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  • Eye Candy: Quickies

    Violet Blue ® :: Open Source Sex
    Violet Blue
    20 Oct 2014 | 4:02 pm
    Russian Beauty – Elena Rae, Matt Ice Finally Home – Taylor Whyte, Ryan Driller (image above via) Sounds Of Passion – Karol Lilien, Matt Fit To Fuck – Alaina Kristar, gentleman friend Summer Carter Casts Erika Devine, plus gentleman friend Ivy and Jonny – Fuck me (video; image below via) Alessandra and Athina – Strapless Toy Content copyright © 2013 Violet Blue ® (R) permitted for use on only. This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only and is held within federally registered trademark Violet Blue® (R). The…
  • Eye Candy: Hardcore quickies

    Violet Blue ® :: Open Source Sex
    Violet Blue
    10 Oct 2014 | 3:13 am
    Kacy Lane, Bruce Venture – Sexual Tension Sierra, gentleman friend – Fucking Love Emma, Staci Carr – Between Friends (image above via) Content copyright © 2013 Violet Blue ® (R) permitted for use on only. This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only and is held within federally registered trademark Violet Blue® (R). The use of this feed on any website other than Violet Blue's Tiny Nibbles: Open Source Sex breaches copyright, violates U.S. Federal Trademark law, and the Federal Trademark Dilution Act. If this content is not…
  • Why does my bladder fill when I'm getting aroused

    (( VaginaPagina ))
    21 Oct 2014 | 3:38 pm
    I have a frustrating thing happening and I've been researching the internet for this. I'm not a young, inexperienced woman. So, I'm a bit embarrassed that I don't already know the answer. Furthermore, I don't recall if this has been happening forever or if it's a new thing. I will empty my bladder beforehand and then during the process of foreplay my bladder completely fills up. It's extremely frustrating. I've tried to research online and there seems to be a lot of talk about female ejaculation that can feel similar to the need to urinate. And, although I didn't know about this and don't…
  • Get It On: Top Solo Sex Tips for Women

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    16 Oct 2014 | 11:00 pm
    Studies show that women who masturbate regularly report greater sexual satisfaction and a more positive view of sex. But self-sustainable sex has another benefit: It feels good.
  • Real Toys For Boys

    Having My Cake and Eating It Too
    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    10 Oct 2014 | 1:54 pm
    Lawks a Lordy, times have changed. Back in the days when Ruf and I were investigating toys for boys, cockrings were cheap plastic/jelly affairs – very much the poor relations. Whilst we ladies luxuriated in glass and steel objets d’art crafted with architectural prowess. The sort of ornaments that you wanted to display on [...]
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    Audacia Ray

  • illbegotdamn: darvinasafo: Jim Crow 2.0 nothing’s changed....

    19 Oct 2014 | 5:25 pm
    illbegotdamn: darvinasafo: Jim Crow 2.0 nothing’s changed. it’s just evolved. devil stay pulling tricks.
  • sexworkerproblems: peechingtonmariejust: clarawebbwillcutoffyou...

    15 Oct 2014 | 9:47 am
    sexworkerproblems: peechingtonmariejust: clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead: peechingtonmariejust: We’re just over the $10,000 mark in our fundraiser for Tjhisha Ball and Angelia Mangum’s families to help with the costs of their funerals. We still need $7,000 more. Could you share this and donate? Even $1 helps and you can choose to make your name, donation, both, or neither private! We got this! Here’s the link: Please share you guys! Even if you can’t donate! We are now at $10,449 with 8 days left to go.
  • redupnyc: The Red Umbrella Diaries is a feature documentary...

    14 Oct 2014 | 8:54 am
    redupnyc: The Red Umbrella Diaries is a feature documentary that tells the personal stories of seven LGBTQ New Yorkers who work in different sectors of the sex trade and come together to tell their tales on stage at Joe’s Pub.  We’ve been working on the film for more than a year and we are so excited to share the official trailer with you! We’ve been submitting the film to festivals and are aiming for a premiere in 2015. More info about the project and the cast is on our website: Excited. Proud. Sex worker stories on film! A thing I have been working on…
  • decolonizingmedia: #AbolishColumbusDay.  It’s Our Time...

    12 Oct 2014 | 2:34 pm
    decolonizingmedia: #AbolishColumbusDay.  It’s Our Time Now: #IndigenousPeoplesDay Image by: Gregg Deal
  • iwriteaboutfeminism: Today, Ferguson is prepared to “keep it...

    29 Sep 2014 | 6:29 am
    iwriteaboutfeminism: Today, Ferguson is prepared to “keep it moving.” September 28th
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  • bleeding during sex

    22 Oct 2014 | 10:43 pm
    Hello everyone. I just had a quick question regarding vaginal bleeding during sex.I'm on hormonal BC, Minastrin to be precise. I've pretty much stopped having a period on this birth control, so I don't usually experience bleeding.So, a week ago or so, I experienced vaginal bleeding during sex. It wasn't a lot of blood or anything, but once we were done, there was red while we were cleaning ourselves up and a little on the sheets. It's pretty unusual, so I was wondering if someone knows what might have caused something like that? It wasn't menstrual blood, since it doesn't match up with my…
  • Anything I can do to stop spotting and delay my period? I'm leaving Friday!

    22 Oct 2014 | 2:18 pm
    Hi everyone!I need advice. I am only 22 yrs old and don't know much about this kind of situation. I've started spotting. I am driving out to Chicago with my boyfriend and family this Friday!. I specifically got my own hotel room with my boyfriend to have lots of sex. my period always comes a couples days AFTER i take out my Nuva ring. I'm ok with sex with spotting but I'm afraid that after that first round of sex, Ill start my period. any advice on this?
  • vcf (vaginal contraceptive film)

    21 Oct 2014 | 7:15 pm
    Hi Folks,Does anyone have experience with VCF? The directions tell you to fold the film over your finger and then insert it as close to the cervix as possible.So my question is then what? Do you leave your finger in for a period of time? Try to get the film that is now folded around your finger off somehow while keeping it up against your cervix? I can't find any information anywhere. Thanks!
  • Why does my bladder fill when I'm getting aroused

    21 Oct 2014 | 3:38 pm
    I have a frustrating thing happening and I've been researching the internet for this. I'm not a young, inexperienced woman. So, I'm a bit embarrassed that I don't already know the answer. Furthermore, I don't recall if this has been happening forever or if it's a new thing. I will empty my bladder beforehand and then during the process of foreplay my bladder completely fills up. It's extremely frustrating. I've tried to research online and there seems to be a lot of talk about female ejaculation that can feel similar to the need to urinate. And, although I didn't know about this and don't…
  • Fertility Tracker

    20 Oct 2014 | 9:34 pm
    I checked a few tags and didn't find anything along these lines yet, so I hope I didn't miss it.I am interested to know what those who are TTC are using as their app/tracker (Fertility Friend, Glow, Ovia, etc.). I was SUPER EXCITED about Glow until I determined that it doesn't keep my Notes after about a week, and I was using the Notes section to track my ferning data (a data point they won't add as a "symptom"). So yeah. Useless.I like OvuView and I'm contemplating paying for it, but I'm looking for opinions on FertilityFriend, Ovia, Kindara and any others you might be super excited to…
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    Yahoo Health

  • The One Thing Americans Fear the Most

    22 Oct 2014 | 12:42 pm
    What are you most afraid of? It's a personal question that brings to mind a number of unsettling thoughts: spiders, ghosts, heights, public speaking. A new survey asked the question to a random sample of 1,500 people across the nation.
  • 6 Decadent (But Healthy!) Chia Seed Dessert Recipes

    22 Oct 2014 | 11:46 am
    Chia seeds are a powerhouse of nutrients. They’re loaded with protein, Omega-3 fatty acids, and fiber. Plus they’re packed with calcium, magnesium and manganese. They’re also gluten-free! 
  • 5 Ways to Lower Your Risk for Alzheimer's Disease

    21 Oct 2014 | 4:11 pm
    New research suggests aluminum exposure contributes to dementia, but there is plenty you can do to lower your risk. 
  • 8 Foods You Should Eat Every Day

    21 Oct 2014 | 3:33 pm
    Spinach It may be green and leafy, but spinach is no nutritional wallflower, and you know from reading Eat This, Not That! . This noted muscle builder  is a rich source of plant-based omega-3s and folate , which help reduce the risk of heart disease, stroke, and osteoporosis. Bonus: Folate  also increases blood flow to the nether regions, helping to protect you against age-related sexual issues. And spinach is packed with lutein , a compound that fights macular degeneration (and may help your sex drive).
  • Your Brain Is Wired to Favor Junk Food — 4 Ways to Override It

    21 Oct 2014 | 11:08 am
    “Obesity is a problem of choice,” said neurologist Alain Dagher. “We need to think of the brain as being central to obesity.”  (Photo by Renée Comet/Stockfood) Tempted to munch on potato chips instead of carrot sticks?
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  • Ce ajutor iti trebuie la infiintarea unei SRL?

    22 Oct 2014 | 7:23 am
    Gândire de a investi într-o afacere de închiriere de proprietate? de ce nu? Printre real estate oportunităţile de afaceri disponibile, inchiriere este cel mai bun. Următoarea întrebare este la ce tip de proprietate de afaceri trebuie să introduceţi? O talpă-proprietorship, parteneriat sau o corporaţie? La care dreptul de proprietate trebuie să vă alăturaţi-vă sau să investească în? În esenţă, primele două sunt similare, proprietarii va propriul fiecare Ban ei colecta din profiturile de afaceri de închiriere, dar va fi riscând totul ei proprii, inclusiv bunurile…
  • Pulberea de lucerna verde

    13 Oct 2014 | 2:46 am
    Au fost multe studii dovedit că arată cât de important este să mănânce sănătos și să utilizeze ajutoare naturale, cum ar fi lucerna verde pulbere pentru a maximiza beneficiile. Obiceiuri sanatoase ar trebui să fie practicat de oameni sa traiasca mai mult si sa se simta mai bine. lucerna verde a fost dovedit pentru a ajuta mai multe persoane a adăuga mai multe elemente nutritive la dieta lor si se vinde, fie sub formă de pulbere, un suc, sau in forma sa naturala. Mulți oameni au folosit aceasta planta minune din 1930, atunci când un chimist agricol este alimentat primul la…
  • Alegerea unui scaun de masaj potrivit pentru tine

    6 Oct 2014 | 1:21 am
    Scaunul de masaj iJoy este un mod minunat de a te trata, sau cineva iti pasa de, la un masaj de lux. Sinele vostru mental cât și fizic dumneavoastră vă va mulțumi. De câte ori ai avea nevoie de timp pentru a vă relaxa la programul nebun de viață modern, care tot suntem obligați să păstreze? Există o șansă bună că răspunsul la această întrebare este, “nu este suficient”. Ei bine, puteți face ceva despre asta, și tu ar trebui. Pentru mai multe informatii: Tehnologia din spatele scaunului de masaj Human Touch iJoy este uimitor. Ea vine…
  • Semintele de grau verde si animalul tau de companie

    29 Sep 2014 | 8:22 am
    Cele mai multe mamifere, inclusiv pisici, ai grijă de iarbă pentru a se mentine sanatosi sau recupereaza dupa o accidentare. Daca pisica ta are de buruieni și iarbă sălbatică, tu ar trebui să exercite întotdeauna prudență. Acest lucru poate duce la iarbă pisica ta de a contracta o boală dăunătoare. Uneori, poate dura chiar la plante de apartament de alimentatie, care pot fi, de asemenea, dăunătoare pentru el. În astfel de momente, este mai bine pentru a merge pentru grau verde pe plan intern, care este mai nutritivă decât alte soiuri de iarbă. Semințe organice Grau verde…
  • Jaluzelele exterioare pentru balconul tau

    26 Sep 2014 | 1:31 am
    Popularitatea de rulouri pentru beneficiile de securitate pe care le oferă este larg recunoscut. Ele oferă suport de descurajare împotriva hoți și de a proteja usile si ferestrele de la obtinerea deteriorat din cauza intemperiilor și toate celelalte forme de deteriorare. Ele sunt aproape sinonim cu blondele și le poate rula în jos pentru a expune usi si ferestre, parțial sau complet. Acestea sunt în mare parte realizate din metal robust și puternic pentru a ajuta siguranță la întreaga gospodărie și oamenii din ea. Există o serie de beneficii care ofera rulouri. De asemenea,…
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  • 5 Things You MUST Do If Your Spouse Is Hooked On Porn

    22 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    A husband’s compulsive pornography use is rarely disclosed voluntarily. Most men addicted to pornography experience deep shame and hide their choices, but despite well-crafted, guilt-ridden lies that mask their behavior, the truth emerges. Regardless how the wife finds out about the pornography addiction, the discovery is devastating for everyone involved. After this discovery, wives often feel caught in a whirlwind of disillusionment, distress, and relational damage. In the bewildering moments that follow such a traumatic event, women rightfully ask themselves, what do I do now? Here…
  • 10 Lies Men Believe about Porn

    19 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    Have you ever had thoughts such as, I’m the only one struggling with porn like this, God must be so ashamed of me, or I just have got to get stronger to overcome my addiction or anything like that? These thoughts are present in almost every case of pornography addiction I’ve seen.  But do you see the problem? These thoughts are all lies! Worse yet, they keep you from discovering the truth that will set you free. This is why my mission over the past few years has been to help men not only recognize the top ten of these lies, but more importantly, to understand the Truth that…
  • Are We Free To Screw Up?

    17 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    My friend Steven wrote a post on Monday about slip up or relapse. My other friend Seth followed it up Wednesday with a different take on things. Now, I guess it is my turn. I appreciate all that has been said and want you to know this has been a huge conversation around XXXchurch recently, especially when it comes to our X3groups. We have a diverse group of people working and writing here at and sometimes we don’t see eye to eye on everything. That is ok. That is how I think we will continue to grow.  We have long had a policy where X3group leaders needed to be sober…
  • Are You Surrendering or Just Controlling?

    15 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    A few days ago, Steven Luff wrote a post about the difference between what he terms a “slip-up” and full-blown “relapse,” where he mainly focused on the idea that your sobriety date is a very important tool for you in your recovery. (You can check that out here) In this post, I would like to invite you to take a step back and think a little deeper about some of the words we use so much in this process of seeking freedom. Because there are deeper questions to be asked. But sometimes we struggle to lead people into those deeper questions. Perhaps this is because deep…
  • Is There Really a Difference Between Slip-Ups and Relapses?

    12 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    I lead a sexual addiction recovery group in Hollywood every Tuesday night called X3LA. The men who attend have the option of filling out a “Meeting Response Sheet” with eight questions/prompts that help them better understand the nature of their addiction and, hopefully, their recovery from it. The first question? “State your first name and how long you have been sober.” In this instance, “sober” means how long it has been since they last used their substance of abuse. Each man in the group determines that “substance” for himself – for one…
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    Sexual Health News -- ScienceDaily

  • CPAP use for sleep apnea does not negatively impact sexual quality of life

    21 Oct 2014 | 8:14 am
    Patients who use a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) device to treat obstructive sleep apnea often believe that it makes them less sexually attractive, according to researchers. New research shows they need not worry.
  • Cold sores increase risk of dementia, research suggests

    20 Oct 2014 | 7:49 am
    Infection with herpes simplex virus increases the risk of Alzheimer's disease, researchers claim. "Our results clearly show that there is a link between infections of herpes simplex virus and the risk of developing Alzheimer's disease. This also means that we have new opportunities to develop treatment forms to stop the disease," says one of the researchers behind the study.
  • Using feminist theory to understand male rape

    17 Oct 2014 | 8:11 am
    Decades of feminist research have framed rape and sexual assault as a ‘women’s issue’, leaving little room for the experiences of male victims. But a new study suggests that feminist theory, with its focus on the gendered nature of rape, can also help us understand the stigmas, social constructions and realities associated with male rape.
  • Risk factors for sexual assault identified, including age, alcohol consumption

    15 Oct 2014 | 6:22 am
    Risk factors for sexual assault, including young age and alcohol consumption, must be addressed when considering preventative strategies, suggests a new study. Results of this study showed that 66% of the women interviewed were aged 15-24 years old and 75% had met the perpetrator before the sexual assault with nearly 50% reporting that the perpetrator was a current or former boyfriend, family member or someone they considered a friend.
  • Side effects of cancer prevention surgery can be helped with a single-day education program, study finds

    14 Oct 2014 | 5:33 am
    More women are having ovary-removing surgery as a cancer prevention measure, but many are often unaware of sexual or psychological side effects of the procedure. A new study shows a half-day educational program can help successfully deal with these issues by educating women on how to address them.
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    Dangerous Lilly

  • Tenga Iroha Mikazuki

    Lilly Dangeroux
    7 Oct 2014 | 12:54 pm
    For as much as I love the Tenga Iroha Minamo, I’m underwhelmed by the Iroha Mikazuki. The Iroha Minamo arrived first on my doorstep; I was so excited about it and liked it so much that I asked Tenga if I could review both. I wanted to be certain that I could recommend them interchangeably. I’m so glad I did because I am more reluctant to recommend the Mikazuki. My first Iroha vibe was the Iroha Midori. I had expected a lot more squish and give than I experienced with the Midori and felt a bit let down but it all. The Minamo delivered on that squish, and how. But the Iroha Mikazuki…
  • Tenga Iroha Minamo

    Lilly Dangeroux
    30 Sep 2014 | 1:00 pm
    Tenga asked me to review their new insertable line, the Iroha Minamo and Iroha Mikazuki, the sisters to Tenga Iroha’s original debut trio of “soft touch” clitoral vibes, the Midori, Yuki and Sakura. This is one of those times where a reviewer needs to be objective and look beyond their own preferences. The Iroha Minamo is not something that I personally would be drawn to, but I have had many people ask about a gentle, soft, pliable silicone vibrator. A number of people with vaginas dislike silicone vibrators because too often they’re a hard plastic vibe with a…
  • Can’t Buy My Love

    Lilly Dangeroux
    22 Sep 2014 | 1:21 pm
    It took 6 years for me to be accused of being bought off. Also, I’m officially notorious. Perhaps I should change my handle to Notorious L.I.L? SheVibe is All That Some people, even other bloggers, have questioned my love for SheVibe. As one of the biggest mouths in the Toxic Toy “hysteria” scene, I’ve had a few question it because they carry stuff that’s porous. They don’t carry anything that isn’t labeled by the manufacturer as “phthalates-free” so in that regard they ARE a non-toxic shop. As you all know I don’t love porous toys…
  • Should we be paid for our reviews?

    Lilly Dangeroux
    20 Sep 2014 | 7:15 am
    Earlier this year I ranted on a topic similar to this; many companies have no idea the sort of effort we put into our sex toy reviews. The testing, the photos, the writing, the editing, and even the promoting. For the cheap toys, we’re getting screwed in the conversion if the sex toy is seen as “payment” for the review.  But many of us spend at least half a day’s work time (if we’re comparing this to an hourly full-time job) if not a full day or even MORE than a full work day’s time on our reviews. So today I saw a post from a blogger, not a sex blogger,…
  • Nominate me, please!

    17 Sep 2014 | 2:58 pm
    I’ve spent the majority of my 6+ years not asking to be nominated; I felt it defeated the purpose (in my mind). That if anybody actually liked my work, they’d nominate it without prompt. I’ve since dropped all stubbornness and “pride” and have no fucks left to give about my previous stick-up-my-ass ways.  I am liberated! Or something. I’m cantankerous, I’m rough around the edges, I’m not all that universally liked. I’m okay with that! I’m proud of the work I do, and if I raise some hackles then I think it means I’m doing my…
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    Susie Bright's Journal

  • Transparent Behind the Scenes -- Listen Up! (Susie Bright)
    29 Sep 2014 | 8:24 am
    Listen to the Behind-the-Scenes Features! I produced them, and they're pretty darn cool. Spoiler Alerts: Major and delicious. Watch Season 1 first, if you want to let the surprises unfold naturally-- your binge is our pleasure. Needless to say, I didn't do it alone. I'm lucky enough to produce this...
  • Kate Clinton Goes Deep Inside The Sex Archives (Susie Bright)
    1 Apr 2014 | 4:14 pm
    Radclyffe Hall, "Speaking of Sex Exhibit": The Human Sexuality Collection 25th Anniversary Sometimes at fundraisers when I talk with people about another string of LGBT successes, I feel like I have been Mr. Peabody-ed into a way, wayback machine episode. It's The Beverly Hillbillies and a gobsmacked Jethro has just...
  • Lung Cancer Noir - Ariel Gore's Masterpiece. (Susie Bright)
    6 Mar 2014 | 6:39 pm
    I have this recurring nightmare that my mother is alive. She never died. I've made a terrible mistake. I have to call my editor. We can't publish the book. I don't know how I could have made such a wild mistake. I mean, she looked dead. I signed the papers....
  • Best Doggone Kody Dog Ever (Susie Bright)
    9 Jan 2014 | 2:52 pm
    Kodiak Rest in Peace April 1, 2001- January 9, 2015 Oh have you seen my dear companion For he was all this world to me I hear he's gone to some far country and he fares no more to be I wish I were a swallow flying I'd fly to...
  • My Answers to Professor Larry Gopnik's Post-Hanukah, Pre-Christmas, Post-Schrodinger, Pre-Apocalypse Holiday Movie Quiz (Susie Bright)
    26 Dec 2013 | 3:15 pm
    1) Favorite unsung holiday film? The Ref. Too famous, you say? Well, i would like to take some of the credit for that, because I have flogged it as "best Christmas movie ever" for a very long time. Each year, I shock several people with its discovery, who then take...
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    pretty dumb things

  • a whole lotta shaking

    chelsea g. summers
    13 Oct 2014 | 3:02 pm
    I've been remiss. I've been busily writing elsewhere and neglecting the thing that started it all, this blog. Ok, so I wrote a piece in Adult Magazine on "cocksucker." If you've not read it, you should because it's a swell enough piece of writing that it was passed around the New Yorker office like Are You There God, It's Me Margaret under the lunch tables in middle school.  Also in Adult, I  wrote a thing on fauxgasms. Don't lie to me; you've faked it. I talk about why that's not a bad thing. When Monica Lewinsky was a big deal a couple…
  • on naked pictures, a consideration

    chelsea g. summers
    3 May 2014 | 12:01 pm
    “Why would you assume that everyone needs naked pictures of themselves,” my therapist whose name, like mine, is not Chelsea but the name that is not Chelsea is the same. Don’t they? I ask. “No!” She says, her voice rising. “Many people never feel a need to take naked pictures of themselves.” This is a new perspective I need to consider. I took it as a truth universal: a person in possession of a body must be in want of photos documenting it, naked. It felt incomprehensible that people who had no pictorial evidence of their own fleshy erotics wouldn’t want to have them. If…
  • on cash being king of kink, a consideration

    chelsea g. summers
    22 Apr 2014 | 7:36 pm
    I have a new piece on Adult Magazine on the myriad ways that cash is king of kink. Here’s the opening salvo: “Do you like to be spoiled?” he sexted, one of the first sexts he’d sent, this bisexual dominant dude. He predicated his seduction in part on his hotness, in part on his intelligence, in part on my desire to crawl in worship to his impressive cock, and in no small part on his disposable income. This particular exchange came to nothing but many texts, a lot of masturbation, and a mother lode of empty promises, but his question is standard in BDSM seduction, at least as far as my…
  • on bad sex, a consideration

    chelsea g. summers
    4 Apr 2014 | 11:44 am
    I have a new piece on Adult Mag online. It’s on bad sex. Here’s a quote: In the thirty-five years I’ve been fucking, I’ve had a wealth of bad sex. There have been men who rubbed my breasts like jinn would appear. Lovers, male and female, who would slip beneath the covers, take the token lap, and pop up like whack-a-moles. Men who mistook stamina for artistry, speed for skill, and my patience for pleasure. Threesomes that were blinding in their shared solipsism. Fucking is a lot like poetry. Sometimes it’s epiphanic; sometimes it's merely boring. Other times it’s just awful.
  • public fucking and crespuscular velvet

    chelsea g. summers
    28 Jan 2014 | 9:46 pm
    The very best thing about Gotham is its gossamer predilection for magic. It seems a stalwart city, all great hunkering buildings of glass and metal, peopled by humans who live insular quotidian lives tethered to their white iPhone cords and their Lululemon totes and their thinly veiled misanthropy. On its surface, Gotham is solid and real, and every year I live here, it seems to solidify more. It would be a shame to see Gotham take itself seriously, but gravitas seems its future.  Which is why those moments when the magic spins and reels, drunk as dust motes, shine so bright. The movies…
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    How to Tell if a Guy is a Jerk

  • 25 Ways to Tell if he’s a jerk

    7 Feb 2015 | 9:45 am
    Here are some tips to help you decide whether or not he's a jerk before it is too late. He Might Be a Jerk If <!-- Responsive --> (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); He goes through your purse without permission. What is he looking for and why is he beng so secretive about it?   He purposely hangs around girls you don't like. You have told him you don't trust her. But yet
  • How to Attract a Great Man... the Real Secret!

    Ade W Hakim
    7 Oct 2013 | 10:35 am
    There are all sorts of articles, techniques, books, and experts to tell you how to attract a good man. They often miss the big secret, the one and only advice worth taking. What is it? Be your best self. That is it. Nothing more. You do not need to know some ancient manipulative tricks, how to flirt, how to dress provocatively, what is the most alluring perfume, or the sexiest lip gloss.
  • Listen to your Gut - Why I Give this Suggestion in relationships

    30 Sep 2013 | 10:41 am
    When it comes to relationships, I often suggest women "listen to their gut." If you want to know if a man is cheating... listen to your gut. If you want to know if a man is in love with you... listen to your gut. If you want to know if a man is honest... listen to your gut. <!-- Responsive --> (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Now, I'm not suggesting you don't analyze,
  • What to do if a Guy Doesn't Call you Back?

    27 May 2013 | 10:19 am
    You had a great evening... you totally clicked.... he said he would give you a call tomorrow... it has been a week... he doesn't call. You call him, leave a message or two, he doesn't call back. What do you do? <!-- Responsive --> (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); You get the message and move on. You learn from your mistake and create a great future for yourself without him.
  • How to Tell if a Man is Using You

    20 May 2013 | 10:16 am
    One of the most common questions I get asked is... How can a woman tell if a man is just using her? My first response is, if you are asking, you are probably feeling used. And if you are feeling used you are probably being used. There is a significant difference for most men between wanting a woman for a plaything for a night or two, and wanting a real, healthy, mature relationship. The two
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  • Unlearning Unlovability

    Cassandra Leveille
    16 Oct 2014 | 10:39 am
    Author:  Cassandra Leveille Introduction:  I hid my fears and insecurities by desexualizing myself. Now I'm on the path of uncovering ways to unlearn ugliness as an identity. One of the hard things about growing up on suburban Long Island and being the awkward “new girl” at my elementary schools was the endless barrage of taunting I received. I was socially awkward: singing songs I invented in the hallways, drawing and illustrating my own stories in my free time. But I wasn’t sure what brought on the endless barrage of taunts, especially when we first moved. Maybe it was…
  • He Doesn't Want Sex Anymore. I Do. Now What?

    Heather Corinna
    2 Oct 2014 | 12:22 pm
    My partner and I have been dating for over a year now and have just begun to hit some rough patches. We used to have a lot of (what I thought was) really great sex. Then one day he told me that all that sex had been only mediocre for him. I was mortified and also ashamed because it felt like maybe he had never really want to have sex with me, he was just doing it because he knew I wanted to. Recently, he says that he might be asexual, but he isn't sure. He's trans and in the middle of transitioning, so he says his body is changing. He says masturbation "works wonders" for him, and he feels no…
  • Don't Want to Have Sex?

    Heather Corinna
    1 Oct 2014 | 1:38 pm
    Author:  Heather Corinna Introduction:  Then don't! Here's a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships. Don't want sex, to be in a sexual relationship or to have sex in a romantic relationship? Then don't. You don't have to: sex and sexual relationships are supposed to be optional. For everyone -- of every age, gender, orientation, economic class, in any kind of relationship -- always. When sex isn't something you want or doesn't feel right, you get to opt out. Being part of sex you don't want or that…
  • Is 13 the "Right" Age for Sex or Romance?

    Heather Corinna
    22 Sep 2014 | 9:24 am
    I'm wondering what a good age to have a 'relationship' is? I'm 13 and I've sort of began to have stronger attractions both emotionally and physically to boys. I'm not sure if I'm ready for a relationship and I'm scared that if it doesn't work (for example, if I'm frigid or something) it will ruin our friendship. I know it's not much of a big deal but I just want some help and reassurance. read The answer | ask your own
  • Young Sexuality Activists: Madison Kimrey

    31 Aug 2014 | 1:38 am
    This blog post is part of a series here at Scarleteen profiling young people worldwide who are activists in some way in the fields of sexuality, sex education and sexual health. Madison Kimrey is, in a word, amazing. You might know her from the letter she wrote to Phyllis Schlafly a few months ago, but that's not the only thing she's done that's so fantastic. She contributes regularly to the online magazine Liberals Unite, and maintains her own blog as well: Functional Human Being. While her writing is elegant and thought-provoking, that's not the only form her activism takes; she's not…
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    Having My Cake and Eating It Too

  • Real Toys For Boys

    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    10 Oct 2014 | 1:54 pm
    Lawks a Lordy, times have changed. Back in the days when Ruf and I were investigating toys for boys, cockrings were cheap plastic/jelly affairs – very much the poor relations. Whilst we ladies luxuriated in glass and steel objets d’art crafted with architectural prowess. The sort of ornaments that you wanted to display on [...]
  • Blenheim and Woodstock

    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    9 Oct 2014 | 3:42 am
    Every time I drive up the M40 to and from Ruf, I am reminded. But, particularly so at this time of year. It was such a happy time at the beginning of my relationship with my Husband. He had to do some business in Woodstock, a tiny village near Oxford. Woodstock is a beautiful little place, steeped [...]
  • Things You Should Say To Your Girl Child

    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    6 Oct 2014 | 3:37 am
    Great post from iVillage on 20 things to say to your daughter before she’s grown And interesting that I should see it just days after an old blog about my own relationship with my mother was reposted from some years ago. It was Get To Know Your Grandmum that made me falter for a moment. My mother is [...]
  • The 15 Minute Orgasm

    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    3 Oct 2014 | 3:29 am
    Only moments before, I had been complaining that everything took so much longer to work properly and worrying that I was somehow defective through my lower oestrogen levels. Ruf smiled at the contrary confirmation from my cunt. "I think everything is in perfect working order," [...]
  • Having her cake

    Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake
    30 Sep 2014 | 3:14 am
    He had made her cry yet again. The cumulative consequences of his negative words and actions. Sobbing in the bathroom as he lay helpless in their bed. Returning to the bedroom, she was torn between grabbing her things to run away and the call of his warmth in that bed. Part of her just wanted to be [...]
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    Ask Dan and Jennifer

  • How To Find The G-Spot

    Dan &#38; Jennifer
    18 Oct 2014 | 7:00 am
    Just about everyone has heard of the g-spot. It’s supposedly the “holy grail” of all female sexual stimulation – so why can’t anyone find it? If you do get lucky and find a woman’s g-spot, how to heck are you supposed to stimulate it? Here’s a quick and easy guide to simple, g-spot stimulation that works flawlessly each time and every time. It’s amazing how many men and women don’t know how to find the g-spot! Read on to find out exactly what the g-spot is and how to find it! What Is The G-Spot? The g-spot is a ball of nerve endings inside…
  • What He REALLY Thinks About During Sex With You

    He Said/She Said with John &#38; Jenna
    15 Oct 2014 | 6:46 am
    Is there any woman who doesn’t want to know what goes on inside the male mind? If you’re like most (okay probably all) women, you’ve thought about what your man is thinking about during sex. You’ve probably been especially curious to think about what he thinks about during sex with you. Here’s What She Said About “What He Thinks About During Sex” Baseball, Star Trek, His fantasy football league, What he had for dinner, Math equations, How to change a tire, WWII. And anything else that is 
the complete opposite of what is happening to his body right now! When guys…
  • The 7 Best Foreplay Moves To Really Turn Her On

    He Said/She Said with John &#38; Jenna
    14 Oct 2014 | 6:25 am
    Women are complicated creatures!  There is no one foreplay move that works on all women nor do all women like the same things!  What worked for your last girl might not work with your current girl – and that can be super frustrating if all you want to do is please her. (Oh, and that should be your main goal). Although women are all different, here are some foreplay tips at work for most women most of the time… Foreplay Tip #1 – Worship Her You can do this anytime, all the time.  Make her feel like the most important sexiest women in the world!  Show her that you have…
  • 6 Ways Tell If A Woman Is Faking Orgasm

    Dan &#38; Jennifer
    11 Oct 2014 | 7:00 am
    The female orgasm is easy for a woman to fake, but it’s also simple for a man to tell when she’s not being honest about an orgasm. Here’s how! Unless your girl is a professional porn star, it’s really not that difficult to tell whether her orgasm is faked or the real deal. Even if she is a professional (lucky you, eh?) there are still some telltale physical signs that will give her away. Here’s how to tell if she’s actually experiencing the big O or if she’s just a big liar. 1. She Sounds Fake Listen to her. Is she moaning and groaning like she’s putting on the…
  • 3 Sex Positions For Deeper Penetration

    Kaylen Jackson
    10 Oct 2014 | 9:00 am
    Penetrating as deep as possible during sexual intercourse is a great way to connect emotionally and physically with your partner. Mixing sex positions that allow for deeper penetration with other pleasurable sex positions can definitely make your sex life even hotter than it was before! Try these positions if you want to go deep. Doggy Style Doggy style is probably the best sex position for going deep and stimulating the g-spot. It doesn’t allow for face to face contact with your partner, but if you want rough, deep and dirty sex, doggy style is the way to go. If you want to be closer…
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    Baggage Reclaim: Empowering advice for helping you offload your baggage & discover the great you that already exists.

  • When we’re afraid of letting ourselves or others ‘off the hook’

    Natalie (NML)
    15 Oct 2014 | 2:39 pm
    Being let off the hook is about being released out of what could be an unpleasant or at the very least difficult situation, or being released out of something that we don’t want to do. When we feel that we or someone is on the hook for something, it’s fundamentally tied to a sense of obligation, after all, if we didn’t feel that we or they were duty bound to do something, we’d opt out without fanfare. The decision to step away wouldn’t be laden with such turbulent emotions and even a fear of appearing forgiving. Two scenarios in life are likely to hold on tight to the negativity…
  • Buffers: When You’re The One That They Turn To When They’re Unhappy With Their Current Relationship

    Natalie (NML)
    9 Oct 2014 | 3:42 pm
    We are creatures of habit and have to pay close attention to where there are running themes in our lives because it points to where we are not only repeating a pattern of thinking and behaviour but that we’re doing so because we’re getting something out of it. A recurring theme that some Fallback Girls/Guys experience in unavailable relationships is being the person who lends a willing ear, a shoulder to lean on, and even a bed to lie in for people who are having doubts about their current relationship, who want to have a bitch and a gripe about their partners, and who essentially…
  • Despite ‘good points’, we deal with the consequences of people coming as full packages

    Natalie (NML)
    1 Oct 2014 | 3:22 pm
    Any toxic relationship that I’ve been involved in, has always kept going due to me essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember about the person and the relationship whether romantic or otherwise. While I did spend most of my life feeling wounded by my father’s absence and the sporadic periods or even moments spent with him, what I mostly remembered was how I felt around him and the happy times, which of course there were some but I’d admittedly romanticised the hell out of them. I’d selectively remember spending visitations with him and how thrilled I always…
  • Understanding why it’s difficult to be trusting when discrepancies with a person’s dating profile or story are discovered

    Natalie (NML)
    24 Sep 2014 | 2:52 pm
    Picture this (adopts Sophia from Golden Girls voice): You meet somebody on a dating website (read: introduction website after all, you can’t actually ‘date’ on it), you exchange a few emails and texts, maybe you chat on the phone a few times and then you meet up, hopefully within the first week or two because beyond that you get into building sandcastles in the sky territory. Between reading their profile, viewing any photos and these initial exchanges, you glean information about that person but at some point, maybe when you meet up, it comes to light that this person…
  • You can change your version of normal at any time

    Natalie (NML)
    17 Sep 2014 | 3:03 pm
    When you’ve witnessed or been through a lot of stuff as a child, a chunk of adulthood is spent trying to work out what’s normal because it quickly becomes apparent that what was ‘normal’ to you isn’t how things are in general or what you want to continue with, especially as you’ll be feeling the pain of putting your pattern on repeat. Normalising what may be really poor behaviour and dynamics only really equips you for abusive and dysfunctional relationships. It trains you to be a pleaser devoted to trying to influence people’s feelings and behaviour…
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    Mommy Has A Headache

  • Online Bingo is the New Love

    7 Oct 2014 | 8:58 am
    Move over men, this time the ladies got something more interesting going on. OnlineBingo is just not another online games, it is the thing to do. It’s the trend now, they askquestions based on your interaction, have a look here. It’s the normal banter amongstpeople of all age types where people choose the site to play. They make sure that theirfriends also play in these sites as they could shout out bingo together.You could definitely cook up a storm in the chat rooms ( make sure you don’t get intotrouble, follow the chat rules!) these will definitely keep you going through the…
  • What's all the Buzz about the Bouqs?

    9 Aug 2014 | 4:11 pm
    You may well have heard some buzz already about The Bouqs, a flower delivery company that is a little bit different, because they have caught people's attention. Firstly, unlike some other companies I could mention, they only sell really classy bouquets and not tacky multicolored bunches that leave you cross-eyed when you receive them. The Bouqs color palettes are clean, elegant and very pleasing to the eye. Their bouquets cover a whole range of gorgeous hues from deep purple to sunset pink [check em out here] which will leave you very much spoilt for choice when selecting your…
  • A Real Life Mr Darcy?

    2 Mar 2014 | 2:51 pm
    Fans of Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice have always known that Mr. Darcy is a fine man. Now scientists have proof.  In scientific lingo: The pheromone that attracts female mice to the odour of a particular male has been identified. Named ‘darcin’ by researchers writing in the open access journal BMC Biology(after Darcy, the attractive hero in Jane Austen’s novel “Pride and Prejudice”), this unusual protein in a male’s urine attracts females and is responsible for learned preference for specific males. – Science DailyBut seriously, even though we can only imagine…
  • Let Me Gently Probe your Mind

    13 Feb 2014 | 6:05 pm
    We're snowed in up to our eyeballs here in Baltimore so time to switch on the computer for some light relief.So, I got challenged by another blogger to share 11 things about meMy 11 questions are:1. What advice would you give your brand new blogging self now?Don't air all your dirty laundry in public.2. What four words would you say to your 18 year old self?David Bowie is never going to marry you. 3. What three things do you think define you as either a Brit or American?Obsession with strong cups of tea  or lack thereofAbility to go for long walks in icy rain and enjoy it because it is…
  • Great Expat-ations

    9 Feb 2014 | 1:14 pm
    I was asked to contribute an expat tip for the HiFX Expat Tip page. And this got me thinking that actually I have a lot of useful info to pass on for peeps looking to move from UK to USA so here goes ....10 things to bear in mind when moving from UK to USA1. Your British accent will go down a storm. Some people even ask you to say a sentence so they can hear your accent. You will feel like a celebrity.2. You will laugh at how Americans complain about the cost of gas as it is three times cheaper than in the UK.3. The weather is a lot nicer.4. I had watched so many episodes of Jerry Springer,…
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    Polyamory Weekly

  • PW 405: Testing the poly waters with a monogamist

    16 Oct 2014 | 8:35 am
    Testing the poly waters with a long-time friend who is also monogamous. Email, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit or
  • PW 404: Is he poly or just chicken?

    6 Oct 2014 | 8:33 pm
    Is he poly or just chicken? When the point of your vee won't communicate with your metamour, what do you do? Email, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit or
  • PW 403: Striking while the iron is cold

    24 Sep 2014 | 6:00 am
    Striking while the iron is cold: should you bring in a new poly partner when your current partner agreed to it years ago and you've become distant in the meantime? Email, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit or
  • PW 402: Poly Weekly live at CatalystCon

    18 Sep 2014 | 8:13 pm
    Poly Weekly live at CatalystCon West with special guests Reid Mihalko and Charlie Glickman! Email, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit or
  • PW 401: Fuzzy landmines

    8 Sep 2014 | 4:01 pm
    Fuzzy landmines and invisible fences that the person entering an existing relationship often encounters--and how to make sure you're not the one making them! Email, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit or
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    Sex, Etc.

  • Three Ways You Can Be an LGBTQ Ally

    Kyle Taylor
    10 Oct 2014 | 8:30 am
    I’ve always thought of compassion and consideration for the well-being of others as two necessary qualities for any human. An ally to the LGBTQ community, in my opinion, embodies these characteristics by supporting the rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people and speaking out against acts of transphobia and homophobia. I consider myself an LGBTQ ally, but some may find it difficult to stand up and speak out, whether it be for fear of being labeled gay themselves or disagreeing with their friends. But I personally find it is more important for a heterosexual and/or…
  • Tampon Run Game Makes Menstruation Less Taboo

    Jessica Yang
    7 Oct 2014 | 8:32 am
    It’s a problem when violence is more accepted and normalized than a healthy bodily function, such as menstruation. This is what motivated two New York City high school seniors to create a tampon video game for their final project at Girls Who Code, a summer coding camp. Andy Gonzales and Sophie Houser created Tampon Run, an online 8-bit video game, to normalize menstruation. In the introduction to the game, a message reads,“The taboo that surrounds it [menstruation] teaches women that a normal and natural bodily function is embarrassing and crude… Hopefully one day menstruation will be…
  • Spermania: Game Fact or Fiction?

    Manish Arora
    30 Sep 2014 | 10:32 am
    Spermania is a game that takes players on a journey through the female reproductive system. Available for use on Android devices, the game follows the main character, the sperm, as it enters the uterus, passes obstacles—including viruses, white blood cells and acid pools—and competes against other sperm to finish either first, second or third. I enjoyed this game because it reminded me of Mario Kart, one of my favorite games as a child. Except, now the vehicles are the sperm, the power-ups and gold coins are sugar, and the racetracks are the insides of the female anatomy. But is the game…
  • Only Yes Means Yes in California

    Ojanae Ellison
    26 Sep 2014 | 2:25 pm
    When it comes to rape on college campuses, schools and the law usually portray both parties as guilty instead of only the person who committed the rape. This is because in most states the standard is “no means no.” If a “no” isn’t given, a “yes” can be assumed. With this line of thinking, unless resistance is shown or an explicit “no” is said, everything else can be considered a “yes.” But what if the attacker prevented the person being attacked from speaking by covering her mouth or pushing her face into something that would make her unable to speak? Under these…
  • Sexual Harassment Is Never OK

    Emma Grant
    23 Sep 2014 | 10:53 am
    In a society obsessed with “blurring lines,” it is important for us to know what sexual harassment is and how to prevent it. You may think you know what it means to harass someone, and you would never do it. Right? It isn’t like you’re a flasher or anything! Well, sometimes you may not realize that something is considered sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is the unwelcome sexual advances or comments that make another person feel uncomfortable. These advances can prevent a person from feeling safe in any environment, especially places a person has to be, like school or work.
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    Simple Marriage

  • You Are Already In The Right Relationship

    20 Oct 2014 | 12:45 pm
    What does healthy growing up look like in marriage? There are two challenges or dilemmas that have major roles in relationships. The emotional reactivity/rationality challenge and the togetherness/separateness dilemma. These two forces intermix in various and subtle ways to shape your relationship. The togetherness/separateness force is a natural force much like the need plants have for sunshine or water. Every plant requires a certain level of sunlight for healthy development — too much sunshine will kill the plant and too little sunshine will lead to the plant’s death. Marriages…
  • Real Beauty

    15 Oct 2014 | 6:08 am
    You have probably seen this video before, but it is worth showing again. Do women see themselves less accurately than strangers do? Dove”s Real Beauty campaign says yes — and offers proof, in the form of forensic sketches. Dove recruited seven women of different ages and backgrounds and had FBI-trained forensic artist Gil Zamora create composite sketches of them based on descriptions of their own descriptions of their facial features. Earlier in the day, the women had been asked to spend time with strangers, though neither party was told why. These strangers were later brought one…
  • Five great quotes on simplicity

    13 Oct 2014 | 5:05 am
            Five great quotes on simplicity is written by Corey from: Simple Marriage ----------- A FEW THINGS WE LOVE: Married Life 911 - marriage help from the comfort of your own phone. Sexy Marriage Radio
  • Should You Follow Your Passion? Must Read Response From Mike Rowe

    10 Oct 2014 | 5:04 am
    A couple of weeks ago, Stephen from Alabama who wrote in questioning a now famous speech in which Rowe said “follow your passion” was the worst advice he’d ever received. “Hi, Mike. Let me begin by saying that I love what you and your foundation are attempting to do,” Adams wrote. “However, I’m confused by your directive to NOT “follow your passion.” I think it can be safely argued that if no one followed their passion, companies like Apple, Microsoft, Dow, and many more wouldn’t exist. If no one follows their passion, who innovates? Who founds companies that provide…
  • Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without

    8 Oct 2014 | 5:59 am
    When you look around in your house, how much stuff do you see? We surround ourselves with stuff. There’s the stuff you always use, the stuff you regularly use, the stuff you use sometimes use, and then there’s the drawer, box, closet or shelf of stuff you keep because you may need it later. Have you ever stopped to wonder about the role stuff plays in your life? How much stuff do you really need? One thing that brings me great joy and peace is having a clean, simple home. When I can walk into my living room and it has been decluttered there is a calm joy that I feel. On the other…
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  • Get on my mailing list for exclusive giveaways and deals

    22 Oct 2014 | 7:21 am
    Since I just switched to Mail Chimp, I wanted to share this - I give away books and offer special deals like this month's buy one get one free offer exclusively to subscribers, so if you like my work, you'll want to sign up. Subscribe to my monthly mailing list for exclusive giveaways, sales and the latest news indicates required Email Address
  • I'm not edible, I'm monogamous

    21 Oct 2014 | 6:06 am
    I just got this email regarding my newsletter, which you can sign up for on the left-hand side of (I am very excited about using MailChimp, which is making me want to send a newsletter every day but I promise to keep it to two a month, max!), and it amused me enough to post it: every time I get your monthly letter I found you more edible. Are you married?I'm not married, although that line between married and unmarried often feels murky. Technically, legally, no, I am not. But as my boyfriend and I attended a wedding this weekend, of course we discussed it. "We're fake…
  • My heart tattoo, almost three years later

    20 Oct 2014 | 8:41 am
    I got this tattoo almost three years ago, in November 2011, two months before the fateful first date that brought me to my current boyfriend. I tell the story behind the tattoo in my Thought Catalog Books ebook Sex & Cupcakes in the essay "Wearing My Tattooed Heart On My Sleeve," the bulk of which I wrote soon afterward. Here's a snippet: I don't hate my heart for failing me, for leading me down so many dead ends, for being too impulsive when she should be cautious, patient, watchful. Well, that's not entirely true; today, while I'm in a good mood, I don't blame my heart. I can forgive her…
  • Fear, writing and doing it anyway with my essay "My Boyfriend's Fat"

    18 Oct 2014 | 6:00 am
    Writing about other people can be such a tricky endeavor; you might think it's old hat to me, but it never is. In my new essay collection Sex & Cupcakes I included an essay that got rejected from Modern Love in The New York Times called "My Boyfriend's Fat." It's one I'm proud of but also have been worried about putting out into the world, precisely because it's both personal and about the most important person in my life. Having been featured as a "character" in short stories, I know that it's probably not a barrel of laughs to be the focal point of a personal essay by your significant…
  • Sex and Cupcakes, my debut essay collection, is out now!

    17 Oct 2014 | 7:53 am
    I'd be lying if I said I wasn't equally nervous and excited about the just-released ebook Sex & Cupcakes: A Collection of Juicy Essays, from Thought Catalog Books. It's out now on Kindle (only $4.99!) and coming soon to iBooks. It features some classic favorite essays and several newer ones that I believe collectively capture a bit of what I'm about, sexually, romantically and otherwise. There's even some writing tips thrown in. Yet now that it's actually for sale, now that I've sent it to several people and used all sorts of qualifiers because I'm so nervous about what they think, I realize…
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    Violet Blue ® :: Open Source Sex

  • Eye Candy: Quickies

    Violet Blue
    20 Oct 2014 | 4:02 pm
    Russian Beauty – Elena Rae, Matt Ice Finally Home – Taylor Whyte, Ryan Driller (image above via) Sounds Of Passion – Karol Lilien, Matt Fit To Fuck – Alaina Kristar, gentleman friend Summer Carter Casts Erika Devine, plus gentleman friend Ivy and Jonny – Fuck me (video; image below via) Alessandra and Athina – Strapless Toy Content copyright © 2013 Violet Blue ® (R) permitted for use on only. This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only and is held within federally registered trademark Violet Blue® (R). The…
  • Sex News: Mechanophilia, Denmark bans bestiality, sperm bank controversy, a life of alien sex

    Violet Blue
    19 Oct 2014 | 6:10 am
    In case you missed it, there is a giant butt plug in Paris that they are pretending is s Christmas tree. It's October — Kiss Hello (@SugarKovalczyk) October 17, 2014 The giant inflatable ‘Christmas tree’ butt plug appears to have been vandalised overnight on Friday, hours after its creator admitted being partly inspired by a joke about an anal sex toy. Its 80ft high presence immediately drew outcry from some residents, who said Paris had been “humiliated” by the installation. Others dismissed the sculpture as a “provocation” and called…
  • [Video] Arca – Thievery by Jesse Kanda

    Violet Blue
    14 Oct 2014 | 2:06 pm
    Venezuelan producer Arca, aka Alejandro Ghersi, has posted the video for “Thievery” – made by the incredibly talented Jesse Kanda. The video features Xen, a digitally-rendered, gender-ambiguous character who Ghersi calls a fictional alter ego, dancing in front of the camera. I found Kanda in this post on Beautiful Decay. ‘Thievery’ is taken from Arca’s forthcoming album ‘Xen’ available November 3rd (4th in US) on Mute. There’s a great interview with Arca in the current issue of Fader, where he talks about his debut album, his own sexuality…
  • Sex News: Jennifer Lawrence, Elijah Wood on Sasha Grey, Pornhub in Times Square, women who rape

    Violet Blue
    10 Oct 2014 | 3:40 pm
    New York’s Times Square has always been an eyegasm of advertising, so the adult website Pornhub’s enormous Times Square billboard featuring the winner of its contest seeking a great non-pornographic ad fit right in. Sadly, the ad was quickly removed. Pornhub Erects Huge Billboard in Times Square After Long Search for a Great Non-Pornographic Ad (Adweek) My first article for Playboy points out that Jennifer Lawrence is the new face of revenge porn, and that suing Google would be the least productive use of the power, influence and money she could bring to actually changing what…
  • Eye Candy: Hardcore quickies

    Violet Blue
    10 Oct 2014 | 3:13 am
    Kacy Lane, Bruce Venture – Sexual Tension Sierra, gentleman friend – Fucking Love Emma, Staci Carr – Between Friends (image above via) Content copyright © 2013 Violet Blue ® (R) permitted for use on only. This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only and is held within federally registered trademark Violet Blue® (R). The use of this feed on any website other than Violet Blue's Tiny Nibbles: Open Source Sex breaches copyright, violates U.S. Federal Trademark law, and the Federal Trademark Dilution Act. If this content is not…
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    Savage Lovecast

  • Savage Love Episode 417

    Dan Savage
    21 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    Delusion and disfunction; this episode has more than it's fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears!  On the sweet, sweet Magnum, Dan chats with sex party luminary Polly Superstar! Also, in a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Jones from the Guttmacher Institute about the much maligned withdrawal method. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting This podcast is brought to you by Click on the…
  • Savage Love Episode 416

    Dan Savage
    14 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    It's the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-songwriter Rachel Lark.    You only live once... 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at…
  • Savage Love Episode 415

    Dan Savage
    7 Oct 2014 | 1:00 am
    A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already?  A very naughty woman is sexting with her ex-boyfriend. AND HE DOESN'T KNOW IT'S HER.  On the Magnum, Dan and comedian Cameron Esposito yak about straight men in lesbian bars, pathetic closet cases, and a woman who is trapped in and oppressed by her given name.    Cameron's got a real pretty voice.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by…
  • Savage Love Episode 414

    Dan Savage
    30 Sep 2014 | 1:00 am
    This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend's heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things.  Also, a very sad call about a woman who can only get off when she watches realistic date rape porn.  On the Magnum, Dan brings on super lawyer Diana Adams to discuss custody battles and whether your open relationship can be held against you in court.  And a lot more.  206-201-2720  This episode is brought to you by Le Tote- the fashion rental service that gives…
  • Savage Love Episode 413

    Dan Savage
    23 Sep 2014 | 1:00 am
    A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting. And THAT AIN'T FAIR!  Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.)  A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff.  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Le Tote- the fashion rental service that gives women access to an infinite closet of…
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    Very Smart Brothas

  • Mo’Ne Davis Is Better At What She Does Than You Are At What You Do, Part 3

    Damon Young
    22 Oct 2014 | 12:23 pm
    Here’s Mo’ne Davis showing that she’s better at pitching than you are at anything. Here’s Mo’ne Davis’s coach explaining why she’s better at what she does than you are at what you do. Here’s Mo’ne Davis’s family explaining why she’s better at what she does than you are at what you do. Here’s Mo’ne Davis holding a framed picture of her Sports Illustrated cover.  This is more awesome than anything you’ve ever done. Here’s a White woman with a serious vocal fry explaining why Mo’ne Davis inspires…
  • Yup, Black Pittsburghers Have A “Pittsburghese” Too

    Damon Young
    22 Oct 2014 | 10:48 am
    I went to college in Buffalo, NY, a city which shares many cultural and aesthetic similarities to Pittsburgh. Well, Pittsburgh in a time warp. It’s a city that’s perhaps 10 or 15 years behind where Pittsburgh currently is, which makes it five years behind Cleveland and 225 years behind D.C. That said, I greatly enjoyed my time there, and I also learned many lessons, including… 1. Toronto is the best city on Earth (There are two types of people in this world: People who believe Toronto is the best city on Earth. And people who are wrong) 2. Dominicans and Puerto Ricans…
  • Master P Didn’t Ruin Hip Hop, Jay-Z Did

    Panama Jackson
    22 Oct 2014 | 8:54 am
    Yeah, I said it. Any discussion about what happened to hip-hop – and by what happened, I mean the apparent downfall of it – usually starts and ends with the South and the rise of one Percy “Master P” Miller and the point when he and his No Limit tank invaded NYC and DJs began playing our alleged southern brand of country-tunes and horrid lyricism. Alleged. While this myopic view clearly feigns convenient amnesia of the contributions of Scarface (a favorite of nearly every rapper), UGK (also a favorite of nearly every rapper), and Outkast (#cmonson), the current state…
  • 10 Things Less Somehow Less Predictable Than Chief Keef Getting Dropped From His Label

    21 Oct 2014 | 2:31 pm
    Chief Keef was recently dropped from Interscope. Here’s a list of things somehow less predictable than that predictable-ass news. 1. The wetness of water 2. Orange juice tasting like a combination of oranges, water, and sugar 3. Pharrell Williams saying something that only makes sense to Jaden Smith and albino carrier pigeons 4. The inherent structural difficulties within and challenges of pimping 5. Gravity 6. The answer for 2 + 2 7. Making a regrettable decision after drinking an entire bottle of MD 20/20 8. Kobe Bryant making angry faces at teammates 9. KFC somehow running out of…
  • A Second-By-Second Breakdown Of President Obama Reminding Us He Can Take Your Girlfriend

    Damon Young
    21 Oct 2014 | 10:34 am
    00:11: The aptly named Mike Jones jokes “Mr. President, don’t touch my girlfriend” — a move that raises two questions: 1. Is there a more appropriate name for a Black man somewhat insecure (jokingly or not) about his romantic status than “Mike Jones“? 2. How awkward would this entire exchange have been if Jones’s girlfriend was White? 00:24: President Obama says “There’s an example of a brother just embarrassing me. Just for no reason whatsoever” which you can totally imagine him saying about Ben Carson. 00:31: Aia Cooper…
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  • Why I'm Soooo Glad I'm Not a Serial Monogamist

    22 Oct 2014 | 6:31 pm
    Spending time alone between relationships is the best way to learn how to be with someone else. Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post:  Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post read more
  • I Volunteered At The Food Pantry For Years, But Now? I Eat There

    22 Oct 2014 | 6:29 pm
    I used to volunteer at the Food Pantry, but now, after years of a bad marriage and the abandonment of a husband, I am the recipient of someone else's volunteer work. And my kids are too. Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post:  Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post read more
  • 5 Celeb Inspired Drink Recipes That'll Spice Up Your Night

    22 Oct 2014 | 2:04 pm
    If you needed one more reason to love the fall season, we've got you covered! Check out Mamrie Hart's hottest drink recipes that are inspired by our favorite celebs. You definitely won't be disappointed! Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post:  Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post read more
  • When Sexy Turns Scary: 10 Things That Spook Guys In Bed

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    22 Oct 2014 | 1:35 pm
    Women aren't the only ones who are capable of being spooked in bed! Men, it seems, have just as many run-ins with some scary situations during the sexy times. Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post:  Suppress Thumbnail from Showing on this post read more
  • Cold Feet? 3 Things To Ask Yourself Before Walking Down The Aisle

    22 Oct 2014 | 11:46 am
    NDN Video ID:  27907324 Everyone has at least a few second thoughts when they're getting married. But figuring out if our cold feet are pre-wedding jitters or something so much more serious is where the real battle begins. After all, it's very easy to get caught up in the hype of the wedding and forget about the marriage that comes after more
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  • How to Create the Perfect Bedroom for Seduction

    22 Oct 2014 | 6:21 am
    Planning the perfect romantic evening in with your lover is all in the details. Creating an environment suitable for seduction and lovemaking isn't difficult, it just takes a little planning. This guide talks you through creating the perfect romantic bedroom in five easy steps. Pictured above: Fashionistas Feather Bunny Tail Small Glass Butt Plug (£49.99) [More]
  • Giant Butt Plug in Paris is a Christmas Tree... Apparently!

    17 Oct 2014 | 10:06 am
    Now, we all love a good giggle, but it seems Paris has ended up being the 'butt' of this joke with their somewhat artistic 2014 Christmas butt plug... err, I mean tree! Funnily enough though, France haven't suddenly decided to announce a love for all things anal, even though it really does looks like it. They've collaborated with American contemporary artist Paul McCarthy (no... not the Beatle. Read it again) to reveal this year's rather eye-catching Christmas tree. Featuring a tapered tip, elongated, bulbous body, and flat flared base... Hang on... Does this remind you of something?
  • Vexed by Vibrators? We Can Help.

    17 Oct 2014 | 5:00 am
    Straight, curved, narrow, wide, shaped like a rubber duck and not shaped like a rubber duck... Let's face it, there are so many different types of vibrators that it can be tough to know where to begin. Luckily, we're experts in vibrators*, and we're here to help. Allow the lovely Lisa to take you through the different features of G-spot vibes, USB rechargeables and more in the video below: *We're also experts in dildos. And butt plugs. But now we're just bragging. Saw a shape that caught your eye? Read on for a full product list. [More]
  • Introducing Lovehoney Lingerie: Discover Sexy Knickers, Stockings and Bodystockings

    15 Oct 2014 | 8:19 am
    After months of planning and preparation, we're thrilled to reveal the debut of Lovehoney lingerie! This collection of sexy bodystockings, alluring knickers and slinky stockings have been designed with comfort and, of course, seduction in mind. Our customers have long been asking for flattering, pocket-friendly lingerie that looks great in the bedroom, and we're proud to deliver exactly this with the exclusive Lovehoney collection. Choose from all-in-one bodystockings and raunchy crotchless knickers in classic black with elegant lace detailing, and don't forget to finish your bedroom look off…
  • Introducing ShareVibe by Fun Factory - The Ultimate in Vibrating Double Dildos

    13 Oct 2014 | 1:15 am
    Introducing ShareVibe, the incredible new couple's toy: it's the ideal lesbian sex toy and also perfect for pegging. Fun Factory are well established as a company that designs and creates superior sex toys from the highest quality materials, and we at Lovehoney are thrilled to have the UK exclusive on this luxurious toy. For sex where both partners enjoy penetration, a double ended dildo or double ended strap-on is a great way to reach a level of intimacy that would otherwise be difficult. The ShareVibe is beautifully flexible and adjusts itself according to the angle you're using it in, so…
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  • What you need to know about Ebola with Dr. Manny

    1 Oct 2014 | 4:28 pm
    Watch the latest video at What is Ebola? How is it Spread? What are Symptoms? How is it Diagnosed? How is it Treated? How can it be Prevented? Read Up Friends!
  • How do I overcome this fear?

    29 May 2014 | 11:43 am
    Hi there…I was in touch with you many years ago and you really helped me. It was 2006 and I had found out that I had HSV2. I found out through a blood test, and have never had any symptoms. … Continue reading →
  • I’d rather have 100 babies

    29 May 2014 | 7:33 am
    Obviously I’m not alone after seeing all of these forums and boards but I still feel that way. I don’t know where or when I got it but this seems to be my first outbreak and I can tell you … Continue reading →
  • Having herpes does not mean your worth is less

    20 May 2014 | 7:50 am
    I read about the herpes whitlow on this site and towards the end it asked for someone’s story or symptoms. I’m now 33 yrs old and I was diagnosed with genital herpes at 19 yrs old. I wish we had had … Continue reading →
  • “Remove my e-mail address”

    13 Mar 2014 | 9:25 am
    I got an e-mail today from someone claiming to be “one with nature” instructing me to remove her e-mail address. Yep, that’s all her note said: “Remove my e-mail address” She thinks I’m a mind-reader. I have no idea what … Continue reading →
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  • are you in need of a loan

    22 Oct 2014 | 11:31 pm
    New Question - Hello,my names are grace anderson I am from california.....things have not been going too well for me...the bank I borrowed money from threatened to take over my house...but then I my friend introduced me to this loan company...I asked for help from them and they really helped me do you have any finiancial problems??

    22 Oct 2014 | 3:00 pm
    New Opinion - Am so happy and want to thank lord Orangan tutu for relocating to the united states and helping me get a spell to get my husband back. don't be decieved by fake spell casters from west africa. Lord orangan tutu is the real deal. a powerful and genuine spell caster that i was introduced to here in texas united states. all i do was send a text to his phone (+1 512 758 4614) and also sent a corresponding email via ( and he got to work and i saw results in less than 4days. Take my testimony and use it to guide yourself in searching for a real and powerful spell…

    22 Oct 2014 | 2:58 pm
    New Question - Am so happy and want to thank lord Orangan tutu for relocating to the united states and helping me get a spell to get my husband back. don't be decieved by fake spell casters from west africa. Lord orangan tutu is the real deal. a powerful and genuine spell caster that i was introduced to here in texas united states. all i do was send a text to his phone (+1 512 758 4614) and also sent a corresponding email via ( and he got to work and i saw results in less than 4days. Take my testimony and use it to guide yourself in searching for a real and powerful…
  • How i won my boyfriend back from my twin sister

    21 Oct 2014 | 9:23 am
    New Answer - Have never believed in the supernatural or talk less of spell or even voodoo.In my head there was nothing on earth that was ever going to get me involved in such thing but life as we know throw s**t at your door and some how the doors opens up and let it strike you.************* About five years ago if anyone had asked me if i trust my twin sister with my life, believe me i would bet my life on it that i can.I couldn't even bring myself to think that my twin sister can put a knife at my back Yes i know everything about our childhood and youth age was always about who is better…

    20 Oct 2014 | 12:43 am
    New Opinion - Have never believed in the supernatural or talk less of spell or even voodoo.In my head there was nothing on earth that was ever going to get me involved in such thing but life as we know throw s**t at your door and some how the doors opens up and let it strike you.************* About five years ago if anyone had asked me if i trust my twin sister with my life, believe me i would bet my life on it that i can.I couldn't even bring myself to think that my twin sister can put a knife at my back Yes i know everything about our childhood and youth age was always about who is better…
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  • Best Sex Writing 2013

    19 Oct 2014 | 7:37 pm
    Best Sex Writing 2013 $13.83 from Amazon I’ve been a fan of the Best Sex Writing series for years, The most recent edition is Best Sex Writing 2013 because it doesn’t come out every year. This one  was edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel with a foreword by Carol Queen, two names you’re probably familiar with if you follow sex education or erotica — or even if you’re just a fan of other Cleis Press publications. This edition offers 20 different stories about the “state of sexual culture.” Each of the pieces is supposed to represent the sex writing about…
  • Svakom Leslie

    17 Oct 2014 | 10:45 pm
    Svakom Leslie $175 from Svakom So let’s talk about the shape. Leslie is a gently curved vibrator that will provide subtle G-spot stimulation. It has no hook a la Ella or Gigi, so you’re not going to get intense stimulation of your G-spot. The silky smooth silicone feels quite nice in my hand. Yet, it’s not the shape or size of this toy that is its main appeal. Leslie is a self-heating vibrator that has the ability to raise temperature on its own and either in combination with or separately from vibrations. A separate button enables you to turn on this function, which in and…
  • Wrapped Around Your Finger

    16 Oct 2014 | 8:55 am
    Wrapped Around Your FingerA Story of Submission $16.95 from Cleis Press I don’t know that I’ve ever reviewed a full-length piece of erotica before. I tend to stick to anthologies, and most of those stories are quite short indeed. I’ve avoided 50 Shades of Grey for reasons of sanity.  I’ve read the first book in the Sleeping Beauty series, but it’s not very long at all. In comparison the approximately 225 pages of Wrapped Around Your Finger seems like a Tolkien tome. However, it’s really not that long. I read this cover to cover in 3 or 4 sittings, and in…
  • Uberkinky Bondage Tape

    15 Oct 2014 | 8:26 am
    UberKinky Bondage Tape $6.36 from Uber Kinky I don’t often talk about my family, but I’d like to start this post with an anecdote. My sister is in her tween years and loves to spend time at my apartment playing video games. I am more than happy to oblige, but if I don’t have notice, I might forget to remove something that she doesn’t need to see. She has now twice discovered Uber Kinky’s bondage tape — which I have in both black and red — and asked what it was for. I had to explain that, no, it wasn’t duct tape. On the second occasion, I hope I…
  • The Wand Down Under

    13 Oct 2014 | 11:13 pm
    Whenever I have to describe the demographic of my blog, I quickly point out that readers come typically from English-speaking countries. Of course, there are plenty of you from the USA and Canada. Hi, folks. I have a number of people who surf in from across the pond. Ello. blokes. And then there are my mates from Australia. I love you all, I do. But shopping for sex toys isn’t a universal experience, this I know. In my podunk town, I have two stores, no matter how terrible it will be. As an American, I can pretty much get anything shipped from anywhere for bottom-dollar prices. I am…
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    Lovepanky | Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships

  • 8 Tips and Tricks to Give Her Oral Sex Like a Pro

    22 Oct 2014 | 2:17 am
    There is no more surefire way to make a woman come than going down on her like a pro. Use these 8 oral sex techniques to get her there every time! By Eli Walton According to most studies, only between 30 and 50 percent of women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Even of those who can, the ones who come consistently through sex might number a small percentage. Chances are, the woman you’re with now, or will be with in the future, will need a little something more. Read on to find out how to give it to her. Oral sex is more than just lip service Some men won’t even give…
  • 10 Big Perks of Having a Guy Best Friend in Your Life

    21 Oct 2014 | 3:42 am
    Are you wary of having a guy best friend? Read these 10 big perks and you’ll see that having a guy best friend can do more good than bad in so many ways! By Michelle Escultura There’s something incredibly relaxing about being friends with a guy you’re not even remotely attracted to. He may be a friend you’ve known since grade school, or just a guy you immediately clicked with. But instead of going down the dating route, you realize that you’re both actually enjoying just being really good friends. Having a guy best friend may be something a lot of people don’t believe in. Tons of…
  • 10 Clear Signs You Need to Back Off When Pursuing a Girl

    20 Oct 2014 | 5:33 am
    So you like a girl and she seems to be leading you on in all the right ways. But do you know when to back off and stop pursuing her? Use these 10 signs! By Danielle Anne Suleik Contrary to modern and popular belief, pursuing a woman hasn’t changed much since the Stone Age. The majority of women – those who are a bit shy and reluctant to make the first move – still want men to pursue them with varying degrees of traditionalism. Knowing when to back off when you pursue a girl The problem with dating these days is that there are so many rituals that people have to go through before…
  • 17 Brilliant Yet Simple Ways To Save Money As A Couple

    19 Oct 2014 | 8:43 am
    Are you looking for smart ways to save money as a couple without compromising on your lifestyle? Try these 17 simple ways, and see the difference! By Lianne Choo With inflation, rising interest rates, stagnant salaries, an increased standard of living and all the other financial unpleasantness in life, it is impossible to not have to put yourself on a budget. Middle class couples all over the world are struggling to find a balance between living a comfortable life and having something left in the bank for a rainy day. The importance of money in our lives Whether you are single, in a…
  • 15 Rules to be a Good Partner in a Relationship

    18 Oct 2014 | 11:52 am
    Your partner may be flawed, but are you truly perfect? Read these 15 rules to know if you’re a good partner before you point out your partner’s flaws. By Emma Spencer It’s easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong, to get annoyed and frustrated by it, but have you ever stopped to think that maybe you aren’t doing everything right either? It’s easy to see flaws in others but is it as easy to see flaws in ourselves? How do you know whether or not you are being a good partner? 15 rules you need to follow to be a good partner If you truly want to be a good boyfriend/girlfriend…
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  • Protected: Personal Gender Praxis

    Tai Quyn Kulystin
    27 Sep 2014 | 10:21 am
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  • Dying, Dying, Dead

    Tai “Scarlet” Kulystin
    26 Sep 2014 | 2:22 am
    I am dying. I am dying. I am dead. Pulling parts of myself away from the tangled mess I have weaved together throughout all these years. Endless pain and discomfort in the name of growth and abundance. What needs to die? What needs to be reborn? Strips of self that I have taken the time to mold out of experiences now need to be carefully separated from the rest of me, the parts that are useful stay, the parts that hold me back must go. Where do I go? My back is hurting from stress, from the weight of the words that need to come out of me, but that I am having a difficult time getting onto the…
  • Stream of Consciousness Life Thoughts

    Tai “Scarlet” Kulystin
    14 Sep 2014 | 10:59 pm
    Instead of attempting to do a catch-up post before I write the “real” post by trying to recap all the things that have happened since the last time so many ages ago that I posted on here, I just need to write. I’ve been doing so much writing the last few years, but so little personal writing. Grad school has sucked up all my writing time and now that I’m writing my thesis I’m going a little bit insane. I am having a difficult time getting words down on the page, however, and I’m hoping that a bit of a free write will assist with that. I’m struggling.
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  • Light at the End of the School Tunnel

    Tai “Scarlet” Kulystin
    23 Feb 2014 | 2:48 am
    For those of you who don’t know, I have been attending Antioch University since the Fall of 2011 working on a self-designed Masters program in Psychology. Last Wednesday, the 12th, I had my Application Project Plan Approval Degree Committee Meeting (yes, apparently the name is that long). I met with the three other people who will be assessing, evaluating, and helping me through the process of my Applied Thesis in my last three quarters at Antioch. My plan for my thesis was approved, which means that today I am submitting the syllabus for the next three quarters of my Application…
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  • A Special TWIB After Dark

    Njaila Rhee
    26 Sep 2014 | 7:27 pm
    This week I had the pleaser of co-hosting TWiB After Dark with the actress and TWIB contributor Pia Glenn!  Let me tell ya’ll about Pia, she’s awesome she is proof that we are all made of stars. ( Of course me and you are made of that trash planet from Transformers the Movie, she is made from a planet that’s all diamonds like that episode of Dr. Who)  She is genetically superior being who is gracing us with the chance to be in her presence. Not only can you be aurally pleasured by Pia’s voice on this week’s After Dark we got to speak to some of the ladies of…
  • Black Women, Sex Work & Stigma #TjhishaAndAngelia

    Njaila Rhee
    24 Sep 2014 | 11:40 am
    When I was interviewed for an article about Black sex workers last week,  it wasn’t the story of an actress and her white boyfriend that was on my mind. It was the murders of AngeliaMangum and TjhishaBall. “the bodies of Angelia Mangum, 19, and Tjhisha Ball, 18 were spotted on the side of a road around 1 a.m. yesterday. The bodies were reportedly bound with zip ties, naked and on top of one another. Read more at EBONY Donate to the families of#TjhishaAndAngelia HERE It wasn’t just the ghastly way they were discovered or the brutal way they were murdered it the reaction of…
  • Sex, Sex Work and the Web #TtW14

    Njaila Rhee
    28 Apr 2014 | 1:13 pm
    I had the distinct honor of being a panelist at this year’s Theorizing the Web conference which too place in Brooklyn NY April 25& 26th. My panel “Sex Work and the Web, was moderated by the amazing Melissa Gira Grant, author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work  . My fellow panelists included Emma Caterine of Red Umbrella Project , adult film actress and writer Stoya,  and CEO and owner of Hookonline Hawk Kinkaid. You can watch the panel here : Our panel dealt with sex workers and clients adapting to new digital technology and the hardships or progress gained by…
  • N’jaila’s Mailbag: Is Porn Sexist?

    Njaila Rhee
    7 Jan 2014 | 8:59 am
    Many moons ago I got an interesting Ask in my tumblr. While this submission wasn’t actually a question so much as a person trying to BLOW MY MIND with their amazing logic. I thought I should share it. “The porn industry is male dominated (made up primarily of male pornographers/film directors/producers/editors/casting directors) and is geared towards a straight male audience. Just because some women and some queer individuals consume pornographic content (much of which is becoming increasingly violent and aggressive, especially towards women) does not make it…
  • Beyoncé Cums Fancy, as Expected.

    Njaila Rhee
    31 Dec 2013 | 12:43 am
    This isn’t another Beyoncé think piece, it’s a thinly veiled excuse to think about expensive things sliding in and out of Beyoncé. Folks are clutching their pearls after married adult Beyoncé allegedly spent over $6,000 USD on Boxing Day at sex shop Babeland New York.  Let me tell you, its REALLY easy to drop term bill or two there. Personally I love Babeland, they’re the only brick and mortar sex shop I recommend in my area, I also know that while welcoming to beginners it’s a candy shop for those of us with genitals that require nothing but the best. As I wrote…
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  • Oh For Gawd’s Sake, Learn How To Properly Blog

    Phone Sex Secrets
    12 Oct 2014 | 5:34 am
    Not to be all bitchy-mcbitch-pants or beat a dead horse or anything, but… I don’t think NiteFlirt (or whoever is in charge of their blog) really understands what they are doing with a blog &/or social media. I mean it is a chronic problem. And it’s starting to work my last nerve. This latest example […]
  • Phone Sex Secrets — Three Years A Superhero?

    Phone Sex Secrets
    4 Oct 2014 | 9:57 pm
    When I started Phone Sex Secrets nearly three years ago, I had no idea how important the site would be — or how busy I would be! In honor of nearly three years, I’ve decided to make the time to take my own advice and brand myself better. Step One: revamped the site — the […]
  • Magic Numbers?

    Phone Sex Secrets
    10 Sep 2014 | 8:13 am
    During yesterday’s consultation, a client asked a common question: Is there a best age for a PSO to be? While platform sites often have a “member since” date showing in your profile (making math possible!), here’s some data on ages men find “attractive”: Charts from OKCupid, showing how straight women and men rate each other […]
  • Phone Sex Operator Advertising Sale

    Phone Sex Secrets
    23 Aug 2014 | 10:16 am
    In order to give you a last chance bump this summer to build your PR etc. for the busy phone sex season ahead, I’ve decided to run a little sale on the Tumblr ads / promotion spaces. Actually, it’s a huge sale in terms of discount; just short in length of time. I suspect I […]
  • What Do I Think Of Phone Sex Platform TalkToMe?

    Phone Sex Secrets
    16 Aug 2014 | 6:32 pm
    I am often solicited to join other phone sex platform sites — if only just to try it out & review them here at Phone Sex Secrets. But why would I create an account, market myself etc., just to get a few callers to review the platform service? That’s a lot of work for a […]
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  • Male Brains Are Wired to Choose Sex Over Food

    Svetlana Ivanova
    21 Oct 2014 | 8:00 am
    Males can suppress their hunger in order to focus on finding a mate, a new scientific study of a species of worm has shown. Male brains are wired to make them ignore food and look for a mate instead, according to new research. The study by the University of Rochester Medical Centre points to how Continue reading →(Visited 7 times, 3 visits today)
  • A Little Rough Sex?

    Svetlana Ivanova
    18 Oct 2014 | 3:00 am
    Sarah Rae Vargas gives tips on how to explore BDSM without doing anything too painful or scary.(Visited 41 times, 2 visits today)
  • 3 Tricks to Get Your Ex Back

    Svetlana Ivanova
    16 Oct 2014 | 2:00 am
    Getting dumped can be devastating. If you want to try to save the relationship, Jennifer Lawless tells you how to go about it. A break-up can cause emotional trauma and distress. Almost everyone has experienced a break-up once in their lives, and most will admit that the experience can be devastating. That’s why so many Continue reading →(Visited 30 times, 2 visits today)
  • The Science of Hook-ups: 5 Shocking Facts About One-Night Stands

    Svetlana Ivanova
    14 Oct 2014 | 2:00 am
    Discover the surprising ways your brain (and a woman’s hips) play a role in casual sex encounters. It’s a familiar scene: a thriving nightlife, a club or maybe a wine bar where glasses are clinking and singles are mingling before drifting off into the shadows — two by two. It’s not the perfect picture of Continue reading →(Visited 62 times, 3 visits today)
  • 8 Signs That Your Partner Might Be Cheating

    Svetlana Ivanova
    11 Oct 2014 | 2:00 am
    Your partner’s sexual behavior could be a tip-off, says Amy Richardson. Do you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful to you? Often, it can be quite difficult to tell if your partner is cheating on you; however, many cheating partners eventually display signs of infidelity, most of which are associated with their behavior. Here Continue reading →(Visited 100 times, 2 visits today)
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  • Not playing the game

    Molly Moore
    22 Oct 2014 | 6:50 am
    I have thought long and hard about writing this post but I have never been one for shying away from tricky subjects and so I decided that not writing it would be taking the chicken way out and that doesn’t sit well with me. So here I am, with a large empty word document, something…
  • Adam’s Apple

    Molly Moore
    18 Oct 2014 | 2:50 pm
    “Woman is at once apple and serpent.” ~ Heinrich Heine Related Posts: Sweet Spring, Cummings Lingering Give me shelter Forget The World The Perfect Girl
  • Elust #63

    Molly Moore
    15 Oct 2014 | 1:29 pm
    Photo courtesy of A to sub Bee Welcome to Elust #63 - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #64? Start…
  • No thanks to you…

    Molly Moore
    14 Oct 2014 | 2:41 am
    This weeks Wicked Wednesday prompt is: “Can you make bad sex erotic? Can you write about someone having bad sex (the reader being able to tell the sex is bad) yet make it sound alluring?” I am not sure if I have achieved this or not, you shall have to be the judge of that…
  • Sporting Wood

    Molly Moore
    13 Oct 2014 | 4:31 am
    I am pretty sure everyone is now fully aware of how much I love glass dildos but what about wooden ones? So far my experience with them has been one of disappointment, the varnish never lasts and they very quickly become dull and even start to show cracks and breaks in the surface that mean…
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  • I Heart Boobies! Keep a Breast Fundraiser

    Ms. Justine
    10 Oct 2014 | 3:17 am
    Hello subs, slaves, kinksters and supersexyshiny people! Last year, I tried to raise $1000 in a month through Keep a Breast fundraiser. Thanks to the generosity of my clients, slaves and friends, I raised $750. My goal was $1000. This month I am trying to raise $1250. Please go to my Keep a Breast donation page. This is a terrible disease that took the life of both my mother and best friend–they both died way too early. I dedicate this fundraising to them and hope to raise money to help others. So please donate because Mistress says so! As I did last year, I am also running some…
  • Visiting Philadelphia Oct. 12-14 and NYC Oct. 15-18

    Ms. Justine
    6 Oct 2014 | 9:43 am
    No matter the city, no matter the dungeon–you will always be expected to OBEY. It’s been too long since the last time that I visited the East Coast so don’t miss me this time. I am also traveling with Mistress Natalie West. Mistress Natalie West and I specialize in lesbian cuckolding scenes. You can read more about our sessions, reviews and lesbian cuckolding here. Some of my favorite sessions with her involved tying up a slave to our four poster bed at Dungeon West and taking turns single tailing him and making out–we had a pretty epic double overnight session the…
  • Copycat Ads on Backpage again

    Ms. Justine
    28 Sep 2014 | 7:24 am
    ***Update: As of now, the copycat ad is down. Unfortunately, the person who stole my photos and copy has done it to other people as well. I hope the individual was banned from Backpage. Thank you to my loyal clients and fellow Dommes who spotted it and reported it.*** Someone else has stolen my photos and ad copy on Backpage AGAIN. Here is a link to the original ad: BOW DOWN EXPIRENCE TRUE DOMINATION. Professional Expirenced Dominatrix avaliable latenights – 27 Here is the ad text that she has copied from me: You deserve an experience like Me. Tell me your fantasies, relax and I’m…
  • The Naughty Show: Slave Jack of All Trades

    Ms. Justine
    23 Sep 2014 | 9:01 am
    What a little show stealer! Considering slave jack was the reason we were late to a live show, he certainly got his 15 minutes of fame on the Naughty Show Big Jay Oakerson joins Sam Tripoli, Gareth & Vicky at Playboy Studios for this very special episode featuring Dominatrix Justine Cross & Slave Jack! Big Jay talks about being a driver/security guard for an escort service in Philly. Justine tells us about her experiences as a Dominatrix and Mistress, and her LA location Dungeon West. Slave Jack lets us examine his chastity belt, gets whipped, and picks up web work. Literally slip…
  • Los Angeles Footnight September 18

    Ms. Justine
    16 Sep 2014 | 4:45 am
    I will be at” target=”_blank”>Los Angeles Footnight on September 18th! It is the 12th Anniversary Party. I will also be attending with Mistress Natalie West, if you can handle a double. I am always perfectly poised and pedicured. I particularly love have my feet sucked, kissed and massaged. Of course, I also enjoy trampling sessions as well! Work yourself up and check out more photos in my Foot Fetish Gallery. Can’t come to Los Angeles Footnight? Contact me for a private foot fetish session at Dungeon West instead. If you can’t…
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  • Elust #63

    15 Oct 2014 | 1:27 pm
    Photo courtesy of A to sub Bee Welcome to Elust #63 - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #64? Start with the rules, come back November1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ I am Sexy at Every Size Censored? Never By My Hand #DarkErotica #BDSM Hovering ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Show Me, Daddy The…
  • Elust #63 Open for Submissions

    2 Oct 2014 | 4:12 pm
    Elust #63 Open for Submissions Welcome to the October Edition of Elust. We do apologize for the delay in having Elust open but our hosting company was subjected to a DDOS attack that could have been stopped by paying ransom. While we are very pleased that they decided not to pay and work out another solution the result was that we have been down until just a few hours ago, since it has been a two day delay we have decided to extend the submission deadline until the 10th. We have added a Category Guide page to help you select the proper place for your submission. If you have any suggestions on…
  • Elust #62

    16 Sep 2014 | 4:19 am
    Photo courtesy of Bawdy Bloke Welcome to Elust #62 - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #63? Start with the rules, come back October1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Sex Blogger Life: Real Talk Selfies, Shame and Safety ‘Dress me like a slut and punish my cock’ ~ Featured Post (Molly’s…
  • Elust #62 Open for Submissions

    1 Sep 2014 | 1:43 pm
    Elust #62 Open for Submissions Welcome to the September Edition of Elust. The kids are back to school and the leaves are starting to turn, now it’s time for you to turn us on with your latest writing. We have added a Category Guide page to help you select the proper place for your submission. If you have any suggestions on how we can improve Elust please feel free to drop us a line.   Don’t forget to visit SexBytes to add and vote on your favorite for Readers Choice this month. Stop by the Submission Page and show us what you’ve got. If you are new to Elust be sure to…
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    Hey Epiphora

  • 6-year blogiversary giveaway — 37 sex toy prizes!

    21 Oct 2014 | 3:02 pm
    October is the month when the leaves start turning, my sweaters finally get put to good use, and I celebrate that one time 6 years ago I thought it might be fun to start a blog. As has become tradition, I launch an epic blogiversary giveaway each October. Each year I have outdone myself, and last year I gave away 18 prizes. Naturally, this year, I’m giving away 37… 52 if you count all the bottles of lube. Because that’s not setting myself up for failure next year or anything. So quoth my friend, “one of these days you’ll just give away a whole store.”…
  • An abridged guide to decoding horseshit articles about the G-spot’s existence

    11 Oct 2014 | 12:23 pm
    Less than a month ago we were attacked by headlines screaming that the G-spot doesn’t exist, and here we are again, with yet another news source “reporting” (I use that word quite loosely) on yet another “study” “proving” that the G-spot is a “myth” and EVERYONE CALM DOWN AND TOUCH YOUR CLITORIS. It’s not the first, and it will never be the last, but it’s the one that broke me. My soul has been cracking, little by little, each time this happens. Like that time a sex educator drew a question mark on an anatomy chart in place…
  • Review: Lovelife Adventure, Smile, Discover, and Cuddle

    30 Sep 2014 | 12:17 pm
    OhMiBod is commonly known as the sex toy company that makes music- and app-responsive vibrators, but their Lovelife line is a departure, and a valiant effort. It’s a line of less expensive rechargeable toys that do not care whether you’re blasting Meatloaf. Usually, for a rechargeable vibrator, you’ll spend at least $90, and up to $200 depending on size, functionality, and arrogance of the brand. In the Lovelife line, you can get a rechargeable vibe for as low as $59. Which is not to say that you should — each toy falls in a very different place on the scale of…
  • Review: G-Vibe

    22 Sep 2014 | 4:35 pm
    There are some failtastic sex toys that I keep around simply so I can lug them out in the future and confirm my previous findings. But in the case of the disastrous Split Dildo, I gave it away long ago and never looked back. Until, apparently, the Fun Toys G-Vibe. Different company, same exact shape. I had to laugh when I read the “about us” page on Fun Toys’ website, which is the typical origin story of any ~revolutionary~ (not at all) sex toy. It follows the usual formula: Twee intro about huck-a-huck life, slathered with no understanding or knowledge of the sex (toy)…
  • The great Mona summer party winners

    9 Sep 2014 | 11:08 am
    It wouldn’t be enough to call my great Mona summer party giveaway a success. Over 1,000 humans entered via the widget, with even more reblogging, posting in the comments section, and joining the Twitter party, for well over 10,000 individual entries. This giveaway was a whirlwind — and rightfully so. I asked for the unthinkable: to give away 10 of my favorite vibrator, the LELO Mona 2, open to international readers. Generously, LELO said yes. Then it got better. When the giveaway wrapped, I found myself at an impasse trying to choose just one winner for “best artistic…
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  • sex hangover

    19 Oct 2014 | 11:30 am
     Possible Symptoms:Tired, aching limbsScratch marks down the chest and backMultiple bite marks on the shoulders and neckHoarse voiceStinging scalp, particularly at the roots of the hairFatigued tongue musclesWrinkled fingertipsTenderness in the genital areaMissing clothing or jewelry items or footwearA deep-seated feeling of peace and that all is well with the world
  • censorship, daddies, and bipolar sex: october- e[lust] 63

    16 Oct 2014 | 10:03 am
    Photo courtesy of A to sub Bee Welcome to Elust #63 - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #64? Start with the rules, come back November1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ I am Sexy at Every Size Censored? Never By My Hand #DarkErotica #BDSM Hovering ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Show Me, DaddyThe…
  • the racism of motherhood

    11 Oct 2014 | 1:18 pm
    or The Last Socially-Acceptable EvilMothers are racists.Becoming a mother automatically turns perfectly fair, tolerant citizens into racists.Having a child that was once a part of you seems to have the instant side effect of making you a complete bigot toward all other races besides your own bloodline. From that moment on, any creature that is not direct flesh and blood to you is seen as inferior and inconsequential.Great mothers are usually terrible human beings, and terrible mothers are great human beings.Think of it this way: if you would be willing to torture and kill every other man,…
  • penetrational dysfunction

    5 Oct 2014 | 11:36 am
    or The Woman’s EDIf occasional erectile dysfunction may affect 1 in 4 (young) men and even more older men, then occasional penetrational dysfunction almost definitely affects 99% of women.Penetrational dysfunction is when the vagina is not sufficiently lubricated to accommodate intercourse. Name sound unfamiliar? That’s because not being aroused enough is a very real yet usually very solvable sexual dysfunction in women, similar to erectile dysfunction in men, that until now has never been given a proper name.Both erectile and penetrational dysfunctions are mental. There is…
  • afterglow

    28 Sep 2014 | 12:27 pm
    #2: – Replica SeriesPreviously – #1 The Promise I learned to draw at 14 by using colored pencils to replicate the work of famous artists that I admired. This series is called Replicas, and it will be all about my early attempts.Original by Lee Bogle.
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    Home for Wayward Sluts

  • The Mysterious Disappearance of Bettie Page

    21 Oct 2014 | 6:17 pm
    [Continued from Bettie Page: Bondage Queen]Bettie Page began modelling at the age of 27. She hit her stride and became the Queen of Pinups and a Bondage Queen by the age of 32. But buy now Bettie had been harassed by the law and seen her good friend Irvin Claw ruined by draconian law enforcement. She also realized that she was 34 and wanted to leave the pin up world at her peak so the whole world would remember her in her prime. And so...she just disappeared. She left New York City and left only mystery in the wake of her peak."I would like people to remember me how I was in the…
  • Bettie Page: Bondage Queen

    20 Oct 2014 | 6:05 pm
    [Continued from Bettie Page and Religion]Bettie Page: Bondage QueenBettie Page was becoming one of the most sought after pin up models of the 1950. Her innovations in 'sexy clothing' including basically inventing the modern bikini as well as posing nude and, of course, posing in the revolutionary magazine of the day: Playboy, secured her place in the hearts of red blooded American men.  So where could she take her career to make herself into an icon remembered and adored 60+ years afterwards? Bondage. This media savvy minx knew what really gets our hearts pumping and praise Allah,…
  • Bettie Page and Religion

    5 Oct 2014 | 6:47 pm
    [Continued from Earlier]Now one thing you probably didn't know and/or expect is America's favorite pinup model was also deeply religious and devoted to God.During one wrestling movie shoot, Bettie Page heard a crack. "I couldn't straighten my right knee at all. Finally I called the doctor. He said, 'there will be a 6-inch scar.' He said, 'You won't be able to do you your pin up modelling any more.'   I was lying in bed feeling unhappy because I wouldn't be able to do my modelling any more...when all of a sudden I heard a man's voice, just as loud and clear...he said, 'Bettie, you can…
  • Bettie Page, Bunny Yeager and Playboy

    28 Sep 2014 | 12:38 pm
    [Continued from Bettie Page Poses Nude]Page and Bunny YeagerWhen Bunny Yeager approached Bettie Page about doing swimsuit modelling, Bettie said, "I also do nudes." Well Bunny was intrigued. She'd never worked with a professional nude model before. The two hit it off like wildfire. Bettie got exactly what Bunny was going for and she also felt very comfortable shooting with Bunny because they were both females.  They went on to create some of the most iconic photos ever taken of Bettie Page.Bettie Page and Bunny YeagerBettie Page did lie to Bunny about her age however. Bettie claimed to…
  • Is it Safe to Drink Female Ejaculate?

    16 Sep 2014 | 7:45 pm
    I received a private email asking the question of, 'Is it safe to drink female ejaculate.'  This is an interesting question and frankly I am somewhat surprised that people are worrying about this. So this article is to put all of your worries at ease. Female ejaculate is one of the safest fluids produced by the human body. It is produced primarily in the Skene's glands and contains no bacteria in it's usual form. It is naturally virus free although it is possible for it to pick up viruses from the the vagina as it passes out of the body. That said, the mouth is on of the fastest healing…
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    Emancipating Sexuality

  • Watch the Video: How I masturbated in public and became a teacher of Sexual Liberation

    Pavini Moray
    14 Oct 2014 | 10:03 am
    Here’s the video of my Mystery Box Story!  Enjoy!  Filed under: Blog Posts, Erotic Practice, Masturbation, Reclaiming Sexuality, Resistance, Sexual Liberation Tagged: masturbate, masturbation ritual, mystery box, sexual liberation
  • How I masturbated in public and became a teacher of Sexual Liberation: PART ONE

    Pavini Moray
    13 Oct 2014 | 12:53 pm
    My job is walking with my clients on their path to sexual liberation.   I meet my clients where they are in terms of their sexuality, and together we discover the blocks, traumas, and limiting beliefs that stand between them and the deeper erotic life that is possible for them.   It’s a process.  Along the way, there […]
  • La Pocha Nostra Performance

    Pavini Moray
    9 Sep 2014 | 11:29 am
    NEW BARBARIANS 3.0:  A Pocha Nostra X-treme Fashion Show & Photo-performance karaokeSaturday, September 13th  7:00 PM. On Saturday, September 13th, I will be performing in this. La Pocha Nostra’s two-week residency at Fort Mason ends with an exciting evening public performance in two-parts. Part one will include a live “photo karaoke” session in collaboration with […]
  • Free Your Sex! Your Toolkit for Erotic Liberation

    Pavini Moray
    6 Aug 2014 | 2:19 pm
    With great pleasure that I announce: My new 40-page ebook called “Free Your Sex! Your Toolkit for Erotic Liberation” is now available for free download!    This book contains 16 of the best tools I know to help you deepen into pleasure, and get the intimacy and transformation you need in your sexuality.   I hope you […]
  • Erotic Experiment Update #3: Somatic Erotic Learning and the Queer Oil Action

    Pavini Moray
    14 Jul 2014 | 1:51 pm
    Filed under: Blog Posts, Desire, Erotic Energy, Erotic Practice, Intimacy, pleasure, Reclaiming Sexuality, Sexual Liberation, Sexuality Education Tagged: erotic, oil action, Queer, somatic learning
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  • The Best Sex Toys for Couples

    Anida Leeds
    21 Oct 2014 | 10:30 am
    Cutting edge vibrators are all the craze these days. Why keep all the fun to yourself? Here's how to play together with the best sex toys for couples. "Not only do women who use toys report a host of pleasure perks, but guys say vibes increase sexual desire, erectile and orgasmic function, and intercourse satisfaction," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a Women's Health Magazine sexuality advisor. This increase pleasure has made his-and-her vibrators the hottest trend in sexy accessories. Ready to move beyond the rabbit vibrator? These new options are fun to enjoy solo but were created…
  • Six FREE guides for better sex, by Doc Johnson

    Anida Leeds
    6 Oct 2014 | 11:00 am
    An informed shopper is a happy customer. We are pleased to offer Six Free Guides for your reading enjoyment. These helpful pamphlets will help you make an informed shopping decision for your adult toys, by one of the best companies in the industry, Doc Johnson. Oral Sex Guide Good-Head for Him and Ora-love for Her, The Oral Sex Guide provides tips, tricks, and product picks for satisfying your lover into absolute gratification! Complete with diagrams of the female & male anatomy 'down there', with pleasure points for hitting the spot right for a night filled with oral delight! Click to…
  • Sexual Education - 3 Steps to Sexual Success

    Anida Leeds
    25 Aug 2014 | 12:17 pm
    Summer is coming to an end and you need that last bit of advice before the crazy daze of college are here. We put together 3 steps to help fulfill your sexual desire. Follow these steps and you are sure to succeed. Step 1 - About Penis Size It’s a common misconception, and widely held fear, that large penises rule the world of sexual happiness. In the reality of biology, 90% of erect penises measure 5-7 inches in length, and 1-2 inches in diameter. If you're concerned that your penis is too small, you can rest assured that you are in good company. In a land led by Texans, our media and…
  • 10 Life Hacks for Better Sex

    Anida Leeds
    11 Aug 2014 | 11:57 am
    Life hacks are everywhere. There are hacks on folding your shirts, hanging up dry clothes, etc. Those are all fine and dandy but the life hacks I enjoy are the sexual life hacks. Bellow are 10 to get you started, have your own? Let us know in the comments bellow. 1. Headphones and blindfold during oral sex. - Before going down, put on some music and put the headphones on her. Blindfold her or cover her eyes with a towel. Try turning off all the lights if its dark and keep the music going. The sensory deprivation magnifies the sensations she feels as you pleasure her. 2. It’s all about the…
  • Want Your Own Red Room of Pain?

    Anida Leeds
    28 Jul 2014 | 8:51 am
    The clock is ticking and this Valentines Day the 50 Shades of Grey movie will be released. Will you be ready? Restraints... Check! Nipple Clamps... Check! Pleasure Balls... Check! Leather... Check! Even if you haven't read the books yet we got you covered. Do you want to have your own red room just like Christian has? Here are some of the items you need to get that started. Delicious Pleasure Silicone Pleasure BallsToning and pleasuring your body in unison, these official Fifty Shades of Grey silver balls wriggle and jiggle inside you. Massaging your G-spot with expert skill, Delicious…
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    The Love Hawk

  • When Things Go Awry, Don’t Go Away

    19 Oct 2014 | 7:01 pm
    Writing, at first glance, seems pretty easy but in reality it takes time, thought, and a decent amount of guts. Putting yourself out there to be judged by people you know and strangers alike can be a daunting experience, and often times it takes courage and a few deep breaths to post an article you know may ruffle some feathers. My life has taken many drastic turns in the past few months and while I always thought writing was my outlet I actually found myself shying away from it. I had so many thoughts but none that I could articulate and when I was finally able to put words on paper, my…
  • Grow Some What!!?

    19 Oct 2014 | 6:04 pm
    Not happy in your relationship anymore? Grow some balls and get out. Listen to The Love Hawk’s advice on “Lifestyles with Sue” on 1045 Fresh FM. Hopefully this can give you or someone you know a push in the right direction. Listen Now:
  • Do You Got Game?

    19 Oct 2014 | 5:56 pm
    The Love Hawk is proud to be part of ‘Lifestyles with Sue’ on 1045 Fresh FM! Sometimes you just need a bit of confidence to be successful in the dating world. Do you got game? Listen Now:
  • Don’t Let Things Get Stale

    19 Oct 2014 | 5:38 pm
    The Love Hawk is excited to be part of a new Relationship Segment for ‘Lifestyles with Sue’ on 1045 Fresh FM! Take a listen to the first one now and find out how to get that spark back into your relationship and make sure to check back every Thursday morning for more advice:
  • Real Love Never Ends

    8 Jul 2014 | 1:28 pm
    I’m convinced that most people in the world have never experienced true love. I am certain that many people are very well loved and care deeply for those in their lives but what I’m talking about is that soul mate kind of stuff. That fire. That passion. That moment when you look at someone and you are positive your heart will absolutely burst. I don’t mean the love that parents have for children or best friends have together or even the love you have for your pets. This is the feeling between two people that gives both of them butterflies and makes them goofy smile like children. They…
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    The Daily Flogger

  • Dominant Man Marries Slave; Changes Everything

    Lazlo Toth
    22 Oct 2014 | 7:12 am
    DAVIDSON, NORTH CAROLINA After eight years as a happy Master/slave couple, Mary and Mark Jones decided to “tie the knot” and make their relationship official. “It was time,” said Mary Jones. “I’d been serving him for all this time and we were very happy in our relationship, so why not make it official in the eyes of the state and everyone else? I mean, what was he afraid of all that time?” The transition from “slave” to “wife” was dramatic and immediate according to Mark Jones. “It was almost overnight. Up to the wedding,…
  • New Study: Only 12% Use Term “Collar” Correctly

    Jane Jameson
    21 Oct 2014 | 7:07 am
    NEW BRUNSWICK, IDAHO Research from Chickasaw Community College has found that only 12% of those using the term “collar” in the BDSM community are doing so correctly. According to Dr. Martin Groobnick, lead research on the project, the project team was surprised to find that only 8% of the study’s population used the term in a way they considered “wrong,” a finding completely eclipsed by the 47% who were really wrong and the 23% who were “clueless.” For Groobnick, one of the most surprising findings was the group who were saying things either so stupid…
  • GM Consults with Bondage Expert on New Seatbelt System

    Karyn Paine
    20 Oct 2014 | 7:48 am
    DEARBORN, MICHIGAN Consultants with the GM Safety Group have begun consulting an unusual source for safety innovation–the local bondage community. “They have a history of restraining people safely and effectively,” Dr. Martin Gruber, head safety designer for GM, told The Daily Flogger. While many of the ideas seemed unconventional at first, putting passengers in strict bondage, coupled with seat belt technology, increased safety by a factor of 10. “It is hard to argue with results,” said Nathan Meggerson, safety expert for Car & Driver magazine. “They…
  • Dominant Man Diagnosed with “Flogger Envy”

    Lazlo Toth
    19 Oct 2014 | 7:06 am
    BAJA, CALIFORNIA Master Yanni Fangoss, 47, appears to be the first male dominant to be diagnosed with a case of “Flogger Envy” a brand new condition added to the latest edition of the DSM, which categorizes various mental health conditions. According to Fangoss, his “obsession with other people’s toy bags and his constant need to compare his equipment to that of other dominant men” has been interfering with his work, life, and social relationships. The treatment, according to psychologist Helen B. Schmidt, is a combination of talk therapy as well as CBT.
  • BDSM Woman tells Harrowing Tale of “Life in a Cage”

    Annie Cumswallow
    18 Oct 2014 | 7:06 am
    WHEELING, WEST VIRGINIA Reports surfaced today after a 28 year old submissive woman complained about having to spend the night in a cage. According to her master and owner Fredrick Chomp, 48, the younger submissive, Alice Stren, had been “behaving badly, acting out, and forgetting her place.” The result was confinement in a large, steel cage for a period of more than 8 hours. “It was awful,” said Stren, “the bars were cold and I couldn’t really move around and stuff, plus there was no way to pee.” Robert Stringer, a volunteer worker who claims to…
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    Sex, Science & Nature

  • How To Teach Teenaged Girls About Masturbation

    Dr. Joanna Ellington
    21 Oct 2014 | 7:14 am
    Why should parents teach teen girls about masturbation? Girls who don’t learn about their sexuality early in adolescence are more likely to confuse their own emotional need for intimacy with their physical sexual feelings of desire. The post How To Teach Teenaged Girls About Masturbation appeared first on Sex, Science & Nature.
  • Why Does Gay Porn Turn Women On?

    Dr. Joanna Ellington
    15 Oct 2014 | 6:45 am
    People watch pornography to feel sexual desire and arousal. The sensation of sexual desire (being turned on) is more highly rated and sought after in studies than the actual physical experiences during sex, for both men and women. We love to feel horny! But what makes men and women feel turned on differs. The post Why Does Gay Porn Turn Women On? appeared first on Sex, Science & Nature.
  • The Sketch Seen ‘Round the World

    Dr. Joanna Ellington
    10 Oct 2014 | 9:15 am
    The actual size and shape of the human clitoris burst onto cultural consciousness this week! I am celebrating the week that the true anatomy of the woman's sexual pleasure organ made mainstream news and culture! Female orgasm is possible in ALL reproductive aged women because we all have this large erectile clitoral organ. The post The Sketch Seen ‘Round the World appeared first on Sex, Science & Nature.
  • Conceiving Pre-Seed, the World’s first fertility lubricant

    Dr. Joanna Ellington
    9 Oct 2014 | 6:22 am
    Twenty years ago this month I made a serendipitous discovery that would change the world of personal lubricants! Finding the sugar that protected sperm, later used in Pre-Seed, was my “discovery of a lifetime.” The post Conceiving Pre-Seed, the World’s first fertility lubricant appeared first on Sex, Science & Nature.
  • My Miscarriage: What I Know and What I Don’t

    Dr. Joanna Ellington
    7 Oct 2014 | 10:29 am
    Women never forget a miscarried child. Even now 18 years later I wonder how life might have been different if my little girl “Vayle” had survived beyond the 16 weeks we traveled together. For me personally, I was stunned at how hard my miscarriage hit me when it happened. The newest medical data would have helped put my mind at ease. The post My Miscarriage: What I Know and What I Don’t appeared first on Sex, Science & Nature.
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    Nighttime Adventures

  • First Fuck, Then Date – A Recipe for Success (I)

    21 Oct 2014 | 8:23 am
    I have to admit I was a bit surprised when Greg called. It had been a week since our (ahem) meeting, so I had already lost hope. But he had a very good reason, work-related, so I didn’t hold it against him. He suggested we meet for drinks in a bar, then had to a restaurant he loved a lot (Indian food). To be perfectly honest, I was hoping for this date to be a complete fail. I wanted to believe there was nothing there besides great sex. Of course, karma hates me and the guy is absolutely charming. His line of work is fascinating, he is a well-read, perfect gentleman and a sight for sore…
  • Hands Only, Please (II)

    13 Oct 2014 | 6:22 am
    [Part 1 here] His apartment was definitely the coldest home I had ever stepped into. Everything was black & white and there was a lot of glass. However, his living room suddenly seemed warmer to me when I noticed the huge piano. That’s when it all started to make sense to me. He wasn’t just a neophyte, a snobbish guy who bought a piano just to make his home look fancier. He told me he was a concert pianist for the city’s philharmonic orchestra. Hence, his skilled hands, of course. He was a man of few words, so we got down to business quite fast. He told me he had always…
  • Hands Only, Please! (I)

    6 Oct 2014 | 1:19 pm
    In my last post, I spoke about being on the wonderful subreddit called “Dirty PenPals“. The chats I had there with random people from all over the world made me want to explore even more kinks. I’m not talking about hardcore fetishes (well, not only), but also about things that are out of the ordinary. And, since the best things come to those who wait, I recently had a very pleasant surprise. Yours truly was at a bar, not necessarily looking for sex, but rather keen on observing people. Some sort of real life DPP. Just like every good story, this one also starts when a girl…
  • Sexual (n)Etiquette

    1 Oct 2014 | 3:23 am
    This post is long overdue, but, hey, better late than never. In fact, it was prompted by some people’s comments on this blog and by my activity in a wonderful subreddit called DirtyPenPals. In a nutshell, it’s a place for people to share their fantasies and role play them with other redditors. I’ve been using this subreddit for several months now. Of course, there have been good times and bad times, I’ve met wonderful people with delightful, sick fantasies, as well as scums. I know I can’t ask too much from strangers looking for a quick fix on the Internet, but I…
  • To Fuck Or To Date (II)

    29 Sep 2014 | 8:30 am
    [Part 1 here] From the moment I saw Dan looking at the feast I had prepared, I know this was one terrible mistake. Of course, he enjoyed it and he said that he couldn’t believe I was capable of doing that. Then he started talking about my sexually free spirit. He put the two together and concluded I was amazing. I could see he wanted to say “perfect” initially, but decided to tone it down a bit. Not enough, by my standards. It was just like being in a frickin’ relationship. We finished the meal, then he needed some downtime. I’m sure that, had I owned a TV, he…
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  • The Warehouse

    Sin Doll
    22 Oct 2014 | 5:27 pm
    She was barefoot. The busty brunette thrashed at her handlers. Her sandals flew off her feet when she kicked. She was through the back of a strip-mall office and into an empty warehouse. They pushed her against a dark, dusty van and frisked her thoroughly. A man’s hands wove around her. They dove beneath her [...] The post The Warehouse appeared first on The Sin Doll. Related posts: Instincts
  • T.M.I. Tuesday – What’s in Your Car?

    Sin Doll
    21 Oct 2014 | 9:10 am
    TMI Tuesday: Oct. 21, 2014 Posted on October 20, 2014by TMI Tuesday blog What’s In Your Car? Answer these questions as they pertain to your personal mode of transportation. 1. What CD is in your Cd player? I don’t usually listen to my CD player. Most of the time I bluetooth music from my phone through [...] The post T.M.I. Tuesday – What’s in Your Car? appeared first on The Sin Doll. Related posts: Try again?
  • Daddy’s Little Liar

    Sin Doll
    20 Oct 2014 | 2:24 pm
    “So we got money comin’ in from that thing in Philly. We’re in our room, the four of us. It was me, Tony, Big Tony, and Rocka’.” “Rocker? What kind of name is that?” Summer giggled, innocent little whore she was supposed to be. “Ehhh… We call ‘em Rocka’ on account of how he rocks [...] The post Daddy’s Little Liar appeared first on The Sin Doll. Related posts: Daddy’s Training
  • Panty Dropper

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    19 Oct 2014 | 11:15 am
      Click the Kiss to see who else is being sinful this Sunday. The post Panty Dropper appeared first on The Sin Doll. Related posts: Frenzy Roll Over
  • e[lust] #63

    Sin Doll
    16 Oct 2014 | 8:52 pm
    Photo courtesy of A to sub Bee Welcome to Elust #63 - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #64? Start [...] The post e[lust] #63 appeared first on The Sin Doll. Related posts: e[lust] #62 e[lust] #42 e[lust] #47
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  • Presenting Maje Doll @pot_ledomaje (Slim Thick) images by @JustinDeanPhoto

    Words by Henny
    22 Oct 2014 | 8:27 pm
    Residing out the DMV area checkout model Maje Doll courtesy of Justin Dean Photography “Slim Thick” young thang… She’s recently been published in iDymes, Well Konnected, Succoso and others. Measurements: 32G – 26 – 36 Instagram: @pot_ledomaje Booking: Other Credits Photographer: Justin E. Dean Instagram: @JustinDeanPhotos MUA: @RieiCosmetics Hair Stylist: @DyannaDerecho
  • Sasha Del Valle – The Gallery

    Words by Henny
    22 Oct 2014 | 7:14 pm
    Sasha Del Valle Instagram: @sashadelvalle Twitter: @sashadelvalle Sasha Del Valle is a a Puerto Rican multi-talented actress and model. She resides out of Passaic, NJ Sasha is best knwon for her countless images featured on numerous websites and has been featured in several magazine including XXL, King, Blackmen and many more. You seen her featured in a film as 50 Cent’s leading girl in Before I Self Destruct.
  • Presenting Model CeCee Hartfield @qt_cb images by @b_classic_ent B. Classic Photography

    Words by Henny
    22 Oct 2014 | 7:45 am
    Here’s some edits of aspiring talent CeCee Hartfield residing out of Washington D.C. looking sexy on the sexy. These is smooth, shouts to B. Classic Photography for the submission. Follow CeCee on instagram @Qt_cb
  • Laura Dore, Model Bubbles and Cat Washington Midterms – Back to School images by Jose Guerra

    Words by Henny
    22 Oct 2014 | 7:26 am
    I hope these lovely models Cat Washington, Laura Dore and Bubbles has kept you motivated during your mid seme all should be getting A’s!! images by Jose Guerra presented by
  • CoCo Francesca @Coco_Francesca in show Magazine Black Lingerie Issue #20

    Words by Henny
    20 Oct 2014 | 9:08 pm
    COCO PHOTOS BY: Sean Cummings, @SHOWMAGIG STYLIST: Karina Guerrero, @karilexa MAKEUP ARTIST: Seqoiya, @Pureglam0ur HAIR STYLIST: Kiafa Renee, @WeaveBarnNYC BOOKING Visit: for exclusive images and video from this issue. Hi my name is Coco Francesca Im 22 years old, my ethnicity is African American, Cuban, and Italian. My measurements consist of a beautiful natural 32C-24-42 and I am from Connecticut. This is my first appearance in SHOW magazine and Im super excited because since the beginning being seen in SHOW Magazine has been one…
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