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• 3 Sex Positions Guaranteed To Make A Woman Orgasm!

  Ask Dan and Jennifer

  Shawna Lenee

  15 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  Sex positions can help you improve your game and make your partner orgasm – if you choose the right ones. Here are three that will leave her gasping for breath! These three positions that drive me and most women CRAZY. These positions are a sure fire way to bring your girl to some of the loudest, most intense orgasms of her life. Most guys, in their struggle to please women never understand the SPOTS that actually trigger climaxes so they flail around uselessly trying weird sex positions that don’t work. The Real “Orgasm Zone” Of A Woman – And Why Traditional Sex…

• The 6 Most Underrated Erogenous Zones

  The Latest Content from Kinkly.com

  15 May 2013 | 11:00 pm

  Want to bust out of that sexual rut? Here's our guide to the body’s most underrated erogenous zones.

• How to Flip a Woman Over for Doggy Style

  Sex Secrets

  Svetlana Ivanova

  2 May 2013 | 5:00 am

  Kat George offers eight (much-needed) tips on how to flip a woman over for doggy style without ruining the moment. I’m not sure if guys know this or not, but flipping a girl over mid-sex is a fraught act. Guys never seem to get the timing or the etiquette quite right, so that the disappointing Continue reading →

• 35 things you probably don’t know about me

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  Corey

  17 May 2013 | 6:06 am

  This weekend I’m celebrating 42 years on this earth by camping with some friends. Birthdays are time to reflect and celebrate life and work and family and love. In honor of this occasion, I’ve updated an old post to share some things about me that perhaps you didn’t know. 1. My children are my heroes. I want to live with abandon and have an imagination like they do. 2. I was born in Texas, and have lived in Texas for most of my life – but don’t consider myself a Texan … even though it’s a cool state. Go figure. 3. I don’t really have a favorite…

• Genitals in the Wild: Ceiling Surprises

  My Sex Professor

  Madeline Haller

  15 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  I’ve been living in my new apartment for roughly six months now, so I’m not exactly sure why it’s taken me this long to notice this, but — all of our mounted ceiling lights look like boobs. I stumbled across the first breast-like light one afternoon when I was home sick from work. I was [...]

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  My Sex Professor

• Genitals in the Wild: Ceiling Surprises

  Madeline Haller

  15 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  I’ve been living in my new apartment for roughly six months now, so I’m not exactly sure why it’s taken me this long to notice this, but — all of our mounted ceiling lights look like boobs. I stumbled across the first breast-like light one afternoon when I was home sick from work. I was [...]

• Would You Try Vaginal Steaming?

  Holly Moyseenko

  14 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  A friend of mine recently asked me my opinion on vaginal steaming. At first I assumed that I mis-heard her. I mean, I’ve heard of facial steaming or steaming vegetables, but vaginal? Turns out, it’s a thing that has been around for some time, especially in Korea. The article explains that vaginal steaming isn’t purely [...]

• Revisiting Sex Work And Checking My Privilege

  Jeana

  13 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  I was pretty pleased with my post on why legislating sex work is problematic, until someone wrote to me to point out where I got it wrong. That’s actually what I was hoping for, as I’d concluded the post by writing: To that end, if I’ve misrepresented the nature of sex work or adult performance [...]

• Breaking News: Disabled People Have Sex

  Holly Moyseenko

  10 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  It’s common knowledge that many people enjoy sex. Disabled people are people. So, shouldn’t logic follow that most disabled people enjoy sex? I’ve gone to many talks at conferences that cover that very topic, and I’m always a little surprised that it’s breaking news to many that people of all different abilities enjoy sex. I [...]

• Sex Toy Review: We-Vibe Touch

  Madeline Haller

  9 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  If you’re looking for an eco-friendly vibrator that’s soft-to-the-touch, this product should be on your radar. What you need to know right off the bat: Similar to the We-Vibe Tango (check out the MSP review, here!), the Touch is also waterproof, green, and rechargeable. In fact, a single charge will give you up to two [...]

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  Bound, Not Gagged

• Cleveland Kidnapping

  jillbrenneman

  8 May 2013 | 10:09 am

  I understand this is a bit off topic as there hasn’t been information released, to my knowledge, isn’t inherently related to sex work. Although as sex workers we are all vulnerable to this kind of situation. Some of us have faced it first hand ourselves. But for anyone who knows me or knows of me these events obviously touch me on many levels very deeply. These girls are heroes beyond imagination. While the man who helped get them out is being called the hero and he is. His efforts still are tiny in comparison to what these girls endured for ten years. If they ever stumble on to…

• Sex Worker Conference in Las Vegas- Register and/or Submit Your Proposal!

  scarlotharlot

  7 Dec 2012 | 4:07 pm

  5th Desiree Alliance Conference-The Audacity of Health: Sex Work, Health, and Politics July 14-19, 2013 Las Vegas, NV   http://desireealliance.org/conference.htm Registration is Now Open for the 5th Desiree Alliance Conference Please read the registration details below to begin the process. http://www.desireealliance.org/conference/Registration.htm Submit proposals for presentations by April 1, 2013 http://www.desireealliance.org/conference/CFP.htm The Desiree Alliance is a national social justice organization that is led by current and former sex workers in coalition with health…

• Willing Brides and Consenting Homosexuals ? : why we must unite against the trafficking paradigm.

  scarlotharlot

  4 Nov 2012 | 10:06 am

  Reblogged from Sex Work Policy, the blog: by Cheryl Overs. Over the last few months I have been reading and writing about sex work and law. I have had the chance to comment on several excellent papers as they are being written and had some wonderful opportunities to work with skilled and knowledgeable activists in human rights, the women’s movement, HIV and sexual and reproductive health.  I have also had some great opportunities to learn from sex workers and hear the conversations that are taking place within the movement. Read more… 853 more words

• Prop 35, Youth, Sex Trade and Sex Trafficking-Interview with Alexandra Lutnick, Researcher

  scarlotharlot

  4 Nov 2012 | 10:03 am

  Visit Prop 35, Youth, Sex Trade and Sex Trafficking-Interview with Alexandra Lutnick, Researcher  at Indybay to read this interview written in conjunction with SWOP/Bay Area. It’s important to get the word out about Prop 35! Please share the info on Facebook, Twitter, etc. Thanks SWOP, for your support and work to let people know about this dangerous initiative!

• In Memoriam: Robyn Few

  Maggie McNeill

  17 Sep 2012 | 10:20 am

  Until prostitutes have equal protection under the law and equal rights as human beings, there is no justice.  -  Robyn Few Last Thursday, sex workers all over the world were saddened to hear of the death (after a long battle with cancer) of the charismatic and tireless Robyn Few, founder of the Sex Workers Outreach Project USA.  When the day finally arrives on which sex work is recognized in the majority of the world as work like any other, hers will be one of the names remembered as instrumental in achieving it. Robyn L. Spears was born in Paducah, Kentucky, on October 7th, 1958, to…

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  Audacia Ray

• gorgonetta: [Self-portraits by Carrie Mae Weems, Käthe...

  2 May 2013 | 10:29 am

  Carrie Mae Weems, self-portrait, Kitchen Table Series, 1990 Käthe Kollwitz, Self Portrait Drawing, 1933 Judy Baca, self portrait, 2009 Frida Kahlo, Self Portrait with Monkeys, 1943 gorgonetta: [Self-portraits by Carrie Mae Weems, Käthe Kollwitz, Judy Baca, and Frida Kahlo, text “Never apologize for selfies”] Wanted to get modern women artists and some WOC up in this one.  If you reblog it would be cool if you kept the part in the brackets so these artists, two of whom are still working, will get credit—this conversational part below is nbd.

• redupnyc: Yesterday we went to Albany to lobby legislators to...

  24 Apr 2013 | 3:33 pm

  redupnyc: Yesterday we went to Albany to lobby legislators to pass the no condoms as evidence bill in New York state! Here are a few pictures of advocates in Albany - 100 of us went, and we had meetings with more than 60 legislators. Team RedUP (at least, those of us able to be in Albany) is the last pic! Red Umbrella Project is proud to be working in coalition with the Sex Workers Project at the Urban Justice Center, Streetwise and Safe, Make the Road New York, Gay Men’s Health Crisis, Housing Works, the New York Civil Liberties Union, Planned Parenthood New York City, Human Rights Watch,…

• redupnyc: The San Francisco District Attorney’s office has...

  17 Apr 2013 | 6:43 pm

  redupnyc: The San Francisco District Attorney’s office has announced that “we will no longer introduce physical evidence of condoms in our criminal prostitution cases.”

• thespiritwas: So excited about…  Life Chances: HIV...

  12 Apr 2013 | 9:02 am

  thespiritwas: So excited about…  Life Chances: HIV Criminalization and Trans Politics IN CONVERSATION WITH CHE GOSSETT, DEAN SPADE, AND SEAN STRUB April 24th, 7PM, FREE! Don’t sleep on this one y’all! more info here

• labyrinth-of-butts: creepy but adorable cakes by Scott...

  9 Apr 2013 | 8:40 pm

  labyrinth-of-butts: creepy but adorable cakes by Scott Hove Just like vagina dentata… but with more frosting

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  NYT > Sex

• ‘Beef-gate’ Transfixes Scandal-Prone Indonesia

  16 May 2013 | 10:00 pm

  Mix political Islam, hotel room sex, luxury automobiles, swimsuit models and imported beef, and you have the makings of a mega-scandal.

• Sexagenarians Gone Wild

  15 May 2013 | 10:00 pm

  If Mick Jagger, my role model for aging, wrote an advice column, I’d ask, “Is there an age cutoff for parking, in the teenage sense of the word?”

• Counseling Kept at an Arm’s Length

  4 May 2013 | 10:00 pm

  “Felt,” a reality series on Logo about sex therapy, uses puppets to act out actual sessions of couples counseling.

• Sexism and the Single Murderess

  4 May 2013 | 10:00 pm

  Amanda Knox’s story is just one example of our continued quickness to heap scorn and slurs on women seen as sexually bold.

• ‘Felt,’ a Sex-Therapy Series on Logo

  4 May 2013 | 10:00 pm

  “Felt,” a reality series on Logo about sex therapy, uses puppets to act out actual sessions of couples counseling.

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• Communities for people with anxiety disorders?

  18 May 2013 | 9:21 am

  This isn't exactly on-topic for VP, and if it's not ok to post, then mods please feel free to delete this. I have just kind of exhausted myself with searching and thought that if anyone might be able to point me in the right direction, it would be the superstars here.Does anyone know of any good (supportive, active) communities on LiveJournal for people dealing with anxiety problems?Thanks in advance.

• brown discharge 2 weeks after period/unprotected sex

  18 May 2013 | 8:59 am

  i am on the combined pill since the beginning of this year. last month instead of taking a break, i continued onto a new pack and about halfways through the new pack on tuesday 30 april i realised i forgot to take mondays pill and i got some brown discharge and light cramps so i decided to let my period come. on saturday 4 may i started a new pack even though i still had my period and the whole 7 day break had not passed. on sunday 5 may (my period was really light/pretty much gone) i had unprotected sex. i don't actually remember if he came inside me or not, i was extremely drunk and blacked…

• 17 May 2013 | 7:41 pm

  17 May 2013 | 7:41 pm

  I posted two weeks ago about some strange brown vaginal discharge 3 days after sex. (Penetration, if you will. He did not ejaculate) It lasted about 3 days, and I only needed a pantie liner on the first day - the last 2 days it was only visable when I wiped.Yesterday, I noticed some light pinky brown stains on my panties at the end of the day, and then again today. For what it's worth, I had sex 3 days before.My period is very irregular, especialy lately. My last period was on April 13th (I had skipped my March period).I took a HPT this morning and it was negative.I'm very…

• Breast Cramps

  17 May 2013 | 4:27 pm

  I'm having some rather intense cramps in my breast.  This is not normal for me.  I'm 43 and never really felt this before.  I'm in the middle of my menstrual cycle - my period should start in a week.  Any ideas about whether or not I should be worried about bigger health issues?  I have no other symptoms at all, and do not have any complicating physical conditions.

• Anon Post: Concern about abusive situations

  17 May 2013 | 9:32 am

  As people hopefully know, VP maintainers/moderators will post anonymously for other. I'm not technically a VP maintainer (because I sometimes have to flake out and curl up under a rock for a few days), but I am also happy to help out and post for someone!And, as the maintainers would say, Thank you for trusting VP enough to share your story. We're honored to have you here, and we hope you receive kind thoughts and the help and information you're seeking.They'd also say, This is just a quick note to remind readers that VP has some guidelines for responding to posts about sexual abuse or…

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• Testimony: Joe Lengson

  16 May 2013 | 6:26 pm

           So, I had just broken up with a girlfriend and I was feeling incredibly vulnerable. I waited a few days until I couldn’t bear it any longer; I broke down and called her. I was showing her that I was willing to be the one to resolve it, however in that particular situation, a resolution never came. So I felt empty and incomplete due to the fact that I was now alone after such an immediate halt of the relationship. So what I did to escape wallowing in my own self-pity was…I left home. I decided to join a band, which incidentally…

• Dale's Story

  16 May 2013 | 1:13 pm

  My first real memory of pornography is in college.  Sure, I saw some gratuitous sex scenes and nudity in rated-R movies, and I enjoyed plenty of moments with Victoria’s Secret catalogues, Maxim and the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition, but my use and enjoyment of commercialized flesh didn’t impact my life or dominate my thoughts in the way that hardcore pornography did when I entered college.   The Internet was only just beginning to take off back when I was in high school, and I didn’t really know then how much pornography could be found online until I…

• X3 Groups Going Strong

  16 May 2013 | 5:56 am

  With so many great things happening in this ministry it can be hard to keep track of it all.  There was our trip down under … Strip Church Training in Dallas … the Porn Kills Tour … and most recently the video launch of Sincerely Freedom  by Nick Vitellaro with over 160,000 views … where do we start?  2013 has been an incredible year and we are anticipating even more exciting things to develop soon!  This being said I’d like to update you on a project we’ve been working on for a little over a year now called X3groups.   X3groups…

• What's Up (in the Media) Wednesdays. 05.15.13

  15 May 2013 | 12:06 pm

  OK, real quick two changes: 1) Craig is very "TMZ" and I am very "Gawker". Craig wins(LOL) and so these will be shorter (per his request). 2) Although this is a website that addresses porn and sex, different people have various levels of sensitivities. So, what I do "shout out", from now on, it will be without links (although I will reference the site I pulled it from at the end of each post). Just wanted to give the heads up in case you were wondering where they went. That said, here's what's up for this week (and yes, there is a "save the kiddies" theme): 1) There was a study published…

• Evolution: My Curiosity Became Addictive

  15 May 2013 | 11:44 am

  My first exposure to pornography was through a childhood friend at the age of 8, but the curiosity exploded when the internet made its debut in the early-mid 90s. That curiosity  became addictive in nature when it became a quest to find out what was so taboo about sex. This all out quest was hidden from my parents while I used  their computer to access these inappropriate sites. I was as hooked as any drug addict, becoming engrossed in searching the internet for entertainment any chance I could get.  In my teens, it started with online chat rooms, but also led to searching for…

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  ScienceDaily: Sexual Health News

• New study explores providers' perceptions of parental concerns about HPV vaccination

  14 May 2013 | 10:54 am

  A new study has found that low-income and minority parents may be more receptive to vaccinating their daughters against Human Papillomavirus, while white, middle-class parents are more likely to defer the vaccination.

• Women altering menstruation cycles in large numbers

  9 May 2013 | 11:21 am

  A surprisingly large number of women 18 or older choose to delay or skip monthly menstruation by deviating from the instructions of birth-control pills and other hormonal contraceptives, scientists have found

• Sexual harassment linked to 'purging' -- in men

  9 May 2013 | 7:43 am

  Men who experience high levels of sexual harassment are much more likely than women to induce vomiting and take laxatives and diuretics in an attempt to control their weight, according to a surprising finding.

• Immune cells that suppress genital herpes infections identified

  8 May 2013 | 10:17 am

  Scientists have identified a class of immune cells that reside long-term in the genital skin and mucosa and are believed to be responsible for suppressing recurring outbreaks of genital herpes. These immune cells also play a role in suppressing symptoms of genital herpes, which is why most sufferers of the disease are asymptomatic when viral reactivations occur. The discovery of this subtype of immune cells, called CD8αα+ T cells, opens a new avenue of research to develop a vaccine to prevent and treat herpes simplex virus type 2, or HSV-2. Identifying these T cells’ specific…

• Focus on STD, not cancer prevention, to promote HPV vaccine use

  2 May 2013 | 9:04 am

  The HPV vaccine can prevent both cervical cancer and a nasty sexually transmitted disease in women. But emphasizing the STD prevention will persuade more young women to get the vaccine.

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  Dangerous Lilly (a sex blog)

• The Dildology.org 1st Bi-Annual Blog Carnival Fundraiser Event

  Lilly

  11 May 2013 | 11:33 am

  Over the next 19 days you’ll be hearing from 30 311 bloggers who graciously agreed to be part of the 1st Bi-Annual Dildology.org Blog Carnival fundraiser. The hope is to raise $1,500.00 during this time, which (depending on the item’s material) could fund 3 -5 tests.  If you’re wondering what might get tested next, here’s a sneak peak: The James Deen Realistic dildo from Doc Johnson. This is the one with the painted-on veins and ultra-realistic look that is made of PVC with Doc Johnson’s “Sil-a-Gel” in it. Everybody wants a piece of the Deen, and so…

• Dildology.org Blog Carnival Call for Participants

  Lilly

  7 May 2013 | 11:01 am

  So by now, I’m hoping you all know about Dildology.org, the non-profit sex toy testing company founded by Crista, Val and myself. We think our launch can be called a success, wouldn’t you agree? Dildology.org, both what it represents and what it hopes to change in the industry, is well overdue and very much needed. In order to make a difference and begin the changes we want to see in the sex toy industry, we need your support. Your donations are the only funding we have. To that end, I’m going to be hosting our first fundraiser blog carnival starting May 13th and continuing…

• Dildology: The Science of Sex Toys

  Lilly

  2 May 2013 | 10:09 am

  Backstory:  I like to flame test my silicone sex toys, and pretty much do it to every item. When the JimmyJane Hello Touch failed my flame test, I first showed it to some other industry professionals and peers at CatalystCon who agreed with my thoughts that it didn’t appear to be pure silicone. I then contacted JimmyJane. Due to their response filled with PR fluff-n-stuff, I publicly mused that I wished I could get a real lab test done to see who was right. When a few of my followers responded that they would contribute, I asked a few peers to confirm/deny my sanity and was told to go…

• We-Vibe Salsa Giveaway Winners Announced!

  Lilly

  30 Apr 2013 | 10:34 am

  Reverted back to old school style to pick the winners…printed out and put into piles of Yes, No and Maybe! I had 50 entries and had to narrow that WAY WAY down. I’m also the sort of person for who complicated brain situations require something more visual and tangible than “on screen”. So I printed out the entries and started the sorting hat up. Some were quick to go in the YES pile, a few were quick to go in the NO pile, and that MAYBE pile saw a lot of dithering. I have to admit, I’ve never had the opportunity to have multiple winners like this and likely never…

• iGino One Review

  Lilly

  25 Apr 2013 | 9:02 am

  First let me say that I really do applaud the individuals and small companies who try their hand at making sex toys and improving upon them, who see problems that could be solved and want to genuinely spread to joy of orgasm around via a sex toy made of safe materials. Of course many like to utilize as many advertising jargon words as possible and lay out their proclamations of being THE best sex toy, the be-all end-all, the best thing you’ll ever try, if you’ve tried the rest you’ll be instantly in love with this next new thing yaddayadda. I don’t think that the iGino…

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  The Virginity Project

• 17 May 2013 | 5:32 am

  The Virginity Project

  17 May 2013 | 5:32 am

  So I get these requests on a fairly frequent basis from production companies. Most times I brush them off but from time to time, I get a genuinely interesting one. This could be one of those. If you are between the ages of 15-21, on the cusp of losing your virginity and would like to share your thoughts and experiences and be part of a Channel 4 documentary, have a read of the information below and get in touch with the producers..... The Programme We are currently developing a programme called Virgins (working title). The programme looks at the impact that the increasingly easy access to…

• 1963

  The Virginity Project

  7 May 2013 | 9:19 am

  I love today’s story. I’ve posted it before. It’s certainly in my book. I was prompted to re-visit it after reading Tariq Ali’s exploration of a defining year, 1963, in today’s Guardian. A year so monumental that Philip Larkin felt moved to write a poem about it. One of the things that got me as I researched this era was the realisation that the 1960’s wasn’t quite as ‘free’ as people would have you believe, particularly for women. There is a great quote in Cate Haste’s  book ‘The Rules of Desire’, that goes something like, ‘yes, it was all about free love but in…

• 28 Apr 2013 | 8:43 am

  The Virginity Project

  28 Apr 2013 | 8:43 am

  First there was a blog, then a book, and even a play. Now there is poetry. Today’s contribution is written by a man but told from a teenage perspective. ‘It's not firmly based on my own experience but draws inspiration partly from it, as well as from friends' stories, urban tales and media depictions.’ Like me, this man believes that ‘sex is not talked about enough in the increasingly sexualized world that we live in’. I like that blokes have these unexpected perspectives. It’s too easy to believe that men and women are at war with each other. It makes a better story in…

• 4 Apr 2013 | 4:53 am

  The Virginity Project

  4 Apr 2013 | 4:53 am

  I’m really thrilled today to showcase the new edition of my book. It’s the small format paperback of The First Time but whilst we were at it, we thought we’d give it a makeover. So here it is, Losing It: How we popped our cherry over the last 80 years.* One doesn’t always get the chance to thank people for their help so whilst I am here, I’d like to show my appreciation for the many people who helped with the new cover. Lots showed title choices and visuals to friends and got feedback for me. Others at work looked through bunches of mocked up covers and gave their (sometimes…

• It's only rock n roll...

  The Virginity Project

  2 Apr 2013 | 4:16 am

  I did a radio show with the World Service a few years back and was given a semi hard time by a woman who thought I didn’t place enough importance on ‘the first time’. She said it was something that should be treasured and saved for ‘the right person’ and not given away without a thought. I don’t recall saying it should be given away without a thought but I do think we are on dodgy ground when we start saving it for ‘the one’ - for a hundred different reasons. The most prescient one being that a first time is just that. It’s a first time. There will be other times. These, to…

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  How to Tell if a Guy is a Jerk

• 25 Ways to Tell if he’s a jerk

  Silvy

  7 Feb 2015 | 9:45 am

  Here are some tips to help you decide whether or not he's a jerk before it is too late. He Might Be a Jerk If He goes through your purse without permission. What is he looking for and why is he beng so secretive about it?   He purposely hangs around girls you don't like. You have told him you don't trust her. But yet he offers to dance with her. Bad sign.  He makes you feel you are overreacting

• What is Up With Mama's Boys?

  Silvy

  13 May 2013 | 6:38 am

  Great guys love their mothers. They adore them, cherish them, and appreciate them. This is a fabulous thing. Guys who have great relationships with their mothers often make for fabulous husbands! There are however those guys who are so attached to their mothers that they are unable to have a normal, mature emotionally healthy relationship with a woman. What is going on? <!-- google_ad_client

• Is he in Love, or is he in Lust?

  Silvy

  12 May 2013 | 8:16 am

  Each day I have dozens of questions from women wondering how to tell if a man is in love with them. This can really be one of two questions. Either they are asking if a man loves them and how to tell, or they are asking how to tell the difference between a man truly loving them versus a man just lusting for them. Make no mistake, there is a difference. Love does not equal lust. And, lust does

• Do You Deserve a Good Man?

  Silvy

  5 Mar 2013 | 7:12 am

  Well, that depends. Of course ideally it would be wonderful if every woman and every man found a fabulous and truly great partner. As human beings each person deserves to be loved and cherished. Obviously. But lets look at the real world for a minute. <!-- google_ad_client = "pub-9971978735785130"; google_ad_width = 336; google_ad_height = 280; google_ad_format = "336x280_as"; google_ad_type =

• Is there Love at First Sight?

  Silvy

  2 Mar 2013 | 6:54 am

  Nope What there is, is: attraction at first sight, infatuation at first sight, lust at first sight, captivation at first sight, enthrallment at first sight, enchantment at first sight, allurement at first sight... But love at first sight? Nope <!-- google_ad_client = "pub-9971978735785130"; google_ad_width = 336; google_ad_height = 280; google_ad_format = "336x280_as"; google_ad_type = "

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  Practical Polyamory™

• 16 May 2013 | 12:29 pm

  16 May 2013 | 12:29 pm

• Fits and Starts with lots of Pinterest

  8 Mar 2013 | 10:17 am

  You may have noticed that I've not been putting up much new content here lately.  One reason is that there is so much going on in our growing larger poly community with more and more people covering it that what I think or focus on is less necessary.  Another is that my off-line life requires and will continue to require for a while more of my time and energy.  And then there is my Pinterest obsession, which at least includes a polyamory board.So consider me to be on a semi- or mini-sabbatical.  I'm still here, still welcome comments to existing entries here, and I'm still…

• Polyamory - It's Not Just for Baby Boomers Anymore

  13 Dec 2012 | 9:05 am

  In his most recent entry at Polyamory in the News, Alan quotes a college student: "Every time I turn around, I feel like more of my peers are entering open relationships." A 30-something family member of mine said the very same to me just a few days ago.  Then Alan gives us a rundown of the latest poly news from college campuses.  He also includes the following quote and comment:"This is my poly dream: that every college student in America will know the word polyamory and what it means within five years." So declared Diana Adams at a Loving More…

• This Week on Savage Love: Dan Gives Poly People the Last Word on Poly as Orientation

  5 Dec 2012 | 12:42 am

  How lovely to see that Dan Savage was as good as his word when he remarked a week or so ago in the Slog Blog that he would be giving polyamorists a chance to have their say regarding a statement he made to Polyamorous PolyMath ("PP") (scroll down to the second letter), saying that polyamory is something you do and not who you are.  The question of whether polyamorous counts as a sexual orientation added to the ensuing confusion mele', but orientation indeed it is, though a relationship orientation.  It really doesn't fit as a sexual orientation, unless you…

• What We Do or Who We Are? Round 2 with Dan Savage

  28 Nov 2012 | 3:08 pm

  Dan Savage has included more thoughts in today's Slog Blog about the controversy he started last week in advising someone seeking his advice that polyamory is something people do and is not who they are as an identity.  He is still having a hard time grasping what many are saying.  I have written an in-depth response because the questions he asks, which seem simple to him, are anything but simple.  In comments I wrote the following..... Dan, I think a key component of understanding this question is the context in which died-in-the-wool (if you will) polyamorists live out…

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  Scarleteen

• His Religious Beliefs Are No Condoms, But I Need Them. What Do I Do?

  Heather Corinna

  9 May 2013 | 10:48 am

  The guy I'm sleeping with really wants to have PIV sex with me, but he won't wear a condom because he's Roman Catholic. Everything else we've done has been amazing and I really want to do it, but I'm terrified of getting pregnant and I've already had a scare that I haven't told him about. I'm on the pill now, but I know that it isn't 100% effective. Would it be really wrong to try and get him to change his mind about condoms? I'm religious too and I'd hate to make him do anything that would go against his faith, but the idea of getting pregnant scares me so much that I have nightmares about…

• Porn: How Much (or How Little) Does it Influence Your Sexuality?

  Heather Corinna

  8 May 2013 | 2:50 pm

  None at all: it's not even part of my world. It's something I've seen, but it doesn't seem to be a real part of my sexuality. A little, but other things are way, way bigger influences. It has some influence, but mostly because it seems to influence others. It has some influence: I get some ideas or feel some desires I can probably attribute to porn. It has a lot of influence: I feel like what I want and see as sexual is something porn is a big part of. It has a lot of influence, but mostly in turning me off and teaching me what I do NOT want to do. I have no idea.

• It Was Fun, and I Want to Tell My Friends, But....

  Heather Corinna

  2 May 2013 | 10:28 am

  I was with this guy down at the beach late in the night and we started to hook up. It got a bit heated and asked me if I wanted to try something new. I said yes (I consented). He started to eat me out following with me giving him oral. I'm scared that if I tell any of my friends I'll get judged. Girls are like that these days :( It's not like I regret it or anything. To be honest, I enjoyed it. I'm just afraid because there is so many labels being thrown around. read The answer | ask your own

• An Infection Getting Worse and Worse: Can I Just Wait it Out?

  Heather Corinna

  2 May 2013 | 9:17 am

  I am 15 and I just had sex for the first time last Friday. It was unprotected but he did not cum. The next morning I had pain. The pain continued through Saturday and Sunday. I thought the pain was from having sex for the first time, but it's now Monday and I realized stinging while I pee, cloudy with some blood in it too, in addition to constantly having to pee and never feeling empty. I have had chills, too. I am almost 100% positive I have a UTI, but there is no way I'm telling my mom and getting medical attention for it, she can't know I had sex. I've read into it in depth, and the more I…

• Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

  Heather Corinna

  23 Apr 2013 | 1:47 pm

  Author:  Heather Corinna with Patricia Hu Introduction:  Want a quick way to sort out what sexual activities pose what kinds of risks of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections? We've taken the temperature for you here. Want a quick way to sort out what sexual activities pose what kinds of risks of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections? Based on what we know from current, scientifically sound study, and in alignment with what credible, dependable health organizations report, the list and graphics below provide you that information. You can use this as a tool to help…

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• At What Age Do You Become an Adult Virgin?

  17 May 2013 | 3:00 am

  Growing up in the 70s I heard bad things about virgins from all sides. My friends were desperate to shed their virginity. They were excited to get to try out sex (after years of practicing on their own). But the desperation came as much from the sense that, like nerd or loser, virgin was a label you didn't want to stick. I didn't feel that kind of pressure at home, but I was raised to understand that sexuality was something wonderful, something to be explored, and in contrast to the messages my parents received growing up in the 50s, sex was something that you probably should try out before…

• Onanistic Inquiries

  13 May 2013 | 2:00 am

  A few weeks ago an issue of New York Magazine featured a story about men who were quitting masturbation and finding solidarity and guidance on a Reddit forum called "NoFap". The piece was a mess of misinformation and confusion. It referenced to faddish research ("Your Brain on Porn") and conflated sexuality, desire, gender identity, and gender roles. All of this made it a pretty accurate reflection of many mens understanding of their own sexuality, and a good reminder of why things rarely get better for cisgender men. As long as it doesn't involve coercion, everyone should get to choose how…

• National Masturbation Month Comes of Age

  8 May 2013 | 2:00 am

  It was back in 1995 when a group of political sex shops came together to do what they always did best: combine consciousness raising with politics with pleasure. National Masturbation Month (NMM), and the month's main event the Masturbate-a-Thon were inspired in part as a response to the firing of Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders for daring to suggest that masturbation might be something that should be mentioned in school based sex education. The month was also a tongue-in-cheek response to the kind of Hallmark holidays that other industries create. Despite being the most commonly…

• Envisioning a New Model of Mental Health (Sort Of)

  6 May 2013 | 2:00 am

  Last week the National Institute of Mental Health made a significant announcement: they will no longer be prioritizing research proposals that are framed around categories of mental disorders promoted by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, also known as the DSM. The announcement, which I first read about on the excellent Mind Hacks blog, comes two weeks before the American Psychiatric Association is set to release the newest iteration of the DSM, the DSM-5. I'm sure there are loads of politics behind this shift in policy and the timing of the release. Certainly there's…

• Weekend Reading - Sex Across the Lifespan Edition

  4 May 2013 | 7:25 am

  I've been spending most of my time reading off line these days (gems including Nevada and Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe) which means I have a lot online reading to catch up on. Here are three pieces that cross the lifespan and are open in my browser as I type this: Canadian Women's Health Network: Adolescent Sexuality: Out of Hand? Wonders & Marvels: Masturbation and the Dangerous Woman The Globe and Mail: Facts & Arguments: I'm a sexually liberated woman, finally - at age 80 | Twitter | Newsletter Signup | Sexuality Forum |

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  A Sensual Blog: Having My Cake and Eating It Too

• The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  17 May 2013 | 1:19 am

  I have a confession. I have not read 50 Shades of Grey. Could I be the only woman of a certain age in the Western world who has not…? The reason? One of the things I have learned over the last few years is that fantasy is very often not a patch on [...]

• To Mac or not to Mac…

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  16 May 2013 | 6:51 am

  So, here I am at the beginning of a new life, starting from scratch with all sorts of things to buy. Obviously, I have to make the most important decision of my life about one of the basic staples of my life. I don’t know about the broadband connection to the new flat so I’m going to [...]

• Female Habits That Are Bad For Health

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  15 May 2013 | 3:22 am

  Another one from iVillage that spurred me to write – the 10 worst female health habits. Wearing high heels and carrying heavy bags can cause all sorts of postural problems that make a body ugly. Sleeping in makeup is just horrible. It leaves unsightly marks on the bedclothes and also turns you into a [...]

• Need You Here With Me

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  13 May 2013 | 6:40 am

  Reaching out my hand, I know the bed beside me will be empty but it doesn't hurt quite so much today. You are so close now. The last Saturday morning in a few weeks where I will wake up alone under this duvet. If I keep my eyes closed, even though my fingers touch only empty mattress, in my head I can feel [...]

• Men’s Worst Health Habits

  Joanna Cake, HavingMyCake

  11 May 2013 | 5:29 am

  Curiously the biggest bad health habit for men is refusing to go to the doctor when something is wrong – men are 20% less likely to go to their GP than a woman. They also don’t examine their testicles regularly so can often fall victim to a complaint that could have been cured far more easily [...]

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• 3 Sure-Fire Ways To Completely Win Him Over

  Evan Michaels

  15 May 2013 | 7:10 am

  If you’re worried about FOREVER being stuck in the friend-zone worry no more! Because I’m going to share with you 3 sure-fire ways to completely win him over so he can start treating you like the Princess you are. Whether you work together, have been friends since childhood, or just met at the bar, I guarantee that if you use these techniques on men they are going to look at you with different eyes. Sexy eyes. So let’s get started! Create Memories Together While going out for a night of drinking can be fun, it can also be easily forgotten. The kind of memories I’m…

• 3 Sex Positions Guaranteed To Make A Woman Orgasm!

  Shawna Lenee

  15 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  Sex positions can help you improve your game and make your partner orgasm – if you choose the right ones. Here are three that will leave her gasping for breath! These three positions that drive me and most women CRAZY. These positions are a sure fire way to bring your girl to some of the loudest, most intense orgasms of her life. Most guys, in their struggle to please women never understand the SPOTS that actually trigger climaxes so they flail around uselessly trying weird sex positions that don’t work. The Real “Orgasm Zone” Of A Woman – And Why Traditional Sex…

• Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

  Dan & Jennifer

  14 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax? 1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning…

• 7 “Innocent” Words That Turn Women On

  Vin DiCarlo

  7 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  And in this article, you’ll find out seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex, how to use them and exactly what you need to say to make a woman wet her panties whenever you’re around. But first… Watch this FREE video to find out how you can read any woman’s mind and immediately know exactly what she’s thinking about! (No, we’re not talking magic tricks or paranormal stuff here! This is cutting edge psychology combined with real-world application). WARNING: Watch the entire video - the end may SHOCK you!

• How To Give Your Girl An Intense, Full-Body Orgasm That Makes Her Squirt All Over Your Bed… Guaranteed!

  Dan & Jennifer

  6 May 2013 | 7:29 am

  This FREE VIDEO will show you how to give your girl the type of FULL-BODY, screaming-at-the-top-of-her-lungs orgasm that no guy has EVER given her before… whether it’s your first night together or you’ve been dating for years… In this video you’re going to learn a simple trick to give any woman an orgasm so intense and so powerful,  it will dramatically increase the level of dopamine in her limbic system – causing her brain to become sexually addicted to that feeling… making her sexually addicted to you. Why This Is “The Ultimate…

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  POPSUGAR Sex & Culture

• 2013 Prom Themes That Make Us Feel Old

  Tara Block

  18 May 2013 | 8:00 am

  Prom season is upon us, and we've been reminiscing about our own prom themes - the good, the bad, and the cheesy. Some were pretty timeless, like Under the Sea, Arabian Nights, and Mardi Gras. But some, especially those influenced by song titles, definitely date us. Theme songs like "More Than a Feeling" (1976), "Everything I Do" (1991), "Make It Last Forever" (1987), "I Don't Wanna Miss a Thing" (1998), "The Dance" (1990), and "(I've Had) The Time of My Life" (1987) will always take us back to those days of crimped hair, puffy sleeves, and corsages as if it was yesterday. Alas, it wasn't…

• POPSUGAR Wedding Roundup: Dresses, Decor, Music, and More For Your Big Day

  Brittney Stephens

  18 May 2013 | 6:00 am

  Wedding season is in full swing here at POPSUGAR, and we have everything you need when it comes to dresses, decor, bridal beauty, and more. Whether you're in need of bridesmaid tips, seeking savvy spending advice, or in the mood to check out the most memorable TV and movie weddings, look no further. Click through now to see our ever-expanding 2013 wedding season coverage! Source: Bauer-Griffin Online, Shutterstock View Slideshow ›

• GIF Quiz: Are You Over Him?

  Laura Marie Meyers

  17 May 2013 | 4:00 pm

  You swear you've moved on from your ex, but then you find yourself stalking his Facebook page, drunk texting, and "coincidentally" ending up in his neighborhood - sound familiar? Accepting that you're not over him is the first step to actually getting over him, so to help you ditch the denial stage, we've rounded up some clear signs that you're still in love with your ex. Struggling to move on and sick of the sad breakup songs? Take a look at these hilarious GIFs to have a laugh and move forward! View Slideshow ›

• The Cost of Attending a Wedding Is Now $539 - That's Not OK

  Yahoo Shine

  17 May 2013 | 3:30 pm

  We're happy to present this post from our partner site Yahoo! Shine: According to an American Express survey of 1,518 people, guests will spend an average of $539 per wedding this year - and that's just to attend the event, not to be a member of the wedding party. The wallet-busting figure is up $200 from 2012, when guests reported shelling out an average of $329 on clothes, hotel rooms, and gifts. The real cost is probably even higher given the estimates for some of the costs. The credit card company says that guests will budget just $57 for new clothes, $27 for a babysitter or pet sitter,…

• Bridesmaids' Pet Peeves

  Annie Scudder

  17 May 2013 | 2:15 pm

  No bride considers herself a bridezilla, but they can all unknowingly do things that annoy their bridesmaids. To make your life easier this wedding season, we polled real bridesmaids to find out their biggest pet peeves. Because after all, a happy bridal party makes for a happy big day. Watch now. And if you're a bridesmaid, let us know if you have more tips to add!

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• Since when did personal space become such a ‘bad’ thing? It’s OK to need some breathing room to deal with something!

  Natalie (NML)

  17 May 2013 | 11:56 am

  When people share their stories of their struggle to ‘snap back’ to the way things were after something has happened and the seeming pressure from others to forget about an issue, to speed up their grief fast, to ‘talk’, to ‘be friends’ and to basically get over something or someone at somebody else’s [...] [[This is a content summary only. © Baggage Reclaim, All Rights Reserved. Written permission is needed for reuse of content. ]]

• Sometimes a discussion doesn’t cut it. Stop discussing, get to FLUSHING!

  Natalie (NML)

  15 May 2013 | 2:22 pm

  There are many situations and topics in life that you can have discussions about, but when it comes to the recognition of shady behaviour and what in fact might be repeat shadiness, it’s time to stop discussing, get to flushing. Your

• When are you going to stop punishing you and allow you to move on?

  Natalie (NML)

  13 May 2013 | 12:58 pm

  When you consider the amount of time that some of us have spent judging and punishing ourselves for a mistake or ‘wrongdoing’ on our part or even that of others, it’s safe to say that we can end up serving prison sentences that are far longer than what some people serve for serious [...] [[This is a content summary only. © Baggage Reclaim, All Rights Reserved. Written permission is needed for reuse of content. ]]

• The People Pleasing Diet – Why you’ve got to give up trying to please The Unpleasables

  Natalie (NML)

  8 May 2013 | 1:31 pm

  It’s painful when the realisation hits you, that when it comes to a certain someone or even certain people in your life, nothing, and I do literally mean nothing is ever enough. You could literally walk over hot coals, limbo under a bar held 5cm off the ground with spikes on it, have [...] [[This is a content summary only. © Baggage Reclaim, All Rights Reserved. Written permission is needed for reuse of content. ]]

• About ‘going with the flow’

  Natalie (NML)

  6 May 2013 | 3:14 pm

  I’ve been on a few trips with people where one or both of us have suggested that we ‘go with the flow’ instead of making firm plans. I found that we were either on the same page and had a great time or… it turned out to be a clash of [...] [[This is a content summary only. © Baggage Reclaim, All Rights Reserved. Written permission is needed for reuse of content. ]]

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  Mommy Has A Headache

• The Next Big Thing

  2 May 2013 | 10:48 am

  Thanks a bunch to the lovely Pauline Wiles for tagging me to take part in The Next Big Thing. This involves me yacking on about myself and my books while also spreading love to other authors that I admire! Like me Pauline is a British ex-pat, and when she left the UK eight years ago she was not quite sure how she was going to survive without afternoon tea, historic homes, the local pub and oodles of rain but is now living in California with her British husband and getting her head around the constant sunshine and cheerful people! She calls herself a “trailing…

• We're Not In Kansas Anymore

  22 Apr 2013 | 7:09 am

  Hurrah!! My entry for the Expat Culture Shock Competition has won!! Thanks to everyone who voted for me. We're Not in Kansas Anymore by Emma Kaufmann I was whisked by taxi from my flat in central London in the early dawn. Giddy and slightly nauseous, I thought of my boyfriend waiting for me on the other side of the Atlantic. What the heck was I doing? I had waved goodbye to my French flatmate Jean-Claude who was a total Americanophile. A passion for all things American, had, like Borat's been ignited by a passion for Baywatch and had taken Jean-Claude on many jaunts to San Diego where he had…

• Happy Caturday

  20 Apr 2013 | 1:31 pm

  Happy Caturday to you all! I'm linking up with a Cat Like Curiosity for this feline blog hop. I am a cat fanatic and had cats all through my childhood even though I am somewhat allergic to them (although right now I am catless and just have the two guinea pigs). I would love to be reincarnated as a cat.What could be better than lying in the sun all day and sitting on laps and getting tickled behind the ears? I just did a picture of a ginger cat who looks like he's just eaten a canary or bitten the tail off a mouse and is just sleeping it off: Things I am grateful for: 1. Spring is in the air…

• Cooking with the British Bint

  29 Mar 2013 | 9:48 am

  Aaah! We thought it was spring but then on Monday opened our curtains to see this: Very beautiful to be sure.The kids strapped themselves into their snowpants and spent the day shrieking with excitement that there was no school. And then sledded all day while I kept busy in the kitchen. The rest of the week was grimly cold so I stocked up on carbs. I am obsessed with food but I get a bit sick of these self  confessed foodies who will only use the highest quality goat's cheese where the goat was organically milked or who won't use a common or garden rotisserie chicken unless it has lived…

• Trifecta Challenge: I Should Be So Lucky

  25 Mar 2013 | 12:32 pm

  Here's my piece for Trifecta Week 70 using the third definition of Lucky LUCKY (adjective) 1: having good luck 2: happening by chance : fortuitous 3: producing or resulting in good by chance : favorable I Should Be So Lucky  That morning their mother tried to shake Celeste and Sheena awake but they were locked in a deep restless sleep. Weird and incomprehensible words streamed from their mouths. Hammer-time Harem  pants Shell suits Rainbow legwarmers Celeste sat up and screamed. "What is it?" her mother asked. "We went back to the nineteen eighties." "But how could you?" said their…

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  Polyamory Weekly

• PW 358: There's an app for that!

  Minx

  14 May 2013 | 7:45 pm

  Get ready to get your geek on, 'cuz this week we're talking about apps that facilitate poly relationships!Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 357: How much sex is "normal"?

  Minx

  5 May 2013 | 4:03 pm

  In a committed relationship, how much sex is too much? How much is too little? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 356: The poly hype cycle

  Minx

  26 Apr 2013 | 5:08 pm

  The poly hype cycle.Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 355: Does penis size matter?

  Minx

  21 Apr 2013 | 2:16 pm

  Does penis size matter? The study. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

• PW 354: Wife Swap

  Minx

  5 Apr 2013 | 4:24 pm

  This week, an episode of the reality show Wife Swap aired, featuring a polyamorous family swapping with gun- and bible-toting tea baggers. Who comes off better? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

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  Sex, Etc.

• What the Heck Is “Gateway Sexual Activity”?

  Eshani Dixit

  14 May 2013 | 9:19 am

  All across the country, more and more states have tried to pass laws trying to put a limit on what we can learn about our bodies and sexuality. The state of Ohio recently tried—and thankfully failed—to include an amendment to their state budget that would prevent sex ed teachers from discussing “gateway sexual activity.” The phrase “gateway sexual activity” really stuck with me. What is that? When I first heard that phrase, I was reminded of sitting in D.A.R.E. class and how they taught us about “gateway drugs.” The theory is that “gateway drugs” like tobacco, alcohol and…

• NBA Player Jason Collins Comes Out as Gay

  Kunal Arora

  13 May 2013 | 11:40 am

  NBA player Jason Collins has been in the media spotlight recently. No, he didn’t set a new record or perform a crazy dunk, but he did do something that nobody was expecting: come out as gay as an active player. The Washington Wizards center received support on Twitter, as teammates and other celebrities tweeted their support. Many former athletes have come out after they retired, but Collins was the first to bravely announce that he is gay publicly as a current player of one of the major league sports. For that, he deserves tremendous respect. However, many argue whether or not this…

• Impregnate Your Friends’ Phones With Do Something’s Text Baby

  Juliana Conway

  7 May 2013 | 2:03 pm

  We’ve all heard of those egg or sack-of-flour babies handed out in health classes to show how difficult it is to care for a baby. Well, DoSomething.org’s Pregnancy Text campaign offers a new spin on this health class classic. I texted “BABY” to 38383, and immediately, I got a text telling me to get some sleep, because tomorrow I would be getting texts from my phone baby over a twelve-hour period. Cool, I thought, It’s like having a Tamagotchi. But I couldn’t have been more wrong. I was about to learn that my Tamagotchi—the famous 1996 toy, which I was a big fan of—never needed…

• Katelyn Campbell Stands Up to Abstinence-Only Scare Tactics

  Jessica Yang

  30 Apr 2013 | 10:32 am

  Katelyn Campbell, an 18-year-old senior in West Virginia, has recently been in the news speaking out about a controversial abstinence assembly at her school. Pam Stenzel made the presentation, which featured incorrect information regarding sexuality and sexual health. At the assembly, Stenzel frequently shouted things that were glaringly wrong. Among other things, she said that birth control could cause girls to be 10 times more likely to contract a disease and the use of it often times leads to death or infertility. In reality, birth control has been proven to be safe and effective.

• Plan B Now Available Without Prescription

  Jenny Geng

  16 Apr 2013 | 8:29 am

  Recently, a federal judge ordered the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to lift the age restrictions on the emergency contraception pill, Plan B One-Step, otherwise known as the “morning-after pill.” This commonly used form of birth control prevents pregnancy up to 120 hours or 5 days, after unprotected sex or sex where the method of birth control failed. Previously, the drug could only be obtained over the counter by anyone 17 or older, which meant girls 16 or younger needed a prescription. Now, anyone can get it without a prescription. Making Plan B One-Step readily available to…

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  Silent Porn Star

• Hey, Hey, It’s KY

  Silent Porn Star

  14 May 2013 | 1:47 am

  Your wise grandad (probably) used KY, no matter what he was masturbating to.

• Wilson On Gibson

  Silent Porn Star

  26 Apr 2013 | 2:48 am

  From Earl Wilson‘s It Happened Last Night column, December 1, 1961: I phoned the Latin Quarter and asked when nude dancer Julie Gibson would be on stage. “She works different times,” replied telephonist Helen McDermott, “but you can see the best part of Miss Gibson at 9:50.” I went at 9:50 — and she wasn’t [...]

• That Star Won’t Be Lone For Long, Ms. Barr

  Silent Porn Star

  25 Apr 2013 | 6:49 am

  Candy Barr (who can be seen in A History of the Blue Movie) featured in the September 1956 issue of Modern Man magazine. Via BURLESK: As You Like It! Tumblr.

• I Love It When You Help!

  Silent Porn Star

  24 Apr 2013 | 1:55 am

  One day after I posted this photo and my concerns about the nude model being Sharon Tate, Harold G. emailed me some great information: This is a Sam Haskins photograph and was used on the cover of the catalog for the “Four Masters of Erotic Photography” exhibition in Europe back in 1970. It seems to [...]

• In The 1950s, Women Bent-Over-Backwards For Their Men

  Silent Porn Star

  21 Apr 2013 | 3:09 am

  Whether it was sexy lingerie and stockings, or putting dinner on the table, women bent-over-backwards for their menfolk. Of course, they received gifts, like pearl necklaces, for their troubles. Image via.

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  simple marriage

• 35 things you probably don’t know about me

  Corey

  17 May 2013 | 6:06 am

  This weekend I’m celebrating 42 years on this earth by camping with some friends. Birthdays are time to reflect and celebrate life and work and family and love. In honor of this occasion, I’ve updated an old post to share some things about me that perhaps you didn’t know. 1. My children are my heroes. I want to live with abandon and have an imagination like they do. 2. I was born in Texas, and have lived in Texas for most of my life – but don’t consider myself a Texan … even though it’s a cool state. Go figure. 3. I don’t really have a favorite…

• The Intentional Married Life

  Corey

  15 May 2013 | 6:25 am

  Many of us are asleep at the wheel. We follow routine and schedules and patterns we’ve created and refined over the years. We are going through the motions, doing things in life and relationship with little forethought. Contrast this with the idea of an intentional life: everything is done with consciousness, fulfilling a core value (compassion, love, serving, to name a few). It’s true that many things we do have some sort of intent — I wash the dishes because I don’t want a messy house; I drive my kids to school because they need to learn. But after repeating these actions every…

• What’s my next step?

  Corey

  13 May 2013 | 7:26 am

  I regularly receive emails from awesome Simple Marriage readers like this: Thanks for all that you do to help marriages. I’ve been struggling with my relationship for the past XX years. I just recently discovered your material and become a regular listener of Sexy Marriage Radio. I also plan to read some of the material you regularly reference, like Schnarch, Gottman, Glover, and Eldredge. (Insert brief description of history of marital struggles here.) We tried counseling (or I went on my own because my spouse wasn’t interested) but this resulted in little, if any improvement. I…

• Lighter Side: Daydreaming

  Jerry

  10 May 2013 | 5:04 am

  Lighter Side: Daydreaming is a post from: Simple Marriage Click the post title to leave a comment.

• How does your view get in the way?

  Corey

  7 May 2013 | 7:13 am

  Entering Panera the other morning I ran into one of the baristas outside taking a quick smoke break. I’ve created a friendship with her over the course of my time there each morning. As I walked up to her she stated, “I feel guilty about smoking, but it is just so hard to quit.” I replied that if she keeps telling herself it’s hard to quit, it will be. Let me explain. The mind always believes what the mind tells itself is true. Therefore, if her mind tells her that quitting is hard, it will be hard. And since her mind — like everyone’s mind — strives…

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  LUSTY LADY

• Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica is my 53rd anthology - sign up by Sunday to review it on Amazon

  Rachel

  17 May 2013 | 2:13 pm

  I was writing a description of the Erotica 101 class I'm planning to teach sometime in September (exact date TBD) at sex toy store The Tool Shed in Milwaukee and realized that perhaps "editor of over 40 anthologies" was outdated, so I counted, and as of now, for full-length print anthologies (not counting ebooks), I've edited 52 anthologies (my website needs major updating, but has most of them listed). Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica, out this summer, will be my 53rd. That's amazing to me, especially because as I'm cleaning out my apartment, I'm in awe that I've gotten anything done at all while…

• Love, potential love and Reasons To Be Happy

  Rachel

  17 May 2013 | 8:26 am

  Last night I went to the premiere of the new Neil LaBute play Reasons To Be Happy, my Mother's Day gift to my mom. I'd seen Really Really, also at Lucille Lortel Theater, and even though that one was written by Paul Downs Colaizzo (who was also filling in as an actor when I saw it), I was expecting more lying, viciousness and backstabbing, since there was a lot of that in Really Really, which has since made me suspect everything a character does or says. Instead, Reasons To Be Happy was about finding yourself, decisiveness, love, cheating and relationships. I'm not a theater critic so I'll…

• Sweetening the Kindle pot: review Only You or Irresistile and I'll send you the other one free!

  Rachel

  15 May 2013 | 6:17 am

  This sale and promotion have now ended (sorry, the sale ended earlier than I thought it would). This sale is over, thank you for your support! Passion and Obsessed are now only $2.99 on Kindle AND if you click through you'll see my special BOGO promotion. To celebrate the Kindle sale price of $3.99 for erotic romance anthologies Only You and Irresistible, I'm sweetening the pot for a very limited time: if you review either Only You Or Irresistible on Amazon.com, I'll send you the Kindle version of the other one. Email me at rachelkb at gmail.com by May 16 5 pm EST (firm deadline as I won't be…

• Bargain erotic romance Kindle ebooks: Passion and Obsessed are $2.99!

  Rachel

  15 May 2013 | 5:09 am

  For a limited time, the Kindle editions of my erotic romance anthologies Passion and Obsessed are only $2.99! Get 'em while they're hot. And here's a deal where you can get one free, giving you 2 books for $3.99: review either Passion or Obsessed on Amazon, email the link to the review to me at rachelkb at gmail.com with "Kindle" in the subject line, and I'll send you the other book as a Kindle gift! You need to specify which email address to send it to. Offer good through June 14th, 2013, 5 pm EST. Note: If this sale ends earlier than planned, this offer will be null, though I'm told the…

• Kindle erotic romance sale: Only You and Irresistible are $3.99 through Wednesday!

  Rachel

  13 May 2013 | 4:30 pm

  This sale is over, thank you for your support! Passion and Obsessed are now only $2.99 on Kindle AND if you click through you'll see my special BOGO promotion. Kindle erotic romance ebook sale! Only You and Irresistible are only $3.99 on Kindle.

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  Violet Blue ® :: Open Source Sex

• Sex News: Panda gangbang, Semenology reviews, Tumblr’s misdeeds, LinkedIn bans escorts

  Violet Blue

  18 May 2013 | 5:22 am

  If Yahoo! succeeds in its attempt to acquire Tumblr, it is most certainly doomed. Yahoo! will end up with one of the hottest Internet properties ($1 billion valuation), with access to the coveted youth market and a foothold in mobile – and a lot of porn. Tumblr’s terms of service are pretty clear: Sexual material is welcome. It just asks that such posts be tagged as NSFW, noting that its users include many people “from a variety of locations, cultures, and backgrounds with different points of view concerning adult-oriented content.” If Yahoo Buys Tumblr, What Will It Do With All…

• Big boobs and badass babes: Art by The Ultra Fem

  Violet Blue

  12 May 2013 | 12:31 am

  Lisa M. Hayes has been making outrageous big-boob (almost crosses into BE*), strong-woman and fantasy character art and commissions as The Ultra Fem since 2005. I only just discovered Ultra Fem’s whimsical – explicit fetish – art world when a thoughtful friend sent me this link to Erin Esurance In Bondage. In Hayes’ archives you’ll find a range of female characters, hardcore scenarios such as Red She-Hulk x Lana Kane, and plenty of horny ‘futas’ (futa; from futanari -hentai- meaning combined male and female traits, fetish instance specific here for…

• Eye Candy: Pretty Porn Video Mélange

  Violet Blue

  10 May 2013 | 2:11 am

  Madison Young – Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage (main post photo, above) Adrianna Nicole – Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Oral Sex: Fellatio Chemistry 1 Directed by Tristan Taormino Simona – Desert Wind Carisha – My Kind of Woman Lorena G., Belinda – Dangerous Liasons Josephine – Wake Me Up Anna – Just for Me Kacy and Jessy – Sunset Lovers Tiffany and Mark – Cum for Me Zoey Paige – Passion HD Dani Daniels – Passion HD Holly Michaels – Passion HD…

• [Video] Year Of The Bush IV: The Rise Of The Phoenix

  Violet Blue

  6 May 2013 | 11:22 pm

  The newest video Year Of The Bush IV: The Rise Of The Phoenix stars Cam (Camille) Damage, who declared 2012 “Year of the Bush” and made lots of sexy media for the awesome webzine and video maker tsurofoto (aka Aaron Tsuru – is above. And there are more below. Buy and help support sexy indie tsurofoto collaborations on Etsy; Flickr is here; Twitter is here. Music: “Feels Like We Only Go Backwards” by Tame Impala; Film by Aaron Tsuru – tsurufoto.com & nudiezine.com. Cam Damage apparently started it with this video: Kate Sweeney mounted an uprising here:…

• Saccharine Slut

  Violet Blue

  6 May 2013 | 10:13 pm

  Super-sexy model, an artist in front of the camera, a Tumblr that is a total turn-on, and that’s about all we get to know… for now. Saccharine Slut has a lot of sexy friends, there is a lot of hardcore sex, much ejaculation (male), BDSM, threeways and girl-girl yumminess, and glorious lingerie. Her Tumblr is Saccharine Slut. If anyone knows more cool stuff of hers to link to, let me know.

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  Savage Lovecast

• Savage Love Episode 342

  Dan Savage

  14 May 2013 | 1:00 am

  This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding?  Plus  on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com They make it easy to build a website or…

• Savage Love Episode 341

  Dan Savage

  7 May 2013 | 1:00 am

  How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic?  Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket?  Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men.  And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it.  And, an avalanche of responses from men and women about accidental lady-buggering. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought…

• Savage Love Episode 340

  Dan Savage

  30 Apr 2013 | 1:00 am

  "Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend.  Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak?  Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

• Savage Love Episode 339

  Dan Savage

  23 Apr 2013 | 1:00 am

  Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at savagelovecast.com you can sign up for a Magnum show that's twice as long, with no ads.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Today's episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you…

• Savage Love Episode 338

  Dan Savage

  16 Apr 2013 | 1:00 am

  Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

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  Very Smart Brothas

• Things I’ve Learned From VSB

  Panama Jackson

  16 May 2013 | 9:00 pm

  If there’s one thing I can say about you folks who venture and yap here at VSB its that you all are an educated bunch of individuals. Or maybe just learned. I have no idea what type of educational attainment lies within the Hallways of VSB Manor. Since along with great power comes great responsibility, nearly everybody here has tried to learn somebody today about anything and everything. I’m a pretty smart chap. I’ve got the degrees and common sense to prove it. That Beautiful Mind sh*t? Child’s play. And thanks to all you haters I know G4 pilots on a first-name basis.

• VSB Updates: Technical Issues, Walk For Lee, and Stuff

  Panama Jackson

  16 May 2013 | 8:58 am

  Good morning. Clearly everybody has noticed that we’ve been having some technical difficulties lately. The comments aren’t loading all the time, the site is down sometimes. I promise you’ve paid all of our bills. Our host is negotiating with terrorists or something which is why we’ve had difficulty even logging into our site. Hell, I’m writing this telepathically right now. I took the one sliver of time it worked to write a post to update you all on what’s happening. We’re getting it together though…or our host is anyway. Hold tight y’all.

• Debate Deez: The Five Most Annoying Debating Tactics In The History Of Debate Podiums

  Panama Jackson

  14 May 2013 | 9:00 pm

  [***Y'all will have to forgive us for yesterday. Apparently our host got attacked by terrorists or some such f*ckery and nobody using our host was able to log into their WP accounts until mad late. At which point Panama said, "f*ck it". Well, today, we're letting VSB legend, Cheekie, come thru and spread love the Brooklyn way. We'd let her do it the Chi-town way, but somebody might get shot then. Shots fired. Triple entendre, don't even ask me how. So without further ado, the floor belongs to the cheeks.***] So, I be debating in these streets. And I enjoy it, thusly. Seriously, I love to…

• Danny Brown Got Head On Stage And All I Got Was This Lousy T-Shirt

  Panama Jackson

  12 May 2013 | 9:00 pm

  Chicks dig this guy. So a couple of weeks ago, indy-alt-ratchet rapper Danny Brown allegedly got some head from a which while he was performing in Minneapolis. Not only did he get head in the whip without crashing it on stage, he FINISHED his verse AT THE SAME DAMN TIME! I don’t care who you are, that’s talent. I remember one time at band camp, I was performing Michael Jackson’s “Speed Demon” on stage and some chick yelled out “you suck” and I totally forgot the words and stood there doing the same ole two step while the instrumental played in the…

• Happy Mother’s Day!

  The Champ

  10 May 2013 | 11:41 am

  On behalf of the entire VSB team, The Champ… …and Panama Jackson… …wish all the very smart moms out there a happy Mother’s Day weekend!

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  YourTango | The Latest Smart Talk About Love

• Love Bytes: A Guy's Take On How To Find Real Love

  michelletoglia

  17 May 2013 | 2:29 pm

  5 things you need to ask your online date. "Come over and cuddle," and more lies women tell just to get laid. And more of the latest love news on the web.read more

• Is Your Inner Child Running Your Love Life?

  lioncarista

  17 May 2013 | 2:24 pm

  Living a healthy love life begins with uncovering childhood patterns in a very direct and practical way. Google News Meta Tags:  love, love life, relationships, relationship advice, inner child, childhood, psychology read more

• 8 Double Date Ideas

  allie churchill

  17 May 2013 | 1:20 pm

  Double dates mean double the excitement, fun and romance. Check out our exciting date ideas, from weekend getaways to game nights.read more

• On-Screen Loves Leonardo DiCaprio & Carey Mulligan Off-Set Drama?

  gossipgirl.com

  17 May 2013 | 1:00 pm

  'The Great Gatsby' is all anyone can (and should) talk about these days, but filming the epic love saga wasn't all juleps and roses, darlings.read more

• 3 Love Quotes From Joyce Brothers That Shaped Me As A Therapist

  jamiesimkins

  17 May 2013 | 12:56 pm

  Popular psychologist Joyce Brothers died at age 85 on Monday, May 13. She had staying power because of her enduring wisdom. That's why I want to share three of her quotes about love that have had impact on my work as a therapist. Google News Meta Tags:  Joyce Brothers, love quotes, quotes, love read more

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  The Blog Erotic at The Buehler Institute

• Premature or Rapid Ejaculation: Frustrating and Confusing

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  17 May 2013 | 1:07 pm

  A frank look at premature ejaculation by sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler, who practices in Newport Beach, CA.

• How Did You Lose Your Virginity, and What Was Its Effect?

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  8 May 2013 | 1:50 pm

  Interesting article in Atlantic Monthly regarding a study on losing one's virginity and its effect on sexuality later in life. I almost always ask clients about their first time as a way of understanding their initial experiences with sex. Sometimes...

• A Sex Therapist's Response to "Call Me Crazy"

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  22 Apr 2013 | 8:27 am

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler, author of Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couples' Guide to Staying Connected discusses Lifetime Television's "Call Me Crazy."

• Lifetime Program Partners with NAMI to Tackle Topic of Mental Illness

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  17 Apr 2013 | 3:37 pm

  Rethink Mental Illness (Photo credit: Wikipedia) Can a real look at mental illness make a difference in eliminating stigma and motivate people to get help? That's the hope of Lifetime Television and the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill are...

• A Truly Natural Remedy for Erectile Dysfunction

  Dr. Stephanie Buehler

  9 Apr 2013 | 8:44 am

  There is only one truly natural remedy for erectile dysfunction. Sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler explains all.

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  Sex Toys Blog

• Who is going to play Christian and Ana? Win a Lover's Pleasure Bundle worth £150+!

  Lucy

  17 May 2013 | 2:00 am

  It's the world's most hotly-contested celebrity gossip, and the rumours show no signs of calming down. Since it was announced that Universal Studios and Focus Features acquired the rights to produce movie adaptations of record-breaking erotic trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey, celebrity magazines and fan websites have been buzzing with speculation as to who will play kinky billionaire Christian Grey and his virginal lover Anastasia Steele. There have been a string of false trails and supposed 'favourites', and now bookies are even taking bets as to who will land the dream roles, with many actors…

• Boudoir Photography: My Experience & A Special Offer!

  Lucy

  15 May 2013 | 4:00 am

  First things first, introductions! I'm Lucy (known to all at Lovehoney HQ as Plum) and I work in the Content team. Some of you might have seen me pop into the forums now and then, received an email from me, or read the odd blog I've written. If not, then hello! I have one of the best jobs in the world, and I’m very lucky to be able to write about sex and relationships all day long. When I was approached by Bath-based Boudoir Photography studio Divine Divas and asked to arrange a special offer for Lovehoney blog readers, I was delighted. I was even more excited when I realised I was…

• It's Official: Sexy See-Through Is In Fashion! Plus, Win A Sheer Bodystocking!

  Nicole

  11 May 2013 | 11:00 pm

  The fashionistas have spoken - sexy sheer clothing is the hot trend for Spring/Summer 2013. That's right, what lingerie lovers have been sporting for years has finally made it into the mainstream fashion world, with couture designers like Moschino and Alberta Ferretti featuring sexy sheer pieces in their latest shows. It's not difficult to see why sheer clothing has such an appeal. There's something so overtly erotic about a sheer-through dress that it's become a bedroom staple. But the trend has finally extended to the catwalk and high street. That begs the question - would you ever wear…

• Make The Most of Your G-Spot! Plus, Win a 10 Function Vibrator!

  Nicole

  4 May 2013 | 11:00 pm

  It's no secret that here at Lovehoney, we're BIG fans of the G-spot. We even have an entire section devoted to G-spot Vibrators - sex toys that are specially curved and shaped to seek out the elusive G-spot and make achieving G-spot pleasure a whole lot easier. But it must be said that the G-spot can be controversial. Located 1-3 inches into the vagina, it can be a tricky spot to locate and stimulate, but there are plenty of techniques and toys you can use to make things easier. To help you discover the joys of G-spot play, we're giving away a Lovehoney 10 Function G-Whizz Silicone…

• Laced Up: Lovehoney's Model of the Month

  Alice

  1 May 2013 | 12:56 am

  Each month we scour the Lovehoney Community Photo Gallery for our favourite photo of someone modelling Lovehoney's lingerie. Amongst all the gorgeous photos uploaded during April, we saw a theme of lace emerging - whether a lacy body (like the winner, pictured left) or laced-up corsets as you'll see from our runners up. Our winner this month is Lovable_Rouge with this utterly gorgeous photo of her modelling the Oh La La Cheri Lace Bodysuit. Whilst we adore black and white photography, we were impressed to see a gorgeous full colour shot that managed to stay soft, uncluttered and well lit. We…

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  Petra Boynton PhD

• I don’t like oral sex but don’t know how to say so

  Dr Petra

  26 Apr 2013 | 4:45 am

  Recently my advice column for The Telegraph answered a question from a woman who wasn’t sure about receiving oral sex. She’d tried it in the past and hadn’t really enjoyed it and wasn’t sure whether to try it with her new partner – or how to discuss with them she didn’t like it that much. The question and my reply is here. I also had the following feedback to the column that focused on the importance of oral and if it constituted a relationship ‘deal breaker’. One person pointed out I hadn’t talked about whether her reluctance to give oral…

• ‘Why am I so moody with my husband?’

  Dr Petra

  14 Mar 2013 | 7:03 am

  A few weeks ago I answered a problem in The Telegraph from a woman whose moods were getting in the way of her marriage. You can read the full question and my reply here. I asked colleagues and friends for feedback on the advice given – including what information was shared and the tone/approach taken. Their thoughts on how I could improve the reply are below: Ronete Cohen “The information you give is very good. I think though that, if she’s depressed, for instance, she could find that number of questions at once a bit overwhelming. It might be better to break up such blocks…

• 24 December Seasons Greetings

  Dr Petra

  24 Dec 2012 | 7:34 am

  We’ve reached the end of this Advent blog that’s been raising awareness of Hesperian Health Guides and inviting you to donate to them. I hope you’ll consider donating (if you haven’t already) and check out their site to find out all the amazing things they do and how you can support them. You can keep in touch with Hesperian Health Guides On twitter @Hesperian On Facebook On YouTube Or via their website Wishing you a happy, healthy and restful Christmas if you are celebrating. And all the best for a wonderful New Year. Although this blog’s been celebrating one…

• 23 December Here We Come A Wassailing

  Dr Petra

  23 Dec 2012 | 11:57 am

  If you are celebrating Christmas hopefully by now you’re nearly ready for the big day and are looking forward to spending time either relaxing on your own or with friends or family. As you celebrate you might want to think about supporting Hesperian Health Guides and here are the ways you can do that. You can… * tell people about Hesperian and use their resources in your own community. * volunteer as a translator of their books * donate materials for them to use * help distribute their health guides and dvds * support their programme of providing materials for people to create…

• 22 December Merry Christmas is my wish to you

  Dr Petra

  22 Dec 2012 | 12:45 pm

  We’re nearly at the end of this Advent blogging which has all been in aid of Hesperian Health Guides. Tomorrow I’ll give you more details about opportunities for volunteering in open access health publishing, but until then please enjoy this film of The Dualers (Tyber and Si Cranstoun) busking (prior to Si going solo). Great talent!

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  Kinsey Confidential Blog

• Sexting Often Portrayed As Negative…But What Are The Positives?

  Kristen Mark, PhD, MPH

  16 May 2013 | 1:33 pm

  Sexting has been portrayed as a negative sexual risk behavior in youth, but there might be some positive correlates of sexting in the adult population.

• April Is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) – Are We Aware Yet?

  Eric Anthony Grollman

  22 Apr 2013 | 3:00 am

  April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). Recent current events tell us that this month is just as important as ever.

• How Do I Come Out to My Parents?

  Lauren Podowski

  19 Apr 2013 | 10:10 am

  Many LGB individuals say that the hardest thing they feel the will have to do is come out to their parents.

• Does Penis Size Matter? Why Do We Care…

  Kristen Mark, PhD, MPH

  13 Apr 2013 | 8:37 am

  Recent research on how penis size is related to women's attraction to men has received a lot of media attention lately, but this might not be a good thing.

• Lena Dunham Promotes Body-Diverse Sexuality On HBO’s “Girls”

  Bianca Jarvis

  26 Mar 2013 | 7:00 am

  it's so much fun to write about bodies and media and other fun thingslslskdfjalsdkjf;

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  Eryn-Faye Frans | Canada's Passion Coach®

• Lonely in Marriage? You’re Not Alone

  Eryn-Faye

  17 May 2013 | 7:30 am

  Last week, I received a letter from a lady who had met me at one of my seminars. The form she had filled out on my website dropped into my inbox innocuously enough. But as I opened the email, I was completely unprepared for the depth of her vulnerability. Without any background information or details, she said, “I’m so lonely for him that I can’t open up anymore. I bury a ton of pain and cannot share. Is there any hope?” Her words moved me deeply, not only because she was in so much pain, but also because I have been seeing a growing trend of lonely people in my coaching.

• What Mom Taught Me About Relationships

  Eryn-Faye

  11 May 2013 | 8:00 am

  Mother’s Day is always bitter-sweet for me. Before I lost Mom to cancer, it was just sweet. We moved all the time and so she was truly my closest friend. She knew all my dreams and hopes, she gave me space to be myself even when it was awkward and stilted, and she derived great delight in watching me become the person that God had intended. She had a saying, “Find your children fascinating, and they will always be so.” She was dying when I left for law school overseas. People had tried to talk me out of going – they knew it would be the last time I saw her even if I was in complete…

• “My Virginity Mistake”

  Eryn-Faye

  8 May 2013 | 7:41 pm

  A friend sent me a link to “My Virginity Mistake,” written by Jessica Ciencin Henriquez who explains her belief that making a purity pledge and remaining a virgin until she got married led to the ultimate demise of her marriage. The article evoked a whole range of emotions in me – sadness, pain, empathy, but also frustration, rage and indignation. It wasn’t that I was surprised by her revelations or perspective; it was that I have heard her story so many times before within the privacy of my coaching sessions. A large number of my clients are church leaders who were given the purity…

• Bedwork 10: Find Your Attractive Self

  Eryn-Faye

  1 May 2013 | 3:47 pm

  Here is my radio interview with Susan Knight of Calgary’s up!97.7 FM this week: For years, I have been a fashion disaster. Any sense of style that I now possess is a direct result of the blood, sweat and tears of more savvy girlfriends helping me over the years. But despite their valiant attempts, I still feel like a dud. Accessories? They don’t even remotely hit my GAF (Give a Flip) Metre. I have a few sentimental pieces that I wear all the time. A diversity of colour? No thanks. I would rather throw on a white top (or grey in the winter) and call it good. Shoes? Ok. I really like heels.

• Questioning Country Club Christianity

  Eryn-Faye

  27 Apr 2013 | 7:34 am

  One of my greatest struggles is balancing my public and personal personas. On one hand, I am an expert in the field of intimacy, and on the other, I am just a girl. One moment I am dispensing advice on the radio, TV or to a live audience, and the next I am making lunches, helping with homework and chatting with a friend. I have worked very hard to develop both my career and my relationships, but some days, especially when I feel like I am screwing up more than usual, the dichotomy between the two worlds becomes very painful. Who am I to speak about being kind to one another when I want to…

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  Leftos - Lessons for the Opposite Sex

• Stop worrying.

  10 May 2013 | 8:10 am

  New Answer - If you trust her, why are you worried about this situation? I think you're overthinking things. Going out to eat with a group of friends is not worthy of jealousy, even if an ex is among the group, even if she didn't tell you where she'd be going. Does she have to tell you whenever she does anything social? Personally, I would start thinking about dumping a boyfriend if he were so jealous that I had to tell him whenever I interacted with an ex. You say you trust her, so do it. There can be bits of doubt and jealousy in every relationship, but in good, lasting relationships,…

• Wrong place to ask.

  10 May 2013 | 7:57 am

  New Answer - These are questions you ask a doctor, not some strangers on the internet. A UTI is no big deal. See a doctor and get some antibiotics for it, if it is in fact a UTI. You could have probably asked someone at that clinic you went to for the pills and tests. Mature adults should not me so shy about asking a medical professional about their sexual health in person that they chicken out and ask strangers on the internet instead.

• Not worth worrying about.

  10 May 2013 | 7:52 am

  New Answer - I'm a graduate student who teaches undergraduates, and I can totally see why this situation might be awkward. There can be serious consequences for teachers who are suspected of inappropriate relationships with their students. Even if nothing goes on, you don't want anybody to even suspect that something might be going on. I never received gifts from my students, but I would have felt very awkward about it if someone wanted to stop by and give me something in front of my colleagues. Plus, who knows what his summer plans were. Maybe he's not really proud of what he's planning to…

• did i make him uncomfortable?

  8 May 2013 | 1:12 pm

  New Question - The other day I was talking to my mentor, who was my teacher in freshman year college. We are not close but not strangers either, just havent talked much throughout the year except for the past few weeks. I came down to his office to give him a gift, which wasn't a surprise because i told him about it. All his co-workers were dere so we weren't alone. We were just talking about things, then I asked "(his name), what you're gonna do this summer?" to which he replied "hmm...i dont know..i dont have any plan..." while looking away, at his coworker and not at me. It's like his…

• Relationship Advice

  7 May 2013 | 5:19 pm

  New Question - My girlfriend of 5 months has recently been going over to her ex-boyfriend's apartment to visit "their" cats (there are 2 cats). The reason I say "their" is because although they adopted them together, her ex will not let her take one of the cats or take turns taking care of the cats which is the reason why she goes and visits them. I can appreciate how hard it is to never see a pet again that you have raised and was one of your own because I have gone through a similar situation with my ex-girlfriend and her's and my dog. I trust my girlfriend because she hasn't given me a…

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  Lovepanky | Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships

• 23 Sexy Tips to Dirty Talk and Say the Sexiest Words!

  Lovepanky

  17 May 2013 | 8:51 am

  Do you want to learn to talk dirty? Read these 23 sexy tips on how to dirty talk and you’ll master the art of dirty talking within the next few minutes! By Nicola Scholes Did your partner tell you they like talking dirty? Or do you have the urge to seduce your lover with words? Learning how to dirty talk in bed is the easiest thing to do if you understand the little details that matter. You may feel awkward or find the whole idea embarrassing to begin with. But when you realize that there’s nothing dirty about dirty talking, and that it’s actually really sexy and arousing, and can do…

• 18 Ways to Look Pretty and Sweet and Catch His Eye

  Lovepanky

  16 May 2013 | 10:45 am

  Are you trying to catch a guy’s eye? Here are 18 tips on how to look pretty and sweet that can help you catch his eye. And make him fall for you! By Layla Quinn Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder. But when it comes to getting a guy’s attention, there are a few traits about girls that all guys adore and love. Are you trying to catch a guy’s eye and make him fall for you? Well, here are a few things that can help you out. Infatuation and how it works on guys Most men believe in love at first sight. But they don’t realize that they aren’t really falling in love with a girl when…

• 20 Hot Sex Ideas to Blow your Lover’s Mind in Bed!

  Lovepanky

  14 May 2013 | 10:16 am

  Do you want to steam up your relationship even if you’ve been dating for a while? Use these 20 hot sex ideas to have the hottest sex of your lives! By Jana Snow True love can last forever. But a successful romantic relationship needs more than just true love to last forever. It needs fiery passion and wild sexual experiences too! As much as love plays a big part in romance, sex too plays a part that’s just as important. [Read: 13 untold secrets that can change your sex life for the better!] The sexy way to hot, steamy sex! If you want to enjoy sex and have an exciting relationship…

• Is a Girl with a Boyfriend Flirting with You?

  Lovepanky

  14 May 2013 | 8:50 am

  Are you getting mixed signals from a girl who has a boyfriend? Use these tips to find out if she really likes you or is just flirting with you for fun. By Ethan Kent Love triangles are complicated affairs. And it gets worse when a girl gives you attention, and you realize later that she has a boyfriend already! So what do you do? Do you continue to pursue her? Or do you back away? Is she really leading you on? Firstly, you can’t always blame the girl and assume she’s leading you on and toying with you. It’s easy to misinterpret a girl’s sweet and friendly nature and assume she’s…

• 50 Cute and Sexy Things Guys Do That Girls Love!

  Lovepanky

  13 May 2013 | 11:30 am

  Ever wondered what girls find attractive about the things you do? Read this list of 50 cute and sexy things guys do that girls love, and you’ll know! By Cheryl James There are so many things about guys that girls find cute. And sexy! Have you ever watched your girlfriend stare at you with that mischievous twinkle in her eyes when you’re busy doing something? A guy doesn’t have to do much to make his girl fall more in love with him. At times, all he has to do is be himself! *as long as he’s a great boyfriend already!* [Read: 10 traits of a good boyfriend that really matter to girls!]…

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  The Dark Side

• DARK SIDE #118 - Rubber/Latex - Part 1

  thedarksidepodcast

  15 May 2013 | 10:10 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #118 - Rubber/Latex - Part 1 DA & KnotNice talk with Archean, a 28F Kinkster from Toronto Ontario Canada. Archean is  MISS RUBBER WORLD 2011 and has spent a good amount of time working on promoting the latex community at large She is the Owner of Kink Engineering as well as Sheet Latex, and ELASTICA ENGINEERING Inc.. Archean shares the fetish parts of rubber/latex, as well as how it can enhance your kinky experience as a part of play and sex. Rubber/Latex parties and events, tricks and tips on what to look for when buying, as well as how…

• DARK SIDE #117 - Vampires - Part 2

  thedarksidepodcast

  29 Apr 2013 | 2:50 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #117 - Vampires - Part 2 DA & KnotNice talk with their good friend Owen (of the Orange Monkeycast Podcast as well as Orange Monkey Ink Tattoos) about his life as a Sang (blood drinking) Vampire. What drew Owen to this life, why he feeds, how he feeds, as well as a few hidden secrets about his very secretive real life Vampire Community. We split the Podcast into two parts so this is Part 2 - #117 where we finish up with Owen, then talk to his submissive partner and Donor - Joni. Joni is Owens 24/7 sub as well as the person he feeds off a few…

• DARK SIDE #116 - Vampires - Part 1

  thedarksidepodcast

  26 Apr 2013 | 3:47 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #116 - Vampires - Part 1 DA & KnotNice talk with their good friend Owen (of the Orange Monkeycast Podcast as well as Orange Monkey Ink Tattoos) about his life as a Sang (blood drinking) Vampire. What drew Owen to this life, why he feeds, how he feeds, as well as a few hidden secrets about his very secretive real life Vampire Community. We split the Podcast into two parts so listen next week to #117 where we finish up with Owen, then talk to his submissive partner and Donator Joni. Joni is Owens 24/7 sub as well as the person he feeds off a…

• DARK SIDE #115 - Spanking

  thedarksidepodcast

  19 Apr 2013 | 3:18 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #115 - Spanking DA & KnotNice discuss the fun activity called Spanking. - What is spanking - Spanking as a form of Punishment - Spanking as Play - Spanking Role Play _____________________________ Sponsor: Servitude of Barrie Servitude’s 1st Fet Night News: Male researcher spends 15 years studying female anatomy, concludes that bras are not necessary _____________________________ The Dark Side is FREE to get and share with others; * Listen OR Download at TDS Webpage The Dark Side is also available on I-Tunes - please listen as well as…

• DARK SIDE #114 - Exhibitionism

  thedarksidepodcast

  30 Mar 2013 | 9:29 pm

  THE DARK SIDE BDSM EDUCATIONAL PODCAST DARK SIDE #114 - Exhibitionism Dark Angel and KnotNice discuss the thrill of being watched by others. From sex to play and a few places in between. DA & KN also answer a listener’s question about being a gay male who was hesitant about coming out as submissive. _____________________________ Sponsor: Fet Life dot com _____________________________ The Dark Side is FREE to get and share with others; * Listen OR Download at TDS Webpage The Dark Side is also available on I-Tunes - please listen as well as rate us !

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  Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

• Disappointment

  Mark Gungor

  9 May 2013 | 11:58 am

  At the beginning of every relationship, there is a high level of hope and desire that causes it to run on autopilot.  But over time hope and desire begin to erode when disappointment enters. There are dozens of ways we can disappoint one another in a relationship as close and intimate as marriage.  From I thought it would be different to actual differences in upbringing, values, habits about money, personality, motivation, work ethic, and sex drives, we have the makings of marriage wars.  Sometimes people come across offensively because they are reacting to pain from the hurts that they…

• Idol of Happiness – Part 2

  Mark Gungor

  23 Apr 2013 | 2:14 pm

  Last time we began looking at the Idol of Happiness in Part 1.  I discussed how often people won’t do the right things in life simply because those things don’t make them happy. It’s common in our culture for believers to mistakenly believe the notion that “God doesn’t want me to be unhappy.” This is especially true in marriage. For many Christians, marriage has some kind of get-out-of-jail-free card attached to it.  They seem to think the radical, difficult parts of Christianity (to love, to serve, to forgive, or to sacrifice, pertain only to those outside of one’s…

• Idol of Happiness – Part 1

  Mark Gungor

  10 Apr 2013 | 1:12 pm

  Many Christians have turned happiness into an idol.  I’m not suggesting God is against us being happy.  The Scriptures say, “Happy are the people whose God is the Lord.”  So when does happiness become an idol?  It happens when we exalt our concern to be happy above the very concerns of God himself. We live in a culture that says, “Above all else be happy; do what you want to do; satisfy yourself; look out for number one; do your own thing.”  The Bible teaches that the husband should love his wife.  We reason, No problem—as long as it doesn’t interfere with my golf game, my…

• The Divorce Myth Part 2

  Mark Gungor

  28 Mar 2013 | 6:04 am

  Last time I began talking about the great myth that far too many couples believe when it comes to divorce. Here is the link to Part 1, if you missed it. Many people start out thinking that married life will be complete, total, unending bliss. That the person they married will forever make them happy…after all, isn’t that what the “happily ever after” is all about? It doesn’t take long to figure out that only in fairy tales…and chick flicks… does that concept exist. Marriage was a God-idea in the beginning.  The Genesis narrative reads, “A man will leave his father and mother…

• The Divorce Myth Part 1

  Mark Gungor

  11 Mar 2013 | 12:22 pm

  There is a great joy to the early struggles of marriage.  When people who “make it” talk about the early days of their marriage, they admit it was bittersweet but they say the sweet ended up outweighing the bitter.  Researchers agree.  In a recent study conducted by a team of leading family scholars headed by University of Chicago sociologist Linda Waite, researchers found that “two-thirds of unhappily married spouses who stayed married reported that their marriages were happy five years later.  In addition, the most unhappy in their marriages reported the most dramatic turnarounds:…

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  Sex and Relationships - MSN UK Style

• The road to healing after violent sexual abuse

  15 May 2013 | 9:00 pm

  As seven men are convicted of exploiting girls as young as 11 in a paedophile ring in Oxford, abuse survivor Allie Gledhill shares her own story and how she made the road to recovery.

• Keira leads low-key celebrity weddings

  6 May 2013 | 8:15 am

  Keira Knightley married her Klaxons fiance James Righton in the South of France this weekend in a ceremony that was so low-key that the actress even recycled her wedding dress. We take a look at the top 10 low-key celebrity weddings.

• The anatomy of the digital relationship

  26 Mar 2013 | 10:15 am

  Nearly every single relationship we've ever had can be documented online. How? find out.

• International Women’s Day: our top female stars

  6 Mar 2013 | 11:39 am

  We mark International Women’s Day by honouring the most inspirational female celebrities

• Make Mother's Day meaningful

  26 Feb 2013 | 4:20 pm

  MSN’s relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr offers suggestions your mum will treasure.

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  Viridian Passion

• Reach Out and Touch Someone

  21 Apr 2013 | 6:02 pm

• Leaf

  18 Feb 2013 | 10:19 am

• 10 Things You Didn't Know About Orgasm

  5 Feb 2013 | 7:37 am

• James Deen PSA

  10 Aug 2012 | 3:34 pm

  Porn actor James Deen's new PSA for condoms. Some people are saying he doesn't practice what he preaches. Maybe it's just a case of do as I say not as I do. Play safe.

• QR Code Condoms

  2 Mar 2012 | 7:16 pm

  Two different campaigns with QR code condoms:

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  quizzical pussy

• PMDD: Winter is always coming.

  quizzical pussy

  18 May 2013 | 11:57 am

  I always know that the truly rough part of the month has descended when I find myself saying “I can’t do this anymore. I cannot do this.” and I have no clear idea of what “this” is. The trouble is that the PMDD (or whatever it is) is now kicking in earlier and lingering longer. Whereas usually I’m only depressed about half the time, this go around I only got one week off between the anguish of asking Oren how I’m supposed to tell him if I start having overpowering suicidal urges again1 and the numb despair that means it’s all starting again. I…

• On why I am kind of trying to date now but not.

  quizzical pussy

  15 May 2013 | 8:34 am

  There are things I am good at. I can find an orgasm in a bag of mediocre. I can give you goosebumps with my voice. I make the best brownies on the planet and my pumpkin pie is worth its weight in plutonium. My sense of style is irrepressible. I am a damn good person to have on your team because I’m loyal and giving and clever and awesome. I’m enumerating all these positive things because it’s important to me you don’t think I’m just feeling sorry for myself when I say that I seriously suck at dating. Because I seriously suck at dating. Lately I keep meaning to…

• ConTuesday! Pinkie nails.

  quizzical pussy

  14 May 2013 | 7:06 pm

  I think it’s pretty well documented that I have no idea when people are attracted to me. They actually have to not only tell me, but also have sex with me for it to (ahem) penetrate, and even then it’s dubious for me. This means that I just go around assuming no one is attracted to me until there’s overwhelming evidence to the contrary. This isn’t because I think I’m ugly, or can’t conceive of anyone finding me attractive; it just kind of doesn’t occur to me one way or the other because I’m pathologically dense about these things. But I can…

• ConTuesday! Kinkity

  quizzical pussy

  7 May 2013 | 12:39 pm

  I don’t know if I qualify as kinky. I don’t think about it much, to be honest. I mean, sure I like rough sex in the right context. Okay, actually I really love rough sex in the right context. And I just masturbated while watching Criminal Minds ((Which I feel is distinct from masturbating TO Criminal Minds, but still…), but I don’t know whether kinky is the right word or not. Some of you guys are  definitely kinky, though, you magnificent creatures, you. My girlfriend and her husband are having loud kinky sex in the next room, right this minute. They took a break a…

• ConTuesday! True love, friendship, and threesomes

  quizzical pussy

  30 Apr 2013 | 7:57 am

  Sometimes I wonder how you like really know you’re in love. You know you’re in love when there’s a moment during naked-snuggle-time where it’s appropriate to yell “Get back here so I can gum your nipple like a horny tortoise!” I… does this mean I’ve never been in love? I’m excited to go to the doctors tomorrow! Er, wut? Well, I’m young, single, sociable and a total sex-clued, hedonistic, pleasure-seeking kink-friendly nympho… when I’m not medicated to the eyeballs. Unfortunately, due to general health issues (not all that dissimilar from yours, from…

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  Phone Sex Secrets

• Phone Sex Secrets News For Independent Phone Sex Operators

  Phone Sex Secrets

  4 May 2013 | 2:27 am

  I may have seemed silent here, but I've been busy! Along with taking phone sex calls and working with PSO clients, here's some of what I've been up to which may be of help to you... Yours truly was interviewed again, this time at Planet Ivy: A beginner's guide to being a phone sex operator. In my never-ending quest to get data to help you improve your phone sex business, I have restarted my

• 26 Things To Consider Before Developing Your Website [Infographic]

  Phone Sex Secrets

  9 Apr 2013 | 2:54 pm

  This infographic from Pixaal is rather good -- except for two major points. They've listed the developement of your website's purpose as number four, and knowing who your audience is as number eight. Those are the first two things you should know before you start your website or blog. Purpose should be number one; audience number two. Also, it is worthy of noting that using WordPress (WP) for

• What's Coming To Phone Sex? The Exclusive MPS Interview!

  Phone Sex Secrets

  7 Apr 2013 | 3:25 am

  Those of you using MPS know there are always things going on at the MyPhoneSite phone sex platform. That's why I'm so thrilled that Gary, the owner of the site, has finally been able to participate in an interview! Hi, Gary, and welcome! Will you please tell us a bit about yourself and your professional background? I was born in Florida where I spent much of my life. I graduated there with a

• MPS Network Compliance Reviews (Or, Where Is My Favorite Phone Sex Operator At MyPhoneSite?)

  Phone Sex Secrets

  5 Apr 2013 | 3:22 pm

  If you're an MPS user, phone sex operator or caller, you may have noticed that some sites have appeared to be down or without operator listings while the phone sex platform site has been performing a complete network-wide review. This compliance review, targeting both quality control issues as well as merchant regulations, was done April 3rd and 4th -- however some operator listings may still be

• A Quick News Link Round-Up For PSOs

  Phone Sex Secrets

  5 Apr 2013 | 5:06 am

  File this under "Predictable"... As promised, NiteFlirt has (finally) restored Featured Listings, a pay-per-click marketing option that allows you to bid to promote your eligible listings in top spots on NiteFlirt and 1-800-TO-FLIRT; great upset continues. For those of you looking to make the most of Featured Listings and bidding at NiteFlirt, I've got a whitepaper you can purchase at NF here.

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  Sex Secrets

• 5 Unrealistic Sex Moves Men Learn from Watching Porn

  Svetlana Ivanova

  16 May 2013 | 3:00 am

  Lori Lothian believes porn has the potential to mislead men about the best bedroom moves to use with real-life women. I had a discussion the other day with a female sex educator about porn. The gist of our talk was about how porn has the potential to badly mislead men about the best bedroom moves, Continue reading →

• Basic Tips for Giving Great Hand Jobs

  Svetlana Ivanova

  14 May 2013 | 7:00 am

  Here are a few tips to spicing up the average, and sometimes boring hand job. All it takes is a little imagination, combined with these tricks of the hand! Hand jobs can be one of the simplest forms of foreplay, besides kissing and general touching. Some people consider them boring, but there are ways to Continue reading →

• 7 Reasons to Have More Sex

  Svetlana Ivanova

  11 May 2013 | 3:00 am

  Sex is not only good, but good for you. Here are seven health benefits of having more sex. Thanks to your dedicated years of research, you probably already have plenty of reasons to have sex — it’s fun, it’s a great way to connect with your partner, and, well, you’ve already watched that rerun of Continue reading →

• How to Make the Most of Your Hotel Sex

  Svetlana Ivanova

  4 May 2013 | 4:00 am

  What’s not awesome about sex in  a new place, especially one that you don’t have to clean up afterward? Here’s are five ways to get the most out of hotel seex. You’re paying hundreds of dollars a night to escape from your lumpy mattress and your cranky neighbors and your mold-stained shower that you don’t Continue reading →

• How to Flip a Woman Over for Doggy Style

  Svetlana Ivanova

  2 May 2013 | 5:00 am

  Kat George offers eight (much-needed) tips on how to flip a woman over for doggy style without ruining the moment. I’m not sure if guys know this or not, but flipping a girl over mid-sex is a fraught act. Guys never seem to get the timing or the etiquette quite right, so that the disappointing Continue reading →

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  Molly's Daily Kiss

• Beautifully Collared

  mollyskiss

  18 May 2013 | 4:35 pm

  I was going to post this picture with my Kink of the Week post about collaring (you can see lots more collar pictures on that post) as I think it sums up really well just how my collar makes me feel. I think my collar(s) is beautiful and when I look at this image I can see that here. I am not very good at seeing the truth of my own self despite my photography it remains challenging to me to see what he sees. He tells me I am sexy and beautiful and I know in his eyes I am but still my own gaze is far more critical. There are a few exceptions to this on my blog, images that show me what he sees…

• Collar Me Happy

  mollyskiss

  18 May 2013 | 4:35 pm

  This weeks topic for Kink of the Week is Collaring I remember the first time he put his collar on me. It was within hours of my first trip to Philadelphia and our big step from on-line to real life. I already had the welt marks from his whip across my arse and a cunt full of his cum. On that occasion he was very clear about the fact that the collar was for my two-week stay and that at the end of the two weeks we would discuss it again. I left Philadelphia nearly 3 weeks later (a very helpful volcano in Iceland kept me there longer than planned) still wearing that collar and have never been…

• e[lust] #46

  mollyskiss

  16 May 2013 | 2:41 pm

  Photo courtesy of A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #47? Start with the newly updated rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~ How to Shave Your Asshole Tied and Blindfolded Why Disney is like BDSM ~ Featured Posts (Molly’s Picks) ~…

• 10 Things About His Orgasms

  mollyskiss

  15 May 2013 | 10:35 am

  15th May 2013 The prompt this week for Wicked Wednesday is orgasms. As I have previous written a ’10 Things about my Orgasms’ post that I recommend you read if you haven’t already I thought I would write an alternative version about Sir’s orgasms and me. I love the sound he makes when he comes. It is this amazing low guttural sound, a cross between a growl and moan, almost animal like in tone, basic, raw and just thinking about it as I write this makes me long to hear it.  It is like aural Viagra to me; hearing that sound will often trigger my own orgasm if I close to cumming. He can…

• Dig Deep For Dildology!

  mollyskiss

  13 May 2013 | 2:18 am

  Do you know what your favourite dildo is made of? Of course you do right, I mean it tells you right there on the packaging doesn't it? Or does it? Sure there is a list of materials used and reassurances about the safety of them but do you still know the truth? The truth is that none of those words are regulated and so that means that excellent ethical companies who produce high quality products from the best materials compete directly with companies who cut corners but still describe their product in exactly the same way as the good guys. As a result none of us really know what we are buying,…

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  DateDaily

• The Great Gatsby: Romantic Inspiration For A Roaring Weekend

  Niki

  17 May 2013 | 12:24 pm

  The Great Gatsby  by F.Scott Fitzgerald is considered one of the great novels of the 20th century but it’s probably more well known as the reason why you’re going to be finding yourself donning seersucker suits and drop-waist dresses for the summer. We’ve all got Gatsby fever thanks to the 2 1/2 hour music video masquerading as movie version by Baz Luhrman. Check out the trailer here: Not having seizures yet? Good for you. Say what you will about the movie itself, you can’t knock the visuals. And the costumes? To die for. So if you want to impress your date this…

• Five Surprising Things He’d Love In The Bedroom (That You’d Never Find in Cosmo)

  Niki

  16 May 2013 | 6:27 am

  We’ve spilled the secrets on the Kinky Things Men Want In Bed But Are Afraid To Ask For, we’ve shared fool-proof tips on how to please a man in bed, so why, you might ask are we devoting yet another post to this issue? Is the male of the species really such a hard nut to crack–pun 1,000 times intended–? Well, yes and no. Sure we’re open to giving you all the sex tips, new sex positions and spice up your love life advice you could ever want. Today though, we’re going to do something a little different. Here are some brand new, totally unusual things he’d really love in…

• 3 Foolproof Ways To Make “The Talk” Not Awkward

  Fluffy De Ramezay

  14 May 2013 | 8:55 am

  Monogamy is dead, long live the new monogamy. One of the best moments in a new relationship is when you realize that your partner feels the same way about you as you feel about them. You “like-like” eachother, which is fantastic! Now, where do you go from there? You’d think that you’d go from “like-liking” to boyfriend-girlfried or maybe he’d pin you, take you to lovers lane and maybe escort you to the big dance? Unfortunately for most of us these cut and dry barriers of what does/ doesn’t make a relationship are shifting all the time.

• 6 Things To Never Do After Your Date Adds You On Facebook

  Niki

  13 May 2013 | 7:34 am

  Dating in the modern era means new rules, and newer complications. Unfortunately their is no modern-day Emily Post to school you on the proper online conduct when courting via computer (or mobile device). In lieu, we’ve devised some simple rules to follow so that you don’t shoot yourself in the foot right out of the gate. 1. “Like” Anything From The Past It’s perfectly normal to immediately stalk someone after they’re friended you/accepted your friend request. It’s an unspoken expectation that once someone has added you to their growing cadre of…

• What “I’m Not Looking For Anything Serious” Really Means

  Jillian Zacchia

  9 May 2013 | 8:17 am

  Two years ago I went on this great first date, the conversation was flowing, we both couldn’t stop smiling, and the date ended with a steamy kiss. The problem – I got a text message from him a little while after saying he wasn’t looking for anything serious…It’s normal to hear a guy say “I’m not looking for anything serious” when you first start dating, but have you ever stopped to think about how bizarre that line really is. If he didn’t want anything serious why did he ask you out on a date in the first place – oh right, sex, that’s why. It’s as if he’s…

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  e[lust]

• e[lust] #46

  admin

  16 May 2013 | 2:37 pm

  Photo courtesy of A Penny for Your Dirty Thoughts Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #47? Start with the newly updated rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   ~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~   How to Shave Your Asshole Tied and Blindfolded Why Disney is like BDSM    ~…

• e[lust] #46 Open for Submissions

  admin

  1 May 2013 | 2:22 am

  Spring has finally arrived in the UK and just in time for [elust] #46. Now before you get too excited that doesn’t mean that it is actually warm, just warm by British standards. But enough of this nonsense, it’s time to turn the spotlight on all of the amazing posts that you bloggers have been writing since April. Don’t forget to visit SexBytes to add and vote on your favorite for Readers Choice this month. Stop by  the Submission Page and show us what you’ve got. If you are new to e[lust] be sure to read the About Page as well as the Rules.   Mollyxxx P.S.

• e[lust] #45

  admin

  16 Apr 2013 | 12:52 pm

    Photo courtesy of CreativNooky Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #46? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   ~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~   Bringing Toxic Sex Toy Facts Out of the Attic How Do I Get My Wife to Dominate Me? I Need This…

• e[lust] #45 Open for Submissions!

  admin

  1 Apr 2013 | 3:43 am

  Time once again to tell us what you’ve been up to. That’s right it is time for e[lust] #45. We had over 50 entries last month, and we’d love to  top that for April so please share this post with anyone you think would be a great new addition to e[lust]! We have added a special category for CatalystCon this month (a great suggestion by GeekyNymph) so please do add your post if you attended this wonderful event. Stop by  the Submission Page and show us what you’ve got. If you are new to e[lust] be sure to read the About Page as well as the Rules.   Mollyxxx P.S.

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  Hey Epiphora

• Winner of the Stronic Eins!

  Epiphora

  17 May 2013 | 12:17 pm

  You’ve all been waiting with baited breath, I’m sure, to find out who won my Stronic Eins giveaway. So I will torture you no further. The winner is Natty! Only a few entrants took my challenge to make a GIF or Vine of themselves using a household object to imitate the movement of the Stronic Eins, but they all amused me greatly. I mean, look at the resemblance between the Stronic Eins and this GIF from Sexxxay: Of course, I was hoping for a cat, but if it had to be a canine dog, a pug is a good choice. I love the attention to detail, with the Fun Factory logo and plus and minus…

• Once and for all: what’s in our sex toys?

  Epiphora

  14 May 2013 | 12:49 am

  Everyone knows regulation in the sex toy industry is practically nonexistent, right? We all accept that as fact. We have to do all the material-sniffing and toy-burning for ourselves. We have to use condoms on things because we quite literally have no idea what they contain. Is this how things are destined to be forever? I used to think so, but not anymore. Dildology is a brand new non-profit organization run by Dangerous Lilly, Crista Anne, and Val Orenda that will send sex toys to labs to have them independently tested. With this, there will finally be some accountability within the…

• Eroscillator 2 Plus vs. Top Deluxe: is 35% more power worth $55 more?

  Epiphora

  7 May 2013 | 4:42 pm

  For years, literally, ever since I dubbed the Eroscillator “the best sex toy I’ve ever tried,” people have been asking me whether it’s worth the extra cash to get the Top Deluxe version of the toy. I’ve always had to say “I don’t know; mine is the more powerful one and I’ve never tried the regular version,” which pained me because I hate not having an answer to anything sex toy-related. I’m cool with feeling like a failure in some respects (I can’t do a crossword to save my life), but not that one. So finally, my online amiga…

• Ask Piph #5

  Epiphora

  30 Apr 2013 | 12:44 pm

  Want to ask me a question? Email me at hey.epiphora [at] gmail [dot] com, or ask here. I was wondering if you’ve ever had an allergic reaction to any of your toys, or what you might suggest someone do if they did? (Other than buying 100% silicone/using a condom/etc. What if it’s too late, and they realize they’re having a reaction, what should they do?) I’ve never experienced any sort of reaction to a toy, so I had to phone friends on this one. Thanks to Metis Black, InsatiablyTaken, beck42069, Lorax of Sex, Dangerous Lilly, septicidal, and many others on…

• Win a Stronic pulsating thrusting vibrator

  Epiphora

  26 Apr 2013 | 12:50 pm

  ALRIGHT PEOPLE. On Wednesday, I gave a sickeningly glowing endorsement to a $200 sex toy, and my reviewer’s guilt is setting in. No matter how epic a sex toy is, I always feel a little uneasy telling people to spend such large chunks of hard-earned money on them. So I concocted an ingenious plan that both washes away my guilt and makes one of you very happy: give one of the motherfuckers away. SheVibe was happy to agree to my insane demands (and quickly, too, almost as if I was holding a gun to their heads), and so I offer to you, my peeps, a free $200 Stronic Eins thrusting sex toy…

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  sexylittleideas.com

• why modeling is poison

  SexyLittleIdeas

  13 May 2013 | 12:19 pm

  or The Emperor’s New ModelsI can only talk about what I know, so I’m going stick to how things are where I live. I work as a runway, catalog, commercial, promotional, and fitness model in the two-bit modeling field of a rapidly-developing city in a sort of post-third world Mexico.While the jobs I do may range from catwalks to videos to expositions to clubs to photos, here, the field is divided into two major categories: promotions and modeling. In promotions, you spend the hours on your feet smiling at, speaking with, and taking photos with passers-by. In modeling, you show off…

• the rock

  SexyLittleIdeas

  5 May 2013 | 3:14 pm

  The RockSexyLittleIdeas.com – Sinful Sunday (Sexing up the Movies)Previously – Pride For the record, yeah, I don’t think it’s that good of an idea either, but, you know, time, work, tired.Here are some really good ones that you should look at:Sin City – by PennyChocolat – by RoseThe Pianist – by Ouizzi  

• what lesbians think about penis

  SexyLittleIdeas

  2 May 2013 | 10:11 pm

  “You always know what one is thinking.”

• the vagina thief

  SexyLittleIdeas

  28 Apr 2013 | 12:50 pm

  In “macho” social strata where women and men are not actually perceived as being actually equal, a woman’s vagina can be seen as the only power she possesses. This power, she trades for control of a man’s resources, time, or exclusive affections.If a woman gives up her vagina without gaining control of some of a man’s resources, time, energy, affections, or interests – at least what is perceived as a sufficient amount of such by other women trading their vaginas for these things – two things will happen: 1: the woman “giving it up too…

• louis ck memes

  SexyLittleIdeas

  24 Apr 2013 | 11:53 am

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• Dambusters 70th Anniversary

  meisteryak

  14 May 2013 | 4:13 am

  As most of the readers of this blog should know Douglas Webb was one of the Dambusters. May 16th is the 70th anniversary of  the raid. It was a breathtaking display of daring, ingenuity and self-sacrifice that had a huge effect on the wartime generation and still inspires us today… and rightly so. I only met Doug a few times but it was incredibly humbling to meet a real hero from history. For a list of anniversary events I suggest you take a look Charles Foster’s Dambusters blog. For more information about Doug and the Dams raid check out the following posts of mine. The Dambuster and…

• The Epic Tale of a Nudist Picture

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  7 May 2013 | 10:13 am

  At long last the cinematic tale of Harrison Marks’ nudist feature Naked as Nature Intended, the iconic film that brought us Pamela Green in her birthday suit. Behind the scenes exclusives and never before seen pictures. The text is taken from Pamela’s unpublished biography. This hardback book is available to order online from people like Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Spread the word  — share it on Facebook, write an Amazon review — it all helps. Sample pages below.

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  meisteryak

  27 Apr 2013 | 4:37 am

  Pamela Green and Harrison Marks often photographed models that worked at the various clubs scattered around Soho in the ’60s. One such model was Rusty Gaynor who started working for them in 1962. She ended up being the cover girl of Kamera #55 and featured in her very own Kamera Cine Film (nos. 38), entitled Rusty Gaynor. She worked at the Queens Theatre Club on Berwick Street then run by the notorious Jimmy Humphreys who she married. Kamera 55 featuring Rusty Gaynor on the cover. Kamera Cine Films presents Rusty Gaynor. Photographed by Harrison Marks. The polite Jimmy Humphreys was an old…

• The Look of Love

  meisteryak

  5 Apr 2013 | 6:47 am

  From Steve Coogan and director Michael Winterbottom, the team behind 24 Hour Party People, Cock and Bull Story and The Trip, comes the fast, funny and outrageously true story of Paul Raymond, the controversial entrepreneur and property baron who established the Raymond Revue Bar and went on to become Britain’s richest man. With a screenplay by Matt Greenhalgh, The Look of Love co-stars Anna Friel, Imogen Poots and Tamsin Egerton as the women in Raymond’s life, alongside a great roster of British comic talent including Chris Addison, David Walliams, Simon Bird and Matt Lucas. Anna Friel as…

• Naked(er) as Nature Intended

  meisteryak

  29 Mar 2013 | 12:52 pm

  I would like to thank Gavcrimson for allowing me to re-post this article from his blog.  I recently managed to get hold of the US version of Naked As Nature Intended (1961), and was pleasantly surprised to find a very different version of the film than the one I’d previously encountered on video in the UK. In fact it turns out the film was completely re-worked for its American release by Crown International. Not only was the narration re-voiced for the American market, but the US version also draws on ‘stronger’ takes than appear in the UK version, and more tantalizingly includes all…

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  17 May 2013 | 2:45 am

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• “Objectification” by Blacksilk

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  13 May 2013 | 2:34 am

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  Blacksilk

  6 May 2013 | 9:06 am

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• Review – Icicles No. 8 Glass Dildo

  Blacksilk

  1 May 2013 | 5:30 am

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  Blacksilk

  24 Apr 2013 | 5:39 am

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