pmOne of the causes I consider very important is comprehensive sex education for minors, and putting an end to abstinence-only sex ed, which is both irresponsible and ineffective. I'm passionate on this subject because I don't want to see any of today's youth be led down the f***ed up road I was led down, where I was given zero positive messaging about sex and some very damaging sex-negative messaging that it took many years to correct so that I could have a healthy sex life and happy relationships. My friend Heather Corinna founded and runs the Scarleteen website which furnishes comprehensive… -
Call for Intervenors - Canadian Polyamorists Set to Challenge Anti-Polygamy Law
14 Nov 2009 | 8:06 amWe US poly activists will surely be watching this case very closely. If you are poly and Canadian, please consider responding to this call - you have an opportunity to make history here both legally and socially and help ensure relationship freedom for yourself and your brother and sister Canadian polyamorists. And though this won't set a legal precident here in the US, its success will surely be helpful in working toward global acceptance of our kind of relationships. Although this is no laughing matter, I couldn't resist including this campy picture and a link to the Onionesque article that… -
Monogamy vs. Polyamory Debated on CNN.com Live
1 Nov 2009 | 8:31 pmWithin the last week CNN.com Live hosted an excellent debate on monogamy, polyamory, and human instinct. Representing the polyamorous viewpoint by telephone were Family web series creator Terisa Greenan and one of her partners, Scott Campbell. Terisa and Scott did an excellent job of answering questions and clearing up some common misconceptions about polyamory. By the way, you can see the most excellent season finale of "Family" at the link I just provided complete with de rigueur cliffhanger ending. Fun seeing Chris Bingham of Bone Poets Orchestra and Gaia Consort before that, who with his… -
Polyamorous Personal Development Guru Steve Pavlina and Wife Separate
29 Oct 2009 | 11:12 amAfter posting very candidly to their very popular personal development website early this year about their decision to open their marriage, I'm sorry to say that author and personal development guru Steve Pavlina and his wife, Erin, have decided to divorce. Steve cites polyamory as part of the reason in his recent blog post entitled Separation.Steve says that the communication demands were too much for them to handle. Yes, there is a big investment of time and energy up front when a married couple transitions to an open marriage. I imagine both are very busy people from… -
Army Disciminates Against Bereaved Poly Family, ACLU Saves the Day
16 Oct 2009 | 11:45 amI was dismayed but not surprised to have learned just yesterday, via an alert subscriber to a poly email list focused on poly southerners, about the following story reported there. It well illustrates that Don't Ask Don't Tell is not the only discriminatory military law that needs to be put out of our misery. Apparently a long-term M/F/M/F poly quad with several children was doing what I've believed for a long time could be an entirely sensible solution to the burden of extended isolation and loneliness partners of deployed servicemen and servicewomen regularly have to…
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Rhi in Pink
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In Which It Was Worth It
17 Nov 2009 | 7:30 pm18 months after a super painful surgery, and 6 months after a pretty freaking horrific course of Lupron treatments, I’m super excited to tell you guys that I am COMPLETELY CYST FREE! This means, no surgeries for the foreseeable future and also NO MORE LUPRON. Thank you all for listening to me whine… xoxoxo Healthy Uterus Rhi -
Update on my Noveau Riche Wedding*
16 Nov 2009 | 6:21 amAs far away as my wedding is, I’m quite proud of the things we’ve been able to accomplish thus far. I take great pride in marking the little tasks on TheKnot.com as DONE. But, for as much as we’ve been able to accomplish, there’s obviously still so much to be done. So, I thought I’d periodically provide a little update as to what’s going on in the world of Rhiannon’s Noveau Riche Wedding. *Title courtesy of the lovely Pippi who came over here to rain on my parade a few days ago. I can only assume that someone peed in Pippi’s Cheerios, as the… -
Things I currently can’t get enough of
12 Nov 2009 | 7:49 pmPW’s Sherried Tomato Soup – I made this soup about a week ago, froze half of it and then ate the rest of it for the next several days. I’ve since taken frozen soup out of the freezer and am eating it again. It’s the best soup ever. My new driving moccasins, which I purchased at J.Crew in Chicago after trying on bridal gowns with Kristabella. (seriously, I’ve been looking for the perfect pair for a year. My closet, which has been recently entirely made over thanks to my Mom. (Huggable Hangers, you guys, GET THEM). The Etsy wedding section. So many lovely things… -
Confessions
29 Oct 2009 | 7:01 amI have voice crushes. My original voice crush was Ira Glass. Now, I have a voice crush on Peter Sagal and Kai Rysdall. (The Ira voice crush remains) I want to elope. I’m so sick of wedding input from random people. My wedding budget is none of your business. If you’re worried that my wedding budget is preventing me from buying a house, worry about something else, because IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. We have a potluck at work today and I want to call in sick. Unless I know you very well and I know your general kitchen cleanliness well, I don’t want to eat something you made… -
Friday Bullets: Very, Very Sick Edition
16 Oct 2009 | 6:38 amI’m fairly certain that for the past 4 days I’ve been suffering from a little something the world likes to call H1N1. Here’s something that’s REALLY stupid: if you’re an otherwise healthy adult, you’re not supposed to go to the doctor unless you have “complications,” so if you’re an an otherwise healthy adult you can count on suffering through this for four (and counting) days. Your doctors office might pretend that they can help you, but mainly they’ll just make you wait 5 hours for a phone call back and when you finally get sick of…
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This Marriage Thing
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Saying Sorry
Hey, this is the beginning of a long weekend. Yipee. The sun is rumored to make an appearance in Boston on Sunday. We'll see. Meanwhile, my good friend and fellow blog goddess, Alisa Bowman of Project Happily Ever After, is sharing her two cents on why being in love ... -
Whose Rules Rule: Grandma or Mommy?
There's no real reason for my fixation on rules at the moment. First, marriage rules then an interesting article in the WSJ.com caught my attention. Of course, it did with grandma in the title. I'm a wee bit obsessed with grandbabies. Grandbabies- those little bundles of extreme joy wrapped up ... -
Stop- Carnival Time! 121
Yes, that was a horrible MC Hammer reference. What do you want? It's Sunday and I spent the afternoon at the Allston Main Street event, Taste of Allston, scarfing down the cuisine of the local restaurants, including pork bulgogi, sag paneer, and buffalo wings. I even ran into two of ... -
Love and Intimacy with Diana Daffner, MA
Slow is good. That's the message I took away from the wonderfully playful conversation I had with Diana Daffner yesterday. You recall I was trying to interest all of you in talking about tantric sex as a way of deepening your connection with that special person? Well, I'm still thinking ... -
Marriage Rules
You know, they say that each person is a unique culture, complete with his or her own customs, celebrations and rules. I think that's true and what makes being married especially tough sometimes. Being married is like visiting a foreign country and only partially speaking the language. You understand what they're ...
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Scarleteen
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Help Lift Sex Ed to a Higher Plane: Support Scarleteen!
19 Nov 2009 | 8:46 am[img_assist|nid=2796|title=|desc=|link=none|align=right|width=300|height=368]You probably know Scarleteen has been the premier online sexuality resource for young people worldwide since 1998. We have consistently provided free inclusive, comprehensive and positive sex education, information and support to millions for longer than anyone else online. We built the online model for teen and young adult sex education and have remained online for nearly eleven years to sustain, refine and expand it. -
Spotlight on Scarleteen: Mary C.
16 Nov 2009 | 4:17 pmIf you're a regular reader of the Scarleteen blog, then you're probably already familiar with her fierce, fantastic, and, yes, frisky blog entries: Mary C. a.k.a. Mary Lingwall may be a relatively new arrival at Scarleteen, but she's already made quite a splash with some strong stories. Not afraid to push the envelope, Mary's posts are a mixture of fresh personal narrative, social commentary, and academic comparative that is tasty and easy to swallow-- just what the empowered sex-positive educator ordered! -
Welcome to the 6th Feminist Carnival!
11 Nov 2009 | 11:25 amWe're pleased to host the 6th edition (oops, make that the 8th!) of the newly reborn Feminist Carnival! In the spirit of rebirth, and in alignment with the readers and mission of Scarleteen, this round puts it's focus on young feminist bloggers and feminist issues particularly pertinent to younger women. The F-Word & The Myth of the Invisible Young Feminist -
We Want Your Texts!
10 Nov 2009 | 6:02 pm[img_assist|nid=2741|title=|desc=|link=none|align=right|width=168|height=244] (I know, George Michael jokes are probably lost on a lot of you, but I just couldn't help myself.) We're excited to tell you that we've got a brand spankin' new way for you to get quick answers to your questions even when you're not near a computer. You can now text us! Hooray! To ask Scarleteen a question via text, just text 66746 and start your question with the keyword ASKST. -
I'm becoming a Christian: How can I reconcile my faith with my sex life?
9 Nov 2009 | 10:48 am
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Married And Happy
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My Wife Has No Desire For Sex. Help!
9 Nov 2009 | 6:38 pmHusband, what about your sex-life (or, as some guys say, "lack of sex life")?Does your wife seemingly have little to no desire for sex? Consider this man's note:"Help! For several years now, my wife has had virtually no desire for sex. At the beginning, things were great in the sex department but now, any sex we have is like she's doing me a favor. And honestly, I've just about reached the point where I'm done with her. If she'd just be more sexual, I'd be happy with her because outside of sex, she's a great woman. But, I'm just not the kind of guy who can go without sex for weeks or months… -
Your Wife Has No Desire For Sex? You Better Read This
5 Nov 2009 | 7:59 amRecently, a man asked me the following question:"Calle, can you tell me what's going on? My wife and I have been married for 15 years and after the first year, the sex started becoming less and less frequent. My wife simply wasn't in the mood for it...she didn't feel like having sex...she had a "headache"...she was "tired" or whatever.Now, if we make love once a month it's a miracle and even then, she's clearly and obviously just "giving it" to me so I'll shut up and go away. It doesn't seem to matter what I say or do, my wife just doesn't seem to have any interest in sex. And, that's how… -
Bob's Wife Cheated On Him…And What YOU Need To Learn From Bob!
31 Oct 2009 | 8:33 amFellow husband, are you falling short in satisfying and fulfilling your wife? I'm wondering this because I see the same "pattern" emerge again and again when a wife cheats on her husband.As someone who does extensive research into marriage relationships, I frequently get to interact with men whose wife has cheated on them. And, what's interesting is that these men "thought" they knew their wife...they thought they knew what she wanted...and what she liked and didn't like...and who she really was. But, when these men contrasted what they "knew" with what their wife and her lover actually DID,… -
Would Fixing This Mistake Turn On Your Wife Sexually?
15 Oct 2009 | 1:26 pmThere's a serious mistake that some men make in the way they think about their wife and their marriage and this error causes them to lose out on a LOT of intimacy that they'd otherwise get to enjoy. Even worse, it eventually drives their woman to either leave the marriage or to seek out a more satisfying partner on the side.We have a word for this mistake; it's called entitlement and here's just one example of how the line of thought behind this mistake goes..."I am the husband and my job is to "work" and provide for my family. I take responsibility for our financial welfare and all money… -
What Is Love? Happily Married People Say It Is...
13 Oct 2009 | 10:00 amWhat is love?Well, unhappily married people would say it's that "magic" feeling that "just happens" between two people...it's not something you can consciously create...it's that "spark" that's either there or it isn't.And, with a definition like that, you know WHY these people are unhappily married.Love is the thing that people want more than anything else in life...and unhappily married people have defined it as something that's completely outside of their control.They've defined it as a WHIM that can come AND go...it's something that's unbelievably exciting when it's there and intolerable…
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The Frisky
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The Curse Of The Lifetime Movie?
21 Nov 2009 | 10:00 amI’ve developed a theory. Maybe I am just overly paranoid, but there seems to be some kind of curse associated with starring in a Lifetime movie. The pattern is: be in a Lifetime movie and then things go down the tubes. Take for example, former... -
The Frisky’s Chic On The Street: Spring In Sydney
21 Nov 2009 | 9:30 amIt’s almost summertime in Australia, and transitioning seasons is always tricky. Check out Michaela’s preseason look: a crisp white button down, cut-off shorts, and her favorite Wittner boots. It’s the perfect segue to summer… [Crazy that in this... -
When Snooping Gets Out Of Control
21 Nov 2009 | 8:00 amHe’s done it before: left me alone in his apartment. But I haven’t done this—until now. It’s not as if these boxes haven’t always been filled with photographs; it’s not as if these leather notebooks weren’t always filled with his handwriting; it’s... -
Fido’s Chance At Sartorial Superstardom
21 Nov 2009 | 7:30 amI want a dog. Badly. But unfortunately, living in Manhattan with roommates is not exactly conducive to housing puppies. The Limited is making it really hard for me to stray from adopting a little pet of my own, as they’ve launched a brand new line... -
5 Celebs Who Dissed Their Younger Rivals
21 Nov 2009 | 7:00 amEvery time someone has something mean to say about Rachael Ray, I am all ears. I can’t stand her “delish"s or “yum-o"s and the only time I made it through a whole episode of her cooking show, she made a hamburger salad followed by a pizza salad and...
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About.com Sexuality
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New Online Course on Sexuality, Disability, and Rights
19 Nov 2009 | 11:15 amI just had a chance to talk briefly with Caroline Earle from CREA about what sounds like a great new project. It's an online course offering training in disability, sexuality and rights for people working in development, health and rights NGOs and social activists. Who could this training be good for? Caroline gave the example of someone working in an HIV/AIDS clinic who would certainly be aware of how HIV impacts people's lives, but might not have made the connection to disability and get how powerful (for both individuals and organizations trying to make change) linking sexuality, gender,… -
Meet Your New Experimental Sex Drug: Flibanserin
16 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pmPharmaceutical maker Boehringer Ingelheim (BI) is looking to create a lot of pre-emptive buzz for its gamble on the female sex drug market, flibanserin. Flibanserin is being developed as a non-hormonal treatment for low sexual desire in women, a market that's thought to be more financially lucrative than even the $2 billion dollar erectile dysfunction market. On Monday they orchestrated several media releases, webcasts, and a presentation at a major sexual medicine conference in Europe, all to release data from Phase III trials on pre-menopausal women labeled with low sex drive (also known as… -
High Doses of Commonly Used Chemical Linked to Male Sexual Dysfunction
15 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pmBisphenol A (BPA) is an industrial chemical primarily used in plastic production (it's in everything from baby bottles to the inside of food and drink containers to sex toys). Its use is so common that in one study of BPA levels in the U.S. adult population, it showed up in more than 90% of urine samples. The main human health concern about BPA is its impact on reproductive health and reproductive systems. There are also environmental concerns about the amount of BPA that is seeping into the water system and its negative effect on both plants and fish. So far research has looked at BPA… -
Sex Toy Review – The Sqweel
12 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pmAn unusual vibrator which creates a feeling of being touched not vibrated, Sqweel was developed out of a design-a-sex-toy contest run by LoveHoney, one of the UK's biggest and hardest working online sex shops. I've seen contests like this before but have never heard of a company taking the winning design all the way to market*. The Sqweel is a seriously fun toy. It offers what the old tongue vibrator always promised but never delivered; a genuine alternative to buzzing, thumping, whirring vibrators, and one that feels as if you're being touched in a way you've never been touched before. It's… -
Record, Rap, Sing for Smarter, Safer Sex
10 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pm15 and Counting is a campaign developed by the International Planned Parenthood Federation to push governments to meet a commitment made in Cairo in 1994 to provide universal access to services and information on reproductive and sexual health. 179 governments signed on to do this by 2015. The campaign is like an early alarm clock, reminding everyone that they only have five years left. One of their projects is a music competition. They've teamed up with Dopetracks, a free music collaboration network, and are getting people to record 15 and counting inspired tracks. Tracks that feature gem…
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Having my cake and eating it too
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Zodiac
20 Nov 2009 | 7:05 pmIn my search for a replacement for the glass dildo that broke into two pieces when I dropped it in the sink, I was sent the Zodiac by the lovely Chris at Bondara.It's a glass dildo that doubles as a vibrator because it has a vibrating bullet that you insert into a small socket at the base. This means that you can use it with or without vibration.As I knelt on the bed, my torso supported by lots -
e[lust] #1
20 Nov 2009 | 3:50 pmWelcome to the first edition of e[lust]! Below is your source for inspirations of lust and sexual intelligence from a wide range of sex bloggers. Want to be included in the next edition? Submission period opens for e[lust] # 2 on November 20th – subscribe to the RSS feed and Twitter for all updates! Check out the submission guidelines and rules of general conduct here. This week’s top three picks -
HNT: Relax
19 Nov 2009 | 2:51 amAfter a hard work-out, there is nothing more rewarding than a proper relaxation period. Allowing yourself time to just lie flat and empty your mind. To enjoy the effects of your labours as you focus on your breathing and say 'Not Now, I Deserve This' to any thoughts that try to interrupt your concentration.And so much better knowing that, on the other side of the wall and very much squashed -
Powerless
17 Nov 2009 | 2:58 amI lay there, trapped. Naked underneath you in the scrambled bed.Only moments before, there had been mutual passion. Now, there was only fear and pain.The leglock would dislocate my hip if I tried to move it and had already tweaked something badly enough to continue to hurt.I'd asked you to stop but you just kept going.Trapping my head and my arm within the ring of one of your arms and pressing -
Mute Monday: The Favourite
15 Nov 2009 | 4:56 pmStar Trek: VOY episode"Favorite Son"
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Ask Dan and Jennifer
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Don’t Let The Passion Fade!
20 Nov 2009 | 6:00 amPassion is not to be confused with love, but it still is an important part of a relationship – and it’s important to understand WHY it’s important! Because the feelings of passion we experience – especially pronounced at the beginning of a relationship – aren’t actually love, couples should be aware that the absence of passion is not the absence of love. However, losing passion in a relationship is something that should not be taken lightly. As one therapist on PsychologyToday.com described it: “But those couples who have failed to keep the passion alive can… -
Sustainable Relationships
18 Nov 2009 | 6:00 amIf you have had a few relationships you know what I mean by “sustainability,” especially ones that have been a source of pain or suffering to some degree. (Some of which have compelled you to dispose of them by almost any means, organic or not.) But what of the ones you wish to keep, nurture and grow? Given all the energy most of us spend putting ourselves “out there” on the emotional limb let’s wise up and turn those seeds into wisdom. Let’s instead get on with how to make our lives fertile so that we can more optimally attract and create more healthy, fulfilling, sustainable… -
Britney Spears “3″ – Are Threesomes “In?” (Video)
15 Nov 2009 | 11:20 amIt’s every guy’s wet dream right – and no, we’re not talking about the Princess-Leia-in-the-gold-bikini fantasy. We’re talking about threesomes. Threesomes have long been touted as the “holy grail” of sex for guys, and any real life threesome gives a guy automatic bragging rights to his friends. Women who are down with threesomes are considered wild and fun, and as society becomes less censored and more open about human sexuality, threesomes are actually a commonly accepted practice. So are threesomes the new black? Britney Spears “3″ is… -
7 Ways To Tell If Your Friends Are True
11 Nov 2009 | 4:40 pmI grew up with my mother telling me I was lucky if I could count all my real friends on one hand! Of course, I didn’t listen then but it occurred to me after a string of disappointing intimate relationships (friendships) that maybe she was right—again. That it might be wise to invest more time in creating some deep and lasting friendships, as they theoretically seemed to have greater staying power and could be in many ways equally fulfilling. How To Create A Deep, Meaningful Friendship My history with friendships was rather sketchy and my role models even more so – in terms of… -
Pre-Wedding Jitters Vs. Second Thoughts
10 Nov 2009 | 2:00 pmThe ring has been chosen and placed on the bride-to-be’s left hand, a symbolic representation of the circle of love that will follow and is accompanied later by the glorious wedding band that tells us she is dedicated to her husband. Showers, parties, wedding plans and in law problems start to arise. Schedule conflicts, budget concerns, honeymoon dilemmas, housekeeping questions…. these seem small in comparison to the ultimate major conundrum, “do I know what I’m getting into”? Either bride OR groom may be asking themselves this very question and then wondering if it’s even OK to…
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iVillage Love & Sex
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The Orgasmic French Kiss
Leave a lasting, eroticized impression with these tips for giving an orgasmic French kiss! -
11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009
Did you make mistakes in your relationships in 2008 that you want to avoid in 2009? What did you do right that you want to keep doing? We asked the iVillage community for their relationship resolutions, and we hope they'll inspire a few of your own. -
Conversation Topics That Mean He Wants Sex
Is he trying to sleep with you? You may be able to tell just based on the conversations he starts! -
5 Tips for Staying at His Place
Sleeping at your place: Most men believe they can control the situation when in familiar surroundings, but that confidence can be both a blessing and a curse. -
Quiz: Are You A Great Date?
Do you make a good impression on dates? Take this quiz and find out if you have found the right balance between being too easy and too hard to please.
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Baggage Reclaim
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The Fallback Girl – The Girl Who Cried Wolf
19 Nov 2009 | 11:30 amWhen I was a kid, my mum would always say stuff like ‘If you keep sulking, the wind will change and your face will stay stuck like that’, the classic Jamaican saying ‘Those who can’t hear will feel’, and more notably, ‘Remember the boy that cried wolf?’ As I read the stories of women [...] -
News Update: New Look, Facebook, Twitter, and more…
19 Nov 2009 | 11:28 amIf you’re on the site you’ll see that things are looking very different (hopefully in a good way). There is still background stuff to be done like organising posts to make it easier to find posts on key subjects and also to enjoy all of the stuff in the archives. I’ve also set up a fan [...] -
Reader Question: How do you teach someone boundaries for a healthy relationship?
18 Nov 2009 | 7:02 amOn Monday I explained about how we teach people how to treat us and what to expect from us, and this in turn, threw up some more questions, namely, how do you teach someone, who incidentally has already been disrespecting your boundaries, what your boundaries are for a healthy relationship? There was also the question [...] -
Reader Question: What do you mean we teach people how to treat us in relationships?
16 Nov 2009 | 9:00 amRecently I wrote about whether you understand the dynamics of your relationship and a few people have emailed asking me to focus on the aspect of teaching people how to treat us and what to expect. I am a firm believer that whilst words are wonderful, if they are not backed up with actions, [...] -
Do you understand the dynamics of your relationship?
6 Nov 2009 | 12:15 pmRecently when speaking and corresponding with readers, I’ve been emphasising the importance and impact of the dynamics of your relationship. As I’ve said again and again, we teach one another how to treat us and what to expect with the use (or absence) of boundaries, and as we engage with each other and time passes, the [...]
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LadyThrills.com
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Idiot of the Day - Denise Richards
26 Oct 2009 | 10:45 amIf you don't know what Twitter is exactly, please step away from the computer. Denise Richards wins the Idiot of the Day award for posting her private number on Twitter and then thinking she deleted it, when, in fact she did not. So the 1.28 million followers Denis Richards has on Twitter were probably calling her like mad. So now she changed her number and apologized for being such a doof. Read more at Celebitchy.com -
Channing Tatum Stripping Video
12 Aug 2009 | 6:57 amChanning Tatum is sexy as hell, even at 18, wearing a thong and lip syncing on stage, he proved that he was the man. And man does he have a package!We love you Channing Tatum!The song in the beginning is by Shai and is called "Comforter". -
Celebrity Flaw - Madonna Veiny Arms
27 Jul 2009 | 9:28 amWhat the hell happened to Madonna? Why does she look like her skeleton's on the outside?Somebody give this woman a hamburger, for the love of God! -
Tony Romo Dumps Jessica Simpson
13 Jul 2009 | 5:34 pmPoor Jessica Simpson is single again because Tony Romo dumped her ass now that his new season is about to begin. Jessica Simpson is now spending her time on Twitter and trying to land the covers of all the tabloids. Unfortunately, a little thing called Michael Jackson has monopolized the tabloids.Jessica Simpson is about to gain more weight than we have ever seen before. Unless of course, John Mayer decides to pay her a visit or two now that Tony Romo has given her her 4%.Hopefully, this won't translate into another awful country album on Jessica Simpson's part. And for her sake, I hope Tony… -
Celebrity Flaw of the Day - Mena Suvari Cellulite
8 Jul 2009 | 8:03 amAh yes, the cellulite is back and this time Mena Suvari is the carrier. Although from the front, Mena Suvari looks downright flawless, when baby girl turns around, she has the hamstrings of a cottage cheese mama. Now I'm not laughing it up while I write this, I feel for all women who just can't shake that orange peel away, but I do take comfort in the fact that even a boatload of money cannot take that cellulite away. Nevertheless, Mena Suvari is beautiful, with cellulite or without cellulite.
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The Principles of Pleasure
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Tomorrow night in LA... ORGASMS!
10 Nov 2009 | 1:06 pmThis Wednesday, FREE! 8-10 pmUncovering the O: Female Orgasms and More! More! More! Join sex educator and author Jamye Waxman, M.Ed. as she leads this workshop, open to all genders, designed to teach the ins and outs of pleasing the female body. Learn how to turn on female-bodied partners or, if you’re the proud owner of one, how to turn yourself on and how to bring yourself to a whole new level of satisfaction and comfort with masturbation techniques and frank talk about sex and anatomy. -
BDSM for Beginners
2 Nov 2009 | 12:36 pmAs I mentioned before, we have some exciting web changes coming soon. Until then, we've all been seriously busy (sex) bees curating, creating, and coming up with new ways to connect with our lovely clientele (that's you). Here is little taste of what's to come in our expanded information and education sections of our website.BDSM for BeginnersYou’ve probably seen some form of BDSM depicted on television, in movies, or even snuck into an otherwise “vanilla” porno. Maybe it made you curious, maybe it turned you on, or maybe it turned your partner on and now you sleep with one eye open,… -
Big Bang in the Big Apple (Sorry, we had to go there)
16 Oct 2009 | 3:26 pmThe east coast leg of our Big Bang Sale kicks off tonight in our New York store with a FREE happy hour from 6-9 pm!Life in the big city can be fast and hard, and maybe you like it that way, but there's always time to catch a great deal. At the Big Bang Sale, you'll get at least 25% off every single item in the store and save even more on last chance items. Not to mention paying a visit to a major site of New York cultural history; The Rabbit episode of Sex and the City was filmed here!FREE happy hour cocktails Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evening from 6-9 pm. See you there! -
FREE Workshop Tonight at the Los Angeles Store!
30 Sep 2009 | 1:10 pmQueering Your Sex Wednesday, September 30th 8-10 pm, FREE!Geared toward all gender-variant, gender curious folks, or anyone looking to incorporate some type of gender or non-traditional power play into their sex. The class covers communication and negotiation, anatomy (including trans bodies), strapping it on, blowjobs on non-bio cocks, role-playing, and tips, tricks and toys for hot queer sex.This is a complimentary workshop with seats on a first come basis. Registration not necessary.Queering Your Sex is for everyone, and all gender and sexual identities are welcome. I'll be there… -
And the Bang goes on...
28 Sep 2009 | 12:06 pmWith barely a chance to catch our breath following the orgasmic success of the Big Bang Sale in LA, we're ready to bring the Bang to our Chicago store!We could totally make a joke right now about the windy city blowing even better this weekend, but we won't. Because we're classy.Join us on Friday 10/2 at 7 p.m. for a preview party with cocktails, DJ, and deals like 25% off the entire store, including products that have already been marked down, then get ready for Saturday 10/3 - Sunday 10/4 when the Pleasure Chest annual Big Bang Sale officially hits Chicago!And, as if October in Chicago…
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Stiletto Diaries™
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WTF? Thursdays – When Life Hands You Dead Bugs…
19 Nov 2009 | 5:26 pmShare this on del.icio.usDigg this!Share this on RedditStumble upon something good? Share it on StumbleUponShare this on TechnoratiPost this to MySpaceShare this on FacebookTweet This!Subscribe to the comments for this post?Add this to Google BookmarksShare this on FriendFeedSubmit this to TwittleyPost this on DiigoBuzz up!Seed this on NewsvineMark this on BlogMarks -
Oh We Didn’t Know That It Always Gets Harder
18 Nov 2009 | 4:37 pmSometimes the most difficult parts of poly are juggling time between partners, negotiating schedules, and discussing emotions ad nauseum. Sometimes the most difficult parts are agreeing on which movie to rent on a Friday night, or whose turn it is to wash the dishes, or which bed to sleep in. Lately, the most difficult part for me, has been the fact that Jack isn’t seeing anyone at the moment, and the intense guilt I sometimes feel that I’m so enjoying my relationship with Aiden. I remind myself that I haven’t done anything to prevent Jack from meeting anyone. In fact not… -
LifeStyles Skyn Condom Review
10 Nov 2009 | 8:54 amSome weeks back I was perusing the “Family Planning” section of a local drugstore, as I am wont to do. Even though I now enjoy the luxury of going bareback with both of my favorite males, I like to keep up on the latest and greatest in pregnancy prevention and safe sex practices. I came across a new offering by LifeStyles, which is one of my two favorite brands. Skyn condoms are revolutionary in that they are made of neither latex nor polyurethane. Instead the material used is called polyisoprene, which was originally developed from a purified form or natural rubber, but… -
I’m Sick Of Following My Dreams. I’ll Just Ask Them Where They’re Going And Hook Up With Them Later
9 Nov 2009 | 9:06 amIt’s been five days since Aiden fastened that lovely steel collar around my neck, in a sort of impromptu exchange that only involved the two of us. Earlier in the day we went over together and finalized our contract. We also went over and agreed upon the rules (some of them were a little harder to ‘agree on’ than others, LOL). Then he asked if I wanted his collar, and I said yes, and that was that. Afterwards we consummated our ‘new relationship’ and then had a long, hot shower together, followed by more of his cock being thrust into my mouth, and pussy,… -
No Roads Less Traveled Than The One We’re On
2 Nov 2009 | 1:05 pmI’ve hinted and mentioned here and there that Aiden and I have a certain amount of D/s in our relationship. For those of you who are maybe not familiar with the finer points of kink relationship dynamics, D/s refers to Domination and submission. One person in the relationship is the Dominant, and the other is the submissive. What that means exactly is different for everyone. Rather than go into a long and complicated explanation I will refer you here, to a page on D/s dynamics, and here, which is for those of you not familiar with BDSM in general. For the past month or so, he and…
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Mommy Has A Headache
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Kultural Karaoke Konfusion
17 Nov 2009 | 9:43 amI had always thought that Karaoke was a universally understood language. Okay so I have only ever done it in Britain but if someone said, "Oh Dave gave a brilliant Karaoke performance Saturday Night," you'd immediately reply, "Oh really, did he.......Trip over a cable and smash his head?"....sing like a cat on heat?"...accidentally nut the DJ because he was so drunk he fell over?"or...short circuit the electrics by spilling his beer?"The common denominator here being that he made an arse of himself.Indeed, as I understand it the universal law of karaoke is that you are drunk, usually blind… -
Fat Flyers are the last taboo
12 Nov 2009 | 10:27 amYou can call them differently weighted, gravitationally challenged, horizontally challenged, horizontally gifted, people of mass or people of substance but whichever way you slice the lard I call them obese.United Airlines was a voice of reason in the wilderness when they said that obese people should have to pay for a second seat on their airline or be bumped off the aircraftUnited says that it decided to adopt the tougher policy after receiving more than 700 complaints last year from passengers "who did not have a comfortable flight because the person next to them infringed on their seat,"… -
Her Imaginary Boyfriend
1 Nov 2009 | 7:13 amYesterday night my husband John, the kids and myself had been invited round to my friend Hannah’s house for trick or treating. But more exciting for me was the fact that I was finally going to meet Ed, her new boyfriend.Now Hannah has been dating this guy for four months so it is nothing short of a miracle that I haven’t met him yet. At first things were great between them. Unlike her last boyfriend who she found cheating on her she told me he seemed pathologically faithful from day one and declared love by around the first week mark. They shared the same taste in music and generally got… -
Knight Rider turns Shrink
28 Oct 2009 | 8:22 amNo, it's not April Fool's Day I swear. David Hasselhoff, of Knight Rider, Baywatch and America’s Got Talent fame is opening up his brain and allowing you the opportunity to dig deep into his legendary wisdom. Yes, The Hoff's BRAIN now has an IPhone application called Ask The Hoff which answers questions using pre-recorded responses from Hasselhoff while an animated version of the star is displayed.If you've ever wanted to access the Hoff's brain and I know I haven't you can now ask it questions about life and receive answers from a man who is known all around the world as the Californian… -
I Birthed a Closet Organiser
22 Oct 2009 | 8:34 am"Ah yes,and here at the end of the tour we come to the desk of the famous writer Emma Kaufmann who wrote many a bonkbuster at this desk. She claimed chaos fuelled her creativity."If you are wondering where I have gone I really am writing a novel - honest. The upside of writing a novel is it stops me from thinking about food 24/7 and I think I have already lost three pounds. The book is a black comedy murder mystery but I am keeping it very much under my hat at the moment. Writing a novel is quite good in so many ways because when your husband says, "Why is there only a dried carrot in the…
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Polyamory Weekly
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Poly Weekly #220: Gaia and a Poly Planet
15 Nov 2009 | 9:53 pmGaia blessings with Serena Anderlini-d'Onofrio. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #219: Success and Divorce
9 Nov 2009 | 9:54 pmSuccess and divorce with cohosts PepperMint and Joreth. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #218: Poly in the UK
1 Nov 2009 | 8:39 pmGraham Nicholls on polyamory in the UK. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #217: Do the math
25 Oct 2009 | 8:22 pmDo the math. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 202-202-POLY, Twitter polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com -
Poly Weekly #216: Is polygamy feminist?
18 Oct 2009 | 9:42 pmIs polygamy feminist? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 206-202-POLY or Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com
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Savvy Miss Love & Sex
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The Foolproof Way to Get Over Your Ex
15 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amIf there was only one thing you had to do to get over an ex would you do it? Relationship expert Lisa Steadman has the secret for a quick breakup recovery. -
How to Get Out of Your Dating Rut
12 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amGoing out with the same men over and over? Are the guys asking you out not what you want? Learn to get out of your dating rut and find the man you really want. -
Top 10 Reasons to Tie the Knot
5 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amWalking down the aisle can be daunting, but there are some definite perks. Here are the top 10 reasons to tie the knot.10. You’ll always have someone to bring you chicken soup when you’re sick in bed.9. You’ll have two sets of parents to give you holiday gifts.8. You’ll never have to ask, “So,... -
What His Age Means for Your Relationship
3 Nov 2009 | 12:00 amCan you make a relationship work despite an age gap? Find out the pros and cons of dating a significantly younger or older partner. -
The Relationship Middle Ground: Where Is This Going?
27 Oct 2009 | 12:00 amBetween dating and a full-blown relationship, there’s always an awkward period where you’re not sure how to act. Should you answer his phone, buy him a gift? We help you decide.
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San Francisco Sex Information
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I’m uncircumcised, and need condom advice…
18 Nov 2009 | 8:02 pmQ: I am uncircumcised and I had a few questions first, I can’t find a condom that works with my penis. The foreskin moves up and down and and the condom starts to ride up my penis and bunch up and hang off at the end. I was wondering if there was a certain kind of condom for uncircumcised guys so the foreskin could move freely. Second, some times after I have sex my forekin gets real tight and I can’t retract it and if I try to it starts to tear and is really tight. I don’t know what it is from. I have a long overhang and I can always retract my foreskin just fine except… -
Didn’t have sex, but still worried about pregnancy…
4 Nov 2009 | 8:48 pmQ: I’ve read your FAQ and read that, “It is almost impossible for a woman to become pregnant from a man ejaculating on her clothing or near her underwater. ” My situation is that I’ve never had direct genital contact with my boyfriend (no penetration, no rubbing genitals, no nothing). However, I’ve masturbated him, and although after his ejaculation was always on his body (and never near me), and that we have always washed our hands with water and soap afterward, not always did we wash his penis. We did wipe it dry though, and put it back in his pants. I’m… -
Why can’t I orgasm?
21 Oct 2009 | 7:51 pmQ: I’ve never had an orgasm. I’ve tried masturbation, and what I try that isn’t painful, is ineffective. The only two times I’ve had sex have been very painful and not enjoyable. I’ve had oral sex with a couple of guys and nothing has made me climax. I’m thinking that much of it could be psychological. I felt ashamed after a guy has given me oral sex. I’ve had weight and body image issues for a long time, and have always refused to have sex while being overweight. But I still have always been afraid that there is something anatomically or psychically… -
The best STD test answers ever!
14 Oct 2009 | 7:21 pmQ: I’m trying to find accurate and consistent window periods for testing for various STDs as well as how long it takes to get results. Unfortunately, this information seems to be very hard to find at all and sometimes conflicting when I do find it. I know this will vary from state to state, clinic to clinic Of greatest concern is the time it takes to get results. Please give me information for all the common STDs. Thanks. A: Here are our best answers, broken down by disease. > Chlamydia – standard used to be a bacterial culture (takes a few days to come back), but more common… -
I had a dream I kissed a girl. Am I bisexual?
7 Oct 2009 | 7:57 pmQ: I am 14 years old and last night I had a dream about me hooking up (majorly) with another girl. I have never properly kissed either a guy or a girl but I had this really intense dream which makes me think. Am I in denial? Am I actually a bisexual or even a lesbian? I’ve always thought it would be interesting to kiss a girl as well, just to say I have done it. But I think I would rather do the whole guy thing. Can you please help me? A: Aren’t dreams amazing? So, what you have experienced is only a dream. Just as simple as that. There’s nothing wrong with feeling…
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Beyond the Birds & the Bees
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INappropriate Attire Policies
13 Nov 2009 | 11:22 amGirls can wear dresses or pants. Right? Apparently not at prom. Sex, Etc. magazine recently reported that a 17-year-old girl in Indiana wanted to express her gender by wearing a tuxedo to prom. She was denied this right, because her school’s dress code required girls to wear dresses to prom. The American Civil Liberties Union filed a lawsuit that resulted in the elimination of clothing restrictions based on sex. You might be quick to blow this off as a rare occurrence, but issues like this come up more than you would think. At all-male, Morehouse College in Atlanta, GA, there’s a… -
Tricks, Treats and Sexiness
5 Nov 2009 | 9:42 amThis past weekend, teens celebrated Halloween—the “sweetest” time of year with candy, mischief, scary spirits—and sexy costumes?! For some teen girls, Halloween is a fun, harmless opportunity to take exciting risks. From “naughty schoolgirls” to “sexy cops,” girls dressed up in provocative outfits to flaunt their wild sides and show off their bodies. Teens who normally aren’t all caught up in being sexy chose to wear revealing costumes that were tinier, tighter and shorter than ever. A recent article from the campus newspaper at Northwestern… -
Teen, Supermodel, Covergirl….and Pregnant
30 Oct 2009 | 12:21 pmThe cover of the November issue of Teen Vogue pictures 19-year-old Jourdan Dunn and 18-year-old Chanel Iman along with the cover line “Teen Supermodels Jourdan and Chanel on Their Rise to the Top.” Inside the magazine, Jourdan and Chanel talk about their careers as supermodels, but it’s what Jourdan reveals that’s got people talking. Jourdan is expecting a baby sometime this December and her boyfriend, mother and modeling agency are supportive of her. There was some debate at Teen Vogue, as to whether the magazine should still run the cover after they found out… -
Gardasil…What About the Guys?
26 Oct 2009 | 12:04 pmWith the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approval of the vaccine Gardasilin 2006, girls can now protect themselves against the strains of human papillomavirus (HPV) that cause many cases of cervical, vaginal and vulvar cancer, as well as genital warts. But, what about the guys? Recently, Gardasil was approved for boys, and an advisory panel from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), following the FDA approval, said that doctors are free to recommend the vaccine to boys. But saying that doctors are free to recommend the vaccine to boys is very different from their… -
Teen Relationships with Facebook: It’s Complicated
16 Oct 2009 | 10:59 amTaylor and Alex are now an item. They’re making it “official” by declaring it on Facebook. Thank goodness your news feed keeps you up-to-date on all the latest, right? You wouldn’t want to be the last one to know. But, really, how are Facebook and other popular social networking sites changing teen relationships? From boldly stating your interest in people of certain genders to declaring your relationship status, social networking sites make our relationships very public. With a simple click or an update to our information, whole networks of friends (and random people we’re virtual…
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Midwest Teen Sex Show
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MTSS introduces Blue Movies
26 Oct 2009 | 4:32 pmNikol introduces the new comedy series Blue Movies. It's about porn. -
MTSS 25: Prom (Full Episode)
1 Jun 2009 | 6:09 pmProm babies cry just as loud. -
MTSS 25: Prom (Teaser)
23 Apr 2009 | 11:17 amHave you been to prom? -
MTSS 24: Condoms (Full Episode)
8 Apr 2009 | 4:57 pmNo matter how many times youâve seen the banana demo, itâs not the same as putting one on a boner. -
MTSS and KoldCast.TV Are Still Dating
24 Mar 2009 | 8:31 amBritney and Neil brainstorm a new video to promote the continued sponsorship from KoldCast.TV.
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The Swop-East Blog
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The Big Reasons Dec 17 Exists
15 Nov 2009 | 3:45 pmFrom a Newsweek article (go to the head of the class if you can figure out what's wrong with the cop's statement):Kilcoyne is unimpressed by Pelisek's concern for the well-being of the prostitutes, runaways, and drug users who still hang out on the South L.A. streets—not because they are undeserving of police protection, but because he considers them impervious to warnings. If they were paying attention to their safety, he reasons, they wouldn't be on the street in the first place. Van Zandt agrees. The police issue warnings, he says, "and the prostitutes will say, 'Gee, I understand, but… -
Not Really News
24 Aug 2009 | 9:13 pmBored, so I caught up a bit on my Google Alerts. Since I was searching through my pile for specific terms, I came up witha random selection.People are circumventing the new CL ad restrictions by advertising for different items. It's amusing, but waiting for the new censorship on selling anything to do with women.Kansas City discovers the Intertubes and that cyber sex work exists! In 2009. Geez, weren't they aware of CraigsList, like, last year? The KCPD also seem stunned that wholesale arrests aren't solving the financial/social/legal problems sex workers have.These are just two stories that… -
Another CL Tragedy
8 Jun 2009 | 8:37 amA woman and her child are killed because of CraigsList. Moral of the story...stop having babies! AGs should step in and regulate births to prevent any more killing of children. Either that or arrest anyone under the age of 5 as a murder-prevention measure. That'll take care of pyschotic baby-killers! What? Wrong violence-preventation strategy? If it "works" for sex workers, why can't it "work" for helpless children too? (Thanks to a friend for the link.)All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise. -
News Bit
15 May 2009 | 9:36 amThis report on sex workers with HIV, though scary on the surface, just re-confirms that sex work isn't the issue, drug addiction is. And anyone can be a drug addict.All posts copyrights owned and reserved by SWOP East unless specifically stated otherwise. -
News Bits (new and old)
12 May 2009 | 7:27 pmMumbai's red light district being sold to real estate developers. (Thanks for the link to a BnG poster.)"Shell said that he has been surprised by the response he receives from college students. "They don't care about condom usage or about their partners," he said, adding, "There is a blatant disregard that anything is going to happen to them." I think I'm including this here simply to contrast it with most sex workers' hyper-awareness of disease risk, yet sex workers are considered major disease vectors when statistics don't bear this out.Possible legal advisor for the US State Department,…
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Simple Marriage
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Hang Out With Us In The Simple Marriage Community
19 Nov 2009 | 8:07 amHave you checked out the Simple Marriage Community? In fact, the community has undergone a bit of a make over recently. Now there are more topical discussion areas as well as deeper discussions. Check out the conversations and feel free to start any of your own. The Simple Marriage Community is just that, a community. A comfortable place to hang out with others in the same or similar boats and talk about what ever you’d like. There are now areas for conversations on money, sex, parenting, spirituality, problems, infidelity and anything else you’d like to add. If you join in now,… -
Simple Family: An Important Question
18 Nov 2009 | 9:08 amAre your children able to look at your marriage as more of a “how-to” manual or a “how-not-to” manual? ____ You might also be interested in my post at Zen Family Habits: Make your marriage a priority and your kids will benefit. Photo courtesy Moomettesgram Want more? A Simple Marriage – Corey’s book written to assist you in amping up your marriage. Check out the Simple Marriage Community. Get the Steps to a Simple Marriage EBook here. Related posts:Simple Family: The Lost Art Of PlaySimple Family: Giving Kids Their Space -
The Pitfalls Of We Speak
16 Nov 2009 | 9:15 amIn the 1940s a relatively unknown psychiatrist named Helmuth Kaiser wrote about a figure skating performance by identical twins he witnessed as a young boy. It wasn’t the impeccably choreographed performance that caught his attention, it was the mesmerized crowd’s reaction. He also noted that synchronized swimming teams, high-kick chorus lines, and precision military teams produced this same effect. Kaiser intuited that there was something about the unison involved in these performances that stirred the crowds. More recently, the rapid spread of the Irish dancing phenomenon… -
A Private Affair Game Winner
15 Nov 2009 | 2:10 pmApparently, there are many couples interested in playing a game designed to help couples increase the depth of their connection. There were 172 entries for the giveaway of A Private Affair: The Erotic Game of Secrets, Plans and Promises for Couples. If you’re wondering how the winner was chosen, I’ll explain. Every entry (via comment, email, and Tweet) was placed in a spreadsheet. I then used Random.org to generate a random number between 1 and 172. After all this – the winner is … Ken! No worries that there is no last name, we’re simply sending the game to every… -
How Much Do I Love Others?
12 Nov 2009 | 8:08 amSo I’ve been thinking a lot about life lately, specifically my relationships with those around me. I consider myself an extrovert who enjoys being social and interacting with others, but lately I’ve been examining the depth of my relationship with others. How much do I love others? It’s easy to say I love others, but deep down, if I’m honest with myself, do I really? I’ve tried to be more aware of my conversations with people. I’ve listened more – talked less. I’m trying to soak in what’s going on around me and I’ve discovered that…
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Honey and Lance
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A Hot Guy Sent Me Chocolate Covered Strawberries
19 Nov 2009 | 5:57 pmSo, I’ve been helping one of my ex students from back in the day get into grad school. As a token of appreciation, he sent me a dozen gourmet chocolate covered strawberries from Shari’s Berries. (Photo credit Shari’s Berries – buy some, they’re amazing! And no, I’m not an affiliate) Since it is a bit unusual for me to receive refrigerated Fed Exes at work (to say the least), the coworker who accepted the package insisted that she watch while I open it. I knew he was sending me a present but I didn’t know what it was…sweet! I shared a few… -
So Much Sex I Lost Count
16 Nov 2009 | 4:01 pmAfter over 3.5 years, Jake and I still have an awesome sex life. We don’t do it every day, but then again, we were long-distance so much of the first two years that was never the norm for us in any case. I’d say that we average 3 times a week usually, with the odd week off due to one of us traveling, getting sick, or having a period (okay, only one of us has ever needed a week off for that, and fortunately, it doesn’t appear that I’ve ever dedicated an entire blog posting to one!). Still, when you’ve been together for awhile, things do get a bit routine if… -
I Made Out With My Co-Worker Again and Then Said The Worst Line Ever
14 Nov 2009 | 2:33 pmI’m back! After acting like a monumental pussy on my last date, detailed in this post, I made some adjustments and got my swerve in working order. Here was my Monday night… I met my co-worker, Nancy, and her best friend, Liza, at a downtown sports bar for Monday Night Football. I had absolutely no expectations about this evening and was simply going to watch the game and enjoy the company. The bar was packed. During the course of the game, the three of us opened every set within eyeshot. I’ve hung with Nancy and Liza a few times before, both are very attractive… -
3.5 Years and Counting…
12 Nov 2009 | 6:09 pmToday is three and a half years since Jake and I met. Things are going great! I don’t have much to add, so I am throwing in a recent e-mail exchange. Enjoy! A Game Jake, You made me so happy this morning when you said that I was the best thing in your life. I try really hard for that to be the case (even though like I said in my card earlier this week I feel like I fail a lot). [Note: I'd gotten him a card and a bottle of wine for being patient and covering some expenses for me until my freelance check came in.] I think you deserve good things and I think that relationships… -
A Typical Date With Lance and Why Intimacy Matters on First Dates
8 Nov 2009 | 11:28 amFollowing up on Honey’s post about safety and my post about keeping it real, I wanted to lay out how I generally do first dates. Much of this involves strategies and tactics that I learned from studying pickup. Keep an open mind, especially if you’re a chick, because this will sound off-putting at first. I’ll draw some conclusions and give recommendations at the end. This post does not cover bar pickups, day game, or other quick seduction methods. My Typical First Date I used this format for close to two years and it’s very effective. It’s flexible and you can…
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Ellie Lumpesse: A Pretentious Pervert
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Dating a (reformed) cheater
10 Nov 2009 | 7:30 amA few weeks ago Mr. Vanilla and I were in the car and, being the upwardly mobile and white liberals that we are, we had on NPR. In particular, This American Life. Even more in particular, this episode about the cultural acceptance of infidelity. Anyone that follows my Twitter knows how I feel about cheating in relationships. I don’t have a lot of sympathy for any of the parties involved. I’m particularly annoyed with sex bloggers that merrily write about cheating with the expectation that as long as they are fucking, the audience will continue to pat them on the ass and tell them… -
Light
29 Oct 2009 | 4:01 pmI’m on my knees in front of him and looking up. There is dim light streaming in the windows. I’d like to think it is the moon but it is most likely the sub-division street lights casting this cool tint on the moment. Regardless of the source, he looks painfully hot. I can feel myself get wetter as I slide my mouth over his cock and crane my neck to catch his expression. Perfect. That look on his face and the way he bites his lower lip and the catch of his breath making the only sound in this room. His eyes are closed but I keep my gaze trained on him. Eventually he opens his eyes… -
(this post is hardly about) Dark Odyssey Summer Camp
21 Oct 2009 | 10:36 amI went to camp last month and had a very important time. It took several weeks for the bruises to fade but I’m still processing the self-discovery. I entered camp strongly suspecting that it would be my last foray into non-monogamy for awhile. Incidentally, I didn’t have a lot of sex. I spent most of my play time getting punched and beaten by lovely people. I also made some personal connections that I hope will persist. No one has asked me to be monogamous but after being pretty roughed up in my last relationships, I’m starting to think that polyamory and all that goes with… -
What’s to love?
8 Sep 2009 | 8:55 pmAs I focus on some key transitions in my life, I’m nurturing a new relationship. When I first mentioned Mr. Vanilla I described him as not being emotionally available. While our connection has grown and solidified in the two months that we’ve been dating, we’re both hesitant to box it in with labels. Notably, for me at least, love can be a terrifying word. In my past, less healthy, relationships that emotion has represented a willingness to sell myself terribly short and subjugate my own needs and well-being in incredibly harmful ways. Feeling loved and loving has caused me… -
Summer
21 Jul 2009 | 8:16 pmMr. Vanilla is an incredibly normal guy. He has a massive collection of relatively mainstream music. He has an average career. He isn’t a pervert. He isn’t emotionally overwrought (or even emotionally available, for that matter). Mr. Vanilla and I have gone on half a dozen pretty normal and average dates. Drinks, coffee, dinner, movies at home, a stroll on the beach. Mr. Vanilla is gentle when he touches me. He is not passive or unconfident, just deliberately gentle. He has reminded me that a soft, subtle touch can be just as controlling as a rough or painful one. Yesterday Mr.
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Girl with a one-track mind
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Hello
30 Oct 2009 | 10:17 amI'm still here, just been very, very busy. I have at least half a dozen almost-finished blog posts sitting on my laptop which I will publish as soon as I get the chance. I'm only human, so cut me... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Wand
3 Aug 2009 | 8:23 amAs regular readers will know, I only rarely plug products on this blog. Mostly this is because –a) Sexbloggers' reviews of sex toys are dull as fuck to read;b) Many sex toys are crap and not worth... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Kiss
14 Jul 2009 | 5:23 amThe first time I met him face-to-face I wanted to kiss him.Actually, I had wanted to kiss him for some weeks; each conversation we had over email, IM, or Skype increased my desire, so that by the... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Contribute
29 Jun 2009 | 11:56 am1. You may recall that I'm an ambassador for the young people's sexual health charity Brook. Some Brook employees are running the London 10K race next weekend (I am not able to join them, sadly, due... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content. -
Integrity
21 Jun 2009 | 10:07 amLet us be clear: this is not a fight between 'old' and 'new' media. This not about blogger vengeance or a mob mentality wanting to lay in to print media. This is about journalistic integrity,... If you are not reading this at http://girlwithaonetrackmind.co.uk you are reading stolen content.
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LUSTY LADY
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You haven't lived until you've eaten your face off a cupcake
20 Nov 2009 | 4:07 pmA few early shots from last night's AMAZING In The Flesh Reading Series 4-year anniversary. Photos and videos TK. The unofficial theme of the night was whores, and we did it justice. Oh, and cupcakes. Thank you so much to Treat for doing such delicious, glittery justice to the Molly Crabapple-drawn In The Flesh logo. -
Getting cultured
19 Nov 2009 | 11:21 amSome plays/performances I'm attending soon. Will try to report back on them...as well as the one I saw last week at the new Galapagos Art Space about divorce, which was quite hilarious.Creature - click for performance infoAfter being pestered by devils for more than half a year, Margery Kempe* – new mother, mayor’s daughter, and proprietress of a highly profitable beer business – is liberated from her torment by a vision of Jesus Christ in purple robes. Visions are hard to come by, even in 1401. Should we trust the new Margery, with her fasting and her weeping and her chastity fixation,… -
Not-to-be-missed In The Flesh 4-year anniversary November 19th
18 Nov 2009 | 6:20 pmIf you have ever attended In The Flesh and had a good time, please tell at least one person about tomorrow night's very special 4-year anniversary blowout event. This is my baby, my labor of love (I get a cut of the door but put that back into photography/videography/snacks) and my longest-running project. I've had 3 sex columns that have all been canned but this free event has been going and going. Here's the master list of everyone who's read (as of I think August). Tomorrow is truly a not-to-be-missed event. We have sex toys and porn and books and the gold JimmyJane vibrator to give away,… -
Kristina Wright on why stories got rejected from Fairy Tale Lust
18 Nov 2009 | 5:39 pmThese days, I thankfully don’t get too many rejection letters. It’s much more likely that I am a fool and don’t submit to anthologies I’m either invited to submit to (two were prominent, well-paying ones that I kick myself for all the time) or know the editor would likely take my piece. But I did get a story rejected for Kristina Wright’s Fairy Tale Lust and for good reason – it wasn’t really a fairy tale and, frankly, wasn’t my best work. I’d have liked to come up with another piece but lately it’s like pulling teeth and it’s a miracle I even wrote a fairy tale-ish… -
Win Peep Show: Erotic Tales of Vyeurs and Exhibitionists and read my interview at The Skint
18 Nov 2009 | 9:06 amI'm interviewed at one of my favorite sites, The Skint, AND you can win one of 3 copies of Peep Show: Erotic Tales of Voyeurs and Exhibitionists.I answer questions like "You're trying to get into someone's pants, but have just $25 to spend on a date. Discuss." Read my answer at The Skint (which you should SO bookmark if you're in NYC and join their newsletter).
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violet blue ® :: open source sex
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from Penny Flame to Becoming Jennie: on her own terms
19 Nov 2009 | 1:06 amPhoto taken when I met Penny Flame – Jennie Ketcham – at the InterContinental Hotel downtown SF. L to R: Jennie, Tristan Taormino, Sinnamon Love, Adrianna Nicole. This week’s SF Chronicle column came from a conversation I had on the set of Courtney Trouble’s next film, where I chatted about how cool it was that Jennie Ketcham had left porn so gracefully and un-stereotypically; she shed her Penny Flame persona to seek something she felt would be more authentic, even admitting she didn’t yet know what that looked like by naming her new blog Becoming Jennie. She… -
Kate Moss “Parisienne” vs. Lucy Lawless “Bitch Slap”
18 Nov 2009 | 10:24 pmThis is probably not a fair fight. That said, here is Kate Moss in Yves Saint Laurent’s “Parisienne” ad, wherein I imagine myself to be just like this in Paris next month for my LeWeb talk, but after eating some lasagna: Next, we have the trailer for upcoming film “Bitch Slap” (Jan. 8, 2010) which has Lucy Lawless as a nun (playing Mother Superior) and looks just as awful/awesome as the ad above but for wholly different reasons. It’s like if LeWeb goes all wrong and in order to get out of Paris alive I have to get all Russ Meyer and Xena on everyone while… -
featured posts: hot, popular, commented, shared
16 Nov 2009 | 10:29 pmImage by Marc Lagrange via sweet Gala Darling. Some posts here get a lot of attention: these are the most commented on, shared, popular, controversial and highest-read blog posts recently here on Tiny Nibbles: open source sex. And the comment community here is fantastic, vast and diverse — so if you’re wondering why some people have avatar photos/images with their profiles, and you want one go to Gravatars and set yourself up (using the same email address for your comment account). Fun! Here are the biggest recent hits here — some may surprise you: * rating male lovers by… -
Best Women’s Erotica 2010: tune in, turn on
16 Nov 2009 | 9:44 pmImage by Laretta Houston; follow her on Twitter. It’s here! Lush, gorgeous, arousing: Best Women’s Erotica 2010 (also: UK)! I couldn’t resist doing not one but two podcasts reading from the book to celebrate its release — and give you a taste of a book I am uniquely proud of. It’s already getting a great response on Twitter: listen in on what the reviewers are reading and talking about. In Open Source Sex 71, I give you a taste of each story in my handpicked, heart and soul collection of the best erotica by women, for women that the globe has to offer. It might… -
filthy gorgeous things: the Euphoria issue
16 Nov 2009 | 2:00 pmThe new issue of stunningly erotic webzine Filthy Gorgeous Things is out, and the theme is Euphoria. It’s my favorite online intellectual-explicit erotic magazine, and while a subscription is expensive, the freebees are fantastic. Take for example Chelsea G. Summers’ The Gift of Euphoria (and wow, click through to look at that photo): (…) It’s not your euphoria. Not exactly. It not yours because yours is not the limp-taut rag of erotic compliance, yours are not the eyes fluttering delicate as moths, yours is not the lower-case vowel pout, your skin is unchanged, your…
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Cherry TV - "Juicy Talk for Women"
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Doggie Style Technique
9 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pmToday"s featured video is Doggie Style Technique. Often when we think about sex from behind we envision doggie-style. Yet there are a number of positions a couple can use where the man enters from behind. Plus, there are many fun things, besides intercourse, that can go on in this position. Listen in! watch video -
A Discussion On Orgasms
2 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pmToday"s featured video is A Discussion On Orgasms. While a male orgasm is seemingly the same in spite of the situation, the female orgasm has a range of intensities and types (clitoral, g-spot, vaginal). Here the women discuss the difference between reaching orgasm via masturbation and with a partner. watch video -
In and Out of Rhythm
25 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is In and Out of Rhythm. A factor of good sex is rhythm -- the way two bodies move together. When it's on, and the couple moves as one, it feels great for both. When it's off, and each is moving to their own rhythm, the connection is diminished. Can it be helped? Listen in. watch video -
Masturbation/Big O Connection
11 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Masturbation/Big O Connection. Many women experience orgasm during sex without having masturbated, but it tends to be more difficult. Masturbation helps us figure out how we like to be stimulated, what feels good, and what orgasm feels like. Here the women discuss their experience. watch video -
Dating A Friend's Ex, Plus
1 Oct 2009 | 10:00 pmToday"s featured video is Dating A Friend's Ex, Plus. How long do we have to wait before we can go out with a friend's ex-boyfriend? Some say never, others say a year. Are there any rules? The women discuss along with stories about not recognizing their sexual rights. watch video
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Savage Love Podcast
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Savage Love Episode 161
17 Nov 2009 | 4:00 amAfter a drunken, seedy hookup with an alleged straight man, a gay man wonders if he should follow up. Will he still love him tomorrow? For a couple who suffers from recurrent miscarriages, sex = death. Sharing butt plugs: How do you do it safely? And more. Always more. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 160
10 Nov 2009 | 4:00 amFruit fetish! A woman enjoys being penetrated by fruits and vegetables. The problem? Her husband won't eat the bananas. A man has been subtly propositioned by a married couple to have a three-way. He wants to… BUT HE'S SCARED. Bawk. Bawk. Bawk. Is having a child like having a dog? Or like having a heroin problem? Does your dog wear diapers? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 159
3 Nov 2009 | 4:00 amSexual allergies: Can sex make you sneeze? Learn something new about your nose. When doling out wedding invitations, a caller wonders if he should include the third partner of a polyamorous couple. Mustache musk: A man's lover has stank in his 'stache. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by DigitalDesire.com. -
Savage Love Episode 158
27 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amHe's fat and won't lose weight for her. If he won't shape up, should she ship out? His latest hookup is still in the closet. Should he keep fucking him or drag him out? Her boyfriend is going bald. Should she dump him now before he becomes Dr. Phil? That's cold. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. -
Savage Love Episode 157
20 Oct 2009 | 5:00 amA college sex educator is horrified to hear that one of her students is planning on hooking up with a sadistic psychopath. Should she offer to chaperone? Mother? I'd like to tell you all about my polyamorous new relationship! How can a man tell his girlfriend that he's planning on donating sperm to his best friend so she can have a child? And you think your life is complicated? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by DigitalDesire.com. This episode was brought to you by AdamandEve.com.
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Successful Online Dating
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First Date – 5 Fantastic Ideas for 1st Dates
19 Nov 2009 | 7:43 amBy now, you know that I prefer that first dates be kept short, simple and flexible. This allows you to fairly easily and painlessly escape a date that is not going well, while leaving plenty of room to continue on if everything is moving in the right direction. So what should you do on a first date? Remember that the ability to have a conversation is key. You aren’t on a date with a restaurant or movie theater, you probably already know if you like Italian food or Action Adventure movies. You are there to get to know the other person. Here are some ideas that will allow you to have a fun,… -
First Dates – Short and Simple
14 Nov 2009 | 7:32 amI recently went on a blind date with a guy I met on a dating site. He asked if I wanted to have dinner. I countered with coffee and “let’s play it by ear.” Why would I pass up the opportunity for a free meal in this economy? Well, because I didn’t want to be trapped to an hour of tedious conversation if the date wasn’t going well. What could be less appetizing than suffering through a meal across from someone you just don’t want to be with? Maybe trying to make small talk with spinach stuck in your teeth? We met and got coffee, and found a place to sit and talk. Without the… -
Successful Pickup Lines – the 3 Cs
9 Nov 2009 | 7:14 amFirst, yeah, I know this site is Successful ONLINE Dating, but occasionally I get out from behind the computer. So, why do the cheesy pick up lines never work? Well, they are cheesy and we’ve all heard them before. However, we all know someone that’s met someone in a bar. So, what’s the secret? Why do some guys (and girls) get the digits and others get rejected? I’ve found that there are 3 major components to approaches that work in person. Clean Clean as in not overtly sexual, or downright crude. “Nice shoes, wanna f***” just won’t cut it. Instead, something that’s polite and… -
Is He Interested? Basic Body Language
4 Nov 2009 | 7:07 amDuring the first few dates, it’s often a little nerve wracking trying to figure out just where you stand. Act too interested, you scare the other person away, act too aloof and you hurt their feelings. So how can you find out if the other person is interested without asking outright? While there’s nothing wrong with open communication, sometimes a little reassurance is a good thing. Here are a few of the non-verbal cues that can tell you how your date, man or woman feels about you: Smiles – Seriously, this one should be a no brainer, but there is always the nervous smile. You know a… -
No Spark, No Hope? No Way!
31 Oct 2009 | 10:05 amI had a date the other night with a guy I met on OkCupid.com. According to his online profile, we have a ton of things in common. It was hard to tell about his physical appearance from the photos, but the conversation was good online, so we progressed to text messages, and soon had plans for a Saturday night. Now one thing you need to know about me, is I am always decidedly unexcited about a first date. I become a terrible pessimist. So when I was telling my friends about it, I sounded less enthusiastic then I do before a dentist appointment. So I found all the things I didn’t like in his…
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Very Smart Brothas
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the mount rushmore of black television and movie mates
19 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmmarcee tidwell (regina king), ‘jerry maguire’ while most of us seem to hold claire huxtable as the fictional black wife benchmark, no one better exemplified what it means to be a true ride or die wife than marcee tidwell. from her invention of “the quan” to her willingness to whoop aries spears militant ass for talking too much negative sh*t, king’s awe-inspiring performance almost even makes cuba gooding’s cooning bearable claire huxtable (phylicia rashad), ‘the cosby show’ the tupac of tv and movie mates (so unconditionally revered and lauded… -
10 things we’ve willingly seen that we never need to see again
18 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmwhile the replies generated from monday’s ‘precious’ post were predictably split into “i saw it and i’m still verklempt” and “you’d have to drag me to the theater with eight horses and staple my eyelids open” camps, everyone agreed that its not the type of movie that’s conducive to repeated viewings. thing is, ‘precious’ isn’t alone in its utter unrewatchability. while life gives us many things we can watch over and over again (apatow flicks, the evil eye baby, drunk snizzles reciting biggie lyrics, etc) without… -
the lightbulb: 8 simple inner “voila!” statements that would make vsb (and every other relationship advice website) obsolete
17 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmmaybe “i dont do commitment” actually isn’t mancode for “i’ll change my mind if you keep sleeping with me” you know, after we reach each of our crime-fighting and world domination goals, our plan is to live in a world where vsb has been rendered obsolete, a universe where the sage wisdom of panama, the champ, and liz’s boobs is no longer needed because everyone is making wise relationship-related decisions on their own. thing is, we’re really not that far from that day, as much of the dating and mating acrimony we face (and the advice received)… -
no he didnt!: the five worst times to approach a black woman
16 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmalong with nba basketball, making perfect portions of cream of wheat, and stealing wireless signals, i’m an expert when it comes to knowing when and where to approach a black woman to achieve maximum bagging efficiency. and, as an expert, it pains me to repeatedly witness men making bagging blunders, approaching sistas at minimally efficient times. to make sure this doesn’t happen again, here’s five of the worst times to approach a black woman 1. when she’s with two friends in the middle of the dance floor although the african cheetah usually waits until the sexy-ass… -
four reasons why i won’t watch precious
15 Nov 2009 | 9:01 pmi first heard about precious, the screen adaptation of author sapphire’s push, several months ago when overhearing a conversation between my mother and sister about the oscar buzz actress/comedienne mo’nique has received for her performance in the film. since then, i (and every other african-american with a monitor and modem) have been inundated with myriad forms of precious propaganda. apparently, not only is precious a searing indictment on slavery, poverty, racism, education, america, politics, prison, the newspaper industry, kool-aid, the black woman in the popeye’s…
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Seasoned Sex ~ Sex and The Older Woman
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Loss of Libido Messing With Your Head?
16 Nov 2009 | 1:43 pmWhat Drives Your Libido? Female loss of libido has long been a mystery. Is the solution all in your head? Drug makers sure hope so.Is sex–or lack thereof–all in your head? The German maker, Boehringer Ingelheim GmbH, sure hopes so. They’re working on a drug (flibanserin) that blunts female inhibition. In comparison, Pfizer’s drug, Viagra, works by targeting blood flow to the penis. If they succeed, they will score big time: the U.S. market for medicines to rekindle female libido is estimated at more than $2 billion a year. If flibanserin makes it to market (remains to be… -
What Would You Do With a Male Escort?
10 Nov 2009 | 8:17 amDiane Keaton has her signature gesture of disapproval—she grimaces like a kid being forced to eat fried liver and bats her hands around as though shooing off a hornet. An interview with her appeared in the November issue of MORE magazine, and she had just that reaction when asked about a man in her life. Then she added, “I don’t think men even look at me anymore. If anything could work in that area, it would probably be if I paid him. Then I think we could work out an affable relationship.” At which point it dawned on me that she was talking about hiring a male escort. Storm Astor, a… -
Female Hormones and Weight Gain
22 Oct 2009 | 1:58 pmCalling all chubby cougars. Here’s weight loss help! Everything you need to know about female hormones and weight gain. Recently, I got invited to a cougar-themed birthday party. The birthday girl was turning 40 and wanted to celebrate her finally qualifying for the club that has more fun (the cougar club–what else?) by forcing all her friends to wear animal prints and behave very badly. So far, so good, right? Except for when I arrived and scoped out the “jungle scene,” I couldn’t help but notice that most of the cougars were, well, on the chubby side. Okay, they were… -
Why Women Have Sex
20 Oct 2009 | 5:33 pmLOTS OF REASONS TO HAVE SEX. FEWER MEN. What is good sex for? I’ve asked myself that a million times and come up with the uninspired answer—it feels good. Thankfully there is now real research providing hundreds of more reasons, some even surprising. All of which explains why sex gets so complicated for women especially—we ask a lot from it. As reported in Time on October 6, Cindy Meston and David Buss, psychologists at the University of Texas, interviewed over 1,000 women around the world for their book Why Women Have Sex. They list 237 reasons, with the most frequent including:… -
The Truth About Male Escorts
9 Oct 2009 | 10:35 amFREE RANGE COCK. I know, I know. You’re just dying to find out what it’s like to go out with a male escort—to have a “date” completely on your terms. Of course, you’re also curious to discover just what the draw is from the customer’s point of view for, allegedly, the oldest profession in the world (prostitution, which for the most part, has put women on the service provider side the equation). Now before you get your fingers all covered in chocolate, I don’t mean to imply that all male escorts are gigolos (for more on male escorts, see my earlier post).
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The Reverse Cowgirl
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A New Blog
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They Shoot Porn Stars, Don't They?
13 Oct 2009 | 6:15 amToday marks the debut of "They Shoot Porn Stars, Don't They?," a text-and-photo essay about the adult movie industry and the recession.Originally, I wrote it for a publication, but I subsequently pulled it. When no other publication expressed an interest in publishing it, I decided to self-publish it.The site was designed and illustrated by the talented Chris Bishop, who created the infamous -
Break
27 Jul 2009 | 5:09 amI'm going to take a break from blogging for a while. If you would like to follow my activities, you can do so by way of my Twitter. -
Home
24 Jul 2009 | 8:15 amArtist Molly Peck bid on and won my Significant Object story. This is a photo of the Significant Object at its new home. If stories are children looking for adoption, this one has a happy ending. -
The First Line
23 Jul 2009 | 5:09 pmAt 12:01 p.m., Special Agent Xerxes Xavier Jr., 34, begins to rise from behind his cluttered desk in his cramped and overcrowded office inside the J. Edgar Hoover Building at 935 Pennsylvania Avenue, pushing the metal chair away from himself, and the green vinyl seat cushion lets out a thin hisssss! from the depression that he has left behind. -- the first line of my novel, Nothing Is Real but
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YourTango
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7 Gay Men Straight Women Love
20 Nov 2009 | 3:00 pmHere are eight of our favorite famous gay men, and the reasons we love them so (yes, like that).Keywords: 30 Rock, celeb love, Dan Savage, homophobia, homosexuality, how i met your mother, mad men, neil patrick harris, New Orleans, PSA, Star Trek, Tom Cruise, William ShatnerBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Who Knew Actor Jerry Orbach Was Such A Romantic?
20 Nov 2009 | 1:03 pmOver the course of their 25-year relationship, Jerry Orbach (of Law and Order fame) wrote love poems to his wife Elaine. Now they're compiled in a new book, titled 'Remember How I Love You: Love Letters From an Extraordinary Marriage.'Keywords: actor, book, celebrity, communication, couples communication, entertainment, love letter, romanticBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Hugh Grant Has Babies On The Brain
20 Nov 2009 | 1:00 pmWhen you think confirmed bachelor, you automatically think "Hugh Grant character," right? After which, you think, "Hey! Isn't Hugh Grant a bachelor in real life too? Sometimes life imitates art, right?" Well, it looks like the "Did You Hear About The Morgans?" star is talking about having babies. Keywords: bachelor, celebrity gossip, commitment, having children, Hugh GrantBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Eddie Cibrian Sues Mag For LeAnn Story
20 Nov 2009 | 12:00 pmHow far does Eddie Cibrian need to go to prove to LeAnn that he is, in fact, not a serial two-timer? Do you think a lawsuit is helping his case?Keywords: celebrity, celebrity love, cheating, eddie cibrian, infidelity, lawsuit, leann rimesBookmark/Share this post with: read more -
Love Bytes: Flirting With Nerds
20 Nov 2009 | 11:51 am10 must-click love and relationship links: Men fall in love more often, five people you should avoid dating, Pine-Sol debuts a sexy new commercial. Keywords: conflict resolution, cybersex, love buzz, love bytes, nagging, twilightBookmark/Share this post with: read more
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Hitched
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Tips For A Stress-Free Thanksgiving
19 Nov 2009 | 8:14 amRelax and make this holiday season one of the best yet with these simple, helpful tips. -
Breaking from Holiday Traditions
18 Nov 2009 | 9:38 amWhile not easy, here's why it's more important to make decisions and establish your own holiday rituals. -
Creating a Spouse from Scratch
17 Nov 2009 | 8:30 amIf you were expecting your spouse to change once you were married, like an Instant Husband or Wife, you've probably realized things haven't gone as planned. Here's why. -
Should You Give Your Spouse an Ultimatum?
16 Nov 2009 | 9:09 amThere are several roads you can take to get your spouse to change, but is an ultimatum one you should take? -
Moving Forward
13 Nov 2009 | 9:09 amSara and David have decided to move. Find out where and why.
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Vibrators and Sex toys
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Tenga Flip Hole – Review and analysis
19 Nov 2009 | 3:33 amTenga Flip Hole comes from Japan, the country where rabbit vibrators originated. This male masturbator is believed to do for men, what the rabbit vibrator did for women. Resembling a smart and sleek mobile phone or electronic gadget, Tenga Flip Hole is reported to look as good as it feels.Design and looksIn the looks department, there is nothing amiss with the Tenga Flip Hole and most men would 'flip out' looking at its sleek white casing. It is also discreet looking and won’t raise any suspicion if found in any bachelor's pad or married man's bedside drawer.Working and efficiencyThe Tenga… -
Sexual bliss with sex toys can prevent a trip to the courtroom
10 Nov 2009 | 3:23 amFor most couples, marriage is a journey unto death. Along the way, majority of the marriages become stale and mundane, where you simply start to live as two individuals working to tide over each day as best as possible. In spite of knowing and understanding that this is an unhealthy sign, few couples are able to salvage the situation on their own. Decay in marital bliss can lead to conflicts like infidelity, misunderstandings and ultimately a break-up of the relationship. Sometimes just sprucing up your sex life with online sex toys can take care of the other spheres of life on its own. Sex… -
Are sex toys safe to use during pregnancy? – You are the best judge
6 Nov 2009 | 2:04 amMany pregnant women continue to have a sex life after they have become pregnant; this is perfectly natural and healthy. Most pregnant women experience fluctuations in sexual desire as the pregnancy advances. Sometimes they may go off sex completely or may have an increased libido. Some women enjoy sex more than ever during pregnancy, and don’t hesitate to use sex toys as well.Before making the decision to have any type of sexual contact during pregnancy, which also includes using sex toys, the best thing that you can do is talk to your doctor about it. Don't automatically assume that it is… -
An interactive dial interface and combination settings make '16 Function Dolphin Vibrator' a sex toy to reckon with
3 Nov 2009 | 4:59 amThe 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator, a female sex toy, is a multi-tasking clitoral and vaginal stimulator that can be used in water also. You can enjoy the non-stop pleasures of the 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator. It comes with dual controls, rotating and vibrating actions and a soft jelly shaft. The 16 Function Dolphin Rabbit Vibrator gives you complete pleasure and sweet satisfaction every single time. Moreover, it features ten modes of clitoral vibration and six reaming rotation modes, each at 4 different speeds; its extreme variety in vibration makes it a great sex toy to add to… -
With Clone a Willy you can replicate your penis
28 Oct 2009 | 5:17 amThe Clone-A-Willy kit contains everything. With the help of these ingredients which include moulding powder, moulding container, patented liquid skin, liquid rubber and stir stick, you can safely create an exact clone of any penis – even your own. The first step is to create a ‘negative’ mould of your penis using the moulding material as well as the especially designed container. Once the mould has been created, you can fill the mould with ‘liquid rubber’ – a completely safe product that is designed to look like ‘real skin’. Leave it to cure and before you know it, a…
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Sexuality News
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Kamasutra the three types of men
6 Nov 2009 | 2:41 amAfter getting such a good response from my friends here on Kamasutra, I am bringing in one more post on this topic but this time its for men. Classification of Kamasutra The Kamasutra, in addition to sexual positions and varied range of topics provides a classification of men taking into account the size of his genitals. The author of the Kama Sutra, Vatsyana, divides them into 3 types, the hare man, horse man and bull riding man. According to the measurement of genitalia was produced a profile that included not only the complexity, details of the face and hair but also the salient features… -
Men prefer blondes
28 Oct 2009 | 5:43 amIt is a myth or a reality Men are attracted to the blonde women is not a myth. The explanation appears to date from earlier times when some deficiencies in food by women lose hair color and skin that made them different from other arousing the attraction of men. Other theories about why men fall exhausted to the seduction of blondes say they are more innocent and fragile which arouse the male protective instinct. As is the myth that men prefer blondes The phrase that gentlemen prefer blondes title stems from a novel by American author Anita Loos in 1952 and made into a film next year starring… -
If you want to seduce, go and play
15 Oct 2009 | 11:32 pmStep closer We are continuing the theme of seduction and how to seduce talk about the importance of physical contact when trying to conquer a woman or a man because it works the same way for both sexes. The title says if you want to seduce come closer and touch, but this does not mean you get close and touch and out of the blue to someone you do not have to afford treatment that trust, this would produce an unpleasant reaction. The advice is for people who already have some type of relationship either friendship, work, education and like a person but do not know how to attempt the seduction… -
Seduction and more
13 Oct 2009 | 3:27 amTo seduce is to conquer The seduction is a way to gain acceptance of others, please, attract and fall in love, as the evidence sought to achieve through seduction. When it comes to seduction or associates the word seduce a woman trying to conquer a man, but there are many forms of seduction and exert all since childhood without even knowing it. Marketing experts and those working in advertising know much about seduction and its purpose is to seduce the public with certain products. First evaluated to be running the advertising sector and on that basis try to entice potential buyers, it is not… -
Tips to seduce
11 Oct 2009 | 10:52 pmIncrease personal seduction The seduction needs of security and self-esteem to exercise effect on others who do not value himself can hardly seduce someone. There are certain factors that make people feel seduced, such as physical appearance, charisma, success, fame or power. Most do not have all these attributes but can also be seductive or alluring and attractive. As seduce * No one is going to seduce others if you do not love yourself, if others see that you do not want to think that if you yourself or you do not want it is because you have no value. One way to demonstrate self-esteem is…
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Male Enhancement Products UK
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Medications or penis pumps – Which option is better to treat erectile dysfunction?
20 Nov 2009 | 2:49 amThere are plenty of options available today for taking care of your erectile dysfunction. These options range from prescription medications and over-the-counter oils and pills through to devices like penis pumps and penis extenders. Depending on your choice and medical conditions, you can decide to opt for either of these options. Prescription medications There are 3 prescription medications available today for the treatment of erectile dysfunction; they are Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. All these medications help to treat erectile dysfunction effectively but cause some side effects such as… -
Reasons to Choose Penis Enlargement Patches
12 Nov 2009 | 10:33 pmPenis enlargement patches are quite a popular buy these days owing to their advantages. These patches give same results as penis extenders but with a difference. The difference being that you really don’t have to do anything. Just place the patches and let them do their work. Here are a few reasons why people choose penis enlargement patches: No associated side effects Penis enlargement patches are available in the form of transdermal patches. This means that a very high concentration of medication is absorbed by the body with little or no side effects. Unlike the intake of penis pills that… -
Who can use penis pumps?
6 Nov 2009 | 2:56 amPenis pumps, also known as vacuum pumps or vacuum constriction devices, are external devices that help men to maintain erections. Many men suffering from impotence use penis pumps as an alternative to costly impotence medications available on the market. According to studies, 50% to 80% of men are satisfied with the results of these penis pumps. Some men even use them for penis enlargement and sexual aids during masturbation and foreplay. Men of all ages can use penis pumps and penis extenders safely. These devices can also be used if you are suffering from conditions such as: Poor blood flow… -
The role of penis pumps in masturbation
31 Oct 2009 | 12:02 amPenis pumps are vacuum devices that are designed to enhance erections and increase penis size. However, many men find using penis pumps sexually stimulating and identify the vacuum-like effects of penis enlargement pumps with oral sex. Many men find the unrelenting effects of vacuum pumps enjoyable and take immense pleasure in the suction effects of penis pump. For this reason, many men use penis enlargement pumps for sexual stimulation because they are more useful. When penis pumps are used a masturbators their suction effect makes masturbation more fun. These pumps also make masturbation… -
Ageing and its effect on sex - II
23 Oct 2009 | 10:50 pmDelay Cream If ageing is playing spoil sport in your sex life, then the Delay Cream can help you out. It’s specifically meant to control premature ejaculation. This cream needs to be applied to the tip of the penis, before sexual intercourse. It contains a substance called lidocaine, which is essentially a numbing agent. If you think that this numbing agent is going to take away all sensation from the penis, make sex unexciting, you are mistaken. It only numbs the penis head but lets the sensations run through the shaft. V-Rx Female This product for female helps women to get a relief from…
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Say it with Naboulove...
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Evasion Virtuelle 21-MEA CULPA
17 Nov 2009 | 7:12 am21-MEA CULPA Déjà 5 heures du matin, John s’était endormi après leurs engueulades. Cela faisait déjà trois heures qu’elle réfléchissait, assise sur son tapis de prière. Elle avait prié, prié sans relâche, imploré la miséricorde d’Allah, contemplé les possibilités qui s’offraient à elle, médité sans relâche sur ses sentiments envers John et Thierry. En quête de paix intérieure, elle avait ressorti tous ces cahiers et livres de prières ou les formules secrètes glanées ça et là ; combinaisons de noms divins et de sourates enseignées par sa mère ou transmises… -
Evasion Virtuelle 20- Une mauvaise surprise
5 Nov 2009 | 6:38 am20- Une mauvaise surprise -Et encore Une bouteille de Laurent Pépé Champagne ya ba stars[i] pour la grande Cynthia !!! Le DJ du RamDam hurlait à tue-tête dans le micro . – Spécial dédicace à la grande prêtresse très très forte Cynthia Mwasi Kitoko[ii]! Fally Pupa di Caprio la Merveille !! Nzembo «Liputa » pona yo moko[iii]. Les yeux de Cynthia brillait ! elle exultait ! Elle était la Star de la soirée. L’étoile du moment. Elle se tortilla sur la piste chantant en chœur avec Fally : « Vers-moi ,vers- moi ,vers-moi , vers-moi. Sango nasuka ya misa alobaka… -
Evasion Virtuelle 19-Comme un grain de folie
30 Oct 2009 | 9:05 am19-Comme un grain de Folie Ce furent des après midi d’adultères au gout de miel qui se succédèrent. Les quelques jours passés à s’aimer, à réinventer le quotidien avaient un parfum d’éternité pour les deux naufragés. Ils s’accrochaient l’un à l’autre comme à des bouées de sauvetage. Fanny entrait et sortait de chez elle comme une adolescente en crise. Incapable de rester en place. Pétillante et sucrée comme un fanta Orange. Elle voyait la vie en Orange, Effervescence couleur vitamine C, couleur énergie, couleur de son bonheur. Dans sa chambre, elle ne… -
Evasin Vituelle 18-Qui sème le vent récolte la tempête.
28 Oct 2009 | 10:21 am18-Qui sème le vent récolte la tempête. Mais Fanny ! Réponds au téléphone ! Il s’adressait ainsi au répondeur téléphonique qui se déclenchait à chacun de ses appels. La journée avait été éprouvante aussi bien sur le plan professionnel, que sur le plan personnel. La banque Centrale avait rejeté certaines de leur demandes et la petite peste de Cynthia lui menait la vie dure. Et maintenant, cela faisait bien 2 bonnes heures qu’il essayait de joindre son épouse sans succès. Quelle poisse ! Il lui envoya un texto, sachant qu’elle avait l’habitude de laisser trainer… -
Egyptian lawmakers want to ban fake hymen by John Freeman AP
24 Oct 2009 | 5:45 amEgyptian lawmakers want to ban fake hymen By JOSEPH FREEMAN, Associated Press Writer Joseph Freeman, Associated Press Writer – Mon Oct 5, 12:05 pm ET CAIRO – Conservative Egyptian lawmakers have called for a ban on imports of a Chinese-made kit meant to help women fake their virginity and one scholar has even called for the “exile” of anyone who imports or uses it. The Artificial Virginity Hymen kit, distributed by the Chinese company Gigimo, costs about $30. It is intended to help newly married women fool their husbands into believing they are virgins — culturally…
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Black Heart Magazine
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FENG SHUI FANTASY
20 Nov 2009 | 5:00 amI’ve moved my bed around, so the layout in my bedroom is unfamiliar. My bed lies at an angle now, pitched towards the mirrored closet, tilting slightly away from the bedroom door. The window is no longer directly across from my bed, so I don’t have to worry about prying eyes that watch as I [...] -
PLAYING DIRTY
19 Nov 2009 | 5:00 amNovember’s almost half over, but you’ve still got time to see some of the sexiest shows in town: Rabbit Rabbit and the Suburban Motel suite of plays by George F. Walker. Both feature prostitutes prominently, which brings up some interesting age-old questions, like why is prostitution still illegal anyway? And, why is selling sex considered [...] -
STUDYING SEXUAL DESIRE
13 Nov 2009 | 11:02 amDesire and arousal. These seem like straightforward concepts on the surface, but how often do we really think about what they mean? If desire is defined as wanting to have sex, and arousal is being physically ready to have sex, it seems natural that one would become aroused when experiencing desire. But is human sexual [...] -
PIN-UP OF THE WEEK: TREACLE
9 Nov 2009 | 6:00 amPORTRAIT OF THE ARTIST This week’s Pin-Up of the Week is the sultry Treacle, the Seattle-based “professional stockings addict” behind the website Stockings Addict. Treacle’s a 5′ 8′, 150-pound Cancer with measurements of 35B-28-40 and a 24″ corsetted waist. Turn-Ons on women include “fully-fashioned stockings, a tiny waist, an ample bosom, and a nice bum.” On men, [...] -
HOT HIP-HOP
4 Nov 2009 | 7:29 amHip-hop is sexy. The rhymes, the rhythm, the way deft lyrics take centre stage over naked beats… It’s all designed to turn you on, to arouse your body and sometimes even your mind. And, as local MC A.B. Norml proves with her forthcoming double album, it’s not just for the boys. A.B. Norml, or Abbie for [...]
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Honest Sex Toy Reviews
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Sex Up your Holiday Fun!
15 Nov 2009 | 6:59 pmEveryone loves the holidays which is always a wonderful time for giving and receiving. Why not show your sexual partner how much they mean to you? Whether you are looking for a fun holiday stocking stuffer or a sex toy that is fun and kinky, we have put together some of our favorite Christmas sex toys to “Sex up your Holiday Fun”. Don Wands Candy Cane Glass Dildo The beautifully crafted Don Wands Sugar Cane glass wand is a huge favorite among the Don Wand glass dildos. The clear glass dildo is striped in red just like your holiday favorite sweets. The Don Wands Candy Cane makes a… -
Lelo Billy Male P Spot Prostate Massager
4 Nov 2009 | 6:51 pmWe cannot seem to get enough sex toys from Lelo as they just keep getting better. They are very sensual with quite a modern 21st century flair. Our new favorite is the Lelo Billy Prostate Massager which takes the male p spot to a whole separate level. Billy comes in two masculine yet gentle colors blue and bordeaux. Billy by Lelo is the perfect G-spot massager for those who wish to explore a more energetic sensation within. Benefiting from an ergonomic design tailored precisely to the male form, he offers sustained control through five differing stimulation modes. Such versatility achieves… -
Sex Toys Fun and Fashionable?
29 Oct 2009 | 11:25 amWe like to think that sex toys can be both fun and fashionable at the same time. Of course, we are not talking about wearing them as a belt, but times have definitely changed since the days of the old huge massagers your mother had to hide in the closet. Now there are so many portable sex toys that you can tote around with you like your favorite cell phone or handbag! Here are a few of our favorites! The Lipstick Vibe in Pink by Pipedreams Talk about fashionable and sex toy then we definitely think about the infamous lipstick vibe that is easy to carry in your purse and no one will have any… -
Foreplay Soy Sensual Pheromone Candle
28 Oct 2009 | 7:53 pmOne of my favorite accessories not only in the bedroom but also around the house is a wonderful relaxing candle that actually burns steady and smells wonderful. There are only a few candles out there that I continue to use because they don’t live up to my expectations. The first time I was actually exposed to the Foreplay Soy Sensual Candle was a visit to my massage therapist. After a long day at work, I like to take an hour to relax and unwind with a very sensual massage and of course I give my therapist free reign to any of the products she needs for for her store. I could not stop… -
Pocket Pussy is Like Masturbating with Refrigerated Biscuits? WTF?
25 Oct 2009 | 5:58 pmSo, I know you are very curious about this one as I was indeed anxious to hear the response from my male friend about the Autumn Pussy Pocket Pal Stroker I gave him to try as a review and let me know the results. A few days later he came over to visit, and of course I could not resist to ask him what he thought about the male masturbator and to give his honest opinion to me. Boy, did I open a can of worms? His initial response was that it felt like he was masturbating with those croissant refrigerated biscuits! OMG! I almost burst out laughing and couldn’t figure out initially if that…
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Sex Toys Blog
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I've split with my husband and he's met someone else. I don't know how to move on. Help!
20 Nov 2009 | 7:46 amI don’t think either of you can move on whilst you’re still in contact with each other, raking over old ground and going round in circles, getting nowhere. [More] -
I'm at my horniest during my period but my cervix is sensitive. Can you recommend any positions?
20 Nov 2009 | 7:27 amThe shower is an obvious choice. Aside from zero mess, warm water running over your abdomen is soothing. [More] -
How To Choose Your First Sex Toy
19 Nov 2009 | 6:06 amSo you’ve browsed the sex toys at LoveHoney, checked out a few buyers’ guides and now know exactly what a cock ring does. But how do you actually choose a sex toy for yourself? LoveHoney have made it ultra easy for you to choose a sex toy you’ll be satisfied with by giving you lots of easy-to-read and simple information on the product page. Read on to find out more... [More] -
The three golden rules for having sex in the car!
18 Nov 2009 | 6:18 amHaving sex in a car is not for the fainthearted or the romantic, but it’s a surprisingly popular pursuit in the UK. [More] -
Harrie's Weekly Sex Blog Round-Up
17 Nov 2009 | 8:03 amThis week, as well as perving on sexy new christmas gifts, I've also been checking out the sex blogosphere for lots of naughty news! From kissing under the mistletoe to shopping stress and its effects on your libido, check out my top picks of all things dirty and flirty this week. Isn't kissing great? I have yet to meet anyone that doesn't agree with me when I say that, and it may have something to do with the fact that it's true. But apparently there are other good reasons to involve yourself in a good make-out sesh other than my 'because it's great' argument. YourTango has 5 Reasons…
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CarnalNation Headlines
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News: True Measure of a Thai Man with Penis Measuring Device
21 Nov 2009 | 10:00 amMen's instinctive concern over penis size will soon be discussed more openly, or even boasted about in Thailand, with the soon to be introduced official penis measuring device. The device, a disposable paper measuring tape which is about to be launched under the Public Health Ministry's "Condom for All" campaign, will tell guys which size condoms will give them the best comfort and protection. The tape records widths of between 49 and 56 millimetres - covering the "Thai penis size standard". The Department of Disease Control's (DDC) anti-Aids division, however, did not… -
News: Internet Hook-ups Hurt Australian Sex Industry
21 Nov 2009 | 9:46 amIf sex is up there with tobacco and alcohol which in being notoriously resilient to hard times, how is it that the Australia sex services industry bleeding? The answer: online dating sites, according to the independent business information analyst IBISWorld. The AU$1.2 billion industry has bled AU$74 million over the past financial year, with brothels taking the hardest hit. In contrast, the market for exotic dancers and strippers, albeit starting from a small base, has steadily grown. -
News: Sexy Snowbirds Warned of HIV Risk
20 Nov 2009 | 3:17 pmCanadian snowbirds who flock to Florida’s sunny south to relieve their winter blues are being cautioned to practice safer sex while on vacation. Sandra Bullock, professor of health studies and gerontology at the University of Waterloo warns that those over the age of fifty face a heightened risk of HIV transmission. The Vancouver Sun reports that HIV rates are on the rise in older populations with Americans over the age of 40 making up the fasting growing group for new HIV diagnoses. Florida residents have the highest infection rates among those 50 and up, which puts sexually active… -
News: International Transgender Day of Remembrance Honors 119 Dead
20 Nov 2009 | 2:00 pmToday is the Eleventh International Transgender Day of Remembrance, which commemorates the deaths of the people who were killed because they were transgender or perceived as such. What do you say about a day devoted to remembering the people who have been murdered because they didn't accept their biological gender? I've been thinking that for the past couple of hours as I try to get this article started, and words keep failing me. There are 119 deaths being remembered this year. They include Andrea Waddell, who was strangled in a flat in Brighton, England; Jorge Steven Lopez Mercado, a… -
News: Scientists Have A Ball Explaining Scrotal Design
20 Nov 2009 | 8:19 amScientific American columnist Jesse Bering focuses today on a new hypothesis about the design of male testicles. Evolutionary psychologists Gordon Gallup, Mary Finn and Becky Sammis have their "activation hypothesis" published in the most recent issue of the journal Evolutionary Psychology. It has been assumed for a while now that the scrotum act as a sort of cold storage unit for sperm, which thrive at a temperature about 3 degrees lower than human body temperature. (Thin-skinned scrotum, which dangle away from the body, are slightly cooler than the rest of the human…
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Penis Enlargement Facts Revealed
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Vimax vs. ProSolution Pills
20 Nov 2009 | 7:28 amVimax and Prosolution are two of the most efficient pills from penis enlargement market today. ProSolution Pills claims that it can increase your penis size up to 25% as well as improving your erection hardness, staying power, sex drive, sperm amount and penis head size. Prosolution Pills is the result of many years of research and studies that can be seen in a powerful and effective penis enhancement formula. The men who used this product have observed a significant gain in penis size, and the main reason is because their system combines a potent formula with a free membership to a penis… -
Virility Ex Male Enhancement
19 Nov 2009 | 7:56 amThe Virility EX Pill is designed to immediately increase the size and power of your erections, and give you a more intense and satisfying sexual experience. If YOU want harder, longer-lasting erections, intense orgasms and the assurance of enduring virility, this may be the most important Web page you'll ever visit.Virility EX contains an herbal supplement that is a and a blend of traditional natural herbal ingredients and amino acids to helps support male virility.Here's what you'll get with Virility EX... * Bigger, harder, longer lasting erection on demand * Increased sexual stamina and sex… -
PenisAdvantage Review: A Safe, Step-by-Step Method of Adding Inches to Your Penis Size – In Length & Girth without expensive useless pills or crazy co
22 Oct 2009 | 7:37 amI swear, if you’d have asked me about penis enlargement a few months ago, I wouldn’t have reacted well at all. That’s because I think I’ve probably tried more useless junk than any other guy out there. Pills, suction things, creams, everything. The only thing I didn’t try, thankfully, was surgery.Ask me about the subject of penis enlargement now, though, and I’m much more positive and happy to reply! That’s because of PenisAdvantage, which offers a new approach to achieving new size down below. Unlike so many other things, PenisAdvantage is totally natural and safe. You use… -
Natural Penis Enlargement: How to strengthen your erection and gain control over when you reach orgasm
20 Oct 2009 | 7:36 amAs you no doubt already know, millions of men and women alike obsess over the subject of penis size. You see jokes on TV referencing the issue, overhear people in the street discussing the topic, and read – on a daily basis – of the displeasure and embarrassment of men with small penises in the columns of dozens of magazines. So it pretty much goes without saying that penis size is an internationally popular subject of debate.So, what can us men do about what we have down south? And what do women really want from us and our members? Is it sheer size they want? Length? Girth? Both? -
Foreskin Restoration – How to Attain a New Foreskin Using a Simple Exercise Any Man Can Learn and Use
17 Oct 2009 | 7:34 amBy the 1970’s, 80% of American infant boys were being circumcised. These days that figure is lower, at 60%, but still pretty massive when compared to the international average, which is a mere 15%.The fact that you’re reading this article suggests that you’re circumcised and have at least some interest or curiosity in the subject of foreskin restoration – that is, getting back the skin around the head of your penis that you no longer or have never really had. You’d probably be surprised at how many circumcised men are interested in the subject, too. Years ago, you’d never hear…
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Dr Petra Boynton
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New trials of female sexual dysfunction drug (Flibanserin) will be reported this week
15 Nov 2009 | 7:36 amBrief background – female sexual dysfunction Over the past 10 years the race has been on with pharmaceutical companies to find the ‘female Viagra’ – a drug to treat female sexual dysfunction (FSD). At the same time, concern has been growing within healthcare, therapy and education about the medicalisation of sexual functioning. FSD in particular is a diagnosis with a controversial heritage, with concerns expressed that common (but often upsetting) female problems around lack of desire and difficulty experiencing orgasm have been repackaged within a illness-based model. -
Sex and science stuff 12/11/09
12 Nov 2009 | 2:51 pmWe’re all familiar with the term ‘designer vagina’, but did you know there’s actually no clinical evidence to suggest non-essential female genital surgery is effective or safe? A systematic review of the literature on labial surgery for women (just out in the British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology) has found “medically nonessential surgery to the labia minora is being promoted as an effective treatment for women’s complaints, but no data on clinical effectiveness exist”. The paper isn’t open access but is well worth a read if you can find… -
“Twilight Success” – I invented that
11 Nov 2009 | 8:04 amEvery so often I hear about a quote I supposedly gave to a journalist which I didn’t actually provide. Sometimes that’s been because a journalist (or sub editor) has muddled my name with another expert quoted in a story or feature. Sometimes it’s because a journalist’s taken something from my blog and rewritten it. And sometimes it’s because a journalist has written what they thought I might say and put my name to it. When I’ve questioned this misreporting editors are usually willing to rectify mistakes, but journalists and editors have often questioned why it would bother me. -
Drinks Company + PR Firm + Enthusiastic Undergraduate = Massive Hangover for Universities
8 Nov 2009 | 12:34 pmA brief history of formulas as marketing tools Over the past few years we’ve got used to seeing formula used as a promotional tool by PR companies. Sometimes these are simply presented as just a formula, other times they are fronted by an academic or other ‘expert’. This has presented problems for universities where staff members (or people claiming an affiliation with a particular institution) use the institution’s name as part of the formula promotion. Critics of the ‘fake formula’ approach have argued they are often not based on sound science, make little or no mathematical… -
Sex and science stuff 06/11/09
6 Nov 2009 | 10:42 amOne story you can’t have missed in the past week or so was the sacking of Professor David Nutt in a situation where the government (yet again) disregarded evidence. Sadly it’s something we’ve got used to with this current administration. There’s been an interesting discussion about this over on Bad Science forums, although my favourite story on the issue comes courtesy of the Daily Mail whose attempts to smear scientists is pure comedy gold. I’d strongly recommend using this piece in teaching around journalism/science communication. I particularly like the…
